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2 - One Simple Question That Changes Everything · Daily Relationship Tips: Practical Relationship Skills That Help Couples Reconnect

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  There's
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  a
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  moment
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  that
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  happens
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  in
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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  long
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  term
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  relationships.
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  You're
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  going
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  about
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  your
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  day
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  and
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  it
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  suddenly
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  occurs
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  to
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  you.
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  You
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  can't
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  remember
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  the
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  last
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  time
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  you
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  did
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  something
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  just
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  to
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  make
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  your
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  partner
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  smile.
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  Not
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  because
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  you
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  had
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  to,
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  not
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  because
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  there
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  was
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  an
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  occasion,
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  just
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  because
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  you
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  wanted
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  them
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  to
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  feel
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  good.
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  If
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  that
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  sounds
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  familiar,
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  keep
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  listening.
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  I'm
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  Alastair
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  Dewes
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  the
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  Daily
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  Relationship
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  Tips
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  Podcast
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  where
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  I
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  share
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  simple,
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  practical
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  tools
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  and
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  your
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  partner
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  feel
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  close,
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  connected,
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  and
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  in
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  love
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  again,
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  one
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  small
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  habit
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  at
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  a
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  time
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  here's
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  something
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  most
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  people
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  don't
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  realize
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  about
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  happiness
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  in
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  a
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  relationship.
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  It
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  isn't
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  something
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  that
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  just
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  happens
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  to
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  you.
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  It's
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  something
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  you
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  create,
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  one
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  deliberate
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  action
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  at
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  a
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  time.
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  Now,
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  I
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  was
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  working
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  with
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  a
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  client
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  a
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  while
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  back,
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  a
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  man
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  I'll
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  call
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  David.
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  He
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  was
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  a
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  good
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  husband.
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  Hard
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  working,
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  reliable,
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  committed.
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  But
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  somewhere
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  along
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  the
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  way,
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  kids
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  work,
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  the
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  usual.
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  He'd
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  stopped
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  doing
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  the
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  small
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  things.
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  The
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  morning
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  coffees
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  he
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  used
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  to
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  make
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  for
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  his
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  wife,
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  the
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  texts
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  he'd
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  send
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  just
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  to
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  say
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  he
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  was
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  thinking
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  of
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  her.
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  The
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  spontaneous
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  let's
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  go
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  out
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  for
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  dinner
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  tonight.
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  None
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  of
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  it
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  had
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  stopped
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  because
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  he
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  loved
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  her
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  less.
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  Life
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  just
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  got
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  busy
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  and
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  the
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  little
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  things
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  got
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  squeezed
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  out.
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  His
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  wife
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  told
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  him
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  one
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  evening
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  quietly,
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  I
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  don't
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  feel
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  like
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  your
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  priority
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  anymore.
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  That
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  hit
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  him
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  hard,
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  because
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  he'd
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  been
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  trying,
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  just
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  not
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  in
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  the
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  ways
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  she
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  could
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  feel.
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  So
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  how
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  do
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  you
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  make
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  your
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  partner
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  happy?
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  It
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  sounds
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  almost
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  too
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  simple
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  to
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  talk
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  about.
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  But
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  here's
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  the
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  thing.
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  Most
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  couples
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  stop
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  doing
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  it
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  not
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  because
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  they
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  want
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  to,
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  but
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  because
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  they
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  assume
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  their
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  partner
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  already
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  knows.
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  They
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  care,
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  and
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  an
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  assumption
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  isn't
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  the
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  same
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  as
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  a
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  gesture.
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  Here's
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  where
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  most
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  people
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  get
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  this
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  wrong.
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  They
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  think
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  making
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  their
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  partner
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  happy
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  requires
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  big
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  gestures,
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  holidays,
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  surprises,
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  grand
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  romantic
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  moments.
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  And
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  while
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  those
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  are
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  wonderful,
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  they're
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  not
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  what
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  creates
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  the
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  feeling
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  of
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  being
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  loved
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  day
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  to
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  day.
