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EP 5 - IF HES NOT YEARNING, I DON'T WANT IT · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables, Give it a go if you
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  Speaker 1: want him to want you. You wanted to yearn, you
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  Speaker 1: wanted to ask you to be your girlfriend. You want this,
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  Speaker 1: and you know what, he can give a go his hand.
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  Speaker 1: He can give his hand to go. That's for the rest
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  Speaker 1: and fucking time. Yeah. I like that word yearning. You
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  Speaker 1: want a man, You want your partner to yearn for you.
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  Speaker 1: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Audie Clark aka
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  Speaker 1: Mummy and my partner in crime, mister Jake Craig aka Daddy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah that's me. You know what, you don't sound enthusiastic
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  Speaker 1: to be daddy anymore? Why not? I would say I
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  Speaker 1: am enthusiastic to be daddy because daddy is a state
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  Speaker 1: of mind. Daddy is a state of my Anyway, what
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  Speaker 1: have we got straight up for the Vardies this week?
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  Speaker 1: Oh Jake?
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes more often than not, you like the chit chat
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  Speaker 2: at the start.
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  Speaker 1: Yep. And I said to you today, fuck you, Jake,
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  Speaker 1: enough chat chit chat. We're gonna go straight into the
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  Speaker 1: i G question, which is things men do that live
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  Speaker 1: rent free in your head? Yep.
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  Speaker 2: And you could have taken this two ways, couldn't you badies. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: you could have rent free in a good way or
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  Speaker 2: rent free in a bad way.
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  Speaker 1: Do you reckon?
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  Speaker 2: There's things that live rent free in your head more
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  Speaker 2: often not than not be good or bad.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna say the things that live rent free in
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  Speaker 1: my head are all of the head noise I have
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  Speaker 1: from past things I've done so bad. Yeah, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like for me, when it rains, it paus. But like
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  Speaker 1: most of the time, it's normally good things. But then
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  Speaker 1: when something bad happens, it's hard to get over that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's a lot easier to get over a good thing
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  Speaker 1: than it is to get over a bad to live
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  Speaker 1: in the bliss once in a while. I don't know
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  Speaker 1: why it's so much easier to get over a good
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  Speaker 1: thing than it is to get over a bad thing. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I know, like it's good and then it's gone weird. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we're all like, oh, a new phone would be nice.
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  Speaker 1: I really want that new phone. Then you get the
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  Speaker 1: new phone, you're like, it is a phone, Okay, put
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  Speaker 1: in your pocket, forget about the fucking thing. Yeah, the
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  Speaker 1: excitement of things wears off. One of my friends who
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  Speaker 1: hadn't hanged out for a long time, recently hanged out with him.
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  Speaker 2: He had a Samsung. First person I've seen him, yees
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  Speaker 2: Jake have a Samsung. But it was kind of like,
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  Speaker 2: I was like, I respect that dude against the normal.
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  Speaker 2: Respect that like it takes a certain type of person
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  Speaker 2: the strength, and that's kind of lived Rent free in
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  Speaker 2: my head that he had a Samsung.
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  Speaker 1: He was different. He said no to the norm. He
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  Speaker 1: was Rocket showed.
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  Speaker 2: Me a photo and I initially thought it was an
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  Speaker 2: iPhone and then and then it was sitting on the
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  Speaker 2: fucking table and I was like, wait a second.
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  Speaker 1: What the fuck is that? You know Samsung is starting
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  Speaker 1: to lose sales when they're trying to make it look
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  Speaker 1: like an iPhone? Really, Yeah, well that's what Yeah, play
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  Speaker 1: into your strengths. Don't try and copy people Samsung, and
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  Speaker 1: you respect that. I remember I remember through school, man,
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  Speaker 1: I had a Wuahwei Samsung. You give that vibe. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I used to have a crack and phone problem. But
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  Speaker 1: trust a man to get a Samsung. You wouldn't see
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  Speaker 1: a woman with an Android. Yeah, but that's because of
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  Speaker 1: the photo game.
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  Speaker 2: Because if I wasn't an influencer in quotes, I reckon
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  Speaker 2: I'd have something sus I need the iPhone camera.
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  Speaker 1: You have something else. Yeah. I used to have a
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  Speaker 1: Google pixel. Yeah, yeah, Google pixel. That went. I went
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  Speaker 1: off the the Apple iPhone for you know how, like
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  Speaker 1: you get a new phone every two years or whatever,
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  Speaker 1: just the in between the iPhone like seven and the
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  Speaker 1: iPhone like I don't know whatever. The next two after that,
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  Speaker 1: I had a pixel. Yeah, pixels are cool. Can I
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  Speaker 1: just say something about the pixel? We said we aren't
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  Speaker 1: going to chit chat. I didn't mind it.
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  Speaker 2: My brother had one and I liked it. I liked
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  Speaker 2: the thing on the back of your finger. Yeah, different
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  Speaker 2: a iPhone. Yeah, it's like a novelty.
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  Speaker 1: Now fuck them.
