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YEAR END DEBRIEF - QUESTION 7 · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the Chicken Coop, still cold, still
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  freezing? My butt off.
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  Can't take it. Hopefully we're almost out of
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  this. So today we are talking about
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  how you define success in the past year.
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  So when you start your debriefing your year and you're
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  looking at it, how are you defining?
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  The success is you had? Are you truly looking at all the
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  little things, as well as the big things or you still not even
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  allowing yourself, the big ones and just sitting there and
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  saying, well, when This happens, then I'll be able to celebrate
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  or, you know, letting it go so far that you never actually get
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  a win. If there's one thing that I
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  consistently see among many, many of my clients and the other
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  coaches that I regularly converse with say the same
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  thing, how you know, what do we need to do?
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  How do we get our clients to really celebrate the smaller
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  wins right along with the bigger ones?
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  It's the essential question that none of us can really do much
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  about until you. Decide that you want to do it.
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  So for me I will tell you I have broken down my process of how I
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  define success. Because what's so important to
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  me is that I do have successes along the way every day, because
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  if I don't I know it will take me out quicker than lightning.
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  I refer to myself as a self-proclaimed gold star girl
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  and I genuinely mean it. I want the gold stars.
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  I have sticker books, I reward myself with stickers, I use
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  little gold stars right up. Up to big, giant glorious
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  stickers, that I buy. Always felt like my teachers in
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  school were very stingy with the stickers.
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  So I go ahead and I by myself stickers.
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  Now, am I put them into my journals?
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  I put them into all my little booklets that I keep track of
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  things in and it makes me feel very very accomplished when I
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  know that I'm giving myself stickers.
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  But really the question is, what am I assigning those stickers
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  to? So like how do you define
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  success for the year when you sit and you break down?
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  And you say, okay well, what did I accomplish this year?
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  The tricky part for most people is if you have not been doing
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  this all year long where you start to get stuck as it's the
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  end of the year and I could say to you, okay, tell me what
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  success is. Did you have this year?
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  You're going to only remember the really tremendously big
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  things because you have recency bias or something that just
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  happened. Recently you're not going to
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  remember all the little tiny ones.
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  You're not going to remember every time that you did all the
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  laundry or that you got the house organized before your
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  weekend or that you did all your shopping and paid your bills.
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  Way ahead of the time, they were supposed to be done, you're just
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  not going to remember it. You it's just does not how the
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  human brain works. So you have to have a plan put
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  together a strategy. See she agrees that you have to
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  have a strategy for how you're going to track?
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  All that, so that you can have that sense of accomplishment not
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  at the end of every year, not at the end of every month, not at
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  the end of every week, but at the end of every day and say,
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  okay, what are my accomplishments?
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  Then you record them somewhere and you have them ready for
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  yourself. So you can go back and this is
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  why we're having this debrief. Because if you've never done
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  that before, you're going to feel the pain of it right now,
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  you're going to feel the pain of looking back at the year and
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  going, well, crap, this sucks. I don't have this.
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  Us down. I don't even know what did I
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  accomplish this year? And most of the time because
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  we're hardwired to look for the problems will say, well clearly
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  I didn't accomplish crap this year.
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  All I did was, you know, make it through the year.
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  I'm exhausted. I don't know.
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  What did I do? Did I meet any of my goals?
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  And we don't have a good strategy.
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  So what's really important is that you understand one, you're
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  going to sit and really work hard at this to figure out what
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  we're my wins. How did I define success for the
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  year and you're going to Get some sort of General debrief,
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  because most of the most likely you didn't, if you did do it
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  fantastic. Add up all your wins.
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  Look at it celebrate because you should be celebrating.
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  I know I'm going to be when I look at everything, at the end
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  of the weekend. I'm going to be absolutely
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  celebrating and feeling amazing about the stuff that I got
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  accomplished. And I'll tell you A lot of it
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  was laundry. A lot of it was small projects,
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  a lot of it was things that most people wouldn't even notice, but
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  I think things like that or wins because it makes you It just
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  makes you feel better in your day.
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  I can't tell you how many clients I have that.
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  Say to me laundry is such a problem.
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  It's always on my bed. I feel like I never stopped.
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  Well, guess what? That's because it's laundry.
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  It never goes away. We will never end up with no
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  laundry. That's just the way it is
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  because you're wearing something.
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  So, no matter by virtue of as long as you have clothes on and
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  you're not a nudist, guess what happens?
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  At the end of every day, there's more laundry.
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  So you can't get upset by those things.
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  You just have to celebrate the wins that you do.
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  With it, if that makes sense. So, really take a hard look and
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  say, if I haven't got a way to define success for this year,
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  then that means, for next year, we have to have a strategy to
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  define the successes and write them all down every day.
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  No matter how small they are, write them all down.
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  It works every single time, I promise you, one of my friends
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  actually saves all of her to-do list and she Clips them together
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  in a big bulldog clip. And by the end of the year, she
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  counts up all of her items and she can look at how many things
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  he's accomplished, can you imagine saving all your to-do
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  list now for me, I like putting all my wins in a journal because
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  I don't always think of my to-do list with little wins, but she
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  has really taken it to a whole new level and I love that.
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  So I'm actually contemplating do I want to save all my to-do list
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  for the year because that may be a really great way to do it, but
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  that's what's going to be fun about figuring out what I'm
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  doing this year or my planning this week.
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  And, but whatever works for you, looking at how you define
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  success for 2022, is going to help you how to define success
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  for 2023. All right, my friends.
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  I will see you tomorrow and hopefully, I won't be so cold
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  with Long John's on. Alright, I hope you guys have a
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  blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.