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Ep. 85 "Man Down" with urologist Dr. Fenwa Millhouse · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talk back.
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  Speaker 2: What's up, y'all?
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  Speaker 3: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode of
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  Speaker 3: We Talk Back, a show dedicated to you niggas and
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  Speaker 3: these hoes.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, girl. Hey, girl.
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  Speaker 1: How y'all doing? It's me, Official Tam Bam once again.
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  Speaker 1: I love y'all. I love y'all so much. Thank y'all
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  Speaker 1: for coming back. We love you. AJ don't tell y'all,
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  Speaker 1: but she love y'all too.
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  Speaker 2: I do be loving people.
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  Speaker 3: Listen, if people disappoint you, you know, so I'll be
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  Speaker 3: liking to tell people how I really feel about them.
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  Speaker 3: When they start doing some shit you don't like, it's like, nah,
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  Speaker 3: I gotta kill you. I never loved you anyway, nigga.
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  Speaker 1: How was your weekend? It was cool, girl.
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  Speaker 3: I did like a little staycation with my friends and family.
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  Speaker 3: At Kiowa Island, you know Charleston got like nice little
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  Speaker 3: elite islands around here where the white people be dumped
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  Speaker 3: off at driving Bentleys and shit. Yeah, that's what I
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  Speaker 3: was doing. It was very nice. And the where part
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  Speaker 3: about it, here's the where part. They actually import niggas
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  Speaker 3: from someplace else to work on the island.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody on the island- Is that higher?
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  Speaker 1: People from Charleston?
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  Speaker 4: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody was from Jamaica.
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  Speaker 3: They come on some type of work permit for seasonal
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  Speaker 3: hospitality work, and they import them all over the world, essentially.
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  Speaker 1: I bet you they pay cheaper than somebody from actual Charleston.
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  Speaker 3: So that's what I was asking, because Charleston is expensive,
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  Speaker 3: especially the area I live in, West Ashley. Like, a
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  Speaker 3: one-bedroom is almost $ 2, 000 now a month. They are paying
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  Speaker 3: for their housing in West Ashley for them to work,
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  Speaker 3: and they bus them to the islands.
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  Speaker 1: Hmm.
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  Speaker 2: Interesting, huh?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, if y'all want, I guess they want like
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  Speaker 3: the Caribbean feel, but we Geechee, I guess they don't
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  Speaker 3: want the ratchet that comes along with Geechee.
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  Speaker 1: I box you in your lip.
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  Speaker 3: So they just import these people who, you know, they
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  Speaker 3: grew up in hospitality because that's all, that's the major
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  Speaker 3: industry in most of those Caribbean islands.
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  Speaker 2: But I feel like that is so wicked and I'm
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  Speaker 2: not done with it.
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  Speaker 1: That is weird.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not done with it at all.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Do some research on that, friend.
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  Speaker 2: I try to see how the fuck I can make
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  Speaker 2: money off them, too. Sorry, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no. We're going to talk about this. AJ
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  Speaker 1: had posted a bathing suit pic to her close friends,
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  Speaker 1: and you look so good. Why you didn't post it
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  Speaker 1: for everybody to see? Everybody need to see how good
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  Speaker 1: you look.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like one hoe, not two hoe, okay? I don't
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  Speaker 3: be want, like that's not my image though. I wanted
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  Speaker 3: like people to give me like the oohs and the
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  Speaker 3: ahs and like, girl, you look good.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted that. Okay. That's obviously why people post those
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  Speaker 2: type of pictures, but I don't need that from everybody.
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  Speaker 2: Just the people I fuck with. That's it.
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  Speaker 1: Girl, post that baby suit picture.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. Maybe, maybe not. We'll see.
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  Speaker 1: I screenshotted. I'm going to post it on your next birthday.
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  Speaker 2: What the hell you did this weekend? Don't worry about it.
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  Speaker 1: I really didn't do much of anything. It was my
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  Speaker 1: cousin Erin's birthday. She had a little brunch on Sunday,
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  Speaker 1: so I went to that. They all went out, but
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  Speaker 1: I did not go out. I just been spending my time.
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  Speaker 1: I've been running every day. I've been running every day
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  Speaker 1: the past 10 days straight. I've been doing at least
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  Speaker 1: 45 minutes to an hour. So my hair has been
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  Speaker 1: sleep back in a ponytail, and I ain't been trying
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  Speaker 1: to drink or club or nothing. I'm just trying to
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  Speaker 1: get physically fit. It's this bitch on Instagram, and I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. Her pictures, like she has a body type
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  Speaker 1: like mine, and she's been working out for a year,
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  Speaker 1: and she.
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  Speaker 2: Looks fucking amazing.
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  Speaker 1: Is it the Jessica, the J-Sculpt girl?
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  Speaker 5: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Girl, why I got her screenshot on my goddamn phone?
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  Speaker 3: I was like, yo, that's my body.
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  Speaker 2: Me too, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: She motivated me.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, that's my body right there.
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  Speaker 1: That's, in fact, same. Except I ain't got no titties
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  Speaker 1: like that.
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  Speaker 2: But everything else is me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So she done motivated me. I've been like in there
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  Speaker 1: running every day because I'm just starting with cardio. But
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  Speaker 1: once I'm going to Jamaica next week, so after I
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  Speaker 1: get back, that's when I'm going to start incorporating weight training.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, I definitely, I don't know how she came across
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  Speaker 2: my timeline.
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  Speaker 3: I definitely followed that ass and screenshot that goddamn picture. Like,
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  Speaker 3: you cannot be walking around here that fine and I'm not. Like,
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  Speaker 3: what am I doing with my life?
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  Speaker 1: That's how I felt too. So a bitch been running
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  Speaker 1: every 10 days straight.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she looks amazing.
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  Speaker 1: Let's get into the stupid internet news. What happened this
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  Speaker 1: past weekend?
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  Speaker 2: Did y'all watch the VMAs?
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  Speaker 4: Oh.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: I did see some of it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so Lizzo was addressing Aries Spears because, you know,
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  Speaker 3: he tried to come for her on Instagram.
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  Speaker 2: Talk about how she looked like the shit emoji. Just terrible.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Like, you're not even funny. Like, I mean, he
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  Speaker 1: has been funny. I remember him from Mad TV and
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  Speaker 1: like different programs that he did. And he has been funny,
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  Speaker 1: but that just wasn't, it was tasteless. It wasn't, it
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  Speaker 1: didn't make nobody laugh. It just made people angry.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And just some random hate. Even Mike Epps came for
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  Speaker 3: his ass right quick. And the thing is, is that
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  Speaker 3: I wanted to talk about this story in particular because
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  Speaker 3: when men, men talk about women, like we so shallow dog,
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  Speaker 3: when it comes to aesthetics, men are way more visual.
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  Speaker 3: Men are way more shallow because imagine a man that
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  Speaker 3: looks like him. Regardless of what, if Lizzo is big,
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  Speaker 3: she's a big.
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  Speaker 2: Pretty ass girl. And I bet you she smells nice
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  Speaker 2: as well.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: She's just really fluffy.
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  Speaker 3: But imagine you look like Mike F says he looks sick.
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  Speaker 3: I believe him because the pictures and that's how he
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  Speaker 3: looks on his social media. So imagine you talking crazy
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  Speaker 3: about Liz. I didn't like that shit.
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  Speaker 1: Based off appearance. Yeah, it was just black.
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  Speaker 3: And men do that. It was just black and poor taste.
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  Speaker 3: Did you ever see that skit that Drewski did that
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  Speaker 3: one time? He had the dirty fingernails.
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  Speaker 2: He was like, oh, my girl.
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  Speaker 3: My girl can't. My girl got to always keep her
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  Speaker 3: nails done. Meanwhile, you got dirty fingernails.
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  Speaker 1: Right. And holes in your jaw.
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  Speaker 3: Just all this nasty shit that men be having going on.
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  Speaker 3: And y'all just think that women just have to be
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  Speaker 3: this perfect. Even if you were two, you still think
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  Speaker 3: you deserve a 10 type men.
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  Speaker 2: That's how guys be. And I don't like it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not here for that.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all need to lower y'all standards a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all need to recognize your holler level.
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  Speaker 2: Men don't know their holler level. Right.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, that New Jersey art teacher, she responded to, if
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  Speaker 1: y'all have been paying attention, there's a teacher in New
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  Speaker 1: York and it looks like she may have had some
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  Speaker 1: body work done. I don't know, but she's super curvy
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  Speaker 1: and they were calling for her to be fired over
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  Speaker 1: her body. And she's saying that most of the people
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  Speaker 1: who are hating on her about her body and wanting
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  Speaker 1: her to be fired are not women. It's men. Which
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  Speaker 1: was surprising to me because I just thought it might
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  Speaker 1: have been a lot of hating ass bitches like jealous. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Or just, you know, I don't, but it's men. She
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  Speaker 1: says it's more men. Women are supporting her. But as
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  Speaker 1: long as you're a good educator and good with the children,
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  Speaker 1: I don't care what your body looks like.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: If you are teaching these kids and raising them up
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  Speaker 1: and helping them raise good, productive citizens, I don't care
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  Speaker 1: what your body look like.
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  Speaker 4: Nah.
