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How do narcissists feel when they see you happy with someone else · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite self aware narcissist Mr. Lee Hammock
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This the first time I said my
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  face or hear my lovely voice. I am a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and I use my platform on social media to raise
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  awareness for NPD, get more people into therapy like myself
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  and also help validate the victim.
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  Survivors and thriverers of said disorder said toxic people said
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  toxic traits. Today's episode is going to be
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  about how do narcissists feel. How would a narcissist feel if
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  they see you happy and moved on with someone else?
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  If they think that you're If they hear that you're happy and
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  moved on with someone else. Woof woof, woof.
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  whatnot. But yeah, so how do narcissists
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  feel? How would a narcissist feel if
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  they see you happy? It moved on on social media.
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  And if they see you walking down the street holding hands with
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  your new Boo, whatever it is, Yeah, First off, this is going
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  to sound weird. I'm going to This is going to
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  sound weird. I know it is, but sometimes in a
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  narcissist mind this makes them feel vindicated.
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  Like if they see you happy with someone else, in some narcissist
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  minds they already thought that you were cheating on them
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  because they're so paranoid. They already thought you were
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  cheating on them. So the fact that you moved on
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  makes sense. The fact that you moved on makes
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  sense to them. You see what I'm saying?
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  That happens quite a bit in these situations right here.
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  Like if, oh, I knew, I knew I knew she was cheating on me.
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  I knew she was cheating. I already knew she was cheating
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  on me. That's why she moved.
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  That's why she that's always she happy.
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  You know what I mean? That's the only reason she's
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  happy. I knew I knew she would.
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  That's why they they or you know when they can be, when they can
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  be narcissist as well, y'all. But they see you with someone
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  else, they automatically think you were talking to that person.
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  Like some of them automatically think that you were talking to
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  that person while you were with it.
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  Yeah, yeah, they already some, some.
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  Some of them already think that, especially especially if it's
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  somebody they know. If it's something like, let's
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  just say me and my part, me and my partner or whatever broke up
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  and whatever I did to them, you know, I'm an artist.
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  So I treated them badly. Whatever they we ended up
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  breaking up. And nowadays I see them with
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  somebody else and it's somebody that I know and somebody that we
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  knew together. I automatically think that they
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  were always messing around and sometimes what sometimes could
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  they have already been? Yeah, you know what I mean?
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  Nobody to tell people. It's just like if you end up
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  dating one of your friends, like after you leave a narcissistic
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  tastic relationship, you're dating somebody that you told
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  them not to worry about. You look kind of toxic yourself
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  in the narcissist's mind. And not maybe there's not just a
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  Narciss in other people's minds like also y'all been friends for
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  this long and you keep y'all both telling people not to
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  worry. Now you'll end up together.
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  You see how there. You see how there's that right
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  there. That's a little red flaggie.
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  You see what I'm saying? But there's a little red flaggie
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  right there. But this is how it goes.
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  But another way a narcissist could feel.
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  If they see you moved on, and this is going to sound weird
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  right here, y'all, they might take credit for your new
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  happiness. They might take credit, they
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  might see you happy and move there with someone else.
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  And they might take credit for you being able to be with that
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  person. You know, I'd rather see them
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  happy with someone else than, you know, I'm the type of person
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  that I want to see. My ex is happy, even if it's
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  without me. See, the only reason that
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  they're happy right now, they had to go through me like, we
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  struggle. We fought, we fight.
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  We we fought, I cheated, I abused.
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  And they, they left me or I left them and then I had to release
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  them. And they found a home.
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  They found a new home, like a baby bird.
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  They found a new home like a baby bird.
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  So this that the new love that they have is because of me.
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  Like I prepared them for this new love you.
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  They will take credit for your new relationship.
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  Y'all, does any of this matter? It doesn't matter how the artist
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  feels, but like this is the mindset of it right here.
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  Y'all they might take credit for you being in a happy, healthy
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  new relationship. And I know that.
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  Again, I know that sounds weird to say.
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  I understand that. The fact that that sounds weird.
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  I get it because it is weird. It's not.
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  It just doesn't sound weird. It absolutely is weird, you
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  know, because that's the mindset of a lot of narcissistic people.
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  They wanted to. Some of them will take credit
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  for your happiness. Some of them will take credit
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  for where you are right now. Some of them, because they put
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  you through a struggle, they feel like your success is
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  because they put you through a struggle.
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  You had to suffer through them or suffer with them to get to
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  where you are right now. That's the mindset that some
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  narcissist people have. They'll take credit for your new
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  happiness. And it sounds stupid because
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  yeah, it is kind of stupid. You put your you put.
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  You thought I was thinking about it, but that's how some
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  narcissists feel, Y'all. They feel like you are only
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  happy because they allow you to be happy.
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  Like you had to go through me to get your happiness, and here you
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  are right now, happy and smiling because of me.
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  That's the mindset that some of them have.
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  Y'all again, that's that's wildness, another way a
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  narcissist could act. If they see you happy in person
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  or online or whatever, they can snap, they could go, they can
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  lose. Yeah, they can lose their damn
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  minds. Let's just put it like that.
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  They can lose their minds. You know, a lot of narcissistic
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  people are emotionally dysregulated.
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  This could call this. This could be the Mentos that
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  gets dropped into the Cocacola that makes it explode.
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  They see you happy with someone else.
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  They might lose their damn minds and go crazy.
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  They might become obsessive. They might try to attack you and
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  your new partner in public or online or something like that.
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  They might start a smear campaign against you.
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  They might start stalking you. They might start showing up at
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  your house. They might start writing you
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  letters calling you. They might become super
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  obsessive with you if you moved on.
