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- 0:00Speaker 1: The thing that I feel like I've learned in the
- 0:02Speaker 1: last year especially is that there's like kind of an
- 0:04Speaker 1: opposite loop where somewhere in there you break the cycle.
- 0:08Speaker 1: You know, that could be anywhere really.
- 0:09Speaker 2: Put the phone down, just cut it off.
- 0:11Speaker 1: Yeah. Compared to like even a year ago, it's like
- 0:15Speaker 1: I really, I have zero desire to look at the
- 0:18Speaker 1: feed of any social media.
- 0:20Speaker 3: I just, I actually don't want to.
- 0:23Speaker 2: That's, I want to get to that point. That's my
- 0:27Speaker 2: North Star right there. I'm Jon Favreau. Welcome to Offline. Hey, everyone.
- 0:35Speaker 2: My guest this week is Jenny O'Dell, an artist and
- 0:38Speaker 2: writer whose first book became a New York Times bestseller
- 0:41Speaker 2: and something of an aspirational manifesto for this show. It's
- 0:45Speaker 2: called How to Do Nothing, Resisting the Attention Economy. It
- 0:49Speaker 2: should be fairly obvious by now that I have absolutely
- 0:52Speaker 2: no idea how to do nothing. I have never been
- 0:55Speaker 2: able to sit still. I've had a fear of missing
- 0:57Speaker 2: out on just about anything since I was a kid.
- 0:59Speaker 2: I've been a workaholic and a political news junkie since
- 1:01Speaker 2: graduating college, and I rarely relax for more than a
- 1:04Speaker 2: couple hours. Emily might say a couple minutes. But I
- 1:08Speaker 2: picked up Jenny's book this summer when I was feeling
- 1:10Speaker 2: particularly anxious, exhausted, and just burnt out by how much
- 1:14Speaker 2: time I was spending staring at screens, scrolling through bad takes,
- 1:18Speaker 2: going from one awful news cycle to the next. And
- 1:21Speaker 2: it completely changed the way I think about how I
- 1:24Speaker 2: spend my time. As Jenny explains in our conversation, the
- 1:27Speaker 2: title is more tongue-in-cheek than literal. Nothing isn't really nothing.
- 1:32Speaker 2: It's just not the hyper-connected, hyper-productive existence that so many
- 1:36Speaker 2: of us have become accustomed to. In Odell's view, stepping
- 1:39Speaker 2: out of that world isn't about quitting social media or
- 1:42Speaker 2: disconnecting from the internet completely. It's about learning to redirect
- 1:46Speaker 2: more of our attention toward the people and places around us.
- 1:50Speaker 2: I found Jenny's perspective especially valuable because she's got a
- 1:53Speaker 2: different background than most of our guests so far. She's
- 1:55Speaker 2: an artist and a nature lover who's found offline fulfillment
- 1:59Speaker 2: watching birds or just sitting in a local park. We
- 2:02Speaker 2: talk about how her book was a reaction to the
- 2:04Speaker 2: 2016 election, why she thinks that social media news cycles
- 2:07Speaker 2: are like sleep deprivation torture, what it means to resist
- 2:11Speaker 2: the attention economy, and her advice to me on how
- 2:15Speaker 2: I can start doing a little more nothing. As always,
- 2:18Speaker 2: if you have questions, comments, or complaints about the show,
- 2:21Speaker 2: feel free to email us at offline at crooked.com. Here's
- 2:25Speaker 2: Jenny O'Dell. Hi, Jenny.
- 2:32Speaker 4: How are you?
- 2:33Speaker 2: Good.
- 2:33Speaker 1: How are you?
- 2:35Speaker 2: I'm good. Um, thank you for taking the time to
- 2:37Speaker 2: do this. I, uh, I've really been looking forward to
- 2:40Speaker 2: this conversation. I bought your book a few years ago,
- 2:44Speaker 2: but I didn't read it until last September. Uh, for
- 2:46Speaker 2: one of the very reasons that you wrote the book,
- 2:48Speaker 2: which is that it's become harder for me to pay
- 2:50Speaker 2: attention to anything longer than a tweet. But you know,
- 2:56Speaker 2: it happens. I, but I finally took it on a
- 2:58Speaker 2: brief vacation in September. I left my phone in the
- 3:00Speaker 2: hotel room and then I just found myself like highlighting
- 3:03Speaker 2: full paragraphs of the book. So I really wanted to
- 3:06Speaker 2: thank you for writing it because it's, it's changed the
- 3:08Speaker 2: way I think about how I spend my time.
- 3:10Speaker 3: That's awesome to hear.
- 3:11Speaker 2: Yeah. You start by telling the story of why you
- 3:16Speaker 2: wrote How to Do Nothing, which was partly a reaction
- 3:18Speaker 2: to the 2016 election. Can you talk about how that
- 3:22Speaker 2: reaction led to a book on resisting the attention economy?
- 3:27Speaker 2: What was the connection to Trump winning?
- 3:29Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 3:29Speaker 1: I mean, it kind of started out in a almost
- 3:32Speaker 1: happenstance way, um, in that I live about five minutes
- 3:37Speaker 1: away from this municipal Rose garden in Oakland. Um, and
- 3:41Speaker 1: I found that around that time, uh, I was just
- 3:46Speaker 1: without really thinking about it consciously, I was going there. Oh,
- 3:50Speaker 1: I pretty much any chance that I could get, I
- 3:52Speaker 1: was teaching at the time. So I had a little
- 3:53Speaker 1: bit of a flexible schedule. But I was just going
- 3:56Speaker 1: and kind of like, you know, thousand yard stare, like
- 3:58Speaker 1: sitting in the rose garden.
- 4:02Speaker 2: What has happened?
- 4:04Speaker 1: And I think after a while, I started to wonder
- 4:06Speaker 1: why I was doing that and why that felt so
- 4:09Speaker 1: different from the rest of my day. A lot of
- 4:11Speaker 1: which was like, you know, doom scrolling, feeling like a
- 4:15Speaker 1: lot of anxiety and information overload and not being able
- 4:18Speaker 1: to process anything. And so it kind of just started
- 4:22Speaker 1: with that sort of movement from here, where I am
- 4:25Speaker 1: in my apartment, to this park. And the more time
- 4:29Speaker 1: I spent there, the more I started to think about
- 4:31Speaker 1: how the values that were embodied by this garden were
- 4:34Speaker 1: very different as well. It's volunteer-maintained. It's a space that's
- 4:40Speaker 1: very valued by the community, but it's not really productive
- 4:44Speaker 1: in the ways that we would, you know, normally use
- 4:46Speaker 1: the word productive. It doesn't, you know, create a profit.
- 4:49Speaker 1: You don't get any results from going there that you
- 4:50Speaker 1: could sort of quantify. It just sort of gestures towards
- 4:54Speaker 1: this other kind of value system, other ways of valuing experience,
- 4:59Speaker 1: other ways of being like, I go there, I'm just
- 5:00Speaker 1: a person, you know, I'm not a producer of content.
- 5:03Speaker 1: I'm not a consumer of content. And so I just
- 5:08Speaker 1: happened to be spending a lot of time there thinking
- 5:09Speaker 1: about that. And then I was asked to give a
- 5:12Speaker 1: talk at a conference that called io so i wrote
- 5:16Speaker 1: this talk called how to do nothing to give at
- 5:19Speaker 1: that conference in the summer of 2017 that is about
- 5:23Speaker 1: those things that i sort of thought about and learned
- 5:25Speaker 1: about being in the garden i did not expect it
- 5:27Speaker 1: to resonate really with anyone outside of that conference um
- 5:30Speaker 1: necessarily certainly not as much as it did um and
- 5:34Speaker 1: i also didn't expect it to turn into a book
- 5:37Speaker 1: um That was not my idea. That was suggested to
- 5:40Speaker 1: me by someone who was at the conference. Um, and so, yeah,
- 5:44Speaker 1: here I am. Um, and it, it just came out
- 5:46Speaker 1: in Korea.
- 5:48Speaker 4: Wow.
- 5:51Speaker 2: So for people who haven't yet read the book, how
- 5:54Speaker 2: do you define doing nothing? Okay.
- 5:58Speaker 1: So it's obviously not literally doing nothing. That could be
- 6:01Speaker 1: very interesting to you that you could do that. Um,
- 6:05Speaker 1: You know, but I don't necessarily mean, although now during
- 6:07Speaker 1: the pandemic, it's different. I didn't necessarily mean lying on
- 6:10Speaker 1: the floor, staring at the ceiling.
