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☀️ Ennea-Summer: Enneagram 9 The Peacemaker · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Simply Wholehearted Podcast with Amy Wicks, your wholehearted life and business coach.
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  SPEAKER_00: You should know this podcast will inspire you to grow in self-awareness, be passionate about your faith, and get clear on your calling.
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_00: If you are new here, then welcome to the community of multi-passionate women who love to go deep on topics like faith, Enneagram, relationships, leadership, and community.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_00: This conversation might provide the step you need to make the change you desire.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's get started.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll introduce an upstream practice for awakening their inner assertiveness.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll also feature a wholehearted coach who is a type 9 client and a coach.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this episode's going to conclude with a prayer for personal significance and voice from Deanna Sudom.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you know a 9 or you are a 9, I hope you take notes and share this fun and easy way to learn about all 9 Enneagram types this summer.
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  SPEAKER_00: But hey, if you're driving, running, taking a walk, or doing the dishes and you don't have time to pick up a pen and paper, then just go to the link in the show notes where you are going to get a free download about the Enneagram 9.
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  SPEAKER_00: And uh just a little hint there, there'll be this kind of resource for every single episode this summer.
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  SPEAKER_00: You aren't gonna want to miss getting this freebie if you listen to these episodes and you want to learn more about the type that we're sharing about each week.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's a quick snapshot of the Enneagram 9.
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  SPEAKER_00: A nine's core fear is to be in a state of tension, discord, conflict, or even feeling shut out and overlooked, essentially a loss of connection with others.
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  SPEAKER_00: A nine core desire is to have inner stability and peace of mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: This looks like staying in an unrealistic and idealistic world in order to maintain a state of peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: A nine may use their easy-going manner as a guise and in the process ignore their desires, opinions, and worth by merging with others.
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  SPEAKER_00: The nine's core longing is your presence matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about Enneagram wings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Enneagram wings are the two personality types on either side of the primary personality type.
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  SPEAKER_00: For instance, the wings on the type 9 are the type 8 and type 1.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of these wings is often, but not always, used more than the other, which brings new dimension and depth to the primary type.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like salt and pepper to potato, or cream and sugar to coffee.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just adds flavor to the primary type.
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  SPEAKER_00: The main type dominates a person's perception experience, but the wings do influence.
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  SPEAKER_00: In addition, internal conflicts might arise from the unique wing influence.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course, even our childhood wounds may impact our use of the wings.
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  SPEAKER_00: The insights about Enneagram wings is to offer awareness so that way you can mend those different parts of you and use them in balance to experience forward momentum.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Enneagram 9-wing eight is often more outgoing, assertive, and potentially even more anti-authoritarian, and they may vacillate between confrontation and apathy.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Enneagram 9-wing 1 tends to be more introverted, orderly, idealistic, struggle with being critical, emotionally controlled, focused, and also compliant.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's some insight about the Intelligence Center for the Enneagram 9.
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  SPEAKER_00: The 9 falls into the gut triad, which is characterized by its tendency to produce immediate gut level reactions to situations and then integrate emotional and cognitive processes into the responses.
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  SPEAKER_00: The lead emotional reaction within the gut triad, again, those are the eight, nine, and one, often includes anger and frustration, which oftentimes significantly influences their thoughts and actions.
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  SPEAKER_00: The core desire of the gut triad centers on a strong yearning for control, sometimes labeled as justice or fairness, which motivates their actions and decisions.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Type 9 seeks to control by maintaining peace in their environment and relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: So their desire for control isn't always overt, rather covert.
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  SPEAKER_00: The nine's communication pattern falls within the withdrawing stance in the Enneagram, which these types tend to create distance from others.
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  SPEAKER_00: This communication pattern prioritizes personal space, autonomy, and self-reflection.
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  SPEAKER_00: The withdrawing stance positive intention is to not be overly dependent or expect others to find a solution.
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  SPEAKER_00: They do tend to get frustrated with those who are too bossy or too accommodating.
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  SPEAKER_00: And these types struggle the most with constant demands of interaction with others.
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  SPEAKER_00: The withdrawing stance strength is being past focused.
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  SPEAKER_00: They tend to think about what has been because it informs their right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: They will likely ask themselves or others what went well, what didn't, and they learn and teach from past experiences.
