Latest / Stuff Mom Never Told You / Happy Hour #159: Navigating Disappointment
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- 0:05Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha, and welcome to stuff
- 0:07Speaker 1: one never told you protection by her radio.
- 0:18Speaker 2: And welcome to another happy hour where it's a wine.
- 0:22Speaker 2: Except I don't have wine. Do you have wine any.
- 0:24Speaker 1: I wish if you had told me it was a wine,
- 0:26Speaker 1: I would have got.
- 0:27Speaker 2: Sorry, my bad, I did not plan this correctly.
- 0:31Speaker 1: Oh that's all right, that's okay.
- 0:32Speaker 2: Well it is a happy hour. And you know, we
- 0:34Speaker 2: love to sip on things as we are talking about
- 0:37Speaker 2: our woes or thoughts or whatever has been on our minds,
- 0:41Speaker 2: or sometimes sex in the city. But today, like I said,
- 0:44Speaker 2: it's a jin wine. And if you are partaking of anything,
- 0:47Speaker 2: do so responsibly. Be good to yourself and to your
- 0:50Speaker 2: body and to those around you. Annie, are you partaking
- 0:54Speaker 2: of anything? No, just war water, swarm water. Sometimes it's
- 1:02Speaker 2: got to be like that. It's got to be like that.
- 1:03Speaker 2: You are partaking of taking care of yourself.
- 1:08Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you.
- 1:12Speaker 2: I am drinking on a diet doctor Pepper, not a sponsor.
- 1:18Speaker 2: But it is that cream soda one that I like. Yeah,
- 1:20Speaker 2: I know Annie hates it. And he made a face.
- 1:23Speaker 1: She made a face that was visceral.
- 1:27Speaker 2: It was it was a lot of like a lot
- 1:30Speaker 2: of feeling came into that one. But also yes, again
- 1:33Speaker 2: not a sponsor. I doubt they would want to sponsor us.
- 1:36Speaker 1: Tried to sponsor once on Savor and we had to
- 1:39Speaker 1: be like, well, yeah, sure, are you open to one
- 1:43Speaker 1: of those actively hating it? To be fair?
- 1:46Speaker 2: I guess the new way they're transitioning it, it would work.
- 1:49Speaker 1: I think it would be funny.
- 1:52Speaker 2: You know, they don't like it on our segments. They
- 1:53Speaker 2: don't want us to be funny. We can't have personality.
- 1:55Speaker 2: What are you talking about, Annie?
- 1:56Speaker 1: Yeah? These women no way funny.
- 2:00Speaker 2: What are you talking about anyway? Yeah, so today's happy hour,
- 2:04Speaker 2: I am going to have a moment of like, why
- 2:09Speaker 2: so just content warning, I am talking today's political issues,
- 2:13Speaker 2: not fully in depth because we're not going all into it,
- 2:16Speaker 2: but like just the theme or subject of us is
- 2:19Speaker 2: just disappointment, Like how do we get beyond this? Because
- 2:23Speaker 2: people that I trusted, people we have vouched for on Mike,
- 2:29Speaker 2: you know, like and then they come out doing things
- 2:31Speaker 2: that you're like, wait, what, but why Recently our state
- 2:37Speaker 2: senators voted in favor of the upcoming Secretary of Labor.
- 2:44Speaker 2: I don't understand, and I the amount of disappointment that
- 2:49Speaker 2: exudes because for a minute I thought they would at
- 2:54Speaker 2: least like not partake, But no, that they did, because
- 2:59Speaker 2: I have a feeling that has everything would like not
- 3:00Speaker 2: wanting to shut down the federal government, YadA, YadA, YadA.
- 3:04Speaker 2: And I'm sure maybe they have thoughts to this, But
- 3:09Speaker 2: why when we are in such a state of peril,
- 3:14Speaker 2: Just why? Of course, this also comes down to the
- 3:17Speaker 2: conversation of like, not necessarily, I do not idolize politicians.
- 3:22Speaker 2: Let's just go ahead and put that out there, because
- 3:24Speaker 2: I know too well, especially in the US, people like
- 3:27Speaker 2: to straddle defense. And it's really upsetting to see that.
