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DLHS Hour 2 | Women with Money Do Not Need a Man · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: The question we're asking, so a woman, she says this.
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  Speaker 2: Man with money is expected to share, but a woman
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  Speaker 2: with money is told she doesn't need a man. Same income,
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  Speaker 2: totally different rules.
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  Speaker 1: I think that there's something to be said.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, not in a disrespectful way at all, but
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  Speaker 3: I think if the most insulting thing you could do
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  Speaker 3: to a woman is ask for your change back. I
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  Speaker 3: think they get insulted by that. I think if you,
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  Speaker 3: anything financial.
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  Speaker 1: There is an inherent.
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  Speaker 3: bent toward it being the purview and responsibility of the man.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think you guys make it that way. No,
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  Speaker 1: we didn't make it that way. Society made it that way.
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  Speaker 1: But you went right along with it. You went right
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  Speaker 1: along with it. You went right along with it. We
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  Speaker 1: were indoctrinated just like you were indoctrinated. We were too.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't my fault.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sure I'd benefit from it, but it wasn't my fault.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't make the rules. I'm not casting blame here, darling.
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  Speaker 1: Sounds like blame. Just not at all. Sounds like blame.
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  Speaker 3: I'm trying to be more reasonable because y'all white women
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  Speaker 3: here are calling police.
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  Speaker 1: It'll be a SWAT team in here so fast. You
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  Speaker 1: got the Karen cut.
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  Speaker 5: Not quite sundown yet.
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  Speaker 1: You're safe. You won't get me. So, yeah, I think
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  Speaker 1: that there's some merit to it.
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  Speaker 3: I do.
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  Speaker 1: I think that, you know, culturally, I think that societally. Uh, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they are. Yeah, but I mean, there are a lot
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  Speaker 1: of dudes I know who live off women too now
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  Speaker 1: these days.
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  Speaker 6: No, for sure.
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  Speaker 4: But okay, let me, let me just say this. I
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  Speaker 4: know without a doubt that more of, if your daughter
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  Speaker 4: called you and said that I'm taking care of this dude,
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  Speaker 4: that right there, you.
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  Speaker 1: Heard that noise, that's a blowgun. A high powered blowgun.
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  Speaker 1: That might have been five. Yeah, we have, we have
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  Speaker 1: a blowgun and some other, you know, so to your point.
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  Speaker 3: He's sucking on the frog, you know how they did,
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  Speaker 3: pointing the frog.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, that would be an issue for me.
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  Speaker 6: Of course.
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  Speaker 8: Is there a difference between taking care of a man
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  Speaker 8: and contributing to the households?
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  Speaker 1: Well, no. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Like where he's from, they hunt and then women go
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  Speaker 3: to the river and beat clothes against rocks.
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  Speaker 1: So it's not... They're called gatherers. Hunters and gatherers. And
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  Speaker 1: sweep out the hype. You know, important things.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You know how much a dowry was? Do you know that?
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  Speaker 1: But it's true. And Skip, I'm sure you tell the
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  Speaker 1: same thing to your daughter.
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  Speaker 4: Because I think there is a certain kind of, I
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  Speaker 4: don't know, kind of opinion that goes with it. That
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  Speaker 4: if you have to depend on a man, not speaking
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  Speaker 4: about marriage, but in a relationship, some men will hold
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  Speaker 4: that over you.
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  Speaker 1: And you'll be like, you owe them something.
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  Speaker 3: If you have to depend on a man in my household,
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  Speaker 3: if you have to depend on a man... You're a
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  Speaker 3: horrible lesbian. I'm just telling you that. You're doing it
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  Speaker 3: all wrong.
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  Speaker 1: Sounds a little close to home. I think we need
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  Speaker 1: to move on. Speak your truth, brother. Skip, what do
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  Speaker 1: you think?
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  Speaker 8: I mean, I think we were all taught that.
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  Speaker 1: It was, you know, Dr.
