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Celebrating Fatherhood, Family & NBA Dads – Father’s Day Countdown Special | Born To The Game Podcast · Born To The Game Podcast

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  Speaker 1: I don't understand this narrative that like we don't need
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  Speaker 1: the men, No, I need all of them.
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  Speaker 2: I need my dad, I.
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  Speaker 3: Need my husband, I need I need all the men.
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  Speaker 2: I need them.
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  Speaker 4: The game.
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  Speaker 3: In mind, learning all the time until the game, caring
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  Speaker 3: in the plane, the path, but it's annoy day until
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  Speaker 3: the game.
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  Speaker 4: Welcome back to Bourne's The Game, the podcast where legacy
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  Speaker 4: meets purpose and every story reminds us that we're more
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  Speaker 4: connected than we think.
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  Speaker 2: Today, we're switching things up a bit.
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  Speaker 4: Usually we're sitting down with incredible guests to talk about family, identity, legacy,
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  Speaker 4: and the journeys that have shaped who we are.
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  Speaker 1: But today it's just us, and we realize it's been
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  Speaker 1: a while since we've had the chance to catch up
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  Speaker 1: directly with all of you and to share what's been
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  Speaker 1: happening behind the scenes, both of the podcast and in.
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  Speaker 3: Our personal lives.
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  Speaker 1: So consider this a personal virtual coffee date. We're talking
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  Speaker 1: about life lately, the highs, the challenges, lessons we're learning
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  Speaker 1: in real time, what's next for born to the game,
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  Speaker 1: and answering some of your questions along the way. So,
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  Speaker 1: whether you're listening in your car, on a walk at work,
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  Speaker 1: or folding laundry.
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  Speaker 2: We're grateful you're here.
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  Speaker 3: So let's catch Yeah, this is.
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  Speaker 2: Born's the game. Yeah, yay.
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  Speaker 4: It's been a wild at least for me the last
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  Speaker 4: six weeks. I just feel like my head has been
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  Speaker 4: cut off and I've been running around not knowing which
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  Speaker 4: direction I'm freaking going. So just to be able to
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  Speaker 4: sit here and digest and unwind, I think it's we
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  Speaker 4: need intention setting, absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: And absolutely I love that, and I love that like
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  Speaker 1: it is needed, and I've learned that since I moved
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  Speaker 1: away from home that it is needed to literally check in,
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  Speaker 1: like to literally set.
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  Speaker 3: An attention to call uh, your friend or someone just
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  Speaker 3: to be.
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  Speaker 1: Like, okay, we just need to catch up because life
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  Speaker 1: just goes like light speed fast and you look up
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  Speaker 1: in six months has passed and you look up a
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  Speaker 1: year has gone.
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  Speaker 2: So I know I need I need to just kind of.
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  Speaker 1: Decompress and talk about some things because a lot has
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  Speaker 1: gone on.
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  Speaker 2: You all to say.
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  Speaker 4: Today your wig got snatched and I haven't said that
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  Speaker 4: in a while, but your wig got snashed today. Okay,
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  Speaker 4: you have been going through it today and you just
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  Speaker 4: need to reset. I do I mean the car outside
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  Speaker 4: are coming off I didn't know.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: We were like, oh, the beabing, Well, I had no idea.
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  Speaker 1: I thought that I thought the workers were upstairs working
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  Speaker 1: on our age back and I thought that they were.
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  Speaker 3: Upstairs working on it.
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  Speaker 1: And I had no clue that the carbon monoxide alarm
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  Speaker 1: was going off.
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  Speaker 3: I could have been here did on the podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Then I haven't been a headline Jesus with us. But
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  Speaker 2: all is fine.
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  Speaker 4: You are not about to pass over due to.
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  Speaker 3: I am yet alive.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, you're a good and thriving But I.
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  Speaker 4: Think let's take this time to be intentional you and
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  Speaker 4: I love that word. It's like it's my golden word.
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  Speaker 4: I just use for everything.
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  Speaker 2: I want to be intentional.
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  Speaker 4: I like intentionality, intention intention Let's be intentional this week.
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  Speaker 4: What one intention you're setting for yourself this week? I'm
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  Speaker 4: trying to think of one for myself. Like, you know,
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  Speaker 4: we're gonna take some time to sit and process and
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  Speaker 4: digest and reset, but be intentional about it.
