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When You & Your Significant Other Are Not On The Same Spiritual Page · Spunky Spirit with Cari Mugz

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Hello and welcome to this episode of Spunky Spirit. I am psychic medium,
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carry mugs and this time this episode, we're going to talk about when your
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spouse or your significant other, or someone important to you in your life is
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not on the same spiritual frequency as you or And I'm not I'm not saying
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in this in it I'm better, You're a better person than them. It's
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just that spirituality is such a What I mean by not same frequency, it's
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because everybody's nobody's ever on the same frequency, and nobody's more superior than each
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other in anybody, and nobody's inferior than anybody. But we all are at
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different points of our spiritual journey and sometimes when we are with somebody or our
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significant other or are loved ones, don't when I say not same frequency,
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they don't have the same beliefs, or they're not going through the same spiritual
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awakening, or maybe they're in a religion that believes differently. And you're having
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all of these awakening experiences and you're having all these downloads and these aha moments,
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and such a big change is happening in your life and you believe,
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you believe in you start believing in things that you know mediumship and psychic and
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past lives and acasiak records, and the person you are with is not or
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does not believe in that stuff. And so how do you navigate that and
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how do you get through that? Because I've had lots of people that have,
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you know, messaged me and said, my spouse is not on board
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with this, or my spouse doesn't believe this, or how do you do
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that when the people you love are not or don't believe or not on the
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same page. And so this is really a really hard thing. This caused
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me. In fact, this probably will mostly be me sharing my own experiences
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with this, because this was such chaotic time for me when I was going
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through this, because I thought that I was so crazy and I was a
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certain religion when my gifts started to come out again. So they were there
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when I was little, but I kind of hit them and I thought they
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were evil, and I joined a religion to make them stop. And then
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I hit rock bottom and they came back tenfold, and then they just kept
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going and going. And so I'm going to kind of give you a little
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bit of my experience so you kind of know what to expect or how you
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can navigate your own right because I don't ever you know, I don't ever
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want to condone marriages, splitting or getting divorced over stuff like this, but
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I also don't want you to give up who you are. I want you
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to be authentically you and true to yourself. And sometimes you have to do
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that in a way that you have to be yourself without without carrying what your
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significant other things, or without letting that have a told on you. So
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hopefully, hopefully your significant other is still even though they don't believe what you
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believe, or they don't are not on board with the same thing you believe
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in, hopefully they're still very supportive. Luckily, mine was supportive, so
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mine is totally on board. Now my significant other, parts of my family
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are totally on board. But when I first started doing this, it wasn't
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like that when I first started becoming a medium, well, when I first
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started doing it as a profession, when I first started, which is crazy
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because when I met my husband now it was funny because he told me about
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a bigfoot that he had seen, and I was like, oh, my
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gosh, if you believe in Bigfoot. But at the time when we then
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this is gonna work. But at the time when we got married, I
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still was very much inside of a religion, of a church that I was
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very determined to stay in because I thought that that those were the answers.
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I thought that that was for me, that was what I wanted to be.
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But honestly, I think it just led me to a part where it
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led me to this. It led me to the friends that I needed to
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have, It led me to other things which led me to this. So
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even though it wasn't right for me, it was at that time. And
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so I want you to remember everybody has their own journey and even though what
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you believe in might not be right for them at this time, it will
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be eventually, or they might come around eventually. So don't ever give up.
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But if it's getting to the point where you cannot be who you truly
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want to be. If you've done everything you've can and you've done the counseling
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and you've done all the things, and you deal can't be authentic, then
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you might want to, but that's like last resort. You might want to
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look into what's best for you and your belief system, but that's like only
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if you've tried all the other things. Because I started feeling so guilty when
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I kind of started leaving or having disbeliefs in the church that we were going
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to, because when we got engaged and when we got married, we made
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this commitment to each other, and the church that we belonged to was heavily
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involved in that commitment. And so when I started to figure things out by
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myself, or figure things out that that weren't quite fitting with me or quite
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go and I started to tap into my abilities, and I started to tap
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into them stronger, and I knew my direction was different. It was a
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little struggle for a couple of years because I could feel him pulling away.