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  Speaker 3: And I guess, you know, we've always had this, like,
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  Speaker 3: perception of what teachers look like and what doctors look
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  Speaker 3: like and what lawyers look like. You know, so she
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  Speaker 3: doesn't have, like, the standard body type or maybe she
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  Speaker 3: doesn't even wear, like, the clothes that you would think
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  Speaker 3: a teacher would wear. I don't know what teachers look
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  Speaker 3: like nowadays. I know they look younger than before, like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, prior. Like, when we were in school, like,
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  Speaker 3: the teachers now look younger. But should you dress according
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  Speaker 3: to the profession? I believe so, yes. So you got
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  Speaker 3: that big ass dunk. Maybe you shouldn't wear jeggings to class.
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  Speaker 2: You know?
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  Speaker 1: But it doesn't look like she's wearing that stuff. From
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  Speaker 1: the pictures I saw of her, she wore stuff that
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  Speaker 1: any teacher would wear. She just happens to.
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  Speaker 2: Have curves in it.
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  Speaker 1: And some shit you can't handle. Yeah, you can't handle.
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  Speaker 3: And I feel like black women, we've always gotten that
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  Speaker 3: type of heat. Especially even just going to school. Do
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  Speaker 3: you remember being in school and being critiqued on what
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  Speaker 3: you had? You can have the same exact thing on
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  Speaker 3: that a white girl has on, but because your body
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  Speaker 3: looks different in it, it's a problem. But it's not
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  Speaker 3: a problem with the child, because I'm a child in
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  Speaker 3: high school, right? You're a grown adult male or adult
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  Speaker 3: woman looking at me in a sexual way.
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  Speaker 2: That don't have nothing to do with me. Right.
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  Speaker 3: Because why are you sexualizing my body in that way?
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  Speaker 3: But it's weird to me to think that it's men
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  Speaker 3: that are coming for her and not the women.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I would think it would be the women. Because remember
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  Speaker 3: it was that.
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  Speaker 1: Me too. You remember that news host?
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  Speaker 2: She was a black girl as well. Very cute. Oh, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And it was the white women that was coming for her.
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  Speaker 3: They didn't want their husbands watching their ass on fucking
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  Speaker 3: TV no more.
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  Speaker 2: She was very beautiful. Nice body.
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  Speaker 1: They were like, fuck the weather. Because I think she
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  Speaker 1: was like the weather girl.
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  Speaker 2: Bitch, you won't need to know if it's raining or not.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 1: Bitch, you'll see if it's raining tomorrow when you go outside.
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  Speaker 2: All right, Tam. So listen, you with your man, right?
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  Speaker 3: Y'all religiously played a lottery together.
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  Speaker 2: You love him.
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  Speaker 3: At least you think you love him until you finally
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  Speaker 3: hit the fucking lottery.
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  Speaker 2: For say, I don't know, $ 4. 2 million? What you doing?
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  Speaker 1: What I'm doing? It depends. If I love him like that,
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  Speaker 1: like that, I'm keeping him. But if I don't and
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  Speaker 1: he was just helping me survive... It's up, bitch. I
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  Speaker 1: might throw him a little piece.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 3: This story comes from Hollywood Unlocked, so apparently this woman,
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  Speaker 3: I think they might be European, because it says she
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  Speaker 3: won $ 3. 6 million, which is the equivalent of $ 4. 2 million
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  Speaker 3: US dollars. But apparently, yep, Nottingham, England. She dumped her
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  Speaker 3: boyfriend at four years and claimed the winnings for herself.
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  Speaker 3: So she's 40, he's.
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  Speaker 2: 39, they were living together.
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  Speaker 3: Supposedly there was a thing where she doesn't have to
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  Speaker 3: pay bills just to play the lottery, and he would
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  Speaker 3: cover all the bills, and then once she won the money,
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  Speaker 3: she dipped out on his ass.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know how true that is. It doesn't make
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  Speaker 2: sense to me.
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  Speaker 1: She should have got it in writing. He should have
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  Speaker 1: got it in writing.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: It ain't nothing you can do now, baby. If she
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  Speaker 1: was a decent person, she would give him a piece.
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  Speaker 2: I would, definitely.
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  Speaker 3: You know, it's just certain people I want to see
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  Speaker 3: happy and ball out with. I don't want to just
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  Speaker 3: have all the money by myself. So, like, especially if
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  Speaker 3: I'm with somebody I love, like, man, we about to
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  Speaker 3: act stupid out here, okay?
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  Speaker 2: She don't like him.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 3: At all.
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  Speaker 1: She's just dealing with him. And she probably didn't think
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  Speaker 1: she would ever really win.
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  Speaker 2: Yep.
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  Speaker 1: And now she up. As soon as I hit the lottery,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to find Jonathan Major's ass. I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: whatever city he in.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, if you don't stop talking about my boyfriend, what
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  Speaker 2: is your problem? You want to fight? Girl. You want
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  Speaker 2: to F-I-T? I told you. F-I-T. You want to fight?
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  Speaker 1: I told you I've been running.
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  Speaker 2: That don't got nothing to do with it. What them
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  Speaker 2: hands do?
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  Speaker 1: I'm getting stronger. That's all I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: You're bobbing weave.
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  Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, listen, don't talk about my man on this show
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  Speaker 2: no more.
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  Speaker 1: Girl, every bitch want their stuff when it comes to that. Listen,
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  Speaker 1: if we were ever in a room with Jonathan Majors together-
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  Speaker 1: I might tell him you have herpes. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Yo! I ain't never hit on a bitch like that now.
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  Speaker 2: You can have him. Dog, listen. You know what? You
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  Speaker 2: can have him. I ain't about to lie.
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  Speaker 1: Jonathan, don't talk to her. Jonathan, don't talk to her.
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  Speaker 1: She has herpes.
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  Speaker 3: I ain't never about to hit on a bitch to
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  Speaker 3: get a nigga now.
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  Speaker 2: Look, you got him because you willing to go too low. Ooh!
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  Speaker 1: I'm like Candy Michelle Obama when you go low I
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  Speaker 1: go low.
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  Speaker 3: With your ass obviously you going to hell when somebody
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  Speaker 3: go low I ain't even went low I just said
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  Speaker 3: this my man and you just went low like what
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  Speaker 3: if he be like.
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  Speaker 1: Me too I be like well then y'all a match
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  Speaker 1: made in heaven go ahead over there stupid alright y'all
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  Speaker 1: but then I would come to you and be like
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  Speaker 1: bitch you got herpes Don't do that.
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  Speaker 2: You stupid. I wouldn't set you up to get no sickness, friend.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you, friend.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all, we talking erectile dysfunction today, okay? We talking about
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  Speaker 3: penises today. We're trying to help the community today. So
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  Speaker 3: y'all tune in.
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  Speaker 2: We'll be right back. All right, y'all.
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  Speaker 3: Listen, we have a very special guest on We Talk
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  Speaker 3: Back today. Listen, she is a board-certified urologist. Okay, so
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  Speaker 3: a couple weeks ago, I was just thinking about different
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  Speaker 3: topics Tam and I could possibly talk about, and I
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  Speaker 3: thought about erectile dysfunction.
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  Speaker 2: After a conversation.
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  Speaker 1: After.
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  Speaker 3: A conversation with some men on Clubhouse a couple weeks ago, child.
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  Speaker 2: So listen, I found... Dr. Fenwa Milhouse. She is, again,
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  Speaker 2: a board-certified urologist. Tell us a little bit about yourself, Dr. Milhouse.
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  Speaker 5: Sorry.
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  Speaker 2: Sorry.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so my name is Dr. Fenwa Milhouse. I am
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  Speaker 4: a board-certified urologist, which means I am a surgical specialist.
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  Speaker 4: We are surgeons, but we specialize in the urinary tract
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  Speaker 4: and and male reproductive system. I am also fellowship trained
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  Speaker 4: in female pelvic medicine, reconstructive surgery. What the heck is that? Well,
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  Speaker 4: that means that I also do a lot of things
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  Speaker 4: that you would consider a urogynecologist to do. So these
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  Speaker 4: are treating pelvic floor problems and urinary leakage, and issues
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  Speaker 4: that primarily affect vulvas or women. So I am an
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  Speaker 4: expert in treating men and their private parts and women
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  Speaker 4: and their private parts. And I have been in practice
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  Speaker 4: for over seven years in a very large private practice
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  Speaker 4: as the go-to pelvic floor surgeon.
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  Speaker 2: Nice.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, that's dope.
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  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 1: So you deal with dicks and pussies all day long.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I do.
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  Speaker 1: I love this show.
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  Speaker 2: Please be normal.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, thank you.
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  Speaker 1: I want to know, I don't have no man yet,
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  Speaker 1: but when I get him, how can I make sure
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  Speaker 1: his dick stay hard forever?
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  Speaker 3: Forever.
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  Speaker 4: Forever. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: That's how we started. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I want to know. Definitely.
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  Speaker 4: So this is great. This is a good question. And
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  Speaker 4: probably all men are wondering this too, are wanting this.
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  Speaker 4: So the most important thing is he's got to be healthy. Okay.
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  Speaker 4: So he has to live a healthy lifestyle. What's good
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  Speaker 4: for the heart is good for the dick. Okay. Period.
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  Speaker 4: Point blank. If he's a smoker, no, no, can't do.
• 16:15
  Speaker 4: And I'm, and okay. Whenever I say smoker, people are like, well,
• 16:18
  Speaker 4: does weed count? Okay. I'm talking. Let me clarify. So
• 16:25
  Speaker 4: we're talking about tobacco use. So not even just smoking. Tobacco,
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: that is so like that you're killing your dick. Okay.
