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Relationship Polarity: Wounded Masculine and Feminine In Relationships · Mindful Success Path

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  If you are a woman who is feeling absolutely exhausted by everything you've got going on in life right now because you are raising kids, you feel like you are raising your man, you're working a full time job, and you're paying half the bills on top of it, then you're going to want to listen to this video because Sister to sister, we need to have a chat.
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  All right, ladies It's time to have a little chat about polarity in Relationships and specifically talking about the wounded masculine and the wounded feminine and how they show up Relationships because as I mentioned in the introduction, this is coming up everywhere in my life right now I'm seeing this conversation to come up with female clients who are absolutely stressed out in their businesses because They're raising small children They're paying half the bills Plus they're working on a business and now they feel a ton of pressure to go make money in the business and I was like Wait a minute.
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  Hold on Why are you paying bills?
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  I don't understand.
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  Especially, uh, at a stage in your life where you have small children.
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  So that's been coming up a lot.
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  Um, I've also seen perhaps women who are older, uh, the children are already adults, they're in a different stage of life and they have to learn how to tap into more of the, uh, feminine energy because they've been a little hyper vigilant because they haven't really taken care of themselves in twenty something years since they got married and had kids.
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  And in addition to that, I've been having conversations with other clients of ours who are very successful in their careers.
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  I'm talking people in real estate, people who are now in AI, but their relationships are a disaster.
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  And they keep attracting very feminine men, which of course keeps women in survival mode.
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  And then On top of that I went to the nail salon and a lot of the women were complaining about the men That they were dating saying how they're very Feminine how they don't pursue them And i'm not living in the united states right now A lot of people think this is like a us canada western europe problem.
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  I'm in mexico.
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  This is a worldwide Problem that we are starting to see, or at least in this part of the world.
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  So, normally, in the 15 years that I've been online, I've had multiple businesses and brands throughout the years.
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  Whenever something keeps coming up over and over and over again, it's because I have to talk about it with my community.
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  So, clearly, we need to start talking about, you know, relationship polarity, wounded masculine, and wounded feminine in relationships.
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  So Um, let's first talk about, uh, the first situation that I mentioned, which is women who are working their behinds off, um, and they don't really have to be.
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  They're just, for some reason, in a weird situation with their husbands, where the husbands are having them pay bills.
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  Now, my, I am of the opinion, both my husband and I, are of the opinion, right, that bills is the territory of masculine men.
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  That falls under providing.
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  What's gone on in a lot of cases, especially in the West, if you grew up in Western countries, like many of us have, is that you were taught that in the name of equality, then everything should be equal across the board, and a lot of people took that to mean, okay, we're going to split bills 50 50, or we're both going to be responsible for bills in this household.
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  The problem with that The problem is that it automatically puts women in a more masculine pole, because now they're worried about survival, or at least half of the survival.
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  And it puts men in a more feminine pole, because men need responsibility in order to be men, and women need to rest in order to be women.
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  And this is not anything new, we've known this over, you know, millennia of human history.
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  We have known this, but for some reason in the last 50 years or so, we like forget all of that and instead focus on this tiny little blip of human history where we are trying to be more modern in relationships.
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  But the more modern we get in relationships, the less relationships are actually working, which is the weird thing that is happening.
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  So when you are in this dynamic where as a woman, You are, uh, you're a wife, you are raising kids, small kids especially, if you have small kids, I'm talking to you.
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  And you are in a position where you are also responsible for bills and working and responsible for the household.
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  Sis, I gotta tell you, you got a raw deal.
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  A raw deal.
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  And it is not your fault.
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  It's also probably not the fault of your spouse, uh, especially if you grew up in the West.
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  You were just told that this is what equality looks like.
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  The problem is that women are burned out, their adrenals are shot.
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  Uh, they get sick when they're operating from this space.
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  We have seen this happen with clients where they physically get ill because they're operating too much in the masculine energy.
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  And everything else starts to fall apart like a set of dominoes because the woman is not actually taking care of herself.
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  A lot of times the dynamic looks like she's taking care of everybody including her husband and maybe all he's doing is paying half the bills and the rest of the time he's not really, like, there.
