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27 | He Deliberately Sabotaged Her Chances at Motherhood · Let's Talk! An Our2Gens Podcast

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  Let's talk. What's up weirdos?
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  Welcome back episode 27. Oh.
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  My God, 27 let's do it. Let's do it.
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  Let's get into it. All right, Reddit, Today I effed
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  up by realizing that laxatives can take a while to kick in.
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  Oh no. Yes, yes, he said.
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  I have been struggling with some gut issues so a friend convinced
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  me to try the carnivore diet. So I proceed with meats and
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  eggs, breakfast, lunch and dinner.
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  It all seems to be going as OK as possible until the 4th day
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  when I realized I haven't pooped in, well, four days.
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  I figure it's a new diet, it will adjust.
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  Three more days go by and I'm getting increasingly
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  uncomfortable. I have pounds of fermented meats
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  in my intestines and it feels like it.
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  I'm releasing horrid gas smells that smell like it.
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  Well now it's been a week. I figured this isn't good right?
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  So I head to the store. I have 0 experience with
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  laxatives and I'm too embarrassed to ask anyone so I
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  ask. Google.
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  I'm about to say Google exists, please.
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  No, so I throw in some kids dulcolax.
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  Good to start gentle right? Some glycerin suppositories
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  because I read on Reddit thanks Reddit that these are gentle and
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  effective. Some adult dulcolax, some prune
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  juice, the classic choice and some dried apricots for good
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  measure because I remember when I was a kid these baby poop like
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  no tomorrow. I feel like he got.
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  Everything that you could ever need, but you don't need to
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  layer them on top of each other. Guess.
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  What I'm going to do? Oh my God.
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  So the first day I pop a couple of the kids Dulcolax, nothing.
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  A few hours later I decide let's try the glycerin.
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  Nothing. Later that day I try more kids
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  dulcolax and another glycerin Suppository.
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  Nada. I realized at this point pooping
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  has consumed my every thoughts. It's been 8 days now, the
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  longest in my life really, and I feel so bloated, nauseous, and
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  full of poop. I contemplate going to the
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  doctor. Oh God.
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  Instead, I figure, why not throw the rest of the arsenal at the
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  problem? I take a couple more kids
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  dulcolax, pound a can of prune juice, pop two more adult
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  Dulcolax, and then later that day eat a couple of handfuls of
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  dried apricots. When nothing happens after a
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  couple of hours, another can of prune juice down the Hatch and
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  one more dulcolax, because why not?
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  Oh my God, he's doing too much. He's.
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  Doing it, it's like a gummy. Let it work if.
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  It's not ASAP, I'm going to take another one like.
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  You never take another one. He said.
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  As I lie down in bed, my stomach starts making noises, noises
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  that no stomach should make, noises that perhaps only a demon
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  possessed animal of some sort might make.
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  And the gurgling, I've never ever heard or experienced the
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  likes of it. I toss and turn and wish I could
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  turn back time. I could feel that something is
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  going to happen, something intense, and I'm terrified.
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  At some point I fall into fitful sleep.
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  I dream of being chased by animals making strange noises.
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  I wake up twice in a cold sweat and try to get something to
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  release in the bathroom. Instead I throw up.
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  At this point rolling cramps are hitting me and every time I sit
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  on the toilet my legs go numb. I feel light headed yet nothing.
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  Nothing. He still hasn't moved.
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  He's suffering and he hasn't. Poor guy.
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  I somehow fall into a brief, fruitful sleep and I wake up
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  feeling like a hot knife is twisting its way into my guts.
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  I run to the bathroom and trip over my very confused and very
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  concerned dog and stumble the rest of the way into the
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  bathroom. I pop down and I feel something
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  literally moving its way out. I'm giving birth to something
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  and it's unnatural and large. To spare the details, it decides
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  to get stuck painfully right before freedom and I die a
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  little on the inside. Finally, it releases with so
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  much force behind it that I splash myself with toilet water.
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  OK, he's like, not to go into too much detail, never seems to
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  go into detail, but I love. The way he's telling the story,
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  great storytelling, it's amazing.
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  Then the fun begins that's seen in Dumb and Dumber when he gets
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  dosed with the laxative that seems mild compared to what I
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  had to go through for over an hour.
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  It's like a waterfall of the worst kind.
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  I'm sweating, hunched over with rolling cramps, and something
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  unholy unleashes itself over and over.
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  After an hour and a half, I stumbled to bed and collapsed.
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  I choked some Gatorade. Thankfully I had some so very
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  thankful and I managed to pass out from exhaustion until two
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  hours later. Next round.
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  Next round I am tortured by another miserable and violent
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  experience that leaves me weak and questioning how these things
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  can be available over the counter for us stupids to
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  release on themselves. This experience repeats itself
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  two more times until the end and I swear it's just water.
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  It can't be anything else at this point.
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  I've literally become a human fountain.
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  It's the next day and I'm still making trips to the bathroom
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  every couple of hours. My whole abdomen is sore.
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  I will never question the benefits of fiber again.
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  And the next time, God forbid, I will have some patience instead
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  of chucking the kitchen sink at it.
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  Oh my God, no patience whatsoever.
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  Take another and take another prune juice apricots.
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  I mean a couple apricots and you're good, you're good.
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  One can of prune juice, you're good.
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  But then you just went for everything else on top of it, on
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  top of it, on top of it. Oh my God, I'm so I'm surprised
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  he's alive. I was going to say the.
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  Same thing. How are you alive?
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  Hopefully it was a weekend he didn't have to go to work that
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  day or the next. Day.
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  Imagine. Yeah, he said.
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  I'm just going to eat more, drink more, take more.
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  You're insane. You're insane.
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  I mean, you just kept going and I was like, I'm getting more
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  nervous. I can feel it in my chest.
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  I'm getting nervous for this guy, bruh.
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  And eight days worth of backup. Yeah, I know he felt terrible.
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  So even though he was dying on the toilet, he was just like,
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  thank God. And he will never do an all meat
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  diet again. That part we're all paid for,
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  all meat. No impatience.
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  It's OK. It might take a couple hours,
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  take a nap or something, but he said.
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  I'm going to take another one. Oh my God.
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  Hey, I I mean I can tell the story of an ex Co worker a while
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  ago was telling me that he took the the tea.
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  There's like a tea that helps you go like a laxative tea.
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  And he was supposed to go to a birthday party and he also
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  didn't know that it took a while.
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  So he took it. He was waiting around and he was
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  like, well whatever, I need to go to my kids birthday party at
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  Chuck E Cheese and he almost pooped himself.
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  Always Chuck E Cheese though the places.
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  They should put that on the label.
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  Like, I know you think it should take this, but add more time.
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  But add more time. They tell you, I think, to take
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  it at night. Yes, before bed.
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  So you can just. Yeah, I'm glad he's alive.
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  Right. All right, this one, I'm going
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  to put a little bit of a trigger warning in it because it's
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  inappropriate behavior by an adult towards a young person.
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  She's not a child. She's 18.
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  But still, I'll put that out there.
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  Rage bit. Here we go.
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  Am I overreacting? My friend's dad made me
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  uncomfortable. Oh no.
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  Yes, I 18 females stayed over at my friend's eighteen female
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  house because her dad was going to drive us to the beach and he
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  wanted to get there before traffic.
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  All was fine. He dropped us off then picked us
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  up later on the way home a song came on his playlist I get off
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  by hailstorm. He randomly told us, quote, this
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  song is about a girl getting off by a man watching her through
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  her window. And we were like, OK.
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  And then he said exhibitionism. A lot of people get turned on
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  from that. I'm pretty sure she and points
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  to my friend, his daughter. I think she has it.
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  She leaves her curtains open all the time.
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  Whoa, whoa, yes, whoa. Yeah.
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  Where's the flag? Yeah, it goes.
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  Bring out the flags. Time out, Yes?
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  What, over your own daughter in the car?
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  Like normal conversation? It's fine, right?
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  So my friend awkwardly laughed it off, but I couldn't really
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  tell if she was as uncomfortable as I was.
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  He also told the story of how he met his wife and was making a
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  lot of sexual remarks about my friend's mom.
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  And I get it, he's attracted and in love with her, but I really
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  don't want to hear about how great her mom's ass is.
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  Calm down bro. And then we got back to her
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  house because we wanted to hang out more and I wanted to play
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  with her ferrets. So I'm sure my other daughter
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  will be very happy that somebody owned ferrets.
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  She really wants ferrets. Oh my goodness.
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  Her dad asked me if I was hungry and I said no because I ate a
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  lot of food already. He made a comment about my
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  stomach and pinched it. My shirt was cropped a little so
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  he ended up touching my bare stomach.
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  I will fight him. I will fight him.
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  Let's take it outside. We're not done.
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  Then when he and my friend were driving me home, we drove by a
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  shopping center by my neighborhood and out of the blue
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  he pointed out a massage place and said quote that's a happy
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  ending massage parlor. You can tell because the windows
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  are tinted black and it's open until 10:00 PM.
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  Is he serious? Is he so for he's being so
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  obvious with it too? It's just disgusting behavior.
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  Disgusting. So I don't know why he felt the
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  need to point that out. So am I overreacting for feeling
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  uncomfortable? I don't know if I should bring
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  it up to my friend because what can she do about it anyway?
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  And she goes back to college next week anyways.
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  So before you respond there's a quick one sentence update she
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  said. So I talked to my friend and she
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  said that's just how he and her family is.
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  No, no. He's making you think that this
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  is normal. It's not normal.
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  Yep. You can be groomed by your
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  family. You can't.
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  OK, Lord knows you can. Yeah.
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  So are you kidding? Have these conversations.
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  Around young women, 'cause they're 18, but they are tech,
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  they're they're girls. I mean they're like new aid that
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  brand new adults like. But to have these conversations
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  and for her to think that it's normal has been happening her
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  whole life, her whole life. That's mad and appropriate.
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  Yes, Oh God, to go out of your way to bring up these overtly
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  sexual and inappropriate things with these girls.
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  Thank you. I I hope.
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  Nothing else has happened. God, but I can't even bet on the
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  fact that it hasn't. Like I'm going to assume it has
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  because at this point every sign is pointing in that direction.
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  And he's doing this with her now, not just his daughter, to
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  kind of like, test the waters, see maybe how far I can go
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  before yada, yada, yada. It's like, no, no, no.
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  I will be telling my parents too, that part.
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  Go home and tell them, yeah, no, I will be a snitch in that
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  situation because that is mad inappropriate.
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  You should. You should.
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  So no, you're not overreacting. This is not normal.
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  And yes, if you would like to tell your parents, please do.
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  Please do God, I'm like sweating because why?
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  Why are people like this? That is your family.
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  You should feel safe with your family, you know.
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  You should, but this country in this world is having a reckoning
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  right now about how we do and don't take care of our children.
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  So I think I thought this was a good conversation to have. 100%
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  Oh God girl. OK, so Spotify decided to do
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  something really interesting. They partnered up with Liquid
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  Death, the weirdest water name ever.
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  It sounds like it's like a monster or something, but it's
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  not. And it looks like beer.
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  Yeah, it looks like it, but they decided to partner up and create
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  a urn. If you could please move to my
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  screen. This is the urn and it is the
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  eternal playlist Earn. And essentially you can make
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  your own playlist about what songs you want to play for your,
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  I don't know, beyond the grave, I guess.
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  To your ashes. Yeah.
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  It's like your soundtrack to your death, essentially.
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  Absolutely. OK, but all right, shout out, I
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  guess it's already sold out, by the way, and it's a collector's
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  item, so I don't think they're going to be, you know, producing
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  these again. But it really got me thinking
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  like about which songs I would want to play in my eternal
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  playlist. You can you can go to Spotify's
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  generator and like they'll make a playlist for you.
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  You got to ask a couple questions, like what's your
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  eternal vibe, yada, yada, yada. I don't know, boring.
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  But I feel like you should be able to pick for yourself.
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  And it got me thinking about what songs.
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  So I decided let's pick a couple songs but I want to go first
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  because I love music. So my first song Time by Hans
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  Zimmer if y'all know Christopher Nolan Inception wonderful movie.
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  Please go watch it if you haven't.
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  But Time by Hans Zimmer is perfection.
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  Yes, all the way. Through no one can say anything
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  about this song. No lyrics, just emotions,
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  perfection. I'd already knew.
