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96. How to Make Career Moves Without Second-Guessing Everything · You're Overqualified Podcast - Career and Leadership Strategies for Women

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  Hi, I'm Danny Tan and if you are here, you are in the right
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  place. Welcome to the Pivot and
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  Promotion podcast where we say forget the rules because they
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  weren't written for us. I'm Danny Tan, I'm your host as
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  well as career and leadership coach and a proud advocate for
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  redefining what success and leadership looks like.
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  And here's what I know. You can lead at any level, you
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  can pivot at any age, and you can make moves that feel right
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  for you, whether you're climbing the perfect ladder, starting
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  something completely new, or just figuring out your next
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  step. I've got you covered with
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  strategies, stories and straight up inspiration.
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  So let's make some moves. Hello.
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  So today we're going to be talking about how to make a
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  career move or any move without second guessing every little
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  bit. So a lot of us will get stuck in
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  the overwhelm or spinning out or in a loop when it comes to
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  making a decision that may feel really big to us.
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  Whether that may sound big or not, it just feels big to us in
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  general. And it could be a career move,
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  it could be a life change. And so how can we kind of do
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  that without constantly living in the wondering of the what
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  ifs? And so I'm going to take you
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  through a framework that I use with my clients.
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  I call it the ABC framework. It's very simple ABC framework
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  and we'll break down what they each mean, but it really is to
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  help you start to build confidence, build evidence and
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  be able to make a strategic decision without constantly
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  living in the fear and the overthinking that may show up.
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  So each phase is going to have a very clear step, an example from
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  one of my clients with a result as well as a reflection to help
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  support it. So let's go ahead and get
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  started. So for the first part, for part
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  A of the ABC plan is plan A. So I always say like go big.
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  And this could be something that you have been like dreaming into
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  thinking of or had a goal for. And So what it is, it's I want
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  you to clarify what it is that you actually want that you want
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  to go after like big time, not what feels safe, not what feels
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  like achievable, not what feels practical, not what feels
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  doable. I don't want any of those like
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  things in this part. I want your plan A to be like,
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  if I could dream a really, really big, what is it that I
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  ideally want? And so for you, this could be
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  something career specific, it could be something personally or
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  life specific. What could it be for you?
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  And so some examples of folks that I've had who have had the
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  dream big version for themselves have been to quit their
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  corporate job and to build a Wellness business, to quit their
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  corporate job and to build a marketing consulting business.
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  It has been to be able to become a speaker on a bigger level
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  while it was still at their corporate job.
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  It's been able to go for that big promotion.
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  It's been to go for that bigger salary.
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  So it's been able just to be comfortable with visibility and
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  presenting. There's so many like a big
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  things that folks have really been dreaming into, whether it's
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  been moving across the country from like the East Coast to the
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  West Coast or vice versa, being able to make a big career pivot.
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  So just thinking about not what's practical, not what is
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  like safe, but what is it that you really want to go after?
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  Because a lot of the times from a, from a good place, we are
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  thought conditioned or kind of told or believe that in order
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  for us to go after something, we have to make sure that it's
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  achievable. And so sometimes when that
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  happens, even though it's for the safety of our minds to
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  protect us, to go after what feels safe, it actually hinders
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  us in a way because we take that step for something that is safe
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  and then we're in it. And then we're not happy still.
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  So we sometimes will say, oh, you know, if I make this change,
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  if I make this jump, I'll be happier.
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  But when the change in the jump are not truly in alignment with
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  what you want, then you find yourself doing the exercise all
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  over again. So it's not to say that we can't
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  constantly change and evolve, but sometimes we're like taking
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  these little mini steps towards what we want versus actually
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  going after what we really want. So why this matters?
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  Because you can't build something towards what you
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  really, really want if you have not named it and have truly been
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  honest about it with yourself. And so how do you start?
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  You need to remove the pressure of the practical and start with
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  desire of what you truly, truly want.
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  And then we're going to go ahead and reverse engineer it of how
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  it can be, how it can come to be.
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  And so, for example, I had a client who really wanted to make
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  this big jump of leaving her corporate job and building her
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  own business. And so for her, it was always
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  like, well, what will be practical?
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  What would be safe? You know, what, if I can't do
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  that, I can't make it happen. But the biggest thing was like,
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  hey, versus shutting all that down, why can't we make the big
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  dream of what it is that you want to go into and start to
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  take and reverse engineer and map out the steps that it takes
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  when we're to get there without feeling like you are throwing
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  everything out the window. I think that's that's really
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  important. So how to make that happen?
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  And so we were able to make that happen.
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  She went from the moment we started working together to
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  being really scared of being able to get certain marketing
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  credentials in line to getting certain credentials for herself
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  in line to literally a year later on the date having her
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  business done with like hours that she had put into it that it
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  is she has go ahead and gotten clients, everything like that.
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  So it's just like so crazy what time can really do when you have
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  a commitment to it and you're really working towards your
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  goal. I've had clients also who wanted
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  to pivot and it's like, Oh my gosh, I don't know.
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  I don't have the certificate, I don't have this education.
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  But it always comes back to the core thing of like, what is it
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  that you really want to do? Because here's the thing, when
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  you keep taking these sidesteps towards what you want to do, you
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  start saying, well, it's not working.
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  It's not, it's not happening. Because if you are doing things
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  that are not truly in alignment with what you want, your energy
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  is not there, you're not excited about it.
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  And so you're kind of like half doing it and you're not really
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  into it. So the biggest thing I would say
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  is go big. So part of this ABC framework is
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  Plan A, go big, think big, what is it that you really, really
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  want? And then we start to reverse
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  engineer to how to make it happen and break it down.
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  That is our whole job within coaching.
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  And so the reflection that I have for you is what would you
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  pursue if you didn't have to justify it to anyone, if you
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  didn't have to rationalize it, given any reasons, given any
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  explanations, what would you go after?
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  What would you go big on and do if you didn't have to justify it
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  to a single person? I'm super curious.
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  Please, if you can share it with me, go ahead, drop it in
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  LinkedIn, reply to one of the emails in the e-mail list and I
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  will definitely respond. So go ahead and and share it.
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  I'm curious now #2 is, you know, Plan B.
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  So what do you do in Plan B for the framework?
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  Plan B is for when it gets hard, OK?
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  Because going after what you want and doing something big is
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  not easy, and it's not for the faint of heart.
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  So what Plan B is about? It's a strategy for when things
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  don't go smoothly because they won't.
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  That's a given. It's a given when you're doing
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  something new. And so why this is important is
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  because big moves come with challenges and that's when
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  people want to quit, they want to give up, they want to say
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  it's not working, but that is par for the course.
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  If it was easy, it wouldn't be a goal and you wouldn't be doing
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  it. So being able to plan for these
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  challenges, these mishaps, these setbacks, that's what keeps you
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  from quitting. So I always think Plan B is
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  really important for like, what are you going to do when it gets
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  hard and it's not easy. How do you identify a couple of
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  things? So how to start and create this
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  plan? How do you identify your stress
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  points? So when do you get stressed?
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  When do you get overwhelmed? When does your energy start to
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  get like sucked up? So you can start to notice when
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  that's happening and who or what do you need to to help you keep
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  grounded when that happens? Do you think you need to slow
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  down? What happens when things get
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  messy? What happened when things get
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  unclear? What happens when you get
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  stressed out? Identify when these emotions and
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  feelings are coming up and then create a safety plan.
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  So what is your support plan for yourself to support you when
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  these emotions and thoughts and feelings come up?
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  Is it journaling? Is it collecting the receipts of
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  all the things that you have done well for yourself and that
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  you are able to do and accomplish to help remind you?
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  Is it being able to slow down for a week and support yourself
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  or whatever that may be of like movement or talking to a friend
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  or taking a break from what it is you're going after?
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  But just making sure that knowing, knowing that going into
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  any kind of goal or thing you were trying to achieve will get
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  hard. That comes with it.
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  So what are you going to do when it's hard?
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  What are you going to do when those challenges go come up?
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  What are you going to do when you think you want to quit or
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  things aren't working? How will you support yourself?
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  And you have to be able to identify when these emotions are
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  coming up and how to support yourself.
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  No one is saying that you should not feel these feelings.
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  And no one is saying that you never will feel these feelings.
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  I'm saying that they're going to happen.
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  And so be able to have this Plan B to support yourself is so
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  important. I constantly talk to my clients
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  about we need to create a support plan.
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  The support plan has to be to help you if you are feeling
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  overwhelmed, if you're feeling burnt out, if you're feeling
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  like you want to quit, if you're feeling like nothing is working.
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  This is so important because things will happen.
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  It comes with it every single time I have.
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  There is no client who's ever told me it's not working.
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  They're always going to tell. There's always at some point
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  we're in coaching like it's not working.
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  I'm stuck. I don't know if I can do it.
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  I want to quit. That's always going to happen.
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  That's why you hire a coach, right?