- 3:31Speaker 2: You thought when you thought some people held to certain standards,
- 3:34Speaker 2: and then you see them not because they vote for
- 3:36Speaker 2: the interest of their pockets or for like preconceived ideas
- 3:41Speaker 2: of God. To play the game, I guess. And there's
- 3:45Speaker 2: been so much of that recently, so much of this
- 3:49Speaker 2: nonsense of trying to play the game in order to
- 3:52Speaker 2: appease everyone. So therefore they're making everybody angry, and especially
- 3:57Speaker 2: here in the state of Georgia. We talked about it
- 3:59Speaker 2: recently about John Ossoff. He's the next one to be
- 4:02Speaker 2: going through an election possibly being unseated here in the
- 4:06Speaker 2: state of Georgia, and we hear Marjorie Taylor Green is
- 4:10Speaker 2: the favorite favorite to run against him, and this is
- 4:15Speaker 2: not helping, This is not this is not helping seeing him.
- 4:20Speaker 2: He's also gotten some several stances of things that's happening
- 4:24Speaker 2: with Israel and Gaza that I found it very disappointing
- 4:28Speaker 2: as well. I know that he is a part of
- 4:31Speaker 2: the Jewish community, and I get a lot of this
- 4:34Speaker 2: conversation in that perhaps there's some confusion. I don't know.
- 4:38Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not gonna I'm not gonna explain things
- 4:40Speaker 2: away because I don't know this man. I thought we
- 4:44Speaker 2: agreed on most of the things and again we don't
- 4:47Speaker 2: have to like the morality and the values for the
- 4:52Speaker 2: beginning of his campaign aligned and then it feels like
- 4:56Speaker 2: things are falling apart. And I don't know again if
- 4:58Speaker 2: this is my level of everything's the worse and I
- 5:01Speaker 2: hate it here type of mindset and I need to
- 5:05Speaker 2: back up. But I'm just trying to figure out and
- 5:09Speaker 2: listeners and Annie, how do we deal with these types
- 5:13Speaker 2: of disappointments outside of like, yes, we need to be
- 5:15Speaker 2: active and make sure that they understand we are unhappy
- 5:18Speaker 2: and that we need to vocalize it. We need to
- 5:20Speaker 2: come through and people are protesting. I love seeing the
- 5:23Speaker 2: Tesla take down. It's been really rewarding to see and
- 5:27Speaker 2: encouraging to see. But what do you do when it
- 5:31Speaker 2: feels like it's so out of control? Because if it
- 5:33Speaker 2: comes down to John Ossoff versus Marjorie Tayler Green, obviously
- 5:40Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to vote one way over the other
- 5:42Speaker 2: for the betterment of all of Georgia, society, humanity, however
- 5:49Speaker 2: you want to look at this. But at the same time,
- 5:52Speaker 2: I want him and the other people who are supposed
- 5:54Speaker 2: to be our voices, who are supposed to protect our rights,
- 5:57Speaker 2: to understand how severely disappointed we are and that you're
- 6:02Speaker 2: grifting because I've gotten how many texts from his campaign
- 6:05Speaker 2: and emails saying they need donations to fight against Trump,
- 6:09Speaker 2: but they're not fighting anything. So it seems I am
- 6:15Speaker 2: trying to figure out how do we handle this type
- 6:17Speaker 2: of disappointment.
- 6:20Speaker 1: It's tough, it's difficult.
- 6:22Speaker 2: I feel like they really betrayed us. Well, he sound
- 6:29Speaker 2: like my mom at the beginning of those Well, Samantha.
- 6:40Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, it's true, and that's the whole
- 6:42Speaker 1: thing about, you know, holding your politicians accountable for what
- 6:46Speaker 1: they said, but things also change, and also I mean
- 6:53Speaker 1: how much can I hold them accountable? But also, no
- 6:58Speaker 1: one's doing what they said they were going to do
- 7:00Speaker 1: really right, So I think every I think right now,
- 7:05Speaker 1: everything is just a constant state of we don't know
- 7:09Speaker 1: what's happening here, even for politicians in some circumstances. So
- 7:15Speaker 1: I don't know, I have no good answer for that
- 7:19Speaker 1: other than yeah, making it known. This is not what
- 7:23Speaker 1: I wanted. That's not why I voted for you, right, Yeah.
- 7:29Speaker 2: And I mean there's so many states like statuses that's
- 7:32Speaker 2: happening around the country. And again, I think I talked
- 7:35Speaker 2: about it in a previous Happy Hour about like this
- 7:36Speaker 2: chaos is the point. There's so much the things that
- 7:43Speaker 2: we are supposed to do as citizens and voters we did,
- 7:47Speaker 2: and it feels like it's coming back to bite us
- 7:49Speaker 2: because even the ones where we had victory, I'm not
- 7:52Speaker 2: seeing the victory. I'm not seeing that portion of them
- 7:55Speaker 2: standing up. Al Green, a presentative of al Green, really
- 7:58Speaker 2: did some kind of did what we wanted in that
- 8:01Speaker 2: like he was very vocal and very like no, we
- 8:03Speaker 2: do not respect this man. You know, we need accountability.