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  Right?
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  I've heard that.
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  Happen quite a bit in relationships.
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  So what's happening is that women who are in this position are way too much in the masculine Especially if you have little kids you need to take this into account because there's only so much of you to go around so this is like A physical and logistical problem, um, that also is leading to a bunch of energetic problems in the relationship.
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  Now, the other problem with the equality conversation, and how a lot of people have taken it, and what they have taken it to mean, is that a lot of the women started comparing themselves to men, right?
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  And being like, well, if I'm going to be equal to a man, then I need to Produce equally as he does financially.
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  No, because this is a fundamental misunderstanding of feminine and masculine dynamics in relationships from an energetic perspective.
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  And this is what a ton of ancient cultures.
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  Already understood, uh, and knew, and that's why their societies were set up in certain ways, but that's a conversation for another time.
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  So, what happens, right, is you have women going way too much in their masculine, and then when they go too much in their masculine, their men, right, go more in the feminine, and then this creates a lot of issues in relationship, right?
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  So not only is the woman having issues, now the entire relationship.
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  Is also having issues because it doesn't take into account that men and women are different and bring different things to relationships So for example, right with the masculine energy.
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  It's a lot of provision And protection and leadership and kind of like setting the course and setting the path forward, right?
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  That's realm of the masculine With the feminine, the problem is that women thought that, Okay, well if we're 50 50, I'm going to do 50 of all of that.
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  Not realizing that what they bring to a relationship is entirely different because men and women are different.
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  I know that's like wild to say in today's society, but they're totally different from an energetic woman.
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  Perspective.
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  So what are women bringing to a household?
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  Well, women are kind of the ones who are kind of uh, i'm going to say emotionally responsible because I can't think of a better Word right now for the household, right?
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  So if your husband has been out working all day and he's having a horrible day Guess whose job it is, right?
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  To soothe him and lick the wounds and well, he's gonna lick his own wounds but soothe him and give him kind of like a place of peace and Relaxation so he can get up and get back out there again the next day That is you if your kids are having emotional fits.
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  Who does that fall on?
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  It falls on you.
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  So part of the what a Feminine woman brings to that relationship.
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  It's kind of that emotional equilibrium in the household and a lot of women Uh, have been, first of all, they haven't been taught that at all, whatsoever.
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  And number two, it's invisible labor, so nobody actually sees it.
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  So that's part of what women bring, or feminine women.
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  Feminine women can also be like the oracles in a relationship because feminine women are very in tune with their intuition.
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  So guess what?
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  They're masculine.
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  Uh, male spouses are coming to them for, um, thinking of the word in Spanish, consejos, counsel, counsel, right?
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  Being like, hey, I'm having this idea.
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  Can you check in?
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  Can you do a gut check?
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  For me it's kind of a thing or you know, we're the ones who have dreams We're the ones who have like visions in meditations not to say that men can't do those things.
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  They absolutely can There's a lot of intuitive men out here But women are kind of naturally more connected to those things and more connected to cycles And this is one of the reasons while you'll hear a lot of billionaire men Not all of them because there are some messy ones out there But a lot of very powerful men in positions of leadership will give the credit to their wives For why they have gotten where they are because their wives are counsel, right?
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  And the wives They're not telling necessarily him what to do.
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  They're just like hey, this is what I'm feeling into.
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  Hey, this is the gut check The woman is also a support system when he's going through a very hard time and that's bringing a lot to a Relationship not to mention those of you who are having babies and raising men's children Kids, right?
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  That's also, I mean, that's probably the most work of all.
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  So, what the problem is that this 50 50, uh, conversation, right, does not take any of those things into account because they don't, it doesn't acknowledge that there's differences between men and women and that they bring different things to the relationship.
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  And it also, often times, in not acknowledging those things, then you end up in relationship situations where a woman is completely exhausted.
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  And she's burned out and she can't take it anymore.
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  So that's one dynamic, right, that I'm seeing.
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  Another dynamic that I'm seeing, and I actually did not mention this one in the beginning, but this is something that I've seen over 15 years of coaching.
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  So before I was talking about this stuff, like metaphysics and manifesting and all that kind of stuff, and energetics, I spent 8 years as a financial writer, and then another like 7 years mostly training people on marketing and sales.
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  Mostly training women.
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  on how to have their own businesses.
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  I still do a little bit of that.
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  My husband does most of the business consulting and training these days.
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  Well, I do more of this, but one interesting pattern I would notice is that a lot of times women would start making a lot more money and then like a year later, I would see them announcing their divorce on Facebook and I have several female colleagues.
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  That also had this particular situation happen.
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  Uh, one of them has a very well known podcast.
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  She has worked with some of the top names.
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  If I said her name, a lot of you probably would know who she is.
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  And she divorced her husband.
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  As soon as she started making a whole lot of money, and when I had a private conversation with her a few years ago, she basically said this.
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  She said, wait a minute, you got me out here raising a kid.
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  And you can't even give me good eggplant?
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  No, I'm divorcing you.
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  Bye.
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  So, there's a lot of that going on as well.
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  Now, I don't know the specific dynamics of that relationship.
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  I don't know of her making more money and then suddenly now paying all the bills.
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  Uh, caused him to step back.
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  I don't know what any of that situation is.
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  All I know is that often times I would see that pattern play out.
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  And it kind of makes sense with what we're seeing statistically because if you look at divorces in the United States, most of them are being filed by female breadwinners.
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  Right?
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  Because they're tired.
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  They're so tired.
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  So that's another Uh, area where this is starting to come up, and normally those, uh, masculine and feminine poles are off.
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  So normally she's operating in wounded masculine, he's in a more feminine pole.
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  And it causes all kinds of issues in relationships, including women filing for divorce, um, a whole lot more.
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  Another situation that I mentioned was, uh, a former client for business consulting who's also a family friend, and she's really great.
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  In her career.
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  She's a very accomplished woman in her 30s.
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  She's been in real estate.
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  She's probably watching this.
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  Shout out to you.
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  Thank you, uh, for the inspiration and you know, her, her relationships have been a disaster.
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  And when I was like asking her about it and getting feedback about it to try and help her, I realized that all the men that she was attracting were extremely feminine men who would not step up, who would not take care of her.
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  Uh, who got her into all sorts of problems, and then of course she's there burned out and stressed out and carrying the load.
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  And then that informs what she believes about men, which is they're useless, which is not true.
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  It's just the men she's attracting are useless.
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  Um, so then there's something that needs to shift within her energy.
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  So a lot of you who are very highly accomplished are finding yourselves in situations where you keep attracting very feminine men.
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  And then the polarity in the relationships are off.
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  And when polarities are off in relationships, I mean, it wreaks havoc all over society, which is one of the reasons why I started talking about this, because quite frankly, it doesn't matter how much money you make if your relationships are a disaster.
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  And in addition to that, if your relationships are a disaster, it's going to affect your performance in your business and at work.
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  Anyway, I've had several conversations with high performing men over the years who had to divorce their wives because they were not supportive of what he was doing.
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  So this, this stuff goes both ways.
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  I'm just talking to the women right now.
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  Um, so the question becomes, okay, well how, how do we start shifting this, right?
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  Because oftentimes when the polarities are off in relationships, right, you're miserable.
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  In your marriage.
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  In fact, that family friend of ours had a huge realization after I was chatting with her and she said, I just realized that most of my friends who are married women are extremely masculine and most of them are miserable in their marriages.
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  So that happens if you're miserable in a marriage, you're more likely to get divorced.
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  It's certainly not a good example for children.
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  A lot of these women are feeling like they settled once they got later on in life.
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  Which.
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  I don't know if they actually settled or not, because sometimes women have like extremely unrealistic expectations of men, that would be a conversation for another time, but according to them, uh, they settled.
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  Other things that happen when the polarity is off is no one's having babies because no one's getting laid, because they're not attracted to each other, uh, because Women feel like they're taking care of grown men and grown men feel like the women are mothering them.
