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Speaker 1: Whatever it may be that you struggled from as someone
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in a position of vulnerability or feeling taken advantage of.
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There is such a strength that comes from that low
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and I am a firm believer of utilizing that and
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harnessing that strength to create something that is instrumental in
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your lives and in the lives of other people.
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Speaker 2: Let's start at that. I just want to get to
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the heart of how you're able to do it, because
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I think for a lot of people listening, they want
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to be more comfortable being alone. They want to be
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able to create their own version of success, not be
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dictated by the one that's been brought about by their parents,
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or society or the industry. How did you do that.
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Speaker 3: Oh, my goodness.
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Speaker 1: I think it stems from the initial feeling of being
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uncomfortable and knowing that you just don't want to be
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in that space for very long, right, so you start
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to look for resources to help you get out of
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being uncomfortable. I'd say from a young age, I was
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very independent. I didn't have like a I had a
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great family, and I had a great upbringing as a whole,
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but there was a lot of unstable elements. My parents
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were not a good ideal marriage, I guess scenario. Growing up,
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I didn't see what marriage and what like a combatible
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relationship really looked like. And I learned to at that
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point sort of take control of my own life and
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taking care of my brother, make sure that I always
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made money. I was a little kid hustler. It was
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really weird if I think back to the things that
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I was doing, like making clothes, selling clothes, rhinestoning at
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anything that was popular at the time. I learned to
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do it very quickly. People wanted braids, people wanted their
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ears pierced. I was like all over the place. Okay,
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when I think about it, I'm like just to make
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school lunch, you know, like money for lunch. Or when
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I was vegan, I had to buy my own groceries.
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So I learned like, Okay, I'm having a garage sale
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this weekend because I want to get follow your heart mao,
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this thing, you know what I mean. Like everything was
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like one for one, and I learned that it wasn't
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going to happen on its own. So regardless of my
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upbringing and sort of the chaos that was going on
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at home, which at the time I thought was normal
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and which is even more weird. I knew it was weird,
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and I knew it was uncomfortable, and I knew that
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they weren't a good fit for one another. But I
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accepted it, and I sort of became my own adult
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at a young age. Meanwhile, I'm acting, I'm in an
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adult world. I didn't go to high school. I really
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wasn't even in middle school for very often. I was
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on a series at the time. I was the only
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kid on the show. So I went to school in
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a trailer, a tiny trailer, just me and this incredibly
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political teacher that wanted to push every election on this
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like fourteen fifteen year old kid.
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Speaker 3: So learn a little.
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Speaker 1: About that and what not to do. And I think
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one of the things I learned very quickly was, like
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I said, I had control over certain things. So I
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started to control what I ate to a point where
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it was unhealthy. Did go through an eating disorder while
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being on a show. I've never really admitted that, but yeah,
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I dropped down significantly. I mean I must have been
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at one point my lowest fifteen sixteen years old, seventy
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something pounds.
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Speaker 3: I was on a CBS series, so.
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Speaker 1: The network was not happy, and in order to a
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pease them, they did so much to try and help.
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They made sure that I had tons of vegan food
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and smoothies. They made sure I was going to meetings
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in the morning.
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Speaker 3: I was so confused.
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Speaker 1: I didn't think I had a problem. I wasn't being
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honest with myself. I was trying to sort of cope
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with being very quickly emerged into an adult world while
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knowing that I had a brother who was sort of
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still in the home scenario that wasn't healthy, and wanted
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to help him, and wanted to help my family, and
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realize that I need to be making a lot of
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money because money is going to help all of this,
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and so the drive was on another level. And having
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control over the things that I could, which was food
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and working out and staying as busy as I could
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and being as motivated as I could really drove me
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to skin and bones. But I saw the light pretty quickly,
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and I'm going to be so honest about that. I'm
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so grateful that I have this consciousness in me where
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I don't need to go down a rabbit hole very
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long to learn that the bottom is up.
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Speaker 3: And I learned that I had no choice but to
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be healthy.
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Speaker 1: And that's where I started to talk more about health.
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And that's when I really started to lean on what
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I was and what gave me purpose and what made
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me happy.
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Speaker 3: And speaking up for animals.
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Speaker 1: And taking jobs that I knew were positive and fun
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and interesting and not dark and deep and too far
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stretched from the imagination was what I wanted to do.
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I became very selective and what I worked on I
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then ended up on Nickelodeon. Therefore, because I knew that
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that's family friendly, that's happy, that's colorful, that makes me
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feel good, like I'm getting in the lives of children,
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which like for me, that's a game changer.
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Speaker 3: I love children.
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Speaker 1: I think they're obviously they're the future, and I want
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to have a significant.
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Speaker 3: Role in their lives.
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Speaker 1: I took being on Nickelodeon so seriously that I knew
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being a role model meant everything to me. I'm a
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big sister, I'm the oldest of my cousins, and being
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on a show where I knew kids were watching meant
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that I had a position in their lives, that I
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was someone that they could look up to.
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Speaker 3: And so that's been really powerful, and to.
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Speaker 1: This day, I still have young kids, teens, adults you
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know that grew up watching me on the last twelve
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years of being on Nickelodeon come up to me and
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have nice things to say, and I just want to
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keep that trajectory going. That's really important to me.
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Speaker 2: That's amazing that you see it as a responsibility, almost
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because you know that people are watching you, people are
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seeing you as a role model. As I said earlier,
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this show for me is really to talk to real models,
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people who can express their reality and people who I
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think are real models for the world to follow. You're
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definitely one of them in so many areas of your life.
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But I think it's really special that you took it
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as a responsibility because I think it's so easy at
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that age to be on Nickelodeon, to have fame, to
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have success, and to just enjoy it. Like it's like,
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why do you even need to care about anyone else?
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Because you've worked on to get there, But it seems
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like you've always just had this responsibility in your life.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's weird because sometimes I wish that I had
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a little bit more of that, because I find myself
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wanting to help so much along the way and wanting
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to get to a certain place so that I could
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help more people. That I don't celebrate the small victories
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in the timeline, you know, Like I just kind of
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know that there's so many people and so many animals
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and so many resources in the planet. I mean, you
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could go down forever, right like you can think about
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and I think for me, one of the things that
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is always in the back of my head is my
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family and the people that sort of suffer with things
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in my family, my brother who feels like he's almost
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like my own child. He suffers with addiction and has
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been homeless for probably on and off for about a
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year or two. Sorry, I've never actually, like you spoke
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about it. So that for me to see that in
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my own four walls, and like the closest thing to me,
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the kid who I mean, he slept in my room
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the majority of my life.
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Speaker 3: He had his own bedroom, but he slept in.
