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Abel is being EXCLUDED from his GRIEVING FAMILY · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: John Jane, But have you got Able on the line.
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  Speaker 1: Abel is looking for advice and I talked to Able earlier.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know how we can give him advice on
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  Speaker 1: this without knowing more. I think, what's up Able?
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  Speaker 2: Hello? Hello, thank you for taking the call.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so give everybody your story a quick version if
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  Speaker 1: you can.
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  Speaker 2: I met my wife. We were together thirty years, married
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  Speaker 2: twenty and she just passed. She passed away on November third,
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  Speaker 2: So thank you. And my thing is, I think I'm
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  Speaker 2: being exiled from her side of the family. But I'm
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  Speaker 2: not sure how to take and it's only been two months.
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  Speaker 2: I understand that everybody morning, but I feel I'm being
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  Speaker 2: excluded and I'm not sure if that's.
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  Speaker 3: Normal or it doesn't seem normal. It almost seems like
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  Speaker 3: they would rally around you a little bit. Well, what
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  Speaker 3: sort of things are happening that you're noticing you're being
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  Speaker 3: excluded from. That would be a big one.
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  Speaker 2: The last time we were together was obviously Christmas, right,
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  Speaker 2: and uh, there was no conversation, there was no uh,
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  Speaker 2: nothing in common. It was it was just and it
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  Speaker 2: was the same thing and Thanksgiving. But now there's certain
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  Speaker 2: things that are going on in their life. I understand you.
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  Speaker 2: You're not gonna tell me everything that you're doing, but
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  Speaker 2: family sense I those little things that that there Also,
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  Speaker 2: it was my birthday January seventh, and nobody called. I'm
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  Speaker 2: not I'm not expecting them to call. I'm not. Oh
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  Speaker 2: Blue Blue Bloom told me blah blah blah. But nobody
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  Speaker 2: called to tell me happy birthday. Right, no text and
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  Speaker 2: nothing nothing.
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  Speaker 1: Hmm, let me, let.
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  Speaker 2: Me, let me jump.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna jump a little bit because I know. I
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  Speaker 1: know because I talked to you earlier this morning. So
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  Speaker 1: there's a couple of ways of looking at it. One
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  Speaker 1: is that I mean you're a tough guy. You come
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  Speaker 1: across as you know, I mean, your voice is tough.
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  Speaker 1: So maybe they don't know how to handle your emotions.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe they think you're not like that. Maybe you know
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  Speaker 1: you're too tough kind of There's that, and there's also
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  Speaker 1: like I am, I'm very close with my in laws
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  Speaker 1: and my family right, very close. But if something happened
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  Speaker 1: to my wife and I never got invited able, I'm
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  Speaker 1: trying to talk to you making all this noise, No no.
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm listening. I'm listening to my car.
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  Speaker 1: Are you crawling? Inside a Ruffles potato chip bag something.
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  Speaker 2: You know, there was a dog. I'm leaving the flea market.
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  Speaker 2: That's so AnyWho com You.
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  Speaker 1: Sound exactly like my uncle Chureus. You sound exactly like
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  Speaker 1: That's why. That's why I'm picturing him. You sound like him.
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  Speaker 1: You're at the flea market. He used to take me
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  Speaker 1: to flea market when I was a kid. You go
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  Speaker 1: buy parts of Olkswagen engines. I hated it.
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  Speaker 3: I hated it.
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  Speaker 1: We had and then we go to the dog track. Anyway, Listen,
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  Speaker 1: I love my in laws, but if something happened and
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  Speaker 1: my wife wasn't around anymore and I never got invited anywhere,
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  Speaker 1: I'd be very happy with that. I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: go to them now. And she's alive.
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  Speaker 2: Now, I'm not interrupted, like I don't know. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not sure if you know Spanish or whatever, but
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  Speaker 2: me who means son son? Right? And my my godfather,
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  Speaker 2: my godfather father in law, father law, Yeah, thank you.