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  So, no one's getting laid if that's what the dynamic is.
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  So, as you can see, it just creates all these kinds of problems.
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  And I've also seen it play out in the sense that, um, you know, maybe a woman has a really good idea for a business, but she's under so much pressure and she's spread out so thin that she's cracking under the pressure.
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  So, how do we begin to shift this, right?
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  We have to shift the polarity by number one, understanding what healthy, feminine, and masculine looks like in a relationship.
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  I gave you my opinion on that, except it's not really opinion.
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  Humans have been doing it for a long time.
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  Um, and that is, Keep men to the masculine roles, provider, protector, uh, leader, forward movement, all those kinds of things, which by the way, most men want to do and women just aren't letting them do it for lots of reasons.
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  And then, let the women be in the more feminine pole.
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  There is no reason why you should be working to pay half the bills.
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  When you have small children, right?
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  If you want to work for fun, that's one thing.
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  If you have to work for survival, it's not going to bode well for you as a woman.
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  And I've seen it over and over and over and over again over the course of the last 15 years.
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  So we have to get those dynamics, um, So it's understanding what the roles of each person actually is and those roles based on what the energetics are.
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  90 percent of men are going to feel a lot better in the masculine pole.
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  They're going to feel more like themselves.
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  They're really going to start stepping up.
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  They feel good as men.
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  90 percent of women are going to feel more comfortable in the feminine pole.
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  That's when they're and that's what makes them thrive as individuals.
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  And it's what has the relationship.
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  Thrive as well.
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  So that's number one is understanding what that looks like.
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  Number two Women hate it when I say this, right?
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  And I used to hate it when I was told this because I was one of those high achieving women Because I was told that I had to be high achieving because the world is not safe and I cannot trust people and I certainly Cannot trust men among many other distorted Uh concepts I got about like money and survival and all that kind of stuff which again is pretty typical for most people particularly in the west and When I got told this, I would get very upset.
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  When I've told other women this, they also get very upset.
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  But I'm going to tell you anyway.
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  And the idea is that you have to change.
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  You.
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  So I was recently asked, uh, by that family friend who I was coaching her through some relationship stuff.
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  And she's like, so what do I do?
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  And I'm like, you have to change you.
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  You have to change your energy.
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  You have to change your energetics, right?
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  It's one thing to be more masculine in your work, which I have a whole other thoughts on on work and women and our cycles Conversation for another time, but it's one thing to use that energy when you're working It's a whole other thing to use that energy when you are in relationship with a man Totally different right because you need that polarity so that it attracts Like, two magnets, and men and women are meant to compliment each other.
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  So, a lot of women, what they'll do is they start throwing the blame on men, right?
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  And they'll be like, they need to step up, and they don't have leadership, and all that stuff is true, okay?
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  Men have, like, none of this stuff has helped men either, if I'm being honest.
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  Because you're right, there are less men in the households.
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  Uh, blessed fathers that are around to show their sons how to be men.
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  All of that stuff is true.
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  Yes, we don't have a society that builds men up.
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  That is also true and shows them how to be leaders.
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  All of that is true.
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  1000%, right?
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  And, you know, men, y'all need to be having conversations with other men about that.
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  All of that is true, right?
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  But right now I'm talking to the women because you can't be responsible for all of that as well.
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  You can only be responsible for you.
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  So you're the one who has to start changing and you're the one who needs to start understanding What these feminine energy dynamics?
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  Look like and start embodying those things into your life regardless of whether your man changes or not Right?
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  Because if you're doing it from the place of I'm only doing this to get him to change, number one, that's still very masculine because you're trying to get a result.
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  Number two, it's manipulation.
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  And number three, it's not going to work.
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  And even if it does, you're going to put on an act for the rest of your life?
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  No, this needs to become who you actually are as a woman and as a person.
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  This is self development as a woman.
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  So, that's part of what you have to do.
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  What does that look like?
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  I'm going to have lots of other videos on this, but very briefly I will give you some tips.
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  Number one for the love of god, please allow yourselves to have some pleasure in your lives again Because i've been having so many conversations with you recently.