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Speaker 1: My room on a trundle bed because I feel like
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I was like his safety net. So I've learned that
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I want to be that because I know that I
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have that capability, and I want to be that for
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more people. You know, I could be that for him
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and I could do as much as I possibly can,
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but I want to help people before they get to
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a place where it's harder to make a change, So
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I've really tried to make that a big goal of mine.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think thank you for sharing that by
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it easier. And yeah, thank you for being so open
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and vulnerable and just sharing so so genuinely here because
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I don't think that you're someone that ever hides anything.
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I never feel that way, like when I'm following you
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on Instagram or I see any of the content you're making.
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It's just from the heart. It feels that way to
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me anyway. And when I'm hearing you today, I'm actually
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loving learning about you even more because it's only making
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me appreciate everything else you do. Thank you, And it's
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it's crazy because I align with so much of what
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you're saying in my own life. So my sister, I
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actually my sister's nickname that I've given her as kid
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because I treat her as my kid, like my child.
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So it's so funny that you said that with your
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brother and similar in our parents. I felt I mediated
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my parents' marriage growing up, so I can definitely resonate
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with that. And then I resonate with something else. I'm
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listening to you and I'm just kidding, like, wow, we
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have there's so much in common. And I know you
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were saying it earlier when you were outside, But the
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same as the not celebrating little wins. Yeah, I rarely
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do that because I see how much work that needs
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to be down in the world. So I'm constantly focusing
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on what's next to solve or not, what's next to heal,
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what's next to have an impact on totally? Where do
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you where do you kind of see that going or
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how do you want that to grow? Because I mean
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we haven't even started talking about all the great activism
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work you're doing, which I think is important for people
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listening to know. But how do you see yourself kind
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of transforming those elements we've just spoken about now forward?
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How do you want them to change?
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Speaker 1: Sure, So I've been sort of in a lot of
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ways I've earned, but I've also been given this platform
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just from really being on TV and being in people's
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lives and feeling like they're connected to me. So I
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want to utilize that. I want to grow that, and
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I want to utilize that for the good. I think that, yes,
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I'm invested in these companies, and I like to call
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them conscious companies because they're not purely just for the
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monetary investment. They're there because I see a bigger picture.
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So companies like Outstanding Foods, I know that they have
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a direct effect in the lives of animals, not to
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mention the health and the other trickle effects that come
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along with it. But companies like Sugar Taco I believe
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in making vegan food, healthy, organic vegan food that taste delicious,
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accessible at a good price point. Because that's an argument
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of people's you know, they have this idea that veganism
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is too expensive, it's not attainable, it's not realistic for
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a normal person's lifestyle. That is what I want to
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scratch right off the bat. That is so far from
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the truth, and I feel like just not to go
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down another rabbit hole. But spending money on what you
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put into your body, much like spending the time and
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whatever investment you make to work out or health wellness,
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whatever that means, meditating, whatever that investment you're making, has
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such a huge impact in the big picture of your life.
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A lot of people spend all this money on healthcare
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on pills on things to make this instant fix in
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their lives. When if you just do a little bit
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of the work along the way, and you're really being
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mindful of how you create you as a whole and
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what you do to help yourself thrive, that.
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Speaker 3: Is a non factor.
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Speaker 1: I don't know, knock on woob, but I don't know
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the last time I've seen a doctor spent money at
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a pharmacist. All of the above, never, I don't even
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take an I build a tile in all nothing. But
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I really do believe that a lot of that is
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because I make conscious efforts to drink water, to work out,
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to love myself, to meditate, to do something that makes
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me feel whole and balanced. So that goes along without
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saying right with these conscious companies, like if you can
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make these baby steps along the way and they become
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easy to implement into your lifestyle, then hopefully the bigger
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picture is that someone will gravitate towards either eating plant
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based or taking better care of themselves and so on
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and so forth. So that's sort of the companies that
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I've invested in thus far. I have a couple that
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are on the ground level startups. I'm sure you know
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where it's you know.
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Speaker 2: And I'm excited right.
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Speaker 1: As a future customer, I appreciate that.
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Speaker 2: But I love the way you do it because if
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you don't follow Daniello on Instagram, you should go and
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follow her. Because you make it fun like it's not preachy.
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It's never condescending. You never sound like you're better than anyone,
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or you've got it right or you've got it figured out.
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It always comes from that space of just it's you
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make it look fun. I saw you on your recent
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video you went on the streets out with the big
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Pig mascot.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you're with pig out.
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Speaker 2: Bacon, and I just I loved it. I was just like,
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this energy is so fun and it's and even the
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fact when were speaking about it earlier and you mentioned
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it now about how you've focused on making vegan food
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accessible and affordable, I just think the way you're thinking
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is so far ahead, Like you're so far ahead of
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how others are thinking about helping people. Thank you and yeah,
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and I love.
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Speaker 3: That, thank you.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: I just think that there's so many people that are underserved,
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and there's a there's these stereotypes that go along with that, right,
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you don't make a lot, you have to eat a
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certain way. They pump these saturated cities that are lower
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income with the McDonald's, with the jack in the box,
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with the elements that these people can afford. Right, They're
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they're not serving these these these communities in the right way.
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That that's setting people up for the opposite of success.
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So to create awareness via social media and using your
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voice of the platform that you have to implement these
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different lifestyle changes along the way. I think that person
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tells their friend, tells their mom tells that. That's the
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way that I think. So the more honest I can
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be with people about how I live, and really it's
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just how I live. It's not like perfect in any means,
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but it's just for me. It's worked. And when something works, like,
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I just want people to know. And I think it's
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like it's our right to share with people and help
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people along the way, because why wantn't you if you're
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thriving in your own right then why why didn't you
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share whatever tips or tricks that you have. And so
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I've sort of started a little pet project just on
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Instagram called Daniella's Digest and it kind of goes in
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different terms of the word, right, So it's like, yes,
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what we put into our body and we digest it
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and all those kind of things. But also in general,
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like I just want to break down different articles and
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different facts and share inspiring messages and eventually I see
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myself interviewing people in this space, the health and wellness space,
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but also just always reminding ourselves to keep it light
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and fun, because that's how I got into these people's lives.
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I'll never forget that I do sitcom.
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Speaker 3: I do comedy.
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Speaker 1: That's my forte and that's the approach I have in life.
