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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Manhattan, It's Been Real · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily a body here bringing you another installment
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  Speaker 1: of five Minute Friday, the first for season six. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I've been having to do that a lot lately.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I've been having to take a lot
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  Speaker 1: of deep breaths because I have been living in like
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  Speaker 1: a state of overwhelm, which is to be expected because
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  Speaker 1: I in under a week am moving from the Upper
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  Speaker 1: east Side to Brooklyn. I'm changing Burrows. It's something I
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  Speaker 1: never expected in my life that I would be living
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  Speaker 1: in Brooklyn. And work is also super hectic. With last
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  Speaker 1: week's special series, there was a lot going on, and
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  Speaker 1: it just has life new challenges for me each and
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  Speaker 1: every day. So it's interesting because for the most part,
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  Speaker 1: I would say in the weeks leading up to now,
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  Speaker 1: in the week's leading up to my move, I've been
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  Speaker 1: really excited. I felt really purposeful with this. I felt
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  Speaker 1: very sure of my decision. Last week, I went to
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  Speaker 1: go measure the apartment and it was the first time
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  Speaker 1: that I went there that the apartment was completely empty.
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  Speaker 1: When I initially saw the space, there was a couple
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  Speaker 1: still living there, and so I stood in the middle
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  Speaker 1: of the apartment and I'm just like looking around me
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  Speaker 1: kind of an awe of the fact that this is
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  Speaker 1: going to be my space, and it's going to be
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  Speaker 1: my home, and it's something that I always dreamed for
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  Speaker 1: myself but just never really thought was going to happen.
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  Speaker 1: I left the apartment and I went for a walk
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  Speaker 1: around the neighborhood, and I stopped and did some work
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  Speaker 1: at a cafe for a while, and just sitting there
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  Speaker 1: and looking around me and seeing the people that were
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  Speaker 1: walking by, the kinds of people that were walking by,
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  Speaker 1: I felt truly at home. I felt like there was
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  Speaker 1: so much promise about me being in this place and
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  Speaker 1: spending time in this place in the weeks going forward.
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  Speaker 1: But I digress, because Thursday morning, I went on a
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  Speaker 1: run and I decided that I wanted to run down
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  Speaker 1: Library Way in Central Park, which is kind of in
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  Speaker 1: the middle of Central Park near the Big Fountain. A
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  Speaker 1: lot of movies are filmed there. And I literally get
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  Speaker 1: to the top of Library Way and I'm starting to
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  Speaker 1: run down it, and emotion just completely overtook me. Like
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  Speaker 1: I expected to feel some kind of way, maybe because
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  Speaker 1: I don't run there often and it's quintessential New York,
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  Speaker 1: But all of a sudden, I just was crying, and
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  Speaker 1: it felt literally like uncontrollable, and it just hit me
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  Speaker 1: all at once that I have spent ten years in
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  Speaker 1: the neighborhood, ten years, and I get it. Moving to
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  Speaker 1: Brooklyn isn't like me moving to Los Angeles, but it's
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  Speaker 1: still a really big change for me, and it's a
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  Speaker 1: really big change that I'm undertaking on my own. You know,
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  Speaker 1: when I moved to the Upper east Side, a big
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  Speaker 1: part of it was because of the cost, but it
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  Speaker 1: was also because I had a lot of friends in
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  Speaker 1: the area, and me moving to Brooklyn has nothing to
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  Speaker 1: do with who's in Brooklyn necessarily, but more so, what
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  Speaker 1: was an opportunity for me in that space, What I
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  Speaker 1: could afford in that space, what I could make my
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  Speaker 1: own in that space. And so super emotional on my run,
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  Speaker 1: stopped to literally cry for a minute. And I also
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  Speaker 1: couldn't help but think about all the memories that I've
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  Speaker 1: made uptown. I've been uptown for so long. All of
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  Speaker 1: my New York memories are rooted here. I fell in
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  Speaker 1: love three times at least while living here. I built
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  Speaker 1: my business here, I launched this podcast. I commuted so
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  Speaker 1: many days from here, and so it's just it's a lot,
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  Speaker 1: but I know this to be true, that that emotion
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  Speaker 1: really instilled in me that I am nowhere and you're
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  Speaker 1: ready to leave the New York area anytime soon, although
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  Speaker 1: I certainly wondered that at times briefly during the pandemic,
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  Speaker 1: and it also reaffirmed to me the idea that you
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  Speaker 1: can be both scared and excited at the same time.
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  Speaker 1: And a good friend reminded me yesterday that I'm in
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  Speaker 1: the driver's seat right and Brooklyn is the next chapter
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  Speaker 1: in my story, and I get to decide what success
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  Speaker 1: there looks like and even how long I stay if
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  Speaker 1: I don't love it. Not that I'm not expecting not
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  Speaker 1: to love it, but if I don't love it, I
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  Speaker 1: can grow from that experience and I'll be ready to
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  Speaker 1: move on to whatever the next chapter is after that.