- 6:11Speaker 4: Right.
- 6:12Speaker 1: But it's sort of tongue in cheek, right? It's like
- 6:15Speaker 1: nothing is supposed to mean nothing from the point of
- 6:18Speaker 1: view of a very sort of capitalist, cut and dried,
- 6:22Speaker 1: you know, objective way of thinking, like producing X and
- 6:26Speaker 1: Y results. Kind of to go back to the garden, right?
- 6:30Speaker 1: the maintenance of that garden from the point of view
- 6:33Speaker 1: of producing something looks like nothing. There's so much work
- 6:36Speaker 1: that I've learned from being there. There's so much work
- 6:38Speaker 1: that goes into roses all through the year. You have
- 6:41Speaker 1: to do all this stuff, even in the winter when
- 6:43Speaker 1: there's like nothing, it doesn't look like there's anything going on. Um,
- 6:46Speaker 1: and so there's all this stuff that falls into that category,
- 6:48Speaker 1: like care, you know, caregiving, um, maintenance, I kind of,
- 6:54Speaker 1: I have a fraught relationship with the phrase self-care, but
- 6:56Speaker 1: you could put self-care in there as well.
- 6:58Speaker 2: Right.
- 6:59Speaker 1: Um, so really nothing just means. Things that don't sort
- 7:05Speaker 1: of appear in the value system that we typically have
- 7:08Speaker 1: when we talk about productivity or, you know, like producing value.
- 7:12Speaker 2: Well, it also seems like it's defined in opposition to
- 7:17Speaker 2: sort of the habits that the attention economy. uh, has
- 7:22Speaker 2: sort of incubated in all of us. Um, which is,
- 7:26Speaker 2: I know the subtitle of your book is resisting the
- 7:28Speaker 2: attention economy.
- 7:30Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely.
- 7:31Speaker 1: I mean, I think in the context of the attention economy,
- 7:34Speaker 1: it's so reactive, right? It's like, do you like this
- 7:37Speaker 1: or do you not like this? Do you hate this
- 7:39Speaker 1: or do you not hate this? And then there's like
- 7:41Speaker 1: this other option of like, what if I just wasn't there? Like,
- 7:45Speaker 1: what if I, What if I just walked away from
- 7:48Speaker 1: this question? Or what if I thought about it some
- 7:50Speaker 1: more and put it in some historical context or something?
- 7:52Speaker 1: And what if I talked to a friend about it?
- 7:54Speaker 1: Do I really need to be in this state of
- 7:56Speaker 1: constant reaction? Which I think is what I was feeling
- 7:59Speaker 1: around the election was like, I had gone so deep
- 8:03Speaker 1: in the sort of the rabbit's fur, right? That I
- 8:05Speaker 1: couldn't get any perspective on myself. Like, I honestly think
- 8:10Speaker 1: it's a really interesting exercise even now to like, when
- 8:12Speaker 1: you're in that state, Just like pretend you're a fly
- 8:16Speaker 1: on the wall and look at yourself. You're like probably
- 8:18Speaker 1: in a little ball, you know, and your face is
- 8:20Speaker 1: really strained.
- 8:21Speaker 2: I think about this all the time. Sometimes I catch
- 8:23Speaker 2: myself because when I'm like really into Twitter or I'm
- 8:28Speaker 2: reading the news and like hours pass, I think like
- 8:32Speaker 2: if I was looking at myself right now, I would
- 8:34Speaker 2: just see someone. staring at a screen, scrolling, and my
- 8:38Speaker 2: jaw would constantly be clenched. I do that a lot too,
- 8:42Speaker 2: especially when I'm like stressed out. And I would look
- 8:44Speaker 2: like a crazy person. Like it's not, so it's like,
- 8:49Speaker 2: why do I do that to myself? I mean, what
- 8:51Speaker 2: were your, so much of this is about social media
- 8:54Speaker 2: and the internet, which is what our show is about.
- 8:57Speaker 2: Like what were your social media habits like when you
- 8:59Speaker 2: first started thinking about why you should try to change them?
- 9:05Speaker 1: They were, so they were pretty bad by my current standards.
- 9:10Speaker 1: I will say in my defense that I taught digital
- 9:14Speaker 1: art at Stanford. So I had to be kind of
- 9:18Speaker 1: aware of things that were happening. And a lot of,
- 9:21Speaker 1: you know, a lot of my friends were making new
- 9:23Speaker 1: media work. So we're kind of like in that world.
- 9:26Speaker 1: But I definitely, you know, it would be really interesting
- 9:29Speaker 1: to go back and look at like journals from that time.
- 9:32Speaker 1: Cause I actually have no idea. I, I have no
- 9:35Speaker 1: idea like what my screen time was at the time. Um,
- 9:39Speaker 1: but I definitely was feeling like, it's like, I'm sure
- 9:43Speaker 1: many people know this feeling. It almost feels like you're sick, right?
- 9:45Speaker 1: Like you're just like, your heart rate is kind of
- 9:49Speaker 1: weird or you're like, you feel too hot or, um.
- 9:53Speaker 3: You just like, it's just bad. It's bad. You feel
- 9:55Speaker 3: really bad.
- 9:56Speaker 1: And it got bad enough that I think I was
- 9:59Speaker 1: trying to feel my way out of that. Like it
- 10:01Speaker 1: finally reached a point and everyone has their point, I think.
- 10:06Speaker 1: Even if you come back later, but there is a
- 10:07Speaker 1: point where you're like, this feels so intuitively bad that
- 10:11Speaker 1: I need to change something.
- 10:13Speaker 2: It's a little too like either if you've ever eaten
- 10:16Speaker 2: too much in a setting or drank too much. Like
- 10:20Speaker 2: it feels like you, it feels fine while you're doing it.
- 10:23Speaker 2: But like the second you stop, you just start feeling bad.
- 10:28Speaker 2: You know, it's like, there's a hangover effect to using
- 10:30Speaker 2: social media that even as you keep scrolling and scrolling
- 10:34Speaker 2: and scrolling, it's just like at some point you don't
- 10:36Speaker 2: feel very fulfilled as you just keep trying to scroll
- 10:39Speaker 2: more and more and more information. It's like too much. Yeah.
- 10:43Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 10:44Speaker 1: I mean, this is sort of a weird comparison, but, um, I,
- 10:49Speaker 1: during the pandemic, I played this video game called Stardew Valley.
- 10:52Speaker 3: It's very popular. I don't know if you've ever seen it.
- 10:54Speaker 2: I'm not a big video game person, but yeah. Okay.
- 10:57Speaker 1: So it's a, you know, you're like living on a
- 10:59Speaker 1: farm and you have your little farm or whatever, but
- 11:01Speaker 1: the days in the game are seven minutes long, which
- 11:03Speaker 1: means that you always think you have time for another day.
- 11:07Speaker 3: Seven minutes, right? It's not that long.
- 11:09Speaker 1: And the game only saves at the end of a day.
- 11:13Speaker 1: So if you start a day, you have to finish
- 11:15Speaker 1: it because otherwise you're going to lose everything that you did.
- 11:17Speaker 2: Right.
- 11:18Speaker 3: And when I started playing it, my boyfriend.
- 11:20Speaker 1: Was like, you got to watch out. Those days are
- 11:22Speaker 1: going to get you. And I had no idea what
- 11:24Speaker 1: he was talking about. And now I do, or I'm like,
- 11:26Speaker 1: oh my God, you just always fall into the next one.
- 11:29Speaker 1: And then what was interesting to me was that it's
- 11:30Speaker 1: exactly physically, it's the same feeling that I remember from before. Like, oh,
- 11:35Speaker 1: this is just the same thing, but like devoid of
- 11:38Speaker 1: like maybe like some forms of like terror. But in
- 11:41Speaker 1: terms of like how it actually just like feels in
- 11:44Speaker 1: my head and like in my body, it kind of
- 11:46Speaker 1: really reminded me of that. And I was like, oh,
- 11:47Speaker 1: this really is just like the hamster wheel, like dopamine thing.
- 11:50Speaker 3: Like here I am.