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You know, if we can't laugh at it, even if
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it is deep and dark and scary, we have to
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find the light or else there's no optimism, there's no
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potential for change or innovation. You have to constantly be
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kind of seeking out the light even in the darkest
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of times. And that's what I want this platform to
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sort of be, and I want that to resonate with
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people if they're feeling like they're not motivated today or
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they need a nudge, like, that's what I want to
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be there to do, and I, yeah, that's excited about it.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, go find out on Instagram. Danielle's digest Right, Yeah,
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I head it down on the notes. That's awesome. Yeah,
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I love that you're doing that, and I can agree
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with you more. My whole reasoning behind doing video at
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a time when most people in the health and wellness space,
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we're doing courses, they were writing books and they were speaking,
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and I was just like, we need to get this
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out to everyone. And my whole goal when I first
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started making videos was to make content that was at
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the pace of entertainment. So I wanted it to feel
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like a short movie. I wanted it to feel like
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a song. I wanted it to feel like entertainment as
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opposed to education, but for it to have insightful messages
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within it. Now, I'm not funny, so I had to
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make meaningful, meaningful videos that are not comedic. But I
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love it when comedy or anything is used from the
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point of view of I love it when comedy or
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any of this is viewed with the point of getting
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people towards the light. I could agree with you more,
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and I'm so glad you're doing that.
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Speaker 3: We need that more more, thank you.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, we genuinely need that more and more.
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Speaker 3: Thank you.
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Speaker 2: And I think the more of us that use our
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platforms and our skills and the talents that we have
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in whatever way it is to make things accessible, easy,
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relevant to everyone in the world, the more likely we're
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going to see it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: They exist for a reason, and you could use them
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however you choose, and I choose to think, I'm not
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here for a long time. I'm here for a good time,
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and I'm going to try to make some good out
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of it. I want to do that for people. And well,
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thank you, So, I mean, please, you're preaching to.
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Speaker 3: The choir, Okay.
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Speaker 1: So it's been so awesome to be able to see
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the content that you're creating, and honestly, it never.
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Speaker 3: Stops at that.
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Speaker 1: Like there's so I just I love the word trickle
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effect because I feel like that is the perfect word
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to explain what is happening in our generation and in
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the generation of social media.
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Speaker 3: You just never know.
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Speaker 1: And I think the unknown in that regard is optimism,
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and that's what I'm sort of striving for, is more
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of that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. I wanted to pick that out because I think
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so many people in our generation also have a negative
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view of social media. Yeah, and I find that's because
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we're so consumed by it rather than using it purposefully,
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and so we find that people actually feel they're wasting
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I know, I saw a study that said people are
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wasting about six hours a day on social media doing
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something meaningless or insignificant. How you get your optimism for
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social media and the trickle effect? I know I get it,
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But how did you get to that point where you
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are like, actually social media is helping, it can work.
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Speaker 1: I think it started with realizing, you know, it's no
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different than taking that few minutes for yourself in the
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beginning of the day to drink your coffee or read
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a magazine or whatever it may be, watch the news.
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You're getting some sort of information to sort of and
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that really does trigger what's your day is.
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Speaker 3: Going to be?
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Speaker 1: Like, what's going to sort of ignite that spirit in you?
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And so I think people can use social media to
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do just that. They just have to curate the right
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social media that they're sort of funneling into themselves. And
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that's why I feel like accounts like yours are so
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I mean, that is the proof in the pudding right there,
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starting your day off. And I know that you're strategic
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about when you post, because when I turn my phone
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on and it's the first video I see. I'm grateful
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because I know that that's what my brain needs to absorb.
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If I'm going to choose to use social media, I'm
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going to choose to sort of put these positive images
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and these positive messages into me rather than seeing I
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hate to say it, because no discount to them. They're
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a hustler in their own right, and I'm sure they
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have their own purpose in mind. But I don't need
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to see one hundred different beauty bloggers and ootds to
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make myself feel like I'm good, you know, good enough.
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It doesn't do that for me personally, and some people
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do resonate with that, but personally, my goals are so
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different than that. And so I think for someone out
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there who looks at social media in a negative way,
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be sure that you're using social media to benefit you
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and you're not just a consumer, and maybe take the
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approach of trying to create before you consume. I think
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that that's a really good tool to go about, because
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creating something that can have its own trickle effect makes
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you feel like you're part of a bigger purpose. Consuming
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social media unless you're using it purposefully, can really weigh
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on you.
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Speaker 2: So well said Oh, thank you so well, said, create
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before you consume. I totally agree. When you're part of something,
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When you're part of creating something, it doesn't take you
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away from anything, right, when you're part of creating what
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everyone else is seeing. And and I have to say that
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I get motivated by Danielle's extreme workout regimes, like I'm
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just like, wow, I need to Yesterday you were pushing
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a truck like I was just like what. I was like,
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oh my god, Like you pushed it and then you
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were chasing it and then you ran around it. Oh goodness,
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and I was just like, wow, this is so ethic.
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I was so impressed. Right, but it's yeah, it's great.
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But that that discipline you have, and it's I feel
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the same way about yours. You post so many and
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you do make it funny too, Like I remember there's
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a time when you being a vote Toast every day.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'm.
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Speaker 2: A huge Avo Toast fan. So it was just it
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was just I couldn't agree with you more. I think
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also when when you're also able to connect, I find
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that the great the thing I love about social media
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is that you really you really attract the energy you create.
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You really attract the energy you put out. So if
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you're always putting out positive, meaningful messages, whether they're comedic
22:03
or whether they're from my side, more inspirational or positive,
22:06
whatever they may be, you start attracting people. And that's
22:09
how we connected. Yeah, Like we met once, but then
22:11
I was following in social media. I was like, oh wow,
22:13
we aligned so much, and then we had a relationship
22:17
built up out of social media. Yeah, and we've not
22:20
met often. This is, in fact, no, the second time
22:22
we've been together. But I feel like I know you
22:24
so well. And that's what I've loved about it that
22:28
when I've accelerated a relationship. And I say this to everyone,
22:31
if you built up a good connection with someone online,
22:34
go offline as soon as you can, like try and
22:36
meet with that person for coffee or have lunch together
22:40
or whatever. It is obviously verifying that they're reel and
22:42
all the rest of it, but go and do that
22:45
because you're going to build an amazing relationship with that person,
22:48
you know. Don't let it just be online. If you
22:50
can go and meet that person, do it.
22:52
Speaker 3: I love that piece of advice.
22:53
Speaker 1: I think that's so great, and especially in this time
22:56
where so many people can go years or longer just
23:00
having these fiction not fictional, they're real, they're real relationships.
23:03
But without putting a face to the name and having
23:06
that physical connection. I think there's so much more that
23:08
can come of that. Yeah, so I totally agree with
23:12
that that it's powerful.
23:13
Speaker 2: I want to go back to when you are talking
23:15
a bit about your parents and growing up and now
23:17
obviously you're engaged. Yeah, you engaged us December. You are
23:20
sharing congratulations, thank you, and I was. I was lucky
23:24
enough to meet your film say as well, which is
23:25
awesome when we first met and you guys are so
23:28
cute together. I love it.
23:30
Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you.
