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Change Starts When You Change · In 9 Minutes

• 0:04
  Speaker 1: If you had a dollar for every time you heard yourself or someone else say I don't have time for that, you'd probably be rich.
• 0:10
  Speaker 1: I know life can feel like a circus, especially when you're trying to juggle it all, and I know what it's like to be pulled in a million different directions and to feel like there's never enough time to do all the things for all the people.
• 0:23
  Speaker 1: But I really believe that what you want is possible.
• 0:26
  Speaker 1: It just requires some decision making and intentional action.
• 0:30
  Speaker 1: You truly can't make time or find time.
• 0:32
  Speaker 1: You have to set it apart, and I'll show you how to make big moves and take game changing action nine minutes at a time.
• 0:39
  Speaker 1: I'm Jennifer Seiss.
• 0:41
  Speaker 1: I love helping impact-oriented women run their home life and business, gain traction in their day to day and have more time with the people they love the most.
• 0:51
  Speaker 1: My heart is to share what I've learned along the way and help you get more of what you want out of your life and work.
• 0:57
  Speaker 1: Every episode is designed to get you on your way to a quick win.
• 1:00
  Speaker 1: So grab your favorite beverage, pull up a chair and let's start making more of your time.
• 1:05
  Speaker 1: Hey there, and welcome to the In 9 Minutes podcast.
• 1:11
  Speaker 1: I'm Jennifer Seiss, and I can't wait to connect with you for the next nine minutes.
• 1:16
  Speaker 1: Change starts when you start changing.
• 1:17
  Speaker 1: You've heard the expression nothing changes if nothing changes, and I would be willing to bet you know it's true.
• 1:23
  Speaker 1: This is a really important lesson to learn, because we're never going to get new or different results unless we try new things and learn to do things differently.
• 1:32
  Speaker 1: There's another quote that says change nothing and nothing changes.
• 1:36
  Speaker 1: I think it's so true, and if we look back on things we haven't changed, well, it's because we've changed nothing.
• 1:43
  Speaker 1: I can think of a list of things that need to change around here, and you better believe that prepping for this episode is lit a little fire under me to get after it.
• 1:51
  Speaker 1: The word change alone can make us all feel some kind of way, and most people feel something when they hear the word change, especially when it involves them directly.
• 2:02
  Speaker 1: Change comes in a lot of shapes and sizes, and today we're going to focus on change we can control, and we'll touch on the kind of change that we can't control on another episode.
• 2:13
  Speaker 1: Have you read the book Lessons in Chemistry or Wash a Show on Apple TV?
• 2:17
  Speaker 1: First, let's give a quick shout out to Brie Larson, who is amazing in her role as Elizabeth Zott, and she really brings the character to life so well.
• 2:24
  Speaker 1: If you haven't seen it, don't worry, I promise I won't give too much away.
• 2:29
  Speaker 1: I just want to talk about one line that really struck me, and it was this Courage is the root of change, and change is something we are all chemically designed to do.
• 2:39
  Speaker 1: I found that so interesting because courage is the ability to do something that frightens you and ultimately, we've been designed to change.
• 2:50
  Speaker 1: So we should rest in that just a little bit and be encouraged that we were designed and ultimately created to withstand the physical and emotional challenges of everyday life.
• 3:00
  Speaker 1: The concept of change fundamentally involves the process of transforming, altering and becoming different.
• 3:07
  Speaker 1: How cool is that?
• 3:10
  Speaker 1: The interesting thing about change is that we're designed for it as far as our cells and systems go, but our brain is hardwired to resist change.
• 3:20
  Speaker 1: So we have to train our brain for change.
• 3:23
  Speaker 1: That is why it is so hard.
• 3:24
  Speaker 1: We need to help our brain along.
• 3:27
  Speaker 1: We need to manage our brains towards change, and that takes courage.
• 3:31
  Speaker 1: Part of the brain called the amygdala interprets change as a threat, and then it releases hormones for fear, fight or flight.
• 3:41
  Speaker 1: Your brain tries to protect you from change.
• 3:44
  Speaker 1: Our brain is innately wired to protect you and it is naturally resistant to change.
• 3:51
  Speaker 1: Our brain can be wired for negativity and it can run on autopilot, kind of creating habits to preserve energy.
• 4:01
  Speaker 1: So we can't make any sustainable change without changing our brain's neural pathways.
• 4:09
  Speaker 1: You want a new result, you need to create a new way and you need to use what you know about the brain and train it and manage it and move towards generating the outcomes you truly want.
• 4:21
  Speaker 1: I truly believe that specificity specificity say that three times fast and decision making are two of the biggest keys to change.
• 4:29
  Speaker 1: When you get really specific about what you want and make a decision to pursue it, you're more likely to take the action and put the habits you need to build in place to make the change.
• 4:43
  Speaker 1: And then you need to get specific about when you will take that change, making action, when you will put those habits in place and set apart the time to do it, because if you listen to more than one episode of the show, you know you can't make time or find time.
• 4:58
  Speaker 1: You have to set it apart.
