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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just- Overcoming Destructive Traits 5.23.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Jealousy, same idea, right? Honesty, there are many layers.
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  Honesty. A president can be honest but
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  still do things that really shouldn't be done, that aren't
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  proper, is all part of the points when it comes to layers
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  and levels of mitzvot. And then he says something quite
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  obvious when it comes to character traits as world.
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  There are levels. I mean, you can have a person
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  who is a nice person, but they're layers to nice.
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  You got a person. We'll see the examples in a
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  second in a commercial studies from the cute massim Cassidy
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  Cuba me dot O Camacho terkashevo.
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  It's probably more difficult, honey cute by me dot being
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  really, you know, fully worked through when it comes to your
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  character, Mimas, yoga, massim than it is when it comes to
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  actions because we are fighting our human nature when it comes
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  to character more so than it is when it comes to performance.
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  What the person can overcome a challenge when it comes to
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  whether I'm going to keep Shabbat properly or not.
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  I worked on myself, I worked on me, etcetera.
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  I'm good to go. But it's still much harder to
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  overcome the challenge of, let's say, haughtiness, arrogance,
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  anger. Those are much more physical
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  things and those are built into human nature and they cause and
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  they therefore trigger a greater fight.
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  So if I want to be cleansed, I have to work harder at those
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  ain't it Hamidoth ended up with. We know there are many different
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  examples of character traits regarding every situation that a
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  person every action in a person has the ability to perform camo
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  camido to hand shocked anyone in shocked by the time.
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  There are so many examples of MI dot omna that's explain Not all
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  character traits are difficult to overcome.
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  Some are. You don't need to go through
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  every single one and work through to the false extent.
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  You know your level of nicute, which means your level of being
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  completely cleansed from any degree of fault.
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  When it comes to all caricatures, some of them are
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  easy. We'll see which ones they are in
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  a second, but the big ones is at the top.
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  The challenging ones are gava with tempted and arrogance.
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  Can a cause. Anger is tempting, canal degrees
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  of jealousy and tahava, which is temptation.
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  You may not think temptation is a character trait, but it's part
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  of our humor makeup. These 4 is probably the big
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  four. Anger, arrogance, jealousy, and
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  temptation. They drive us, they push us,
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  they fire us up, and it's very hard to be completely cleansed
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  with him. Hen kolela midot raot ashida
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  atom niketum of a semit. These are the bad ones that
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  everyone knows and I don't need to prove to you the challenges
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  that jealousy and anger 'cause I don't need to prove to you the
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  destruction and how bad 'cause is the whole world can it out
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  then about some of it all be told to him.
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  They have such an unbelievable negative effect on the world.
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  If you think about anger causes, that means take a person,
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  relatively fine person, then he has angry moments, he gets
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  heated, it's wild, it's furious, and it becomes, as the Mishnah
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  says, Mozilla da Daman al Alama takes the person out of this
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  world. What does that mean?
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  That means he becomes from a different existence.
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  He's a nice guy, he's a fine guy, he has angry moments, he's
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  a disaster. Same person now a completely
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  different one. That's a destructive causes.
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  Most of the destruction in the world today cause some anger,
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  cousin these four, that's like the hardest 1.
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  I believe the anger is the most for a regular good guy.
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  It is because it's not part of your regular makeup.
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  It's stepping into a different suit and becoming a different
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  person. When we get triggered, that's
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  anger. Jealousy is also very big.
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  If you think about what people do, how much people work, how
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  much people compete, mainly they have also.
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  But the jealousy comes from what other people have and how far we
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  go. OK, now you could say I just
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  want to be relevant. I just want to exist.
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  I can't be stepped on. I can't be someone who's
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  ignored. That could be not so much
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  jealousy. That could be more of an an
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  issue of confidence and insecurity.
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  But at the same time, when people, people have a lot and
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  they're doing look and then they push further and further.
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  For some reason, you want to live with the drivers.
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  Oftentimes it might be called competition.
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  It might be called I need to exist.
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  It might also be an extreme drive of jealousy.
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  It changes a person's entire outlook and it can ruin lives.
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  I don't know if it ruins other people's lives, we can ruin my
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  own. I said it comes to anger and
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  jealousy. Arrogance is something that
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  drives people, all people who promote themselves.
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  All the fact that you see people going too far is because they
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  believe that I have something special.
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  Why I need to be treated. That's something special.
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  Age of epic 3 and the other one is temptation.
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  We know how destructive temptation is.
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  You think of any person who was a big deal and then they had a
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  humongous fall. What was it?
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  Some scandal? And you say to yourself, this
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  guy's out of his mind. He can get anything he wants.
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  He can live the perfect life and he ruined it all because of some
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  silly scandal or someone thing which you could have, you know,
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  he try a different way and he ruined his life.