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: Yep.
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: Yep. Marijuana, you know, probably alcohol. does not have at
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: all the same risk as tobacco when it comes to
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: blood flow. It might decrease libido and sperm count, but
• 16:49
  Speaker 4: the actual mechanics probably are still going to be in
• 16:51
  Speaker 4: working order. But a drug use in general, like illicit
• 16:55
  Speaker 4: drug use can tend to get in the way of erections. Also,
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: if he's an excessive drinker, you want to roll that back.
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: Whiskey dick is very real. You drink too much, first
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: of all, if you drink way too much, it's not cute.
• 17:10
  Speaker 4: It's not sexy. And so we aren't going to get moist,
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: but then also the dick isn't going to get as
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: hard because the brain can't initiate that proper stimuli to
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: initiate the blood flow. Exercise is fabulous for blood circulation.
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: Make him see a doctor every year. Sisters, okay? Make
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: him go see a doctor every year. I don't care
• 17:36
  Speaker 4: how buff how well he in shape he feels, how
• 17:39
  Speaker 4: great he feels. That's why you see a doctor to
• 17:42
  Speaker 4: make sure you're in good working order. So many of
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: our brothers have undiagnosed high blood pressure, high cholesterol. I mean,
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: I hate to use him in his example, but Kevin
• 17:54
  Speaker 4: Samuels too young to just die, croak over. And so,
• 17:59
  Speaker 4: and I don't know if he was seeing a doctor
• 18:01
  Speaker 4: or not. I don't know those details, but I, You know,
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: it's far too often our young men, and I consider
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: him young again, are losing their dick or losing their
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: life to just not taking care of themselves. Those are
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: the big things. Yeah.
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: So what we're talking about today, y'all, is erectile dysfunction, mainly. Okay.
• 18:23
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: So I was having a conversation with, well, actually I
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: wasn't having a conversation. I was listening to a bunch
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: of guys talk crazy about women, black women in particular,
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: and how our diets and how we're the highest and
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: diabetes and high blood pressure and all these things that
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: they too are, you know, ranked the highest. But for
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: whatever reason, they don't think that, right? So I was
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: real silent and I just came in. With all the
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: erectile dysfunction statistics. So while y'all talking about women, let's
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: talk about those dicks for a minute, okay? And how
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: they really don't work. And how you spend your whole
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: life running through women and then you finally get this
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: woman to settle down with and you want to.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: Give her the worst dick of her life for the
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: rest of her life.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: That sounds real bleak.
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: That's what it is. Damn, AJ. We do talk about
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: men settling down when that pen don't write no more. Yeah.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: And it's not.
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: Fair for your wife.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: They don't stop running.
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: That's not fair.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: You don't want the leftovers.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: So how is ED usually diagnosed?
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: Well, it's diagnosed because of manhood. Is embarrassed, is concerned.
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: I mean, I will tell you this, when the penis
• 19:42
  Speaker 4: isn't working, the men will then go see the doctor.
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: So that's usually how they get to see the doctor
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: is like, okay, we have a problem. Let's fix it.
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: And no matter how young or how old, I mean,
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: I've had men in their nineties come in and be like, Hey,
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: I can't get an erection. What are we going to do?
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: And I'm happy. I'm not an ageist. Like, cool, great, awesome.
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: Who are you having sex with? No, I'm not having
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: sex with anybody. But I just need this to work
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: for me. Like, they don't even have to have a
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: partner or plans to have sex in the near future.
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: They just want to make sure you don't want to
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: see that. So they come to us. Like, it's not
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: something we have to go dragging. And so usually it
• 20:24
  Speaker 4: starts off with the loss of morning erections, that morning wood.
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: You don't notice it. And actually, morning wood is just
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: one event. You actually get erection throughout the night if
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: you have a healthy penis. But again, erectile dysfunction usually
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: starts off with, ooh, I'm not waking up hard anymore.
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: And then, you know, you don't last as long. And
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: then maybe it's harder to get up. So, yep.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: All right, y'all.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: And like, what type of treatment? All right, so let's
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: say I get this man, we in love, and then
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: all of a sudden his dick stopped working. God, please
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: never happen. But what kind of treatment would he need
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: to seek like then after we discover that he does
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: have like an issue?
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: Aside from gas patient pills.
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: That's why I was going to ask about that next.
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: So first of all. we should ease up. Like if it's,
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: if it's one, don't go rushing him to the doctor
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: after like the first time, like, Oh my God, you did, you.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: Know, baby, we coming straight to you.
• 21:25
  Speaker 5: Uh, Dr.
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: Millhouse, soon as that dick don't work.
• 21:28
  Speaker 5: Right.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: We run into, we coming straight to your office, girl.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: I don't know what you're talking about.
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: Cause it just might be a bad night. My, again,
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: might not have had too much to drink. You might be,
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: he might just be like, I'm not feeling hurt right now.
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: you know, she's nagging me all day. I don't, but
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: you know, I don't, you know, so, you know, we'll
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: give one pass at least, but if it seems to
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: be a pattern, obviously absolutely start early to get an,
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: to get attention. So certain treatment. So regardless of the type,
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: most of the time, the treatments are similar or regardless
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: of the cause, I should say of erectile dysfunction. The
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: treatment is basically about the same. And again, one, we
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: screen for like, you know, just behavioral or, or psychological issues.
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: There's something called psychogenic or psychological erectile dysfunction. And that's
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: when the mechanics work just fine. It's just, there's mental, social, whatever,
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: psychological issues that are blocking it.
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: You're depressed. Your relationship ain't good. You have body image issues.
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: Men can have body image issues. You, um, you know,
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: other things are happening. You're, you're, you have other, you know,
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: medical problems that are weighing you down. You're stressed, you're,
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: you know, stressed at work or whatever the case may be.
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: So those things we try to weed, try to weed for.
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: And the biggest way to distinguish is those men usually
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: will have morning wood, right? Cause that's, they can't control that.
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: So that's a good sign of a healthy penis. Oh,
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: they got morning wood. Okay, great. But you just can't
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: get it up in the bed. Then you probably need a,
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: you know, to see a therapist, psychiatrist, those types of stuff.
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: But assuming it's not that, then it's, you know, talking
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: about all the lifestyle changes that I went through. Okay.
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: That's when I'm having a heart to heart with these
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: men and saying, okay, do you exercise? Do you, what
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: do you eat? Have you been to the doctor in
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: the last 10, 5, 10, 2, last year? Do you
• 23:29
  Speaker 4: have diabetes? Do you, if you have diabetes, is it
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: in control? Do you smoke? Do you use drugs? And
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: then we start with pills. So the pills, and these
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: aren't the gas station pills.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: That honey, that honeycomb stuff.
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: You don't know what you've taken. Um, but yeah, these
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: are like prescription medicines that we use that are now
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: actually very affordable, very affordable. Now, um, you don't got
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: to spend a mint to get your, the blue pill
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: or the Viagra or the Cialis. Um, and so those
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: pills are given now the pills They kind of take
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: some of the spontaneity out of it because you got
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: to plan and take it about an hour prior to sex. But,
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: you know, it can work wonders.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: Are they dangerous? Those pills. Because I've seen some cases,
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: stories where, you know, the erection never went down. They
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: had to go to the hospital and get their penis exploded.
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: My dad had an incident like that.
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: That kind of happened to my dad before he like
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: bust a blood vessel in his penis.
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: And what?
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: Look, this is a very long time ago. And he
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: was like, he told me he couldn't come. He was
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: supposed to come to me to help me go find
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: a car. Right.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: And he didn't show up. So I'm like, what happened?
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: He was like, I strained myself. So we continued on
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: with the conversation. And I was like, so what happened?
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: You hurt your back or something like that? He was like, no,
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: I strained my pecker.
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: I'm like, wait, what?
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: So I'm assuming because I know he was taking Viagra
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: and his wife is a little young, a lot younger.
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: So I was assuming like maybe he, is that, could
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: that happen? Could your penis, like a blood vessel, because it's,
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: you know, erect for a long period of time.
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: Well, okay.
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: So there's two different things y'all are talking about. You're
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: talking about an erection that does not go down.
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: From pills.
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: Like you've already orgasmed. Well, so that rarely happens with pills, actually,
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: unless you abuse the pills. I mean, you're taking pills. two, three,
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: four times the dose, then yeah, maybe. But if you're
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: taking the regular, even the max dose, it rarely happens
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: with pills. Now, one of the other ways we treat
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: erectile dysfunction is penile injections, which is actual like an
• 25:51
  Speaker 4: injection in the penis of medicine that increases blood flow
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: to the penis. And this is for patients who actually
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: usually are not doing well with pills. Pills aren't working.
• 26:01
  Speaker 4: That has a much higher risk of an erection that
• 26:05
  Speaker 4: doesn't go down, which is what we call priapism. So
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: those patients, unfortunately, sometimes, so they'll come to my office
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: and I'll give them the first injection. And I give
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: them a little small injection. I'm like, okay, yay, it worked.
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: And a couple times, unfortunately, and I prepped them for this,
• 26:20
  Speaker 4: they wound it up in the ER because they were like, Dr. Milhouse,
• 26:22
  Speaker 4: I left your office. I went straight home, used it,
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: and it would not go down. And it's still up.