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  I mean, if I had to guess, this would definitely be on the list.
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  Yeah, and I think I know another one, but we'll see.
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  I see. I was, I know, I know what
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  you're thinking, but I may have surprised you.
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  Second one, Exit Music for a film by Radiohead.
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  Quality song right there. Quality.
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  I feel like if I'm going to like go out in a blaze of glory or
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  anything, I want to go walk into a fire or whatever.
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  Everything goes up into flames. Like this is how I want to go.
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  Out. Well, that's kind of how you'd
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  went out if you're in an urn. You think you're funny?
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  I do that. Was pretty good, and I got #3 on
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  The Nature of Daylight by Match Richard.
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  It's really, really good. It was on the movie Arrival.
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  Do you remember that? Yes, yeah, at the end.
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  Great, great song. Also, no lyrics, just emotion,
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  just vibes. It's just vibes.
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  So, so good. And then a little edgier, Five O
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  5 by Arctic Monkeys, OK. OK.
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  Yes, OK. And this might be a little
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  cheesy, but I listened to the song once, 505, driving through
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  the 505, Albuquerque, NM at 5:05 PM and I wish I could say I was
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  joking, but I was fangirling in the backseat and no one knew
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  that it was like a big moment. I was like this.
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  You're like, this is everything. I actually love that for you.
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  Thank you. It's an accomplishment.
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  And the last one is, if I can go a little death by the
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  neighborhood. Poetic.
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  That's a good one. Yeah, yeah.
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  So that's where I'm 5I. Don't hate that, right?
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  Well, when you first told me about this, I was thinking this
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  was everybody else would hear my playlist if they were looking at
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  my urn. I didn't think that it was like
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  my eternal playlist yours, but I kind of also like it.
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  But I really want everybody else.
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  That's why I pick my 5 based on everybody else being able to
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  listen to my songs. OK, wait, I'm curious now.
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  OK, so you can go to mine. So my first one is what are you
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  going to do when you're not saving the world?
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  Also, Hans Zimmer. It's from the Man of Steel
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  score. We nerd out to movie scores.
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  So sorry. Yeah.
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  Oh, well, very epic. Very.
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  Yeah. You'll feel it.
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  You know, we got to love this album.
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  This lithium. Lithium, lithium.
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  OK, so I choose these based on my 5 personalities.
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  OK. So if you if you know these
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  songs, it should make sense to you.
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  So next XO my Beyoncé love me some XO it makes me cry every
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  single time I hear it. Spodi OD Dopalicious by Outkast
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  that love me some of. That right, it just feels like
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  you're in the club. The lights are way.
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  Down, yes, smoke, smoke in there.
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  Moody lights. Yeah, this is my chill person.
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  That's it. Lives inside me.
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  And then Last Creep by Radiohead, naturally.
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  Naturally. Those are really good picks,
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  actually. Thank you.
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  I wanted everybody else to vibe. I didn't realize that this was
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  my eternal, like, forever. It's just for you.
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  I mean, you're dead. I feel like this is the last
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  thing that you have for you. Yeah.
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  I give you guys permission to take the lid off of my urn and
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  play it for yourself, because if you look at the lid, that's
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  where the speaker is. Hold on.
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  Yes. Yeah.
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  That is exactly where the speaker is, if we can go back to
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  mine, yeah. So he can take it off and that's
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  where the speaker is. And so I'm like, you know, just
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  take it off. Just don't spill me exactly
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  everywhere. And then you can vibe out to my
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  playlist. That's you know what?
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  I respect that. I respect that.
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  Thank you. Thank you.
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  Super weird, but also I want to hear y'all's five.
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  Just give us five in the comments down below.
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  I'm really, really, really curious to see what type of
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  songs people were going into. Like that forever.
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  Yeah. For the rest of your life.
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  So make it good. In the afterlife, your forever
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  playlist. Yeah, OK, so next BuzzFeed was
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  asking their readers what is the pettiest reason that you've
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  broken up with somebody and the pettiest reason that you've been
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  broken up with? And so we went through the list
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  and we picked some of our favorites.
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  Yes, because you know, we love pettiness here 'cause.
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  I mean we live on the line of petty cause life wouldn't be fun
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  if we weren't petty. So you can go to my screen,
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  please. So I have all of them, but we
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  but we went back and forth and chose, you know, which ones were
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  our favorite. So this we're going through
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  yours first. Oh.
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  We're going through mine. 1st so this is this was yours right?
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  So it's basically said his eyes clicked when he blinked.
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  Now just thinking about like it was doll like a doll like
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  imagine if every time you play. So if we're sitting next to each
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  other and it's all quiet. I would think like a camera
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  shutter is going on because. I cannot.
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  I would also break up with somebody if their eyeballs
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  clicked. Oh my God.
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  I'm sorry, but no. And the picture of Chucky makes
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  it so much better because my platter.
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  Yes. Thank you for the example.
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  I appreciate that. Yeah.
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  So that doesn't seem petty to me at all.
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  This is lifelong we're talking about.
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  OK. I watched her run to catch a
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  bus. She had a weird run.
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  Valid. Also very valid.
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  Because what happens if we have to break out into a run and
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  we're around other people, and now I have to defend you because
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  you run weird? Yeah.
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  I should feel comfortable knowing that you won't embarrass
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  me, that you know how to function your two legs.
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  Like, like, let's go. We have some place to get to,
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  and you're running all weird and shit.
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  Like, let's go real. All right, So she took the last
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  slice of pizza. He couldn't live his entire life
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  with someone who would always take the last slice.
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  See, it's not just about the slice.
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  He's not talking about the slice.
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  That's valid. Actually.
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  I actually really, really understand this one because that
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  means you're not going to choose me.
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  Yeah. You know, essentially.
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  OK so there was 2 on this one. On our first date she wore the
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  same perfume that my mom always wore when my parents would go
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  out. I just couldn't UN smell that
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  she was really pretty but she smelled like my mom.
• 19:25
  Valid. So, and I'm glad that that was
• 19:27
  like a immediate turn off for you because if you were like,
• 19:29
  regardless, now I have some questions.
• 19:32
  Exactly. I actually like you because you
• 19:34
  smell like my mom. OK, wait, we have problems.
• 19:40
  I broke up with a girl when I was, like, 21 because she lived
• 19:43
  too far away. It was a 20 minute drive.
• 19:45
  So you're lazy. That was.
• 19:47
  I don't like that one. I don't like that one.
• 19:49
  That one's so stupid. Because that that one that goes
• 19:52
  into the petty, ridiculous side. Yeah. 20 minutes.
• 19:54
  You just didn't like her. You just.
• 19:56
  Yeah. Not enough to drive 20 minutes.
• 19:59
  All right. Oh, my God.
• 20:01
  This was my favorite. She over enunciated the T
• 20:03
  inexactly. Exactly.
• 20:07
  Oh. That's valid.
• 20:10
  That's felt exactly because if I have to tune into your teeth
• 20:14
  every time I talk to you with this can't work no, and also she
• 20:20
  was very affirm. She would give affirmations
• 20:22
  while he was talking. So you're saying what you're
• 20:24
  saying and she's like. Exactly.
• 20:26
  And I'm like exactly my face. I would not.
• 20:31
  Like should I can't handle that? No.
• 20:35
  So I once broke up a guy because he always had visible boogers.
• 20:38
  Valid. 100% is just coming at me every time you breathe, you
• 20:43
  said. Coming at I don't like this
• 20:44
  motions, I don't like this motions, neither do.
• 20:47
  I blow your nose. Because if you've got like
• 20:51
  boogers your nose, you've got ear wax in your ears, crust on
• 20:56
  your ankles, you know what I mean?
• 20:57
  Like I don't know what you mean, no.
• 21:02
  I'm saying like you're a dirty person.
• 21:03
  Yes, If you can't clean the boogers out of your nose, then
• 21:06
  you can't do anything else. Dirt, nails, dirty everything
• 21:09
  else. Yeah.
• 21:09
  I thought you were going to say it.
• 21:10
  I'm not going to. I'm not.
• 21:13
  I'm a producer. Says I can't say it.
• 21:16
  Oh, I can't. Please.
• 21:17
  Dirty nails, dirty Dick. I was ready.
• 21:25
  Thanks for Tiffany Haddish for that one.
• 21:27
  But yes, I fully believe that. I Well, you know, it's only
• 21:33
  science. Clean your nails.
• 21:34
  That's what's under there. That part.
• 21:39
  All right, I broke up with a guy because he always chewed with
• 21:41
  his mouth open. Now, listen to me.
• 21:43
  Yes, very, very clearly. I would break up with everybody.
• 21:46
  Yeah, we wouldn't be. Friends, we no, I can't handle
• 21:49
  that. Can't not smacking and smacking.
• 21:52
  Oh my God. And also, I know you can hear
• 21:54
  that. I hate that I can excuse people
• 21:57
  who have like earphones in or like headphones or whatever and
• 22:01
  they can't hear themselves. But if you sit in there making a
• 22:04
  whole orchestra. Why are you eating?
• 22:08
  You hear that? I have a violent reaction to
• 22:10
  people who eat with their mouth open, like I actually tense up.
• 22:15
  I can't handle it because that's the rudest thing I feel like you
• 22:18
  can do when you're around other people eating just one. 100%
• 22:22
  because you're so inconsiderate you don't care.
• 22:24
  No, I don't want to see that or hear it.
• 22:27
  Bye. So yes, my date once time one
• 22:29
  time pulled up blasting a Lindsay Lohan CD.
• 22:32
  He was 47 and it just gave me the ick.
• 22:36
  What if you was a whole vibe? I don't blame him.
• 22:39
  She wasn't having it. I don't think that's fair.
• 22:43
  No, I don't think it's fair either.
• 22:45
  But for her, it wasn't it. Wow, I'm on his side.
• 22:49
  I'm sorry, I'm on Lindsay. Lohan.
• 22:50
  He finally had the courage to love what he wanted to love out
• 22:54
  in the open. That's why people don't want to
• 22:55
  believe. That's what I'm saying, yeah.
• 22:58
  Yeah, I'm on his side. He.
• 23:00
  Didn't even know why she broke up with him.
• 23:02
  Yeah, so he had the same name as my dad.
• 23:05
  I could deal with it for a while, but when he started
• 23:06
  calling me sweetheart, which my dad does, it got weird.
• 23:09
  Yeah. Nope.
• 23:10
  Nope, Nope. Yeah, no, valid.
• 23:14
  That is very valid. I cannot because now I can't
• 23:16
  distinguish the two people. And you say, sweetheart?
• 23:19
  Nope. So no for me.
• 23:21
  Yeah, it's like the perfume. Yeah, can't do that.
• 23:24
  Can't. And I think this is the last
• 23:26
  one. My girlfriend broke up with me
• 23:28
  so she wouldn't miss the finale of Golden Girls.
• 23:32
  Was it a? The valley question he said how
• 23:35
  old is he? It doesn't matter cuz I will
• 23:37
  watch Golden girls. I've been watching it since I
• 23:39
  was a child. I will always watch an episode
• 23:41
  now and it's on TV. Young people are watching it.
• 23:45
  OK. Was it like a temporary breakup
• 23:47
  Like I'll break up with you for the evening for the finale and
• 23:50
  then we'll get back together. I don't think she liked him and
• 23:52
  that was her excuse. Dang, yeah.
• 23:54
  She was just like, actually, I need to wash my hair and watch
• 23:57
  The Golden Girls. Like, you know, sometimes TV is
• 24:02
  that important. Golden Girls is amazing.
• 24:03
  Yeah. They're a vibe.
• 24:06
  Yeah. But we thought that that was
• 24:07
  hilarious. And we also want to know what
• 24:10
  your petty experience was with breakups.
• 24:12
  Have you been broken up in a petty way?
• 24:14
  Have you broken up with somebody?
• 24:15
  In a petty way, because sometimes you just got to reach
• 24:18
  for an excuse like she did. Exactly.
• 24:20
  Put it in the comments. We got to know we got it out all
• 24:23
  right, so we have another story. This one's really interesting.
• 24:26
  If we go to my screen, we have two babies on screen.
• 24:31
  So on January 31st in New York, 2 babies were born within hours
• 24:36
  of each other, completely different sizes.
