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Should You Warn The Narcissist's Next Victim? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Did you ever reach out to the Narcissist Next victim?
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  Did you ever let them know what you think is going to happen to
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  them or what you've been through or what happened to you in your
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  relationship? Is there ever any good reasons
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  to contact the Narcissist New Supply or Narcissist Next
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  Victim? That's what we're talking about
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  today, y'all. If you're here, my name is Lee
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  Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist here
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  to give you the inside look at the mind of a narcissist.
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  And we go right into it. Yeah, let's hop right into it.
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  No introduction. I'm bringing the intro back.
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  I got, I got to bring it back. I'm bring back here pretty
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  quick. Yeah.
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  But yes, narcissistic people, the, the, the narcissist new
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  victim is typically referred to as the narcissist New supply,
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  right. The new supply can sometimes be
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  just as bad as the narcissist, but a lot of people ask me, like
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  Lee, they had them. I see they I see that they moved
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  on. They look happy online.
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  They have this stuff going on. Should I reach out to the next
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  person and let them know what I went through?
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  Should I ever? Is there a reason I should
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  contact them to just say, hey, you're dealing with a
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  narcissist, watch out, leave them alone.
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  Hey, this person beats kids. This person does this, this
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  person does that. Is there ever a reason?
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  Most times I tell people no y'all Most times I legitimately
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  tell people no, do not contact the new supply typically because
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  nothing good comes of it right? If I when I say don't contact
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  the new supply, a lot of times it's because the narcissist has
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  already gotten inside the head of the new supply.
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  Y'all they look at the they tell the new supply that you're
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  crazy, that yours, that, that you have lost your mind, that
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  you are obsessive, that you are a liar, that you are a
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  manipulator. You are a cheater.
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  You beat them, you put you put your hands on them.
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  You did so many things to them. You are the aggressor in this
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  situation when it comes to dealing with a narcissist,
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  right? You are, you become the you are
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  the aggressor in this situation. You are they treat you like the
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  aggressor too. So the I say, most times I say,
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  hey, don't reach out to the new supply because they've already
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  told the new supply that everything horrible about you.
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  And if they told the new supply everything horrible about you,
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  if they told, let's say, think about it like this.
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  If they told the next victim that you are obsessive and you
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  are a stalker and you be lying and you and you just can't let
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  go and then you reach out, guess what happens?
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  You confirm what they said, right?
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  You confirm everything that they said about the narcissist.
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  You confirm everything that they put, everything the narcissist
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  has said to them because you reach out and you could bring
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  them closer. Imagine you trying to protect
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  the next person, right? But you actually end up bringing
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  them closer to the narcissist, making them trust the narcissist
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  more. Because you reached out and you
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  said exactly what the narcissist was going to say, right?
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  You said exactly what the narcissist is going to say.
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  And they they say, well, thanks for reaching out to me, but I
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  got this. Have a good life.
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  And that happens, right? And guess what?
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  I know people going to say leave, but what if I have
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  evidence and proof in court cases and things like that?
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  Should I do it then? Should I send them?
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  Send them everything? Yeah.
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  Sad to say there's some people don't care.
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  Yeah, you can literally be like, you can literally have a black
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  eye, a busted lip, some slash marks on you, some bullet
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  wounds, whip marks, handcuffs, like y'all.
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  You can literally have all the evidence and proof in the world.
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  And to some people that won't matter because they're so
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  they're so immersed in the toxicity of the relationship.
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  They don't care. They don't care what you've been
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  through. They don't care.
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  They care about how good they feel or the potential that this
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  person has to make them feel good.
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  So they do not care. And I'm just being real with
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  you, y'all? This is me being 100% real with
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  you. They don't.
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  Some people don't care what you've been through.
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  You can send it like you can have an active restraining order
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  that narcissist your abusive ex could be you could be actually
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  be taking them to court right now for attempted schmurder
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  right. And the new supply won't care.
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  They won't care. They'll be like what they well,
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  what did you do? There's always 2 takes 2 to
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  tango. What role did you play in this
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  riot? What role did you play?
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  And then whipping out a pistol and whipping you with the pistol
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  and put it in your mouth and pull it in the trigger.
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  But the but it jammed so they wouldn't have had to get some
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  more bullets and you escaped out the window.
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  What role did you play? You see is always you everybody
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  always want to put everything on everybody else.
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  But yo, some people are get get some people got heart eyes.
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  You know the little the little cartoons when they when
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  somebody's in love in the cartoon, they had a little heart
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  eyes like Doo Doo Doo back in the day.
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  They have heart eyes and mush brain because some people don't
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  care. I'm just telling you, you can
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  have you can have proof, evidence, whatever and they will
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  not give a damn. Something like I said, they had
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  heart eyes and mush brains. They don't care.
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  The brain is soft like an avocado, like a fright avocado
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  to get avocado impact avocado brain, that's a new thing right
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  there. Because it's soft because you
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  don't want to hear nothing. You don't want to hear it.
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  You see it. You don't want to see it.
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  You don't want to hear it. You don't want to know how to
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  affect anybody else. You just care about how it's
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  going to affect you. That's typically how it goes.
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  So you in this situation, yeah, most times I don't tell people
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  don't reach out because you're just inevitably bring them
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  closer and then you'll feel bad. But but I can also understand
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  the other side of things. I can also understand why you as
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  a you might be an empathy empathetic person.
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  You might consider yourself an empath.