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  Speaker 2: So, what's one thing that you want to do?
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  Speaker 3: You know it's it's not even gonna be anything big.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean like, because I feel like if we
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  Speaker 1: put the pressure of it being like this big, lofty
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm gonna do this, this, this, It can
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  Speaker 1: it can seem like overwhelming, especially if you have so
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  Speaker 1: many things on your plate. But like for me, I
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  Speaker 1: was talking to my best friend and we were talking
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  Speaker 1: about how like we have we make these lists and
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  Speaker 1: there's so much on them and I have to have
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  Speaker 1: a list because if I don't have it, nothing will
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  Speaker 1: ever get done. But then the list, it becomes intimidating
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  Speaker 1: and it comes overwhelming. So the intention is to do
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  Speaker 1: two or three things off my list, whatever it is.
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  Speaker 2: Like, it can be something small.
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  Speaker 1: Or you know, something that I need that you know,
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  Speaker 1: like something for the I R.
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  Speaker 3: You know, they could be something serious.
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  Speaker 1: But I think instead of putting the big pressures that
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  Speaker 1: we have to do, like these big, huge goals each day,
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  Speaker 1: the intentions of just getting one or two things done.
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  Speaker 1: It just helps me to feel like I've accomplished something.
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  Speaker 1: It makes it things feel a little less daunting, because
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  Speaker 1: let's just be honest.
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  Speaker 3: We have a lot to do.
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  Speaker 2: There is so much to do.
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  Speaker 1: Like everybody I talk to has like so much on
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  Speaker 1: their plate. I don't know if it's the time of year,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if it's just women.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know what it is, but everyone.
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  Speaker 1: Is literally like losing their shit and they're just like,
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  Speaker 1: I have so much to do and it's just all
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  Speaker 1: of us.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, it's just intentionality is.
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  Speaker 1: Just meaning I just need to get something done today
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  Speaker 1: and I will be happy.
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  Speaker 2: And you bring up a good point.
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  Speaker 4: There's so much to do all the time, and I
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  Speaker 4: think for me, knowing that there's so much to do
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  Speaker 4: all the time is my problem because I don't allow
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  Speaker 4: myself to fully reset because even in the moment of
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  Speaker 4: me being still, I feel guilty knowing that there's so
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  Speaker 4: much for me to do that I can't really sit still.
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  Speaker 4: And so that's one thing I want to be intentional
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  Speaker 4: about for myself, is allowing myself.
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  Speaker 2: To reset, to unhlove, to be.
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  Speaker 4: Present because I this even this past weekend, I had
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  Speaker 4: a beautiful weekend with my family and I was trying
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  Speaker 4: really hard to not focus on the things that I
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  Speaker 4: can't control, but it was hard. And so this week
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, I need to be intentional about when I
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  Speaker 4: put my phone down. I'm putting my phone down. When
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  Speaker 4: I close this computer, I'm going to close this computer.
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  Speaker 4: I want to shut off all of the tabs that
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  Speaker 4: are in my brain and be okay with not worrying
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  Speaker 4: about all the.
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  Speaker 2: Shit I gotta do.
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  Speaker 4: It's okay, you know. And so two things can be true.
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  Speaker 4: You can have a whole list of things that you
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  Speaker 4: want to accomplish, and accomplish them, and then once you
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  Speaker 4: get it done, just shut it down it all.
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  Speaker 2: I love that you about the guilt though, that was best.
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  Speaker 2: It's real.
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  Speaker 4: It's so because you always think like there's something and
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  Speaker 4: excuse my toddler in the background act and acting like
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  Speaker 4: a two and a half year old, But there's always
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  Speaker 4: there's always going to be stuff to do.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, the guilt like for me, like because I work
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  Speaker 1: three to four days a week, so on my off days,
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  Speaker 1: I have the guilt because sometimes on my off days,
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  Speaker 1: I just kind of want to sit and do nothing.
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  Speaker 3: But that's also the days that I try to get like.
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  Speaker 1: The housework done and other business out of the way,
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  Speaker 1: and I feel guilty if I don't get things done.
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  Speaker 1: But it's just like, you know, it's my off day,
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  Speaker 1: so I'm supposed to be, you know, try to relax,
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  Speaker 1: but I feel guilty about relaxing, and it's the it's
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  Speaker 1: the craziest thing that I have to allow myself to
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  Speaker 1: at least, you know, I have to say to myself, okay,
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  Speaker 1: for you to rest too.
