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MONOTASKING VS. MULTITASKING AND WHAT WORKS BEST IN MIDLIFE · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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  Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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  you to let it go and don't look back.
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  We've nationally acclaimed professional organizer Christine
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  Stone and self-proclaimed Hot Damn Mess radio and TV
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  personality Eden Kendall. Welcome everyone to Uncluttered
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  and Unfiltered with a podcast for women over 50.
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  My name is Eden and Christine is with me as always, and she's a
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  professional organizer. I am whatever the polar opposite
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  of that would be. We are so different in so many
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  ways and for years. Somehow we make it work.
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  Yes, we do. Yes, we do.
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  And and now we're to the point where we have fun just pointing
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  it out. Like in our last episode, we
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  found out that you like a hairier man than I like.
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  So who knew? Who knew?
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  Because it never came up because we're both married, so it's not
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  like we were out there on the hunt together.
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  And no. So OK, thankfully, but today our
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  topic is monotasking and if you know us at all, you know one of
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  us doesn't believe in monotasking and one of.
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  Us. No.
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  One of us. Yeah, that's right.
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  One of us lives to monotasks, so we'll get to that.
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  Of course, we like to start with what's on our radar, and we will
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  have some organizational stuff for you at the end of the
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  episode as well. So I'll start with what's on my
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  radar this time and I put it in our ladies only Facebook group,
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  which we always love. If you can join us on Facebook,
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  it's called ladies only. I'm cluttered and unfiltered
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  ladies only. I'm an avid reader, but when I
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  say reader, I listen to audiobooks.
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  Some people say that's not reading.
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  I just don't even get into the details of that.
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  I always say I read this book even though I listen to it.
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  But the latest one I read and I posted this is called The
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  Calamity Club, and it's the first one in a long time by the
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  author of The Help. And it's delicious to listen to.
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  I mean, I'm sure it's a good read as well, but it's really,
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  really great. And I was just asking our other
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  ladies what they've been reading lately.
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  And in the course of that, something between you and I came
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  up which I didn't really know. And that is you prefer
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  nonfiction. And of course I love a good ROM
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  com, or in this case, historical fiction.
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  Well, here's the thing. First of all, I just learned
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  about listening when we had to listen to that book because I
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  don't. I'm not a reader because I do.
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  I read so much online that when I have free time, I'm not
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  sitting with a book or on my iPad or anything like that for
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  reading. But if I'm going to read it
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  better be a juicy true story about someone's life or it's
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  something like that. I I want to hear drama.
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  I want to hear some good, good scoop.
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  I, and I think it goes back to you always like vicariously live
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  through other people's experiences.
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  So that's that's my take on reading which I.
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  Will say this, I love a good memoir.
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  I said I don't like nonfiction, but a good memoir I love.
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  And the older the person writing the memoir, the juicier it is
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  because they give zero FS. They will tell you everything.
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  And then one that I read that I was like, what is Shirley Jones
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  from the Partridge family? Let me tell you who's got a
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  spicy memoir? Yes, woo.
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  Oh, we're talking swinging and threesomes and the deal.
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  Yeah, that's good. Yeah, and she's telling you who
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  and when and who wouldn't and all of it.
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  But that's that's a difference. But if you're reading something
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  and you want to share it with the class, please head over to
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  our ladies only Facebook group. That's where we've got that
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  going. What else you got on your radar,
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  lady? Well, I'm going to talk about
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  Aritzia, which is a clothing store.
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  It's all over, even out of the United States.
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  I don't know what I feel about this, but they don't have
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  mirrors in their dressing rooms. Wait, do we have one of these
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  stores in? Jacksonville yes, and they were
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  having their big yearly sale so I wanted to go in there and get
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  a few things. And I go in there and one reason
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  I avoid it is because I don't like the communal mirror where
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  you try something on and then have to go.
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  First of all, because every 2030 early 40s person is there and
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  they look phenomenal in everything they try on.
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  I mean, I don't know how they decide what to buy.
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  That's how great they all look. And then there comes out the 63
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  year old woman. And the reason why I love going
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  in there is their athleisure wear is really, really great.
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  And so this time I went in for the sale and I was just going to
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  buy it and leave and bring it home and try it on.
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  If I didn't like it, return it. And she goes, you want to try
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  that on? And I'm like, OK, fine, because
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  it's the sale. And if I want to pick up more
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  colors, she goes, I'll give you the room with the mirror.
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  So they put in mirrors in like 2 rooms and I think it's for the
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  old people. We don't want to come.
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  Out people don't want to come out.
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  So I said, oh, is this for the old people?
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  And she's laughs. But you could tell it was a
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  nervous laughter, like, yeah. She's on to me.
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  Right, because you know, and so I left there going.
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  Now I feel weird like I got the one room that has the mirror
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  because I'm old but they didn't. Want you out there.
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  Maybe it's more like don't come out.
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  Yes, we don't want everyone to see that.
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  So anyway, I actually was very appreciative of the mirrors.
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  So is if Ritzy is ever listening to anyone, 'cause there's been a
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  lot of complaints online about them not having mirrors in their
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  dressing rooms. Yes, yes, it's big.
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  It's a huge store. Like, I mean, yeah, it's really
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  big. It's like I'm in a parallel
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  universe. I'm sure it's all I'll hear
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  about when I after that. Yeah, I, I mean, because like I
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  said, I'm really into athleisure, but but good looking
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  athleisure and they do have really, really, really great
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  things. So anyway, I'm happy to announce
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  they have. So for the mirrors, yeah.
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  You know, Speaking of mirrors in Target and I occasionally will
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  slip in there if I need a bathing suit.
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  I like that they sell them separate the bottoms and the
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  tops. I always wonder how they ever
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  sold a single bathing suit in that place because their mirrors
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  are so their lighting is terrible in there and they have
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  the front and back mirror so you can see both sides which I think
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  is not ideal to try to sell anyone over 50 a bathing suit.
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  That is one thing. If I ever owned a store, I would
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  make sure that the mirrors were flattering and the lighting was
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  flattering because I can't tell you how many stores I go into
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  the dressing room and go. I don't look like this at home.
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  Yeah, you're not doing yourself any favors.
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  No, I look awful and I'm like, I didn't notice that my mirror at
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  home, I'm like, this must be a fun house mirror.
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  Like I make up, you know, things in my head.
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  Yeah, I agree, I think. Target with that back mirror
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  that you can see your whole backside.
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  It's like that's none of my business.
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  I don't need to know what I look like in the back.
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  I'm never going to have to see it.
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  Don't show me we just lost a $20 sale on a babies.
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  Yeah, most of the time I have to be honest.
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  I bring things home from everywhere, try them on, and if
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  I don't like them, I return them because mine, I'm always wearing
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  tennis shoes because my feet always hurt and to take off my
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  tennis shoes and the socks and the leggings or whatever, it's
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  just a pain. So, you know, I, I usually.
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  Return as well. I'm a big time returner.
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  Yeah. Yeah.
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  So, OK, so the the mirrors were on your radar.
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  Next on my radar is the fact that at the time of this
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  recording, I am a mere weeks away from being 60.
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  And I'm so excited. You're excited.
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  I'm so excited. OK.
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  Well, so one of the conversations that we've been
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  having, I mean, we've talked on and off for a few years now
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  about how there is this turning point when you turn 60.
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  I'm not afraid of it because to me, if I'm going to be 59, I may
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  as well be 60, you know? I'd rather get that.
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  When you say you're 59, you get kind of that funny look.
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  When you say you're 60, you either get a.
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  It's usually that. It's usually that.
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  Yeah, but I mean, you may as well.
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  So. But there's been an ongoing
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  stress in my life, and that is a party.
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  So my husband is also turning 60, and we are also celebrating
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  30 years of marriage. Such a blessing.
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  So blessed. But the idea of throwing a party
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  was just stressing me out. It was making me so incredibly
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  anxious because for a few reasons.
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  One is I have some family members that aren't thriving in
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  this moment. And I felt just wrong, you know,
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  just wrong. Like how, how I can't celebrate.
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  How can I celebrate? And then the other part of it
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  was I just don't like to leave anyone out.
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  I feel like I can't leave anyone out.
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  So whatever we do, it has to be like an open house situation.
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  Fortunately, one of my girlfriends said when I tried to
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  say I'm not having a party, she said, I absolutely forbid that
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  you're having a party. I'll put my name on it so that
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  if anyone is hears about it and doesn't show up, it's me.