• 24:39
  We've got baby on the. Right, like those are both one
• 24:43
  day old babies. Our producers just laugh and
• 24:46
  like. OK, so baby on the right parents
• 24:50
  are Tarika and Sean. This baby is Sean Junior, born
• 24:54
  at 13 lbs. I don't even I what?
• 24:57
  Record-breaking for the hospital, 13 lbs.
• 25:01
  He's a three month old. Already, so we just skipped
• 25:04
  months 1 and 2. Straight to three.
• 25:06
  Months that's I don't appreciate that you're so.
• 25:09
  He's so big, he's so Chucky and good for Tariq.
• 25:13
  Was Tarika for Mama? For making that.
• 25:16
  Happen. OK girl, you're amazing.
• 25:17
  You got that baby out. OK, what efficiency?
• 25:21
  And then that other baby looks so small compared.
• 25:23
  Yes, baby on the left. The parents are Chloe and
• 25:26
  Victor, 4 lbs. Oh my gosh.
• 25:30
  But honestly, I think this is so sweet because people are like,
• 25:33
  my baby is going to be this, my baby is going to be that.
• 25:35
  It's like never say exactly how it's going to go.
• 25:38
  Experience and appreciate the experience of being pregnant,
• 25:42
  having your child, growing up with your child.
• 25:45
  Doing all these things like don't, you can never guess.
• 25:49
  You don't know who they're going to be.
• 25:50
  You can assume you know, but I know they didn't assume they
• 25:54
  were going to give birth to a 13 LB.
• 25:56
  They thought they were going to be big.
• 25:57
  I saw in the article. Yeah.
• 25:59
  They're like 13 lbs. Ciao.
• 26:02
  You said I'm here for everything.
• 26:04
  Yeah, he's already eating solid food.
• 26:07
  Seriously. No, I was.
• 26:10
  Like I know you lied. I am, but damn, that's a big
• 26:16
  baby. Respectfully, we love you, baby.
• 26:18
  You're so cute. So cute.
• 26:20
  Exactly. We read an article about
• 26:24
  Jennifer Fitzgerald. Her ex boyfriend's name is
• 26:27
  Brandon Proveau. So he abandoned a car registered
• 26:30
  in her name at the Chicago O'Hare airport right for 2 1/2
• 26:35
  years and it racked up $106,000 in parking tickets in her name.
• 26:43
  My. God.
• 26:45
  I could not believe it because it didn't say so in the article,
• 26:49
  but it really seemed like he did it being petty.
• 26:51
  Yes. Like they were breaking up.
• 26:53
  And so he bought a car from her uncle for $600.00 and then just
• 26:58
  abandoned it at the airport and let it rack up over $100,000
• 27:03
  worth of that is evil. So evil.
• 27:05
  That's evil because she couldn't pay it and her car, her license
• 27:09
  got revoked. Oh, no, yeah, because that's on
• 27:12
  your Oh, that's evil. And she had no idea the idea
• 27:16
  that he had put it in her name either.
• 27:17
  And so she didn't even know there was a car that existed out
• 27:20
  there that was abandoned. And she's getting these notices
• 27:23
  and she can't pay it. She can't get out there because
• 27:26
  she, I think they said she was a single mom and she was
• 27:28
  unemployed at the time. And then now you took away her
• 27:30
  license. So she can't even get to work
• 27:32
  she can't do. Anything, he said.
• 27:33
  I'm a ruin your life. For breaking up a me exactly.
• 27:36
  And so if you don't mind going to my media, there is that's the
• 27:40
  car abandoned at the airport, just sitting there racking up
• 27:44
  tickets. And so after a while, she was
• 27:47
  able to get a pro bono attorney. And this is him here.
• 27:50
  And that's Jennifer. And they went to court.
• 27:53
  They were fighting for her to not have to pay this amount.
• 27:56
  Amen. And they're, what they were
• 27:59
  saying was that, first of all, Brandon should be responsible.
• 28:01
  He bought the car. And you did this on purpose and
• 28:04
  parked it there. Exactly.
• 28:05
  And then #2 why did the city write so many tickets to begin
• 28:09
  with? Like, why not write a few And
• 28:11
  then have it towed? It took 2 1/2 years for them to
• 28:14
  tow it, and they kept writing tickets on it.
• 28:17
  Yeah. Why exactly?
• 28:19
  So that was their argument. And so they went round and round
• 28:22
  and round. She still has to pay for these
• 28:25
  parking tickets. They made it so she has to pay
• 28:27
  $44170. Still, I don't like that.
• 28:30
  Not at all. But there is a silver lining,
• 28:34
  which is because Brandon has to pay the down payment of $1600
• 28:38
  and then she has a payment plan. But what's?
• 28:41
  Stinks is that it's like a $78 per month for three years and
• 28:45
  then she gets her license back, right?
• 28:46
  And I'm like, so I have to wait three years to be able to get my
• 28:49
  for something I didn't even do for my license back.
• 28:51
  So I'm still suffering over something that I didn't do.
• 28:54
  Yep. And the boyfriend?
• 28:55
  The lousy 1600 dollars. Oh, he was pissed about it
• 28:59
  though. He was like, I don't, I'm going
• 29:00
  to have. To pay back.
• 29:00
  Oh you're mad? Exactly.
• 29:02
  I love how you're mad about this situation.
• 29:04
  As if you didn't park the car there.
• 29:05
  And do this on purpose. You know what?
• 29:07
  Yeah, I'll. So I know we like petty, but
• 29:09
  only like when we like the person we don't like.
• 29:13
  It's like, if it's like harmless, if it's harmless, I'm
• 29:17
  there for it, you know, but like.
• 29:18
  This is really hurting her. And she's got kids, Dude, I
• 29:23
  know. I don't like that.
• 29:25
  That one was nasty. Yeah.
• 29:26
  But I'm glad she was able to get her attorney.
• 29:28
  Thank goodness that this attorney came in and pro bono
• 29:30
  was able to fight this for her because $106,000 is a lot
• 29:34
  different than $4400. Absolutely.
• 29:36
  Yeah. Shout out to him.
• 29:38
  I'm sorry this happened to you, girl.
• 29:39
  He dodged a. Bullet, you did.
• 29:41
  Thank God, my God, hopefully those kids aren't his so she can
• 29:45
  just leave. We got the yeah.
• 29:48
  Thank you. All right, let's bring it right
• 29:51
  back to the reddits. Yours favorite thing always.
• 29:54
  You guys are only here for the reddits.
• 29:55
  Don't act like I can't read. Y'all all right Reddit
• 29:58
  traumatize them back. I woke up and chose coffee with
• 30:02
  a dash of vengeance for my dad. Oh I'm here for it.
• 30:05
  What's that? I lived with my parents after
• 30:07
  college for a while. It wasn't a great time,
• 30:09
  especially since my dad is a unique sort of unbearable.
• 30:12
  That's a lot like water torture. Many, many little instances
• 30:16
  adding up to drive you absolutely mad.
• 30:19
  For example, he'd always wake up early and unload the dishwasher
• 30:23
  loudly and wake everyone up. If you were making coffee, he'd
• 30:26
  corner you and ask you why you're in a bad mood, even if
• 30:28
  you haven't said anything yet. He never washed his hands after
• 30:31
  the bathroom. He would touch your stuff like
• 30:33
  your laptop without permission. If you were cooking, he'd hover
• 30:37
  and make bad suggestions, steal ingredients you just prepped,
• 30:40
  and even turn to temperature knobs to what he thought was
• 30:43
  right, even if he wasn't cooking.
• 30:45
  Wait, what? I thought you're.
• 30:47
  Talking about temperature of the house.
• 30:48
  So he'd come behind you and change?
• 30:50
  Yes, and change it. This is what it needs to be.
• 30:54
  I once almost had a grease fire because I was making French
• 30:57
  fries and he got between me and the oil pot as it was bubbling
• 31:00
  over after he turned up the gauge and he wouldn't get out of
• 31:03
  the way. Then he'd comment on how I did
• 31:06
  that and I should be more careful.
• 31:08
  Oh, and since I was very young, he'd blast Descriptive and
• 31:11
  Violet NPR in the morning with news of bombings that would make
• 31:15
  me crying since single digits. Oh my God.
• 31:18
  As I said, lots of little things that added up to just being
• 31:20
  really done with it. One morning I was waking up at
• 31:24
  like 5:00 AM by the dishwasher being unloaded.
• 31:27
  You can do. This at any other time, that's
• 31:28
  my thing. Like. 5:00 AM Let's go my.
• 31:30
  God bro, I don't know what happened to me that particular
• 31:33
  morning, but that was the day I woke up and chose vengeance.
• 31:37
  I heard the coffee grinder, flung the blankets off myself
• 31:39
  and came out. He was in the corner making his
• 31:41
  coffee perfect. I walked up unnecessarily close
• 31:45
  in the same way he always did and asked why are you in a bad
• 31:48
  mood? He was confused.
• 31:50
  He said he wasn't in a bad mood, but just like him, I didn't buy
• 31:53
  it. I said no, no, no, I can tell
• 31:55
  you're in a bad mood. What's up, dude?
• 31:58
  He was quite unsettled by the time his coffee was done, but I
• 32:01
  wasn't done. A little later I went out to
• 32:04
  where he was with the litter box and I cleaned it in front of
• 32:06
  him. Then, without washing my hands,
• 32:09
  I went to his chair and started picking his stuff up.
• 32:11
  His phone, his napkin, his remote control.
• 32:14
  He was like the hell. Oh my God, and.
• 32:17
  I was like, what? I thought we didn't wash our
• 32:18
  hands in this house. Why are you upset?
• 32:21
  I love her. Then I put on a murder podcast
• 32:25
  about a woman who had her bits cut off with piano wires full
• 32:28
  volume. He wasn't a fan.
• 32:30
  Then he made lunch. I went to the kitchen the second
• 32:33
  I heard cooking noises and immediately stole half a tomato.
• 32:36
  He just cut and ate it. He looked annoyed but kept
• 32:39
  going. Then when he turned the burner
• 32:41
  on and went to the fridge I turned it off behind his back.
• 32:44
  He turned it back on and I told him his steak cooks better when
• 32:47
  on cold pans and he should turn it off.
• 32:49
  He looked at me like I was crazy.
• 32:51
  I returned the same look. By the time he he sat down with
• 32:54
  his subpar lunch, he started crying.
• 32:56
  What he started crying, he started crying.
• 33:00
  I'd never seen him cry before except for when my family dog
• 33:03
  died when I was like 7. I told him I'm just doing to him
• 33:06
  what he does all the time and maybe if he's crying by noon he
• 33:10
  should consider adjusting how he treats others.
• 33:12
  There you go. I called a therapist that day
• 33:14
  right after I made him cry and made myself an appointment.
• 33:17
  Vengeance was sweet, but I didn't want to have to act like
• 33:19
  him to make him see reason. All in all, I don't regret it.
• 33:23
  He got a tape case of his own medicine and couldn't take it.
• 33:25
  He realized if he cried over receiving the same treatment as
• 33:28
  me, maybe I wasn't crazy. And it was actually pretty
• 33:31
  terrible. I know it all sounds pretty
• 33:33
  benign and stuff, but adding together those little things
• 33:36
  became a very big thing that I've been dealing with daily
• 33:38
  since childhood. Returning the energy was
• 33:41
  satisfying as a one time thing. Wow.
• 33:45
  I know. I mean, it's the fact that he
• 33:47
  cried for me. Yeah.
• 33:49
  Like, OK, for just a couple of hours of the treatment that you
• 33:53
  give and he, it's like he didn't even recognize it.
• 33:55
  Like she had to even tell him. Like he was probably sitting
• 33:58
  there like she's tripping. She's tripping.
• 33:59
  It's like you don't recognize your own behavior, things that
• 34:02
  you do on a daily. I feel like you should know.
• 34:04
  I am shocked, I know. But the fact, why is he like
• 34:08
  that? Like why are you in the kitchen
• 34:10
  with me? Why?
• 34:10
  Are you meddling and doing all this stuff like almost made me
• 34:14
  have a grease fire because you meddle with my heat?
• 34:16
  Don't touch my nozzles. If I'm cooking, no.
• 34:19
  It's on site. It's on site.
• 34:20
  And then to be like, be care, be more careful.
• 34:23
  Be more careful. Like it's my fault.
• 34:24
  Excuse me? Yeah.
• 34:26
  And I actually love that she did that.
