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Why Narcissists CARE so much about what others THINK about them · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about how narcissists actually
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  care about what other people think.
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  I know when people say narcissists don't care what
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  other people think. Yeah.
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  Yeah, they do. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  So boom, welcome back folks, welcome back, welcome back.
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  Yes, yes, yes, they do care. Regardless of what you hear it,
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  regardless of regardless of what they might say to you.
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  A lot of narcissists absolutely care what other people think.
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  I'm not saying every single narcissist thinks the same way.
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  I'm not saying every single narcissist feels the same way,
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  y'all? That's not what I'm saying.
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  I'm saying that most narcissists do care what other people think.
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  Yo think about it like this. Even though I don't care, I
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  don't care what they say, I don't care who I don't care who
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  you tell, I don't care what you say.
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  I don't care what you y'all think about it right there.
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  Think about this right here like this.
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  Like if they don't care so much, why they so worried about you
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  spilling the beans and what's going on behind the scenes?
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  If they don't care what other people think, why are they so
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  worried about their reputation? Reputation is damn near
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  everything for narcissists, right?
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  Reputation means a lot to most narcissists and most toxic
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  people. It just does.
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  That's the dynamic, that's the mindset of it all right there.
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  Like reputation is everything for narcissists.
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  And because they want their they want their reputation to be so
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  good, so bad, like they protect it at all costs.
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  That includes hurting you, harming you, abusing you,
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  keeping you, isolating you, getting you away from everybody,
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  started starting a smear campaign on you, threatening
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  you, doing things like that. Like that's how you know that
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  they care so much about how they are viewed.
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  They do, yo. They really do.
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  They care about how they are viewed because it makes them
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  look. It just does.
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  I don't care what people think about me.
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  I never cared. Yeah, you do.
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  You know, it's just like, think about it like this.
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  When people say that they don't care about something so much,
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  you got to know that they actually do.
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  You know what I mean? You say, you say that, you say
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  it, but you don't seem like you mean it.
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  You know what I mean? I hear just you say that it just
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  doesn't feel like you mean it. So that was, that's what happens
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  to so many people right there. Y'all like there are so many
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  narcissistic people, toxic people out here.
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  They just absolutely care so much about what people think.
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  That's why they play some so much close to the cuff.
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  They won't let you share certain things on social media about how
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  they treat you, but they they'll let you share the good stuff,
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  right? Some of them don't.
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  Some of them don't want you to share anything at all, but they
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  want you to share the good stuff, right?
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  Don't share the video of me of me chasing you down the street
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  with a baseball bat. Don't share that, right?
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  But share the video of me chase you on the street with some
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  roses or APS 5 in a book bag or whatever it is, you know, share
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  those videos right there. Share the videos that tell about
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  how I woke you up to breakfast in bed or some some early
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  morning cheek clapping. Whatever it is, just share those
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  videos, share those, share those sentiments with the crowd,
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  Right. But don't share what I've
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  actually been doing behind the scenes.
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  Don't share the stuff that's going to actually paint the
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  correct image of me, not you. You hear me saying not a bad
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  image, the correct image, not a bad image, the correct image.
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  You're not like, yeah, that's what people say.
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  Like what I hear. I talked to so many people, my
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  Zoom coaches, my one on ones and whatnot.
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  Right. Well, people say I just don't
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  want to ruin their reputation. Like like you're not, I just
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  don't want to make the world. I don't want other people to see
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  if they're. I don't want to make, I don't
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  want to make them narcissistic robot resetting, overloading
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  system, talking too damn fast. I just don't want people to
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  think that they're a bad person. They are.
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  You're not making people think anything.
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  You telling people the truth? Yeah.
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  If the truth makes this person look like a bad person because
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  they are a bad person, it's not you making them look like
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  anything. You know what I mean?
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  If narcissists don't care what other people think, then why the
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  hell are they smear campaigning you?
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  Why the hell one of the narcissist biggest fears,
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  exposure being exposed? Why y'all turn that logic upside
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  down? Turn it upside down on his head.
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  Now again, like I said earlier, are there some narcissists that
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  absolutely do not care what other people think?
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  Yes, those people are going to be a little bit a little bit
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  higher up the scale right there. What I mean by up the scale,
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  they're going to be like your, your sociopaths, your
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  psychopaths, right? They're going to be up there a
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  little bit more. They're not going to be your
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  just your regular run-of-the-mill narcissist.
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  Unless like now, if a narcissist is going through like you calls
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  them a narcissist, the injury and you embarrassed them or you
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  did expose them, then they might not care about what people think
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  when they're trying to get vengeance on you because they
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  want to, they want to hurt you, right?
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  They only see the hurt and the pain.
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  They only see the anger till they want to put you in anger.
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  They want to put you, they want to put you through it, right?
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  They want to hurt you. They want to 'cause this type of
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  stuff to you. They want to cause this pain to
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  you because you caused them a narcissistic injury.
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  How dare you. It caused this injury on me so I
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  have to pay you back and I don't give a damn what people think
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  about me. So if you cause a narcissistic
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  injury, they might not actually care what other people think.