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  Speaker 2: Even though you're off.
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  Speaker 1: But it's just like, yo, I those are the days
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  Speaker 1: that I need to get housework done, or you know,
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  Speaker 1: I need to write emails or or do you know,
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  Speaker 1: do what I need to do. But the guilt is bad,
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  Speaker 1: Like the guilt is.
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  Speaker 2: A real thing. Where does that come from?
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  Speaker 4: Is that society telling us that we aren't deserving of rest?
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  Speaker 2: Is it social.
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  Speaker 4: Medium krying to convince us that there's always something to
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  Speaker 4: do and there's always something to accomplish. And are we
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  Speaker 4: comparing ourselves to people who we think have more and
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  Speaker 4: we're trying to obtain that? Like, where does this come from?
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  Speaker 4: It's not coming from our mama and our dad, like
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  Speaker 4: they're not telling.
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  Speaker 3: Us to tell me, but it's it's like a laziness.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like I'm being lazy and I don't know,
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  Speaker 4: I don't know where that comes from.
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  Speaker 1: But literally, if I'm not like doing something for like,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like, okay, I'm lazy and I need you know,
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  Speaker 1: you're just wasting time.
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  Speaker 3: That is horrible.
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  Speaker 2: But it is not just what it is. I think
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  Speaker 2: I think you answered it.
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  Speaker 4: It's this idea that if you're not constantly moving, you
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  Speaker 4: are wasting time and then and you know, then that
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  Speaker 4: means that you're being lazy. I think that it makes
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  Speaker 4: sense now because even for me, I was always trying
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  Speaker 4: to figure out why I feel the need to constantly
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  Speaker 4: busy myself when I don't need to.
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  Speaker 2: It's okay to just relax. But yeah, I think it's.
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  Speaker 4: This not wanting people to have this misconception about who we.
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  Speaker 1: Are, right, and busyness isn't always Busyness doesn't always.
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  Speaker 2: Mean that you're moving forward.
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  Speaker 1: So somebody says about treading water. You know, you can
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  Speaker 1: trail water, but you're not actually going anywhere. That part
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  Speaker 1: it's like sometimes you know, if you're just busy and
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  Speaker 1: like you're just giving yourself, it's like if it's not intentional,
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  Speaker 1: if it's not something you know what I mean, it's
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  Speaker 1: just kind of like you're not doing anywhere. And also
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  Speaker 1: if you're not rested and then you're trying to do something,
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  Speaker 1: you're not giving your best. So it's weighing all those
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  Speaker 1: things that you have to do as human beings, and
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  Speaker 1: it's just like, which is.
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  Speaker 3: Why we need to reset.
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  Speaker 2: We need to kick our toes up.
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  Speaker 4: I love of hot chocolate or tea or coffee, and
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  Speaker 4: just put your phone on. Do not disturb anybody who
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  Speaker 4: is watching. For those who are listening, we are giving
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  Speaker 4: you permission to reset, to put your phone on, Do
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  Speaker 4: not disturb, Do not touch that computer. Do not look
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  Speaker 4: up your emails. Do not keep refreshing your emails to
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  Speaker 4: check to see what new notification pops up. Just be
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  Speaker 4: present with yourself, Be present with your friends, be present
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  Speaker 4: with your family, and we are giving.
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  Speaker 2: You permission to do that.
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  Speaker 4: Be intentional about your rest. And even if there are
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  Speaker 4: goals that you want to achieve this week, be intentional
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  Speaker 4: about achieving it, but still allow yourself the space to just.
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  Speaker 2: Be and do not think. Yeah, so also I have
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  Speaker 2: to do something I like to do. Yes, it's cooking.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and I know that like we've been like
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  Speaker 1: we've been talking about just like like decompressing and things
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  Speaker 1: like that, and cooking is one of those ways that
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  Speaker 1: I do that, and I know it is for you too.
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  Speaker 1: So have you had have you made anything cool or
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  Speaker 1: anything really good?
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  Speaker 3: This week?