• 34:29
  But I also love that she was self aware enough to be like,
• 34:32
  this was fun for once, but let me do the work.
• 34:36
  So I don't exactly. Because to to immediately go
• 34:41
  there and be like, I'm going to do every little thing that he
• 34:43
  does to me. Yeah, She woke up that morning.
• 34:46
  She said, you know what, I'm done.
• 34:49
  Yeah, this is happening. You've pushed me.
• 34:52
  And you would think that she would have had to do it for a
• 34:54
  few days. She did it one hour and he's
• 34:57
  crying. He's crying and he's never
• 34:59
  cried. But for a pet dying, Oh, he
• 35:02
  needs to toughen up. I know because if you can dish
• 35:05
  it. OK, heavy on that part.
• 35:08
  Heavy on that part. Wow, I know that's fun, right?
• 35:14
  OK, so mine is an update. Oh yes.
• 35:17
  So would I be the asshole for suing my friend when she didn't
• 35:20
  come to my wedding? I remember this.
• 35:22
  Yes, and so if you had don't know what I'm talking about,
• 35:25
  click the card right now. You can go watch it.
• 35:28
  But as a quick recap, this woman was having a destination wedding
• 35:33
  in Bali, Indonesia. She paid for her friends, both
• 35:36
  their flight and their hotel to go there to Bali to attend her
• 35:40
  wedding, and one of her close friends decided she was going to
• 35:44
  bring her husband with her. So she paid for her own
• 35:46
  husband's ticket. But when they got there, they
• 35:48
  didn't go to the wedding. They skipped it all together
• 35:51
  because they decided since they didn't have a honeymoon, they
• 35:54
  wanted to have one. Now that's the most amount of
• 35:58
  nerve I've ever seen from anyone ever.
• 36:00
  The audacity. Whoa, you took my money and had
• 36:03
  a honeymoon on my dime? OK, so that's your setup.
• 36:08
  All right, So I messaged Gemma, her friend per multiple
• 36:11
  comments, advising me to invoice her for the plane ticket and
• 36:14
  hotel room. But I did something a little
• 36:16
  better. I wanted to get proof so if I
• 36:19
  had to go to court, it would be easier to win.
• 36:21
  I messaged her this Hey, sorry for being so distant, but I just
• 36:25
  wanted to talk to you about Bally.
• 36:27
  I'm hurt that you didn't show up to the ceremony.
• 36:29
  I pulled a lot of strings to ensure that you could come, and
• 36:32
  then you didn't show up. Did you think I paid for the
• 36:34
  trip just so you could honeymoon with John?
• 36:37
  Nice set up. Yeah, she replied.
• 36:39
  I've missed you a lot, and I know the trip was for your
• 36:42
  wedding, but John didn't want to go because he felt like your
• 36:45
  wedding ruined the illusion of the trip being our honeymoon.
• 36:48
  That and that you'd understand. Pause.
• 36:51
  It was never your honeymoon. He's like, it's our honeymoon.
• 36:54
  That also happened to be your wedding, No?
• 36:56
  You paid for our honeymoon and I didn't want to ruin the illusion
• 37:00
  of that. I paid for y'all to come to my
• 37:03
  wedding. Are you?
• 37:04
  There's something wrong with you.
• 37:06
  And just because your husband, this is your friend, John didn't
• 37:09
  want to go. She said that in the original
• 37:10
  post. Yeah.
• 37:11
  John didn't want to go. No.
• 37:12
  Also, you agree to this. So take accountability as well.
• 37:15
  Yes, Oh my goodness you ruined the illusion, I replied.
• 37:20
  No, I don't understand, you took advantage of me and that's not
• 37:23
  what real friends do. So I'm sending you an invoice
• 37:26
  for $23187.53 for the cost of the plane ticket and hotel room.
• 37:32
  I will give you 30 days and after that I will be taking
• 37:35
  legal action. Period and Amen.
• 37:37
  I received no response but she's been posting subliminal quotes
• 37:40
  on Instagram that are along the lines of entitled friends and
• 37:42
  having snakes in your life. Honestly, people who do that,
• 37:46
  the little wig posting on Instagram and stuff, it's like,
• 37:49
  Oh my. God, grow up.
• 37:51
  If you got beef with me, just call me out up.
• 37:54
  I'm for the smoke. If you've got something to say,
• 37:57
  you're in the wrong. And yet you still got something
• 37:59
  to say. Yes.
• 38:00
  All right, so that was the first update.
• 38:02
  We got another. Have another.
• 38:04
  Okay, I didn't think this could get worse, but here we are.
• 38:08
  I didn't respond to any of the subliminal messages she posted
• 38:11
  about me on social media, and I've been very quiet while I've
• 38:14
  been getting my ducks in a row for the litigation.
• 38:17
  But this past Friday she sent me a three page audit of financial
• 38:20
  and emotional contributions from 2015 to the present.
• 38:24
  I wish I was fucking joking. Are you kidding me?
• 38:27
  The audits she itemized every dinner or lunch we've ate
• 38:31
  together, she estimated $18.00 per meal.
• 38:34
  Gas money for driving to and from Hangouts.
• 38:38
  A birthday gift from 2017 that she now claims she went into
• 38:41
  debt for. Time spent emotionally
• 38:43
  supporting me after my dad passed.
• 38:48
  She is the worst friend ever. Ever.
• 38:51
  She said she took on the role of grief counselor for me even
• 38:53
  though I talked to her on the phone about it once for 30
• 38:56
  minutes. You're kidding.
• 38:58
  One time she helped me move apartments.
• 39:01
  She wants to be paid for her labor.
• 39:03
  Seriously. And emotional distress caused me
• 39:06
  caused by me threatening litigation.
• 39:09
  This chick is something else. She's something her grand total
• 39:14
  $2412.09, which is conveniently within $25.00 of what I invoiced
• 39:19
  her for. She then told me if that were
• 39:22
  really keeping score that I actually owe her $24.56.
• 39:28
  That's whoa, this is whoa, whoa, let's break this down real quick
• 39:34
  because. She put in the effort for this,
• 39:36
  yes. She tallied up everything.
• 39:38
  Yeah. She pulled up her calendar and
• 39:40
  was like, we went to lunch this day.
• 39:41
  We went to lunch this day, 2015, yes.
• 39:44
  So 10 years worth of them, their friendship and every little
• 39:47
  thing that she did. That's insane.
• 39:50
  Yes. That's not mentally.
• 39:52
  Stable behavior right there. No.
• 39:54
  And I'd want to know what part John had it in this, because
• 39:56
  yeah, it's just feeling, feeling in interesting, I think.
• 40:00
  I stared at the document for 10 minutes in silence and shock
• 40:03
  from the audacity because this bitch is delusional.
• 40:06
  Okay, to clarify, I never asked her to cook for me while I was
• 40:12
  in college. She did pay for lunches but
• 40:15
  when? I definitely returned the favor
• 40:16
  big time once I graduated. I bought her many gifts over the
• 40:20
  years. I've let her stay at my house
• 40:21
  several times when she and John argued.
• 40:24
  That little Dick and I have also lended a shoulder for her to cry
• 40:28
  on when she had difficult times in the life.
• 40:30
  But apparently being a friend is now billable.
• 40:32
  OK, I decided to give the message a thumbs down because if
• 40:35
  I respond I will be extremely disrespectful with the anger I'm
• 40:38
  feeling. I cannot wait for these 30 days
• 40:40
  to be over because I will be suing the fuck out of her.
• 40:43
  Absolutely suing. We are going to take legal
• 40:46
  action. Why did I immediately start
• 40:49
  being like OK, let me make my billable friendship things now
• 40:55
  I'm going all the way back to 2015 including the wedding.
• 40:58
  My total is going to be bigger than your Twitter.
• 41:00
  So. Regardless, yes, she should do
• 41:02
  so. She's prepared.
• 41:03
  Just in case the off chance that the judge lets in her stuff and
• 41:07
  be like, oh, OK, we're letting that in.
• 41:08
  Well, here's all of mine and I'm still $2500.
• 41:11
  That part, yes, yeah, that would be my advice.
• 41:14
  Absolutely start. Tallying it up Emotional labor,
• 41:17
  building your. Friend for moving to form an
• 41:20
  LLC. Because I am not going to pay
• 41:23
  you for something that you offered.
• 41:27
  It's such. It's the audacity for me, for
• 41:29
  her being like, OK, yes, I used you for a free trip to Bali
• 41:34
  because all we did was pay for my husband to go right?
• 41:36
  And then I'm like, Oh well, in exchange for that, look at all
• 41:40
  this emotional labor that I I did for you and you owe me for
• 41:43
  that now. Like it was 1 sided exactly like
• 41:45
  the delulu of this. It's insane is insane.
• 41:50
  There's something seriously wrong with her and John back
• 41:52
  there just pulling the strings, you know, he.
• 41:55
  Is I don't like him, I don't like this.
• 41:57
  This smells weird. Take it to court, you know,
• 42:01
  total everything up just so you're prepared because this
• 42:04
  smells wrong. And then come back with another
• 42:06
  update because I'll be looking. Yeah, No, we need another.
• 42:09
  That's a great update. Great update.
• 42:12
  That's insane. The nerve Reddit.
• 42:16
  Today I effed up. Sorry but I love them.
• 42:18
  You love this one. I love them by nailing my first
• 42:21
  professional interview but instantly ruining it when the
• 42:24
  hiring manager asked about salary.
• 42:27
  For some context, I am a. Recent grad who just.
• 42:29
  Started applying for jobs. I managed to land my very first
• 42:33
  interview invite for an accounting role and I was
• 42:35
  absolutely terrified. I was so scared of the technical
• 42:38
  rounds and those annoying behavioral tell me about a time
• 42:41
  questions. Same.
• 42:43
  I wanted this job so badly so I spent the entire night locked in
• 42:46
  my room. I researched the hell out of the
• 42:48
  company's business model. I used an AI mock interview tool
• 42:51
  and found online to practice my star method answers over and
• 42:55
  over and over again. And so I stopped stuttering and
• 42:57
  sounding like a nervous wreck. Fast forward to today, the
• 43:00
  interview actually goes Florida State.
• 43:02
  The 1st 40 minutes are a total breeze.
• 43:05
  They hit me with the technical questions and I'm completely
• 43:07
  chill. I nailed the behavioral
• 43:09
  questions perfectly. The senior accounting manager
• 43:12
  interviewed me, is literally nodding, smiling, and seems
• 43:15
  genuinely impressed. I'm eternally screaming with joy
• 43:17
  thinking holy crap I'm actually going to get this job.
• 43:20
  Then comes the very end of the Zoom call.
• 43:23
  The vibe is great. He leans back, smiles warmly,
• 43:25
  and asks the final question. So the starting salary for this
• 43:29
  position is round 55K. Does that align with your
• 43:32
  expectations? And guess what?
• 43:34
  My brain just completely short circuited.
• 43:36
  Oh no, I have never negotiated a professional salary in my life.
• 43:40
  I haven't even had a real adult job yet.
• 43:42
  The adrenaline drops, sheer panic sets in and instead of a
• 43:45
  using a normal functioning adult response like yes that sounds
• 43:49
  reasonable or literally anything else, I look the senior manager
• 43:52
  dead in the eyes through the webcam and say I think so, but I
• 43:57
  would need to go and ask my mom first.
• 43:58
  I'll let her decide it for me, just.
• 44:02
  For a moment, just for a moment, wait.
• 44:04
  Just for a moment, let me go ask my mom first.
• 44:12
  Oh, I'm hiring a child. I forgot.
• 44:14
  OK, Kevin. Kevin.
• 44:20
  Kevin or besties. Besties.
• 44:22
  I need to go ask my mom first. I would kick your ass if you
• 44:27
  fucked up an interview like that to come ask me about salary and
• 44:31
  I thought a girl. I'll pause the meeting and.
• 44:34
  Be like, let me ask my mom real quick, don't go anywhere.
• 44:36
  Oh my God. I swear, this poor kid, these
• 44:41
  kids don't know what's going on, don't know anything.
• 44:43
  And he was. So stressed out that he like
• 44:45
  studied way beforehand over studies, but the one question
• 44:49
  that he didn't study for short circuit I got to go ask my.
• 44:53
  Mom bless you, honey. Aw, man.
• 44:57
  So the silence that. Followed was deafening.
