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Perashat Vayehi: The Power of Individuality and the Path to Peace 1.2.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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Pull that into the spot in this part of Shark you have Yakov
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Ave. by Hirakov and Yakov Ave's closing out his life the last 17
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years where Egypt is 147 years total.
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The Passo beauty is the word is still a problem on the part of
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Shark. They never ever go back.
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That is Israel. Nope.
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He died there and they he died there and he want they all
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wanted to go back. I don't know why they ended up
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saying but the plan was all wrong to go back as but Sakima
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indicate that was just go there and come back.
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But he I go there with time. Shibala said Shenoy he lived in
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the time 17 years. It says his words with he he he
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may I call Shnek Hayab the Daisy I call for the years of his
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life, 740 and 147. So dangerous thing is those
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words He may I call the Daisy I call with the years of his life.
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So, you know, if you just say the Daisy Arkova, the years of
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his life, why you saying both? What's with that wording?
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So the idea they say is that these 17 years in a certain
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sense were the prime years of his life and the fact that
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everything came together, most peaceful, most peaceful.
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No longer did he have any challenge.
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No longer any story really anymore.
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It was everything came together and he's good.
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On top of that, these words flow into the 147, which means these
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17 peaceful years turn his entire 147 into a full picture.
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When I called Aveeno met Paro, he said my year is 130 and
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they're short years and they're painful years.
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He was very negative. But now it's through these last
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17 when everything worked out, Nyakov was saying it's the
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pasuka saying these words. He may akov bethezy akov schnek.
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I have the years of his life, which means it turned all the
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years of his life into good years.
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But on the other hand, you notice there's not much
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storyline to these 17 years. You don't see much at all about
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what happened with Y'all Corvin and his sons and his grandsons
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during these last years anywhere.
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Nothing, nothing's raining at all.
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All we know is that if fry him, spend time with him, if I am
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rather share, if I am more spend time with him.
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That's all we know. Yosef did not spend time with
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his father too much that Madash writes the safe, in fact had to
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be told when his father was sick, had to come visit.
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Why he didn't want to be alone in a room with his father.
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According to Madash, because you didn't want his father to have a
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corner and ask him. So what exactly happened?
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So he avoided spending too much time alone with his father for
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the sale. He never wanted his father to
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ask, According to Madash. And I called him and never knew
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or how him argues. According to Madash, I called
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him and never knew how yourself got lost, and so yourself did
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not want to be cornered alone with his father and for his
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father to ask. Was your set still low in power
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like something years? All those years is in power and
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for longer, very much in power. Why now say this interesting
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point, Why our Coravino is there these 17 years?
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Again, there is golden years. They complete the picture, they
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turn his whole life into a good thing.
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At the same time, there are years that are not so important
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in history because nothing happens.
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And probably that goes hand in hand, which means, although not
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Corvino had no struggle, which is beautiful, But at the same
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time, there's no more development.
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There's no more story. There's no more add on Tommy's
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sail on to our development. Because when there's no struggle
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and no story, there's also no development.
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That's the idea that bastook. So it's a beauty and a
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limitation at the same time. He wanted answers about his
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mother too. He gave answers to his son and
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tried to give answer son about his mother.
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So then the bastook goes on to the fact that like you sail was
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soon going to die, which means Akov.
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You know you find that the change from the name Yaakov, the
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name Yasail, we have this all the time.
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But daughter Kaim in the opening is Tahasha.
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He gives you a rule of thumb as to the name Yaakov, name Yasail.
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When do you choose which? And the old rule, rule of thumb
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is Yaakov is lesser of a name than Yasail.
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Yasail is the complete version. Israel is the name that has
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Hashem name in it and he sells a higher version.
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So how do you happen have like he Yakov Yakov live 17 years in
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the time he's a Yakov and Valiki Vu he was soon going to die.
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It's his name is so his idea is those 17 years in Egypt to have
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a similar point. We're not as important as the
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previous years and they weren't as dutiful because they were in
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a time and place called Egypt. Although he had his family
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around Ebenez Great. They are in a pure place called
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Egypt. They are partial exile, so they
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called Yakko. What do we change to Israel
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right before he dies? Has an appointment point on
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these men, great men. Before they passed away, they
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gave Ben a heart to their children and grandchildren.
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Those Ben a heart are an indication they were prophecy.
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So these men were hit a very spiritual level right before
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they died, higher than their entire life.
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So if he could who you may say Lamoud, this man that called
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Vino also you say, oh, was soon going to die at this stage,
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right before he's going to die, he has a very high elevated
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level. That's when he blesses his
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children and grandchildren at that stage.
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So he's Yankov in Egypt. There's time, the place not
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great. He's not in the same predicament
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as he was earlier. He's not even developing anymore
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in that sense for us. But right before he dies, he's
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sail again. Why?
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Because right before he dies and a special thing come over him,
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especially in order to bless his children and to prepare for
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their future. That's all right.
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Old, but I follow. Prophecy.
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That's why we say them out loud, so they could be fulfilled.
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I might when. The light is the capitalists
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that say he's supposed to or maybe even regular boys.
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They spoke many blessing kids on Friday nights and should do it
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out loud because it's a self. That's true.
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I don't know if he called it nivoire, but it is true that the
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idea is when you say these words, you're basically bringing
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them into existence. It's definitely not the opener
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hot. You're bringing it out there and
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you developing into existence. A car we knew was also hinting
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to all things that are going to happen in the future.
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Everything that he said had different levels to it when he
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gave these people, but I thought children and grandchildren,
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there were elements that were based on the past, the present
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and the future. There was a lot there that's
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real legitimate prophecy. So now he does the whole thing
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where the firemen are shared, which is first the storyline of
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Al Prashais. First, your safe is called in to
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discuss the burial plans with his father.
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And I'll call him. He was Adam.
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He has he buried outside of of Messiah.
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He cannot be buried here. He has he buried.
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He cannot. OK, as he says, I'll do it.
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You swear. I swear instead of says I will
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do like your words Dodd Zaganin. I'll let us of what says when he
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says I'll do like you were he was saying I like this idea.
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I'm going to do the same thing. I too will request that I'm
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buried outside of the time. The only difference is yeah,
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Corvis and he buried outside and said well first be placed in the
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time and then by the Gila they'll take his bones.
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But he wants the same theme. I like your idea.
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I want to do the same. But they took his bones, right.
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I need to take his bones and took all the tribes bones as
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well. Fine, that's that.
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Then he talks about the affine and Asceti.
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He blesses them and then which is the whole story unto itself.
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And then I want to get to this point.
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He calls in all the sons. He says these words gathered
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together. He has who gathered around?
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And then he says the words catsu, which is also another
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word for gather. He was his two terminologies
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together, and he starts to bless them.
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We'll talk to them individually. What are the 2 terms of Haasu
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and Tatsu? Haasu means gather from the
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outside world, which means you guys have to separate yourself
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from the outside world for starters.
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Kabzu means join together, become a unit.
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He's telling his boys, he's telling his family, telling.
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I'm yourself. There are two things you need to
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function according to the future.
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I call as a bearing in the future the two things you need
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to function as a Jew. There are two requirements.
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Only two requirements. The very general put the
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humongous 1. You have to be different than
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the rest of the world. You have to be yourself.
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You have to be unique. You Jew 2.
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As a Jew you need to get along with other ones.
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So gather away for the rest of the world and gather together
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join together with each other. These are my requests is what
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he's telling his sense very broad requests a very powerful
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request be a Jew. I get along with Jews.
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These are the two big horns and then he tells them the brahot
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and he identifies each child's special strengths, each child's
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unique ability. We'll talk about invention one
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on the be in a second. But in general he gives each
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child their own unique strengths.
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I wondered how does telling them their strengths play into that
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picture of gather away from the rest of the world and join
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together again, separate from the world because you're a Jew
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and have our Dutt as one and then he tells each child of
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their strengths. It could be the night related,
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but I think this is dark relation.
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Here's how it goes. In order for you to be different
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than us in the world, number one, you need to know your
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strengths. You need to know your
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individuality or makes you special.
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You're not like everybody else. Part 1.
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Part 2. In order for you to have Shalom,
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you also need to know your strengths.
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What does that mean? Part of the reason that so many
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people have competition is because we think we're all the
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same war, chasing the scene, goals all in the same fight.
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Fight in a family specifically, and the community as well.
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Whatever it may be, the more we think we are the same, the more
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there's a competitive angle and the more there's a star book.