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  Speaker 4: So, but well, they may know I'm a vegan on
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  Speaker 4: plant based I've been vegan for almost ten years. My
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  Speaker 4: husband is the polar opposite. He will eat a cow's ass. Okay,
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  Speaker 4: so I don't eat the ass, right, I mean, let's
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  Speaker 4: call that one back. I stand in tows on he
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  Speaker 4: gonna eat the cows ass. All that, our diets are different,
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  Speaker 4: and so cooking is fun.
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  Speaker 2: It's therapeutic for me.
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  Speaker 4: And I'm somebody who likes to know what I'm putting
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  Speaker 4: in my body. So when you ask me what I
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  Speaker 4: what I was making this week for myself, I made
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  Speaker 4: a chickpie salad, which before I became vegan, I was
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  Speaker 4: a tuna salad girl, a chicken salad girl, a salmon
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  Speaker 4: salad girl with some tortilla chips. That was my go
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  Speaker 4: to snack being vegan. Obviously, tuna salmon, chicken off the
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  Speaker 4: table chickpeas. If you do a similar recipe that you
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  Speaker 4: would do for a tuna salad chicken salad and just
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  Speaker 4: swap it with some chickpeas and you season it up
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  Speaker 4: the same way, get you some tortilla chips slaps every
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  Speaker 4: single time. My husband will not try it to Mayor.
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  Speaker 4: I think Leon Wood. I think your husband would because
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  Speaker 4: Leon doesn't have to have meat so I think he
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  Speaker 4: would try it bomb.
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  Speaker 3: What I like. Is it like mayonnaise space or is it.
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  Speaker 2: Like so literally?
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  Speaker 4: So you how you make traditional tuna salad and chicken salad.
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  Speaker 4: You have a meat and then mayo and then you
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  Speaker 4: season it up. Same thing with chickpen You just clean
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  Speaker 4: your chickpeas, throw some veganies, some vegan mayo, season it up.
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  Speaker 4: I put some green onions in there, tortilla chip, fire fire.
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  Speaker 2: That's fun. That's what I did.
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  Speaker 4: And then for Garius, I made him a sweet potato
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  Speaker 4: protein bowl. So we are on a no sugar healthy
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  Speaker 4: kick until summer league, and so he's trying to and
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  Speaker 4: so I made him a sweet potato bowl, which was good.
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  Speaker 4: I made his with sweet potatoes and ground beef and
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  Speaker 4: broccoli and cheese and a sauce on top. And we
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  Speaker 4: had that front well, he had it for the last
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  Speaker 4: three days.
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  Speaker 2: So I love you.
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  Speaker 1: I've never met a sweet potato or any kind of potato.
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  Speaker 1: It didn't like we all we love each other potatoes.
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  Speaker 1: But I love chickpeas like I'm a I think chickpeas
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  Speaker 1: are like either you like him or you don't because
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  Speaker 1: of the texture. But my in our house I'm a
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  Speaker 1: be eater as well, and I also have a veggie
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  Speaker 1: person in my house too, and.
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  Speaker 4: Also a veggie person that is also Jamaican. It's like
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  Speaker 4: another layer of figuring things out around here. But we
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  Speaker 4: also I do a chickpea thing. It's also it is
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  Speaker 4: I will kind of.
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  Speaker 3: Is it vegan? Yeah, it is actually vegan. We're not vegans.
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  Speaker 1: Here and we have vegetarian pseudo pescatarian media though. But
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  Speaker 1: I do make a chickpea, but it's curry chickpiece as
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  Speaker 1: it's a you know, very Jamaican thing, so instead of
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  Speaker 1: like curry chicken, it's curry chickpiece, very good, and I've
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  Speaker 1: I've kind of perfected it. Sometimes I do add things
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  Speaker 1: that are very non Jamaican, like I'll put in so
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  Speaker 1: usually like chickpeas, but like I'll put in like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: navy beans, just to like sure, yeah, but so Jamaicans
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  Speaker 1: don't come for me.
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  Speaker 3: I know that navy beans is not something that you do,
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  Speaker 3: but I do it. Just don't come for me.
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  Speaker 1: Jamaica are very very very serious about the recipes and
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  Speaker 1: about how to do things, so I don't want anybody
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  Speaker 1: for me.
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  Speaker 3: But but yeah, it's very good.
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  Speaker 1: I'll have to have to give you my recipe for
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  Speaker 1: curry chickpiece, but it they are really.
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  Speaker 3: Good with white rice. I love white rice.