- 11:51Speaker 2: It's the same. I'm trying to figure out when it
- 11:53Speaker 2: all changed because just before this interview, I was thinking
- 11:56Speaker 2: about when the iPhone first came out, one of my
- 11:59Speaker 2: close friends got it first and I was asking him
- 12:01Speaker 2: about it. And it was like, what's the big deal
- 12:04Speaker 2: with this thing is, you know, different than a typical
- 12:06Speaker 2: cell phone, you know? And he said, we will never
- 12:10Speaker 2: be bored again. He goes, that's how I can explain
- 12:13Speaker 2: the iPhone. He's like, now that you have an internet
- 12:15Speaker 2: in your pocket, whether you're standing in line, whether you're
- 12:17Speaker 2: waiting around, whether you're by yourself, there will always be
- 12:20Speaker 2: something to do. And at the time I don't like
- 12:24Speaker 2: being bored. No one likes being bored. And so I
- 12:27Speaker 2: thought this is perfect. What a wonderful invention that I'm
- 12:30Speaker 2: never going to be bored again. And now it's like
- 12:32Speaker 2: a careful what you wish for kind of thing. Because now, like,
- 12:37Speaker 2: what do you think the difference is between doing nothing
- 12:40Speaker 2: and being bored, which has more of a negative connotation?
- 12:45Speaker 1: Well, actually, it's funny you should say about being bored.
- 12:48Speaker 1: I guess maybe this is like one way of illustrating it.
- 12:51Speaker 1: I was recently given something that I would describe as
- 12:54Speaker 1: something where you're never bored. And it's a jeweler's loop.
- 12:58Speaker 1: I don't know if you've ever seen a jeweler's loop.
- 12:59Speaker 1: It's like a little, I wish I had it so
- 13:01Speaker 1: I could show you, but it's a little, um, 10
- 13:04Speaker 1: X lens that folds out and people use it to
- 13:06Speaker 1: look at moss. It's like one of the common uses
- 13:08Speaker 1: for it. So a friend of mine who had one
- 13:11Speaker 1: and was like raving about it and saw how much
- 13:14Speaker 1: I liked using his, he got me one for Christmas and.
- 13:19Speaker 1: You're just going to have to take my word for
- 13:20Speaker 1: it or find somebody who has a loop because you
- 13:22Speaker 1: could look at anything. Like you could look at like
- 13:25Speaker 1: this tissue or I don't know, like anything like, you know, moss, obviously,
- 13:28Speaker 1: but also like rocks or your blinds. It is just
- 13:32Speaker 1: endlessly fascinating. Like it's not going to be what you think.
- 13:35Speaker 1: And it has this sort of element of surprise that
- 13:38Speaker 1: I think we're all very addicted to, right? Which is like,
- 13:41Speaker 1: you have to get really close to something with the loop.
- 13:44Speaker 1: And then all of a sudden it like pops into focus.
- 13:47Speaker 1: And it's like this plant that you thought was smooth.
- 13:49Speaker 1: It's like really hairy or something, you know? And I
- 13:51Speaker 1: remember when he gave it to me, I was like,
- 13:52Speaker 1: I'll never be bored again. I'm like, it's exactly what
- 13:55Speaker 1: you're describing. But I think the difference is, I mean,
- 13:59Speaker 1: there's a lot of differences. Like one is it fills
- 14:01Speaker 1: me with like wonder instead of dread.
- 14:04Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 14:04Speaker 1: And another really big difference is it's, I'm looking at
- 14:07Speaker 1: something that's actually in front of me. not something that is,
- 14:13Speaker 1: you know, being said by a stranger far away out
- 14:16Speaker 1: of context, right? Like one is hyper contextualized. It's in
- 14:19Speaker 1: front of your body, like in your eyes. And the
- 14:21Speaker 1: other one is really not.
- 14:23Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 14:23Speaker 1: And I think that those like lead in two very
- 14:25Speaker 1: different directions.
- 14:26Speaker 2: Well, that brings up, you know, you argue that the
- 14:30Speaker 2: internet and the idea of social media aren't inherently bad.
- 14:35Speaker 2: What do you think is bad about them or what
- 14:37Speaker 2: has become bad about them?
- 14:41Speaker 1: I mean, there's obviously, I mean, I think like the
- 14:44Speaker 1: biggest thing is the whole sort of business model of
- 14:47Speaker 1: social media runs on constant maximum engagement, which already is
- 14:52Speaker 1: a problem.
- 14:53Speaker 3: Um, and then.
- 14:56Speaker 1: Both, I think in terms of the ways these platforms
- 15:00Speaker 1: are structured, but also just kind of unspoken rules that
- 15:02Speaker 1: people kind of learn about what gets engagement. tend to
- 15:06Speaker 1: favor certain types of expression, um, like outrage. Um, there's
- 15:11Speaker 1: a lot of like, I find like mic drop kind
- 15:13Speaker 1: of statements, you know, it's not really inviting dialogue. Um,
- 15:17Speaker 1: it's like every statement has to be a mic drop.
- 15:19Speaker 2: Yeah. Um, and, and so it just, a lot of,
- 15:23Speaker 2: a lot of louder for the people in the back
- 15:24Speaker 2: kind of stuff. Yeah.
- 15:26Speaker 1: And I, and I'm like, I'm, I'm so sick of that.
- 15:30Speaker 1: It was making me hate myself because it was like,
- 15:33Speaker 1: I think that's what I realized like, you know, in
- 15:36Speaker 1: changing my habits was like, you're going to feel the
- 15:39Speaker 1: way that people treat you, right? Like you hang out
- 15:42Speaker 1: with friends who treat you the way that you want
- 15:45Speaker 1: to be seen. So if you're spending all your time
- 15:47Speaker 1: reading statements that, no, they're not personally addressed to you, but.
- 15:50Speaker 3: You're reading them that way.
- 15:51Speaker 4: Right.
- 15:51Speaker 1: And they're all talking down to you. And they're all like,
- 15:54Speaker 1: you know, written in this kind of like sanctimonious shaming tone.
- 15:57Speaker 1: Like you're going to develop so much shame. That's what
- 16:00Speaker 1: happened to me. I mean, there's so many, you know,
- 16:03Speaker 1: problems with it, but that's, I think that's a really
- 16:05Speaker 1: big one. And unfortunately, I think that just kind of
- 16:07Speaker 1: emerges from like the structure of the, the implicit goal
- 16:12Speaker 1: of this game is to get the most engagement.
- 16:14Speaker 2: Right.
- 16:14Speaker 1: Like, yeah, of course you could go on there and
- 16:16Speaker 1: not do that, but that would be, I don't know,
- 16:19Speaker 1: that'd be like going to a soccer field and like
- 16:22Speaker 1: not trying to get the ball in the goal.
- 16:23Speaker 3: Like you're just kicking the ball around or something.
- 16:26Speaker 2: I mean, one of the many places in the book
- 16:28Speaker 2: where I found myself nodding furiously was was where you
- 16:32Speaker 2: compare social media-driven news cycles to the sleep deprivation tactics
- 16:37Speaker 2: that the military uses on detainees. And you write that, quote,
- 16:50Speaker 2: whipped into a permanent state of frenzy, people create and
- 16:52Speaker 2: subject themselves to new cycles, complaining of anxiety at the
- 16:56Speaker 2: same time that they check back ever more diligently. Why
- 16:59Speaker 2: do you think, what is it about us that keeps
- 17:02Speaker 2: checking back in, even though it makes us more anxious?
- 17:06Speaker 1: You know, I think I have an even worse opinion
- 17:09Speaker 1: of this than I did when I wrote the book.
- 17:11Speaker 1: I think I thought it was like, well, no, I
- 17:14Speaker 1: still do think it's like an emotional thing of wanting
- 17:18Speaker 1: to wanting to know what's going on and then wanting
- 17:21Speaker 1: to be seen and heard.
- 17:22Speaker 2: Right.
- 17:22Speaker 1: Like wanting to be connected to other people, especially when
- 17:24Speaker 1: something dangerous is going on.
- 17:26Speaker 4: Right.
- 17:27Speaker 3: That's a natural thing.
- 17:28Speaker 2: Right.
- 17:28Speaker 1: But I, but I've sort of come recently more to
- 17:31Speaker 1: think that it's like, like I said, it's just the
- 17:33Speaker 1: sort of like hamster wheel, like dopamine thing. Like it
- 17:36Speaker 1: just turns out that like, we love checking things.
- 17:40Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 17:40Speaker 1: Like it could really be that simple. It's just that, um,
- 17:45Speaker 1: that's just something that our brains like to do. It's
- 17:48Speaker 1: like a loop that you get into.
- 17:49Speaker 2: Yeah. And it's like, it's sort of like this addiction
- 17:52Speaker 2: to new information all the time. Like, has anything changed?
