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#415 The Road Trip Revisited · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the
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  Speaker 1: time poor parent who just once answers Now, all.
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  Speaker 2: Right, that's enough. I can't take it anymore. We have
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  Speaker 2: six daughters. This is not the example that we want
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  Speaker 2: to be setting for them.
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  Speaker 1: And now here's the scars of our show my mum
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  Speaker 1: and dad.
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  Speaker 2: Oh boy, it's so close now, Christmas just around the corner.
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  Speaker 2: What have we got. Let's see some live matts, Kylie.
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  Speaker 2: Fifteen days to go, ninth of December to the twenty fourth,
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  Speaker 2: that's about right, right, fifteen days, fourteen days, depending on
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  Speaker 2: how you count it.
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  Speaker 3: I am an ostrich in the sand right now. I'm
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  Speaker 3: just preturning. We've got a little bit longer.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, so much to do, so little time.
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  Speaker 2: Earlier in the year, Kylie, by the way, I'm justin
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  Speaker 2: your Kylie. Happy Families dot com dot au is where
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  Speaker 2: you find out more about who we are and what
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  Speaker 2: we do. But earlier in the year, we had a
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  Speaker 2: conversation on the podcast about family road trips for the holidays.
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  Speaker 2: We know that there's a chance there's a whole bunch
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  Speaker 2: of people who are going to be getting in the
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  Speaker 2: car and driving more than a couple of hours to
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  Speaker 2: spend time with relatives this summer.
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  Speaker 3: So we thought we'd replay this because I think that
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  Speaker 3: it's going to make a difference to a whole heap
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  Speaker 3: of families who find themselves stuck in a car.
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  Speaker 4: For a long time.
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  Speaker 2: And it was one of our favorite episodes, so we
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  Speaker 2: think you're going to love it. Oh my goodness, I'm
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  Speaker 2: so excited about this podcast because I have been through
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  Speaker 2: the pain that long car trips require of families. Yet
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  Speaker 2: many times are there yet? Did you remember a few
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  Speaker 2: years ago we got the kids in the car, we
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  Speaker 2: were driving from Wollongong to Coff's Harbor, and I said,
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  Speaker 2: no screens, We're going to have a family weekend. We're
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  Speaker 2: going to spend good quality time together, that we're not
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  Speaker 2: going to look at screens. And that eight and a
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  Speaker 2: half hours in the car was just torture.
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  Speaker 3: I believe. But the next time we went and did
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  Speaker 3: that same trip, we had actually in stalled screens behind each.
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  Speaker 4: Of the right Yeah, yeah, because that was and had
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  Speaker 4: the best trip ever.
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  Speaker 2: Back in the day when you had to put DVD
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  Speaker 2: players in the car because you couldn't just stream on
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  Speaker 2: your phone, yeah we did. We had a good trip
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  Speaker 2: the second time, because but but wouldn't it be great
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  Speaker 2: if you could actually have some good quality family time
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  Speaker 2: while you're driving with your kids. And we're not going
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  Speaker 2: to go militant about screens or not screens. We're just
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  Speaker 2: going to share a bunch of ideas with you about
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  Speaker 2: how you can have high quality road trip time and
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  Speaker 2: enjoy being with your family. We're dividing it up into
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  Speaker 2: two sections. I can't wait to get section two because
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  Speaker 2: this is where we're going to talk about music. But
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  Speaker 2: in the first section, we've just got a whole lot
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  Speaker 2: of I guess talkie kind of games.
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  Speaker 3: Well, we put it out there on our Facebook page
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  Speaker 3: and asked everybody to kind of give us some ideas
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  Speaker 3: of what they do to keep things moving along in
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  Speaker 3: the car, and we had some really really great So.
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  Speaker 2: I see what you did there. I know I talked
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  Speaker 2: over you. Sorry, but you said keep things moving along
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  Speaker 2: in the car. That was That was really clever. I
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  Speaker 2: we didn't even plan that. Well done, We've got a
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  Speaker 2: lot to get through. We're probably going to have to
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  Speaker 2: put these all in the show notes, and we might
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  Speaker 2: even do a blog about it, an article on the website.
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  Speaker 2: Because you're not going to hang onto all of these ideas.
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  Speaker 2: This is the kind of episode that you want a
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  Speaker 2: bookmark and come back to every time you've got a
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  Speaker 2: road trip planned, because we have got so many brilliant ideas.
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  Speaker 2: Let's do all the talkie kind of games and conversations first.