23:32
Speaker 1: We work at it, you know, it's the biggest part
23:34
of it, right, you want something so bad, you work
23:36
at it.
23:38
Speaker 3: We just connected.
23:39
Speaker 1: We work well together for the most part, and I
23:41
think we support one another's endeavors and we respect each
23:44
other's independence. But we're very much a unit.
23:48
Speaker 3: I know we were.
23:48
Speaker 1: Talking earlier because a lot of people ask me about
23:50
the wedding, and there's so much of that on social media.
23:53
You know, these big moments, these big chapters in your
23:56
life are celebrated to the nines. I mean, the likes,
23:59
the common the excitement around the buildup of an engagement.
24:03
Speaker 3: Or a proposal or a wedding or whatever.
24:05
Speaker 1: It almost makes you feel like everything in the middle
24:07
is insignificant, which I think is such a misconception, because
24:11
it's the day to day that feels like the real
24:13
success in a relationship. Wow. You know, we can all
24:16
have these moments where we celebrate one another week and
24:18
everyone around us is celebrating our love, and there's so
24:20
much just anticipation around that. But really it's the day
24:25
to day grind. It's no different than building a company.
24:28
It's that day to day grind that inevitably sets you
24:31
up for a successful business or relationship. And I feel
24:35
like we were doing that and the wedding is not
24:39
on the forefront of my mind. I'm really more focused
24:41
on being the right fit and the right partnership and
24:45
on that note, so yeah, I think that that's like
24:49
my main focus is just being the right fit and
24:52
having the right partnership together.
24:54
Speaker 2: What do you guys do to do that? What's your approach?
24:59
How long have you been together?
25:00
Speaker 3: We've been together almost eight years?
25:01
Speaker 2: Amazing, So you've been together for eight years. So anyone
25:04
who's listening, that's real experience. Yeah, that's not you know,
25:07
that's not just oh we've been together for a year.
25:08
So you've been together for eight years. What have you learned?
25:11
What has worked for you? Work can help other people.
25:13
Speaker 1: He was my first relationship, so when I say I've learned,
25:16
I have learned.
25:18
Speaker 3: Okay.
25:18
Speaker 1: In terms of the moving in together and having this
25:22
co lifestyle was easy. That was easy, peasy. I love
25:26
I love it, which is interesting, right, Most people are
25:28
like moving in is a very you know, it could
25:30
go one of two ways, and for us it was
25:31
like I love to nurture and I love to nest
25:34
and anyone who's around me it comes over. I just
25:37
I crave that taking care of element, Like that's something
25:41
that feeds my soul.
25:42
Speaker 3: So easy, that fit right in.
25:44
Speaker 1: I think for me, I have an independence element that
25:47
I've established since a young age, and so being in
25:52
a relationship sometimes that that can be a little bit
25:55
of a tricky element. But he's also an entrepreneur in
25:58
his own right, so we sort of balance each other out.
26:00
Like I found that person who can respect that quality
26:03
in me and lifts that quality up rather than saying
26:06
Oh yeah, it's another dreamer. It's another dream or whatever,
26:09
you know. Like, so we work at it and we
26:12
we've been figuring out how to communicate along the years
26:16
and like that changes as you evolve as humans, and
26:19
it's it's been fun. And I think that, to me
26:22
is what keeps us interesting is that it's not monotonous.
26:26
I mean, it's monotonous in a way that we're one
26:28
for each other and that's it, But it's not monotonous
26:32
in our daily, weekly, monthly grind, Like we love adventures
26:36
and we love trying new things, and we talk about
26:39
you know, not falling into the you know, conventional relationship
26:45
or what that may be for some people.
26:47
Speaker 2: So yeah, I love that we were both talking about
26:49
our what's the right word our. It's it's like lack.
26:56
Speaker 1: Of status quo, our not discussions almost like we're not
27:01
trying to follow the rules.
27:04
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know who invented the rules in them,
27:07
I don't agree with any of them, yes, And why
27:11
do they have to be tied to a certain age,
27:14
demographic or a certain stage of life? And I've never
27:18
I've just never thought like that. I've never felt that
27:20
life is a set of stages that you have to
27:23
live in order. And I feel like the more you
27:26
do that, you push away from what you were saying,
27:28
which is falling in love with the process, and then
27:31
it becomes about the destination, it becomes about the next milestone.
27:34
And I was saying that to someone. Someone was asking
27:36
me the question the other day. They've said, Jay, how
27:38
do you stay detached from the result? Like, how do
27:41
you stay detached from an expectation of how something should go?
27:46
And I said that it's when you get to the
27:49
degree that you're getting all of what you need from
27:51
the process. To that degree, you don't need it from
27:54
a milestone or an end. But if you're not getting
27:56
any juice from the process, then you're going to wait
27:59
for that a war. You're going to wait for the milestone,
28:01
You're going to wait for the big the big day,
28:05
because you're not getting any happiness or joy. But if
28:07
you're getting happiness and joy from the process, then you're
28:09
not looking for it anywhere else.
28:12
Speaker 3: Dead on, dead on, And.
28:14
Speaker 2: That's where rules and norms.
28:17
Speaker 3: I see that happen so much in our generation.
28:21
Speaker 1: And maybe it's because I'm at this age and I'm
28:24
obviously in that age where everyone is sort of celebrating
28:27
those big milestones, but there's not enough of celebrating the
28:33
things that I feel like take more inner strength, which
28:35
are owning a company or working for someone, or striving
28:40
to do something in the activist community, or speaking about
28:44
real problems or issues in their family, whatever it may be, Like,
28:47
all these different little things along the way that make
28:50
you up to be this whole person, in this happy individual.
28:54
It's not always about the wedding or the baby show
28:57
or the big birthday bash or whatever it may be
28:59
thatkind of creates this identity of who you are for
29:02
that moment, because then you set yourself up for failure.
29:04
Speaker 3: You get to that peak, it's where do you go
29:07
from there? Yeah, And that's why you hear about these girls.
29:09
Speaker 1: I have friends all the time, and I'm like, I'm
29:11
going through the blues, the post wedding blues, going through
29:14
the depression of like, what was my life for a
29:16
whole year and now I have to reinvent the wheel
29:19
And that must feel so tricky.
29:22
Speaker 2: Definitely, And the interesting thing about that is that can
29:24
happen with starting a company, That can happen with totally
29:27
it can have that feeling, can happen with anything. Yes, yes,
29:31
and therefore what I believe me and you're trying to say.
29:34
What we're trying, what we're getting to is almost like
29:37
it shouldn't be around any of those No, it's a
29:40
personal choice. It's that personal exploration, that curiosity. Yeah, because
29:44
there are I know, people who've built successful companies and
29:47
ten years on are now retrying to find their identity.