- 8:07Speaker 2: And then Democrats came about like, oh, calm down, this
- 8:10Speaker 2: is not appropriate. We need to be respectful, and then
- 8:13Speaker 2: forgetting like, hey, you know, this administration is literally taking
- 8:19Speaker 2: away the rights of a big chunk of the population
- 8:22Speaker 2: that voted for you, most of the people that voted
- 8:24Speaker 2: for you, and you're sitting here talk about being respectful
- 8:27Speaker 2: to a speech versus actually being appalled at the speech.
- 8:34Speaker 2: So it's just such an odd place to be that
- 8:37Speaker 2: when those who like we have touted that if you
- 8:41Speaker 2: do it the right way, if you do this in
- 8:43Speaker 2: this play, and if you vote, go out and vote
- 8:45Speaker 2: and let your voices be heard, then things will be
- 8:47Speaker 2: taken care of. But it has been far from that.
- 8:50Speaker 2: And of course when we talk about this like type
- 8:52Speaker 2: of administration that came in full force ready to implement
- 8:58Speaker 2: Christian nationalism, implement billionaires over the vast population and their citizens,
- 9:05Speaker 2: is a whole different story. It's this whole different conversation.
- 9:07Speaker 2: The fact that we are now on a human rights
- 9:09Speaker 2: watch list, you know, like it's all of these things.
- 9:16Speaker 2: I'm going back and forth about this disappointment because I
- 9:18Speaker 2: really am like, how do we gauge this, How do
- 9:21Speaker 2: we gauge this conversation? I am wanting to see my
- 9:25Speaker 2: family less and less. Of course I've been disappointed, and
- 9:28Speaker 2: I know they are disappointed in me. Like this goes
- 9:30Speaker 2: back and forth in that level and like to co
- 9:33Speaker 2: and see them right now. I'm scared because, like I said,
- 9:35Speaker 2: I feel like this could be the ruining of my
- 9:38Speaker 2: second family, my family because of this politics. I don't
- 9:44Speaker 2: want that to be. But if they come in touting
- 9:47Speaker 2: about how great a Musk is doing, I'm gonna fight
- 9:49Speaker 2: somebody verbally because that's definitely you're telling me everything I
- 9:56Speaker 2: need to know and how much you don't care about
- 9:58Speaker 2: me as a person, as a human and as your
- 10:00Speaker 2: adopted daughter you brought over here because you empathetically thought
- 10:04Speaker 2: I need to save the children from a different country
- 10:09Speaker 2: and bring him them here and then have them on
- 10:12Speaker 2: a green car till they were fourteen, Like so many
- 10:16Speaker 2: things that doesn't make sense and the level of disappointment,
- 10:19Speaker 2: and I'm trying to like like wade through to the
- 10:22Speaker 2: other side of like how do I get to this
- 10:24Speaker 2: point because again, even when we do things respectfully, it
- 10:29Speaker 2: doesn't feel like it's working. There's I know we're all
- 10:34Speaker 2: in the same state too, But my biggest question is
- 10:38Speaker 2: how are you going through this disappointment? Like, how are
- 10:41Speaker 2: you getting through it outside of just being angry and
- 10:45Speaker 2: trying to find a solution? Like personally, like it's I
- 10:50Speaker 2: I feel it. I feel it in everybody's conversation, and
- 10:53Speaker 2: everybody's just like willingness to go out. People want to stop,
- 10:57Speaker 2: like just the freeze, like everybody freezing in like anxiety
- 11:02Speaker 2: and fear and like just interacting is so palpable that
- 11:09Speaker 2: it's alarming. At the same time, it just makes me,
- 11:15Speaker 2: honest sleep a superpower. So I'm just trying to figure
- 11:29Speaker 2: out how are y'all doing? How are y'all surviving this? Annie?
- 11:34Speaker 2: Are you surviving? Well?
- 11:36Speaker 1: I'm here.
- 11:38Speaker 2: I'm proud of you.
- 11:40Speaker 1: That's something.
- 11:42Speaker 2: You have a visceral reaction to Dr Pepper that counts.
- 11:45Speaker 1: I still have reactions to things. There was a point
- 11:48Speaker 1: in time where I couldn't even get excited about the
- 11:51Speaker 1: Last of Us two, the second season because I was
- 11:54Speaker 1: too worried about politics. And now I'm excited about that.
- 11:58Speaker 2: I love that.