- 17:57Speaker 2: Is anything new? Is there an update? Which I don't
- 18:00Speaker 2: know why I thought about this a lot. Like, why
- 18:02Speaker 2: do I always need some kind of new piece of
- 18:05Speaker 2: information to keep going? Why can't I just be like,
- 18:08Speaker 2: happy with what is right now?
- 18:11Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, and sometimes I wonder if that's not even
- 18:14Speaker 1: necessarily a problem. Like, okay, this could, you know, this
- 18:16Speaker 1: is just me, but I am obviously a nature enthusiast, right?
- 18:19Speaker 1: Like I write about that in the book. I think,
- 18:22Speaker 1: you know, people might think of being outdoors.
- 18:24Speaker 3: It's like very peaceful. It's neutral.
- 18:28Speaker 1: Like it's quiet, like nothing's going on. It's not like
- 18:30Speaker 1: that to me. It is an absolute riot. Um, it's like,
- 18:35Speaker 1: you know, and even more if you have this loop thing, right.
- 18:38Speaker 3: But even without the loop, um, Or binoculars or whatever.
- 18:42Speaker 1: I think, and I think that's what I was trying
- 18:46Speaker 1: to get at in the book was like that you
- 18:48Speaker 1: can train your attention to be able to look for
- 18:52Speaker 1: these things. kinds of changes and I don't want to
- 18:58Speaker 1: call them updates, but there are, you know, I'm looking
- 19:00Speaker 1: at my window right now. This update is like a
- 19:02Speaker 1: guy just walked up the street, you know? So like,
- 19:05Speaker 1: maybe there's nothing wrong. I was just thinking this, you know,
- 19:07Speaker 1: last week I was in the mountains and I was like,
- 19:09Speaker 1: maybe this is like the one place where I'm never
- 19:11Speaker 1: bored is actually here.
- 19:13Speaker 2: Was it always like that for you? Or you talked
- 19:15Speaker 2: about sort of training your attention to focus on, on
- 19:19Speaker 2: those kinds of changes? Or was this just, were you
- 19:21Speaker 2: always just a nature enthusiast and this came natural to you?
- 19:25Speaker 1: I think I don't know necessarily about the nature context.
- 19:32Speaker 1: I think I sort of I'm familiar with that from
- 19:34Speaker 1: childhood and I came back to it. But I think
- 19:37Speaker 1: what I always had was I've always been very curious.
- 19:41Speaker 1: And that's just sort of an orientation that, you know,
- 19:44Speaker 1: no matter what you sort of direct that you're going
- 19:46Speaker 1: to be looking closely and waiting for things to change
- 19:49Speaker 1: and seeing that things are changing. And so I actually,
- 19:52Speaker 1: you know, it's like you hear people say, oh, people
- 19:55Speaker 1: need to learn how to be bored. Again, and I
- 19:58Speaker 1: don't know that I agree. I think it's more just
- 20:01Speaker 1: like you should embrace your desire to learn new things
- 20:05Speaker 1: and perceive new things. And maybe the problem isn't that.
- 20:08Speaker 1: The problem is the context in which you're applying it
- 20:11Speaker 1: and the fact that it's being exploited by a social
- 20:13Speaker 1: media platform. But in itself, I think that's like a
- 20:16Speaker 1: lovely thing. It means you're like alive and you're paying
- 20:19Speaker 1: attention to things.
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- 24:22Speaker 2: I'm interested in your distinction between connectivity and sensitivity. Can
- 24:28Speaker 2: you talk about that a little bit?
- 24:30Speaker 1: Yeah, so that, I should say, is not my distinction.
- 24:33Speaker 1: It's a theorist, Franco Bifo Berardi, made this distinction in
- 24:38Speaker 1: a book called After the Future. The way he summarizes
- 24:41Speaker 1: that is basically connectivity, you could almost think of it
- 24:46Speaker 1: as like ports in a computer, right? Like it's either
- 24:50Speaker 1: compatible or it's not. And if it is compatible, the
- 24:53Speaker 1: information goes through. So with people, that would be like,
- 24:57Speaker 1: you know, you and I have the same preferences on paper. We're,
- 25:01Speaker 1: you know, we, we sort of checked all the same boxes.
- 25:03Speaker 1: So when I recommend something to you, it's not even
- 25:06Speaker 1: really like you just sort of accept it. And I
- 25:09Speaker 1: didn't change in the transmission of that information and you
- 25:11Speaker 1: didn't change. Um, so that's pretty cut and dried and the,
- 25:15Speaker 1: and it happens quickly. That can happen really quickly. Um,
- 25:18Speaker 1: sensitivity is more like you have these two kind of
- 25:21Speaker 1: like oddly shaped, maybe incompatible, um, people, bodies, whatever you
- 25:28Speaker 1: want to call it, um, entities, um, And they are communicating,
- 25:32Speaker 1: but it's much more of a process. They both might
- 25:37Speaker 1: change in that interaction and the information might change in
- 25:40Speaker 1: the interaction. So a really easy example would be if
- 25:44Speaker 1: you have a long conversation with a friend or someone
- 25:48Speaker 1: you know who you respect, but you don't agree on something.
- 25:51Speaker 1: And it might be really fundamental. So the example that
- 25:54Speaker 1: I give in the book is someone who is Catholic. Um, and,
- 25:58Speaker 1: and then I'm basically, I don't know what I am anymore,
- 26:00Speaker 1: but at the time I described myself as an atheist. Right.
- 26:03Speaker 1: And that's how, that's kind of how she saw me.
- 26:05Speaker 1: And we would have these long evening conversations. It was
- 26:09Speaker 1: at a residency about science and, um, and religion and
- 26:14Speaker 1: like the meaning of life, you know, and we didn't,
- 26:17Speaker 1: we didn't come to what we would call like an agreement, um,
- 26:20Speaker 1: but we did have an exchange and we were both
- 26:23Speaker 1: changed by it. And my mind was changed and her
- 26:25Speaker 1: mind was changed. So that would be an example of sensitivity,
- 26:28Speaker 1: obviously not favored by social media.
- 26:32Speaker 2: The understatement of the century. When I got to that
- 26:35Speaker 2: part of the book, that's when I was like, you know,
- 26:37Speaker 2: sort of furiously highlighting because I'm interested in a lot
- 26:40Speaker 2: of how this connects up to politics and democracy. And
- 26:44Speaker 2: I think like there is no sensitivity on social media.
- 26:49Speaker 2: Like it's just not built for those conversations. But I
- 26:51Speaker 2: think sometimes there's the illusion of that, right? Because we're
- 26:55Speaker 2: all connected to each other via social media. And so
- 26:57Speaker 2: we're having these conversations, but you don't really get to
- 27:00Speaker 2: have conversations with sort of the nuance or the context
- 27:04Speaker 2: where you're allowed to disagree or you're allowed to change
- 27:07Speaker 2: people's minds. You try to change people's minds like that
- 27:10Speaker 2: sort of all disappears. And I kind of wonder what
- 27:14Speaker 2: that does to all of us.
- 27:16Speaker 3: Yeah, it can't be good.
- 27:17Speaker 1: I mean, I suspect that people approach social media with
- 27:24Speaker 1: a lot of fear about how they look because that's
- 27:30Speaker 1: what social media is all about. And there's so much
- 27:33Speaker 1: about likes and upvotes and downvotes. It's so numerical, right?
- 27:38Speaker 1: It's like a score and you want your score to
- 27:39Speaker 1: be good. And it's almost like a credit score or something.
- 27:42Speaker 1: And so I think people are already kind of Approaching
- 27:47Speaker 1: these topics and spaces with like a lot of fear
- 27:51Speaker 1: and a lot of defensiveness. And I'm just so struck
- 27:56Speaker 1: by the difference between the way like a disagreement might
- 28:00Speaker 1: play out in social media versus like the times that
- 28:05Speaker 1: I've had close friends or like just someone I know.
- 28:08Speaker 1: say something to me that only maybe even like years later,
- 28:12Speaker 1: I realized that was like a very deep critique of
- 28:14Speaker 1: something about what I thought. Like it's really like, it's
- 28:18Speaker 1: not a sort of surface level thing, right? It's like,
- 28:20Speaker 1: I think you're wrong about something. And I think, you know,
- 28:24Speaker 1: I think your politics are wrong. But when I go
- 28:29Speaker 1: kind of remember that moment, that's not how it felt.
- 28:32Speaker 1: It felt like a conversation. Like it felt like a
- 28:34Speaker 1: respectful conversation where I learned something And it's like only
- 28:39Speaker 1: later do I realize like, oh, actually they were, that
- 28:41Speaker 1: was actually someone like seriously disagreeing with me.