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  Speaker 1: This is a big opportunity, and again, it can be
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  Speaker 1: both scary and exciting, but it's one that I know
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  Speaker 1: in my soul is the right one for me. Prompt
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  Speaker 1: for you this week, what was the last thing that
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  Speaker 1: both made you equally excited and absolutely terrified? Again, what
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  Speaker 1: was the last thing that made you equal parts excited
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  Speaker 1: and absolutely terrified. Highlights of the week this week are
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  Speaker 1: actually all going to be podcast listens. I figure, since
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  Speaker 1: you're listening to this one that you stick with me
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  Speaker 1: week after week that you won't mind that much links
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  Speaker 1: to all this stuff in the show notes. First up,
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  Speaker 1: two goodies on Armchair Expert. In the last week and
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  Speaker 1: a half, we've got Alexi pop Us and then Thursday
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  Speaker 1: morning they released Prince Harry, which I swear I thought
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  Speaker 1: that it was going to be a joke or something,
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  Speaker 1: but it's really Prince Harry on Armchair Expert. You've heard
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  Speaker 1: it from Alexi Papas on the show before, so I
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  Speaker 1: won't explain too much, but I really appreciated the way
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  Speaker 1: that her and Dak Shepherd bounced off one another and
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  Speaker 1: his ability to pull things out of Alexi that I
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  Speaker 1: haven't heard yet, So I really loved that. As for
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  Speaker 1: Prince Harry, I mean he compares his life as a
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  Speaker 1: royal like being on The Truman Show. There are so
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  Speaker 1: many interesting tidbits in this interview. Definitely definitely give it
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  Speaker 1: a listen. Also of Highlight, Glennon Doyle released a podcast
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  Speaker 1: this week. It's called We Can Do Hard Things. I'm
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  Speaker 1: really interested to see how she is as she falls
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  Speaker 1: into this new role of podcasting. She brings in her
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  Speaker 1: sister Amanda to chat on the show, and I really
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  Speaker 1: just love the organic chemistry between them, and I think
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  Speaker 1: this is going to be a really fun and exciting
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  Speaker 1: new chapter for Glennon. And again that podcast is called
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  Speaker 1: We Can Do Hard Things. Another good listen is Chandler
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  Speaker 1: Smith on Trained Whether or not you're in a CrossFit.
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  Speaker 1: Chandler Smith he is the top performing black male crossfitter
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  Speaker 1: and he's got some really great perspective on how we
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  Speaker 1: can realize our big potential, so to speak, both in
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  Speaker 1: sport and in life. He's an Army soldier and he
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  Speaker 1: talks with past hurdler Ryan Flaherty about everything from his
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  Speaker 1: favorite junk food to his secret it's to keeping cool
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  Speaker 1: under pressure. And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, So you always have the most impressive closet
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  Speaker 2: purges and as you prep for a move and I'm
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  Speaker 2: assuming another closet purge, I'm wondering if you have any
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  Speaker 2: solid mass follow tips for the rest of us. Congrats
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  Speaker 2: and good luck with your moves. Thanks.
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  Speaker 1: Ooh, this is literally what's on deck for me this weekend.
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  Speaker 1: Great question. So, I think the classic Marie condo takeaway.
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  Speaker 1: If you pick something up and it doesn't bring you joy,
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  Speaker 1: get rid of it. I don't know every piece of item,
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  Speaker 1: every piece of clothing that I'm going to pick up,
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  Speaker 1: is going to bring me a lot of joy, so
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  Speaker 1: that tactic doesn't work for everything. But if there is
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  Speaker 1: something I have not worn in a full calendar year,
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  Speaker 1: and trust me, I have plenty of that stuff, that
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  Speaker 1: is kind of my barometer. I don't know if that's
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  Speaker 1: the right word in this instance, but that is what
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  Speaker 1: I'm be saying. What's coming with me to Brooklyn and
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  Speaker 1: what's not coming with me to Brooklyn. I realize that
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  Speaker 1: I haven't worn a full length running tank top. I've
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  Speaker 1: been wearing more cropped length running tank tops with high
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  Speaker 1: waisted shorts and tights. I have worn a full length
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  Speaker 1: running tank top in maybe a year, which is insane.
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  Speaker 1: So that means that I don't need to bring twenty
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  Speaker 1: of them with me in my move. I'm also just
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  Speaker 1: tossing stuff that I have better versions or new versions of.
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  Speaker 1: So I literally went through a basket of twelve umbrellas
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  Speaker 1: the other day. I used two of them. I tossed
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  Speaker 1: ten dishes that I've had for eight to ten years
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  Speaker 1: that are completely scratched up, that have come with me
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  Speaker 1: to not just one, not two, not three, but four apartments.
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  Speaker 1: M it's time to get some new ones. And when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to organization, what I've come to learn is
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  Speaker 1: I have a lot of sneakers, and some of them
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  Speaker 1: I had been storing in a lower shelf on the
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  Speaker 1: bottom of my closet behind some backpacks, well keeping them there.
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  Speaker 1: I realized I don't use them, and if I'm not
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  Speaker 1: using them, they, even though they might be cute, fall
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  Speaker 1: into the you've got to get rid of these. Get
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  Speaker 1: rid of these in that instance, I mean donate them.
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  Speaker 1: So I would just really trust your gut and be
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  Speaker 1: mindful of what you can donate, what you can give
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  Speaker 1: to someone who may want it or need it, what
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  Speaker 1: you might even be able to sell and make a
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  Speaker 1: few bucks. There's a lot of options. Cleaning out your space,
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  Speaker 1: whether or not you're moving, can be super therapeutic and
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  Speaker 1: I personally am really, really really looking forward to a
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  Speaker 1: fresh start. That's it for this week. Make sure you're
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  Speaker 1: a Body and I would love it if you're still listening,
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  Speaker 1: consider leaving me a voice message, ask me a question
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  Speaker 1: to be featured in an upcoming episode of the show.
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  Speaker 1: A link to do that is in the show notes.
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  Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah,