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Relationship Advice From An Adult Star After 32 Years of Marriage · Sparxxx TV Podcast

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  OK, good. We'll hit the button.
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  It is buttoning. It's not.
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  It is all that shit was captured.
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  It's not. It was stopped it.
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  Why is the fucking going then fucking going?
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  Well, welcome back. Today we're going to talk about
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  relationship. Advice.
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  We're not going to make it through today anymore.
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  We may not. Today's our last of 32 years
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  together. Done.
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  Watch the action today. We'll see if we survive.
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  Come back. Hey,
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  Hey, welcome back. You ready for the advice?
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  I'm not really sure we are. He's already got me crying, so
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  there's that. It's another episode of me
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  having tears. We're going to talk about
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  relationship advice today. I don't know how good it's going
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  to be. Well, that was it, goodbye.
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  Make sure to subscribe and all that.
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  Come back the next time because we have no idea what we're
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  doing. Yeah, relationship advice.
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  We don't know if we're doing it right either.
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  But yeah, before we get started, before I give my words of
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  wisdom. Make sure to subscribe to all of
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  her socials weights in the bottom.
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  But yeah, subscribe hit the like button notification button so
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  that you can. Leave a comment because yeah.
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  Comments. Oh man, 100% I need to calm
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  down. Too much coffee?
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  Yeah. Relax.
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  Bro well I don't like talking about our relationship advice.
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  Anyway, so you could try it the biggest I think, Yeah, yes.
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  Let me see what you have to say. I feel like the biggest thing
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  that we do well is we communicate pretty well.
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  It may be loud sometimes. I had to tell you, be quiet on
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  our walk this. Morning.
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  That's what I'm saying be. Quiet people are around.
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  Be quiet. But we talk about everything,
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  right? So I think that's part of The
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  thing is that we don't really have secrets.
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  There's no like, oh, I didn't, I told my girlfriend and I didn't
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  tell him. We don't really.
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  I don't, I don't have any of those.
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  And I don't think you have any girlfriends to tell.
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  Well try and say I don't have any game.
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  No, I'm just saying, Do you have any gay girlfriends that you
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  talk to? Gay girlfriends.
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  Or I mean, so your one girl, your one friend that's a girl is
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  also friends with me. So that one doesn't count.
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  Because I'm pretty sure you're not telling her.
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  Well, don't tell Lisa, just like I don't tell her not to tell you
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  because we all spend so much time together.
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  But you have to be. But I feel like, I feel like we
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  do that well. I feel like that's part of what
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  our rapport is, part of why we've still been able to make it
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  32 years. Yes, there is a lot of
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  communication, right. There has to be, obviously,
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  especially in this line of business.
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  Well, yeah. Especially in this lot of work
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  and the fact that we work together, you know, we've done
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  all this together. Like all of those things come
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  together. And if you don't, if you can't
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  communicate about it, it's hard, right?
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  So see, I think that's pretty good one.
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  Well. It's all over, right?
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  Goodbye. See you next time.
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  What? What would you say we do well?
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  Why? We've been together for 32
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  years. We sleep in different bedrooms.
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  That's true. And I know people think that's
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  weird because as of, you know, last episode we talked about
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  getting it on in the middle of a room with other people around
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  and nobody knowing because it was the middle of the night.
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  So that's true. It's nice to have your own space
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  it not be in each other's face. Because we work, so we both work
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  from home, right, regular jobs and such things.
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  And and so we're always on top of each other.
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  And when you're always that sounded.
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  Yeah, hey. We're in each.
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  Other we're in each other's space and so if you don't get a
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  good night's sleep, I can tell you if you're not sleeping well,
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  you are going to be angry the next day because you're tired.
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  It just happens. It is what it is.
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  And so a long time ago because I snore and he has a different
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  sleep pattern. You used to snore.
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  You don't. That's true anymore.
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  I. Don't snore anymore, You're
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  right. That was when you were really
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  getting up there. But you look good now.
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  Thanks. See, I gave her a compliment.
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  Give compliments. Compliments those backhanded
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  compliments, but but compliments none.
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  Hey I. Will take it.
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  They're there. They're like the flowers I tried
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  and she didn't like them. Well, flowers I do.
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  Love a good compliment, but yeah, so when we started
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  sleeping in separate rooms, we were getting better sleep and we
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  noticed that we were just more functionally happy.
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  And the real reason is she has rules.
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  You can't roll over more than three times or she starts
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  grumbling. That's not true.
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  I do like my covers. She.
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  She communicates very well that there are rules when you're in
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  the bed. I make my bed every morning and
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  I and I don't like the covers to kind of just go everywhere.
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  So like I sleep very like confined like a burrito rules
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  and he sleeps very. Like lots of rules.
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  They're not rules, it's just it's the way.
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  Why you flip so much? Why you?
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  Turned I never once asked you how why you flip so much.
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  No, you don't. So that's not a rule because.
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  I've done. Actions speak louder than words
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  anyway. Are you done yet?
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  Well, it's because I want you to get comfortable so we can fall
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  asleep. Huh.
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  We do, but when we travel we don't get too bad.
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  That's why I have a different room.
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  We sleep in. One bed I stand behind my.