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  You hire a coach because if you're left to your own devices,
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  you're like, I don't know if I would do it because it's tough.
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  It's tough and you're looking for the guidance.
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  So for example, I have a client who we always call it the messy
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  middle. My good friend Lo created the
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  term the messy middle, at least in my friend group, she did.
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  And it's so true. Is that like there is going to
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  be the messy middle where you feel like nothing is working?
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  I always use this example for my clients, which I had read in a
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  book somewhere of a study that was done, that when you're a
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  marathon runner at the beginning of the race, you're excited,
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  you're exhilarated because you just started.
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  So you were like full of energy, you were going.
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  Then you get to the middle of the marathon and you start to
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  slow down. You start to lose your energy.
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  Your mindset is starting to to get tested because you can't see
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  the finish line. Then at the end of the race,
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  they said that they see in the study that the the runners will
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  start to pick up pace again because they can see the finish
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  line. So since they can see it
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  visually, it makes it easier. So when you're in the middle and
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  you don't see the finish line and it feels really daunting and
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  far away and like it's, if it doesn't exist, you are going to
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  want to quit. And so it's super important to
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  kind of figure out what can you do to create that, the
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  consistency, those little steps forward, forward, forward, even
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  when you feel like you can't see the end.
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  And so I don't even like there, there's endless client examples
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  about this because almost every single client has faces.
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  I have faces too. Because anytime you're trying to
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  achieve something or go after something that feels
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  uncomfortable, it feels like it's not possible.
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  And it feels like it's not possible.
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  We almost want to like give up of like, is it going to ever
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  happen? And so the client that I'm going
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  to, I'm going to think of here would be one of my clients was
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  applying for a job. She was living in California and
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  she wanted to get a job in New York.
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  And she was worried that she wasn't able to get a job in New
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  York. And she was up for a promotion
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  in California that would move her to LA, which she did not
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  want to move to. And so she's like, I have until
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  the end of the month to get a job in New York because I need
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  to do it before I'm up for this promotion.
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  I have to move to another city within California.
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  So she was applying for jobs, She was networking, she was
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  doing everything. And she was like, I don't think
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  it's gonna happen. I don't think it's gonna happen.
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  And I was like, let's look at the data, right?
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  Like you have, how many people have you talked to?
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  How many calls have you had for referrals?
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  How many interviews have you done?
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  How many applications have you done?
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  We had a look at the facts and be like, OK, so like, this
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  output yielded this return for you, right?
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  So if you're trying to get to the end of the month, this is
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  what you're gonna have to do numbers wise.
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  And so for her, she just like was grounding her in that piece,
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  but then also being like, how are you going to support
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  yourself, right? Like in the sense of like the
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  emotions that are coming up of the fears we have to think
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  about, you know, mindset wise is telling yourself it's never
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  going to happen. How does that help support you?
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  I asked this to everybody here saying to yourself, there are no
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  jobs out there. How does that support you
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  saying, oh, it's never going to happen?
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  How does that support you? And I'm super curious because
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  when we are in that energy, we're in that space and we're
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  telling ourselves that there are no jobs out there, that it's
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  never going to happen. Well, then why are you here?
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  You know, like that's that's not the take to take.
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  And so knowing that for her, she was like, you're right.
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  I'm sitting in this energy that is not going to be helpful for
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  me. I have and she had made a career
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  pivot before. She's like, I've made a pivot
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  before. I know how to get a job.
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  I've gotten a job before. I have the skills like to go
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  into route back into her why and her skills and her expertise and
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  her experience was her support plan as well as looking at the
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  data and the numbers of what she's done before.
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  And that's what got her out of that emotionally of like, I'm
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  just going to give it my all. I'm just going to keep trying.
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  And that is what moved her. And guess what, y'all, she got a
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  new job, she new to New York City where she wanted to go.
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  She got the job that she was really, really excited about and
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  she got a 50K salary increase. So you know, one minute she's
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  like nothing's ever going to happen, the next minute she made
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  everything happen and more. And it's not that everyone gets
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  a guarantee that's going to happen.
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  But here is The thing is that when you have unhelpful thoughts
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  coming up or unhelpful emotions coming up, it's not to squash
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  them, it's to understand why they are coming up and what they
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  mean. If it's a fear, if it is an
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  insecurity, whatever it may be. And then to help support that
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  thought or that emotion or that unhelpful thing.
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  And then how can you help yourself move forward to what is
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  you want to move forward to? Because those uncomfortable
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  emotions, those uncomfortable thoughts are there for a reason.