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  Speaker 3: So a couple of weeks ago in i'ld Do Better
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  Speaker 3: Tomorrow episode, we talked about two things that I had
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  Speaker 3: done on a recent car trip, car bingo, where we
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  Speaker 3: just picked a whole heap of things that we might
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  Speaker 3: see on the road, and the kids had to kind
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  Speaker 3: of try and find, you know, five in a row
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  Speaker 3: of those.
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  Speaker 2: So you've got to find like a garbage truck or
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  Speaker 2: an aeroplane flying over here, red letterbox, or a kangaroo
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  Speaker 2: or an emu or something like that. Yeah, yeah, cool.
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  Speaker 3: And then the second one was those conversation starters, little
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  Speaker 3: cards that you can have that just give you a
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  Speaker 3: whole heap of just one sentence, one question, and you
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  Speaker 3: can ask each other those questions, which is the fun.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because we get to explore stories of our lives
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  Speaker 2: with our children and they love that. So what did
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  Speaker 2: our Facebook followers have to say? We've got If you're
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  Speaker 2: not on a Facebook page. By the way, I think
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  Speaker 2: we've got about one hundred and seventy five thousand Facebook followers.
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  Speaker 2: Jump on, become part of the community. It's a great
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  Speaker 2: group of people. It's a big group, but it's a
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  Speaker 2: great group of people.
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  Speaker 3: What do they have to say, Well, the number one
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  Speaker 3: there was two games that were just the favorites.
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  Speaker 4: Were I Spy. Everybody knows I Spy, but there was
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  Speaker 4: a couple of variations to that. There might have been
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  Speaker 4: I Spy yellow or for younger kids, right okay, and
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  Speaker 4: then Spoto.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, the two most are going to sound like
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  Speaker 2: I'm a real grump in the car both of those games.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I don't like Spoto because one of our
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  Speaker 2: kids punches us every time we see a yellow car.
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  Speaker 2: Spott O. It's like, we're not a hissing family. Stop
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  Speaker 2: hitting me. I don't like being punched by my thirteen
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  Speaker 2: year old.
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 4: Well, what used to happen more than anything was no
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  Speaker 4: I got that spot.
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  Speaker 2: I saw it, the fights, the fights over who saw
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  Speaker 2: the yellow car like. So be warned that if you're
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  Speaker 2: doing competitive stuff, it can turn ugly. So if people
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  Speaker 2: don't know how to play Spotto. By the way, it's
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  Speaker 2: pretty much every time a yellow car goes past, the
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  Speaker 2: first person to say spotto.
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  Speaker 4: Well, there's lots of variations.
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  Speaker 3: Some people had concrete trucks, some people had Mini Coopers.
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  Speaker 4: It's really up to you, whatever you want.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and our kids have actually added a variation as well.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if you know about this one, but
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  Speaker 2: every time a green car goes past, you know what
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  Speaker 2: they say, I'm so sorry to any green car drivers.
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  Speaker 4: We invented it with the kids another family. Every time
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  Speaker 4: a Mustang came past, it was motto, that's great.
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  Speaker 3: I like that.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, let's do a few others really quickly. What else.
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  Speaker 4: I went to the shops and I brought.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, gosh, no ah, that is the most brain numbing.
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  Speaker 2: It's actually really good for your memory. I get it,
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  Speaker 2: but I just it's like my grandmother went to the
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  Speaker 2: shops and she bought I went on holidays and I
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  Speaker 2: brought you.
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  Speaker 4: To be down.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I'm looking forward to the singing games. I just
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  Speaker 2: like singing. I'm not very good.
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  Speaker 3: But a couple of others. The Alphabet game. We actually
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  Speaker 3: love playing this game. As the kids have gotten older,
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  Speaker 3: it's really good for emerging readers to recognize their letters.
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  Speaker 3: And so the object is you literally are just collecting lads,
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  Speaker 3: whether it be from.
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  Speaker 4: Your number plates or from billboards.
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  Speaker 2: Cart streets on you. And it's got to be alphabeticalized.
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  Speaker 2: So you're looking for an A. So we'll be like
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  Speaker 2: A in Warhope. I don't know why I said Warhape
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  Speaker 2: a in Brisbane. So you've just got to find the
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  Speaker 2: letter in a word or on a number plate.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 2: I saw a V on that car going pass and
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  Speaker 2: you've got to do it in order, and it's kind
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  Speaker 2: of a race. We've decided that if I'm driving, I
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  Speaker 2: can't play that game because I get a bit competitive
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  Speaker 2: and stop watching the road. Really, it's a very dangerous
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  Speaker 2: game to play if you're driving.
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  Speaker 3: And a game that I've never played before, but you
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  Speaker 3: used to play it as a kid.