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I could feel him being stressed out about it because of his past experiences and
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this religion was very deeply embedded in his family, and so I kind of
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just had to let him do his own thing. I knew I was going
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to do my thing, and at first we even kind of hid what I
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did from his family and so because I didn't want any pressure on him or
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any stress. But it got to the point where they found out because it
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was just it was getting too big. And so he what changed him is
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he was very supportive to me, and he didn't really want me to quit
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my full time job to do mediumship readings, and I just finally was like,
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I have to. It's what I have to do. And I finally
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could prove to him that my mediumship readings were actually bringing in more money than
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my full time job. And then something happened my full time job, and
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I because you know how when spirit or God's says you were going to move,
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so I had to force it. So something happened with some coworkers,
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and I knew it was my time to leave, and so I went and
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I started crying, crying, and I said, I can't do this anymore.
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He says, it's okay if you leave, not that it. He
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was being bossy to me and telling me, but I wanted to. We
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were in a relationship, right, and I feel just feel like that leaving
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my job, which because we had seven kids at home, so leaving my
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job and going to work, going to do a different vogue of different job,
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was something I felt like we needed to talk to together. I wanted
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to be I wanted him to be on board because I because I respected his
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I respected him. It wasn't about him controlling me. If I just would
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have been like, you know what, I'm quitting and leaving, he would
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have been scared to death, but he would have honored me in that too.
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But we as a couple decided that that's what was going to happen.
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And so then he kind of saw that my business started getting bigger and bigger
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and bigger, and more people were tapping into my gift or loving my gift
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or coming for healing, and that's a whole different thing. But so then
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COVID happened, and because I could tell before that he was struggling. He
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was struggling because I had stopped going to our church and he would still go,
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and I know people would ask him all the time how I was,
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Carrie, and I would feel sorry for him, and all this stuff,
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and I felt bad, and I did at times wonder if we were going
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to make it through it, not because we didn't didn't love each other,
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but because I knew it was important to him. I knew that this was
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kind of a thing that was important to the relationship, and it was his
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life. It was something he was born and bred throughout his whole life.
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And so COVID happened, and we stayed home and he didn't have to go
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to church and more, and then he started looking into what fit for him
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and what was and he realized that half of his most of all of his
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anxiety was gone, and he started to think, well, God shouldn't give
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us anxiety, like any spiritualists shouldn't give you anxiety. And so he kind
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of started looking into it on his own, and he which has to happen.
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You, guys, you can't push your loved one into a belief system.
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You have to let them do it on their own. You have to
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let them do this journey on their own. You can't force them. You
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can't tell them. You can't you can't. I mean you can say,
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I mean, you can give him an ultimatum, But at the same time,
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they're just going to end up resenting you. You have to be able
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to let him has his faith journey or your spouse have their faith journey and
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you have your faith journey, and hopefully you are helpful to each other.
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Are and not vindictive. Not because spiritual spirituality is hard because it's such a
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huge thing in people's lives, that it plays such an important part in some
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religion's lives and in some spirituality lives. And if you go to you know,
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a very very religious person and say I believe in past lives, I
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believe in star seeds, I believe in they're going to think you're crazy and
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so, but you're not crazy because this is your belief right if you if
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you can believe in those things, but they can believe in, you know,
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things that it's kind of hard because I don't want to put down an
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your religion, right, but but I if they believe in a spirit that
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come that they trust in, it's just hard because I believe in Jesus.
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I didn't make I didn't want this to become a religious thing. I do
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believe in God in Jesus, but I believe them in a different capacity than
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what normal religious capacities believe them in I believe Jesus was here to teach us
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what we are capable of doing, and very much loves us. But I
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don't feel like he was here to be worshiped, And I feel like he
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was here to help and love and it is all unconditional and he does love,
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but I just also don't believe that he is. It has to be
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obedient, it has to be his way, it has to be you do
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do. It's a hard thing, but if your significant other just does believe
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that, then it can clash, right, and your relationship can clash.
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And so spirituality might be something that you don't talk about for a while.