• 44:59
  It felt like an eternity. His smile instantly vanished
• 45:02
  into a look of pure confusion and pity.
• 45:05
  He literally blinked twice, picked up his pen, wrote
• 45:07
  something down and said OK we will get in touch and zoom call
• 45:12
  ended exactly 30 seconds later. I'm currently hiding under my
• 45:15
  blankets questioning my entire existence.
• 45:18
  The preparation helped me beat the technicals, but clearly
• 45:21
  there is no amount of practice in the world that can cure my
• 45:23
  sheer stupidity when it comes to be put on the spot.
• 45:26
  Is there any chance that? They think I was joking.
• 45:28
  Or being quirky, will I get the position or am I completely
• 45:31
  cooked? Honey, you're cooked.
• 45:33
  You're cooked because. The reaction because what I was
• 45:37
  going to say was, hey, oh, that was a joke.
• 45:40
  Like laughing, like just giggle a little bit and they'd be like,
• 45:42
  oh, that was that was a joke. And then you could play silence
• 45:45
  and you're just staring at the street and the manager's like.
• 45:51
  Whoa. Well then.
• 45:52
  You need to go ask your mom. Let me go find.
• 45:54
  An adult for this job. Oh, that's the last thing you
• 45:58
  need. Poor thing.
• 45:59
  I know I feel really bad for this, really bad, but also.
• 46:02
  Your mom. Come on, honey, like probably
• 46:07
  has never. Gone to the doctor by themselves
• 46:08
  either. Oh no.
• 46:10
  See all these things that are? Just really disturbing because
• 46:13
  people in my generation, I don't know, like if they grew up the
• 46:17
  entire time with phones and with access to things and just never
• 46:20
  having to do things for themselves on top of parents who
• 46:23
  a lot of them are millennials are just like, I'll do
• 46:25
  everything for you. It's problematic.
• 46:28
  And it leads up to these kids. Not being able to do things
• 46:31
  individual, you know, like you and my dad, you guys forced us
• 46:36
  to go like if it was just like let's go pick up dinner or
• 46:38
  something, you guys wouldn't go pick up dinner.
• 46:40
  You'd send us to go pick up dinner.
• 46:42
  So we would have to tip the people we'd have to ask for we
• 46:44
  want, we had to remember the code, what name, yada, yada,
• 46:47
  yada. Like normal things in life.
• 46:50
  You guys started doing that really young, but it doesn't
• 46:52
  seem like this new generation, or at least my generation, did
• 46:56
  the same thing. And it's just disturbing because
• 46:58
  it's like you guys aren't prepared.
• 47:00
  You're being thrown out into the world, not knowing how to do
• 47:02
  anything. And I feel really bad for.
• 47:05
  Them, but I can't blame them fully No, because who taught
• 47:08
  you? If you were never taught and you
• 47:10
  never had to do that, then how would you know?
• 47:12
  And you go through your parents for everything, which I don't
• 47:15
  hate like depend like hey mom later, right?
• 47:21
  Is 55K good for this type of job?
• 47:23
  And then she could have told you your entry level is your first
• 47:25
  big person job. Yes, you're doing great sweetie,
• 47:28
  you know but no, you're like, I have to ask my mom to your mom.
• 47:34
  If I thought that in my head, you'd.
• 47:36
  Have to stab me to get that information.
• 47:38
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. Water board me.
• 47:39
  Yeah, I'm not going. To say that in an interview,
• 47:42
  this poor person. Oh my goodness.
• 47:44
  So this person, Kevin, all of them.
• 47:47
  Bless y'all. Yeah, keep writing into Reddit
• 47:50
  because I love. It I love it.
• 47:53
  Am I the asshole for ignoring our friend on our trip to
• 47:56
  Mexico? Oh, uh oh.
• 48:00
  So last year around this time. My friends and I planned a trip
• 48:03
  to Cancun to a resort and spa. We all wanted to drink, eat,
• 48:07
  dance and relax on the kid on the beach with no kids.
• 48:11
  Amen. 21 little kids. I'm the only one without kids so
• 48:17
  I was really looking forward to spending time with just my
• 48:19
  friends to unwind. Every other trip before this was
• 48:22
  planned with the kids, but this time there will be no early
• 48:25
  bedtimes, no crying, no screaming, no sand in our drinks
• 48:29
  because the kids thinks it's funny to throw sand.
• 48:31
  Excuse me, I guess one week before the trip one of the
• 48:36
  friends said she's bringing her 10 year old.
• 48:39
  This woman can never tell her kid no.
• 48:41
  We had all warned her beforehand that if this happens we aren't
• 48:45
  going to change anything. To say I was annoyed was an
• 48:48
  understatement, but I sucked it up.
• 48:50
  I still had two friends. We were going child free and had
• 48:52
  no intention of changing any plans.
• 48:54
  My two other friends and I drank.
• 48:56
  We ate amazing food, we danced all night and spent the days at
• 48:59
  the beach. The friend with the kid
• 49:01
  expressed her frustration about the rest of us doing what we
• 49:04
  wanted while she couldn't. Excuse me?
• 49:07
  Seems like it's your problem, yeah?
• 49:08
  My response was pretty much well that sucks, but we're not going
• 49:12
  to. Change the entire point of this
• 49:13
  trip just because of your inability to tell your kid no,
• 49:16
  period. We invited her to do what we
• 49:19
  were doing multiple times, but her response was always I can't.
• 49:22
  My kid wants to do this thing. Yeah, so there was definitely
• 49:27
  tension between the three of us and her the entire trip.
• 49:30
  When we were making our long way back home, all three of us got a
• 49:33
  nasty message from her fiance calling us bad friends and how
• 49:37
  dare we not revolve our entire trip around her and their kid
• 49:40
  that she had a terrible time and that it was our fault.
• 49:44
  No, it's the kids fault. Your fault.
• 49:46
  It's your fault that you brought the kid.
• 49:48
  This was a single trip, me and the girls.
• 49:53
  You decided to ruin it for yourself by bringing your child.
• 49:55
  That is not my problem. I was like, pardon.
• 49:59
  Three question marks. That was pretty much the last
• 50:04
  straw for me. Now I never tell my friends how
• 50:06
  to parent their children, but their daughter is so nasty.
• 50:09
  She is spoiled and like I stated earlier, has never been told no.
• 50:13
  So you can understand how entitled this kid is.
• 50:16
  My other friends have a lot more reasonable children.
• 50:19
  Their children are polite, have a general understanding about
• 50:22
  boundaries, and they behave really well for 8 to 10 year
• 50:24
  olds. My text back to him was pretty
• 50:26
  much we made these plans a year in advance, expecting us to be
• 50:30
  fine with the fact that you guys dropped it on us that your child
• 50:33
  was coming one week before we were leaving, and then expecting
• 50:36
  us to change everything and cancel all of our plans because
• 50:38
  you guys can't tell your kid no is not fair to us at all.
• 50:42
  That's a you problem, not ours. Period.
• 50:45
  I'd understand if. Something came up.
• 50:47
  And she had no choice but to bring her kid.
• 50:49
  Shit happens, people cancel, but that was not the case.
• 50:52
  Her fiance was home the entire time.
• 50:55
  Kidding. So the fiance wanted time alone.
• 50:57
  That's what this is about. And her grandmother was looking
• 51:00
  forward. To watching her granddaughter
• 51:02
  but her kid freaked out about not being allowed to go on the
• 51:05
  trip and they couldn't tell her no.
• 51:07
  My God. Now her fiance and her.
• 51:11
  Are super pissed. Were we in the wrong here?
• 51:13
  No. No, no, no, no, no.
• 51:15
  No, no, I enjoyed my trip. I loved my trip.
• 51:19
  Too bad. But to bring your kid and ruin.
• 51:22
  Everything that we said that we were going to do and then be mad
• 51:25
  because we already, we warned you, OK, if you're going to
• 51:27
  bring your kid, we're still going to do the stuff we had
• 51:30
  planned. And she's just like, well, my
• 51:33
  kid wants to go here. We'll go.
• 51:34
  We'll go with your kid. I'm going to have a Margarita on
• 51:37
  the beach. Yeah.
• 51:38
  A fan free Margarita. OK, I don't have my.
• 51:41
  Name on the birth certificate. I'm not married to you.
• 51:44
  I have no obligations to this child.
• 51:46
  No. So have fun.
• 51:49
  Go do your thing. Bye but to.
• 51:51
  Be like then to like complain to your fiance and they're texting
• 51:55
  me and my God, the audacity. I'm sure the fiance had fun at
• 51:59
  home alone by himself Yeah because he wasn't going to watch
• 52:02
  the kid no way it was going to grandparents exactly yeah Oh
• 52:05
  God. So we should be dissecting that
• 52:07
  problem. That's the issue here, yes, the
• 52:09
  fact that your. I don't know.
• 52:12
  Free time is being affected because your fiance is not
• 52:15
  capable of taking care of your. Your child can't say no.
• 52:17
  That's another because you were supposed to go hang out with
• 52:20
  your grandmother, but when you found out I was going somewhere
• 52:22
  alone, you freaked out. Exactly.
• 52:24
  And then they let this child freak out and brought her yes,
• 52:27
  no no. No, that's a snowball thing.
• 52:30
  This child can apparently only rely on the mom.
• 52:33
  No, no, don't suffocate me. No, read it off my chest.
• 52:43
  Just a warning. I'm so sorry, my partner of 10
• 52:46
  plus years admitted he never loved me and was waiting out my
• 52:49
  fertile years. What?
• 52:52
  Oh, wait, yeah. Do I need my fan?
• 52:55
  Do I need your? Fan I going to.
• 52:56
  Overheat. Yes.
• 52:57
  That's why I said I'm sorry. OK, I'm already getting
• 52:59
  stressed. All right, all right.
• 53:01
  I'm 30. Six female, I met my now ex
• 53:04
  fiance in grad school in our mid 20s but we grew up together in a
• 53:07
  lot of ways. First time sharing an apartment
• 53:10
  with someone, first adult jobs, moving cities and getting
• 53:13
  engaged. He has a PhD in psychology which
• 53:16
  I used to think made him more in tune with emotions and I was so
• 53:19
  proud to be with someone like that.
• 53:21
  Now I feel sick that realizing how much he used it to his
• 53:24
  advance. That's what I'm saying.
• 53:25
  He weaponized that shit. Oh, I.
• 53:26
  Knew it OK so excited. I wanted kids and was open.
• 53:33
  About it from the beginning, he said he did too, but not yet.
• 53:36
  It was always some excuse. We're too busy with our
• 53:39
  dissertations. We just started new jobs.
• 53:41
  We should wait until we're more financially stable.
• 53:44
  Maybe if I got this promotion, maybe after we buy a house.
• 53:47
  There was, I thought, a valid reason to push it six months a
• 53:50
  year, which then became 2 years. I turned 36 not long ago.
• 53:54
  Oh my God, I know we. Were planning on going.
• 53:57
  Out for my birthday and got into a dumb arguing about where to
• 54:00
  eat. It was really stupid but we kept
• 54:02
  going back and forth for 5:00-ish minutes.
• 54:04
  Finally I said it's my birthday can we please just go where I
• 54:07
  want. Out of nowhere his face and tone
• 54:10
  went cold and he said I can't stand you anymore.
• 54:14
  I actively laughed because how dramatic and random it was.
• 54:17
  Then he said very calmly that he doesn't love me and that he
• 54:20
  doesn't even like me and never has I'm.
• 54:27
  I'm like, I don't understand. I'm just serious.
• 54:28
  Stuttering and shit. Literally.
• 54:29
  I don't understand. Why are you still with her
• 54:32
  exactly? Wait for it.
• 54:34
  I honestly thought he was only trying to hurt me in the moment
• 54:37
  in some sick way, but he kept going.
• 54:39
  He said he stayed with me because it was convenient, that
• 54:42
  he knew how badly I wanted kids, and that if he dragged things
• 54:45
  out for long enough I wouldn't have them with someone else.
• 54:49
  He would. He was.
• 54:51
  Talking about it almost like I was, it was some case study to
• 54:53
  him. He said he didn't want kids but
• 54:56
  he also didn't want me to have him with someone else.
• 54:58
  So he waited it out, I feel. I feel physically.
• 55:03
  Sick typing this out. 10 years of my life wasted becoming part
• 55:07
  of his family. I'm just.