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: So they had to go to the ER. And when
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: you have an erection that's lasting three, four hours and
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: not going down, it's number one, painful. It is not
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: a plus anymore. It's painful. Number two, it actually can
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: damage the penis and decrease the ability to get an
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: erection in the future. And so it is something we
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: need to treat. It's a bit of a urologic emergency
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: or urgency thing. And somebody said it exploded. But what
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: we do, we do, it is kind of gruesome. What
• 27:07
  Speaker 4: we do do to treat it is we put needles
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: in the penis and let the blood out, like release
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: all that blood that's not getting out, like out. And
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: it's very bloody. It's very satisfying. And for the patient too,
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: the patient's like, oh.
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: Release. It's almost like they came again, but just blood.
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: But blood.
• 27:30
  Speaker 4: We numb them up. So it's not like, we're not like.
• 27:33
  Speaker 4: you know, inhumane. So we numb them up and we
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: put the, yes. So that's what, but your dad, I
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: think he just popped a superficial blood vessel. Like he
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: was doing it too hard.
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: Too much information. I don't want to know Mr. Jerome
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: like that.
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: I like my other thought better. I just like the
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: thought that it just wouldn't go down. And then like, yeah,
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: he had a, like a medical issue. Yeah.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: Does testosterone play a part in how your erection at all?
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: That's an amazing question. That is probably the best question
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: of the hour. So everybody always assumes I have erectile dysfunction,
• 28:19
  Speaker 4: therefore I need testosterone. They come in saying that, like,
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: I think I need testosterone. And the truth of the
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: matter is testosterone is an indirect player. It is not
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: the main player here. You can have a normal high
• 28:34
  Speaker 4: testosterone and have issues with erections. You can have low
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: testosterone and be hard as a rock, okay? Erections are
• 28:43
  Speaker 4: about blood flow. It's about blood flow. Testosterone is the
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: male hormone that is important for libido, important for, you know,
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: for fertility, for sperm production. So that's, you know, its role.
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: And so... We may check it in the workup, but
• 29:05
  Speaker 4: even if you have low testosterone and you have erectile dysfunction,
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: the treatment for your erectile dysfunction isn't just giving you
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: testosterone only. The treatment is I need to treat your
• 29:15
  Speaker 4: erectile dysfunction at the same time that I'm also helping
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: you with your low testosterone.
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: Interesting.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: So is there a difference between erectile dysfunction and just impotence?
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: Is there a difference really?
• 29:31
  Speaker 4: They're basically the same thing. I mean, erectile dysfunction is
• 29:34
  Speaker 4: the medical term that we use. Impotence is, I guess,
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: more like the public's term of it. but it's basically
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: referring to the same thing. Can't either erectile dysfunction. So
• 29:44
  Speaker 4: let's just clarify what the heck is the definition is
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: basically you can't achieve because what is an erection? An
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: erection is blood filling up the penis and getting it
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: rigid enough for penetration, right? We know what it means
• 30:04
  Speaker 4: when the penis just isn't quite ready to penetrate and
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: it's like soft.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: And- My mom calls it a wet rag. Okay.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: A wet noodle.
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: And you're like, it's not quite right. Like, you know
• 30:16
  Speaker 4: what I'm saying? It ain't ready. So- And so if you,
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: your erection has to get firm enough that it penetrates.
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: So if you can't do that, if it can't get
• 30:26
  Speaker 4: firm enough for penetration, that is erectile dysfunction. Or if
• 30:30
  Speaker 4: you don't, if it lose, if you lose that firmness quickly,
• 30:34
  Speaker 4: so you, you can get it up, but you start
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: and it gets wet. So, so that's what.
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: So having fast, like, like a man coming too fast,
• 30:42
  Speaker 3: that's not ED. That's not, it has nothing to do
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: with being, having erectile dysfunction.
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: It's just, A quick popper.
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: That is the second best question of the hour. Yeah.
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: So that's totally different, right? Because when a man comes
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: too fast, the dick is doing what it's supposed to do.
• 30:59
  Speaker 4: When a dick comes or ejaculates, then the body goes into, okay,
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: now the blood can release. We good. We've done, we've,
• 31:07
  Speaker 4: you know, achieved the goal. So the body is when
• 31:10
  Speaker 4: the erection goes down after ejaculation, that's the normal response.
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 31:15
  Speaker 4: Blood is not supposed to stay in the penis after ejaculation.
• 31:18
  Speaker 4: The problem is he's ejaculating too damn fast. So that's
• 31:20
  Speaker 4: a separate issue.
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: There's a lot of that.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: Too.
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: Is that mental or he's just selfish? Is he just selfish?
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: Cause do men like how, to me, I'm glad I'm
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: a woman.
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: Cause I feel like there's a lot of pressure to
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: be a man as far as like when it comes
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: to sex.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: Okay. And finances. You got to have money. You got
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: to have the big dick. You got to have the
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: big dick that works. And you got to know how
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: to work it.
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: All these different things, we do put a lot of
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: pressure on men, you know, as far as sex.
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: So, wait a second.
• 31:56
  Speaker 4: Well, let me just say something here. Big dick is
• 32:00
  Speaker 4: not everything. Absolutely not. And 90% of us orgasm with clitoral...
• 32:09
  Speaker 4: attention and stimulation. So a big old dick that's just,
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: you know.
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: That's when you have pelvic floor problems.
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: When you begin to beat up your whole life.
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: It doesn't necessarily feel good. But if you have somebody
• 32:29
  Speaker 4: who knows how to incorporate the clitoris to stroke that
• 32:34
  Speaker 4: anterior vagina, that upper part of the vagina, That's close
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: to the outside actually. So you don't even need to
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: go that deep to really get a woman, 90% of
• 32:44
  Speaker 4: women to orgasm. You don't even need to go that deep.
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: What is a buried penis?
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: Great. Buried penis is a penis that is okay. So
• 33:01
  Speaker 4: the penis is not just what we see. Um, there's
• 33:06
  Speaker 4: actually an internal part. It's probably, you know, um, it's
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: probably double the size. The whole penis is double the size.
• 33:14
  Speaker 4: Half of it is inside. And so in a buried penis,
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: what is happened is either that where it's attached, that
• 33:21
  Speaker 4: inner part where it's attached is abnormal. So it's hiding
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: what's supposed to be out or that there's a lot of, um,
• 33:32
  Speaker 4: fat over the area of the penis. Like there's a
• 33:36
  Speaker 4: huge abdominal or what we can call Mons pubis fat
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: that is creating this buried penis. You know, you got
• 33:47
  Speaker 4: this fat in there and then the penis is kind
• 33:50
  Speaker 4: of just covered. Um, Yes.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: So you'd be like, girl, my dick really 10 inches,
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: half of it buried. It's inside.
• 33:58
  Speaker 4: Correct.
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: It is.
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: So when guys go get the penis surgeries to make
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: their dick.
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: Excavated. Yeah.
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: So they like dig some of that dick out.
• 34:08
  Speaker 4: That's awesome.
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: Excavate the dick.
• 34:14
  Speaker 4: Yes. In a way, that's kind of what takes place.
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: It's actually a really complex procedure. It is not a
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: procedure that the average urologist, like specialized urologists do. But basically,
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: you know, we might have to separate some of the
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: attachments of the inner part of that penis to get
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: it to come out more. And so you're right in
• 34:36
  Speaker 4: a way that it's excavating the inner, releasing that inner
• 34:39
  Speaker 4: dick that just is waiting to you know show its
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: stuff um yes.
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: All right so i was seeing that there's like various
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: forms of ed tests like uh nocturnal penile stamp test
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: what what is.
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: That so i think it's nocturnal penile tumescence tumescence and MPT,
• 35:07
  Speaker 4: nocturnal tumescence. So what that basically means is nocturnal erections
• 35:14
  Speaker 4: or what we've simplified it to morning wood. So we
• 35:16
  Speaker 4: simplify it to morning wood because that's what men, like
• 35:21
  Speaker 4: they remember, right? They wake up, oh, an erection. But
• 35:24
  Speaker 4: actually what I was alluding to, actually what's happening in
• 35:27
  Speaker 4: a healthy penis is you're actually having multiple erections while
• 35:31
  Speaker 4: you're sleeping and while you're dreaming, okay? It's actually normal
• 35:34
  Speaker 4: to have like, I think up to five. night and
• 35:38
  Speaker 4: so there are tests that you we can do to
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: see if a man is getting those erections while they
• 35:44
  Speaker 4: sleep almost like a sleep study but for your dick
• 35:47
  Speaker 4: i'm sorry.
• 35:50
  Speaker 5: Tell us the healthy so childish you know how healthy
• 35:53
  Speaker 5: a penis is because if they're getting normal nocturnal penile
• 35:56
  Speaker 5: tumescence or nocturnal erections i.e morning woods great the blood
• 36:01
  Speaker 5: is flowing okay you got you know so That's a
• 36:06
  Speaker 5: great test to separate the different types.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: Does that firm tech cock ring kind of help with that?
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: It does. Are you associated with that company? Are you associated?
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: I just want to make sure before we talk about that.
• 36:22
  Speaker 4: Well, I did some work for them. I love what
• 36:29
  Speaker 4: they've designed. It's basically like an at-home NPT test. anybody can,
• 36:36
  Speaker 4: can get. And I love that men can start to
• 36:39
  Speaker 4: see and evaluate their own erectile fitness, if you will.
