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Season 3 - Episode 253 - What’s in your cup? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So we're talking today about an analogy that I find to be very
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  helpful. So let's say that you are
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  holding a cup of coffee. Somebody comes along and bumps
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  you, bangs into you, hits your arm, and you spill the coffee
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  everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee?
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  Obviously, you're going to probably think to yourself,
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  well, because someone bumped into me.
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  Yes, that's true on one level, but it's not the level we're
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  going for, the deeper level. Why did you spill the coffee?
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  You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in the cup you
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  were holding. There was coffee in your cup.
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  If there had been something else in the cup, like orange juice or
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  water or tea or whatever, that's what would have spilled out.
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  So this metaphor for life says, and that's really what we're
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  going for with this metaphor for life says, whatever happens to
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  be inside that cup will spill out when something comes along
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  and shakes you. And if it really hits you hard,
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  it might spill everything that you have in your cup, and it
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  might make you feel terrible because therefore you feel like
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  you lost it all. But the point of it is whatever
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  is inside of you will come out when you get rattled.
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  So we have to ask ourselves what's inside that cup so that
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  when I get rattled, am I going back to the principles of the
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  things that I know are important to me to be on point with?
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  And if it's not what you like, if you don't like the answer,
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  then you have to come back and say to yourself, OK, I need to
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  change what's in my cup. Because you're always going to
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  get hit, you're always going to get banged.
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  You're always going to have those little things where
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  someone bumps into you, but our important thing is to keep
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  filling the cup with the stuff that matters, the good stuff,
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  the joy, the the positivity, the resilience.
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  And I'm not talking about somebody said to me the other
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  day with how do you feel about toxic positivity?
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  And I think that's just bull. It's just being, it's using the
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  words in the wrong way. What that's manipulation.
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  That's manipulation. Know the difference.
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  I'm talking genuine positivity. We don't need to have more
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  metaphors and other things out there for labels of bad things
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  that are happening. What we need to do is pay
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  attention to core, core ideas, core principles, core emotions,
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  core feelings. But talking to yourself and
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  figuring out am I spilling something in that, you know,
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  situation When I get shaken, we all are going to spill a little
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  something. Let me be very clear, Even
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  myself, when I get rattled by something, Yeah, you want to see
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  me get rattled, My friends watch it when something kills a
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  chicken and watch me get myself upset.
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  What comes out of me then is just that sheer sadness for
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  something that happened in such a way that was so sad to me.
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  So I I am definitely a person that will cry at the death of an
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  animal on this farm. There is no way I won't cry.
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  It happens every single time. That's what's in my cup.
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  That's what's in my passion for these animals and I, I know
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  heart of hearts. I know heart of hearts.
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  I'm OK with that. So in those situations, it's,
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  it's more than what I could ever.
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  I couldn't change it because it's just how my heart is.
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  I'm very empathetic, especially the things that don't have a
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  voice, the way we have a voice, they have a different voice.
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  You have to learn their language and I have no problem with that.
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  But there are other times when I get something hits me, I get
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  into a disagreement with my husband and something comes out
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  of me and I'm like, I don't like that.
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  I don't like that at all. So how do I show up?
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  I don't want to be that way. I have to regroup.
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  I have to come back around and say if that just came out,
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  that's not who I am. I choose not to have that
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  happen. I choose to look at something in
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  a different way. And that's what I'm talking
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  about. You have to decide what you want
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  to have in that way. You have to decide how you want
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  to fix that. And then then when something
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  bangs into you, something rattles you, something shakes
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  you, you're not going to have such a hard time because it's
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  important to remember what's in that cup and make sure you keep
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  on it because if you don't, it will always sneak up on you.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a very blessed day and
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  I will see you all tomorrow. Bye.