Helena & The Abuse Disguised as Care

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse · Mar 22, 2026 · 58m

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Helena shares her story of growing up in chaos, surviving one visibly abusive marriage, and then entering another relationship that did not look abusive at first because everything was framed as care. What began as listening, insight, and emotional openness slowly became criticism, gaslighting, moving goalposts, and a constant need for approval. As Helena tried harder to become a “good wife,” she lost more trust in her own voice, her own reality, and her own worth.

It's a story about intergenerational trauma, psychological abuse, fear of divorce, the…