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So by telling his voice telling the tribes Echo Ave. telling
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these two points, one, you're an individual.
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Two, you're an individual. The same point.
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It hates both targets directly. How when you're an individual,
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you're not like the rest of the world.
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When you're that's step one. You're a Jew.
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You're unique when you're an individual.
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You also don't need to be exactly the same as your
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sibling, your cousin, your community member, because you
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have your own unique track. So he hits the target on these
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two points by identifying for each member of his children,
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each one of his children, and they are individuals.
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And to me, the point is takeaways.
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When a person identifies his strengths and when he feels
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comfortable his own skin or if he feels like he has a spot that
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is uniquely his, that he has an ability, he has the capability
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of being something strong. He separates something as the
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world. I don't need to be like everyone
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else. I'm not a copycat because I'm
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unique and I don't need to compete with the other guy
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because I'm unique. These two points are the same
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and the both equally powerful. When the person recognizes just
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how strong his individuality is, he doesn't feel like a copycat
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doesn't need to be a copycat. Like we said last week the
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Saturday night, one of the reasons a people are so highly
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impressionable is because they don't really feel like they have
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anything special to offer. The more you feel like you're
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something special, you don't feel like being everyone else
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just the way you are. At the same time, one of the
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reasons there are fights and these types of units and because
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it's competition, the more you feel like you have your corner
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that is yours that will never be touched and the other person has
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their corner that is there is that also you're not going to
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touch. You have a degree of Shalom.
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It's not the source of all fights, but it is the source of
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many struggles, which is the feeling like you and I are the
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exact same. So after the exact same angle,
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after the exact same credit and the exact same status, the more
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we realize we're individuals. You create these two shrinks on
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Misanis throughout the entire Galoops, the two shrinks and
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you'll see now Prasha over and over again, if you identify are
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we're individual and you're not like him.
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You're unique, but you don't have his uniqueness.
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That's a strength and a weakness at the same time.
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But it's yours. It's your corner.
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And because it's your corner, you don't feel like letting go
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of your strengths. You're not interested in being
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like anybody else, but at the same time you don't feel like
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competing against other person because that's their track.
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I have mine, right? It's a general concept, but it
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was the makeup bombing sale. If you go through the depth,
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This is why we have the flags of the four camps of the Jewish
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people when they travelled, because everyone's got their own
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identity. Every tribe has their own unique
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strength. This is the idea, That's the
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theme. He does it with If I am and I
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share his grandchildren, your safe children, and he does it
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with the tribes just to have my home.
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This point, it's a beautiful point on this concept.
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First of all, you hear this concept.
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You hear it. The need for individuality and
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the power that it gives you a qualifier telling your sons just
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to ham home on this concept, when he tells the revenge.
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She wanted Livy. More importantly, she wanted
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Livy. Those do not.
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Those sons do not really get a blessing.
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They get admonishment. What does he say to them?
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He says these words. But they there was.
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Yeah. Relying what they do with Shev
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abandoned he says he talks about over and he talks about Luvan
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each brother know. What the other brothers God
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bless with or that you said they.
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All there together. The blessings were all in front
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of everybody. All together.
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So that could causes a jealousy between the ones that brought
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it. Well, the first one didn't get
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blessed and there's a challenge, true, but ultimately I had some
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you doubt, he said. You know, Daddy said.
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I'm going to be the. King, Yeah.
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Sharks. Was part of the reason why you
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died backed away? He died backed away because he
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believed that what happened was through vanguard admonishment
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for his haste. Shimon Levy got admonishment for
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they're getting involved in Shechem and they're fighting of
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Shechem sober and selling of yourself if you if you go with
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them and dash. So if they knew about it, I
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could knew about it. So now you dies #4 and he starts
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to back away or she writes, he starts to back away and I go up
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and tell us and come close. I'm not going to give you the
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same yell as I did the other two.
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I'll see him. So they all got in front of each
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other, which to our previous point was the point that so and
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so has a strength that's not yours.
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Don't try to take it. One of the big things and is my
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ultimate .1 of the big issues that people have in life is
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trying to be like the other person.
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Somehow, some way, we want to be good at everything.