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  And so we need to acknowledge them and see what that is.
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  But then also, how do we help support ourselves to then move
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  through them, to go after what it is that we want and not let
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  them stop us? They're supposed to be signals,
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  not stop signs. And if they are stop signs,
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  that's something for us to kind of stay with and kind of figure
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  out. So Plan B is for when it gets
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  hard. How are you going to support
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  yourself? And so my reflection prompt for
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  you will be, what support will you lean on when the process
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  doesn't go as planned? So what support will you lean on
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  when the process is not go as planned?
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  I'm very curious, you know, let me know.
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  Again, you can go through this reflection prompts any point in
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  time. So then to be on LinkedIn and
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  say, hey, I listened to this episode here, my reflection
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  prompts for my AB plan of what you mentioned.
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  I'm so curious to hear. Then plan C is the safety net.
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  OK, so the safety net is the realistic fall back plan to keep
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  you out of panic mode. So for example, when we have our
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  plan A, which is like our big pie in the sky ideal dream
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  without any restrictions, that is like our dreamiest of dreams,
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  right? Then we have our Plan B, which
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  is what do we do when it gets hard trying to achieve that?
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  And then we have our plan C Plan C is the safety net.
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  That's for our brains. That's a great security and
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  safety because if we have had life past experiences when it
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  comes to finances, when it comes to difficult challenges, when it
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  comes to things that have let us down, it can feel very
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  uncomfortable to our system to go after something so big and
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  lofty. And when things get hard, we may
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  panic or our brains may get scared.
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  And so the plan C is to just help know that you have a backup
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  plan if things don't go the way you want them to.
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  And this is really so you can create safety for your brain so
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  it knows that if things don't pan out, you have your backup
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  plan. This matters so much.
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  So when you have it, it keeps you out of the panic.
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  It keeps you out of scarcity. And why it matters is because it
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  helps you take risks and be able to take a risk to make a big
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  jump because you know that you're going to be fine no
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  matter what. And that's what's important.
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  That's how you take a calculated risk.
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  I'm very notoriously known about taking calculated risks and
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  being able to, you know, be a risk taker, but it's because I
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  do have in a very calculated strategic way for myself.
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  So I feel safe with doing them. Hi, I'm Danny and I grew up in a
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  life that was very much financially up and down on so
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  many different levels. I did not grow up in financial
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  abundance personally. And so for me, it's always
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  important to have this piece because it's just how I am.
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  It doesn't matter if you're somebody who's making hundreds
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  of thousands of dollars, millions of dollars, millions of
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  dollars now, if you came from a place of financial insecurity
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  and then now you're you've created financial stability for
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  yourself. If you try to take some kind of
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  risk, that stuff will still pop up.
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  You can go ahead and have all the healing and all the coaching
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  and all the training by the end of the day, those emotions will
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  come up in some way. And so my biggest thing,
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  especially for women, especially for women of color, especially
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  if you're first or second Gen., is how to create safety and the
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  risk that you want to take so you're not holding yourself
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  back. And so Plan C is all about that.
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  It's how can you go ahead and create a plan that makes it
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  safer to take risk. So how do you start depending on
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  what you're doing, whether you're building a business, we
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  are going after a new job, whether you're trying to make
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  solo travel happen for you, I will always ask you like, hey,
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  what is your real runway? So for example, if you're
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  looking for a new job, like what is the runway of time that you
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  have? What is the runway of finances
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  that you have? So it's like time, money,
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  energy, connections, like what support you may need in order to
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  make these things happen. So for example, let's say you're
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  trading a business and you want to go all in on your business.
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  I'll ask you questions like, OK, like how long is your runway in
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  the sense of like, how much money do you have before the
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  money runs out? If you didn't hire a new client
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  for six months, or are you able to take a part time job while
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  you're building your business? Or are you able to stay in your
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  corporate job while you're building your business?
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  So you always have some kind of fall back plan.
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  Or if you're going all in your business and you have three
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  months of runway, what would be your your next backup if that
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  money ran out? So always understanding that you
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  have that safety plan, that backup plan to help create
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  safety within your brain for the risk that you want to take.
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  It's the same thing when it comes to the connections that
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  you have, the energy that you have when you're trying to get a
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  career pivot of like what step are you you're willing to take
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  before you get to the job that you want?
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  These are all really important things.
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  So for example, I have a client who I have two different
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  clients. I have one client who wanted to
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  build her business and leave. I had another client who wanted
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  to go ahead and build her business and stay.