• 4:59
  Speaker 1: Another key factor to experience change is changing our habits.
• 5:05
  Speaker 1: We have to ditch old habits for new habits and sometimes we even just have to create a new habit because we haven't established a behavior around something yet.
• 5:14
  Speaker 1: Except not doing it can actually be a behavior, but more on that another day.
• 5:19
  Speaker 1: So to change on productive habits and habits that don't serve you, you need to replace them with new ones by consciously and repetitively Engaging your thinking brain in the creation of the new plan for the result you want.
• 5:34
  Speaker 1: You want.
• 5:34
  Speaker 1: Study show that the more you do something, the more ingrained it becomes in neural pathways, much like how a computer stores the sites you visit, like when you log on to your browser.
• 5:46
  Speaker 1: Those sites pop up because you use them a lot.
• 5:49
  Speaker 1: So you need to train your brain to work within a framework, because that the framework that you want it to work in, because that's how your brain works.
• 6:00
  Speaker 1: Your brain Wants to work within an existing framework and you need to create that framework through change.
• 6:08
  Speaker 1: You might be asking yourself do I have to change?
• 6:12
  Speaker 1: Is change necessary?
• 6:13
  Speaker 1: And the answer to that is yes if you want to grow, improve or thrive.
• 6:20
  Speaker 1: Change is how we adapt to our surroundings and grow in every area of our life, and it's not always easy to embrace it or lean into it or accept change.
• 6:28
  Speaker 1: But it is essential if you want to get what you want, and you can and should teach your brain to get used to change, because when you stretch your brain past its comfort zone, you help it become more receptive to other types of changes.
• 6:46
  Speaker 1: Most people don't try something new because they're afraid of failing, and we're going to talk more on the upside more about the upside of failure on another episode.
• 6:57
  Speaker 1: But when you see something as doable, it makes you more receptive and it makes you more brave towards trying new things.
• 7:07
  Speaker 1: It gives you courage to try more new things.
• 7:08
  Speaker 1: When you try a new thing, it makes you more confident to try to do more new things.
• 7:16
  Speaker 1: The more you change, the more confident you will be.
• 7:19
  Speaker 1: So how do we do it?
• 7:21
  Speaker 1: How do we change?
• 7:24
  Speaker 1: Just a couple of things to keep in mind Pay attention, awareness is key.
• 7:29
  Speaker 1: You need to operate consciously.
• 7:31
  Speaker 1: When you do that, it will help you stay on top of the change you're trying to make until it moves into your subconscious, and your subconscious brain operates out of habit, and so you want to put good habits in place, move them into your subconscious so that you can move towards change.
• 7:49
  Speaker 1: Again, you need to get really specific about what you want and make decisions around that and set apart time to take the actions towards the change.
• 8:00
  Speaker 1: Celebrate victories, even the small ones.
• 8:03
  Speaker 1: Accomplishing small, actionable things needs to be celebrated, because each one moves you closer to your long term goals.
• 8:13
  Speaker 1: There's a neuroscientist named Sam Harris and he says that his mind begins to seem like a video game.
• 8:18
  Speaker 1: He can either play it intelligently, learning more in each round, or he can Be killed in the same spot by the same monster over and over and over again.
• 8:26
  Speaker 1: So you can hit a wall and complain about it and complain about the way things are, or you can do something different, something you've never done before, and see where that takes you.
• 8:38
  Speaker 1: There's no magic bullet to dealing with change and ultimately it requires the alteration of those neural pathways in your brain.
• 8:46
  Speaker 1: New solutions can't be created in old ways, but when you can reframe those feelings of uncertainty to curiosity and excitement around what is possible, when you make the changes, that can inspire you to act differently and that can lead to effective change.
• 9:03
  Speaker 1: So I want to encourage you to take nine minutes today and think about what you want to change.
• 9:09
  Speaker 1: What's the change you want or need to make?
• 9:14
  Speaker 1: That keeps getting put to the wayside and then determine one action.
• 9:16
  Speaker 1: You need to get started and set apart the time to do it and, whether you know it or not, I know that you have what it takes to change.
• 9:26
  Speaker 1: You might just need to muster up a little bit of courage and remember change starts when you change.
• 9:41
  Speaker 1: Thanks so much for listening today.
• 9:42
  Speaker 1: Do you have questions you'd love to ask, but don't because you aren't sure who to ask, or you'd rather not let the world in on not having it all together?
• 9:49
  Speaker 1: I get it.
• 9:50
  Speaker 1: I get lots of questions all the time, from parenting to business development, to Bible study recommendations, to the best meal to serve a crowd and even how to navigate hard conversations.
• 10:01
  Speaker 1: My husband and kids call me Google and since I'm a problem solver by nature and love research, it sort of fits.
• 10:07
  Speaker 1: So I am so excited to answer your questions.
• 10:10
  Speaker 1: You can share your questions with me by DMing me on Instagram at Jennifer Seiss and I'll answer your questions on an upcoming episode.
• 10:18
  Speaker 1: So here's to more intentional connection and less grind.
• 10:22
  Speaker 1: Nine minutes at a time.