• 36:43
  Speaker 4: So you put this thing in and actually they sent
• 36:45
  Speaker 4: me one, right. And, um, you know, I'm, I, my
• 36:49
  Speaker 4: husband is like my Guinea pig for everything. So I,
• 36:52
  Speaker 4: you know, I put this thing on him, him and,
• 36:54
  Speaker 4: and I was like, is it comfortable? Was it, he's like, yes,
• 36:56
  Speaker 4: she's quite comfortable. Um, so the ring can stay on
• 37:00
  Speaker 4: for hours, hours and hours, hours. Let me just caution
• 37:04
  Speaker 4: normal cock rings and sex toy cock rings and vibratory
• 37:09
  Speaker 4: cock rings. You cannot leave on there for hours. Okay.
• 37:14
  Speaker 4: It can cause like a constriction on your penis. And
• 37:17
  Speaker 4: it's almost like that ring that you can't get off
• 37:19
  Speaker 4: your finger and it's an emergency. So this is, you know,
• 37:22
  Speaker 4: caution advised, but this is designed the way they designed.
• 37:26
  Speaker 4: It's easily, you can take off and on and it's
• 37:29
  Speaker 4: safe to put, keep on there for up to 12 hours.
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: And so you can go to sleep and you have
• 37:34
  Speaker 4: your smartphone, if you have the tech one, and it
• 37:37
  Speaker 4: can measure how many erections you get overnight. And so
• 37:41
  Speaker 4: you can see that with that firm tech ring.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 37:45
  Speaker 4: Isn't that cool?
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: The cock ring is a cool though.
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: I've been with a guy, one guy, and I was
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: surprised when I saw the thing, like he took his
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: clothes off and then he had the.
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: Cock ring on. I'm like, okay. But no warning, nothing.
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: What exactly is a cock ring for those of us
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: who don't really know? Oh, okay.
• 38:02
  Speaker 4: I'll take it. So, I mean, it's basically what you
• 38:03
  Speaker 4: think of it. It's like a ring that goes over
• 38:05
  Speaker 4: the penis.
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: It goes at the base of the shaft or like
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: near the head?
• 38:11
  Speaker 4: So that depends. Cock rings can have different functions. Some
• 38:14
  Speaker 4: cock rings are basically designed to help maintain the erection, right?
• 38:19
  Speaker 4: Erection is about blood flow and blood stain in the
• 38:22
  Speaker 4: penis during sex. So sometimes cock rings are used almost
• 38:26
  Speaker 4: like elastic bands that are placed at the base to
• 38:29
  Speaker 4: keep that blood in there, okay? But some cock rings
• 38:32
  Speaker 4: are just for pleasure. Like they vibrate, you know, and
• 38:35
  Speaker 4: so they allow the penis holder to have pleasure. And
• 38:37
  Speaker 4: then also the pen, the, the, the vulva, the vagina,
• 38:40
  Speaker 4: whoever the pen, whatever the penetration say, it's just vulvas
• 38:43
  Speaker 4: and vagina. It can be any, any orifice to have
• 38:48
  Speaker 4: pleasure too. So some are just for play and some
• 38:51
  Speaker 4: are for function.
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: His is like really soft.
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: Like it, I can see how it could be comfortable, but, Listen,
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: try that before y'all.
• 38:59
  Speaker 4: Get- Did it vibrate? Did it do any cool tricks?
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: No, no cool tricks.
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: It just kept that thing super hard for a long time.
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: Was he older?
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: Was that something that a young man would need?
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: He's older, but I think that, okay, that's another question
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: I had for Dr. Milhouse is that, you know, like
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: we mentioned that these guys using the pills from the
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: gas station and stuff like that, like those cock rings
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: are not like, you know, no type of medicine and
• 39:25
  Speaker 3: they work.
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: As far as I'm concerned.
• 39:28
  Speaker 4: Um, yeah, so they, they can be used for anybody.
• 39:31
  Speaker 4: I mean, any penis that has a, some slightly constrictive
• 39:35
  Speaker 4: band at the base might help in keep that blood
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: in there. So some, again, some healthy penises and young
• 39:43
  Speaker 4: men will use it just cause they're like, I want,
• 39:45
  Speaker 4: you know, I don't want, I want to go all night.
• 39:47
  Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying? Um, Um, and so it's
• 39:50
  Speaker 4: not just for, you know, old, you know, men who
• 39:54
  Speaker 4: have issues, not by any means.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: So have you ever had somebody come in and you're
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: looking at his dick and you're like, I'm sorry, baby,
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: that dick is dead. What do you do? What do
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: you do? Like, what, what advice would you give somebody
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: who is like, it's just like nothing.
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 40:12
  Speaker 4: Well, the good news is at the end of the day,
• 40:16
  Speaker 4: we can get a firm dick. Because we can do
• 40:20
  Speaker 4: what's called a penile implant, an inflatable penile implant or IPP.
• 40:27
  Speaker 4: And what this is, it's a device that we surgically,
• 40:30
  Speaker 4: this is a surgery that we do that we put
• 40:32
  Speaker 4: inside the penis. It's like these inflatable rods that go
• 40:38
  Speaker 4: on the inside of the penis too. And there's different versions,
• 40:44
  Speaker 4: but in the most commonly used version, which is called
• 40:46
  Speaker 4: the three-piece implant, The patient has a pump that we
• 40:49
  Speaker 4: put in their scrotum.
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 40:51
  Speaker 4: So this is a pump that you can't tell it's
• 40:54
  Speaker 4: inside them, but they can easily press their scrotum when
• 40:57
  Speaker 4: they're ready to go pump it up.
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: Like the Reeboks?
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like the sneakers. Yes.
• 41:02
  Speaker 4: It really feels like that. It feels like the Reeboks. Yeah.
• 41:07
  Speaker 4: And it inflates those rods and it gets them firm.
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: And so now you have this firm dick that you
• 41:13
  Speaker 4: can penetrate. And you can go all night if you
• 41:16
  Speaker 4: want to.
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: And still come. And it comes in everything. Oh, yeah, yeah.
• 41:20
  Speaker 4: We're not interfering with that at all. Yep, exactly. It
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: penetrates you. And then when you're ready to stop, you
• 41:26
  Speaker 4: just press a button and deflate it.
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: Just like the sneaker.
• 41:34
  Speaker 4: And it actually sounds like that. When you press it,
• 41:35
  Speaker 4: you kind of hear that sound. You're like.
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: Oh, hell no.
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: That is amazing. What will they think of next?
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: Pump it up, Nick.
• 41:43
  Speaker 4: That's been around for a long time, actually, a long time.
• 41:47
  Speaker 4: So at the end of the day, we can, now
• 41:49
  Speaker 4: this is a surgery that isn't for everybody because some people,
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: you know, have too many medical problems that, you know,
• 41:55
  Speaker 4: make it high risk and this and that. And it's
• 41:58
  Speaker 4: certainly not like, you can't go backwards. So if you
• 42:03
  Speaker 4: get this implant and then you decide, oh, take it out.
• 42:06
  Speaker 4: I want to see if pills will work. Don't work
• 42:08
  Speaker 4: like that. It's done. You know, you can take the
• 42:11
  Speaker 4: implant out, but you're not going to ever be able
• 42:13
  Speaker 4: to get an erection with anything without that. So it's
• 42:17
  Speaker 4: meant for men who really, truly tried this, don't work,
• 42:21
  Speaker 4: try that, don't work, try this, don't work.
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: And exhausted all the options.
• 42:25
  Speaker 5: Exactly.
• 42:26
  Speaker 4: Correct. But it's a great option. It has like over 90%
• 42:31
  Speaker 4: patient and couple satisfaction, you know, when it works.
• 42:35
  Speaker 3: So would you say it's older men that usually get
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: that procedure done?
• 42:39
  Speaker 4: Usually. Yes, that's true. I mean, we don't love putting
• 42:43
  Speaker 4: it in younger patients because again, it's, it's kind of
• 42:48
  Speaker 4: irreversible in that once we put those rods into that penis,
• 42:52
  Speaker 4: then the blood getting into the penis naturally is done.
• 42:57
  Speaker 4: It's not going to happen because we have disrupted that process.
• 43:02
  Speaker 4: There is, I, you know, I actually spoke to one
• 43:06
  Speaker 4: of the gurus in Chicago who does a ton of
• 43:09
  Speaker 4: these surgeries and Um, his name is Dr. Larry Levine.
• 43:12
  Speaker 4: And I asked him, um, what is the youngest patient
• 43:15
  Speaker 4: he's done a penile implant on? And he told me
• 43:18
  Speaker 4: a 16 year old. And I asked him what the,
• 43:20
  Speaker 4: you know, what circumstances, and he said, um, sickle cell anemia.
• 43:24
  Speaker 4: So sickle cell anemia, uh, which is, uh, common in, uh,
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: in our community affects the penis. Um, the abnormal sickling
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: blood causes these erections that don't go down and these
• 43:37
  Speaker 4: are painful. And these come back frequent, can come back
• 43:42
  Speaker 4: frequently in some of these patients. And this poor, you know,
• 43:46
  Speaker 4: young man had these crippling erections, priapisms that would not
• 43:52
  Speaker 4: come down, that kept coming to the ER all the time.