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You don't talk about it even though it's super important your relationship is between you
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two, and it's not something that's based on If it was started based on
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a spiritual foundation, then that's going to be tough. But if it wasn't
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based started based on a spiritual foundation, and it was based on your love
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for each other, then that's going to be a whole other ballgame. So
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it just depends on how you know, how your really relationship started. Now
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with me, he did slowly start to believe he's still started. I mean
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he's still there's some things. We'll watch movies sometimes or we'll watch documentaries and
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they'll talk about different different aspects of spirituality and I'll be like, oh yeah,
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I know that, and oh yeah that's true, and he'll be like,
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what you knew? That hacked to tell me? And I'm like,
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because I didn't want to. I want you to be on your own spiritual
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journey. I want you to find it. I don't want to just take
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my beliefs and throw them on you and make you keep them. So I'm
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not gonna lie. This is a really tough situation. If you are in
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it, and you are in it right now, all I can tell you
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is just have patience and trust. Trust that this is your journey. Trust
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is that this is their journey. Trust that it's going to work out.
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And if it does get to the point, you know, where you've tried
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everything and you've gone to counseling and you've tried to talk about it, and
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it becomes almost a controlling thing, then I would maybe suggest looking into where
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you're truly happy, because you are here to find joy and even though your
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joy is not dependent on other people, your spouse and your significant other,
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has a whole big part of that. And if they can't if there,
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if they can't at least accept that you're on this journey and that you that
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your spiritual growth is different, then that might be an issue because spiritual growth
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is so important to your growth, and if that you've got someone that's holding
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you back or someone that's stopping you, you can only be patient for so
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long, right, So I just feel bad because I just remember the torment
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and the chaos that would be inside me when I first started coming out,
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not only from my you know, not only because I was so scared of
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what other people would think of me, but because I I I promised,
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I had promised my husband that I was going to be in this religion forever
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and that I was going to do you know, it was based on that
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religion, and so I didn't blame him if he didn't want to like stay
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in it, if it wasn't going to be what he thought. And so
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there was lots of conversations and lots of loving and understanding. And I know
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there are people in our lives that think that I forced this on him or
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I subjected him to this, but he did this all on his own I
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let him have his own journey, and you know what, I was very
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very blessed and very very very very blessed that he came around or he came
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into his own spiritual journey. And we're still not on the same page.
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We kind of ore on the same page, but there's still things he's learning
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that he's like, oh my gosh, that's still crazy. And there's still
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things that I see from spirit or during readings that or that I learned,
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and I'm like, ooh, I'm not going to tell him that because he's
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going to think that's crazy. And then like three or four weeks later,
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he's telling me about this podcast he listened to you and this is what he
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found. I'm like, yes, so sometimes it works out, I mean
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a lot. Most of the time it's going to work out. Most of
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the time it works out, I promise you, no matter how it ends,
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it's going to work out. But working out. If you would have
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told me in the beginning that this was how it's going to work out for
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me, back then, I would have thought that's scary or that's not you
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know, that's super scary. But now it's like the best thing ever.
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So have lots of patience with those people that are around you that do not
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don't ever let them demean you or belittle you because of your beliefs or tease
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you. Don't give them that control, and create boundaries there. Create boundaries
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that protect you so you don't feel like you're inferior or you feel like you're
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crazy, because if they make you feel like that, that's not okay.
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But what you need to do is just maybe have lots and lots of talks
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about where you're at and where you see this going, and if your spiritual
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significance or your spiritual beliefs have an effect on the bottom line of your relationship,
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and or if it's something that you can deal with, if it's something
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and you know, and if your significant other says, well, I just
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don't want you to talk about it around me, then that's okay. Don't
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talk about it. Don't talk about it around them, and if it has
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to do. The way it gets kind of complicated is when it's your kids
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and you're kind of trying to teach the kids one thing and teach the kids
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the other thing. And that's when that's why blended marriages and religions are really
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hard and I feel bad because there is no one fits all kind of thing.