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  We've seen it in our mastermind.
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  We've seen it My husband has seen it in his clients wives It's happening with friends it's happening at the nail salon No one's having fun, right?
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  No one is out here having a good time anymore.
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  No one is doing anything that brings them any pleasure, especially women, because you've been taught that your pleasure either makes you vulnerable, or it's dangerous, or it's unbecoming, or what have you.
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  So what is pleasure in this sense?
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  Whatever brings you joy, right?
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  Whatever brings you joy, because pleasure is the realm of the feminine, and you need to feed yourself.
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  And you need to nourish yourself.
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  And that's one of the ways in which women do it, right?
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  Is through pleasure.
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  That's how you replenish yourself.
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  You're out here running around nourishing everybody else, but you're not nourishing yourself.
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  And that's where we're running into problems.
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  So that's number one.
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  Number two, realize you are not a man.
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  So please stop competing with men on the level of men.
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  Um, so what do I mean by that?
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  Particularly in relationship, you are not meant to bring the same things into a relationship that a man does.
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  So don't compete with him on that level.
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  Don't even, don't, I guess the better thing is don't compare yourself.
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  to him in that level, because there is actually no comparison.
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  Once you understand how these dynamics work, and a lot of women are out here, uh, comparing themselves with men, competing with men, setting the bar based on what it is men do, without taking into account that you're totally different.
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  From a man and that that's okay.
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  That doesn't make you weak.
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  It doesn't make you vulnerable and it doesn't make you unsafe In fact, we're all meant to work together That's the point.
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  So that's number two.
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  Number three get good at receiving right?
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  That looks like asking for help That looks like those of you in 50 50 relationships going to your husband and saying that you're not okay with that anymore Because here's the other thing women don't realize they're the ones who set standards In relationships, so the men might be the leadership, and he might be setting the course for the relationship, but the woman is the one who sets the standard for the relationship.
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  A lot of women don't know that, so what happens is they have very low standards, um, and in addition to that, they don't understand, Uh, what those standards should be for a man either because they don't understand how men operate and how healthy masculine energy operates and what it needs.
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  So, um, you set the standard, right?
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  So those of you who are in those 50 50 relationships where your man's making you pay bills, time for a conversation, right?
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  Especially if you have a Small Children.
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  I cannot emphasize that enough, especially if you have small Children.
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  He needs to provide.
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  He needs to protect while you're in this stage of your life.
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  And even if you don't have Children, you shouldn't be in a position where you're in survival mode.
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  Period.
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  And he shouldn't be putting you in that position.
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  That's not your role.
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  That's his role.
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  And some of you might have these feelings of like, oh, that's not fair coming up.
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  This isn't about being fair, right?
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  This is about how men and women operate totally differently, how they see the world completely differently, how they're different energetically, and how they bring different things to relationships and to society.
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  Fairness has absolutely nothing to do with this.
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  Whatsoever, as my husband says, it's about what is optimal for relationships to work out, not necessarily what is fair and it's about what is optimal for each person and the relationship as a whole, and that doesn't necessarily align with what you've been told is quote, unquote fair.
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  And on top of that, you want to know what's not fair.
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  What's not fair is that you are responsible for the household.
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  Okay.
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  You are responsible for the children.
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  You are taking care of a grown man.
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  And you're working cause you gotta pay half the bills.
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  If you wanna talk about not fair, that's what's not fair.
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  In fact, when my husband hears that from clients and things like that, he's gobsmacked because he can't even believe that men are putting women in these positions.
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  Like, he really does not understand.
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  It could be because he's Eastern European and it's a cultural thing, right?
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  But he doesn't get it at all.
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  Um, so that's what's not fair.
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  And what's happened is in the name of equality and fairness, a lot of women have put, actually ended up putting themselves in positions that are quite not fair to them.
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  Uh, because What is fair, right?
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  What is fair?
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  And let's say we were running a business, right?
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  Let's use business as an example You guys love it when I use very practical examples and a lot of you are very high achieving, right?
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  If you're running a business and you're setting up a business and you're setting up a team, right?