• 43:55
  Speaker 4: And essentially over time, what that ruins, like I said,
• 43:58
  Speaker 4: it ruins the normal erectile fitness anyway. But by putting
• 44:02
  Speaker 4: in that implant, it stopped that process from happening for one,
• 44:06
  Speaker 4: which is better for the patient. And then two, it
• 44:09
  Speaker 4: just helped him get an erection when he wanted. Like,
• 44:12
  Speaker 4: I want it now. I don't want it now. So
• 44:14
  Speaker 4: that's not a usual circumstance, but that is a potential
• 44:18
  Speaker 4: where it would be a young patient that we'd do that.
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: So the dick is separate from men's brains then. Because
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: what I'm trying to calculate is like, what I'm trying
• 44:27
  Speaker 3: to calculate.
• 44:27
  Speaker 4: Got his own brain.
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: Exactly. So for women, for me, I have to be
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: happy to have sex, right?
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: I have to be like, have this, like it starts
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: in the mind, I believe for most women before pussy
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: starts working. So, but for men, you could just pump
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: this shit up while you mentally don't want to have sex.
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: Like, how are you going to, you know, have a,
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: how are you going to ejaculate?
• 44:51
  Speaker 4: Well, so yeah, I mean, so just because a man
• 44:55
  Speaker 4: can get hard. So this is the thing. We have
• 44:57
  Speaker 4: to separate erection from orgasm or gestation. Just because a
• 45:01
  Speaker 4: man can get dick is hard. Doesn't necessarily mean he
• 45:03
  Speaker 4: always wants to have sex. You can, again, we've seen
• 45:06
  Speaker 4: nocturnal erections. That's uncontrolled. We actually see patients get erections
• 45:10
  Speaker 4: when they're under anesthesia. You can get an erection just
• 45:13
  Speaker 4: from like a touch, but you're not really trying to
• 45:16
  Speaker 4: have sex. Okay. And so these things, you may not
• 45:19
  Speaker 4: be aroused enough to ejaculate.
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 45:23
  Speaker 4: And for us, you're right. For us, for us, vulva owners,
• 45:28
  Speaker 4: for us, women are, arousal and certainly our orgasm is
• 45:34
  Speaker 4: very much um connected to our brain it's not all
• 45:39
  Speaker 4: our brain okay um so there's a lot of us
• 45:43
  Speaker 4: that aren't getting orgasms just because our partners don't know
• 45:48
  Speaker 4: where to go right um and and some of us
• 45:52
  Speaker 4: don't know where to tell them where to go too
• 45:54
  Speaker 4: right We don't, we are not as familiar with our bodies.
• 46:00
  Speaker 4: The guys are very familiar with their bodies, with their penis.
• 46:03
  Speaker 4: We are like, it's our vulvas, our vaginas are like
• 46:06
  Speaker 4: a foreign land to a lot of us, which is
• 46:09
  Speaker 4: a shame. And I will, and changing, I think slowly,
• 46:13
  Speaker 4: but thankfully, And so we need to know what feels
• 46:16
  Speaker 4: good and what arouses us. But you're right. Foreplay starts
• 46:19
  Speaker 4: in the morning.
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 46:21
  Speaker 4: Foreplay starts with- All day. Good morning, sexy. Yes.
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: All day.
• 46:25
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 46:26
  Speaker 4: What can I do for you?
• 46:27
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 46:28
  Speaker 4: That's how you get it moist.
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: Not just right before you want to have sex with me.
• 46:32
  Speaker 3: We done been arguing all day long. And now you
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: tapping me.
• 46:35
  Speaker 5: On my shoulder.
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: Get. One titty lick. And now you think I'm ready.
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: One titty lick.
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: Come on.
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: Come on. Come on.
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: I don't think we should.
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: So it seems like they have all types of things
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: to help with erectile dysfunction. What about women who have
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: lost like vaginal wetness or tightness? Yeah.
• 47:03
  Speaker 5: All right.
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: So this is like, we're our product.
• 47:07
  Speaker 5: No one.
• 47:08
  Speaker 4: So the short answer is women who can, medicine has
• 47:13
  Speaker 4: not cared about women. Why? What is the, Oh, they
• 47:17
  Speaker 4: need to be aroused. They need to have a, what
• 47:19
  Speaker 4: is the benefit? So medicine has completely neglected us. And
• 47:24
  Speaker 4: there's so many reasons, the patriarchy, the, you know, male toxicity,
• 47:29
  Speaker 4: the fact that we can procreation does not rely on
• 47:34
  Speaker 4: us orgasming, right? A man has to orgasm to procreate,
• 47:38
  Speaker 4: but women, we don't. And so the functionality of our
• 47:41
  Speaker 4: reproduction does not, You can have a billion kids and
• 47:44
  Speaker 4: not have one single orgasm, not have painful sex and
• 47:47
  Speaker 4: have a billion kids. You see what I'm saying? So
• 47:50
  Speaker 4: this is not right. This is kind of where I
• 47:54
  Speaker 4: have created a passion and a niche for in my patients.
• 47:57
  Speaker 4: I see all my men patients who have all these
• 48:00
  Speaker 4: options to help them in their sexual dysfunctions. And my
• 48:04
  Speaker 4: women patients are like, help. No one knows what to do.
• 48:07
  Speaker 4: I talked to that doctor. I talked to my gynecologist.
• 48:09
  Speaker 4: I talked, no one knows. They say, drink some wine.
• 48:12
  Speaker 4: They say, oh, well, it's just normal. You know what
• 48:14
  Speaker 4: I'm saying? No, it's not normal. It's not normal. Painful
• 48:18
  Speaker 4: is not it. You deserve to feel good when you're
• 48:21
  Speaker 4: having sex. It should not just not be something that
• 48:24
  Speaker 4: you're like, you see what I'm saying? So things are, again,
• 48:28
  Speaker 4: slowly changing. There are more of us in the specialty
• 48:32
  Speaker 4: that are taking the reins on this. Um, I, uh,
• 48:38
  Speaker 4: I have to shout out my, uh, sister in urology and, um,
• 48:43
  Speaker 4: she's white, but she's still my sister because she's super
• 48:45
  Speaker 4: smart and awesome. And, um, expert in this Dr. Rachel Rubin. Um,
• 48:51
  Speaker 4: she tackles a lot of this, but you mainly for lubrication,
• 48:56
  Speaker 4: we talk about estrogen vaginally. If you have been through menopause,
• 48:59
  Speaker 4: estrogen vaginally is important. Like bae, if you're postmenopausal. I mean,
• 49:04
  Speaker 4: as soon as I hit menopause, I'm going to start
• 49:06
  Speaker 4: using vaginal estrogen.
• 49:08
  Speaker 5: All right.
• 49:09
  Speaker 4: Keep that tissue young and supple. You know what I'm saying?
• 49:13
  Speaker 4: And not just for that, but it also has other
• 49:16
  Speaker 4: benefits like reducing UTIs.
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: Is it vaginal estrogen?
• 49:20
  Speaker 4: Vaginal estrogen, baby. Yes.
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: And where do you get that? What is it?
• 49:25
  Speaker 4: That has to be prescribed. That's prescribed. It's not hard
• 49:28
  Speaker 4: to get. It just needs to be prescribed. Um, and
• 49:32
  Speaker 4: it comes in different forms like creams or suppositories, uh,
• 49:36
  Speaker 4: and such like that. So, um, a little bit goes
• 49:39
  Speaker 4: a long way. Um, it's not harmful. All of us
• 49:43
  Speaker 4: get so freaked out with the word estrogen. It's hilarious.
• 49:46
  Speaker 4: Men flock to testosterone flock. They're like, give me more,
• 49:50
  Speaker 4: give me more.
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: We, we get older.
• 49:51
  Speaker 4: We're like, Oh no, don't give me that estrogen. I can't,
• 49:54
  Speaker 4: that's not normal. This is your body's hormone, right?
• 49:58
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 49:58
  Speaker 4: You're suffering all of these menopausal symptoms. You do a
• 50:01
  Speaker 4: hot flashes. It's dry as a Sierra down there. You're like,
• 50:06
  Speaker 4: you can do not have to suffer. Estrogen is a,
• 50:10
  Speaker 4: is our hormone. So we, they have succeeded in demonizing estrogen.
• 50:16
  Speaker 4: And so we're trying to backtrack and say, listen, ladies, it,
• 50:19
  Speaker 4: it has some good. It has a lot of good actually.
• 50:24
  Speaker 4: Then there's using lubricants too. Just like I had a
• 50:27
  Speaker 4: TikTok about like using different lubricants. And I think, especially
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: in black community, we like get weird about using anything
• 50:36
  Speaker 4: extra in the bedroom. I see that.
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: Like you got to have some type of lubricant on
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: hand because even if.
• 50:43
  Speaker 3: You still are physically aroused, that condom is going to
• 50:47
  Speaker 3: dry your shit up some. So you got to have
• 50:49
  Speaker 3: something aside from spit.
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: Okay no they just using spit i don't mind a
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: little bit okay.
• 51:01
  Speaker 4: Spit helps it i mean it gets it wet but
• 51:03
  Speaker 4: then it drops oh yes you have to spit multiple.
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: Times you just have to do.
• 51:08
  Speaker 4: It multiple times but yeah the wetter the better you know.
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: So basically for a man y'all got robot dicks with
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: a scrotum pump But for a woman, we got a
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: little cream for you.
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: That's it.
• 51:21
  Speaker 4: We got some other stuff. Yeah, we got a little
• 51:23
  Speaker 4: bit of creams and, you know.
• 51:25
  Speaker 2: We got no pussy pumps.