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  What
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  creates
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  that
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  feeling
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  is
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  something
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  much
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  smaller
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  and
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  much
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  more
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  consistent.
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  It's
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  daily
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  intention,
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  the
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  conscious
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  choice
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  each
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  day
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  to
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  do
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  at
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  least
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  one
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  thing
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  you
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  know
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  will
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  make
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  your
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  partner's
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  day
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  a
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  little
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  better.
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  For
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  example,
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  maybe
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  your
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  partner
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  loves
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  a
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  hot
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  drink
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  waiting
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  for
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  them
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  when
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  they
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  get
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  home.
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  Or
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  a
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  text
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  at
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  lunchtime
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  just
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  saying
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  you're
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  thinking
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  of
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  them.
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  Or
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  you
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  handling
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  bedtime
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  with
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  the
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  kids
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  so
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  they
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  get
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  20
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  minutes
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  to
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  themselves.
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  These
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  aren't
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  grand
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  gestures,
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  but
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  they
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  send
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  a
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  powerful
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  I
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  thought
• 3:06
  about
• 3:06
  you
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  today.
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  You
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  matter
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  to
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  me.
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  So
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  here's
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  today's
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  tool.
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  Each
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  morning,
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  ask
• 3:13
  yourself
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  one
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  simple
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  what's
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  one
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  thing
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  I
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  can
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  do
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  today
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  that
• 3:19
  will
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  make
• 3:19
  my
• 3:19
  partner
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  happy?
• 3:21
  It
• 3:21
  doesn't
• 3:22
  need
• 3:22
  to
• 3:22
  be
• 3:22
  elaborate.
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  It
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  just
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  needs
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  to
• 3:24
  be
• 3:24
  intentional.
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  Most
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  couples
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  find
• 3:27
  the
• 3:27
  ripple
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  happens
• 3:28
  faster
• 3:28
  than
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  they
• 3:29
  expect.
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  When
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  your
• 3:31
  partner
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  genuinely
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  feels
• 3:32
  thought
• 3:32
  about,
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  something
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  in
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  the
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  dynamic
• 3:34
  shifts.
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  Not
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  because
• 3:36
  anything's
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  been
• 3:37
  fixed,
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  just
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  because
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  they
• 3:39
  can
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  feel
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  they're
• 3:40
  on
• 3:40
  your
• 3:40
  mind.
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  That's
• 3:42
  the
• 3:42
  power
• 3:43
  of
• 3:43
  one
• 3:44
  small
• 3:44
  daily
• 3:45
  intention.
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  So
• 3:47
  here's
• 3:47
  your
• 3:48
  challenge
• 3:48
  for
• 3:48
  today.
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  Think
• 3:49
  of
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  one
• 3:50
  thing,
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  just
• 3:51
  one
• 3:52
  that
• 3:52
  you
• 3:52
  know
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  would
• 3:53
  make
• 3:53
  your
• 3:53
  partner
• 3:53
  happy.
• 3:55
  Then
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  do
• 3:55
  it.
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  Don't
• 3:56
  overthink
• 3:57
  it.
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  Don't
• 3:58
  wait
• 3:58
  for
• 3:58
  a
• 3:59
  special
• 3:59
  occasion.
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  Just
• 4:01
  do
• 4:01
  it
• 4:01
  today.
• 4:02
  Because
• 4:02
  here's
• 4:03
  what
• 4:03
  this
• 4:03
  means
• 4:04
  long
• 4:04
  term.
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  When
• 4:06
  both
• 4:06
  people
• 4:06
  in
• 4:06
  a
• 4:07
  relationship
• 4:07
  are
• 4:08
  actively
• 4:08
  daily
• 4:09
  trying
• 4:10
  to
• 4:10
  make
• 4:10
  each
• 4:10
  other
• 4:11
  feel
• 4:11
  good,
• 4:12
  the
• 4:12
  whole
• 4:13
  tone
• 4:13
  shifts.
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  It
• 4:15
  becomes
• 4:16
  a
• 4:16
  place
• 4:16
  both
• 4:17
  people
• 4:17
  want
• 4:17
  to
• 4:17
  be.