- 11:59Speaker 1: No, it's I mean, it's tough. I feel like I
- 12:02Speaker 1: think all of us have really good days and really
- 12:04Speaker 1: bad days, and a lot of days that feel like
- 12:06Speaker 1: you're just in a haze than trying to get by
- 12:13Speaker 1: and maybe not look at the news that day because
- 12:19Speaker 1: it's just gonna change the next day and it's gonna
- 12:21Speaker 1: be worse or better and you don't know because it'll
- 12:22Speaker 1: change the next day again and you don't know. So
- 12:26Speaker 1: I'm surviving.
- 12:28Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that is the key. I will say so.
- 12:32Speaker 2: Listener Susie Hi, who also follows us on Blue Sky,
- 12:37Speaker 2: she wrote something about she's gonna tooot her own horn
- 12:41Speaker 2: because she did something and she's very proud of that,
- 12:43Speaker 2: and I'm like, yes, I think that's the that. I
- 12:46Speaker 2: don't know why. That was just a small post about
- 12:48Speaker 2: like how she feels accomplished and I love that. I'm like,
- 12:51Speaker 2: I think that's that's what I want to see more of.
- 12:54Speaker 2: I want to see more of the individuals who are
- 12:57Speaker 2: triumphanting over whatever that day and I am loving that.
- 13:02Speaker 2: I don't know why it gave me so much encouragement.
- 13:05Speaker 2: So Susie, if you're listening to this episode, which you
- 13:07Speaker 2: might not be, thank you. Like I like, I went
- 13:11Speaker 2: wiped in immediately. I'm like, yes, toot that horn, like
- 13:13Speaker 2: because it just felt like, Ah, I don't think we're
- 13:18Speaker 2: in such a bad headspace. And I say this about
- 13:20Speaker 2: myself as well, that feeling like I can do that
- 13:25Speaker 2: is a impossible be too much and ce not done enough,
- 13:32Speaker 2: like all of these things like I don't know, let
- 13:35Speaker 2: me see if I can think of something that I
- 13:36Speaker 2: could toot my own horn. I haven't heard that phrase
- 13:38Speaker 2: in a long time, so I appreciate that too, you know,
- 13:41Speaker 2: like we are, I think we're bringing out good content
- 13:44Speaker 2: even in this dreagery of a year. I think we're
- 13:49Speaker 2: doing some good content. I feel like we're doing some
- 13:51Speaker 2: informative conversations, we're looking at insights. We're doing a great
- 13:54Speaker 2: job in bringing both your personality and my personality into
- 13:58Speaker 2: this show, and that we are keeping true to it
- 14:03Speaker 2: no matter what is happening in the state of the world,
- 14:07Speaker 2: and hopefully we are balancing things out. I also am
- 14:11Speaker 2: very on edge about saying the wrong thing and feeling
- 14:14Speaker 2: like I might offend a group of people who are
- 14:16Speaker 2: already feeling ostracized. So I hope that's not the case.
- 14:20Speaker 2: And we just talked about sin of empathy, and we
- 14:23Speaker 2: were talking about like how they equate being queer as
- 14:28Speaker 2: being like overly sexual and polyamorous, all the things I
- 14:32Speaker 2: actually want ab out there that we don't think there's
- 14:33Speaker 2: anything wrong with that. If you're consenting adults living your
- 14:36Speaker 2: life and are happy, that is a beautiful thing. So
- 14:39Speaker 2: even if like that should have been part of that conversation,
- 14:42Speaker 2: but we were bypassing it because there's so much to
- 14:44Speaker 2: be said. But you know, in the back of my head,
- 14:47Speaker 2: I'm like, we do not. I hope for the most
- 14:50Speaker 2: part that everybody understands that when we are talking about
- 14:55Speaker 2: these types of conversations that it's not about shaming a
- 14:58Speaker 2: group of people that are just trying to live. It's
- 15:02Speaker 2: about shaming people who uses their own judgment as to
- 15:05Speaker 2: say what's right and wrong, and that's the only way
- 15:06Speaker 2: to be slash use it to take away people's rights,
- 15:12Speaker 2: which is awful. So all of those to say, is
- 15:17Speaker 2: this type of conversation that we're having, we want to
- 15:20Speaker 2: keep having it, And I think I think for the
- 15:22Speaker 2: most part we're doing a pretty good job and doing so.
- 15:29Speaker 2: So that's the way I think we can toot our horn.
- 15:32Speaker 2: Even though I did bring a bit of like, but
- 15:33Speaker 2: we could do this better. Apparently, I really can't do
- 15:36Speaker 2: that well.
- 15:39Speaker 1: Always looking for ways to improve to your horn.