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  As you as someone who actually cares about people and worries
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  about people, I can understand why on your side of things you
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  want to reach out. And I can understand why on your
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  side of things, you would want to reach out just to make sure
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  at least you're here, right? You just wanted to reach out to,
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  to say, hey, look, because it could, it could be sitting on
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  your conscience. Hey, this person is literally
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  this person literally has charges against them for messing
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  with underage people, right? I can understand.
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  And they and you and the new supply has children.
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  So you want to protect those kids?
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  So you want to share evidence? You want to tell them, yeah, I
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  can sit on under those circumstances right there.
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  I can 100% see why people will want to reach out.
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  I can 100% see why some people would want to reach out about a
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  child. Whatever child schmettader in a
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  new relationship and a new partner had the new victim has
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  children the exact same age as their old victims or alleged
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  victims or whatever the case may be right.
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  I can see that I hey, I would reach out.
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  Let me keep it. Yeah, you know, I keep it right
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  on this channel. And this is not me saying for
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  you to do it right. You of course always use
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  discretion because think about this.
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  If you reach out to the news, the next supply, the new victim
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  or whatever the next victim, and they tell the narcissist that
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  you reached out, you're you could be opening yourself up to
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  some to an obsessive psycho. They can lose their minds and
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  come try to hurt you. So always use discretion before
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  you reach out because you could, you could they can come back and
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  try to hurt you. Right.
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  But I probably if they if I knew they'd mess around with kids or
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  something like that, or they were actually an abuser or like
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  seriously, a serious like a damn, there's murderer.
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  They try to unallow me. I would I would tell the next
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  person too, just to clear my conscience.
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  Hey, I'm not trying to break y'all up.
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  I just feel like this is something you should know.
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  They do this with kids. You have kids.
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  They've done this with kids before.
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  Hey, I you, hey, you're a person.
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  You hey, I'm a woman. You're a woman.
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  They beat women. They have 18 charge about
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  beating women. I thought I was immune to it.
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  I was not. Just want to let you know, hey,
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  I'm a man. They do they do this to men.
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  Watch over like she she does this type of stuff or he does
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  this type of stuff. You know, somebody mess with
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  men, watch out. He's a he's a he's a physical
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  assaulter. He got he got 19 charges.
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  She got 19 charges on her for domestic violence.
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  And she always plays the victim. You see, I can understand it
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  under those circumstances right there, right.
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  Of course, I said again, the next person might not care.
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  Yeah, I just saw, I saw a TikTok the other day.
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  What is this? This man literally got arrested
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  for C Sam possessing like images of kids and whatever his case
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  may be, right? He had images of kids or
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  whatever. He got five years in prison and
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  he there's a woman, he has a wife and people online like, why
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  you are you did you did you know that he did this?
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  She's like, yeah, I knew all the charges and I still pursued him.
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  We got married. I already knew this was going on
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  because some people don't care. She's a fucking weirdo.
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  She's literally and she's on the phone with this deadly in love
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  with a literally a convicted person who's convicted of
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  messing with the children. He's in jail right now.
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  I think the name of the page is like golf Gulf, Gulf Coast,
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  Stapleton's. That woman is weird as hell.
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  She has mush brain. She does not care that her
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  husband is in jail for doing something with kids.
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  Some people don't care. She literally has mush brains.
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  She's stupid and that shit blow my mind.
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  I just like you, you know this. And she's like smacking people
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  down, blocking people. This is talking junk about other
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  people. I was like this man, this that
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  blew my mind, 'cause I, I, I was like, wait, what?
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  You knew it and you still pursued this man and married
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  this man and you want to have, I just, yeah, I hate people that
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  willfully put other people in, in danger.
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  If you have kids with this man, knowing he knowing he messing
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  around with kids or doing something with kids, that is
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  crazy. Knowing that he like literally
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  got images of women or little girls, whatever, kids, little
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  girls who I don't know, like that's just, it's just crazy.
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  Look it up. And we got to go and go and tick
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  tock. Look up Gulf, Gulf Coast,
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  Stapleton's and some shit like that.
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  It's the woman is a weirdo and the dude is literally in jail
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  right now for it. Literally in jail right now.
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  He got five. He got a 20 years suspended
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  sentence with we had to serve five years for all this stuff he
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  got in trouble for and the woman and everybody said, hey, you can
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  escape right now. Shit, I'm not going anywhere.
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  I know exactly who he is. And I was like, wow, so
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  sometimes y'all, even if you have the all this proof and
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  evidence, they don't care. That's a clear example of
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  somebody that has mush brain and does not care.
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  Like, and I just hope that I pray to the Lord above.
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  She does not have kids and they do not have children.
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  I just don't there's, I pray the Lord above, you know, 'cause
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  that's, that's damn near evil. It's evil, you know, So
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  sometimes the new supply is just as can be just as bad as the
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  narcissist. So sometimes think about this as
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  well, reaching out to the new supply could be could put you in
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  danger because the new supply is just as dangerous or just as
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  psychopathic or narcissistic or toxic as the narcissist.
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  They have a very chaotic back and forth relationship.
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  Anyways y'all that type of stuff.
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  I said this type of stuff just blew my mind when I saw that on
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  Facebook on TikTok I saw cussing.
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  But part of my customers y'all I just the kids stuff.
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  I can understand some why some people want to reach out.
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  Just be careful if you if you decide to reach out, don't reach
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  out. You're wanting the person back
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  because that'll just make you look worse, right?
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  Hit the subscribe. But yeah, I'm out.
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  Peace.