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  That is Tava as temptation. There's no overcoming
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  politicians. So many examples you have.
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  It's not normal celebrities only example you have.
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  It's not. It's unbelievable.
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  And they ruined their career, their lives, their name, their
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  fortune, everything. Because it is silly for
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  overnight success. Exactly.
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  No, but it was overnight thing. Yeah, well, they thought it was
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  overnight success and can't call their love me daughter the art.
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  These are all very bad traits. I said, I don't need to prove it
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  to you. And they all destroy the world.
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  And they're outside the boundaries, he says, of common
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  sense. And that means you go to a
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  person, any of these people who carry these traits, you speak to
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  them, let's say, during a very serious model post, going to a
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  funeral. You talk to these guys.
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  They're nice, they're calm, they're thoughtful, they have a
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  good understanding. You talk to them after they went
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  into something crazy and normal. They make a lot of sense.
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  They can give you advice what happens to these people, these
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  four drives drivers, measuring the drivers crazy and a person's
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  going to be aware of any of these coming up.
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  Anger can easily come up at any moment or these other traits as
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  well. The and you have to also be
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  aware how destructive they are regarding your observance of
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  Torah. These four are they can ruin who
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  you are. The Gabba guy was a fine, honest
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  guy. He's raised to be honest, but
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  then jealousy comes in the other man, he's dishonest, he steals
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  the Gabba guy was a great guy. Temptation drives him.
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  The Gemara gives us examples. The Gemara gives us examples of
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  rabbis are the classic examples of rabbis who were Amwar aim who
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  Rabbas and the Gemara and they had a temptation for a woman and
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  they said one guy rabbi said the words something like I can
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  overcome the Satan. Satan has nothing on me.
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  And then basically he was tempted like crazy by a woman
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  until there was a heavenly voice that came out and he started to
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  go after there was a heavenly voice that came out and said let
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  let go of my son. Never forget the name of the
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  rabbi, Point B. Temptation can pull anybody
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  down, or the more so a person who's open to temptation, person
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  who doesn't control it at all. They think you have control
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  drunk. You can't test yourself.
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  Don't test yourself. Right?
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  And he brings sources to the destruction of Gava Kas kanan
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  tava. All right.
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  Now the job is to figure out a way to identify when Gava comes
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  up, when these four come up and then work your way around them.
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  You have to figure out when am I being arrogant?
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  You know, you have a guy that gets crazy insulted by
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  something, by something small. He wasn't invited to a wedding.
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  We know it's insulting, we got it, but the guy goes over the
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  top. That's Gava.
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  Now could be he expected it. He was waiting.
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  Everyone asked him where he was, why wasn't he there and says I
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  wasn't invited. I got, I understand it's a big
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  deal, but there are levels ruins guy's life.
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  He's furious. He makes a big deal out of it.
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  That's arrogance and a person has to identify that and work
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  around it. I came to eat by my in laws and
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  didn't have a seat for me properly.
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  And now I'm sitting, I'm standing and my kids can't find
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  a seat and the other brother-in-law gets a seat.
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  And what happened? I said I said I raided.
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  It turns out I don't raid, right.
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  I understand they're going to go crazy.
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  Identify. That's kind of a didn't stand up
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  for me. They didn't this they didn't
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  Call My Name. They completely didn't say a
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  word to me. I got it.
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  All this makes sense, but these all stem from GAVA, and a person
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  needs to identify them before they, you know, delve into life
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  every single day. You have to have this on your
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  mind. What's like, what's you know,
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  where are my signs and my triggers of my own arrogance?
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  If you identify them, you can work around it.
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  You can see what it is you and I both know arrogance.
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  It's disgusting. We all have no time for arrogant
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  people. But if we don't think about it,
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  we may fall into the same tree, fall into the same exact pit as
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  anybody else that we allow it to be.
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  If we identify. However, if we're clear on where
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  there's arrogance existing, we'll be careful and we'll
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  notice that and we'll be disgusted by it and therefore
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  not fall into the trap. These are his points when it
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  comes to these four. And it has to be our job to
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  identify and to figure out the levels.
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  We know big arrogance is a guy walking in, you know, head held
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  high without that. But there are layers to that.
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  There are, you know, even people who carry themselves humbly with
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  you, Moody, and there's still levels of arrogance within them.
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  Everyone's got it to different levels and it's our job to
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  cleanse ourselves of these traits.
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  And then you become the most beautiful, likable, humble and
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  by the way, very successful person.
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  But if you allow arrogance to exist on different levels, it
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  just takes you down as totally you stand, the more you are at
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  risk of being hit by something high, right.
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  But if we bend ourselves low or protected that same idea when it
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  comes to arrogance. That's one example of the form
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  we don't we have to work. Go and stop with this.
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  These are trace. These things have to be extra.