- 28:45Speaker 2: Well, and it is like incredibly rare to find that
- 28:48Speaker 2: these days. And I know that because, you know, like
- 28:51Speaker 2: I had done some episode the other couple weeks ago and.
- 28:54Speaker 2: you know, the negative comments were like five words in
- 28:57Speaker 2: a tweet that I just sort of, I brushed off
- 29:00Speaker 2: at this point or I didn't pay attention to. And
- 29:02Speaker 2: then you remember like someone did like a, you know,
- 29:05Speaker 2: seven part tweet thread was like, hey, I went into
- 29:08Speaker 2: this conversation open-minded, but I didn't like this and I
- 29:10Speaker 2: disagreed with this. And I sort of like took that
- 29:12Speaker 2: critique to heart, right? And I thought, I understand that
- 29:15Speaker 2: and I want to learn from that. And that's interesting
- 29:17Speaker 2: that the person pointed that out. And it's just so
- 29:19Speaker 2: much more effective than someone saying like, I saw that
- 29:24Speaker 2: you did that. Do better. And then that's it. Yeah.
- 29:27Speaker 4: What are you.
- 29:28Speaker 2: Supposed to do with that? What am I supposed to
- 29:29Speaker 2: do with that? That's not persuading me. Yeah.
- 29:32Speaker 1: And I honestly, I think that's part of the mic
- 29:35Speaker 1: drop effect, right? It's like it's like you almost don't
- 29:38Speaker 1: think about how the person continues to exist after you
- 29:41Speaker 1: said something. Right.
- 29:42Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 29:42Speaker 1: It's like, I'm just going to leave this here and
- 29:44Speaker 1: walk away. That's like, that's what everything is, right? It's like, no, well,
- 29:47Speaker 1: I'm still here and I need help understanding this.
- 29:51Speaker 2: Like, right. Do you want? Yeah. I first learned about
- 29:53Speaker 2: your book because it was on Barack Obama's book list.
- 29:57Speaker 2: You know, my former boss. And I was like, I
- 29:59Speaker 2: was wondering why he was so into this book. And
- 30:02Speaker 2: then when I got to this line in the book,
- 30:04Speaker 2: what if we spent less time shouting into the void
- 30:06Speaker 2: and being washed over with shouting in return and more
- 30:08Speaker 2: time talking in rooms to those for whom our words
- 30:10Speaker 2: are intended? I was like, that's why Barack Obama really.
- 30:15Speaker 2: But I do think it's sort of the way that
- 30:18Speaker 2: social media operates really is just a lot of people
- 30:21Speaker 2: shouting past each other all the time. And there's just
- 30:24Speaker 2: not a lot of sort of one on one conversation.
- 30:27Speaker 2: But that's the way we are most of the time.
- 30:29Speaker 1: Yeah, and I get that frustrates me because I think
- 30:35Speaker 1: if you look at it from a kind of like crass,
- 30:37Speaker 1: like numbers point of view, right?
- 30:39Speaker 2: It's like.
- 30:40Speaker 1: If you make a statement and it gets, you know,
- 30:43Speaker 1: thousands of whatever, retweets or likes or whatever, like that
- 30:48Speaker 1: is a measure of something, right?
- 30:51Speaker 4: Right.
- 30:51Speaker 3: That's not nothing.
- 30:52Speaker 1: But then I think about things like, you know, if someone...
- 30:57Speaker 1: This is a really like overdetermined example, but like if
- 30:59Speaker 1: someone wrote, made a zine, right.
- 31:01Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 31:02Speaker 1: And they only mailed it to 20 people, but those
- 31:06Speaker 1: were the 20 right people. Like, and those are 20
- 31:09Speaker 1: people who are going to like sit down and spend
- 31:11Speaker 1: time with this and talk to other people about it. Yeah.
- 31:14Speaker 1: Maybe write something in response and then they respond and
- 31:17Speaker 1: then you get somewhere, right.
- 31:19Speaker 3: There's traction. I don't know.
- 31:20Speaker 1: Like that's a different way of measuring, I guess, like impact. Like,
- 31:24Speaker 1: I don't even know what to call it, but. Like,
- 31:27Speaker 1: that's also something that feels like substantive to me. And
- 31:30Speaker 1: I'm kind of more and more interested in that and
- 31:34Speaker 1: bored with the other thing.
- 31:36Speaker 2: Yeah, well, it's intentional and it's designed to try to
- 31:39Speaker 2: persuade people to make people think or act differently, which
- 31:41Speaker 2: I think is sort of the basis for, you know,
- 31:43Speaker 2: a democratic society. I mean, we've been talking a lot
- 31:46Speaker 2: about sort of the effects of social media and overconnection
- 31:49Speaker 2: on individuals. right? It can make you anxious. It can
- 31:53Speaker 2: make you feel bad. It can make you distracted. But
- 31:56Speaker 2: you point out that a social body that can't concentrate
- 31:59Speaker 2: or communicate with itself is like a person who can't
- 32:02Speaker 2: think or act. And I have been thinking about this
- 32:04Speaker 2: a lot more is like, what does it mean for
- 32:07Speaker 2: the country as a whole if we're just all so
- 32:10Speaker 2: distracted all the time? And what does that mean for
- 32:14Speaker 2: social movements? What does it mean for labor movements? What
- 32:17Speaker 2: does it mean, you know, like for civil rights movements?
- 32:20Speaker 2: Because I think as you point out in the book too,
- 32:24Speaker 2: that sort of collective action requires discipline and organization and, and,
- 32:31Speaker 2: and a lot of attention. And I wonder if we're
- 32:33Speaker 2: sort of losing that capacity. Yeah.
- 32:37Speaker 3: I mean, it's, it's hard to say.
- 32:38Speaker 1: I don't, I don't know, but I, I mean, I
- 32:41Speaker 1: was just reading an article actually a couple hours ago where, um,
- 32:46Speaker 1: you know, it was basically organizers talking about this and
- 32:49Speaker 1: saying that, you know, like they were comparing it to
- 32:51Speaker 1: going door to door. And having conversations with people and
- 32:55Speaker 1: finding out that, you know, if you actually tell someone
- 32:59Speaker 1: what something is beyond a slogan, they'll oftentimes maybe not
- 33:03Speaker 1: agree with you, but it'll be something other than the like, no,
- 33:08Speaker 1: like door in your face. Right.
- 33:11Speaker 3: And it's, and.
- 33:13Speaker 1: So I think, yeah, definitely like the capacity to listen
- 33:18Speaker 1: and is, is probably getting eroded. I mean, I talk
- 33:21Speaker 1: about deep listening in the book, which is Pauline Oliveros'
- 33:25Speaker 1: term from music, but deep listening requires like a stance
- 33:31Speaker 1: basically that is, would, you know, be described as almost
- 33:34Speaker 1: like passive or nonjudgmental or whatever, but it's basically like a, like,
- 33:39Speaker 1: let me actually like hear this thing first.
- 33:41Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 33:42Speaker 1: Before I jump into like analyzing and all of that.
- 33:46Speaker 1: Not to say everything needs to be listened to, but
- 33:48Speaker 1: just that, you know, that there's, if you want to
- 33:50Speaker 1: have an encounter that involves like that sensitivity and the
- 33:54Speaker 1: exchange that requires you not to do the mic drop, basically.
- 34:00Speaker 2: So you wrote this book a year or so before
- 34:03Speaker 2: the pandemic. And I've seen some people say that it was,
- 34:05Speaker 2: you know, well-timed to a period where doing nothing was
- 34:09Speaker 2: forced on many of us. But I actually found that
- 34:13Speaker 2: being stuck at home during the pandemic made doing nothing
- 34:17Speaker 2: in the way you define it even harder. It's like
- 34:19Speaker 2: I was glued to my screens and social media and
- 34:23Speaker 2: it made like even a news addict like me feel
- 34:26Speaker 2: even worse than usual. What was your experience like during
- 34:31Speaker 2: the pandemic? What has your experience been like since I
- 34:33Speaker 2: guess unfortunately we're still in it?
- 34:35Speaker 1: Yeah, it's well, I feel like summer of 2020 I
- 34:41Speaker 1: kind of started approaching a point that was reminding me
- 34:44Speaker 1: of the moment that had spurred How to Do Nothing,
- 34:47Speaker 1: where I was like, oh, this feels familiar, you know?
- 34:50Speaker 2: Yeah. That was a rough summer. That was like the
- 34:54Speaker 2: protests plus the wildfires in California plus the pandemic. It
- 34:58Speaker 2: was just everything.