• 55:11
  Waiting and engagement. Talking about.
• 55:14
  Baby names and then for him to say this whole time he was just
• 55:17
  trying to run out my fertility. I will allow you to speak before
• 55:20
  I go forward. Why?
• 55:23
  So you hated her period, but you didn't want anybody else to have
• 55:27
  her. Like let her go so she can have.
• 55:31
  This thing. So you really hate this woman?
• 55:34
  What a Dick. I know, I know.
• 55:38
  It gets worse though. No it doesn't.
• 55:39
  No. How does it get worse?
• 55:42
  Perhaps the worst. Part looking back I can see all
• 55:45
  this time the mind games and the red flags now.
• 55:48
  He'd tell me I was overacting whenever I was upset.
• 55:50
  He'd say I was projecting because of my own family issues
• 55:53
  or was my anxiety talking when he did.
• 55:55
  When I dared to question why we weren't moving forward, he
• 55:57
  always just made himself out to be some rational expert and made
• 56:00
  me constantly doubt my instincts.
• 56:02
  I got the hell out and moved into a new place two weeks
• 56:05
  later. Wow, I didn't tell many people
• 56:07
  to. Address at all.
• 56:08
  But since then I've been sent weird letters with no return
• 56:11
  address a couple of times. Not exactly threatening, just
• 56:14
  unsettling. One said quote.
• 56:16
  I hope you're reflecting. Another had a pair of baby socks
• 56:19
  in it. No motherfucker, no, no, no
• 56:23
  note. Just the socks.
• 56:26
  He's a terrorist, Invisible Man. He is a yes Invisible Man.
• 56:31
  He's a terrorist, Yes, this is evil.
• 56:35
  I've also gotten random. Gifts, a book about emotional
• 56:38
  resilience, and a black candle that smells like the one we had.
• 56:41
  Again, no sender. It's probably him.
• 56:44
  It sure feels like it. It's him.
• 56:45
  It's him. Maybe it's him wanting to feel
• 56:48
  like. He still has some kind of
• 56:49
  psychological hold over me. I feel not only heartbroken but
• 56:52
  also so violated, as if my reality for a decade wasn't
• 56:56
  real. Like my body and my mind were
• 56:58
  used in some experiments. I'm scared too not.
• 57:01
  In the immediate. Physical danger kind of way.
• 57:04
  At least I don't think so, but in a wondering what he's capable
• 57:07
  of kind of way. If he could casually admit that
• 57:10
  he stay with me to sabotage me becoming a mom, what else can he
• 57:13
  possibly justify? I keep replaying my past
• 57:16
  birthdays in my head all the times I said maybe next year we
• 57:19
  would start trying. I feel grief for the kids that
• 57:21
  don't even and may never exist because I don't think I can
• 57:24
  trust or get closer to anyone ever again.
• 57:27
  I don't even know why I'm posting this.
• 57:29
  Maybe to feel less crazy, or to remind myself that none of this
• 57:32
  is even close to normal. If anyone has been through an
• 57:35
  ordeal with someone who weaponized language or
• 57:37
  psychological tactics against you, I really like to hear how
• 57:40
  you got your sense of reality back.
• 57:41
  Right now I feel like I can't even count on my own mind
• 57:44
  anymore. See, that one was crazy.
• 57:48
  It like I'm not even. Like super mad anymore because I
• 57:52
  feel more bad for her because of what he took from her exactly
• 57:55
  like he took something that she really wanted and in that time
• 57:59
  like he did psyops on her if you guys are familiar with like
• 58:02
  military terms like he really got in her brain and messed
• 58:07
  everything up and then drug her along for so long that she
• 58:11
  probably it's more difficult to have children.
• 58:14
  He was waiting out her fertile. Fertile years and so for her to
• 58:17
  find. Somebody else and be able to,
• 58:19
  you know, get to the point where she wants to have forever and to
• 58:23
  want to do it after an experience like that.
• 58:25
  Exactly. He terrorized her on purpose.
• 58:29
  I wouldn't be surprised if he wrote a.
• 58:30
  Paper about it and tried to get it published like can we can we
• 58:35
  figure out what his deal is? Can we see his Diaries or
• 58:38
  whatever? Like honestly, there's something
• 58:40
  wrong with him. Thank you.
• 58:41
  There's something wrong with him because he's like, I don't even
• 58:44
  like you, but I don't want you having kids with anyone else.
• 58:47
  So I'm a wait it out but what? So why?
• 58:49
  Why can't? She you don't even like her.
• 58:51
  Exactly. Why can't she go and have
• 58:53
  children with somebody who, First of all, why can't she be
• 58:55
  happy? You want her to Because of the
• 58:57
  fact that he is the one preventing her from being happy
• 59:00
  is the thing that's getting him off.
• 59:01
  That's what I'm saying, he is a psycho.
• 59:03
  I don't know if. That's the correct term, a
• 59:05
  psychopath. But he if he murdered people on
• 59:08
  the side, I wouldn't be surprised.
• 59:09
  You know, because this is the same type of mentality.
• 59:12
  Yes. Wow, it is disturbing.
• 59:15
  How? Long.
• 59:16
  He held this on years. Disturbing 30.
• 59:19
  Six and then was just like you know I can't take this anymore.
• 59:22
  I don't even like you. I don't even like you that's
• 59:25
  insane. My only.
• 59:27
  Thing for her is that OK? You don't trust anyone that's.
• 59:31
  Fine. Continue to not trust anyone.
• 59:32
  I think that'll preserve your being Do it alone.
• 59:37
  If you really want kids, you're strong enough to do it.
• 59:39
  And girl, I know you're strong enough to do it alone.
• 59:42
  You can be an early parent for sure.
• 59:44
  You can, yeah. So do the IVF, like all of it.
• 59:47
  Like if you really, really want kids, which I know you do.
• 59:50
  My mind is blowing, I know. That's insane.
• 59:54
  That really broke my brain. I can't believe that he did that
• 59:56
  on purpose and to play that long of a game.
• 59:59
  I know that. Like, did he have somebody?
• 1:00:01
  On the side like. Did he have a girlfriend you
• 1:00:04
  know, he actually loved? Like, how do you do this?
• 1:00:06
  Because you're ruining your own life because you're with
• 1:00:08
  somebody that you don't even like.
• 1:00:11
  I am so confused. Yeah.
• 1:00:13
  Like what is the possible? Benefit of doing this to her,
• 1:00:16
  you know, insane. So I want an update on that one
• 1:00:20
  really absolutely for her. Like are you?
• 1:00:23
  OK, yeah, but she's getting like.
• 1:00:25
  Threatened in the mail. Totally forgot about that.
• 1:00:28
  The baby socks. The baby socks?
• 1:00:31
  Yeah. Where does he live?
• 1:00:32
  You need to send. Somebody like, do you have an
• 1:00:33
  uncle? Like a big uncle, you know, you
• 1:00:36
  know, just send. Them over his way.
• 1:00:37
  Like, if not, I know someone I could send them for you.
• 1:00:39
  That's right. That's right.
• 1:00:40
  Lord Yikes. I know.
• 1:00:43
  Jeez. Yeah.
• 1:00:44
  I mean. I know so like, upset.
• 1:00:48
  About that. OK, am I the asshole for calling
• 1:00:52
  out my aunt after finding out she lied about having cancer?
• 1:00:56
  See. Really.
• 1:00:59
  People own some. Shit, yeah, today.
• 1:01:01
  Oh my God. My aunt Kathy has a long history
• 1:01:04
  of health problems, but she also has a pattern of exaggerating
• 1:01:07
  them and blowing things way out of proportion.
• 1:01:10
  This has been going on for years.
• 1:01:12
  She frequently gets my grandparents worked up and
• 1:01:14
  stressed when they already have their own issues to deal with.
• 1:01:17
  She's on disability and can't drive because of a seizure
• 1:01:20
  disorder, so my grandpa often takes time off work to drive her
• 1:01:23
  to medical appointments. The problem is she'll guilt him
• 1:01:26
  into taking time off work and then either be still asleep when
• 1:01:29
  he arrives or tell him she cancelled the appointment
• 1:01:32
  because she just didn't feel well.
• 1:01:33
  Oh my God. Many of these are specialist
• 1:01:37
  appointments that took months to schedule.
• 1:01:39
  Seriously. Yeah.
• 1:01:41
  A few months ago, she. Called everyone in the family
• 1:01:43
  and told us that she had cancer and only had a few months to
• 1:01:46
  live. We were devastated.
• 1:01:48
  She asked for help making Funeral arrangements and spent
• 1:01:51
  hours on the phone with family discussing what kind of casket
• 1:01:54
  and headstone she wanted. Girl.
• 1:01:57
  So later I was talking to my grandpa and found out that he
• 1:02:00
  hadn't taken her to any cancer appointments because a friend
• 1:02:03
  had been driving her giving her history.
• 1:02:05
  I was suspicious. When I asked her what kind of
• 1:02:08
  cancer it was, she just said blood cancer.
• 1:02:11
  When I asked for more details, she said she didn't want to talk
• 1:02:13
  about it. Not long after that she had a
• 1:02:15
  severe seizure and was hospitalized.
• 1:02:18
  I went with my grandpa to visit her while she was heavily
• 1:02:21
  medicated. The doctor came in, my grandpa
• 1:02:23
  asked her, asked if her seizures were getting worse because of
• 1:02:26
  her cancer treatments, and the doctor responded.
• 1:02:29
  What cancer period? He checked her chart and.
• 1:02:33
  Said the only blood related issue he saw was iron deficiency
• 1:02:36
  anemia. Throw the sit down.
• 1:02:39
  Like doing too much. My grandpa didn't press the.
• 1:02:43
  Issue. After the doctor left I was
• 1:02:45
  furious. My grandpa told me to keep quiet
• 1:02:47
  and suggested maybe she misunderstood something.
• 1:02:50
  How do you misunderstand making Funeral arrangements and getting
• 1:02:53
  headstones and stuff? No, not intentional.
• 1:02:55
  He asked me not to bring it up. I.
• 1:02:58
  Decided to keep what we learned to myself to avoid upsetting my
• 1:03:00
  grandpa, but I started ignoring her calls because I knew I
• 1:03:04
  wouldn't be able to stay quiet if she brought up her cancer
• 1:03:06
  again. Recently she sent me a long text
• 1:03:09
  saying that she was hurt that I'd been ignoring her, and that
• 1:03:12
  I hadn't visited her in the hospital.
• 1:03:14
  She didn't Remember Me being there because she was meddling.
• 1:03:16
  Really heavily medicated. She also said she quote doesn't
• 1:03:20
  have much time left on this earth.
• 1:03:22
  Oh so you just go milk this huh? You milking this?
• 1:03:27
  I finally snapped. I told her what the doctor said
• 1:03:30
  at the hospital and that there was no record of cancer.
• 1:03:33
  I told her I needed space and that she needed mental health
• 1:03:36
  help for putting the whole family through months of stress
• 1:03:38
  and grief. I called my grandpa and he is
• 1:03:41
  furious with me for adding to her stress.
• 1:03:43
  Now I wonder now I wonder if I went too far.
• 1:03:47
  Does she have real physical and mental health issues and am I
• 1:03:50
  the asshole for calling her out? You're not.
• 1:03:54
  Yes, both. Yes and yes.
• 1:03:56
  They can both be true at the same time.
• 1:03:58
  I No, not at all. I'm thinking like she is getting
• 1:04:03
  older and people are going on with their lives without her.
• 1:04:07
  She's feeling lonely. She's feeling like people aren't
• 1:04:09
  paying enough attention to her. There was a couple things in
• 1:04:12
  there that that noted to that. She's like spent hours on the
• 1:04:16
  phone with them planning the trip.
• 1:04:18
  It was just about being on the phone with the family, people
• 1:04:22
  giving her attention again, all over again.
• 1:04:24
  She being the center of it. Exactly.
• 1:04:26
  That's what she. Wanted.
• 1:04:26
  I don't really think it's about being twisted.
• 1:04:28
  Interesting things. I don't think there's something
• 1:04:30
  wrong with her. I just think that she needed the
• 1:04:31
  attention the fact that she did this and went so extreme, that's
• 1:04:35
  where it becomes wrong. Absolutely.
• 1:04:36
  Why not just speak to people and be like, hey, till we set a
• 1:04:40
  Sunday where we go when we speak on the Zoom or whatever.