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  Speaker 8: Ned, you got a son, you take care of your woman.
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  Speaker 8: And if you got a daughter, hey, your man's supposed
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  Speaker 8: to take care of you. And then you pocket your
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  Speaker 8: money in case of this emergency, a rainy day, you
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  Speaker 8: should be able to take care of yourself. And so, yeah,
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  Speaker 8: there's some truth to that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. So this is the question we're asking.
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  Speaker 2: Man with money is expected to share, but a woman
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  Speaker 2: with money is told she doesn't need a man. Same income,
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  Speaker 2: totally different rules.
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  Speaker 1: Did she have a point? We're going right to the phones.
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  Speaker 1: I think she is so right.
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  Speaker 6: I think women are not acting like women.
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  Speaker 9: I do believe that men are supposed to, you know,
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  Speaker 9: be the head, not the tail.
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  Speaker 10: But, you know, eventually when women get up into life
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  Speaker 10: and get their money right, they are.
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  Speaker 5: They're like, okay, queen, you're good.
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  Speaker 6: No, you always need a man.
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  Speaker 10: That's why God made men and made women, so we
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  Speaker 10: can be with a man.
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  Speaker 7: But, you know, it is.
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  Speaker 6: What it is.
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  Speaker 11: First of all, from a man's perspective, a woman should
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  Speaker 11: not think she needs a man. A woman should want
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  Speaker 11: a man. The other thing is, what other people think
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  Speaker 11: about you ain't none of your business. So if they
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  Speaker 11: think you're cheap, you ain't gonna change their mind.
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  Speaker 10: I totally disagree with that because throughout my marriage with
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  Speaker 10: my husband, we've been married for over 38 years. And
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  Speaker 10: I have always been the, I guess, I don't know
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  Speaker 10: what you call it, the majority income provider or whatever.
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  Speaker 12: But.
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  Speaker 11: I've never expected.
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  Speaker 10: Him to match my income because he can't match my education.
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  Speaker 10: He can't match my experience. All I ever expected from
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  Speaker 10: him was that he provides some sort of support in
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  Speaker 10: our household. But I have always been the majority earner.
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  Speaker 10: And he's never had a problem with that. And so
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  Speaker 10: it's never been, you know, in my household, it's never
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  Speaker 10: been understood that if he makes more money, he pays
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  Speaker 10: more bills. If I make more money, then I keep
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  Speaker 10: my money. That's not how it works.
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  Speaker 11: I agree with what she said in theory, but a
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  Speaker 11: woman should be taught to want a man, to want
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  Speaker 11: his companionship, to want his love. When you start talking
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  Speaker 11: about you don't need a man, needs can be water, air.
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  Speaker 11: And when your needs are not met, your first thing
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  Speaker 11: you do is look for a way to go and
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  Speaker 11: get the things that you need. You don't need a man.
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  Speaker 11: You should want a man. You should want him because
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  Speaker 11: he's a man.
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  Speaker 1: A question we're asking, ladies and gentlemen, a woman said this.
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  Speaker 2: Man with money is expected to share, but a woman
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  Speaker 2: with money is told she doesn't need a man. Same income,
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  Speaker 2: totally different rules. Let me explain before you get mad.
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  Speaker 2: In our culture, men are taught from day one that
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  Speaker 2: if they're not earning, they're failing. If they can't provide,
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  Speaker 2: they're not real men. If they don't pick up the check,
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  Speaker 2: they're broker stingy. A man's value is often reduced to
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  Speaker 2: his financial output. Now flip the script. When women become successful,
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  Speaker 2: we don't expect them to carry anybody. In fact, we
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  Speaker 2: celebrate it as a form of freedom. Yes, queen, you're independent.
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  Speaker 2: She doesn't need a man. He's expected to provide, but
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  Speaker 2: she's expected to escape. Because if we really want partnership,
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  Speaker 2: then we need to stop placing all the financial burden
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  Speaker 2: on one side while celebrating freedom on the other.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think? Does she have a point? We're
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  Speaker 1: going right to the phones.