- 35:00Speaker 1: I couldn't walk because the air was too bad. And
- 35:03Speaker 1: it was just, yeah, I was feeling very sort of
- 35:06Speaker 1: trapped in that. And so I had sort of like.
- 35:10Speaker 1: Moment number two of, I can't do this. And, uh,
- 35:16Speaker 1: ever since then, you know, I, I'm on social media.
- 35:21Speaker 1: I will like check for messages. Um, and you know,
- 35:25Speaker 1: I'll kind of, yeah, I'll dip in once in a
- 35:28Speaker 1: while because there are important things like the fact that, um,
- 35:32Speaker 1: people who read my book often connect me to other
- 35:34Speaker 1: things that I would like to read that, you know,
- 35:36Speaker 1: it's like, I find out about this other stuff that's
- 35:39Speaker 1: in conversation with what I'm doing. And that's really important
- 35:42Speaker 1: to me. Um, however, I religiously avoid feeds of all kinds,
- 35:47Speaker 1: all kinds. Like I will not look at the Twitter feed.
- 35:49Speaker 1: I will not look at Twitter moments.
- 35:51Speaker 2: Wow.
- 35:51Speaker 1: I will not look at the Instagram feed. Um, I
- 35:54Speaker 1: can't look at my Facebook feed because I have something
- 35:56Speaker 1: called Facebook newsfeed.
- 35:57Speaker 3: Eradicator, which I highly recommend.
- 36:00Speaker 2: Yeah. That's if I went on Facebook, I would use that. Yeah.
- 36:04Speaker 1: Um, I, I, I barely look at Facebook anymore because
- 36:07Speaker 1: that's turns out if you don't have a newsfeed, then
- 36:10Speaker 1: there's no reason to be on it for more than
- 36:11Speaker 1: two minutes. So yeah, so that's, I kind of had,
- 36:14Speaker 1: I had almost like a second moment of reckoning.
- 36:19Speaker 2: I'd love to hear your thoughts on like what you
- 36:21Speaker 2: think we can all do to resist the attention economy,
- 36:24Speaker 2: both as individuals and as a society. I mean, I
- 36:26Speaker 2: think it's important to point out that you don't believe
- 36:29Speaker 2: we should all just stop using social media. You know,
- 36:32Speaker 2: you point out that you're less interested in a mass
- 36:34Speaker 2: exodus from Facebook and Twitter than a mass movement of
- 36:37Speaker 2: people regaining control of our attention and redirecting it together.
- 36:41Speaker 2: Can you talk about what that means and what it
- 36:43Speaker 2: might look like?
- 36:44Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's maybe helpful to think of it
- 36:47Speaker 1: in terms of, like, feedback loops.
- 36:50Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 36:51Speaker 1: There's a bad feedback loop, and then I like to
- 36:54Speaker 1: think there's a good feedback loop. The bad one is
- 36:56Speaker 1: the one that is sort of like being exploited right now,
- 36:59Speaker 1: which is there's a lot to be upset about and scared.
- 37:05Speaker 1: Just like deeply frightened, right? Like there's so many sources
- 37:08Speaker 1: of dread. And we're also, you know, a lot of
- 37:10Speaker 1: people are still pretty isolated, you know. They're more isolated
- 37:13Speaker 1: than they would be. So you go to social media
- 37:16Speaker 1: because you want to feel some connection and you want
- 37:18Speaker 1: to feel, maybe you want to feel validated. You want
- 37:20Speaker 1: to feel seen and recognized. You go there, you don't
- 37:23Speaker 1: get that. You get something else. The something else that
- 37:26Speaker 1: you get makes you feel more lonely and disconnected and
- 37:29Speaker 1: have more anxiety.
- 37:30Speaker 3: So you go back.
- 37:31Speaker 1: And I mean, I've literally read papers in like travel
- 37:35Speaker 1: journals where like tourism people like know about this loop
- 37:39Speaker 1: and they name it. And they're like, we need to
- 37:41Speaker 1: figure out a way to use, use that to drive
- 37:43Speaker 1: ticket sales for like, when people see other people's vacations,
- 37:47Speaker 1: like they're going to have low self-esteem. So like, how
- 37:49Speaker 1: do we get in there and have there be a
- 37:51Speaker 1: button where you can like buy your ticket? Right. Like
- 37:53Speaker 1: this is very known. Um, so that's, that's the bad,
- 37:57Speaker 1: that's the bad feedback loop. And it sort of self-reinforcing
- 38:00Speaker 1: the thing that I feel like I've learned in the
- 38:03Speaker 1: last year, especially is that there's like kind of an
- 38:05Speaker 1: opposite loop where somewhere in there, you break the cycle.
- 38:09Speaker 3: You know, that could be.
- 38:10Speaker 4: Anywhere, really.
- 38:10Speaker 2: Put the phone down, just cut it off.
- 38:12Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 38:13Speaker 3: Facebook News Feudal Advocate or whatever.
- 38:14Speaker 2: Whatever you have.
- 38:15Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 38:16Speaker 3: Or you get a loop, get the jeweler's loop and
- 38:19Speaker 3: go outside and look at a bush.
- 38:20Speaker 1: Somewhere you break the cycle and then you get the opposite,
- 38:23Speaker 1: which is like you find other sources of meaning and
- 38:28Speaker 1: belonging and being seen. And that makes you feel more stable.
- 38:33Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 38:33Speaker 1: And then because you feel more stable, you don't feel
- 38:35Speaker 1: the need to go to social media anymore. Because you're
- 38:38Speaker 1: not going to social media anymore, you feel more stable, right?
- 38:42Speaker 1: Like this is what's kind of been happening to me.
- 38:44Speaker 1: Like I have a joke that my social media is,
- 38:49Speaker 1: you know, on iMessage, you can pin like people to
- 38:51Speaker 1: the top of your iMessage.
- 38:52Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 38:53Speaker 1: So I have like nine people and they all have
- 38:55Speaker 1: different animal photos. And so I was calling it like
- 38:58Speaker 1: animal net. And when something goes viral on animal net,
- 39:01Speaker 1: it's just me sending it to every single person.
- 39:04Speaker 3: Like one at a time.
- 39:05Speaker 1: And like, I get news from animal net. Like people
- 39:09Speaker 1: tell me about stuff, you know, like in whether it's
- 39:12Speaker 1: like something happening to them or the news or something
- 39:14Speaker 1: that they saw that was funny. Like, you know, it
- 39:16Speaker 1: is a little mini kind of like, and some of
- 39:18Speaker 1: them are group chats.
- 39:19Speaker 3: So yeah.
- 39:21Speaker 1: And I find that I actually get what I wanted,
- 39:24Speaker 1: I originally wanted from that and from interactions with just
- 39:29Speaker 1: individual people It could be friends, it could be other writers,
- 39:32Speaker 1: it could be whoever. either like one-on-one or kind of
- 39:36Speaker 1: like small groups. And, you know, a lot of that's
- 39:39Speaker 1: been on my phone because it's the pandemic, right? Like,
- 39:42Speaker 1: but it's very different than sort of broadcasting or being
- 39:46Speaker 1: on a feed. And it's really like, it's amazing. Like
- 39:50Speaker 1: I compared to like even a year ago, it's like,
- 39:53Speaker 1: I really, I have zero desire to look at the
- 39:57Speaker 1: feed of any social media.
- 39:58Speaker 3: I just, I actually don't want to.
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- 43:00Speaker 2: slash cricket. Again, that's tryfuture.com slash cricket. I had been
- 43:10Speaker 2: thinking even before reading your book that I sort of
- 43:12Speaker 2: wanted to redirect more of my attention away from social
- 43:15Speaker 2: media and towards real-life interactions with people. I'm an extrovert.
- 43:19Speaker 2: I get energy from other people. I hadn't thought about
- 43:23Speaker 2: Redirecting my attention toward the place that I live, which
- 43:28Speaker 2: you write about a lot. So much of your book
- 43:30Speaker 2: is about your connection with nature. What is it about
- 43:34Speaker 2: nature that you find important and fulfilling?
- 43:37Speaker 1: I think, I mean, maybe the most basic part of
- 43:42Speaker 1: it is nature. kind of illustrated by the part where
- 43:44Speaker 1: I talk about the crows. Although I realized that crows
- 43:47Speaker 1: are getting out of hand in a lot of places.
- 43:50Speaker 1: I was just reading or someone, I think three different
- 43:52Speaker 1: people on animal net sent me an article about like
- 43:55Speaker 1: using like lasers to control crows anyway, because the crows are.
