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Season 4 - Episode 321 - What is your mindset going into the holiday season? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a.
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  Podcast to. Teach distinctions,
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  possibilities, new ways. Of thinking.
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  And just bring some joy into the world.
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  So welcome to the coop and let's start your day off in a
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  fantastic way. Hey everybody, good early
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  morning. We are wrapping Christmas
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  presents together. And I.
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  Am reminiscing about all the holidays in the past.
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  I know when I was a child I pushed very, very hard for
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  holiday stuff, wrapping decorations, all of it because I
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  always felt like, you know, the, the idyllic Christmas of, of
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  having those moments where you just engulfed in all the joy and
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  the mystery and the Santa I, I, I've never like, I can't even
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  say I have ever told my kids there's not Santa because I, I
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  signed Santa on packages still my son will say something and
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  I'm like, I don't know, put it on your list for Santa like I, I
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  am so into that part of it. I really love doing it and it's
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  probably my favorite holiday of all the holidays.
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  I love the Christmas tree. I love doing different themes of
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  Christmas trees. I've often been, you know,
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  taught like I was crazy because I always want to change up the
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  tree. I've tried many different trees
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  over the years and nothing that I can say about the holiday is
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  that makes me. It doesn't make me feel bad in
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  any way, shape or form to change it up.
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  Do things have different stuff? I love taking out all my
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  snowmen. There's just so many good
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  things, the food, the the the aspects of getting things
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  prepared. I love it and it doesn't feel
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  like a chore to me. There was a year when it did
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  feel like a chore though, and that was a couple of years ago.
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  It really felt like a chore to me and I wasn't excited about
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  it. And I remember how odd that
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  felt. And I said to myself at some
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  point in time, I want to make sure I make a podcast about this
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  because I know that there are people out there that do do not
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  feel excited about the holiday. And it might even be some of my
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  people listening. I was shocked that I was not
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  excited. I was just like, I want to get
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  it over with. I even did the tree that year
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  very simply and I bought a giant Grinch head that was sticking
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  out of the tree like he was peeking out the tree because I
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  just was not in the mood for it. I don't know why I never put my
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  finger on it, but I felt that way.
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  And this year I have worked very hard way ahead of time to get
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  make sure I was in the mood for it.
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  Last year I was marginally, I was, I would say I was in a good
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  state for it. I was teeter tottering a little
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  bit here and there. But I really worked hard on
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  getting myself to be clear about that feeling of, you know,
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  making merry, being in that state of mind.
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  And I realized something over the last couple of months as I
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  was thinking about it and contemplating and deciding what
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  my tree was going to look like and all of that, that part of
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  the issue is when you start to think you have to just tick a
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  box, go through the motions, it starts to feel like a chore.
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  Instead of feeling like, what do I'm, what am I going to surprise
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  someone with? What am I going to do to make
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  somebody feel good? And as soon as I started doing
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  it that way, I started feeling that it come back.
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  And I think what happened a couple years ago was that I
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  started feeling like it was a chore, something I had to do,
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  not something I necessarily wanted to do.
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  And that was really upsetting to me because I don't ever want to
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  be that person that does that. I don't want to tick a box,
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  whether it's showing up to work with a client, whether it's
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  setting up, you know, a Christmas tree, whether it's
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  doing, you know, my gardens. I don't want to feel like it's a
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  chore. I always want to feel like I'm
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  engaged in it fully. And it felt like a chore.
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  And I, I, that's the best thing I can say.
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  And I don't know what triggered that.
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  I, I still have not put my finger on what triggered the
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  feeling like a chore. But ticking the boxes is
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  something that kills us across the, anytime we're doing it.
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  I have somebody who regularly meditates and we've debated this
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  like just because you meditate, if you're meditating and it's
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  just a chore, then that's a problem.
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  We always have to go back and look and say, OK, am I in this
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  present moment? Am I doing it for the right
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  reasons and keeping that feeling in mind of like, what am I doing
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  this for? Am I doing this to see somebody
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  else light up? Am I doing this to see somebody
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  else feel something? Or am I doing this?
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  Obviously we, as I've said a million times, I don't care who
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  you are. We always do things because we
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  get something from it. And that's the tricky part.
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  Because if you give someone a gift and they don't like the
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  gift or they don't show the joy that you anticipated in that,
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  then all of a sudden you're disappointed because you thought
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  you were going to see that joy in their face or you really made
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  effort and they didn't care. Now this is where it gets really
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  tricky because we can actually sit there and say, OK, I'm just
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  going to not worry about it. I'm doing it because I'm in the
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  right place and I'm giving it. And if they don't like it,
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  that's OK. And I shoot for that all the
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  time. Now.
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  I just shoot for it like I'm doing something nice.
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  I feel good about what I'm doing.
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  I feel like I'm on point with what I'm giving that person,
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  that it's aligned to them and I'm I'm doing the best I can
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  with what I have and hopefully they like it.
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  And if they don't, that's OK. I did the best I could.
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  And I feel like sometimes we have to put ourselves in that
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  frame of mind to actually enjoy the holiday.
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  Like I feel good about how I showed up.
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  I feel good about what I gave and I'm doing it with non
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  attachment for I've no expectations of them.
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  And that really does help. So hopefully you guys are not
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  just ticking a box. Hopefully you're having the
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  energy to go into it in a good headspace and hopefully these
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  next couple days before Christmas shows up, you can
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  focus on I'm giving without any expectation because that really,
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  really does help. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.