29:50
Identity was so close linked to that company.
29:52
Speaker 1: That's how I feel about acting, right. I feel like
29:55
for so long my identity was And I was just
29:58
telling a friend of mine, it's like my family and
30:00
my group of friends, like there's the actress, that's the
30:02
girl who you know was on TV or whatever, and
30:05
I'm so different than that identity. Like there's so many
30:09
different layers to all of us. I just I want
30:12
to be the person who expresses the layers in between.
30:15
And I think that's what I want other people to
30:17
feel acceptable doing as well, because there's so much that
30:21
makes us great.
30:22
Speaker 3: Yeah.
30:22
Speaker 2: I love that, expressing the layers in between.
30:24
Speaker 3: Yeah.
30:25
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so true. We can be seen as a
30:27
one dimensional even if you're not. Our job titles make
30:31
us one dimensional. It's like that becomes your imprint, and
30:33
that's what I'm getting. That's why I get excited by
30:36
every time I get asked to send my biography for
30:38
an event I'm speaking out or whatever it is. I
30:40
literally struggle what to write. I didn't even know how
30:44
to describe what I do. And then my mom will
30:46
be like, I want to tell you my friends what
30:47
you do, and I'm like, yeah, I'm not sure, Mom,
30:50
Like how you can explain it? Yes, if I told
30:52
you a title, they wouldn't understand. Yeah, but it's beautiful
30:55
that we are struggling to define ourselves in one sense, yes,
30:59
because we are multi layered and multifaceted with and we
31:03
have so many more dimensions and elements. Yeah, as opposed
31:05
to saying I am this and defining ourselves by a
31:09
word or a job.
31:11
Speaker 1: Absolutely, because then you, by nature somehow instill all this
31:15
happiness and that identity. And what if at some point
31:19
that identity dissipates, yes, or you decide to pivot, and
31:23
then all of a sudden you have to teach the
31:24
people around you that no, that's okay, Like I don't
31:28
resonate as that and that's not all of who I am.
31:31
I'm going to pivot into this and this is also
31:33
a part of who I am, and this also feeds
31:35
me and this also makes me feel empowered. It's a
31:38
tricky thing to sort of navigate sometimes it.
31:41
Speaker 2: Sounds that you had to do that yeh yeah, with
31:42
your friends and family.
31:43
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think little by little.
31:45
Speaker 1: I mean, everyone always thinks that I'm just going to
31:46
fall into another show, and I probably will at some point,
31:49
but I'm taking this time to do what I think
31:52
I'm supposed to do right now, and I think there's
31:54
a bigger purpose behind all of it.
31:56
Speaker 2: How have you connected that with your family and friends? Like,
32:00
how have they been able to see that rise of you?
32:02
Because I guess I've only known that side of it right, right,
32:04
So I've only known you as an activist more than anything, really,
32:08
and I see you as an incredible activist, Like you're
32:11
doing amazing work. So how have the people who've had
32:14
to evolve with you evolved? How have you helped How
32:18
have you helped them see that if it's side of
32:19
you or has it just happened that.
32:20
Speaker 3: You know, it's been really nice?
32:21
Speaker 1: Is that social media is so prevalent because people see
32:24
what I'm doing very quickly and they kind of get
32:27
on board pretty quickly. But no matter what I do,
32:30
I don't know that I'll ever be able to shake
32:32
the actress identity. And I'm okay with it, but I
32:37
just hope that they know that there's so much more
32:40
than that you know, and that's you know, that's all.
32:43
Speaker 2: And I think you've leveraged it, which is what we're
32:45
saying earlier, and that's the best bit. I think that
32:48
you've leveraged that identity to be able to be everything
32:51
else you want to be. Right and people like you said,
32:54
take you seriously. They follow you because of this particular identity,
32:57
but you're showing so I actually think it works hand
32:59
in hand. Yeah, so it works.
33:01
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to shake it too much. But I
33:03
also want people to know there's those layers.
33:05
Speaker 1: They're there, I know, exactly, little bullet points underneath.
33:09
Speaker 2: We need it because I think anyone I speak to
33:12
that wants to be a advocate for change, an ambassador
33:15
and activist. I feel like when you are known for something,
33:19
when you are influential in a particular way, everything you
33:23
do becomes more amplified.
33:25
Speaker 3: I know, it's just the.
33:26
Speaker 2: World we live in.
33:27
Speaker 3: I know, and I'm aware of that. Yeah, No, I know,
33:31
I know.
33:31
Speaker 1: It's just I when I hear that, it's almost like
33:33
I need to reinstill that way of thinking as well,
33:35
because I know that there is a reason why I've
33:38
been given so many amazing opportunities to be on a
33:41
platform or reach more people, and I sometimes forget how
33:47
important that piece is and be so grateful for all
33:50
of that.
33:51
Speaker 2: And with your intention, it's perfect. That's why I think
33:55
I feel very confident saying that to you, because I
33:58
know what your intention is and it's so much deeper.
34:00
So when you have that beautiful intention and then you
34:03
give influence to that intention, that amplification is beautiful. Whereas
34:07
if the intention is just greed, enjoyment, negativity, fame, power, etc.
34:13
And then you give that amplification that never leads to
34:16
any good. And I feel like, I think you'll also
34:20
inspire not only people who watch you or know you
34:24
for what you've done, but also appeers in this space
34:27
to find more meaning in their life too, because I
34:29
find that I was speaking to someone who's a successful
34:33
singer the other day and he was sharing the same
34:36
thing with me that he struggles with the industry and
34:39
the kind of messages that are put out. And I
34:41
was like, yeah, but you can change that. People listen
34:44
to your opinions. So you not turning up to interviews
34:47
and awards shows and actually sharing the right message is
34:51
actually a disservice. Yep, Like, it's actually a disservice because
34:54
you're not turning up makes says nothing. You turning up
34:58
and sharing something says everything. And that's I think you'll
35:01
not only inspire the people that are watching and following
35:04
and part of the community, but inspire peers, which I'm
35:06
excited to see.
35:07
Speaker 3: Oh thank you.
35:08
Speaker 2: When I'm listening to you, what I'm hearing so much
35:12
is I hear passion, I hear meaning, I hear fulfillment.
35:16
And I'm not saying any of that's perfect and we
35:18
both know that and same with my life.
35:20
Speaker 1: M m.
35:21
Speaker 2: But I'm hearing all of that. And in my opinion,
35:24
that comes because you're a person of service, because you're
35:26
an activist, and that identity of yours, that layer of yours,
35:30
is what's fueling all of this, right.
35:33
Speaker 3: Yeah, No, I just had this conversation.