- 44:00Speaker 3: Getting out of hand in San Jose.
- 44:01Speaker 1: But, um, you know, I have that, that description in
- 44:04Speaker 1: the book of like, um, crows, you know, can recognize
- 44:07Speaker 1: human faces. So I befriended these crows. The crows are
- 44:09Speaker 1: looking at me. I'm looking at the crows. Crows are
- 44:13Speaker 1: not human, but they're like regarding me.
- 44:15Speaker 3: In some way, right?
- 44:16Speaker 1: And it was this reminder that I am also, you know,
- 44:20Speaker 1: an earthbound animal who, you know, from their point of view,
- 44:23Speaker 1: I sort of emerged from this little box every day
- 44:25Speaker 1: and then I go back inside. And so it's a
- 44:27Speaker 1: very kind of, it's like almost like moves the center
- 44:31Speaker 1: of gravity out away from you. And I was finding
- 44:36Speaker 1: that very therapeutic at the time because the other thing
- 44:39Speaker 1: that I think social media does is it kind of
- 44:41Speaker 1: like hyper stimulates your ego. Like you really get into
- 44:45Speaker 1: like the center of your head and it's like very
- 44:47Speaker 1: dense in there. And for me, just being reminded that
- 44:51Speaker 1: there are these like kind of other societies that are
- 44:54Speaker 1: just outside, like I've lived in the same neighborhood for
- 44:57Speaker 1: long enough. I know like the bird neighborhoods, like, I
- 45:01Speaker 1: know that like the chickadees are always in that one
- 45:04Speaker 1: tree or like, I just, I just noticed two weeks ago,
- 45:07Speaker 1: there's a sap sucker, which is like a type of
- 45:09Speaker 1: woodpecker that makes these little holes in a very dense pattern.
- 45:15Speaker 1: It's always in this one tree between 10 AM and noon.
- 45:19Speaker 1: And I'm like, there he's at work, you know, I
- 45:21Speaker 1: passed this bird and it's very inspiring to me because
- 45:23Speaker 1: then I go home and I like do my work.
- 45:24Speaker 1: But I think it's just something about being reminded of,
- 45:32Speaker 1: a different context for yourself, right? And it's pretty insistently
- 45:36Speaker 1: like physical context.
- 45:37Speaker 2: I can see why it might be useful because I,
- 45:39Speaker 2: you know, I've been trying to go on walks where
- 45:43Speaker 2: I like, like don't look at my phone the entire walk.
- 45:46Speaker 2: And I don't listen to anything either, right? I don't
- 45:48Speaker 2: even listen to a podcast. I just want to walk
- 45:49Speaker 2: and look around. But sometimes, at least at the beginning,
- 45:53Speaker 2: I noticed that as I'm walking, I'm still thinking about
- 45:57Speaker 2: All the things I would think about if I was
- 45:59Speaker 2: scrolling through Twitter. Right. So I'm thinking about political issues
- 46:02Speaker 2: of the day. I'm thinking about things I have to do.
- 46:03Speaker 2: Like your mind's still racing. And I think part, you know,
- 46:06Speaker 2: you write about this, too. I think when you're focusing,
- 46:09Speaker 2: when you redirect your attention on something else like nature,
- 46:12Speaker 2: like birds, like the trees. Right. Then you sort of
- 46:16Speaker 2: get out of your own mind and. you don't just
- 46:18Speaker 2: leave the scrolling and social media behind you leave sort
- 46:21Speaker 2: of all the stuff that comes with it, which is
- 46:24Speaker 2: thinking about all that shit constantly, which continues to give
- 46:27Speaker 2: you anxiety, even if you're not staring at the screen.
- 46:30Speaker 3: Yeah, totally.
- 46:31Speaker 1: And I think it also has like very concrete lessons,
- 46:34Speaker 1: at least that, that I have learned from observing and
- 46:38Speaker 1: learning about ecology in particular. You know, one of the
- 46:41Speaker 1: things I write about in the book is that in ecology,
- 46:43Speaker 1: there are very few hard boundaries and, So like there
- 46:48Speaker 1: are bioregions and they have identifiable characteristics, but there's not
- 46:52Speaker 1: like you're in Oak Savannah and then all of a
- 46:54Speaker 1: sudden you cross a line and you're in a redwood forest, right?
- 46:57Speaker 3: Like it just doesn't work that way.
- 46:59Speaker 1: You also find out that like everything is affecting everything
- 47:01Speaker 1: else all the time. And like, for me, that was
- 47:04Speaker 1: meaningful because I'm biracial and I like really resonated with
- 47:07Speaker 1: that idea that you could have something be multiple with
- 47:11Speaker 1: like identifiable parts, but they're not so easily pinpointed. And
- 47:16Speaker 1: I think actually it's really, it's interesting to bounce back
- 47:19Speaker 1: and forth between contexts. Like if you take those lessons
- 47:23Speaker 1: and then you come back to something, you know, like
- 47:27Speaker 1: a political situation, right? Maybe you look at it differently.
- 47:30Speaker 1: Like you see, for me, it becomes easier to see
- 47:33Speaker 1: things like, oh, this is a knot of strands, one
- 47:36Speaker 1: of which started in like the 1800s or something, right?
- 47:39Speaker 1: Like something that's a little bit more complex than like
- 47:42Speaker 1: the Twitter moments of the day. Like it just allows
- 47:45Speaker 1: you to like zoom out or sort of like change
- 47:49Speaker 1: your focus a little bit and like appreciate and like
- 47:53Speaker 1: sit with complexity because I think that's everywhere.
- 47:56Speaker 2: I mean, one of the first things I did after
- 47:58Speaker 2: I finished your book is I started looking up books
- 48:02Speaker 2: about the history of Los Angeles, which is where I live.
- 48:05Speaker 2: And like I moved here in 2014 and I always
- 48:08Speaker 2: think to myself, oh, I just moved to LA and
- 48:10Speaker 2: I've been here eight years now, seven, eight years now.
- 48:13Speaker 2: And because I live such a hyper-connected life and I'm
- 48:17Speaker 2: working so much and I'm online so much, I was like,
- 48:20Speaker 2: I finished your book. I'm like, I don't even know
- 48:22Speaker 2: that much about the place that I live, like the
- 48:25Speaker 2: history of the place that I live, you know? And
- 48:27Speaker 2: I wonder like the more that we're online and you
- 48:31Speaker 2: can be sort of online anywhere. And the internet is
- 48:34Speaker 2: just this big global space that has like a lot
- 48:36Speaker 2: of nothingness around it. You do sort of forget that
- 48:40Speaker 2: like you live in a physical place with history and
- 48:43Speaker 2: tradition and culture and nature and all that kind of stuff.
- 48:46Speaker 2: Like it's wild. Yeah.
- 48:48Speaker 1: Although I should point out that, you know, similar to
- 48:51Speaker 1: the fact that, you know, I say that social media,
- 48:53Speaker 1: just as, as the idea of like a network of
- 48:56Speaker 1: people who are in communication is not necessarily a bad
- 48:59Speaker 1: thing in and of itself. I think similarly, you know,
- 49:02Speaker 1: let's say like, let's say you move to a new
- 49:04Speaker 1: place and you want to learn more about it. Like
- 49:07Speaker 1: the internet is actually going to be a huge use
- 49:09Speaker 1: to you, right?
- 49:10Speaker 2: That's where I looked for books.
- 49:13Speaker 1: And I, I learned, I mean, I really got off
- 49:16Speaker 1: the ground by using iNaturalist, which is the app that,
- 49:19Speaker 1: you know, it's basically just for plants, right?
- 49:21Speaker 2: Like you.
- 49:21Speaker 3: Take pictures of plants.
- 49:22Speaker 2: And it tells you what they are.
- 49:25Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so good. It's like what I've been waiting for.
- 49:27Speaker 1: That's utopian technology to me. But yeah, I think it's like, again,
- 49:32Speaker 1: it's almost like the loop versus the iPhone again, right?
- 49:35Speaker 1: It's like, are you using it to actually become more
- 49:38Speaker 1: engaged with the place that you are or are you
- 49:40Speaker 1: using it in the opposite direction? And certain platforms or
- 49:44Speaker 1: apps or whatever are kind of, will push you in
- 49:46Speaker 1: either direction.