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Over time in life, you start to realize it's not a knock on you
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when I tell you that you're not #1 basketball player or you're
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not #1 football player. Whatever it is, you don't have
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to be the best in everything. It's not a knock on you, doesn't
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take away, doesn't mean that you're weak just because it's
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actually a joke. It's actually immature when
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people believe that they're good at everything, when people want
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to have a title that I am everything, right?
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Exactly. It takes him down.
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It does take him down. It's his weakest whatever.
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It's pressure. It's.
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One of his kryptonite on the kids.
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Today, yeah, I was watching a kids basketball game.
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One of the Toshiba's and the best player on the team, they
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shot him down. He missed a bunch of shots in
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the fourth quarter. Historical cry, Rapid yield.
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No, no. It was like you, you know, and
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they put all this pressure on the kid out because the captain
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in the butt, you know, and the other guy, the second guy had
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more points than him and he's having fun.
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Right, so that that kid makes some sense because his identity
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became the best vote plays and the more you have only your
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identity is Here's the thing. I am never allowed.
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If you take a person who has cornered his style and mold in
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life and he believes he has a certain identity and you hack at
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it, you are destroying their existence and their life is over
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in their mind. Literally, you tell a person
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that's a, you have a guy who his job in a certain industry, in a
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certain company is he's the best, he's the best seller in
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the company, he's the best, right?
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Whatever may be. And you hack it and you say we
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don't need you anymore. Your role is not really
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necessary. We have AI, whatever it is, the
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antivirus, if not just OK, you're not so valuable in that
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area. You are taking away his essence.
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That's because of the same concept the other way, which is
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as much as we need to identify, you have yours, I have mine.
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If you take away from mine, I'm done.
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It's a killer for me. That's how it works.
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See I call Vino tells his second and third son, Shimon Olivia,
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listen to me tell. See how he said these words?
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Shimon Bolivia, who were the ones who picked up the swords
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and forged her hand physical? He says, Ahim, you guys are
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brothers. You're the same Clare Hamas.
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Clare Hamas, which means, as she writes, you stole.
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You stole the style of murder. Oh, not Zozo de sica.
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This style of murdering Hamas si biethrim, it's harshal meberhat
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E sabi. It's not yours.
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It's a Saab style. Oh, not jalohi.
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It's a Saab's trait. The tem Hamas, Tem O Taimano and
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you guys, Harshad from E Saab Shimon Levi.
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You killed out a city. I know you did in defense of
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your sister. I know you did it as you wanted
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to defend our honor. You did it in my eyes.
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Jacobina was not happy about it, clearly.
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But he says the words. You guys stole the style.
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So the question is, that's your admonishment.
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Tell them all right, you guys are murderers.
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Tell them all right, You did the wrong thing.
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Call all you want. Not murders.
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Yeah, murders. Whatever it is.
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Why does he talk about the hush? But the answer is, is literally
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all the team. He's telling them the problem.
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That bothers me. The issue at hand is the fact
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that you didn't act like you choose selves.
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You weren't your true selves. You guys are tribes.
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You guys are my sons. You are special people.
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That we will be the tribe of all service of Hashem.
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This is not your way. You acted like somebody else and
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that is why it went so wrong. Why did he go so off the rails?
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Because you weren't being your true selves.
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Kili. Hamas Hamar Pinhas did the right
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thing. Pinhas was being himself and
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that's also why. And it's the key thing.
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When you act like someone you're not, you do it the wrong way.
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You do it in a weird way. Shamor Levy act like someone
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that did not trying to have the bravado of ESAP for the sake of
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the family's cavort did something their Khavi is not
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happy about. Pinhas who did the right thing
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at the right time with the right mindset.
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He hit the target perfectly and then he stopped because he was
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dealing with our reason. He did it the right way.
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That was perfect. Shrem fisherman Levy was I
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right? Why it's not, It's not
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considered right because it wasn't that style and that's the
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key thing. The key thing is person needs to
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recognize who he is, what he is, what are his strengths and leave
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those strengths and don't try to be someone you're not.
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Now you say to yourself, what do you mean?
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But they tell us in every speech, I should be a good
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learner and a good prayer and a good balch, I said, and a good
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husband and a good father and all those things.
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Maybe that's not what I am. The answer is that as a Jew in
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general, you have the qualities and the capability to do all the
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basics and do them all well. But you will maybe be a certain
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kind of father and you will maybe learn certain types types
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of things and you will have a certain angle of prayer or a
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certain kind of headset that talks to you.