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  So for my client who wanted to build her business and quit her
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  job, I let her know it's really important to have some kind of
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  safety network that's like savings so you have some runway
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  or a part time job or just staying in your corporate job.
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  She was dead set on leaving. Nothing wrong with that
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  whatsoever. She left her corporate job and
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  she didn't have anything else financially to back her up.
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  So a lot of stuff came up financial, these financial
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  insecurities came up of like, Oh my gosh, I'm going to be in
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  debt. I have to take out loans.
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  What if I don't get any money coming in?
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  Like a lot of fears came up. Now did we work through it and
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  coach through it and support 100%.
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  But The thing is that comes up is that all these emotions start
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  coming up and you start to question like yourself worth and
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  your value if it's tied to your work, you're starting to
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  question if you can make your business happen.
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  Like all these things come up versus what I typically try to
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  recommend is my client who was building her business.
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  I said to keep your corporate job and let's create an action
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  plan of how to start to build your side business while you're
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  in your corporate job and to get it to a certain point where it
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  feels like it's sustainable, your side business that you
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  could go into a full time. And so she's going showing up to
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  each coaching call like not stressed out about money because
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  she knows that she has money coming in from her corporate
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  job. She's coming in every single
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  coaching call, just taking the takeaways and the auction items
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  to help support what her plan will be.
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  And she's having opportunities come.
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  It's a very, very different. Energy that shows up to your
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  plan because you're not in this like need of like scarcity.
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  I have to make things happen right now.
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  It's the same thing with my job seekers.
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  When I have somebody who comes in from a job who has either
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  been laid off or they quit their job because it was really toxic
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  and they have nothing else lined up.
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  Every single time they're trying to apply for a job or they're
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  trying to have a informational interview or network, there's a
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  different energy that just shows up because they are in dire need
• 20:30
  of getting a new job. Maybe they don't have that much
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  money saved or they only have a three or six month window and
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  they're panicking to try to get something as quickly as
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  possible. And then they start to feel like
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  things are not working. And when you when you start to
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  question the process, you show up differently versus my folks
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  who have maybe more of a safety net, maybe they did get laid off
• 20:48
  or leave their job, but they have more saved or they don't
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  feel as stressed, or maybe there's somebody who's at their
• 20:54
  current job and they're just exploring other options.
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  They show up differently because every single application, every
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  single interview doesn't feel like it's holding the keys to
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  the world. You know, they can just show up
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  to them so much differently and they have like this different
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  level of confidence and energy that shows up to them where they
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  continue to be like, you know what, I'm fine other way.
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  And so being able to have the plan C, the safety net is so
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  important to practice detachment in a healthy way.
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  So if we continually attach to our goals, our value or like our
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  livelihood, we show up so differently to the experience
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  versus when we detach and say, that's my goal.
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  I'm gonna do everything that I can and whatever happens,
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  happens. That has been the biggest theme
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  for it does not matter who it is that I'm coaching.
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  It could be for a career pivot, it could be for a promotion, it
• 21:41
  could be for a salary increase. It could be for building a
• 21:44
  business, it could be for becoming nomadic.
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  It always comes down to the fact of the people who are showing up
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  with this energy of like everything matters and there's
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  so much pressure on this. It's just it ends up taking them
• 21:56
  longer to get the result versus those who are like, I'm going to
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  show up. I'm detached to it.
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  I just know that I'm going to put my effort in that I can.
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  And so that that's why I always like to create the safety plan
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  of people so that way they can start to detach from this one
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  outcome and know that no matter what, they have their back.
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  That's something that's super important.
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  And so my prompt for you in this one is if your first choice does
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  not work out, how will you take care of yourself and stay in
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  motion? This is all about knowing that
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  you've got your own back and that you can take care of
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  yourself no matter what. So hopefully this ABC framework
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  can help you when it comes to second guessing, worrying about
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  making a big decision, whether it is a career move or a life
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  move in general. And when that fear, that
• 22:38
  overthinking starts to show up, being able to have this action
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  plan for yourself of like, what is it that I really want, what
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  I'm going to do when it gets hard and how can I back myself
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  up no matter what can help kind of ease the fears, the
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  insecurities, the thoughts that may come up for you.
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  So hopefully you found this helpful and I will be here again
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  and next week. And if you have any questions
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  when it comes to coaching, working together or any more of
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  these frameworks or strategies, I recommend that you join the
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  e-mail list, which is in the link of this podcast episode or
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  go to mywebsite@dannytan.com. That's DANITA n.com and I will
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  talk to you soon. All right, have a good.