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  Speaker 2: She would call me, tell me who, how are you doing? Me? Who?
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  Speaker 2: How are you doing?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 2: And then after she passed, how are you doing, Abel? Oh,
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  Speaker 2: how are you doing? And then I bumped into him again,
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  Speaker 2: how are you doing Abel, and I'm like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: like that, that's when I started noticing. But basically I
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  Speaker 2: want to ask you think I'm overreacting or is.
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  Speaker 1: This I think you're overreacting. I also think you're very
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  Speaker 1: sensitive guy, and you're going through dude, You're you're mourning
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  Speaker 1: right now. You're going to be dealing with this for
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  Speaker 1: you grieving for a long time. And how do you
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  Speaker 1: know he's not trying to speak better English and call
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  Speaker 1: you boo? How you doing boom? How you doing a boot?
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  Speaker 2: He won't do that.
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  Speaker 1: That's not a pet name for you, a boot a boot? Now,
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  Speaker 1: I know what you mean doing. You're being very said,
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  Speaker 1: you're going through a really rough time. It's tough, bro,
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  Speaker 1: It's very tough. Mikol.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and and you know and and actually also there's
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  Speaker 2: a lot of little things. But I actually don't have
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  Speaker 2: anybody to vent to or to ask or to say.
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  Speaker 2: You're like, they just boom, and.
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  Speaker 1: Are you reaching out?
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  Speaker 3: Are you reaching out to them? Are you just saying
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  Speaker 3: they're not reaching out to you?
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  Speaker 2: No, I do reach out and take something doing good
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  Speaker 2: morning and blah blah blah, this and that and and
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  Speaker 2: and they'll.
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  Speaker 3: Respond any chance that your lady like talked bad about
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  Speaker 3: your you behind me.
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  Speaker 1: Well he did kill her, that would be why they
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't talk. It's actually very sad, and it's true.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, you know your siblings, you know you talk
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  Speaker 2: bs with them, Oh John Jay that you know? Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: but you know you know what I mean. But I
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  Speaker 2: have not done anything that will cause this change, this
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  Speaker 2: dramatic change.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Well maybe they're really grieving too, Maybe they don't know
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  Speaker 3: how to handle it yet. Yeah, I know, like when
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  Speaker 3: when my mom passed away, I I know that there
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  Speaker 3: was a little bit of chill in the air for
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  Speaker 3: my dad, but then he became like best friends with
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  Speaker 3: my mom's sisters after she passed away. They were super close.
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  Speaker 3: It just took them a little while to get over
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  Speaker 3: it because it was it was a sad death, you know,
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  Speaker 3: it was she she died of cancer, and lot of
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  Speaker 3: she was the youngest, so a lot of them had
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  Speaker 3: a hard time handling it. So her family might be
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  Speaker 3: grieving too, and it might come around. It might just
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  Speaker 3: take a little while, and you know, just just keep
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  Speaker 3: showing up for things. You'll fit in again. You'll figure
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  Speaker 3: its fresh. Yeah, it's still new.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And she and she passed of cancer.
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  Speaker 1: That's tough.
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  Speaker 3: That's tough for families.
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  Speaker 2: And I knew and I accepted the outcome, but the
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  Speaker 2: way it happened, and like, what the hell that? That's
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  Speaker 2: what is shocking sort of speak. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: No, I'm glad you. I'm glad you called. I think
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  Speaker 1: you you got to work through it. You know what
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  Speaker 2: Okay, all right, I will take you guys.
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  Speaker 1: Please please do that because it sounds like you need
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  Speaker 1: to talk to somebody. We're only educated as and level.
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  Speaker 1: We're not professional.
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  Speaker 2: Guys every day and blah blah, and you know it's
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  Speaker 2: it's mm hmm. It's awesome.
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  Speaker 1: All right, brother, God bless you man.
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  Speaker 3: Check back in with us.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, we'll do. Thanks Abel, Thank you