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203. Master the Quick Reset: The Skill of Self-Regulation · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for impact.
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  Hello team, hope you are having a great week.
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  Welcome to the show today. This is going to be a quick one,
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  but it's going to be very important, very powerful.
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  Today in this episode, we're going to talk about one of the
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  skills that you can build that will help you create more
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  success, more peace, more joy and more distinction.
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  As a leader, almost immediately you want to stand out and be in
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  the top percentage of high performing people.
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  Here's the skill Practice your quick reset.
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  Get so skilled at the art of self regulation, meaning you
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  choose the thoughts, feelings and energy that you want to
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  bring to your day. You are in charge and in control
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  of how you are feeling and acting and behaving.
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  And if something throws you off course, which it absolutely will
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  on any given day, get lightning fast at resetting to that higher
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  frequency of energy that you want.
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  If you have a bad morning, don't let it infect your other 15
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  hours that day. Reset and do it as quickly as
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  possible. If you had a tough evening, just
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  get good quality sleep and don't bring that energy into your next
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  day. You know, it's all too common
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  that people today let life's curve balls throw them off their
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  game for a whole day or multiple days on a Friday.
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  They'll complain that they're having a bad week because of
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  something that happened on Monday.
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  I hear this all the time these days.
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  People will let one challenging or bummer of a circumstance
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  affect their whole damn month. Are you kidding me?
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  This happened so often. I'm sure that you've seen this
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  in friends or colleagues, even family members.
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  One of the common things that people will say is that they
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  can't get over things quickly. No Sir, you just haven't been in
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  the practice of self regulation. Whether it's a tough e-mail or a
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  spilled coffee going into work, or bad traffic or a conflict
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  with your Co worker, maybe you dropped the ball on something
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  important. Those things, they're not going
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  to tank your life, So stop acting like they're going to
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  tank your life. Getting in a fight with your
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  kids or your spouse, waking up with your lower back flared up,
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  Having to juggle 10 different meetings that day, maybe hearing
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  some bad news or having to be the one who delivers bad news.
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  That stuff's going to happen. Get used to it and get skilled
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  at navigating it. Practice staying regulated.
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  Practice being more buoyant, like a cork that gets pushed
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  under the water and then it pops back up to the surface.
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  Practice your resilience. Get better at being the captain
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  of your own ship and not just getting tossed in the ways of
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  life all the time. This is kind of a hard thing to
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  say to people. Sometimes it can feel a little
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  bit aggressive as a topic, but we're all intelligent humans
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  here, and we can tell the difference and understand that,
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  yeah, there are some moments in life that are hard to get over.
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  There are. There's some really heavy things
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  that can happen. We've all experienced these
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  things where grief or disappointment or sadness takes
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  some time to process and move through.
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  None of us are strangers to that type of hardship.
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  But that's not what we're talking about in this episode.
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  For the purpose of this conversation, what we're talking
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  about is the everyday stuff that people let run their world and
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  ruin their thoughts and dictate their feelings for that day or
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  that week. That kind of response, it's
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  tough to say it, but it isn't about not being able to process
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  something. That kind of response is about
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  emotional immaturity. It is and lack of skills around
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  emotional regulation. So often I would see this in
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  real time during a day at the clinic when I was seeing 20
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  patients a day. You would have interaction after
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  interaction with people that would show you the different
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  types of emotional regulation that folks were capable of.
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  One patient would come in annoyed, pissed off, bitter
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  about the world because of something like traffic on the
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  way to their appointment or an e-mail that they open right
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  before they walked into the treatment room that had them all
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  upset. And then I would have a patient
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  come in right after that person that would be describing A
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  horrendous divorce that they were navigating or the loss of a
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  parent who they've been caretaking for the last five
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  years. And those people were 10 times
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  more self regulated and not displaying anger and bitterness
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  and negativity. It's so vividly painted the
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  picture of the spectrum of emotional maturity and the
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  ability to self regulate during times of challenge.
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  It was a daily reminder that this was a skill that could be
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  practiced and built up like just like working a muscle.
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  Let me pause here for a second. If you're listening and thinking
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  I'm capable of more or this is the level I want to operate at,
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  this is for you. I work privately with a small
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  number of high performing leaders who are ready to elevate
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  how they show up in their business and in their lives.
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  This isn't motivational coaching, it's precision work.
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  We refine your energy, strengthen your ownership, and
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  eliminate inconsistency so your impact becomes undeniable.
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  If you're ready for that level of growth, book a private call
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  through the link in the show notes.
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  We'll see if it's a fit. All right, back to the episode.
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  So again, if you want to become somebody who stands out from the
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  crowd, somebody who is seen as high functioning, reliable,
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  consistent, highly impactful, maybe somebody who's higher
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  performing, more able to lead, do this one thing, become great
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  at the quick reset. Do it at lightning speed.
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  Remember you had a bad morning. Try to reset by noon.
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  If you had a bad afternoon, reset by the evening.
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  You had a bad evening? Get good sleep and don't bring
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  that energy with you into the next day.
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  Not only will you be better for the people around you, but you
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  will feel better in your own body.
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  You will have a greater sense of internal peace and there's no
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  better gift than that. So I hope this served you today.
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  It is a reminder for myself as well as a reminder for you and
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  all who are listening to become great at a quick reset.
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  I hope this helps. Have a wonderful rest of your
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  week and thank you for being ready to impact.
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  Thanks for. Listening to Impact Ready I hope
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  Recognize that you are powerful. By elevating our energy and
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  awareness, we can create exponential change in this life.
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