35:34
Speaker 1: I was telling someone the other day they were struggling
35:38
to find out what their identity was with their purposes,
35:40
Like they just feel like they live a more mundane
35:43
lifestyle and they just feel like they're constantly on that
35:45
wheel of just what is the life?
35:47
Speaker 3: What is this?
35:48
Speaker 1: And I said are you serving? And they looked at
35:51
me and they just didn't know what that meant. I said,
35:52
are you serving? Like it could be on the smallest way,
35:55
but are you doing anything for anyone, whether it be
35:58
a friend, family member, community, animal, whatever. That feels like power.
36:05
That is something we all can do. Yeah, that doesn't
36:08
there's no definition that describes someone who serves other than
36:11
it's all of us.
36:12
Speaker 3: We all can do that.
36:14
Speaker 1: And the feeling of doing something that can make an
36:17
impact on someone else's life or in a bigger impact
36:21
than you even could have imagined yourself makes you feel
36:24
like there's a purpose and who knows what can transpire
36:28
from that. So thank you for even saying that, because
36:30
there's something really special about finding that service element in
36:35
your life, because I just there's so much good. There's
36:38
just so much good that can come of that.
36:40
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely. I remember getting so into understanding service after
36:44
I lived as a month for three years. Yeah, and
36:47
service was a total part of our life like that
36:49
was that is the foundational principle of everything.
36:51
Speaker 1: Wow.
36:52
Speaker 2: And then when I came back to the real world,
36:54
I was like, Okay, I need to understand how true
36:58
this is scientifically too, And I saw this study they
37:00
did at Cambridge University where this guy called Michael Norton.
37:04
He tested how people feel when they were given given
37:07
five to twenty dollars to spend on themselves or spend
37:10
on other people, and they measured their happiness before and
37:13
after without telling them it was a happiness experiment, and
37:15
they found that everyone used five or twenty dollars on
37:18
themselves were no happier than they were before. So your
37:22
happiness didn't go down, but it didn't go up. And
37:25
everyone who spent the money on other people, whether it
37:27
was five dollars or twenty dollars, their happiness went up
37:30
by at least ten to twenty percent. And so it
37:32
was just, you know, scientifically, from a data point of view,
37:35
forget how we feel and forget what we know, just
37:38
from that point of view. And the funny thing is
37:39
that the most common things people bought each other were
37:42
like bought themselves with Starbucks and makeup, and the most
37:45
common things people bought others with Starbucks and makeup, so
37:47
it wasn't even about what it was. What it was
37:50
there was that feeling of giving, and the whole study
37:53
kind of concluded by saying money can buy happiness if
37:56
you spend it on other people. And it wasn't all
37:58
about money. It was in terms of time and energy as.
38:01
Speaker 3: Well, So investment of any sort.
38:03
Speaker 2: Right, even if you don't have money, it's that investment
38:06
of time and energy.
38:07
Speaker 3: Oh that's so powerful. Oh my goodness.
38:09
Speaker 1: I just hope people take that away, you know, like
38:12
I hope that really lands because it doesn't cost anything.
38:15
I mean, it is a measure of money in that regard,
38:17
but it doesn't cost anything to serve. And it could
38:20
be so simple. I mean people say, call your grandparents,
38:23
you know, and you don't want to call your grandparents.
38:25
You get off the phone with your grandparents and feel
38:27
like one hundred bucks, You're like, Wow, I just made
38:30
her day and maybe she didn't really know who I was,
38:32
Like she was really.
38:33
Speaker 3: Oohs that didn't matter.
38:35
Speaker 1: That is the piece that makes you feel like you
38:38
did something that's bigger than you, and you step outside
38:40
of being a selfish person like we all tend to
38:43
be because it feels like survival of life sometimes, but yeah,
38:47
it's it's awesome power of service for sure.
38:50
Speaker 2: I love it. Yeah, I often say, as we've been
38:54
we're wired for generosity, but we've been educated for greed.
38:58
And it's you know, as kids, what you said, what
39:01
you started with this whole conversation, I'm going back to
39:03
that you started by saying that as kids, we're almost
39:08
you know, our best selves, and that's why when you
39:11
made that incredible decision at five years old, we're able
39:13
to kind of tap into how we really feel. And
39:16
I genuinely believe that kids are wired for generosity as
39:19
kids were wired for generosity, and then education of all
39:23
types comes in I don't just mean the educational system,
39:26
and it kind of rewires us to become me and
39:28
me and me. So it's beautiful and I think everyone
39:30
who's listening, for those of you who don't know, and
39:32
we've gone so deep with Daniella today, but you know,
39:35
you work with a nonprofit called bridget Yeah Meat Bridget
39:39
Yeah that uses video creation to equip underservedeen girls to
39:43
envision themselves in careers outside their media environments. Tell us
39:47
a bit about that because I want the audience to
39:49
hear about these things. Because that's why it's so good
39:52
having this conversation with you, because you're living it. You're
39:55
not just saying it, you're not preaching it, you're not
39:57
just posting on Instagram about it like you're behind. You're
40:00
an active is buying so many great ventures. So tell
40:02
us a bit about that one.
40:03
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, one of the most amazing females cross
40:06
my path through yoga. Ironically, I mean not really so ironically.
40:10
There's some amazing people in yoga. Her name is Asha,
40:13
and she used to work in the field of yoga,
40:16
and she was going to school and she saw this
40:19
need in the female community and these younger generosities of girls,
40:25
these younger demos that are underserved, and she created Bridget,
40:30
which is a community of girls that need a little
40:33
bit of like a big sister element and also someone
40:36
who can help guide them in their career path and
40:39
give them that extra tool or hope or skill or
40:43
just assist along the ways. I mean, some of these
40:46
girls are young moms or just kind of were dealt
40:49
a unique set of cards and need some more hope.
40:52
Speaker 3: And so we've teamed up with Microsoft.
40:55
Speaker 1: We were doing an event at USC and we're talking
40:57
about the Me Too movement and we're just speaking about
41:00
the tougher things but also giving a lot of hope
41:04
and skills to this group of girls. And if you
41:08
don't know about it, I recommend just doing a little
41:10
bit of homework and following us or whatever and coming
41:13
to one of our events. And we're all just real
41:16
people at the end of the day, and we're just
41:17
trying to do our part to instill whatever we can
41:20
in these in these young girls.
41:22
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's beautiful, Thank you, Yeah, thanks soone. It's yeah,
41:25
it's great to speak to a real change maker. It's
41:29
like your grassroots you're but you're also an entrepreneur in
41:33
the activism space. Yeah, and that's empowering. I think for
41:36
a lot of people to see that you can do
41:37
good yes, and make money yes, and be successful at
41:41
the same time and you don't have to say no.