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  Speaker 9: I believe that situation is taken out of context. Women
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  Speaker 9: have been told forever that we need a man to
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  Speaker 9: take care of us, provide for us. And I don't
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  Speaker 9: feel that a woman means she doesn't need a man
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  Speaker 9: in the sense that she doesn't want.
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  Speaker 13: To be with a man.
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  Speaker 9: I think we just enjoy that we can take care
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  Speaker 9: of ourselves. I don't know about the rest of the women.
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  Speaker 9: I want a man. I got a man. But I
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  Speaker 9: can take care of myself.
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  Speaker 14: That's the same thing as saying when you're in a relationship,
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  Speaker 14: a man is supposed to.
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  Speaker 4: Pay 100% of the bills.
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  Speaker 14: While the woman's money is used just to make her
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  Speaker 14: look single and independent.
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  Speaker 6: Okay, I've been in that position before. I've had a
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  Speaker 6: controlling ex-husband for 12 years. So when I left, I
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  Speaker 6: was completely broke because I wasn't allowed to leave or anything.
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  Speaker 6: But I completely agree with her, whoever said that, because
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  Speaker 6: I was a single mom at three when I left.
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  Speaker 6: And I had a 14-year-old, a six-year-old, and a four-year-old.
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  Speaker 6: So I struggled. So I ended up working two jobs
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  Speaker 6: and getting myself off my feet. I'm a home health
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  Speaker 6: aide now. Working with people with Alzheimer's and dementia, but yeah,
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  Speaker 6: I back that question because you never know what's going
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  Speaker 6: to happen when they're in control of the money. You're
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  Speaker 6: going to be just out of luck.
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  Speaker 7: Women who make the money think they are privileged enough
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  Speaker 7: that a man that makes less than them is beneath them,
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  Speaker 7: which I think is wrong. Because if a man makes
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  Speaker 7: the money and he finds a broke woman, he is
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  Speaker 7: supposed to provide and be the protector. But if a
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  Speaker 7: woman makes the money, she still wants the man to
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  Speaker 7: be the provider and the protector, and she uses her
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  Speaker 7: money for herself. But I think that is wrong. But
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  Speaker 7: in today's society, most men, when they run across a
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  Speaker 7: woman that makes the majority of the money, keep it
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  Speaker 7: moving because it's a headache.
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  Speaker 5: It could be true. It's kind of like you have
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  Speaker 5: a daughter and they say whether she be pretty or smart.
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  Speaker 5: I saw in an interview the ex-Diane Carroll that, and
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  Speaker 5: she didn't answer. Because pretty girls are taught you will
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  Speaker 5: always find somebody to take care of, so it's kind
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  Speaker 5: of up in the air.
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  Speaker 13: Drop that culture. When I say that, as far as
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  Speaker 13: men and women, when men and women get together and
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  Speaker 13: have a relationship, then it needs to be us. So
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  Speaker 13: whatever income is coming in, whether it's his income, her income,
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  Speaker 13: bring it together. The income needs to be run together
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  Speaker 13: and let's think what we're doing for us. What are
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  Speaker 13: we doing for our family? What are we doing for
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  Speaker 13: each other? And all that individualism goes away when you
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  Speaker 13: come together in a relationship, dare I say marriage, with somebody.
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  Speaker 13: It's a collective thing.
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  Speaker 5: My thought is the opposite end. What about those couples
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  Speaker 5: where their husband asks the wife to give up her
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  Speaker 5: job so she can be a stay-at-home mother? And keep
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  Speaker 5: in mind, a stay-at-home mother that's taking care of the household,
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  Speaker 5: that's work too. And then they just get a divorce
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  Speaker 5: and then he doesn't want to recognize or give her
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  Speaker 5: anything as for equity because he doesn't recognize what she
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  Speaker 5: did had any monetary value. So that question goes both ways.
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