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  Speaker 2: I need to stop eating it.
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  Speaker 1: But again, being married to a Jamaican is really fun
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  Speaker 1: because we eat.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of right rice. We had a lot of
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  Speaker 3: rice around here.
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  Speaker 2: I am not.
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  Speaker 3: Complaining at all, trust me.
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  Speaker 4: I think eventually, as we continue growing Born to the
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  Speaker 4: Game and even our segment, I think eventually we're going
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  Speaker 4: to be in the kitchen and we're going to shoot
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  Speaker 4: cameras to the kitchen and have our kekey over some food.
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  Speaker 3: I see it.
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  Speaker 4: That's what we're going to manifest and speak into existence.
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  Speaker 1: Boring in the game, born to the game, sorry, born
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  Speaker 1: to the game in the kitchen.
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  Speaker 4: In the kitchen period. But you know, in true Born
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  Speaker 4: to the Game fashion, we love to give advice, We
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  Speaker 4: love to uplift, and we love to encourage. So anyone
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  Speaker 4: who's watching who doesn't typically find themselves in the kitchen
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  Speaker 4: cooking over pot, pan stove, what's one piece of advice
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  Speaker 4: that you would give to someone who may want to
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  Speaker 4: start learning how to cook. I have quite a few
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  Speaker 4: friends who don't cook, and there's nothing wrong there's again
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  Speaker 4: no judgment, But what advice.
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  Speaker 2: Would you give someone?
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  Speaker 4: I know, for me, my advice is, don't be afraid
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  Speaker 4: to mess it up. Don't view it as anything that's embarrassing.
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  Speaker 4: If you get a recipe wrong, or if a recipe
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  Speaker 4: doesn't turn out the way that you expected it to
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  Speaker 4: turn out, it's okay.
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  Speaker 2: You have to start somewhere, So go into.
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  Speaker 4: It knowing that it's not going to be perfect, and
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  Speaker 4: release yourself from this idea that you have to be
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  Speaker 4: perfect when you start, because you're gonna throw a lot
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  Speaker 4: of shit away. I know I did, and you as
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  Speaker 4: you continue doing it, you'll get better and better.
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  Speaker 1: I have two pieces, and actually they're not even my advice.
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  Speaker 1: It was advice that I was given. I love it
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  Speaker 1: so And also it's from two aunties, and I love
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  Speaker 1: that about me. I love that we have a huge
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  Speaker 1: We have a lot of women in our family and
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  Speaker 1: all of them cook and a lot of they.
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  Speaker 3: Just they have been huge influences in my life.
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  Speaker 1: So my first bit of advice is coming from our
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  Speaker 1: aunt Karen, and she always tells me to be patient
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  Speaker 1: because she's like, you can't rush it. When she was
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  Speaker 1: telling me about how to make her roles, or even
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to something as simple as rice, which
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: is why I'm going to teach you how to make rice.
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: And even with making rice.
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: And I tell people all the time, you have to
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: be patient. So the first piece of advice is to
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: be patient. So thank you Auntie Karen for that.
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: But she's so right.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: People try to rush and pull and throw stuff in.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: It's like, you know, sometimes the food can.
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: Feel your energy.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: If you're all stressed out and rushy, it's gonna taste
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: like it.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: So there's that.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: The second bit of advice was from my aunt Vivet,
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: which is my husband's.
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: My husband's auntie.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: And when I went to Jamaica, she was telling me
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: this is how I do it.
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: She's like, but you do how you do it.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: She was like, this is how I do it, but
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: there are no rules. She was giving me the permission.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: I guess, as I'm learning a new cuisine to do
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: it how I do it, and it's okay.
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: And I felt released by that because Jamaican cooking can
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: be very intimidating. And but ever since she told me that,
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: like that's a piece of advice that I have taken
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: with me through my journey of my own cooking and
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: then also learning how.
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: To cook for my husband.
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: So uh yeah, be patient and how you do it,
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: it's yours. It's your's your family, it's your spread, it's
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: your table, it's yours for the taken.
• 18:39
  Speaker 4: I love it, not to everyone who helping us navigate
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: these kitchen streets.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: Yes, because baby, this is the thing. But I love it,
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: Like the kitchen really gives me.
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: A sense of peace when I'm cooking it.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: It's like another form of creativity and I just I like,
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: I love, you know, putting flavors and textures and things together.