- 15:43Speaker 2: Annie, what you got, Yes, let's see.
- 15:50Speaker 1: I mean I agree. I'll also say personally, at the
- 15:55Speaker 1: beginning of the year, I was like not, I didn't know.
- 16:01Speaker 1: I didn't know how we were going to continue to
- 16:02Speaker 1: do how I was going to continue to do it,
- 16:05Speaker 1: just because it's miserable. A lot of times I say
- 16:09Speaker 1: this from a very privileged place. I get to work
- 16:11Speaker 1: from home researching a thing. I was thinking to es
- 16:15Speaker 1: today about like previous jobs I had, and how I
- 16:18Speaker 1: prefer this one the most, so to put that out there.
- 16:24Speaker 1: But it does mean that you have to delve into
- 16:27Speaker 1: some things that you'd rather on some days be like why, why,
- 16:32Speaker 1: why do I have to do this? This is horrible?
- 16:34Speaker 1: Why are any of us doing this? But so I agree,
- 16:41Speaker 1: I think for me, I've also you know, I've hung
- 16:50Speaker 1: out with a lot of people. I've seen a lot
- 16:52Speaker 1: of people. I saw my mom last weekend, which was
- 16:55Speaker 1: a much less fraud experience for me than it is
- 16:57Speaker 1: for you. But it was really nice seen her forever
- 17:00Speaker 1: and I forgot I forgot how much I missed her.
- 17:05Speaker 1: Oh I'm getting a little teary about it. So I've
- 17:09Speaker 1: made I kept up with these relationships that actually kind
- 17:12Speaker 1: of died off when I was so stressed about the election.
- 17:16Speaker 1: It's funny how that works. But I've done that and
- 17:21Speaker 1: I've still still writing. I told you my fan fiction.
- 17:28Speaker 1: People are mad at me, but I'm that chapter is
- 17:31Speaker 1: almost done. If anybody happens to read it, I swear
- 17:35Speaker 1: to god, it is almost done.
- 17:39Speaker 2: I love it. People will probably come tuning in for
- 17:41Speaker 2: the first time. People coming from your fans like to
- 17:45Speaker 2: find you, and they found you.
- 17:47Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that you know I'm an audio because
- 17:50Speaker 1: I accidentally write a lot of times at the end.
- 17:52Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, you know what. I like that.
- 17:59Speaker 2: I'm pretty good, buddy.
- 18:00Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's good.
- 18:02Speaker 2: They might they might have translations on it.
- 18:04Speaker 1: I have audio.
- 18:07Speaker 2: I love it audio readers. Yeah. I think that's that's
- 18:11Speaker 2: a really big conversation, like having friendships. Because I've been
- 18:14Speaker 2: slowly working my way into the public, into the like
- 18:18Speaker 2: actual environmental social places, I'm like, okay, I can do this.
- 18:24Speaker 2: I even instigated. Some of them are like, whoa, look
- 18:27Speaker 2: at me, trying to be all active. But yeah, I
- 18:30Speaker 2: think that's important because it feels you and I've already
- 18:33Speaker 2: talked about our struggles and trying to come back into society, yes,
- 18:39Speaker 2: especially now, and everything being as odd and feeling like
- 18:43Speaker 2: everything's extra work, like putting on appropriate clothes that's not stained.
- 18:48Speaker 2: You know, Am I wearing a stain hoodie? Yes? Do
- 18:51Speaker 2: I still love it?
- 18:51Speaker 1: Yes?
- 18:52Speaker 2: But yeah, I think that's part of the big thing.
- 18:55Speaker 2: And and for our listeners, please write in, please let
- 18:59Speaker 2: us know what you or how you navigate your disappointments,
- 19:02Speaker 2: because I know as vast especially right now, and I've
- 19:07Speaker 2: heard from We've heard from many of y'all talking about
- 19:09Speaker 2: how you've been disappointed in your politicians, as your local politicians,
- 19:12Speaker 2: your people who you really thought had your best best
- 19:14Speaker 2: interest and then they come out in a very unexpected way.
- 19:17Speaker 2: How do you navigate that? And then yeah, to your horn,
- 19:20Speaker 2: let us know what's going good and how you are
- 19:22Speaker 2: accomplishing things, because those are the stories we need as
- 19:26Speaker 2: a reminder that, yes, we're going to get past this.
- 19:28Speaker 2: It's going to take a minute, we're going to have
- 19:30Speaker 2: to go through some really dark things together, but in
- 19:32Speaker 2: that end we're going to come out. So yes, thank
- 19:37Speaker 2: you for letting me whine.
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