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  Well, leave. All I did was leave them.
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  How I I haven't done anything. I didn't expose them.
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  I didn't tell anybody what happened.
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  All I did was leave. And they still are doing exactly
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  what you just said. They're still coming at me.
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  They don't care what people think.
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  They're holding it, withholding the kids.
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  They're posting stuff about me on social media.
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  They don't care. You caused a narcissistic injury
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  by leaving. It could be out.
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  You leaving could be all it takes for a narcissistic injury
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  to happen. Like you leaving them could be
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  all it takes to for a narcissistic injury to occur.
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  You like seriously, that's all it takes sometimes is to you to
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  pack your stuff up and you've had like, yeah, you've had
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  enough. And that caused the narcissist
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  the injury because you rejected them.
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  Rejection can't breed obsession because of obsession.
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  They can be obsessed with repairing that narcissistic
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  injury, that big crack you made. They got a scarlet injury across
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  their head. You know what I mean?
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  Reputation is so important to them.
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  Y'all, if they like, if narcissists don't care what
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  other people think, again, y'all ask you why they're out here
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  preemptively starting a smear campaign on you.
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  Why? Why are they out here treating
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  you badly, right? They're absolutely treating you
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  badly, right? But they're starting a smear
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  campaign on you. They're treating you badly.
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  They're doing everything in the book to hurt you and make you
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  look bad, right? But they're telling everybody
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  else lies. They're getting ahead of it
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  while they, they, they haven't even left you yet.
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  Y'all are still together. The smear campaign can start
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  when y'all are still together. I'm going to do a longer video
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  on there right there. Like I said, it can actually
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  begin. Why y'all still together?
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  Because narcissistic people, this is how you know and this is
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  how you know. Like this is how you know.
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  Narcissists are worried about what they think, what you think,
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  worry about what other people think because the smear campaign
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  starts while you're still together.
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  Like they, they, they start these rumors, why you're still
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  with them, because they know if you when y'all, if y'all do
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  break up and they get exposed, they already planted these seeds
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  of doubt. They've already started all
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  these rumors about you. So people might not believe what
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  you've been doing, what they've been going through, what they've
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  been experiencing. There's going to be they're,
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  they're casting this, this shadow of doubt out here.
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  They're doing the type of stuff preemptively to mess with you.
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  They are because they are afraid that their reputation is going
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  to get touched and people are going to look at them.
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  They people are going to look at them as bad people.
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  And that's a narcissist. That's another one of
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  narcissist's biggest fear for people to think that they are
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  bad people. That's another one of a
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  narcissist's biggest fears right there, right?
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  Because they, they don't, they want, they don't want people to
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  think that they are a bad person, right?
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  They don't want people to think that, you know, they don't want
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  people to think that they are bad people.
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  Bad people. I'm writing it.
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  I'm, I'm giving myself ideas y'all 'cause I'm, I text these
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  ideas to myself and they go to my other phone and they just
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  right there. Now I do videos on them.
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  Yeah, we'll see a video come up here.
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  And one of the, the RC's biggest fears, other people to think
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  that they're bad people. This will be down the road
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  though 'cause I feel like that might be a little similar to
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  what I'm doing right now. I'll, that'll be in my notebook,
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  in my remarkable tablet. They'll be in my remarkable.
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  I don't know where it's at, but that's the type of stuff right
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  there, y'all? They don't want people to think
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  that there are bad people. They want to.
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  They want, they want to justify their actions.
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  So they get ahead and stuff like starting this American thing.
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  They are so afraid of what other people think that they would.
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  They try to instill fear into you.
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  They do all these narcissistic rage episodes.
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  They scream at you, they yell at you.
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  They do all of this stuff to you to put fear into your heart to,
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  hey, if you expose me, I'm going to hurt you.
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  I'm going to ruin your life. You know what I mean?
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  Or they just use their exes as an example that yeah, if you get
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  with a person and they are actively torturing their ex with
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  child support, showing up late, not showing up at all with the
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  kids and stuff like that. What do you think your future
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  holds? Let me say it like that.
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  What do you think your future holds if they are torturing
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  their current ex like that? You know what I'm saying?
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  There's their son's father or their daughter's mother,
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  whatever it is in these spaces right there, they're torturing
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  their ex. What do you think their future
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  holds for you? What makes you any different?
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  I'll sit right there because I thought, I thought I have to say
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  that what makes you you, you, you any different in the
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  situation right here? That's something you have to
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  think about, y'all? That's something you have to
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  consider right there. We were moving forward as you're
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  trying to heal and as you're trying to grow.
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  If you've escaped this relationship and you get into a
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  new one and you see this type of stuff early, those are what we
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  refer to in the biz as red flags.
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  Look at the air, the air hitting me, the wind, the red flag,
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  wind, the wind of the red flag. You see what I'm saying?
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  But anyways, I appreciate y'all tuning into another video.
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  I know it's Sunday and whatnot. I ain't gonna hold y'all too
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  long. Drop the little Nuggets on you.
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  The narcissist absolutely do care what other people think.
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