41:42
And I think for a long time I felt, especially
41:45
when I was growing up, maybe it's in London or
41:48
I always believe that you couldn't do good and be successful,
41:50
like they were two opposite things. Like if you were successful,
41:53
you were successful. Well, maybe you're a bit greedy, because
41:55
if you want to be successful, you have to be greedy.
41:57
And then at the other end, I used to think, oh, yeah,
41:58
do gooding people don't make money, and I always had
42:01
I don't know where that came from, and I'm still
42:02
trying to explore that, but I always had that viewpoint
42:05
mm hmm. And it's nice to see now in our
42:08
generation people bring that together. Oh yeah, to show that
42:11
ital you can do more when you have more resources.
42:13
Speaker 3: Oh yes. I feel like that's happening all over the place.
42:16
Speaker 1: These bigger companies are realizing that people want to put
42:19
their money, and these consumers care about where their money's going.
42:22
And as soon as people it's supplying demand, right, So,
42:25
as soon as people start to supply for something more
42:28
than just consumer goods or more than just getting their
42:32
needs met and they want a bigger picture involved in this, like,
42:35
these companies will all start to follow suit because they'll realize, like, oh,
42:39
people are becoming a little more woke over here. It's
42:41
time to step up our game. And that's what I
42:44
want to be a part of. I want to be
42:45
a part of those companies that are realizing that from
42:47
the beginning and being the game changers, right.
42:50
Speaker 2: I love it. I love it. I've got my five
42:52
big questions for you. Oh, okay, as we come to a close. Okay,
42:56
so these are usually quick, but they've been a bit
42:59
longer recently when I've been doing them because I have
43:02
awesome guests, and so I stop doing them as quick questions.
43:07
If it gets deep, it's deep, and you can make
43:08
them as funny as you like you. Okay, Sure, I
43:11
genuinely feel like this. And again I'm saying this to everyone,
43:14
and I know Danielle would say this about herselves. It's
43:16
not about being perfect, but you do seem really happy
43:19
and content, and that energy comes out very naturally through you.
43:23
What makes you happy.
43:24
Speaker 1: I start my day with a cup of coffee and
43:28
I evaluate what I'm doing. I always am checking in
43:32
with myself, and I know when I'm feeling a low,
43:35
either pop a B vitamin or I get to the gym.
43:38
And usually I get to the gym before I do anything,
43:40
because I know that there are certain things that make
43:43
me who I am, and if I'm not the happiest
43:46
person that I can be, then I can't serve in
43:48
the way that I can do best. Right, So I
43:51
know the things that work for me. And it's working out,
43:54
it's being conscious of what I'm putting in my body.
43:57
Speaker 3: It's drinking coffee. I hate to say it, but it is.
44:01
It gives me energy.
44:01
Speaker 1: I'm not an attic by any means, but I do
44:04
know that there are certain things that make me who
44:05
I am and that's that's part of it.
44:08
Speaker 2: Amazing awesome. Second question the number one question you'd ask
44:11
a monk. Have you ever met a monk?
44:13
Speaker 3: NOI is interesting?
44:15
Speaker 2: Would what would you ask a monk if you ever
44:17
met one? Oh?
44:17
Speaker 3: My goodness? What is your skin routine?
44:22
Speaker 2: Would you? Actually? Whatever have great skin?
44:28
Speaker 1: I'm sure they do their lifestyles? What is your lifestyle?
44:31
That's the question I would make, like what what is it?
44:33
What does a Monday look for a monk?
44:35
Speaker 2: Right? You know? Interesting? Yeah? Good god?
44:38
Speaker 3: What does a Monday look like? That's what I'm asking
44:40
you are.
44:42
Speaker 2: What did a Monday used to look like? So I'm
44:44
not a monk anymore. I used to be your morning
44:47
start off the same And that's the morning routine thing
44:49
is such a I mean, it's really propelled into mainstream
44:53
society now to have a good morning routine, et cetera.
44:55
But all of our days would start at four am.
44:58
You'd wake up at four am, are meditating collectively at
45:01
four point thirty, and then by about five point fifteen
45:04
you'd have independent meditation or personal private meditation, and half
45:08
the day basically is spent in silence and self awareness.
45:12
It's your growth, It's about taking care of yourself, your needs,
45:16
your learning, your development. And then the other half is
45:20
spent in service. So the other half is spent being
45:23
out there, whether it's helping build sustainable villages or building
45:26
food distribution programs, or teaching young kids, or sharing the message,
45:31
or teaching meditation, whatever it may be. So that construct
45:35
is something that I've tried to take through in my life,
45:37
that half of my life should be spent learning, growing,
45:41
even this exchange, like from today, I'm just learning, I'm
45:45
just listening to you without trying to judge, without trying
45:48
to teach, without trying to share. And then the rest
45:51
of my day is spent serving by teaching, etc. And
45:53
so that's kind of amazing what a Monday looks like.
45:56
That's what every day looks like. Yeah, yeah, okay, Question
45:59
number three, the best advice you've ever received?
46:03
Speaker 3: Oh, that's a I feel like I was for a
46:06
couple from you today. To be honest, gosh, the best advice.
46:14
Speaker 1: Wow, it's scary when you start to draw blanks on
46:16
that end, because I almost feel like some of the
46:19
advice that I've gotten along the way has all been
46:22
self taught or self learned. But then again, I would
46:26
say that following leaders like you, I really do feel
46:31
that way. There are people out there in my network
46:34
or in my circle that I learned from on a
46:37
daily basis, and I think there's just too many to
46:41
even choose. I don't even know where I would start.
46:43
Speaker 2: Nice, that's cool, Yeah, that's fine. And then ussia is
46:47
the best mentor you've ever had, or some of the.
46:49
Speaker 3: Most best mentors.
46:50
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Wow, I'm finding a lot now for sure.
46:55
I think growing up I didn't even know I had mentors.
46:58
My aunt was a significant role play in my life.
47:02
There was a time where I didn't know where I
47:04
was living. I had my clothes in the back of
47:06
my car. I was kind of just sleeping and where
47:08
I could sleep until I figured it out, and my
47:11
aunt gave me her couch for a while, and I
47:14
learned a lot. I got a lot done in that
47:16
amount of time. I went to community college, I got
47:20
my personal training certification, I went to school for real estate,
47:23
got my license, Like there was this time where I
47:25
was trying to figure it out all amongst acting, which
47:28
is crazy. I always felt like there was more than acting,
47:31
always and that couch and being in.
47:34
Speaker 3: My aunt's life.
47:35
Speaker 1: Still to this day, she's someone I lean on immensely.
47:39
She's full of knowledge, full of wisdom, and she did
47:41
a lot of work on herself and still does. And
47:44
those are the people that I aspire to be.
47:46
Speaker 2: Like, Yeah, I'm going to segue before asking the question,
47:50
because you just made me think of a few things there.