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: So it is definitely a way of.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: How I decompress.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: And I hope that people would not feel that it
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: is a stressful thing because it can be stressful, but
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: hooking can be so therapeutic. Again, I think it's there
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: we go again, society putting pressure on everybody to do
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: things at this exceptional level. When no one says you
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: have to be a five star, five Michelin star chef.
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: Just go in there and throw some stuff together if
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: you like it, Like you're always saying, it's yours, it's
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: your recipe as long as you.
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: Like it and your family.
• 19:41
  Speaker 4: Loves it, or whoever you're cooking for, enjoys it.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: No pressure, get in their play around, have some fun
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: with it. That's what I've learned to do. Just have something.
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: I love it. So we have Father's Day coming up.
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: It's coming.
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: When is it in two weeks?
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: A week? Oh no, it's in two weeks. Oh well, okay,
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: wo that's beast.
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: It's coming up.
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: Father's Day is slowly approaching, and I love I think
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: it was again.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: Sorry listeners.
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: If you hear my son playing, he's banging his drums
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: back there whatever he's banging on. But Mike Epps in
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: his in one of his stand up comedies, always jokes
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: about Father's Day and how you know, if you want
• 20:26
  Speaker 4: to book a restaurant on Father's Day, you can get
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: up the morning up and make book a reservation for
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: ten people on Father's Day and.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: You won't have any problem. He was, like, Mother's Day,
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: you got to book it a year out. Father's Day.
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: You can get that morning and get yourself a reservation
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: at the most popular restaurant and there will be seats available.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: But you know what, we're not gonna do that to
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: our daddy's We're.
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: Gonna you know We're gonna celebrate you, guys and just
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: reiterate the importance of fatherhood and having a man around
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: the home and in the children's life. Fathers play such
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: a pivotal role in our development and how we see
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: the world.
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: And so you know, we.
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: Love active fathers, we love present fathers, we love uplifting fathers.
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: So you know, shout out figures, father figures exactly.
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: So we have uncles.
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: Everybody whoever identifies themselves as a father figure to any degree.
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: We celebrate you, and we see you.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: And we have a fun episode coming up with.
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: And I was gonna say, you know, it's your dad
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: was the reason why we even have this podcast, so
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: we get so we watching this like I better get
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: all my shoutouts, need all the shout outs. I mean,
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: I mean to be Mariah, it is because of your
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: dad that we are a city here today.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: And it's so funny, like because he's so hilarious.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: He would foret it either. No, but shout out to the.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: Dads and the dad figures out there that are doing
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: their thing, that are showing.
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: Up to the dads that have stepped in. They're not
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: even they're not even your kids. You know, those guys
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: you know.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: That are taken on children that are not even their blood,
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: And I just I really, you know, I was talking
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: to your mom actually earlier about how the negative always
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: gets all the attention. Like the negative you know, when
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: you're in school, and like the bad kids got all
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: the we couldn't go outside because the bad kids were
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: acting up. It's like, yo, how come they can't stay
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: inside and we can go. So it's like I feel
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: like negativity gets more oppressed and then the good stuff,
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: the good people, the good dads, don't get the play.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: It's always about the head beats, and it's like, you know,
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: we want to we want to talk about and uplift
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: the ones that have been have been.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: There's so many, there's so many.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: There's so many men, and we need them, Like, oh
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: my gosh, I don't understand this narrative that like we.
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: Don't need the men.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: No, I need all of them. I need my dad,
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: I need my husband, I need my brothers.
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: I need all the men. I need them, like literally literally,
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: I need them all. You know.
• 23:16
  Speaker 4: We've had quite a few guests on our podcast talk
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: about their dynamic with their dads, and it's beautiful.
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: It's so beautiful.
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: It was good, you know, my gosh, and you could
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: see and feel and hear the impact that they leave
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: on their children. And so it's just a daily reminder
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: that fathers are needed, fathers are appreciated, and we see
• 23:41
  Speaker 4: you and we value what you bring to the table
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: and what you bring to your families and into your
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: children's lives. So I'm excited for this episode to release.
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: It's going to be silly.
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: It's my dad, it's olden Polonies sitting with myself and
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: Alexis Polonies who join this and it is just going
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: to be who They crack jokes the whole time. They're bold, silly,
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: and I'm excited for It's could be a treat.