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  No matter. And this is like that.
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  There's no set time limit on when this can happen.
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  Y'all. There's no set time limit on
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  when this possibility could happen right here.
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  So they could this, this could be months, this could be years
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  later. They see you happy with somebody
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  else and they lose their damn minds because a lot of them
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  still think that you belong to them.
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  I know we broke up. I know this has happened.
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  I know that has happened. But you still belong to me.
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  You see how the mindset goes right there?
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  You belong to me. That's the dynamics.
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  They think you belong to them. You know what I mean?
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  They think part of it is you belong to them.
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  They think this is the space that a lot of people fall into.
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  You belong to me always and forever.
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  And here's the kicker. Here's the kicker right here.
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  Y'all y'all know y'all love a good kicker.
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  It doesn't matter if they have somebody else.
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  Sometimes, even sometimes, even if they have someone else, even
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  if they listen to me, even if they have someone else, they'll
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  still stalk and harass you and try to ruin your new
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  relationship. They become obsessive over it.
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  Even if they have someone else, you hear me correctly.
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  Even if they have moved on to someone else's or in a
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  successful relationship, they can still do this to you.
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  You know, that's part of it. That's part of the dynamic.
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  Even if they are happy with somebody else, they see you
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  happy. They would they might try to
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  ruin your happiness while simultaneously being in the new
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  relationship and guess what happens y'all.
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  Sometimes they start stalking you and harassing you.
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  They get the new supply or the new partner to jump in to join
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  in on it. They get their new partner, new
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  supply, whatever to join in on the harassment and abuse, the
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  abuse cycle and it's crazy as hell how that works.
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  Like abuse. They they it's like they tagged
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  that, they tagged their new supply in.
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  I just saw my ex and they did this to me and they create they
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  they create an enemy out of the new supply for you.
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  Even if you look, even if you've never ever met the new supply,
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  even if you never met the new supply, you got a new enemy.
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  Now you've been supplied with a new enemy because the
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  narcissistic person has started spreading rumors and lies and
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  stuff like that to justify their behaviors and their actions
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  towards you. So some of them will absolutely
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  lose their mind and become jealous of who you ever you were
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  with. They might actually start
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  reaching out to your new partner.
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  You know, I've seen this happen before.
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  Like I had a woman message me very recently.
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  So I've heard this story before. You know, over the last few
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  years doing my one on ones. I've talked to thousands of the
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  people. But I've also heard this story
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  before. A woman, she actually, she
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  actually pretty popular online see me a message And she's like,
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  she moved on. The narcissist, the person her
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  life cheated on her. They broke up.
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  Six months later, she's in a new relationship.
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  The narcissistic person sees her downtown with her new Boo and
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  attacked and tries to fight the new person sick.
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  This is six months later, Y'all. Six months later, sees sees them
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  downtown, there but no contact, sees them in public and tries to
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  fight her new partner. Like, oh, you see who you with
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  now? Wow, wow, What's going on?
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  Like, you know, become super obsessive and tries to fight her
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  new partner. They actually end up scuffling a
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  little bit. But like, I think the police got
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  involved really, really quickly and it was just it ended up
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  being wild y'all and it just goes to kind of goes to show you
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  that some narcissistic people will absolutely, even if they've
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  moved on, even if they haven't talked to you in six months,
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  they see you happy. That might be, like I said, the
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  spark that set out that sets off the blaze within themselves.
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  And that's like I said that and that right?
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  That just becomes toxic. That that just becomes toxic and
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  it becomes just an unnecessary thing right there.
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  And I tell people y'all, a lot of these times narcissistic
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  person, they do this type of stuff, y'all have to set you
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  off. You mean they want to see if you
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  still care about them. So they will absolutely try to
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  ruin your new relationship to see if you still care about
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  them, you know? And they won't.
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  The crazy somebody is they might not even leave.
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  They might not even leave their new partner.
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  They'll still, but they still want you back in their life.
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  They still want some type of control over you.
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  So they see you in public. I said they might start
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  harassing you, they might start stalking you and they that's
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  just the mindset of it all. Y'all non statistic people are
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  very ownership driven, like ownership mindset.
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  Like I've if I laid my hands on you before we touched before, if
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  I said I loved you before, if I lied to you before, whatever it
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  is they they feel like they planted a seed of ownership
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  within you, within you and they feel like they you belong to
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  them. There's no no way around it.
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  They feel like you belong to them and they just will.
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  They will exercise their rights if they feel, if they feel the
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  need to, y'all, you know. So if I tell people, y'all
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  narcissistic people, talk to people, whoever you're dealing
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  with, wherever you're coming from with it, be careful.
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  Like I'm not telling you. I'm not telling you not to move
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  on. I'm not.
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  This is not me telling you. I'm sure to move on.
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  This is not me telling you not to move on, move on.
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  But always be safe. And especially if you're dealing
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  with a toxic, dangerous, narcissistic person, always be
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  safe. Always.
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  You know, protect your peace, protect yourself.
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  Because they might come out of nowhere.
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  Y'all. Like I said, there's a few
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  different ways that they will react.
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  But it ended. At the end of the day, it
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  doesn't matter how they feel, it matters how you feel.
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  Now their actions, their actions warrant you warrant you taking
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  action against them legally. Do that.
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  But the end of the day is how you feel.
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  That person, that narcissistic person, they're acting up
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  because they messed up and they did.
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  Now they mad as hell that they're being held accountable
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  through your happiness. Your happiness brings them
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  shame. Your happiness brings back the
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  memories of them treating you badly and now they now they
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  can't get get the thought of you out of their mind being with
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  somebody else and it drives them crazy sometimes.
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