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  It's my fault. I can't possibly reach every
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  single person, you know. So if you're listening to this
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  and you haven't heard about this and you feel like that's clearly
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  an oversight, reach out to me. But I love that I've removed
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  myself from that part of it. But anyway, that's said, I way
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  overthink things. Way overthink them.
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  Well, and what did I say to you that.
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  We're so different. We're so.
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  Different, I said. We are so different because I
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  had a 60th birthday dinner planned and it was like going to
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  be out of town with like 15 people.
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  And as it kept getting closer, like you, I'm like, I don't want
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  to do this. I don't want to leave my house.
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  I don't feel like doing it. I, I want to cancel and
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  everyone, my kids, my husband, my friends were like, can't
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  cancel. I'm like, I just, I'm at a point
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  right now where I'm kind of getting a little bummed out
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  about it. I don't know why I was all fine
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  about it and now all of a sudden, well one day before
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  we're supposed to leave and it was during the the probably 2023
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  I think. So not the heat of COVID but
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  during COVID. My husband got COVID and we had
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  to cancel because part. Boy, Mitch, we did take one for
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  the team. Well, he.
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  Laughed so hard. He goes, Oh my God, I just
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  tested positive for COVID and I went what?
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  And he goes, I think you should I go, Oh no, I can't leave you
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  in your time of need. No way.
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  What if it was? His birthday gift to you?
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  I I said, what if it you take a turn for the worse and I'm not
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  here, I need to be here for you. And I said we need to cancel.
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  And then I'm in the hallway like with my arms up and down doing a
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  dance. I was so happy.
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  So anyway, I just think some birthdays and I think 60 is that
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  way now. Once, once it it happens, you're
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  fine. It's just leading up to it. 50 I
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  did not feel that way. 50I couldn't wait.
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  I threw myself a huge birthday party.
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  Had such a great time, but I did not feel that way at sixty.
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  I kind of think 60 just felt happy to be alive.
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  What do you think about this premise?
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  Agree. First of all, agree on that one.
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  What do you think about this premise?
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  I also now understand that people feel imposed upon when
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  you invite them to a party. And I didn't want to be the
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  reason someone feels like they have to leave their house.
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  I was like, I don't know. I don't want to make all these
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  people have to leave their house.
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  They're all my age. None of them want to be there.
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  And my friend said that's not true.
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  That's not true for. You, you know, people want to
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  go. Out and that's not true for you.
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  I mean, everywhere we go, I even told your husband this at Casey
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  and the Sunshine band concert. There's there's Eden doing her
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  thing. I mean, you have so many friends
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  that people would be mad if they couldn't do it if they couldn't
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  come and you're doing a casual thing.
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  No one's wearing like a tux. I mean, you know, a formal gown.
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  It's casual. It's you know, no, we're doing
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  this. I don't I that's it.
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  End of story. Well, just reach out to me if
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  you if you didn't get an invitation, you think you
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  probably needed one. And because I didn't want any
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  part of that. And then also just know, just
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  know that if you would rather stay home in your pajamas, I
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  100% feel you don't even have to make up an excuse.
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  You can just be like not feeling it.
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  I'd be like, yeah, I I hear you. I almost didn't come myself.
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  Thanks very much. So one thing I have to mention
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  since this is a podcast for women over 50, I love that
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  because you're early 60, I'm going to be 64 in August.
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  So I'm almost middle 60. I love that you still care what
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  people think because because that will shift it just you
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  haven't hit the shift point yet. You know what?
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  I. Mean, I think you're right.
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  But I, I noticed I picked up on that, that you really still will
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  be upset if someone gets their feelings hurt or because I mean,
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  knowing you, we'd have to invite the whole entire city in order
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  for someone not to get their feelings hurt.
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  I mean, every time I'm out with you, we didn't we would need to
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  invite the city, whereas me, we can invite my classic 10 people
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  and that would be. We should talk about what
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  happened with the seats at the Casey Casey thing.
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  That was so funny. So we ended up getting we we had
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  some lovely, lovely seats. Listen, it doesn't happen all
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  the time, so I'm not going to act like people always give us
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  things. But but Casey's people were so
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  kind that when they set up the meet and greet, they also gave
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  us tickets. But that was just, I think in
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  their mind because you have to do that.
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  I don't know if there was like whatever.
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  They were all separate tickets. We had our own tickets.
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  They were upstairs, cheaper tickets, but they gave us three
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  separate tickets, my husband and you and I.
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  But they were all nice tickets, but they were not together.
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  So I was able to ask somebody that worked at the theater.
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  And these people were so lovely. So nice.
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  So they they said, just give us a few minutes.
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  We want to make sure that there's nobody who just can't
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  make it up the stairs because this is Casey and the Sunshine
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  Band. They don't have an elevator at
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  the theater. It's a historic theater.
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  And they were like, we just have to, we always hold back tickets
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  in case there's somebody who can't, can't do it.
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  So right before the show they walk us to these seats and they
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  are front row but to the side. By front row.
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  By the security guard and the security security guard says
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  this is where my wife usually sits.
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  Can she sit with you? And he was kind of older like
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  us. We were not expecting his wife
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  to be this little hot thing like dancing around in her sparkles.
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  She was so cute and fun. But anyway, so she ended up
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  sitting with us in the seats because they were that close up
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  that they were like the security guard spare seats.
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  Yeah. It's pretty funny.
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  And as your husband and I were standing to the side as you were
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  talking to the people, we, we always feel like there she goes.
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  I mean, you could as my as my father, you say you could talk
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  your way out of a wet paper bag. I mean, honest to God, I've
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  never seen anything like it. It, it, it's just in you.
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  And I like to just watch it. It's like a show, so your
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  husband and I had so much fun watching you do your thing.
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  He goes. I'm used to this.
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  Well, no asking, no Getty, but I like the the main thing is to
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  know that people are pretty much always inclined to want to help
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  you if you have the right attitude and let them know from
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  in advance that if there's nothing they can do for you,
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  that's also great. You know, thank you anyway for
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  trying. But it just so happened that we
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  got very, very lucky in that situation.
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  But it was pretty funny later when you guys were both like,
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  Yep, we had no doubt, which I had every doubt.
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  But anyway, so we have a, we have a topic, we have a mono
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  tasking topic to get to. Do we leave anything on your
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  radar? Well, I had one other thing and
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  it was it was the bed reset. My gosh, please tell us.
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  About that. So the reason why I have to talk
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  about this, I don't know his name and if I and I will find it
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  so we can put him in the show notes because I am very very
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  very very picky about my bed. I know it's kind of weird but I
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  just am number one. I have a dog so she gets hair
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  all over everything and likes to sleep on the bed which I do not
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  encourage ever since I found out that I'm allergic to her.
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  But it doesn't matter, OK, she still sleeps on there.
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  She's she's, yeah, I've got 2 in my bed, so yeah.
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  Yeah, so I'm very picky even about pillows because I don't
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  like, I don't like a lot of pillows on my bed because
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  everyone throws them on the floor.
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  And then I have the thing about the floor, you know, allergens
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  and dog hair. So I just don't like doing that.
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  So I found this guy on my feed who was talking about how to
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  make a bed simply easily uncomplicated and still make it
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  look fabulous so. I saw this.
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  I don't know his name either. I will find it because he's so
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  good. He's so good.
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  It's the putting the pillows flat too, like he's not.
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  They're not this way, they're this way.
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  You just bring everything. Up, yes, and not having a
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  million throw pillows. And so I got inspired by him and
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  I went and bought all new bedding and made it to where
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  it's easy to wash, easy to make, so that it's not so complicated.
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  I put a throw blanket on like he said so that the dog could lay
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  at the end, but then I could wash the blanket as much as I
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  want if I needed to, whatever. And I like that he's not all
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  about just having the bed pillows that you sleep on and
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  then if you want to throw like a bolster pillow at the front just
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  for design, whatever, if you want.
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  I I just love that because part of my problem was I never felt
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  like my bed was made good because I didn't have all these
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  crazy pillows going on everywhere.
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  And now it looks so good. I'm just so happy.
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  So we will share his information when I find it in the show
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  notes. Very good.
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  Love it. Great.
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  OK. We're going to come back and
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  talk mono tasking after the break.
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  OK, we are back and we're talking monotasking still have
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  one more segment after this one and it's organizational based,
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  but this has a little bit of organization attached to it too,
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  but in every part of your life really.
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  So take it away. Yes.
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  So I saw this on the news, actually.
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  The real, you know, real news. The real news, yeah, not my feet
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  or whatever. Mono tasking is the practice of
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  focusing on a single task at a time.