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That's fine. That's perfectly fine.
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A person has to get you're real with himself and to recognize I
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have a mold. The less you feel you have a
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mold, the less you're significant in your mind and the
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more you're able to be an adopter of someone else's stuff.
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No good. The more you recognize you have
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a mold and just how you know as somebody else ask an outsider,
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you know so and so and they can tell you clearly how do you want
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of a kind? Everyone of us tell ourselves we
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were really realized often how unique we are to this, to the
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world, to the street, to our community, whatever it is to out
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there. We are very clearly unique and
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we are nothing like our neighbor.
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Nothing at all fair Joe, you are nothing like as is the the whole
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room. Nobody's like each other at all,
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right? And then you say to yourself on
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your own angle, you think, listen, abilities, everybody has
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different. They've been trained and this
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should be different, you know, right.
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And this should give you a sense of comfort.
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It should give you a sense of purpose.
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Sensitive meaning less of a need to compete.
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Because if I, I want to come realize that I want to be like
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them, you're never going to be like them and you never want to
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be like them. You are you trying to be like
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them is like Shamo and they be trying to be like a sob for
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their family's sake. It's just not your way.
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It doesn't fit and it's going to be the same way.
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If you put on someone else's suit, it's not going to fit.
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It's going to be the wrong size, right When you do this, you try
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to wear someone else's style. It's not going to fit and it's
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going to be funny. Instead, be you and you
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recognize what is you, you, your identity is I'm bringing right
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how your parents train you, the schools that you went to to wrap
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up the year round, the marriage that you have, the children that
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you have, the work, the line of work that you're in, even the
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city that you live in, you live in Brooklyn different than Neil.
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It's a whole different world. Everything is a mold and you
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live that mold and you feel perfectly content and happy in
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that mold. And it doesn't mean you're not
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highly motivated. You're highly motivated to do
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more of you, but you're not highly motivated to be like
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somebody else and had your strengths.
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Yeah, exactly. And every time something in your
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mind says I want to, I want to do its own.
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So it does. You don't want to do what they
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do because you want to be like yourself.
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You have many role models, that's for sure.
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I'd be like is hammering home this concept to his sons and his
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grandsons. And he gives each one their own
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identical strength. He can imagine when he's telling
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you die, you're the king, right? He's telling Levy what they are.
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You die. He tells them the king.
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He doesn't want you die to run the Bethany dodge.
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You can imagine if someone's told I'm the king, maybe I
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should run the Bethany dodge too.
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No, maybe I should happen a different a different job.
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Why is he telling them? The only the king telling him
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don't get out of your lane at all is the idea.
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This is the theme in Altar Shot overall, and like I say, I
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believe it leads to two points that we spoke about. 1 is that
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you remain identified. You don't assimilate to the
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world because I was special. Two, you have Shalom when it
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comes to competition. You're not like anybody else.
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Because I'm special, I don't need to be like anyone else.
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It's only when a person doesn't see his unique strengths, only
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then as a person easily affected by this.
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Why? Because I'm able to be like
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anyone else, nothing special about me, right?
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So why should I? You know, a kid goes off to
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college as parents hope and pray he remains the same kid, right?
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And they expect him to have certain strengths and certain
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control out there. And the number one angle to do
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so, You can't be with him. You can't be in this year.
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You can't switch the bass with him.
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The best thing that he has going, fam, is his pride of
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member of his family, pride of him as a community.
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If you lose that, you're about the kid, right?
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And and that's the challenge. But that's the only way he has a
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chance. The chance is because of that
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pride. I have something special.
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And when a bunch of siblings are are in the same family and
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they're trying to get along, leave money out of it, trying to
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get along, right? Money is a whole different
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animal. But once you're dealing with
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just getting along, what do you have?
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You have a Shabbat table and one person who can advocate a
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working advice, never the other person, right?
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Is he? Does he feel very small?
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How does he make himself feel big?
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He says to himself, I have this spot, I have this corner.
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My mother listens to me. She doesn't listen to the other
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one. I, I have the right advice in
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this area. They come to me for this party.
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They they ask of me when it comes to this, and if you take
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away those spots, you're taking away their essence and their
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existence and then you are hacking at Shalom.