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  SPEAKER_00: The withdrawing communication pattern types are all about stories, experiences, reflections, memories, and nostalgia.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, what about those unique lines in the Enneagram diagram?
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  SPEAKER_00: Those lines denote stress and growth.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here are some details about the lines connected specifically to the Enneagram 9.
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  SPEAKER_00: When reacting under stress and with unawareness, the 9 goes to the low or average side of the 6.
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  SPEAKER_00: They become anxious and worried, they are more testy and defensive, their mind may start racing and their internal anxiety increases.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, when a nine responds with purpose and intentionality, they're going to exhibit the high side or healthy side of the type three.
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  SPEAKER_00: They become more self-developing and energetic, and they learn that the peace they seek comes from showing up, asserting themselves in life, and blessing others with their full presence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now remember, friend, your starting point doesn't have to be your stuck point.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when a nine practices rhythms of engaging with stillness, it teaches restraint.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in restraint, the nine can discern what the Lord is compelling them to do, and they're no longer allowing the pursuit of idealistic harmony to feed the lies they believe about not being valuable or not mattering to those around them.
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  SPEAKER_00: When a nine deliberately consents to stillness, they discover their true intention and what true emotions lie just beneath the surface.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then they can acknowledge their desire to make a difference and encounter Jesus, the true peacemaker.
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  SPEAKER_00: As a nine engages with God's presence, they receive the truth that their presence matters to our Heavenly Father, and their broken-hearted moment are transformed into a whole-hearted healing as they declare and believe these truth statements.
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  SPEAKER_00: May I be present, may I own my value, and may my inner peace be the difference maker.
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  SPEAKER_00: Author A.J.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sherrill advises Enneagram Nines to observe the spiritual rhythms of fixed hours of prayer, also known traditionally as the Liturgy of the Hours.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whether this looks like a set hour at three significant time markers of the day, or just whatever works for your schedule, this is the specific upstream practice to transform a nine's tendency of slothfulness into action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I'm so excited for you to meet a wholehearted client who is also a whole-hearted coach.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cynthia Bullna reached out to me in January of 2023.
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  SPEAKER_00: And ever since I've just been in awe of how the Lord has crossed our paths and allowed me the opportunity to be a guide, but mostly a cheerleader.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cynthia is going to have a lot to say, so I'll let her take it from here.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hi, my name is Cynthia Builna, and I live in the city of Los Angeles, California.
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  SPEAKER_01: My wholehearted journey began in 2007.
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  SPEAKER_01: A pastor friend of ours explained to us how the Enneagram was changing the culture and the dynamics and their church leadership.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I kept on hearing more and more about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And people kept asking me, What's your personality type?
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  SPEAKER_01: So my husband went ahead and bought several tests and started testing our staff.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I took my test and lo and behold, I came back as a number nine, a peacemaker.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I started reading all about the Innegram 9.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I could not believe how this personality test was describing me.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I was like, yes, that's me.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm the peacemaker.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, that's me.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love my peace.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love tranquility.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, that's me.
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  SPEAKER_01: I anything that throws me off my rhythm uh just ruins the rest of my year.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so it was game changer.
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  SPEAKER_01: But what was most interesting to me is to find out how unhealthy I really was.
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  SPEAKER_01: To know that my core fear is to be in a state of tension, discord, conflict, or feeling shut and not overlooked.
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  SPEAKER_01: Knowing that my core desire is to have inner stability and a peace of mind.
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  SPEAKER_01: Knowing that my core weakness is being lazy, staying in an herbalistic and idealistic world to keep a state of peace.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so that's when I found out that I have a lot of work to do because I was able to compare it to my current condition, and I was just shocked to know that I had been in silence for a long time because I wanted just to live in this happy world.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I had to do the inner work and I had to dig deep to see where this was coming from.
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  SPEAKER_01: And after some time of doing the work, I was able to discover a new rhythm of life.
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  SPEAKER_01: I was able to discover that conflict is not a bad word, that it's okay to agree to disagree.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I learned never to remain silent on the things that really mattered to me.
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  SPEAKER_01: There has been so much personal growth in my person, in my relationship with my husband, the relationship I have with my adult children, the relationship I have at work, because now I avoid the pitfall of thinking that my presence doesn't matter and that my family doesn't recognize my hard work.
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  SPEAKER_01: I also have awareness when I see that I tend to merge with the way others think and with uh the decisions of others, including that of my family.
