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The Meaning of Pizza · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop.
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  Along with all her chickens. Hey, good morning from the
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  chicken coop. Today, I want to ask you about
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  defining things, it seems like a very strange question, right?
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  Like defining things, what does that mean?
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  Well, basically, everything going to be sarcastic, but it
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  is, it's everything. How we Define things shapes our
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  lives. And while we all have
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  dictionaries, and we all understand certain things, and
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  we've been taught, what certain words?
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  Mean, I'm are quoting that, by the way, what they mean to us is
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  What really matters because if we don't understand how we
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  Define things, then we end up doing ourselves a lot of damage
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  because nine times out of ten, those definitions are more of a
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  reaction than a definition and we end up leaving people who are
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  in our lives dealing with the Carnage of our moods.
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  When we start to react in ways about these definitions that
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  we've created when it comes to anything.
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  So let's Take an example of, you know, you go to a restaurant
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  you're sitting in a restaurant. Think this is a common example
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  for all of us and the waitress takes a long time to come over
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  to the table. You have an opportunity in that
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  moment to sit there and think to yourself, okay?
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  They must be really busy in this restaurant because she's not
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  showing up. You could also make it mean, she
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  has no idea what she's doing. She's a terrible.
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  Waitress, why is she not showing up?
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  At the table. It could mean, oh, I bet they
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  don't have the right supplies tonight because we all know how
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  that's going right now where there's such supply shortages
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  everywhere. So they, there's you know, not
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  enough, he in here, not enough supplies are running out of
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  things, and they're still trying to do business.
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  So annoying, Really what's happening in the moment is you
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  just haven't been waited on, you're sitting at a table, you
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  haven't been waited on. And in that time that short span
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  of time, maybe let's use a scenario of like, six minutes.
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  Seven minutes. You have no one said.
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  Hello. No one's given you menus.
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  You have made it mean all these different things.
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  You also probably gone because if you're like me, you've gone
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  to my certainty girl. Driving.
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  Oh God. Does this mean we're not going
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  to get our food quickly? Does this mean?
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  We're going to have to sit here? That means, I can't order
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  anything special from the kitchen because I'm sure the
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  kitchen is not going to be able to get this, right?
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  And I wonder if it's going to take them forever, to get it out
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  of the, take out of the kitchen to the table, and oh my God, I
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  hope she doesn't come over frazzle because I can't stand
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  that energy because that my friends is what goes on in my
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  head, when I tell you, it's hard to be in my head, you have no
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  idea. This is why I do what I do
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  because I understand it so well and I can help people through
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  it. And that that amount of
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  ridiculousness that I I just described to you is really what
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  goes on in my head, I'm not even joking, my husband will attest
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  to it. Yes.
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  And I sometimes say it all out loud to him and then he's like,
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  oh my God. What goes on in your head?
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  So point is, it's been a short period of time.
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  And here we are sitting there making all of this up and
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  before, you know, it, the person comes over to the table and we
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  have a whole story in our head about what that little span of
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  time has actually meant She starts to wait on you, and she
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  seems frazzled. She seems like she's
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  overwhelmed. Maybe they opened and they don't
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  have enough workers. But everybody's trying to regain
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  their business, get back on track and they're doing the best
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  they can with what they have. But you have also now started to
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  pick up on her energy and said, oh my God.
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  No no I just don't I don't want this.
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  This is not good for me. This isn't going to be great and
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  this is something that Is going to impede your whole evening now
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  because you're focused on this rather than just letting it go.
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  Now the scenario I'm talking about is a scenario that happens
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  to us here where we live at a pizza place and I wanted to use
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  a real scenario and what happens to me and my family because I
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  think it's so important to know that even me doing what I do.
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  I have these moments and I have a particular when I'm telling
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  you the story, it's real. There's a waitress that whenever
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  she comes to the table. I pick up on her energy right
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  away and I'm like, oh God. And it's come to the point now
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  where I want to find a new pizza place.
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  And my husband really likes the pizza at this place and I'm just
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  like, oh, please not her anybody.
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  But her, here's the truth. I can go in there and I can have
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  pizza and I can let it all go and I can change what it means
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  to me. I can change what it means to
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  me. If I do it before I go, and if I
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  choose To say, okay, this is not a big deal.
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  Why am I uptight about this? What is the reason that this has
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  such? A hold on me.
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  But if he just says to me out of the blue, hey, you want to go
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  grab pizza? I immediately Panic.
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  Why it's Pizza think about this? It's Pizza.
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  What am I doing? What I'm doing is having an
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  emotional reaction to something because I've had those
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  experiences where they make you wait.
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  They make you wait. They make you wait, is the food
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  worth it? Yeah, the food is actually
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  really great. The pizza is great.
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  But their service not-so-great, the people they hire, you know,
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  they are who they are. And I think they're, in
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  overwhelmed based on the conditions that they are being
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  asked to work in, but they're showing up every day and they're
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  making an effort. So the point of me telling you
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  the story today is we get to decide what things mean to us.
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  Can I ultimately say to my husband and do I ultimately say
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  to my husband? I would not prefer to go to the
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  pizza place tonight. I just don't have the bandwidth
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  to deal with her, if she's there.
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  Yes, do I say that 100%. But there are also times when
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  I'm like, no, it's totally fine. I'm okay.
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  I can choose something different.
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  And the point is I want you to think about this because you
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  have the ultimate decision of what things mean to you and what
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  you do with them and my goal is to be able to say at any point
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  in time. Yeah, I can go there and not
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  have anybody pushing my buttons because remember as dr.
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  Wayne Dyer brilliantly said it's not their fault for pushing your
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  buttons, it's your All for having the buttons they push and
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  that ultimately comes down to what we make things mean.
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  And if I can control the meaning of things that I have, my my
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  complete inner worlds, in control, as far as letting
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  somebody in and disturbing it. So this is the beginning of
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  this, my friends and this is what I want you to focus on.
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  Okay. Remember you have the ultimate
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  choice? Just like I have to remember
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  that when it comes to Pizza. Alright I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.