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But as long as you provide the person literally the smallest
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thing, as long as someone has a role in any unit, it could be a
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tiny role. He could be the person whom you
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go to and you want to know how to set a table.
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Which girl do I ask? Ask that girl right, How to make
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a party. Ask that girl how where should
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we be going on vacation? Yes, the other sister, whatever
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may be you involve each person has a role you create the
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cohesive unit and you create something beautiful and a coffee
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was doing that with his chosen right here.
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And like you said, he's telling one son he strengths in front of
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the other one. What is he telling to the other
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one? Why do I have to hear about you
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da? I don't need to know where you
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does because you need to know your dad's got his role.
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Let him have let him hold on to his role.
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You can create show him that way.
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So that's the two things in our pressure.
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I think overrule if you paint more stroke not many details
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about which we did over sugar a broad stroke.
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These are the 2 themes. Every person has to have a very
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clear identity and every person has to accept the fact that this
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is only my corner and therefore I'm not going to try to be.
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I tell the guy join with me on this one.
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Yes accepted. Very.
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True. I think that creates A mole and
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a unit, and I'm a sail. There are different types of
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fights among the Jewish people. He's not addressing those.
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He's not addressing different layers of Jews, different
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beliefs. He can't address that with this
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culture. He's addressing different styles
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that get you nervous, which means there's different Shalom
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issues, bigger ones, which you can't deal with.
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What was the difference? There's about the ego in the
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Galva, right? So now this actually ego in
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Galva is addressed in this. I guess beliefs.
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Right. Your overall beliefs, you can't
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address that and there's a challenge this type of you need
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a different stroke to create show over there monetary issues
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so that. 1 is a very common 1 today the.
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Money 1 is only. The worst case scenario, they
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never talk again. Oh, you know, he wheels a
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stroller to a mom's house. I'm going to come the second
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day. You know, that those people he.
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What happens what was real there?
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I've been my family, you know, Yeah.
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So like what? What happens there?
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Because. Technically the.
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Guy's not roll right? It's the higher Rd. don't but
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but we do. And and there's what they rely
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on now you're putting like the parents in this.
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Puzzle, war, life, yes, and there you have different types
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of shaloms. This type in Alba Rashad is
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clear. It's difficult.
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You have to be humble to accept the Alba Rashad style.
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You have to be a little bit realizing you have your
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strengths, the other guy as his. That's one kind of Shalom.
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The Shalom you're referring to requires character and that
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requires a bill and the ability to accept.
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And that acceptance is and I want, do I want to sacrifice
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Shalom or do I not? That's that.
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Do I want to be quiet in my opinions or do I want to be loud
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and create proverbs? That's that.
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That's even Shalom. That's a very difficult Shalom.
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True 100%. That's a Shalom.
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That's a Cora Vino is dealing with twelve sons, assuming going
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with the back at all on the same level religion and they're also
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going to have these twelve son and 12 tribes, no monetary
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challenge. They can have the Khalaqim in
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Israel and that's it. So he's dealing with just solely
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the ego challenge of Shalom and we addressed it.
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You're right, ABI Shalom requires Mihila.
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It requires letting things go, requires being so, you know, not
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speaking everything out and developing no way of thinking.
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My humble opinion is you do what you do, they do what they do.
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Why does it have to matter, Hashem?
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Doesn't need us to fight his no battles.
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In general, always I don't see a reason.
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My bodies say it all the time. He needs to say about different
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hashtag 4 things you say. You don't need to get up there
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and the pulpit and yell and scream.
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He would say just build your way and watch.
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It'll see you say it to some. Be the best that you could be.
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No, I'm saying yes, but as we don't want to be medium, you
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know, you have to be determined. I want to be good, 100% be good
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what I do. But even when it comes to our
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Shafa issues and there's something that's approaching
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life that other people are approaching one way and you know
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it's wrong, you know hold of it. It's bothering you.
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And there are times when they spread it across the Jewish
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world and that gets you nervous. I hear that it's a different
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story. Sometimes you have to speak out.
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But when they're doing theirs and you're doing yours, as long
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as you do yours, well, watch, nothing's gonna happen wrong
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from there doing there. It's not gonna affect you at all
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and won't even affect the community negatively if you let
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it go. That's the ID.