47:53
What are your thoughts on so young men and women
47:56
today who want to be actors, want to be social mediums,
48:00
who want to be anything that gives you that platform.
48:04
What would be you advice to them?
48:06
Speaker 1: Well, I think we live in a time where you
48:09
can do it. That's the first thing I would tell
48:12
someone is it's not a joke. Like you have more
48:15
resources than like someone who lives in the heart of
48:18
la or Hollywood or whatever you.
48:19
Speaker 3: Imagine, who's going to auditions every day.
48:22
Speaker 1: You know, maybe decide what your true goal is in
48:27
terms of what kind of entertainment you want to put
48:31
out and then target that. So find the network around that,
48:35
find the demo, and start creating content on your own,
48:38
because at the end of the day, even people who
48:40
are actors are still content creators. And I think there's
48:44
so much more power and so much more self worth
48:48
in creating something of your own. But not to say
48:51
that using acting as a platform isn't the right tool
48:53
as well, because I do that as well. But I
48:55
think a little bit of everything working alongside collaborating with
48:58
people creating your own that is all equipment to become,
49:03
you know, someone in the public eye, or someone who
49:05
has a voice, or an actor. Those are all things
49:07
you could be doing. And I always tell kids too,
49:10
get involved in school plays. Get your feet wet, you know,
49:13
stand in front of a large audience with the lights
49:15
blurning in your face. Okay, just try it on, Try
49:18
it on a few times.
49:20
Speaker 2: Were you shy the first time or were you always?
49:22
Speaker 1: Like gosh, I don't remember ever being shy. In fact,
49:25
I feel like I was really annoying most of my childhood.
49:28
Speaker 3: Is what I think.
49:29
Speaker 1: When I think about me as a kid, I'm like, gosh,
49:31
she must have been so annoying, But I don't know.
49:34
Speaker 3: I just I always.
49:35
Speaker 1: Felt like I didn't have a fear of speaking up.
49:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm so glad you're using that fearlessness of speaking
49:45
up for the right thing.
49:46
Speaker 3: Thank you.
49:47
Speaker 2: And my last question before I ask you whatever else
49:50
you wanted to share that I didn't cover it today,
49:51
is the worst advice you've ever been given?
49:54
Speaker 3: Oh, the worst advice. Oh my gosh.
50:00
Speaker 1: After I had lost significant weight and I got my
50:03
head back in the game and I started to get healthy,
50:07
I put on quite a bit of weight. I thought
50:11
it was like the right thing to do.
50:12
Speaker 3: At the time.
50:14
Speaker 1: I felt generally happy, but I just knew where I
50:18
was wasn't where I should have been.
50:20
Speaker 3: So I'm going to do something else.
50:21
Speaker 1: And my manager at the time advised against it and
50:25
was very honest about me putting weight on. And she
50:30
told me that nothing tastes good as good as skinny feels,
50:36
and yeah, wow, And I'd say, that's the first thing
50:40
that came to mind. Yeah, it's pretty bad advice, because
50:43
let me tell you a lot of things taste good.
50:46
Speaker 2: Yeah. Absolutely. And that's why I always asking people the
50:51
worst advice they've ever been given, because I feel more
50:54
people in their life will hear bad advice than good advice. Yeah,
50:59
and so to be able to know which ones, which
51:02
helps a lot, because good advice is actually more rare.
51:06
So when people are hearing this and they're hearing you
51:08
share your worst advice and other guests who are sharing
51:11
their worst advice, I want people to kind of get
51:13
an arsenal of like the worst advice smart so that
51:16
they know never to like buy into that so smart. Yeah,
51:20
So that makes sense.
51:21
Speaker 3: That's that is good today.
51:24
Speaker 2: Is there anything we've not covered today that you're like,
51:26
do you ever want to share this story? Or I
51:28
didn't get to share this message anything. I always like
51:31
bringing that up because.
51:32
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just want to tap into one really quick thing.
51:36
Speaker 2: It doesn't have to be cool.
51:37
Speaker 3: Yeah.
51:37
Speaker 1: So I've been in this industry for a long time.
51:41
I've come across a lot of very headstrong personalities, and
51:45
I was in some uncomfortable positions with males and I
51:50
learned a lot from it. And I'm going to eventually
51:54
tell a little bit of this story. But I also
51:56
feel like the one thing I want people to take
51:59
away from just the me too movement in itself, because
52:02
I've never really spoken out about it is. And this
52:06
might be a controversial angle, but whatever it may be
52:11
that you struggled from as someone in a position of
52:14
vulnerability or feeling taken advantage of, there is such a
52:20
strength that comes from that low and I am a
52:25
firm believer of utilizing that and harnessing that strength to
52:30
create something that is instrumental in your lives and in
52:34
the lives.
52:35
Speaker 3: Of other people.
52:37
Speaker 1: So I just feel like if anyone's listening and feels
52:39
like something was done wrong to them, whether male, female,
52:43
whatever it may be, instead of taking and I get
52:48
that everyone needs their time to sort of comfort themselves
52:52
and maybe even sulk in that moment, because believe me,
52:54
a good cry is a recipe for a lot of answers.
52:57
But after you're done that time and say, I am
53:02
so ready to be the biggest boss. That's what I
53:07
just wanted to make sure I said, because there, I
53:09
think that can I don't know, it applies to a
53:12
lot of things. And I just really believe in like
53:16
with every element of weakness or devastation or anything that
53:19
anyone's encountered that felt wrong, there's so much strength that
53:23
can come of that. So I just hope that people
53:27
can like hear that and feel stronger.
53:29
Speaker 2: Thank you for sharing. Yeah, thank you, thank you so
53:33
much for being here. I'm so grateful. That was amazing.
53:36
We talked about so many we really did, and I
53:39
learned so much.
53:40
Speaker 3: Oh good, and the.
53:40
Speaker 2: Time just flew by. I think we're talking for like
53:42
one and half Alice, but it just I didn't even
53:45
feel it. Yeah, I didn't even feel it.
53:47
Speaker 3: Feels like we just got Oh my gosh, we'll do
53:48
dinner sometimes.
53:49
Speaker 2: Yes, we have to, we have to. But thank you
53:51
so much for coming on. Everyone who's listening, please please
53:54
please go check out Daniello on Instagram. Is there anywhere
53:56
else they should try and find you?
53:57
Speaker 1: No, I mean I'm on at all, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Justinielmone.
54:01
Speaker 2: Yeah. Absolutely, and thank you so much again for coming
54:04
and sharing so openly. Honestly, it was. It was really
54:06
a lot of good learning from me. Good. I'm glad.
54:09
Thank you. Thanks guys.
54:11
Speaker 3: Thanks.
54:11
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