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: Ain't no pussy. So, all right. So, I have a salon.
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: And one of the suites, there's a lady who has,
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: she's an RN. And she has this machine. And she's like, oh,
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: come try it. Come over and try it. That she
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: puts in your coot. And it's supposed to, like, make
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: your vagina tighter, right? And it's like some type of
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: machine that you just, she says it works. She does it.
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: And she said her, she has four kids and she
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: said she used it to help with her tightness or
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: her vagina.
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: Kegel exercise or something.
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: It does.
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: But why, what, what, why?
• 52:01
  Speaker 4: My first question is what, why do you think your
• 52:04
  Speaker 4: vagina needs to be tighter? That's my first question.
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: Because I believe that's also like a thing, especially, I
• 52:10
  Speaker 2: don't know. Yes. Like, It's a muscle. You know what
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: I'm saying? So yeah, you got to do a little exercise,
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: but to say, oh, I fell in or it was
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: so big. Like maybe your dick was small. Let's just maybe.
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: But I mean, all right. So as you get older,
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: your vagina does is not it. Are your 22 year
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: old coochie is not your 36 year old coochie, right?
• 52:32
  Speaker 4: Well, 36. I mean, that's still young now. Okay.
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: But I mean the tightness, it does change over time, right?
• 52:39
  Speaker 4: Oh, actually, actually. If you have, if you, let's just
• 52:46
  Speaker 4: take kids out of the equation. Okay. One woman at
• 52:50
  Speaker 4: 20 and that woman at we'll go 60. Okay. No kids. And, um,
• 52:58
  Speaker 4: actually what happens, what we see a lot of times
• 53:01
  Speaker 4: is that vagina kind of contracts. It gets dry and
• 53:04
  Speaker 4: it contracts.
• 53:05
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 53:06
  Speaker 4: Okay. Where we get this whole vagina gets wider, that
• 53:09
  Speaker 4: doesn't inherently happen just because we get older. It really doesn't.
• 53:12
  Speaker 4: There's nothing that inherently happens just because we get older
• 53:15
  Speaker 4: that makes our vagina widen. Okay. And vaginas are, they're
• 53:19
  Speaker 4: supposed to expand and contract. Like when we, when they, penetration,
• 53:24
  Speaker 4: they're expanding and then they contract. They're not. like these
• 53:28
  Speaker 4: things that, oh, once you've expanded it this far, that's it.
• 53:31
  Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying?
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: Humans come out of there.
• 53:35
  Speaker 4: Well, humans come out.
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: Of it, right?
• 53:37
  Speaker 4: And they come back. So there are pathologic, there are
• 53:42
  Speaker 4: vaginas that are too wide because of lots of babies
• 53:48
  Speaker 4: or babies and Um, they're not supportive as well. That's different.
• 53:52
  Speaker 4: That is a medical condition that is bona fide, you know,
• 53:56
  Speaker 4: but this notion that that's not it. And that's most
• 54:00
  Speaker 4: of this time that I see is like, oh, well,
• 54:02
  Speaker 4: it just needs to be tight. You know what I'm saying?
• 54:06
  Speaker 4: I think is just, again, something that we've been fed.
• 54:11
  Speaker 4: that has no really, no clear actual medical issue, you
• 54:16
  Speaker 4: can do, you can be too tight, okay? You can be,
• 54:19
  Speaker 4: do too many Kegels and now sex hurts. You know
• 54:25
  Speaker 4: what I'm saying? I mean, ugh, okay? So we, you know,
• 54:32
  Speaker 4: I don't wanna, I hate, I shouldn't say hate, that's
• 54:35
  Speaker 4: a strong word, but I think a sound person will
• 54:41
  Speaker 4: market the actual reasons why they're tightening the vagina. Oh,
• 54:45
  Speaker 4: for this and this and this and this, not just
• 54:46
  Speaker 4: to tighten it. Cause Hey girl, Hey sis, you need
• 54:48
  Speaker 4: a tighter vagina.
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? I was just going to
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: do it because I have, sometimes I have a break
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: at work.
• 54:58
  Speaker 4: Might as well tighten things a little bit. Yeah.
• 55:00
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: You know, it ain't no real reason.
• 55:09
  Speaker 3: Girl you so stupid go eat lunch okay mess around
• 55:17
  Speaker 3: and get a loose coochie messing with some random machine
• 55:20
  Speaker 3: and some random so basically don't do that.
• 55:22
  Speaker 4: I don't think you need it what.
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: I mean I don't I never had no kids I
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: don't feel like my coochie is loose I was just
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: gonna do it like what hurt what would it hurt
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: to be tighter you know like that's what I was
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: thinking like.
• 55:34
  Speaker 4: It can hurt Then it can't hurt. Too much tightness
• 55:38
  Speaker 4: can be bad. You don't want that.
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 55:41
  Speaker 4: It can make sex painful. So I meet some women
• 55:45
  Speaker 4: that they're like, oh, sex hurts. And then I go
• 55:48
  Speaker 4: and examine them. And they're like a Kegel. They're just
• 55:52
  Speaker 4: basically like a Kegel at all times. And I'm like, okay,
• 55:56
  Speaker 4: you're just basically like this. You know what I'm saying?
• 55:59
  Speaker 4: You're not relaxed. And that is a problem that can
• 56:02
  Speaker 4: cause painful sex. It can cause difficulty urinating or frequent
• 56:06
  Speaker 4: urination when your pelvic floor muscles are too tight. Yep.
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: Let's talk about squirting for a second.
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: What is it?
• 56:18
  Speaker 2: What is it? And can everybody do it? Is it peeing?
• 56:22
  Speaker 3: I know where it's coming from when I see the movies.
• 56:25
  Speaker 3: I can't say mine has ever done it per se.
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: Can I just make a statement? I bought that rose,
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: and I used that thing, and I don't think that
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: was a squirt. I really think I peed my whole
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: bed up.
• 56:36
  Speaker 4: Because- What is a rose? What?
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: You know that little rose thing?
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: The little rose that is a real popular sex toy.
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: It looks like a rose, and it's like a little
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: suction that you put on your clitoris. Oh, okay.
• 56:47
  Speaker 4: It sucks it. Gotcha. Okay. Yeah.
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: And what happened?
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I squirted, but I think I
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: peed up my whole bed. I made a mess. It
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: was a big mess. It felt great. I do it
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: all the time. I love it.
• 57:01
  Speaker 2: Are you peeing in the bed all the time?
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: I think it's... Is it squirting? Great.
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: Okay, go.
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: Ahead. I'm sorry.
• 57:12
  Speaker 4: Female ejaculation takes different forms. So female orgasm, I should say,
• 57:18
  Speaker 4: takes different forms. And I don't want our audience to
• 57:22
  Speaker 4: think that if you don't squirt that something's wrong with you.
• 57:26
  Speaker 4: You can still orgasm. So You can have a more
• 57:28
  Speaker 4: traditional ejaculate orgasm, which is a lot less messy and
• 57:33
  Speaker 4: just feels like this oozy wetness as opposed to like
• 57:38
  Speaker 4: a gersh. And that probably we believe is coming from
• 57:42
  Speaker 4: what we call the skeins glands. These are two, these
• 57:45
  Speaker 4: are glands, paired glands, one on each side of our urethra.
• 57:49
  Speaker 4: The urethra is the hole that we pee out of. Okay.
• 57:52
  Speaker 4: So these are glands next to it. And so that
• 57:55
  Speaker 4: type of orgasm is not, urine inconsistency. It doesn't really
• 57:59
  Speaker 4: feel like it either. Um, now squirting. And by the way,
• 58:04
  Speaker 4: what they show on porn is like exaggerated, right? So,
• 58:07
  Speaker 4: but squirting feels like a gush, like a, like, and
• 58:11
  Speaker 4: it's quite messy and it can feel like you're peeing.
• 58:15
  Speaker 4: And that's because, and this is the big mystery. We,
• 58:18
  Speaker 4: you know, there's been lots of analysis, but we've shown
• 58:21
  Speaker 4: that there is urea in that fluid and urea is
• 58:25
  Speaker 4: a part is all is, the main part of urine.
• 58:28
  Speaker 4: And so it is likely diluted urine that is coming out. See,
• 58:34
  Speaker 4: we don't have, in a man, they ejaculate and pee
• 58:38
  Speaker 4: out of the same tube, right? But it's just coming
• 58:40
  Speaker 4: from different, I mean, semen is different from urine, okay?
• 58:44
  Speaker 4: Semen comes from different orgasms, different organs that they have.
• 58:50
  Speaker 4: And urine comes from their bladder. For us, we don't
• 58:52
  Speaker 4: really have like a semen- Well, it's not semen, but
• 58:56
  Speaker 4: you know, like an ejaculate producing organ that goes through
• 59:00
  Speaker 4: the urethra. And so it is likely just diluted urine
• 59:04
  Speaker 4: that's being expelled out. It freaks people out because it
• 59:08
  Speaker 4: feels like they're peeing on the bed. and messy and
• 59:11
  Speaker 4: it kind of smells like pee maybe, but it feels fabulous.
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: Many guys love it. They don't care if you're peeing
• 59:19
  Speaker 2: on them or not. Just do it, ladies.
• 59:21
  Speaker 4: The penises love it. They love it. So I have
• 59:26
  Speaker 4: patients who will come and be like, Dr. Milhouse, I
• 59:28
  Speaker 4: don't know what to do. Like, I feel, I just peed.