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  This was talked about, like I said on CBS News, as a superior
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  strategy for enhancing productivity and reducing
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  stress. Research indicates that
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  multitasking can decrease productivity up to 40 and drop a
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  person's effective IQ by 10 points, which that would be a
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  problem for me. So I told you about this and
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  once again, we said what? We always say you're like, Oh my
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  God, I can't do that. I'm like, no, my God, this is
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  what I do. Can't do it, cannot do it, can't
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  Mono. Task really.
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  I mean, in this moment right now, you have my full attention.
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  But largely it is so difficult for me that in my job, one of
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  the things I do is I edit video. I'll go out and shoot video with
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  people, do interviews, etcetera. And then it's my job to come
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  back and do all of the editing. And I can't stay on one project
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  and get it from start to finish. I have to have two or three
• 20:39
  started in different stages going at all times.
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  I just I just. Can't and see and I'm the
• 20:47
  opposite. If I'm working on something for
• 20:50
  work, a video for work, I have to finish two completion, that
• 20:56
  one video, including the writing for it, everything that goes
• 21:00
  along with it, before I move on to the next thing.
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  If I try to multitask, exactly what this says ends up happening
• 21:09
  to me. I get increased stress because
• 21:12
  I'm shifting my attention from one thing to another.
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  I make more mistakes, which is true.
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  I constantly am like, God, I didn't see that.
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  So I really have started doing this kind of religiously where I
• 21:27
  focus on one thing at a time. Even when I'm on the phone and
• 21:32
  I'm talking like to one of my kids and I'm trying to do a
• 21:36
  bunch of different things, I'm not really listening to what
• 21:39
  they're saying. I kind of am, but not really.
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  And so I quit doing that. I'll sit down and have actual
• 21:47
  conversation. I just think that as you get
• 21:50
  older your brain can only retain so much attention like it
• 21:54
  information, and so when you start putting tons of
• 21:58
  information in it, at least my brain, it just throws me totally
• 22:03
  off. What you're saying, and I know,
• 22:07
  I know it's better, I know it's better to give your full
• 22:10
  attention on a conversation, especially with your kids.
• 22:12
  When kids today, it's really hard for them to do the same.
• 22:15
  I'm half of every conversation I have with my daughter, she's
• 22:18
  Facetiming and I can tell you, I can picture the screen because
• 22:22
  she's looking over it, always looking over it.
• 22:25
  She's either eating or doing something.
• 22:28
  She's she's doing something when she's talking to me.
• 22:30
  So I get why being on the receiving end, you would very
• 22:33
  much appreciate having someone's full attention.
• 22:36
  I know it's also the right thing to do in most work projects,
• 22:40
  it's just very difficult for me with an ADHD brain.
• 22:43
  We've talked before about our brains or wired differently and
• 22:47
  it's some things are difficult. I'm not saying they wouldn't
• 22:50
  benefit from me trying harder, but it's not a natural feeling
• 22:55
  for. Me, yeah.
• 22:55
  I also think that when you're dealing with ADHD, that's
• 23:01
  different because that's something that you could try as
• 23:04
  hard as you want, but sometimes it's not going to happen.
• 23:08
  But what I have noticed, especially with work and with
• 23:13
  this podcast, we've talked about this too.
• 23:16
  I don't schedule anything on the days we do our podcast because I
• 23:21
  want my full attention on the podcast.
• 23:25
  And if I try to do a whole bunch of different things, my
• 23:28
  attention is not on the podcast. And that's not fair to our
• 23:32
  listeners or to you. So I I definitely feel like
• 23:36
  doing one thing at a time allows me to do it well, to do it
• 23:43
  faster and do it better. So I I definitely am a mono
• 23:48
  Tasker, I just didn't know it had to work.
• 23:51
  Well, I'm glad that we found a word for it.
• 23:53
  I, I, when I, I just think of it as someone who's very focused
• 23:56
  and I, I have tried many, many times in my life to just be that
• 24:01
  focused to the point of, you know, trying medications.
• 24:04
  And I'm actually in the process of looking into some things my,
• 24:08
  you know, that that could be helpful in that way.
• 24:10
  But it's true. Like today, for example, I've
• 24:13
  already had a very busy day. I told you all the things that
• 24:17
  have happened this morning, including doing ATV show and
• 24:22
  packing bags for the USO, snack bags for the USO and, and doing
• 24:26
  all of this. But that's that's my day.
• 24:28
  I call them crunchy days and I actually like them.
• 24:31
  They go by quickly. But do you?
• 24:33
  This is one thing, though. I think having kids, you had to.
• 24:39
  You had to multitask or else nothing would get done.
• 24:43
  You could help with homework while you're making dinner.
• 24:45
  You can drive carpool while, you know, doing math problems.
• 24:50
  You can, you know, there was always something you could
• 24:52
  multitask. And I feel, and I've really been
• 24:56
  thinking we might even do an episode on this because I've
• 24:59
  been really thinking about a lot lately.
• 25:01
  And I don't know if other women over 50 feel this way once their
• 25:05
  kids are grown and out of the house.
• 25:07
  Empty nesters. You all of a sudden are like,
• 25:10
  I'm exhausted. Like from years and years and
• 25:14
  years of being that person, the person everyone came to, the
• 25:18
  person who got everything done, the person who had the pool guy
• 25:22
  called in the exterminator and the kids soccer stuff and making
• 25:27
  dinners and lunches and you know, taking care of people.
• 25:32
  I think at this point I'm like, I can only handle 1 task at a
• 25:36
  time because I'm tired. I'm, I'm pretty much done with
• 25:39
  that part of my life where I'm doing 100 million things at one
• 25:43
  time because I'm tired. That's it.
• 25:46
  It's as simple as that. I get tired hearing about all of
• 25:51
  the things you do, even with an empty nest.
• 25:55
  I mean, that's the thing. It's about priorities.
• 25:56
  You do so many things and do them well and you're getting
• 26:01
  them to completion and I'm left with a lot of half done things.
• 26:07
  So I believe if I had the ability to make a choice, 100%
• 26:13
  ability and innate talent to do it, I would choose monotasking
• 26:16
  over the way I do it. And you're right, when we think
• 26:18
  back about all the things we ever did, it is unbelievably
• 26:21
  tiring. And think about the space that
• 26:24
  was taken up in your brain. You never had full capacity of
• 26:27
  your whole brain because you're worried about your kids.
• 26:30
  They're at school today. What's going on with that?
• 26:33
  Like you never really got full full agency of your brain.
• 26:39
  No, you were always dealing with, I call it drama, but it's
• 26:44
  just regular kid teenage life. It's not real, you know.
• 26:49
  And so you were dealing with someone would get sick and then
• 26:52
  pass it to their younger sibling and then your husband would get
• 26:55
  it. And of course the whole world
• 26:57
  would have to stop when they get sick.
• 26:59
  And you just constantly, constantly were going.
• 27:03
  And so I don't want to, I don't want to live that kind of life
• 27:07
  anymore. I'm kind of like, I just want to
• 27:09
  do things at a nice calm pace. And that's what I'm doing.
• 27:15
  There you go. That's.
• 27:15
  What you're doing and you are doing it intentionally, you're
• 27:19
  doing a lot of intention. Yes, and with a lot of.
• 27:22
  Success and you're getting a lot done you're just doing it in a
• 27:25
  different order than yes versus you know I can do 5 things
• 27:29
  horizontally and you're doing them five vertically.
• 27:31
  I mean, it's just you're, you're getting through them quicker.
• 27:35
  And probably, if I'm being honest, in a more complete way,
• 27:40
  but everybody's different and that's what.
• 27:42
  We love we. Love that about ourselves, we
• 27:45
  love that about you. We'll have to post something in
• 27:48
  our ladies only Facebook group asking you which kind of person
• 27:51
  you are. You're much more of a
• 27:52
  multitasker or more of a monotasker.
• 27:55
  Both are beautiful things. And bonus if you can make a
• 27:59
  relationship, a friendship, any kind of coexistence of somebody
• 28:04
  who is the opposite. Yeah.
• 28:05
  Because, you know, life is made-up of that.
• 28:07
  It's a spice of life. Yes.
• 28:09
  So we're going to we're going to talk some organizational things
• 28:12
  when we come back. I'm obsessed with purse drawers.
• 28:17
  Yes. And so we're going to talk about
• 28:19
  what is a purse drawer when we come back.
• 29:12
  We're back and I'm so excited about this.
• 29:14
  Tell everyone please, Chris, what is a purse drawer?
• 29:18
  Well, I saw this on social media and I was loving this.
• 29:24
  It is a drawer just devoted to the things that you need to
• 29:30
  change out purses. Now I probably wouldn't need
• 29:33
  this because I don't like to change my purse out a lot.
• 29:36
  Very rarely I I'm a one woman purse bag.
• 29:41
  I just am. But so many people change out
• 29:44
  their purses every single day Is you have one drawer that has
• 29:49
  dividers in it. So it's sectioned out with
• 29:52
  drawer organizers and you keep your chapstick, your eye drops,
• 29:57
  your, you know, lip stuff, any kind of credit cards that you
• 30:02
  don't bring all the time, anything that you would put in a
• 30:06
  purse, different eyeglasses, different sunglasses you, you
• 30:11
  take and you switch it out. So when you empty the one purse,
• 30:14
  you're not just throwing it on the floor or on the bed.
• 30:17
  You're putting things back and then getting the new purse and
• 30:21
  grabbing what you need to put in your new purse.
• 30:24
  And it just, it makes, it's so easy to change purses.
• 30:28
  Sometimes you have a full wallet and then next you have a credit
• 30:31
  card, you know, that holds just credit cards.
• 30:34
  So you can put that in so many options.
• 30:37
  I love it, love it. This is phenomenal.
• 30:40
  I love this so much and I'm going to create this in my home
• 30:43
  100%. And why I love it is that some
• 30:47
  things I have in my home, you always say everything needs a
• 30:49
  home, but I don't know what that home would be.
• 30:52
  Now as I think about it, I know exactly where those extra
• 30:57
  sunglasses that I have should go.
• 30:59
  I have a pair of reader sunglasses.
• 31:01
  They don't go with me everywhere, but they would go to
• 31:03
  meet with me poolside maybe if I was going to read a book or do
• 31:07
  something like that. So they would go in a purse on a
• 31:10
  day that I was going to the pool.
• 31:12
  So I love this for that reason. And I'm tickled by it because as
• 31:16
  I told you, when we were preparing for this, the Marie
• 31:19
  Kondo Joy whatever book that came out years ago, before I
• 31:23
  ever met you, I read this book and she had you emptying out
• 31:28
  your purse every single day and then thanking your purse for its
• 31:32
  service. So I would take everything out
• 31:35
  of my purse and then I would open up my purse and I would, I
• 31:37
  didn't do this, by the way, just so you know.
• 31:39
  But in her book she would suggest that you then, and I get
• 31:43
  that this is a cultural thing, but you would then thank it
• 31:46
  before you would put it away so. Yeah, my purse would be like,
• 31:50
  don't BS me lady, you know what I mean.
• 31:52
  My purse would be like, you threw me all over the place.
• 31:55
  You dropped me a full few times. Don't.
• 31:58
  Don't even go there. You want to thank me?
• 32:01
  Take the blue 1:00 tomorrow. Leave me alone.
• 32:06
  Exactly. All right, let us know.
• 32:08
  Really let us know if you're going to try this.
• 32:09
  I definitely AM. And so.
• 32:11
  And I also want to say one thing, since we're closing this
• 32:14
  out, I have bought a disco shirt.
• 32:18
  Why? Because if you guys get us up to
• 32:23
  how many did we say? We needed to double the amount
• 32:26
  in our ladies only group and we were at about 1500 I think it
• 32:29
  was. And so we want to see it hit.
• 32:31
  We're I think we're really close to 2000 now.
• 32:33
  Yes, I think it would get to 2500.
• 32:35
  I feel like 2500 is fair enough. We're going to have a disco
• 32:38
  party, yes. We'll.
• 32:39
  We'll do something in North Florida, yes, for sure.
• 32:42
  But it will be virtual. It will also be.
• 32:47
  We'll figure it all out. We'll figure.
• 32:48
  We'll figure it out the enemies. Have to not, don't let me down.
• 32:53
  I need to. So invite.
• 32:54
  There's a way. If you don't know how to invite
• 32:57
  someone to a Facebook group, Google it, Ask AI.
• 33:02
  And AI is going to be the subject of a very near to the
• 33:06
  future episode, by the way, because we're both dipping our
• 33:09
  toeses in AI in a big way. So we'll let you know about
• 33:13
  that. But in the meantime, let's see
• 33:14
  how can we end this episode. If you think that you need to do
• 33:20
  25 things at one time to be effective, you can let that go.
• 33:25
  And don't look back.