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: It is so shout out to them. And I don't
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: even know.
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: We hurt you, Yes we do. We hurt you.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: We hurt all the dads. Trying to think where my
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: dad's gonna be.
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: I'm like, I think my dad will be back in Sacramento.
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: He's you ever get what do you get your dad?
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: Do you get your dad stuff?
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: Or my dad will get a high five?
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: Yes dad?
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: Ever, my dad's gonna get a phone call, He's gonna
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: get ah.
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: My happy Father's Day, Dad, What are you doing? So
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: I have a funny story about my dad. So we
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: give my dad cologne. My dad is big on smelling good.
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: And here's a reason why.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: Oh my god.
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: So we used to give him toothbrushes and socks and
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: cologne for Christmas and Father's Day because that's the only
• 25:08
  Speaker 4: thing he wanted.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: So there was the.
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: Reason why Dad is obsessed with cologne and smelling good.
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: And we always joke with him about this. Because there
• 25:19
  Speaker 4: was one summer he went to Bloomington, Indiana to visit
• 25:23
  Speaker 4: my uncle Scott May, who played at IU with him.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: Shout out to.
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: My uncle Scott, and his granddaughter was there, and I
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: think she gave him a hug when he walked in.
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: My mom was there too, she'll she'll tell the story
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: as well.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: But she was like when.
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: Scott's grandbaby gave Dad a hug, she was like, you stink.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: And ran her like, little girl, don't make me like
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: I do not stink.
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: He gets so offended, like he will be so offended
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: if anyone ever told him that he's staying. And I
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: don't think it was he smelled bad, but I think
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: his cologne was overwhelmingly strong. That.
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: She was like, Nah, you smell bad.
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: But he was sitting in a corner like upset about
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: it the rest of the day because.
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: Somebody say he's stung. He cannot.
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: He hates the idea of smelling bad.
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: So he smells good.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: That one thing about him he's he always smells fresh
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: off the shower girl, because and he gonna squirt about
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: twenty sprays of cologne before he moves on and does
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: another thing. So the colone that I get him, let's
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: say I get him cologne for Christmas. That thing is
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: gone by my birthday. May like it will not last
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: him more than actually May is generous.
• 26:53
  Speaker 4: I don't think it lasts h more than two months.
• 26:56
  Speaker 4: He's like he's like that with Colonne, and he's like
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: that with laundry determed.
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: Oh I've seen him do the poor and I'm like,
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: oh my gosh.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: She just Likesmara Samarah. He came when he first used
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: to come.
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: When we first moved to Sacramento. My mom was still
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: in Palm Springs at the time. She hasn't come, she
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: didn't come up yet, but I was here with garyus
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: and my dad had just moved into their place downtown
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: and he didn't have a car yet. He didn't have
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: he didn't have laundry, detergent, nothing. So he came over
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: to my home and I was gracious enough to give him.
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: A bag, a big old bag.
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: Of laundry, uh, with the lord little pods. He looked
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: at me and said, this isn't gonna be enough to
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: last me the week. I said, Dad, there's one hundred
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: pods in here. What are you talking about? What are
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: you talking about? Use girl, road girl enough to to
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: single handedly keep Tides in business.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: That's how much he uses.
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you're supposed to you one pod. He
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: will not be heavily soiled like flowers or something.
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: But oh my god, Uncle Woody. But that's just good,
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: just for the viewers to now. Coach Woodie refuses to smell.
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: The man is always squeaky clean, though, And that little
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: girl she probably didn't know what she was smelling because
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: it was definitely not stuff to think.
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: It was definitely her own shower.
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: Jill definitely well girl.
• 28:27
  Speaker 4: He still feels a certain type of way about that
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: fifty years later.
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: So it's so funny.
• 28:34
  Speaker 4: But yeah, we're excited for Father's Day.
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: Shoutouts to all the dads. Shout out to my daddy.
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: Love your dad. We love you Uncle James. Yes, yes,
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: yes yes, be.
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: Sureing to join us as Father's Day as we celebrate
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: the dad's father figures and legacies that continue to inspire us.
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: Our special Father's Day episode drops this Sunday. Until then,
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: Happy Father's Day from all of us at Burn to
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: the game, make sure to like follows, subscribe and share
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: it with your mom and then are your mamma.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Bye