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Seeking Approval · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas,
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  Speaker 1: when you were a teenager, whose approval meant the most
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  Speaker 1: to you?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mamas. And joining us.
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  Speaker 1: Now are American mamas, Terry Netterville and Kimberly Burleson. Uh,
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  Speaker 1: It's been only about five, ten years ago. So whose approval.
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  Speaker 2: Did you seek the most?
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  Speaker 3: Well, as soon as I saw this question, I immediately
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  Speaker 3: thought of my dad. It was my dad, and I
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  Speaker 3: think it was my dad because I admired him so much.
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  Speaker 3: He was so smart. He was so creative. So anything
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  Speaker 3: that he said to me carried the most weight. Now,
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  Speaker 3: my mom, I love my mom, and she loved me,
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  Speaker 3: but it didn't have the same weight as what he thought,
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  Speaker 3: and it's because he was so honest.
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  Speaker 4: Wow.
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  Speaker 3: You know, because I didn't always hear what I wanted
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  Speaker 3: to hear, so it mattered to me.
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  Speaker 1: So it was a little harder to get. It wasn't
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  Speaker 1: just attaboys all the time.
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  Speaker 4: Exactly.
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  Speaker 3: Kind of made me think of Simon Cowell on American Idol.
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  Speaker 3: Why do all those contestants, it matters what Simon thinks.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Because it's real. It's real, and it's brutal sometimes, but
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  Speaker 3: if he gives you the good, then you know you
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  Speaker 3: really do have it.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: And so I think that's why I think it's my dad.
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  Speaker 3: What about you?
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  Speaker 4: Well, you saying that made me think of something that
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  Speaker 4: Steele said a long time ago about He was talking
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  Speaker 4: to his dad and me about baseball stuff. And I said,
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  Speaker 4: you know what? I thought that was great. I thought
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  Speaker 4: you did wonderful. I love the way that you handled it.
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  Speaker 4: He said, you always say that. Dad, what did you think?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And that's when I realized he was the Simon Cowell.
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  Speaker 4: And it mattered to steal what Kevin thought about something
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  Speaker 4: because I'm always going to be the– the you know
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  Speaker 4: the cheerleader the encourager that i thought it was great
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  Speaker 4: don't worry about it kind of person but for me
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  Speaker 4: um i guess it was dad i'm just trying to
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  Speaker 4: think um as i got older it was kimberly but
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  Speaker 4: but as a teenager i did not i wanted my
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  Speaker 4: parents approval i wanted them to be very very proud
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  Speaker 4: of me i wanted my grandparents i wanted all those
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  Speaker 4: you know adults in my family to be very proud
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  Speaker 4: uh i remember going to college and whenever i went
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  Speaker 4: to church with gracie our um grandmother, paternal grandmother. I
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  Speaker 4: wanted her to be proud, but honestly, as I grew
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  Speaker 4: into an adult, it was Kimberly. I always wanted her approval.
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  Speaker 4: I always wanted to know what she thought about something
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  Speaker 4: I was doing. I think a lot of us in
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  Speaker 4: our family look at Kimberly like that because she's very honest.
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  Speaker 4: She's very good at making decisions. Even my girls, my daughter-in-law,
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  Speaker 4: my daughter, You know, they'll call and say, you know,
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  Speaker 4: whether it's decorating or what do you think I should
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  Speaker 4: do about, you know, this. It's always Kimberly.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, my gosh.
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to cry.
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  Speaker 1: Is that because you're not, Terry's like, yeah, go team.
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  Speaker 1: Are you that way too?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, she tells the truth.
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  Speaker 3: I'm very honest.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and sometimes when it's not what I know they
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  Speaker 3: want to hear, it's like I have to be honest.
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  Speaker 1: So that's kind of the trend I'm noticing here. The
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  Speaker 1: different people that you've mentioned, Kevin, your dad, Kimberly, you.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: All three, it's not the person who just gives out
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  Speaker 1: the rewards all the time.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 1: But does give out attaboys as they are warranted. Is
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  Speaker 1: that right?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. And what's interesting is I have gifts. I don't
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  Speaker 4: really know what they are yet. But Kimberly is so
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  Speaker 4: good about seeing the bigger picture.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And I can too, but I don't make decisions easily.
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  Speaker 4: So I always think, well, that's a great idea. Whereas
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  Speaker 4: she'll come around and say, Summer, that's a great idea,
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  Speaker 4: but what I might think about doing is in about
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  Speaker 4: five years, you might look at it this way. You
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  Speaker 4: know what I mean? I'm an encourager because I do believe,
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  Speaker 4: I'm just so proud and excited for everybody. I really
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  Speaker 4: think everybody's awesome, but I also don't have that part
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  Speaker 4: in me where I can um, help people make decisions.
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  Speaker 4: Cause I can't even make my own decisions. I have,
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't know, you know, everything weighs heavily, but, um,
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  Speaker 4: I'm very much envious of people who have that ability
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  Speaker 4: like Kimberly, because it comes in so handy. And even
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  Speaker 4: my husband, you know, he'll say, well, we'll see what
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  Speaker 4: your sister thinks, you know, and maybe that she's the, um,
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  Speaker 4: She's the, even mom. I mean, we all, even at Curity,
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  Speaker 4: it might be that you are the leader in our
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  Speaker 4: family chain.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like it doesn't, doesn't make me always popular.
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't always make me the most popular, which I
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  Speaker 3: would put her in that category because she's so loved
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  Speaker 3: and so beloved, but, and I can't fake it.
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  Speaker 2: But don't you need both?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, don't you need the encourager? And then don't
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  Speaker 1: you need the person who's going to tell the truth
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  Speaker 1: in love? I mean, don't you need both in order
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  Speaker 1: to really thrive? I mean, if you never have anybody
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  Speaker 1: in your life who's giving you any encouragement, right? If
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  Speaker 1: you never have Heidi Klum sitting there on the panel going, oh,
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  Speaker 1: that was great, right? Then where do you keep pushing?
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  Speaker 1: But if everybody's telling you that, you know, your poop
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  Speaker 1: don't stink, then how are you going to thrive, right?
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  Speaker 4: Don't you need both? And that's probably why we work
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  Speaker 4: so well together.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe so.
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  Speaker 4: With Lindsey, too. You know, we all have that personality
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  Speaker 4: that makes that dynamic, that sisterhood so perfect for us.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 1: Well, if you'd like to ask our American Mamas a question,
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  Speaker 1: maybe even some life advice, go to our website, AmericanGuyRadio.com
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  Speaker 1: slash Mamas, and click on the Ask the Mamas button.
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  Speaker 4: And ask for Kimberly.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, Terry Neff, Kimberly Burleson, thank you so much.