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But at the end of the day, the one thing that does matter
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is that you matter. And it's not selfish. It's that you need to
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be true to who you are. And if that is sticking to your beliefs
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at whatever cost, that means sticking to your beliefs whatever cost. And if
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your significant other doesn't allow that, then I would look into But you got
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to make sure too, because you've got to make sure that you are being
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supportive of his beliefs and supportive of So when my husband would still go to
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church, or my husband still wanted to do certain things that that religion required,
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I let him. I let him do it because even though I didn't
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want to, I let him him do his thing because I had to honor
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his spiritual beliefs. So if you can get in a place where you can
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honor each other's spiritual beliefs but not make fun of them and not make somebody
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feel inferior because of them, you're going on the right track. If that
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does involve that you feel inferior or superior, then that's when you've got to
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probably go to counseling or seek out some sort of middle ground, and that's
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what's that's what's going to be the hardest. But I promise you, if
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you have patience, it will most a lot of times it will work out
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a lot of times that you're the you'll start to be on the same page,
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or you'll just understand each other's You'll understand it with each other. You'll
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understand where they're coming from, and they'll understand where you're coming from. If
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you have enough love for somebody that you can let them believe how they want
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and do what they want in far as far as the spiritual realm, then
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then then it should be okay. I know every situation is different and every
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and I was one of the lucky ones where I was supported even though the
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beliefs were different. I was supported, I was loved. I do know
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that he kind of felt like maybe it was his fault. He did kind
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of take on some of the blame of me not wanting to be part of
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it anymore, part of this church or religion, and he felt felt like
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it was his, but that was because of past things that had happened in
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other relationships with him. It wasn't about me. And so you really have
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to work on it. Like, That's why I think that counseling would be
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a really good idea. Someone that you can talk to about your beliefs and
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know that you're not crazy and understand you and be able to go home and
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still be felt loved and listened to and heard, and just know that sometimes
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you're not going to be able to share your experiences. You're not going to
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be able to share. You're not gonna be able to share your experiences with
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your loved one because they're not going to understand. So if you go to
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a past life reading and they give you this awesome reading, sorry someone,
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and you can't go home and share it with your with your significant other,
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right because you know that they won't believe. They'll think it's kind of stupid,
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and but that's okay because eventually they will. So I was kind of
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in the same boat with mine. But then one day for his birthday,
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I got him a palm reading. He was very receptive, he loved it,
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loved it, and that helped him go forward right because he was open
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minded and it was an awesome experience. So be kind to yourself, give
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yourself grace. Know that there are so many people out there that are going
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through the same thing. But be honor their journey. Don't try and push
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them into anything that they're not ready for, but make sure that they honor
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yours at the same time, and you feel honored. So you might have
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to have those hard conversations, and even though you might not be able to
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share all your experiences spiritually with them yet, then just know that you find
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somebody that you can find some like minded people that you can be around that
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you can share your experiences and have the same kind of effect, because that
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will help a lot, and then you won't feel like you're so crazy.
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So I love you guys so much, and I hope that this helps,
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because there's nothing harder, I think than being with somebody or in a relationship
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that this is where you don't see eye to eye. And I promise you
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there are so many there are so many, so many relationships out there that
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go through this, that go through this, because whether you are in a
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certain religion and have a faith crisis and one of you leaves and one of
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them you wants to stay, or if one of you has an awakening and
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the other one's not like on board with that, or these new beliefs come
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in. It's hard because awakening has change people. Faith crisis has changed people.
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And so it's hard on the one that isn't changing because and it's hard
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on the one that is changing because there's a significant difference. But I promise
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you, if you work together and you have somebody who's very supportive and you're
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supportive of them, you can work through this. If there's somebody that is
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not supportive and will not see it, then that's going to be a whole
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different story. And that's going to be hard to be your authentic self and
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be who you truly are. So you're going to have to dig deep and
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see how you're going to navigate that, because nothing's worse than going through life
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not being who you are authentically. And so I'm just saying, if there's
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somebody in your life that's like controlling enough that they choose that for you,
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then you need to maybe look at how that's going to affect you. Okay.
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I love you guys so much, and I'm trying to think. I
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do have a class this week called Step It Up. It's on Thursday night.
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It's in Idaho Falls, it is local. I think I do have
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a few spots left, so Thursday night from six to nine. It's teaching
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you how to step into your power, use your gifts, to define your
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gifts and not be scared of your gifts, and to be who you are,
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be who you are and be able to connect to yourself and to do
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spirit. So and then the week after that, I do have an online
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class learning about your guides and if you took my online, if you took
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my Guides class in locally, then it's the same class. You don't need
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to take it, but if you couldn't take it and you want to take
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it from online, if you're not local, then that would be great.
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So I love you guys so much and I will talk to you next week