• 1:04:43
  Like I said the zoom like I was old.
• 1:04:45
  I said the zoom, speak on the zoom speak on the zoom.
• 1:04:51
  She's actually. 75, she looks great for her age, speak on the
• 1:05:03
  Zoom, the Zoom every Sunday. But no, she said, I have cancer.
• 1:05:08
  I mean, and went even further. Funeral arrangements, picking
• 1:05:11
  headstones, all of that. I don't even know She knew how
• 1:05:14
  to get herself out of it, but she still loved the attention.
• 1:05:16
  Regardless. So she didn't say anything.
• 1:05:18
  True. Very true.
• 1:05:19
  Now, Grandpa, you know you're wrong.
• 1:05:21
  You know who your daughter is. Come on.
• 1:05:24
  You know you're wrong. Yes, that's just for adding to
• 1:05:27
  her stress. Yeah, she added to my stress.
• 1:05:30
  My auntie was dying. Thank you.
• 1:05:32
  Thank you. All y'all wrong and all y'all
• 1:05:36
  need just to sit down and have a conversation.
• 1:05:38
  Jeez people don't talk enough. Literally.
• 1:05:44
  It's I feel people Oh my God at a Reddit off my chest.
• 1:05:49
  I secretly paid off my brother's debt and now he thinks he's a
• 1:05:52
  financial genius. OK.
• 1:05:56
  Three years ago, my younger brother. 28, male, was drowning
• 1:05:59
  in credit card debt, like $47,000 deep.
• 1:06:03
  He'd always been terrible with money, buying stuff he couldn't
• 1:06:05
  afford, eating out constantly, you know the type.
• 1:06:08
  Our parents kept bailing him out and it was causing huge fights
• 1:06:11
  at family dinners. I, 34, male, had recently gotten
• 1:06:15
  the decent bonus at work and honestly, I was tired of
• 1:06:18
  watching him struggle and listening to my mom cry about
• 1:06:20
  it. So I did something stupid.
• 1:06:22
  I paid off his entire debt. It took me about six months to
• 1:06:25
  do it in chunks so it wouldn't look suspicious.
• 1:06:27
  I made it look like the credit card company had a debt
• 1:06:30
  forgiveness program he qualified for.
• 1:06:32
  Wow. Here's where it gets weird.
• 1:06:35
  He thinks he did it. He's convinced that his
• 1:06:38
  budgeting system and financial discipline got him out of debt.
• 1:06:41
  Baby, you know you know that's not.
• 1:06:43
  Right, Like quit playing games. Like, you know, you didn't
• 1:06:46
  happen. You know, he's been giving
• 1:06:50
  financial advice. To our cousins.
• 1:06:52
  He wrote a whole blog post about that.
• 1:06:55
  Don't do that now you talking like OK, it's the divorcee.
• 1:06:58
  Giving you marriage. And he's like, calm down, you
• 1:07:01
  going too far. He wrote a whole blog post about
• 1:07:05
  his. Journey.
• 1:07:06
  And he's literally tried to charge her sister $200 for
• 1:07:09
  financial constellations. What?
• 1:07:12
  Yes, I know. Last week he told her parents
• 1:07:15
  he's writing a book about personal finance.
• 1:07:18
  My mom is so proud she cried. My dad kept telling everyone his
• 1:07:21
  son is a self-made success story.
• 1:07:23
  They are just desperate for some good news for.
• 1:07:25
  This boy, you know it. He's been growing up his whole
• 1:07:29
  life. They are desperate.
• 1:07:32
  Whole life, you know it. I want to tell him the truth.
• 1:07:37
  Because watching him act like some finance guru is driving me
• 1:07:41
  insane. But if I do, it'll destroy him.
• 1:07:43
  He'll know his entire comeback story is a lie.
• 1:07:46
  My wife says I should just let him have this and that maybe the
• 1:07:49
  confidence is actually helping him stay on track.
• 1:07:52
  But yesterday he posted on social media about how anyone
• 1:07:55
  could do it if they just had the discipline.
• 1:07:57
  And people who are actually struggling with debt are
• 1:07:59
  commenting asking for advice. He's giving them advice that
• 1:08:02
  literally doesn't apply because he didn't do what he thinks he
• 1:08:05
  did. I don't know what to do.
• 1:08:07
  Do I let him keep living his lie?
• 1:08:09
  Do I tell him and risk destroying his confidence?
• 1:08:11
  I created this mess and now I'm stuck watching it spiral.
• 1:08:14
  I would tell him and the. Reason I would tell him is,
• 1:08:20
  well, first of all, let me back up.
• 1:08:21
  All right, How are his credit cards looking now?
• 1:08:24
  Because if he's running up debt again, then that would be a
• 1:08:27
  great end for being, like, actually, exactly.
• 1:08:30
  I helped you out with this thing because it's not even about
• 1:08:33
  because this brother, it's a brother.
• 1:08:35
  Yeah. The brother is not looking for
• 1:08:37
  attention. If he was, he wouldn't have done
• 1:08:39
  it. It was quiet.
• 1:08:40
  He just wanted to help out his sibling and also help his
• 1:08:43
  parents out a little bit because they stress.
• 1:08:44
  Yes. But then to be like, you are
• 1:08:48
  this guru and you're helping people and into it quick, huh?
• 1:08:52
  Charging your your family members.
• 1:08:54
  For advice, for a consultation, that's why.
• 1:08:57
  Are you? That's why I feel like we should
• 1:08:59
  just. Tell him because I did this for
• 1:09:01
  you out of the kindness of my heart but now you can't even
• 1:09:03
  give your fake financial advice to your cousin for free for
• 1:09:07
  free. Like he needs to be checked
• 1:09:09
  exactly but he think he all that.
• 1:09:12
  But I have an update OK. The comments.
• 1:09:15
  Were intense. A lot of you told me I'm an
• 1:09:18
  idiot for doing it and honestly if I'm enabling his delusion and
• 1:09:22
  I need to tell him ASAP before he hurts more people.
• 1:09:25
  And honestly reading through all of that at 2:00 AM with my chest
• 1:09:27
  tight. You guys are right.
• 1:09:29
  I've been carrying this for three years.
• 1:09:31
  Three years of watching. Him talk about.
• 1:09:33
  Discipline and mindset at every family dinner while I sit there
• 1:09:36
  and smile like he did. A little smiling on to you.
• 1:09:40
  Do you know how hard it is not to choke on your food when your
• 1:09:42
  brother says I just decided to be great and your mom is
• 1:09:45
  naughty? She's watching a Ted talk.
• 1:09:48
  This idiot like. Just decided.
• 1:09:50
  Have you decided? One day you woke up and just
• 1:09:54
  boom. I don't want to be great.
• 1:09:57
  Please but the comments about him.
• 1:09:59
  Giving advice to actually struggling people, that's what
• 1:10:02
  got me. That's not funny anymore.
• 1:10:04
  Someone could actually make bad decisions because my brother
• 1:10:07
  told them to. Just believe in yourself when
• 1:10:09
  the real answer was your older brother is a sucker with with a
• 1:10:12
  savings account. Exactly.
• 1:10:14
  Exactly. So yeah, I'm going to tell him
• 1:10:16
  probably this weekend. I'm terrified, not going to lie.
• 1:10:19
  Again, thank you all for the reality check.
• 1:10:21
  This Internet straighter thing is pretty cool.
• 1:10:23
  I update you after it happens. Pray for me, I would love to
• 1:10:26
  hear about it. Yes, I will let you know if he
• 1:10:28
  has another update I'm. Praying for you bro.
• 1:10:30
  Do it, Oh my God, because his brother is going to have his
• 1:10:32
  little. Feelings hurt, like I'm sorry.
• 1:10:34
  His brother's floating high right now.
• 1:10:35
  This is his one win and he is riding high on it.
• 1:10:40
  Three years later, he's like genius.
• 1:10:42
  Yep, I just decided to be great. That's.
• 1:10:44
  Crazy. That's hilarious.
• 1:10:46
  Actually I'm going to use that. Just decided to be great.
• 1:10:49
  I woke up. Like seriously have you ever
• 1:10:52
  tried being great? Decided to be great.
• 1:10:57
  Love it. OK this is my last one and I
• 1:11:00
  feel like it's rage bait. Oh, God.
• 1:11:03
  All right, let me let me get ready.
• 1:11:04
  OK, but. Kind of hilarious.
• 1:11:06
  All right, am I the asshole for telling our friends that my
• 1:11:09
  husband wet the bed? Oh my God.
• 1:11:15
  My husband and. I live across the country from
• 1:11:17
  where he grew up. In fact, he hasn't been back to
• 1:11:20
  visit his family in years. He enlisted in the military
• 1:11:22
  right out of high school and decided to live permanently in
• 1:11:25
  one of the states where he'd been stationed.
• 1:11:27
  But his mother is ill, so he wanted to go visit this year as
• 1:11:30
  well as see some old friends as he hasn't caught up in a while.
• 1:11:33
  I thought it was a great idea because I also have friends who
• 1:11:36
  live in that area and we have some mutual friends as well.
• 1:11:39
  We decided we'd visit his family, stay overnight, and then
• 1:11:43
  meet up with some of our mutual friends the next day.
• 1:11:45
  We stayed the night at his family's and I woke up to find
• 1:11:48
  not only did we oversleep, but he'd wet the bed overnight.
• 1:11:52
  I've been with him for a few years now and that's never
• 1:11:55
  happened before. Is he OK?
• 1:11:57
  I don't know. Yeah.
• 1:11:58
  She doesn't really go into like them having a conversation about
• 1:12:02
  that. But I'm curious because his
• 1:12:04
  mother is sick. He's back at home for the first
• 1:12:06
  time. I feel like there might have
• 1:12:07
  been some psychological mental things going on.
• 1:12:09
  But anyway, he was a bit worried because it was his parents guest
• 1:12:12
  room, nice sheets and whatnot. So he put some stain remover on
• 1:12:15
  them and then put them in the washing machine.
• 1:12:17
  It took some extra time out of our plans, plus I misplaced my
• 1:12:21
  car keys. It was a whole thing.
• 1:12:23
  So by the time we got to the meet up spot with our friends,
• 1:12:25
  we were really late. One of my friends joked that
• 1:12:28
  it's the first time we've seen them in years and we're late, my
• 1:12:31
  husband said jokingly. Well, she lost her car keys so I
• 1:12:35
  said stop. But you wet the bed.
• 1:12:37
  Are you you jerk? Why would?
• 1:12:39
  You do that, you jerk. Don't Why?
• 1:12:43
  Why would you say? Why would you let him?
• 1:12:46
  Have this I would never say this Let.
• 1:12:48
  Him have it I lost my car keys. You're right, I lost my car keys
• 1:12:53
  we slept in. Also you can maybe say that make
• 1:12:55
  up a lie. Lie this.
• 1:12:57
  Will piss the bed. You'd have to put a gun to my
• 1:13:02
  head to get that. I would never say that about my
• 1:13:04
  partner. Why would you ever?
• 1:13:05
  Oh man, I didn't mean it. Maliciously at all, and the
• 1:13:09
  whole table laughed. But my husband was embarrassed.
• 1:13:12
  He played it off while we were there, but on the drive home he
• 1:13:15
  said he could not believe I told them that.
• 1:13:18
  I said I didn't want to take all the blame for being late, are
• 1:13:20
  you kidding? And that it wasn't a big deal
• 1:13:22
  anyway. Anyone could have an accident.
• 1:13:25
  My husband said I could have just made something, anything
• 1:13:28
  up. But tell him.
• 1:13:29
  Why would you tell him that? He still doesn't want to talk to
• 1:13:31
  me. This wouldn't have been a big
• 1:13:33
  deal at all if it had happened vice versa.
• 1:13:36
  Am I the asshole here? Yes, she's an asshole.
• 1:13:39
  She is. Because he walked in and out.
• 1:13:41
  He did walk. Into that one because why would
• 1:13:44
  you put it all on me knowing that you also were part of this
• 1:13:49
  being late thing but also I would literally never say that
• 1:13:53
  about my partner ever. Ever you could have thought of
• 1:13:56
  anything. Else we could have had a
• 1:13:57
  discussion. Being like, OK, we could have
• 1:13:59
  both made something out, it's not a big deal.