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  Speaker 2: Car cricket cricket. So my dad was a furniture removalist.
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  Speaker 2: Mum and dad ran a furniture moving company when I
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  Speaker 2: was a kid, and I used to sit in the
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  Speaker 2: truck driving from the New South Wales Central Coast up
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  Speaker 2: to the Gold Coast or Brisbane. Every holiday. Dad and
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  Speaker 2: I would go and do furniture removals and I spent
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  Speaker 2: hours playing car cricket, and basically a car is worth
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  Speaker 2: one run, a car with the trailer is worth four,
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  Speaker 2: a car with a caravan is worth six. And if
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  Speaker 2: you see any motorcyles or any trucks or buses, you're out.
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  Speaker 2: Of course, there's ten wickets, so you've got to lose
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  Speaker 2: ten wickets, get as many runs as you can. Then
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  Speaker 2: the other person's in for their innings.
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  Speaker 4: You know, my head is hurting. Now, how am I
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  Speaker 4: supposed to remember?
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  Speaker 2: It's not hard? One, four, six, and then you're out
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  Speaker 2: with the other stock.
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  Speaker 5: What's before a car with the trailer, of course the
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  Speaker 5: answer yeah, But it's fun to play at night because
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  Speaker 5: there's lots of trucks and you get out really fast,
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  Speaker 5: and sometimes you only get two or three runs, and
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  Speaker 5: all these trucks.
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  Speaker 3: Just so, the last time I'm going to share with
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  Speaker 3: you came in from one of our followers and she
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  Speaker 3: calls it truck truck car bus and the object is
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  Speaker 3: to just guess what the next four cars will be. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: well the next four vehicles, and so in this case
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  Speaker 3: she's guessing that the next four vehicles are going to
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  Speaker 3: be a truck truck car and a bus.
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  Speaker 2: So if I'm on the freeway, I'm going to say car, car, car, cars,
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  Speaker 2: because there's going to be a whole bunch of cars
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  Speaker 2: and I'm probably going to get that right. Is that
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  Speaker 2: the idea?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: And the idea is you want to do it before
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  Speaker 3: there's any cars in front of your there is any vehicles.
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  Speaker 3: So I would suggest that this is on a long
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  Speaker 3: car trip. You're kind of dealing with long highway stretches
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  Speaker 3: where you're not, you know, on busy freeways.
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  Speaker 4: I don't think it would work as well.
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  Speaker 2: Up next, we're going to play or talk about the
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  Speaker 2: funnest games ever, the Singing Games.
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  Speaker 1: It's their Happy Families podcast for.
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  Speaker 2: Details at happy families dot com dot au.
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  Speaker 3: It's the Happy Families podcast, the podcast for the time
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  Speaker 3: poor parent who just wants answers now, and today we
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  Speaker 3: are talking about how we deal with that question are
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  Speaker 3: we there yet?
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  Speaker 2: So we've talked about all the talkie games. Now it's
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  Speaker 2: signed for the singing games. Some families have really got
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  Speaker 2: the whole singing thing down pat like the kids in
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  Speaker 2: Step Run the game was really nailed at this time.
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  Speaker 2: Here we go a wan two, A one two three four.
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  Speaker 6: She's gonna smar That is, to me reminds me of
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  Speaker 6: childhood memories whereverything was as fresh as a bright blue sky.
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  Speaker 2: How good are me? You're the oldest I'm counting on you.
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  Speaker 2: Come on, she's got us.
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  Speaker 1: The blueis guys.
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  Speaker 2: I can't take it because this is really hard to
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  Speaker 2: listen to, because last time we tried singing in the
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  Speaker 2: car it sounded more like this.
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  Speaker 6: I've seen the place, I tell them.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. We're not even in the same in
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  Speaker 2: the same galaxy of talent as the anyway, So what
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  Speaker 2: are the singing games? Because sing alongs are fun? But
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  Speaker 2: you've actually got some games that have come through as suggestions, well.
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  Speaker 3: Old McDonald for young McDonald, especially when you're you know,
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  Speaker 3: driving the countryside. You can find animals as you go, yep,
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  Speaker 3: and add them to the equation. The acknowledgment in one
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  Speaker 3: of the messages was just that they might have ended
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  Speaker 3: up with a few dinosaurs in there.
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  Speaker 4: In their farm.
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  Speaker 2: Well why not that? That just reminds me actually of
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  Speaker 2: you've probably heard of Well maybe you haven't heard of it,
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  Speaker 2: but there's a group called The Go and a Gang
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  Speaker 2: and they're on Spotify and they've done a whole lot
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  Speaker 2: of kids stuff and they just make song time in
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  Speaker 2: the car with the little kids loads of fun because
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  Speaker 2: you've got stuff like this, and then there's build them U,
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  Speaker 2: build them up. I remember that from play school our kids.