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  Statement, but it is but it is good though.
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  It is and, and so I think the people that were in like the
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  40s, thirties, 40s and 50s, they had it.
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  They knew what they were doing. That's why they all stayed
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  married as long as they did. They're like 60-70 years because
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  they realized that if you don't have good sleep, you're just
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  going to be angry asshole anyway.
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  So it is what it is. But yeah.
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  And I think the other thing is, is that we're actually really
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  good friends. Like outside of everything else,
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  we could, we have lots of the same interests in common.
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  And so we can go do out like we, we could be super angry and
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  still go out to dinner like with our friends and still have a
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  good time because we're friends. So we leave all that like
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  whatever, we don't fight as much anymore just because I think
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  we've realized that it's there's really no point in fighting.
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  She doesn't listen anyway, so it's no point.
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  There's no winner. It's.
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  Not true if there is no winner or loser because you choose you
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  choose each other every day. So I'm not you're not going
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  anywhere and I'm not going anywhere.
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  So if we keep arguing about the same stuff, it just becomes
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  silly. I'm just getting old and gave
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  up. But when do you say things that
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  I need to change about myself? I try, I, I can't guarantee I'm
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  going to do it because I'm, I'm almost 50 and you're almost, you
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  know, we're in our 50s and we're set in our ways.
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  Well, I'm just saying we've been doing the same thing since we
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  were kids. So like some of those things I
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  try to change and they may not change, but I do, I do as good
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  as I can for as long as I can. And then I try to reset and do
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  it again. But I try, I try.
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  Project. Right, that's not true.
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  But and the one big thing people that fight about is money and
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  you're always going to fight about money.
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  So don't stress on it because it's going to happen.
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  There's never enough because we're not not we're not all
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  e-mail Elon Musk with like billions of dollars.
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  I don't. Know we haven't thought about
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  money at long. Well, because we have, I mean,
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  we have money now. We have more money now.
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  So but when you're first married, that's like the biggest
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  thing that everybody fights about is you don't have any
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  money because you're first, you're just getting married and,
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  you know, everything's a stress and you're young and.
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  Well, most people have kids in their house, too.
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  That's true. So you don't have your space.
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  Yeah. And you're always busy.
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  So we get it. Yeah, we've been there.
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  And that's the thing when you have children, you have to
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  remember date nights for yourself because once those kids
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  are gone and you're empty nesting, you kind of look at
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  each other and go. Who are you?
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  Yeah. What?
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  What was that? So if you keep that, you know,
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  little, the little romancey little date night here and
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  there, it's fun. It's fun.
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  Go away on a lot of vacations, laugh a lot.
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  I think we laugh a lot. I mean I literally cry every
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  time laughing before we start these things because he's got me
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  in tears making me giggle so. You guys miss all the good
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  stuff. And it's all the good stuff out,
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  but I have to fix my face so that I, you know, like pretty.
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  But what else? What else do you think?
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  I mean, 32 years is a really long time and it's just wild.
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  Oh, I got 1. That I that we've been married,
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  that one. I got 1.
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  Go for it. We are too lazy to see others.
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  That's absolutely not true. We're just set in our ways and
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  gave up. I could find something
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  relatively quickly, I'm just saying.
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  Could you? I could, I've seen some of the
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  choice. Oh, I mean, it may not be, it
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  may not be as good a choice as you, but I can find somebody.
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  It would take me a while to find somebody as.
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  You're never going to find a published author or professional
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  athlete. You're never going to find this.
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  And do you think you should find anybody as good as me?
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  No. Exactly.
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  So see that's. There are options, but no.
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  There's always options, but that's why that see, that's why
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  that works. But comment below if you have
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  any other advice for us. If somebody's been married for a
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  very long time and you guys want to share with us some of your
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  things that maybe we could do to be better, but our anniversary
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  is coming up so. Send her flowers.
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  Yeah, yeah. Feel free to.
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  Because I'm not going to. It's perfectly fine.
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  I'm OK with not getting flowers because they really do just die.
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  August 12th is our anniversary. Yeah, August 12th.
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  You can send me flowers. Two years.
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  Send them. Send them virtual flowers.
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  It'll be fun. There's a Venmo link in the in
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  the description, so use that feel.
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  Free to send us cash. We'll go out on a date.
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  Yeah. Yeah, they'll pay.
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  For that I did put a Venmo. Did you?
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  Really. Yeah, That's pretty good.
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  What timing? What preciseness.
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  What a good guy I. Know.
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  Dang, if it wasn't for me, where would you be?
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  Where would I be? If her hands weren't on camera,
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  she'd probably be pinching my skin.
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  I'd be like Jo Koy. Who's laughing now?
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  And. If you got that reference, I
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  love it. Sorry, sorry, sorry.
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  If you can't tell, we are we. Are huge Joey Co fan?
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  Joe Coy fan. Just butchered his name, sorry.
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  Sorry, sorry. That's a good one.
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  Sorry, Joe Coy, I love you. Subscribe to the channel.
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  Tell your friends 'cause sharing is caring.
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  Oh, I care. I know.
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  You do care. Do you care a lot?
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  I got it, I got it. I I got the reference 9. 19 Lisa
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