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  Not everybody is good at the same thing, correct?
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  In fact, that would be stupid to do that in a team if everybody was the same and good at the same thing That would make zero sense In a business context.
• 27:20
  So why do you think that would make sense in romantic relationships and families and the literal bedrock of society?
• 27:28
  It doesn't make sense at all.
• 27:31
  So it's interesting because a lot of you probably understand these concepts in business, but you don't understand them in relationships.
• 27:37
  And they're actually not that different in a lot of ways, right?
• 27:41
  So if we're, if we're building teams in a business and everybody has different talents.
• 27:46
  And things like that.
• 27:47
  And they're hired for the talents and what they're able to do.
• 27:50
  Why would you assume that you want to be in a relationship where the other person is the same as you?
• 27:57
  It's, it's completely unrealistic.
• 27:58
  It doesn't even make sense in any example that you give in life.
• 28:03
  And then the final thing you want to do in order to start recalibrating this energy is you want to understand.
• 28:10
  This is where women get very upset again, right?
• 28:13
  You need to understand how to communicate.
• 28:15
  Um, with men, because a lot of you are in positions for lots of reasons I don't have time to get into right now.
• 28:22
  It's with good reason that you guys are doing this and you've been conditioned into this, so I understand.
• 28:26
  Please don't blame yourselves.
• 28:28
  Uh, this is like a societal thing and generations of things that we're dealing with.
• 28:32
  A lot of you don't know how to talk.
• 28:34
  to men, uh, to inspire them to actually be men.
• 28:38
  And again, a lot of women will push back, and they'll be like, why is it my responsibility?
• 28:42
  Because you are your own responsibility.
• 28:44
  You are the only thing that you can control.
• 28:46
  You can't control a grown man, but you can control you.
• 28:49
  So that's number one.
• 28:50
  And then the other pushback that I'll get is that, Oh, that's manipulation.
• 28:54
  And here's the thing, right?
• 28:55
  And again, I'm going to use a business example because a lot of you might understand that.
• 28:58
  Those of you who are in sales, I know a lot of you are, right?
• 29:02
  You know that when you're in sales, right, it's a lot of persuasion.
• 29:06
  And you know that when you're in sales, if you're doing it properly, there's a difference between influence and manipulation.
• 29:13
  Manipulation is trying to control the situation to get a specific outcome by taking someone's choice away from them.
• 29:19
  That's manipulation, right?
• 29:21
  Influence, totally different thing, right?
• 29:24
  Because the other person still has a choice to say no.
• 29:28
  And in this case, men still have a choice to say no and you need to be okay.
• 29:32
  With the choice that they make and the other thing women don't realize is just how much influence they have over men Because if they did know how much influence they had over men They wouldn't talk to men all kinds of crazy the way that a lot of women do they wouldn't treat them like a child Uh, they wouldn't even see them As a child, if they fully understood just how much influence They have over men So those are some of the places where we can get started I can do way more videos on each of these things because this is this is a vast topic We're going to be here for a long time Y'all so make sure to subscribe and hit the notification bell and hit that like button if you enjoyed this Once again, check out all the resources, courses, classes, uh, things like that below, um, sign up for our email list below as well because I was in meditation this morning, had a vision that we're gonna be doing retreats at some point on these topics, so make sure to sign up for the email list below to know when we start doing those, probably here in Mexico, it looked like a beach in Latin America, I'm just gonna throw that out there, and then, in addition to that, make sure to share this with the female friends in your life because we, We really have to understand this and we really have to start turning this stuff around because there's so many women out here who are exhausted and burned out and miserable and it all most of the time it starts with their relationship at home.
• 30:52
  So please make sure to share this with a woman.
• 30:54
  In your life.
• 30:55
  So we can start turning this around because when we turn this around, we have better relationships and we have better relationships.
• 31:01
  We have better families.
• 31:02
  When we have better families, we have better societies and also people perform better at work just FYI.
• 31:07
  So if you want your man to make more money, this might be one of the ways in which to inspire him, uh, to do that.
• 31:14
  So thank you so much for giving me your time today and I'll catch you on the next one.