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  Speaker 2: It's so lovely there eventually anyway, so there's all that
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  Speaker 2: sort of stuff. What what what old McDonald yep?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, Next, Bingo?
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  Speaker 2: What Bingo? I thought we were playing Bingo as a
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  Speaker 2: talking game.
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  Speaker 4: This is a song.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: There was a farmer had a dog and Bingo was
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  Speaker 3: his name. O b I g o b I g
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  Speaker 3: o b i ng o and Bingo.
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  Speaker 2: Was his But that's just a song. What's the point
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  Speaker 2: of that.
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  Speaker 3: Well, the idea is the next time we sing it,
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  Speaker 3: we're going to take away the B and so we
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  Speaker 3: have to clap and then do I g oh, and
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  Speaker 3: then we're going to clap again for the third verse
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  Speaker 3: and we're going to do.
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  Speaker 2: B ng o oh ng Okay, all right, So that's
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  Speaker 2: there's some coordination that's great for kids, for little kids,
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  Speaker 2: What about for bigger kids?
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  Speaker 4: This is the song that never ends?
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, this is the song that never ends. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know the tune problem.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, it goes on and on. My friends, some people
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  Speaker 4: started singing and not knowing what it was. Why are
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  Speaker 4: you laughing at me?
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  Speaker 2: You've got a great voice. And then the continued singing
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  Speaker 2: it forever, just because this is the song that never ends,
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  Speaker 2: and it starts all over again. It's torture. We're supposed
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  Speaker 2: to be trying to help people have a nice card.
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  Speaker 4: T Well, my.
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  Speaker 3: Absolute favorite over the last few years is Peel the avocado.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know the tuna boid just came out and
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  Speaker 2: the girl was like, what are you doing?
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  Speaker 3: And the YouTube clip is you have to watch it
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  Speaker 3: if you definitely look it up, it's worth a worth
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  Speaker 3: a good laugh. But the highlight of all of the
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  Speaker 3: comments that came through this would be my number one pick.
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  Speaker 4: Well, it's actually ours because we had lots to talk
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  Speaker 4: about this one.
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  Speaker 2: Yep.
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  Speaker 4: Somebody said they play the fart game.
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  Speaker 2: Which is really a word replacement game. What happens is
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  Speaker 2: you find any song that has the word heart in
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  Speaker 2: the title or in the lyrics and you change it
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  Speaker 2: too fart. So we did a little bit.
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  Speaker 4: I think they must have a few boys in there.
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  Speaker 2: We did a little bit of googling, and I thought, well,
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  Speaker 2: this this would be fun to sing because if we're
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  Speaker 2: changing heart to fart.
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  Speaker 7: That and then if you if you don't want Selene
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  Speaker 7: because I don't know, it doesn't work slow, and yeah,
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  Speaker 7: it's a bit dreary, and and maybe we want something
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  Speaker 7: a little bit old or something from the eighties.
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  Speaker 2: There's Elton John and Kiki d. Don't go breaking a
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  Speaker 2: what I gave you my fart? This is so rude.
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  Speaker 2: I gave you my fart.
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  Speaker 6: Don't go breaking far.
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  Speaker 2: I can't believe what have we become? What has this
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  Speaker 2: podcast become?
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  Speaker 4: I'm blaming Rebecca for this one.
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  Speaker 2: My favorite one of all of them, just while we're
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  Speaker 2: being absolutely ridiculous was rock set listen to the fart?
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  Speaker 2: All right, that's enough. I can't take it anymore. We
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  Speaker 2: have six daughters. This is not the example that we
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  Speaker 2: want to be setting for them. You want to have
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  Speaker 2: fun on a car trip, this is the way to
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  Speaker 2: do it, right, Yeah, I think so. The last one
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to add it in.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, okay, Adam said stay quiet or else that's a
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  Speaker 3: good game.
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  Speaker 4: Let's just quiet game.
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  Speaker 2: So who can stay the quiet for the longest. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: so after.
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  Speaker 3: We've had lots and lots of fun, that might be
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  Speaker 3: one to just finish things off.
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  Speaker 2: Just look out the window, kids, Just look out the
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  Speaker 2: window and soak it in. If you're going on a cartridge.
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  Speaker 2: If I hope that that's been helpful, I don't know
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  Speaker 2: how many of them we're really going to try. I
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  Speaker 2: actually think there's some fun ideas there though. The Happy
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