- 49:47Speaker 2: On a societal level, are there policies or rules collective
- 49:52Speaker 2: actions you think we should take in order to help
- 49:55Speaker 2: resist the attention economy you mentioned in the book that
- 49:58Speaker 2: you know a lot of people have jobs that don't
- 50:00Speaker 2: give them the privilege of trying to do nothing because
- 50:04Speaker 2: they're so.
- 50:05Speaker 1: Busy yeah i mean that is kind of something that
- 50:08Speaker 1: i am taking up um thinking about specifically about time
- 50:13Speaker 1: because you know one really obvious response to how to
- 50:17Speaker 1: do nothing as a whole as a book is like
- 50:19Speaker 1: that's great i don't have time And time is a
- 50:22Speaker 1: sort of very obvious dimension in which some people have
- 50:25Speaker 1: more affordances than others.
- 50:27Speaker 3: So anything.
- 50:30Speaker 1: That opens up more time, or not even more time,
- 50:33Speaker 1: but gives more temporal autonomy to people, I think. Because
- 50:39Speaker 1: to be able to be curious about things and go
- 50:43Speaker 1: for your walk and whatever... meet with the local birding group,
- 50:47Speaker 1: you know.
- 50:48Speaker 3: You have to have the time and the resources to
- 50:50Speaker 3: do that.
- 50:51Speaker 4: And I.
- 50:52Speaker 1: Think that's one of the things that I wish that
- 50:54Speaker 1: I had made clear in the book was, was that,
- 50:57Speaker 1: you know, distinction between someone who finds it difficult to
- 51:01Speaker 1: do nothing because, you know, they're so steeped in like
- 51:04Speaker 1: achievement culture or whatnot. And then someone who really actually
- 51:07Speaker 1: just does not have control of their time.
- 51:10Speaker 2: Right. I mean, do you think that This great resignation
- 51:14Speaker 2: we've seen, you know, throughout the course of the pandemic,
- 51:18Speaker 2: a lot of people, you know, sort of quitting their jobs,
- 51:20Speaker 2: looking for other things to do, has to do with
- 51:23Speaker 2: some of the challenges that you wrote about in the book.
- 51:28Speaker 1: I mean, one sort of overlap that I definitely see is,
- 51:32Speaker 1: you know, I talk about kind of like the pause
- 51:36Speaker 1: in the book, like when you take a pause and
- 51:38Speaker 1: you shift your perspective, like I talk about my dad.
- 51:42Speaker 1: taking two years off of work when he was in
- 51:44Speaker 1: his thirties. And again, you know, that's a very privileged
- 51:47Speaker 1: thing to do, but he, he kind of had like
- 51:50Speaker 1: all these epiphanies during that time about himself and his
- 51:53Speaker 1: work and what he wanted to do and and what
- 51:56Speaker 1: it actually took for him to, you know, be creative
- 52:02Speaker 1: and have like purpose and meaning or whatever.
- 52:04Speaker 2: Right.
- 52:04Speaker 1: So, I mean, I have no way of knowing really,
- 52:08Speaker 1: but I, my sense is that maybe that happened, for
- 52:12Speaker 1: people where it's like, it's this forced pause. Everything suddenly
- 52:16Speaker 1: looks weird, right? Like things that were once familiar look
- 52:21Speaker 1: very strange. Like even things like buildings getting used for
- 52:25Speaker 1: other things. And that's such a destabilizing moment. And I
- 52:30Speaker 1: think that that can be really scary, but it can
- 52:33Speaker 1: also kind of like shake loose these things that you
- 52:36Speaker 1: took for granted or not even necessarily took for granted.
- 52:39Speaker 1: You were just so busy going. You had to take
- 52:42Speaker 1: it for granted. There wasn't a time to stop and
- 52:44Speaker 1: think about it. And now you have to stop and
- 52:45Speaker 1: think about it. And maybe your work situation is a
- 52:50Speaker 1: little different. Maybe you work from home and you realize
- 52:53Speaker 1: how shitty your boss is or something.
- 52:55Speaker 4: I don't know.
- 52:55Speaker 1: Because something has changed. And something becomes clear to you.
- 53:00Speaker 1: And then maybe also, I don't know, but because we've
- 53:03Speaker 1: all been living with this hyper-awareness of mortality... like people
- 53:08Speaker 1: are dying, there's this like, this possibility of dying.
- 53:10Speaker 3: Was just in the air.
- 53:11Speaker 1: Then maybe that also people were thinking about like, I
- 53:14Speaker 1: have one life.
- 53:15Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 53:16Speaker 1: You know, and what am I going to do with
- 53:18Speaker 1: this one life? Am I really going to spend it
- 53:20Speaker 1: doing this and, and, and just staring at this all day?
- 53:24Speaker 3: So I don't know. I, that's my kind of guess.
- 53:27Speaker 2: Look, I think that's, I've had that experience. I think
- 53:29Speaker 2: it's a combination of the trends that you've been writing about,
- 53:33Speaker 2: which is so everyone being hyper-connected on social media and
- 53:35Speaker 2: that leaves you feeling sort of shitty. and distracted all
- 53:39Speaker 2: the time. And then something like the pandemic happens and
- 53:43Speaker 2: you stop and think of your own mortality and you're like,
- 53:46Speaker 2: is this how I want to be for the next 10, 20, 30, 40,
- 53:49Speaker 2: 50 years? It's just doing this nonstop. Or do I
- 53:52Speaker 2: need like a real change here? And that change can
- 53:55Speaker 2: be your job. It can also just be, I think
- 53:58Speaker 2: how you, you know, describe really well, just figuring out
- 54:01Speaker 2: how to redirect your attention on a daily basis, just
- 54:04Speaker 2: in even small ways.
- 54:05Speaker 3: Yeah, totally.
- 54:07Speaker 1: Just something that I've observed among people that I know
- 54:09Speaker 1: is people sort of leaving jobs or contexts and they
- 54:14Speaker 1: don't actually know what's next, but they knew enough that
- 54:18Speaker 1: it was wrong that they could leave. And I think
- 54:20Speaker 1: that's really interesting because more and more lately I put
- 54:24Speaker 1: such a, I really value intuition and like intuition versus
- 54:32Speaker 1: like the kind of objective, like just I don't know.
- 54:36Speaker 3: I don't even know how to describe it.
- 54:37Speaker 1: Um, but like the gut feeling, right? Like the gut
- 54:41Speaker 1: feeling when you're on social media too much is this
- 54:43Speaker 1: is bad. And it's like, how do you learn how
- 54:46Speaker 1: to better hear what that is saying? And I think
- 54:50Speaker 1: maybe people were following that same intuition of like, I'm
- 54:53Speaker 1: not happy where I am. This isn't fulfilling. Um, I
- 54:56Speaker 1: need to find the things that actually give me some
- 54:59Speaker 1: sense of like traction in life.
- 55:01Speaker 2: Yeah. Last question I ask all of our guests, which
- 55:05Speaker 2: was partly inspired by your book. What's your favorite way
- 55:08Speaker 2: to unplug right now, now that you're busy writing another book?
- 55:12Speaker 2: And how often do you get to do it?
- 55:15Speaker 3: That's hard. I mean, I would say maybe currently it's
- 55:19Speaker 3: the loop.
- 55:20Speaker 2: The loop? It's the loop. I'm going to look into
- 55:23Speaker 2: this loop.
- 55:23Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think it's very expensive.
- 55:27Speaker 1: I think that you can also get magnifying lenses for
- 55:30Speaker 1: your phone.
- 55:31Speaker 2: Okay.
- 55:32Speaker 1: Um, I don't know as much about those, but, um,
- 55:35Speaker 1: and I'm very lucky. I get to do that every
- 55:36Speaker 1: day because every day my boyfriend and I go on
- 55:39Speaker 1: basically the same, it's all your pandemic walk.
- 55:43Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 55:44Speaker 3: Like some variation.
- 55:45Speaker 2: We've had a few of those. Yeah.
- 55:47Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 55:48Speaker 1: And, uh, And it's like the loop, it's so small
- 55:53Speaker 1: and it's such a high magnification that like I'll never
- 55:55Speaker 1: be able to like loop everything on this walk.
- 55:58Speaker 2: Like it's endless.
- 56:00Speaker 1: So I think that's my current favorite way. But I
- 56:03Speaker 1: honestly like so many. I mean like bird watching, obviously.
- 56:07Speaker 1: I'm still really into that. Yeah.
- 56:11Speaker 2: Fantastic. Jenny O'Dell, thank you so much for joining Offline.
- 56:14Speaker 2: Appreciate the time.
- 56:16Speaker 3: Thanks so much for having me.
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