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  SPEAKER_01: I ask myself, wait, where is this coming from?
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I step out of autopilot to be present with my inner self.
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  SPEAKER_01: This was so liberating to me that I said I need to share this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Women in church leadership need to know that they could be successful in the church and be successful at home.
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  SPEAKER_01: Women business owners need to know that they could be successful at work and they could be successful at home.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram brought a lot of balance to my life.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I knew that God was not God did not need time, He was just waiting on me to do the do the inner work, and so the Enneagram gave me the language to the things I had been holding on to for so long in my heart.
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  SPEAKER_01: Things I didn't even know how to communicate.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram facilitated this for me, and so with the help of Amy, I started my coaching business, and now I'm helping the Latinos, the Spanish community, and this is new in the Spanish community, and I'm just praying God help me because everyone needs to know about the Enneagram.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, how I'm using the Enneagram now is I'm using it as a tool to help many people bring their dreams to reality, give them language for the things they're feeling inside, so they can no longer be victims but be heroes, for them to know that their story counts, for them to know that there's hope.
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  SPEAKER_01: And with the Enneagram, there will always be constant growth.
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  SPEAKER_01: It is my GPS system, and it tells me, Cynthia, you're unhealthy right now, get back on track.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so it's just a game changer, and I thank Amy for allowing me to be part of this wholehearted journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I am so grateful for Cynthia and for just her willingness to share some of it today.
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  SPEAKER_00: She is a deep well, and you'll be hearing probably a lot more from her in the future, or at least you'll be hearing me or watching me share what she is up to as she continues to grow her ministry and her business.
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  SPEAKER_00: I truly hope that you walk away from this being richly inspired.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, friend, we are all broken, we are all blowing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The brave one does something about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now, Deanna Sudom is going to share her prayer and blessing for the Type Nine.
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  SPEAKER_02: Type 9 friend, we thank you for your presence.
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  SPEAKER_02: It matters.
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  SPEAKER_02: You have been given space in this world.
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  SPEAKER_02: God does not make mistakes.
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  SPEAKER_02: You are needed.
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  SPEAKER_02: Your voice is powerful in the kingdom of God.
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  SPEAKER_02: Thank you for reflecting the peace of God.
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  SPEAKER_02: It says in Romans twelve sixteen, to live in harmony with one another.
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  SPEAKER_02: Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position.
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  SPEAKER_02: Do not be conceited.
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  SPEAKER_02: These are the things your heart desires.
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  SPEAKER_02: Your ability to see things from many perspectives helps you to be a safe space for many, but I sense that he wants to speak peace into your spirit, to remind you that suffering, disruption, or pain does not remove his ultimate peace.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so remember this from Romans eight eighteen.
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  SPEAKER_02: I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.
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  SPEAKER_02: Father, thank you for these peacemakers, these creators of harmony and holders of space.
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  SPEAKER_02: Lord, I ask that in the many places you call them to be supportive, they will be surrounded with the people needed to hold up their arms when they are weary.
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  SPEAKER_02: Just as Aaron and Hur did for Moses to win the battle when he was tired.
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  SPEAKER_02: Let them bring the rock for our friend to sit on and to be held up ultimately by you, Lord.
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  SPEAKER_02: God, thank you for the way that they enjoy the simple pleasures in life, the way they show us how to find joy in small things.
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  SPEAKER_02: Help their independence shine, Lord, to be a beacon in what you've given them to share with the world, and not to shrink back and hide in the shadows.
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  SPEAKER_02: Lord, help them to be confident and bold in conflict, knowing that you are their voice, and that they can trust you in this space that may be uncomfortable.
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  SPEAKER_02: Create a space in their world that can be free from drama, friends that will walk with them and be an outlet that is safe.
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  SPEAKER_02: Make known to them your ways, O Lord.
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  SPEAKER_02: Teach them your paths, Father.
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  SPEAKER_02: We ask you to cover them.
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  SPEAKER_02: Jehovah Shalom, Prince of Peace.
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  SPEAKER_02: In Jesus' name.
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  SPEAKER_02: Amen.
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  SPEAKER_00: As I wrap up this episode about the Type 9, may you feel encouraged to raise your voice and assert your place in the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope this episode reminds you that silence doesn't make harmony.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead, many voices together create harmony.
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  SPEAKER_00: And join me again for more empowering episodes this summer.