• 59:31
  Speaker 4: I peed during sex and I'm asking them like, well,
• 59:33
  Speaker 4: you know, did it feel good? Were you climaxed? He's like, yes,
• 59:36
  Speaker 4: but it freaked me out. And this, I'm just so embarrassed.
• 59:38
  Speaker 4: And I'm like, baby, promise you, promise you your partner
• 59:42
  Speaker 4: is like so proud of himself or herself. You know
• 59:45
  Speaker 4: what I'm saying? They're like, yes. You know what I'm saying?
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: Look what I did.
• 59:49
  Speaker 4: Exactly. They're not worried about that. They're happy. So, Yeah,
• 59:54
  Speaker 4: that can happen. And, you know, it's a beautiful thing.
• 59:58
  Speaker 4: Sex is supposed to be messy, right? It's supposed to
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 4: be messy. If we just accept it's messy, it's wet,
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 4: it's messy. So enjoy it.
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 3: I just feel like I've never been able to get
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 3: that gush feeling when you're in penetration, though. It's usually like,
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 3: you know, when I'm getting some cunnilingus, okay?
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: With some finger action involved.
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 3: I'll have that feeling, but not during sex, like actual penetration.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 3: So that's why it leads me to think that maybe
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 3: that's urine.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm never gushed like that with
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: a human being, the way the rose make me feel.
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 1: I need to marry the rose.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 4: Wait a second, y'all. If y'all want to gush like
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 4: that with a human, just you like, okay, let's use
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 4: the toy and the dick at the same time.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 3: I like men who are not like opposed to that
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 3: because some men, they are jealous of the toys.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: I like them when they let me bring it.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: It's less pressure for you. I be feeling like, why
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: do I need this? I only have the toy because
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: I don't have no dick around. That's how I feel.
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: I like both of them.
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 4: No, you shouldn't. You shouldn't feel that way. That is our...
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 4: So I totally agree with what you said about men
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 4: sometimes being intimidated by the toy. So let's just talk
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 4: about Black men too because Black men are different. You
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 4: know what I'm saying? And Black men definitely are probably
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 4: more likely to... potentially be thrown off because again, we
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 4: in our community are not used to bringing additives into
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 4: the bedroom. Okay. You bring your vagina, you bring your
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 4: dick and that's all that you need.
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: Or another person, but that's it.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 4: Okay. Cock rings and, you know, vibrators and roses and whatnots. Well,
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 4: you know, why do we need all that? And lube,
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 4: but it can enhance it. Okay. It can enhance it.
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 4: It's not taken away from what the partner's doing. or whatever,
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 4: it's not taking away from that. It's enhancing it for
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 4: both of you all. And I think that if you
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 4: want to introduce your man to a sex toy, don't
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 4: bring like the big rod phallic looking ones.
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 2: I don't even buy those type of things. I only
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: do like little bullets.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't either. Yeah, yeah. Start with the ones
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 4: that don't look so much like a penis. You know
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 4: what I'm saying? And incorporate that. And when he sees
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 4: how you respond with That and the dick at the
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 4: same time. Oh, baby, he's going to, you know, and
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 4: then he can watch you. The other thing you can
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 4: say is, oh, baby, watch me. You know, like they
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 4: enjoy watching us touch ourselves. OK, watch me. So then
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 4: they can watch you do what you do with your
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 4: toy and say, OK, all right, this is what I'm
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 4: going to do to her.
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 3: I'd be so lazy with my toy though. I'm so
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 3: lazy with my toy. I just put it on there
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 3: and I lay on the side. That's fine. That'd be
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 3: like two minutes.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: That's what all of us do. The only thing with
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: the toy is that thing get me there in about
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: a minute thirty seconds. If I got that man around,
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, you're useless now. Go to bed.
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 4: No, because we can come again.
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be wanting to still do it. And the
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 2: toy can't hug you.
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 3: The toy can't rub your butt. Like, The toy can't
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 3: give you no real intimacy.
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 2: Okay. So I still want that.
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: From a man.
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: The toy does not rub your butt.
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: That is right. I'd be like, suck my titties while
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 2: I do this.
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 3: Like, yeah, that's like, I feel like a threesome to
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 3: me a little bit.
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 4: But we can come again and again and again. So
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 4: who cares if you come with the toy? Great.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: All right. Right.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 3: So, you know, with Roe versus Wade and all this,
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 3: have you seen an increase or an influx of men
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 3: coming in.
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 2: For a vasectomy? You do those procedures, right?
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 1: Is that what?
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 4: Oh, yes.
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 5: Yep.
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 4: So we in general, the the pattern is, yes, across
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 4: the United States, there's been more increase in vasectomy with
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 4: Roe versus Wade being overturned. I live in a state
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 4: where abortion is absolutely protected, state of Illinois. So I
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 4: think I haven't seen as great of an increase. And
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 4: I think, again, because we're in a safe state, if
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 4: you will. I have overall, just in the last two
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 4: to four years, have seen more younger men get vasectomies,
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 4: like more younger men, more men who've who have never
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 4: had kids just deciding like, nah.
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 1: Is that reversible at all?
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 4: So it is technically reversible. Technically speaking, it is reversible.
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 4: But you have to understand the vasectomy was designed to
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 4: permanently stop a fertility. Okay. We cut clips. Sometimes we burn.
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 4: Sometimes we stitch up though that vast tube. Okay. So,
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 4: and what happens is just cause you can sew it
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 4: back together. First of all, sewing it back together is
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 4: technically not like easy. Um, and we have to use
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 4: a microscope because.
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 2: It's so small. It's like a fallopian tube essentially.
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 4: I mean, it's, it's thinner than that. Um, thinner than
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 4: a fallopian tube. So super, super, super, super small. And, um, and, um,
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 4: Then we have to say, okay, now sperm, you've been
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 4: kind of like, you know, MIA, we haven't been shipping
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 4: you out for however long now resume. And what happens
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 4: is your body's like, no, like you cut us off
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 4: and we're, you know, your testicles may not produce good
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 4: moving sperm that move through that tube that you've reconnected. Okay. Um,
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 4: sometimes it may be hard to reconnect the two because
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 4: of the way the vasectomy was done. And if it's
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 4: been longer and longer, longer time period from vasectomy to reversal,
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 4: the scar tissue and what, and whatnot can make it harder.
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 4: So we always advise patients do not do a vasectomy
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 4: with the intent of, you know, you're going to reverse
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 4: it in two, three years. That's not really how it's
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 4: should be.
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 1: It's not a condom.
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 4: It's not a condom. It's not our birth control where
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 4: we can, it's not, it's, it's, it is meant to
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 4: be a permanent thing. form of, um, um, a birth
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 4: control for men. Okay. Permanent form of birth control for men. Um,
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 4: just like our tubes being tied.
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 4: Technically we can get our tubes read, you know, undone,
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 4: but like the reality is that doesn't guarantee squat. It
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 4: doesn't guarantee that.
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 2: You might have like some scar tissue in there and stuff.
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 2: I mean, yes.
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yep.
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 1: My mom had her tubes tied and got pregnant with
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 1: my little sister.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 4: Oh, well, they didn't do a good job.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 1: After she had my little sister she was like alright
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 1: this time tie them around my neck so I can
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: see them.
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 4: Take the whole tube out yeah just take the whole
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 4: tube out I mean the good news is even if
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 4: you've had a vasectomy you can we can get sperm
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 4: out of your testicle if you can't conceive naturally and
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 4: use that so you're not necessarily yeah.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: I have one more question So I always see this
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: on TV.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 4: All right.
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: They'll have a man come in and pull his dick
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 1: out and they hold his nuts and they're like, cough.
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 2: What is that? What is that?
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 1: What do you learn by coughing and holding some nuts?
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 1: Because I'm doing that to my boo sometimes, but I
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: just be playing. I don't know what's going on. I
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 1: just grab his nuts and say cough.
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 3: You got to stick the finger in the butt at
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 3: the same time, though, to feel the prostate, right?
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 2: Oh, really?
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: Oh, I didn't know that.
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 2: Oh, no, no, no, no, no.
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 4: The coughing is more to check for a hernia. Oh.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 4: So a hernia is like, you know, like the inner
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 4: parts of the abdomen is coming down into the scrotum.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 4: So that's what it does. When you cough, it puts
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 4: pressure into your abdomen that gets translated. And so that's
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  Speaker 4: what we're trying to detect when we do that.
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  Speaker 1: You're so stupid, girl. I just be holding nuts like, cough, baby, cough.
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  Speaker 4: It's more than just holding the nuts though. They do
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  Speaker 4: just be doing that on TV, but of course TV is.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay.
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  Speaker 1: Tell people where they can find you, like plug yourself, please.
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  Speaker 1: I will.
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  Speaker 4: So first of all, I want to thank you, Tam
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  Speaker 4: Bam and AJ for having me on your show. This
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  Speaker 4: the know with everything that's happening with me. Um, I have,
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  Speaker 1: Across the board.
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  Speaker 2: She's active on social media too. Like she got a real...
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  Speaker 2: Social media presence.
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  Speaker 4: It's a whole other job, honey.
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  Speaker 3: Tell us about it. What we just don't feel like yet.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. All right, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all, it's me, Official Tambam. Again, I love y'all. Thank
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• 1:09:59
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  Speaker 2: And never hold your peace.
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  Speaker 1: Deuces.
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  Speaker 2: Bye.