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  Not
• 4:19
  because
• 4:19
  everything
• 4:19
  is
• 4:20
  perfect,
• 4:21
  but
• 4:21
  because
• 4:21
  you
• 4:22
  both
• 4:22
  know
• 4:22
  you're
• 4:23
  on
• 4:23
  each
• 4:23
  other's
• 4:23
  team.
• 4:24
  That's
• 4:25
  what
• 4:25
  a
• 4:25
  truly
• 4:25
  happy
• 4:26
  relationship
• 4:26
  feels
• 4:27
  like.
• 4:28
  And
• 4:28
  it
• 4:28
  starts
• 4:29
  with
• 4:29
  one
• 4:30
  small
• 4:30
  thing
• 4:31
  today.
• 4:32
  So
• 4:33
  take
• 4:33
  today's
• 4:33
  challenge
• 4:34
  seriously.
• 4:35
  Ask
• 4:36
  yourself,
• 4:36
  right,
• 4:38
  what's
• 4:38
  one
• 4:38
  thing
• 4:39
  I
• 4:39
  can
• 4:39
  do
• 4:39
  today
• 4:39
  to
• 4:40
  make
• 4:40
  my
• 4:40
  partner
• 4:41
  happy?
• 4:42
  Then
• 4:42
  go
• 4:43
  and
• 4:43
  do
• 4:43
  it.
• 4:44
  Small
• 4:45
  gestures
• 4:46
  done
• 4:46
  consistently.
• 4:48
  What
• 4:48
  keeps
• 4:49
  a
• 4:49
  relationship
• 4:50
  warm?
• 4:51
  Now,
• 4:52
  one
• 4:52
  new
• 4:52
  relationship
• 4:53
  habit
• 4:53
  is
• 4:53
  a
• 4:54
  start.
• 4:55
  But
• 4:55
  here's
• 4:55
  what
• 4:56
  might
• 4:56
  make
• 4:56
  the
• 4:56
  biggest
• 4:57
  difference
• 4:57
  for
• 4:58
  your
• 4:58
  relationship
• 4:58
  right
• 4:59
  now.
• 5:00
  There's
• 5:00
  a
• 5:01
  free
• 5:01
  two
• 5:01
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• 5:02
  quiz
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  at
• 5:02
  DailyRelationshipTips.com
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  that
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• 5:06
  you
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  which
• 5:06
  one
• 5:07
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• 5:07
  two
• 5:08
  relationship
• 5:08
  habits
• 5:09
  will
• 5:09
  move
• 5:09
  the
• 5:10
  needle
• 5:10
  fastest
• 5:11
  for
• 5:11
  you.
• 5:12
  Take
• 5:12
  just
• 5:13
  two
• 5:13
  minutes
• 5:14
  and
• 5:14
  you'll
• 5:14
  know
• 5:14
  more
• 5:15
  about
• 5:15
  your
• 5:15
  relationship
• 5:16
  than
• 5:16
  most
• 5:16
  couples
• 5:17
  figure
• 5:17
  out
• 5:17
  in
• 5:18
  a
• 5:18
  year.
• 5:19
  And
• 5:19
  while
• 5:19
  you're
• 5:20
  there,
• 5:20
  you'll
• 5:21
  find
• 5:21
  a
• 5:21
  stack
• 5:21
  of
• 5:21
  relationship
• 5:22
  resources
• 5:23
  to
• 5:23
  help
• 5:23
  you
• 5:24
  put
• 5:24
  these
• 5:24
  habits
• 5:25
  into
• 5:25
  practice.
• 5:26
  Everything
• 5:27
  you
• 5:27
  need
• 5:28
  is
• 5:28
  waiting
• 5:28
  there
• 5:29
  for
• 5:29
  you.
• 5:30
  Thanks
• 5:30
  for
• 5:30
  listening
• 5:31
  and
• 5:31
  I'll
• 5:31
  see
• 5:32
  you
• 5:32
  in
• 5:32
  the
• 5:32
  next
• 5:32
  episode.