• 1:14:01
  But when we're talking about the gravity of each scenario,
• 1:14:05
  wetting the bed versus losing the car keys, you better take
• 1:14:08
  the the blame for losing the car keys because that's not even a
• 1:14:10
  big deal. I like I misplaced my car keys.
• 1:14:12
  We're in a. Hotel or an Airbnb or something.
• 1:14:14
  I just misplaced them. OK.
• 1:14:16
  And she said I don't want to take all the blame.
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  You know, when we read earlier about eating the lice last slice
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  of pizza. Yes, this is her.
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  Yes, exactly. Because who cares?
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  She's about self preservation only.
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  So you were in front of my friends and you blamed our
• 1:14:32
  lateness on me and she and me is well, you wet the bed.
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  It's not that big of a deal. It really is not.
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  Oh my God. Yeah, I can't, but I don't know
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  how. How do I?
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  Go past that because let's say I do wet the bed one night, I'm
• 1:14:44
  going through some stuff. And then you told our whole
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  friend, whole friend group, no, you have to leave.
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  And if you were like my friend. Group or whatever.
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  It'd be an ongoing joke for years, forever.
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  You will not. Live this down.
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  So why would you ever do that? Exactly Like I'd be getting
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  rubber sheets for for Christmas presents and stuff from my
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  friend group so that would never end.
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  That's evil, that's what I'm saying.
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  That's why they're my friend group.
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  Because we are evil to each other.
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  Oh my God. Like literally why would you do
• 1:15:16
  that? That's just like.
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  That's the hill you decided to die on.
• 1:15:21
  Like you get one? Really.
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  Bad thing that you do to your partner in all relationship and
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  that's the one you, that's the one you chose.
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  OK, Yeah. Inconsiderate.
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  Yeah. I know.
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  OK, so I want to go a little overtime because we had a couple
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  story submissions and the one that y'all submitted was really,
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  really good, so I wanted to read it real quick.
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  It's a little long, but I feel like we have the time.
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  Let's do it, let's do it. All right, so story submission,
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  the unapologetic mother-in-law. I start this by saying.
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  I am the. Mom that goes above and beyond
• 1:15:52
  for her kids, but in a good way. I love Christmas and my son
• 1:15:55
  Nick, now 7, is the same way. During the holiday season he
• 1:15:59
  makes arts and crafts and makes the whole house more festive.
• 1:16:02
  He thinks of new cookie flavors to leave out for Santa and the
• 1:16:05
  reindeer and starts every day with a new holiday song.
• 1:16:08
  This year I decided I was going to take a core memory with my
• 1:16:11
  boy and still had, well, I still had a chance and visit Santa at
• 1:16:14
  the mall with him and his baby sister the night before.
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  I pack everything matching holiday diaper bags, snacks, and
• 1:16:21
  a few treats on the drive back. Really, right?
• 1:16:24
  I coordinate with this school to get things set so that I can get
• 1:16:27
  them early from school. I'm a teacher myself so I stay
• 1:16:29
  up late getting my students work ready for them while I'm out.
• 1:16:33
  I knew it was going to be truly a magical experience.
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  My husband wasn't able to join us, but I knew Nick had no idea
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  about it and was heading his way as I drop off the baby.
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  I tell the babysitter. My husband's aunt about how I
• 1:16:45
  need the baby ready to be picked up by noon.
• 1:16:47
  Up until this point there was no issues and I couldn't wait for
• 1:16:50
  the big review. I leave work, pick up Nick and
• 1:16:52
  we head over to get the baby. We're almost ready to set and
• 1:16:56
  maybe 2 minutes before heading out and my aunt's phone rings.
• 1:16:59
  It's the mother-in-law, the grandmother and the kids
• 1:17:01
  grandmother. My son is the closest to the
• 1:17:04
  phone and picks it up. After saying hi to grandma.
• 1:17:06
  She utters the words that start the whole mess.
• 1:17:09
  Aren't you excited to go see Santa?
• 1:17:14
  I know. This is This is.
• 1:17:19
  This is terrible. Within few seconds I.
• 1:17:23
  Say out loud you ruin the surprise.
• 1:17:24
  Yes, why would you do that? She says nothing, but my son
• 1:17:28
  repeats back. Mom, the surprise is we're going
• 1:17:30
  to go see Santa. I try my best to play it cool,
• 1:17:33
  but I'm livid. The time, energy and effort all
• 1:17:36
  gone because my mother-in-law had to have her two cents.
• 1:17:41
  We get there, the photos are taken but the core memory I
• 1:17:43
  wanted and created was gone. The excitement, Oh my God, we're
• 1:17:47
  here. Yeah, it's gone.
• 1:17:49
  On my way back my husband's aunt calls ask if I can restock her
• 1:17:52
  for some items with the baby. I agree, get the items and
• 1:17:55
  figured I'd talk with the aunt so we can create a plan so she,
• 1:17:58
  my mother-in-law and other relatives live in the same
• 1:18:00
  house. I'm not perfect but there are
• 1:18:02
  two things about me that I'm not fake and my cut off game is top
• 1:18:05
  tier. I give the aunt the items and I
• 1:18:10
  mentioned. How until I cool off and hear an
• 1:18:11
  apology from my mother-in-law I don't want to be around her.
• 1:18:15
  My aunt says she's on her stands but my mom yes great grandma has
• 1:18:18
  now entered the chat. Says how I'm overreacting and
• 1:18:21
  need to move on. I reply she needs to worry less
• 1:18:24
  about me and more about her big mouth daughter.
• 1:18:27
  I know not the best thing to say but y'all I was mad mad about to
• 1:18:31
  say. I mean, I would be too.
• 1:18:32
  I get it. A few days go by and I have to
• 1:18:36
  take my. Daughter to the aunt before
• 1:18:38
  work. Well as I open the door my
• 1:18:40
  mother-in-law is waiting for me. I'm still very upset and she has
• 1:18:43
  yet to apologize so I said nothing.
• 1:18:46
  Well my silence and her mom telling her that I had a big
• 1:18:48
  mouth was was the final straw. This woman who is Uber religious
• 1:18:53
  and acts like she has a direct phone to God herself goes off,
• 1:18:56
  yells at me about how I'm rude, I'm disrespectful, I'm
• 1:18:59
  ungrateful and I have a bad attitude.
• 1:19:01
  I need to respect her because she's my elder and and the last
• 1:19:04
  thing she utters is how I'm a bad mom.
• 1:19:06
  No, no, I think. My guardian Angel worked
• 1:19:10
  overtime. That morning, because I could
• 1:19:12
  have gone low, and I mean, I could have brought it to where
• 1:19:14
  the lava hasn't even formed. She's hilarious.
• 1:19:17
  Yeah. She.
• 1:19:19
  Is even with that blatant. Disrespect, I choose to say
• 1:19:22
  nothing because I knew she wanted a reaction from me and
• 1:19:24
  then play victim. I drop off the baby, she yells
• 1:19:27
  at me as I make my way out of that door and slams the door as
• 1:19:29
  I walk out. I instantly call my husband
• 1:19:32
  because I don't want to go low. I want to drag his mother to the
• 1:19:34
  center of the earth. Score.
• 1:19:36
  I'm crying as I share all the occurred to him and he says he's
• 1:19:39
  going to speak with her. He agrees to pick up the kids
• 1:19:42
  and his mother does exactly what I said, tries to play victim.
• 1:19:45
  She says how all she did was say the truth and how she forgives
• 1:19:48
  me and a whole bunch of other BS.
• 1:19:50
  She forgives me. Excuse me, He tells.
• 1:19:54
  Her, how she was. Wrong and telling Nick how even
• 1:19:56
  if she thought she was, what she was saying was true, that's not
• 1:19:59
  how you go about it and that she needed to apologize.
• 1:20:02
  It's been over four months and I'm still waiting for an apology
• 1:20:05
  and fortunately I still have to deal with her.
• 1:20:07
  I don't say anything or acknowledge her in my mind, if
• 1:20:09
  I'm not horrible, why would you want to associate yourself with
• 1:20:12
  something like that? I'm not giving her anything to
• 1:20:14
  justify her victim mentality. I'm now going to the next level.
• 1:20:18
  She has tried to bring Nick into the situation and my husband
• 1:20:21
  has. Had to have several
• 1:20:22
  conversations with her about how inappropriate that is.
• 1:20:25
  I'm trying to have him take over because I know if I do it, it
• 1:20:28
  won't be good. I'm trying to sustain things
• 1:20:30
  until the school year ends and we will no longer be around her
• 1:20:33
  as frequently. But she is really pushing me to
• 1:20:35
  the point of lashing out. So what should I do?
• 1:20:38
  Tell her about how I feel, which will make things worse, or keep
• 1:20:41
  ignoring her, which keeps the peace where she does things with
• 1:20:43
  the intention to irk me. He's mother in laws, I are.
• 1:20:49
  Something else I feel like in my opinion, in every other aspect
• 1:20:55
  of your life, you're giving yourself over completely.
• 1:20:58
  You have these kids, you're a teacher, you are a wife.
• 1:21:02
  And mostly it's a compromise. I understand that.
• 1:21:05
  But in this situation, all she had to do was shut her mouth and
• 1:21:09
  let you have this surprise with your son.
• 1:21:10
  And she couldn't even do that. And she's picking on you and
• 1:21:13
  doing all this stuff making you uncomfortable.
• 1:21:15
  So now you have to sacrifice another element of yourself.
• 1:21:18
  I feel like you should take this one thing, this one win, and
• 1:21:21
  tell her exactly how you feel. You know, because.
• 1:21:25
  My guess is this isn't the first time that she has said or done
• 1:21:29
  something, something that's disrespectful to you, right?
• 1:21:31
  I mean, she called you disrespectful, right?
• 1:21:33
  And so you tried letting your husband handle it.
• 1:21:37
  It didn't work. And so now you have to continue
• 1:21:41
  giving of yourself, like you said, to keep the peace.
• 1:21:44
  Where? I don't know.
• 1:21:45
  I mean, why don't we just have one quick FF off session?
• 1:21:48
  Yeah. And then we just go about our
• 1:21:51
  business because you're ignoring her already.
• 1:21:53
  Exactly. You know, And it's just like,
• 1:21:56
  and she just keeps like you're like, I'm trying.
• 1:21:58
  Not to go low. Meanwhile she's going low, she's
• 1:22:00
  going low. And people always do that and
• 1:22:02
  it's like. And then when you go to their
• 1:22:03
  level or even just a smidge lower and they be like, Oh my
• 1:22:07
  God, how dare you, How dare you go?
• 1:22:09
  Low real quick. It's like you did it.
• 1:22:10
  You started this. So I mean, I'm not against it.
• 1:22:13
  I'm no. And you were protecting your kid
• 1:22:16
  and then she called you a bad mom.
• 1:22:17
  A bad mom. Forget that.
• 1:22:18
  You didn't spend all this time planning a surprise.
• 1:22:22
  You're the one who ruined it. You're a bad grandma.
• 1:22:24
  Exactly. Bad mother-in-law, Bad all those
• 1:22:26
  things I can handle being a bad daughter-in-law, right but I'm
• 1:22:30
  not a bad mother. I'm not a bad mom.
• 1:22:31
  So she was out of out of tune for that one.
• 1:22:33
  Out of line. Yeah.
• 1:22:36
  I say say your piece. Say it.
• 1:22:38
  I mean, 'cause you're. Already kind of estranged.
• 1:22:39
  From her anyway, so why not I'm speaking.
• 1:22:44
  That's you were like do it. And then send us an update.
• 1:22:51
  But that's just me though. Yeah, that's.
• 1:22:53
  Just us, we have no skin in the game.
• 1:22:56
  We were not, we were not being held accountable.
• 1:22:59
  But go do. It right and thank you.
• 1:23:02
  So much for sending that into US.
• 1:23:04
  Yes, keep them coming. Please keep coming if y'all want
• 1:23:07
  to know how you could. Submit a story submission.
• 1:23:09
  If you're watching on YouTube, go in the description.
• 1:23:11
  The link is there, but if you're listening to this, go to
• 1:23:13
  our2gems.com 2 with the number 2 and go submit it, please.
• 1:23:18
  We love it, we love it, and we love y'all.
• 1:23:20
  Thank you for tuning in for episode 20.
• 1:23:22
  Suffer hell yeah. All right, bye y'all.