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  Speaker 2: Let me start a things men do live rent free
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  Speaker 2: in your head, go places with just their phone.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I kind of feel naked sometimes doing it.
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  Speaker 1: I feel kind of naughty without it or with it,
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  Speaker 1: like just the phone.
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  Speaker 2: No, I don't have a wallet anymore. Another couple of times.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, when my girlfriend drives no keys, man.
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  Speaker 1: I feel so normal with just a phone. I feel
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  Speaker 1: a little bit naked. But I love really, because what
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  Speaker 1: else would you have? I don't know, the fucking purse
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  Speaker 1: you normally carry a purse. You feel naked without who
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  Speaker 1: you asked, what else would I have? But why do
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  Speaker 1: you feel naked? I would have some lip balm in
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  Speaker 1: there if I really want to know. What I'm trying
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  Speaker 1: to say is always always just you've had you have
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  Speaker 1: always just taken a phone, places and keys and wallet.
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  Speaker 1: So you feel naked without you keys and wallet? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: just bringing with you then?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, But like people raw dog it and girls make
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  Speaker 2: it live red free in their head, I mean.
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  Speaker 1: Valid, I'm a big Yeah, I'm just phone. I've always
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  Speaker 1: been just my phone. Yeah, I will.
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  Speaker 2: Forget my wallet off and now I will give Apple
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  Speaker 2: pay the benefit of the doubt.
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  Speaker 1: Right there. That was good. That is good. It's fucking
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  Speaker 1: dangerous that Okay, things men do that live rent free
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  Speaker 1: in your head just shake it and put it back
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  Speaker 1: in their pants.
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  Speaker 2: What I saw a lot of girls must keep mind
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  Speaker 2: blown that we don't wipe it with some TP Why
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  Speaker 2: don't we? It feels we I wouldn't do that.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it's different too. And a lot of
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  Speaker 1: things touch my knob no because I have skin there
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  Speaker 1: just your team. Oh yeah, I feel like i'd be
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  Speaker 1: hood it up.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm hooded up, ganggang motherfucker hood gang.
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  Speaker 1: You're part of the hood gang. No, No, I'm used
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  Speaker 1: to my my gets out there touching everything, touching the
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  Speaker 1: toilet seat sometimes and it's a grossy Yours would be
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  Speaker 1: even worse. Let's at least I have protection. I've got
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  Speaker 1: that skin game going on. You got fucking fucking HIV
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  Speaker 1: going in there. It is the weirdest feeling. Yeah, it
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  Speaker 1: feels so gross when it touches anything apart from underwear
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  Speaker 1: or I dope not. I want to say, yeah, like
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  Speaker 1: why don't men just wipe it with a bit of
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  Speaker 1: toilet pepper? Because also it's a very will known fact
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  Speaker 1: that we're all just like, yeah, man, just out of
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  Speaker 1: here with the last drops, always in your undies. And
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  Speaker 1: no matter what my toxic trade is, I reckon. I'm
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  Speaker 1: good during the day, but then when I go to
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  Speaker 1: sleep and I'm tired, my last pee before bed, I'm
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  Speaker 1: bad at and it just goes everywhere. I actually remember
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  Speaker 1: saying a while ago that in the night, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to start sitting down to pee because it's like I'll
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  Speaker 1: keep all the lights off and I'll just be like
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  Speaker 1: that sounds like it's near the water but not hitting
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  Speaker 1: them hard like living My girlfriend but here's the thing
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  Speaker 1: I keep forgetting. Like I've woken up a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: times in the night to piece and down. I just
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  Speaker 1: keep forgetting to sit down. Yeah, usually because I have
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  Speaker 1: a bone night to be fair. Yeah, big guy over here,
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  Speaker 1: testosterone not for long. You're getting on in age, mate,
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  Speaker 1: Things men do live rent free in your head. I
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  Speaker 1: think that pads stick to our bodies, not our underwear. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I found that out far too late, far too late.
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  Speaker 2: Look, look, being honest, me too, And like it makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: But it doesn't do It doesn't make sense for it
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  Speaker 1: to stick to the body. Why not, because what are
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  Speaker 1: you gonna do? It's like the unsticky side is the
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  Speaker 1: absorbent side that it's makes so much sense for it
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  Speaker 1: to stick to the undies. Yeah, it does. But also
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  Speaker 1: like it also makes sense otherwise how it just sucked
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  Speaker 1: like the outside of your skin, of your that just
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  Speaker 1: doesn't make sense. It just wouldn't work. It just look,
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  Speaker 1: you know that. You have to know that. I do
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  Speaker 1: know that. But also it makes it makes a little
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  Speaker 1: bit of sense. Ac Yeah, I was far too old
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  Speaker 1: when I found that out. The underwear makes more sense.
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  Speaker 1: But also the other way, it makes a little bit
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  Speaker 1: when I first found out, I won't lie to you. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: when I first found out underwear, I was so gobsmacked.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, that doesn't make any sense because I
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  Speaker 1: hadn't thought about it, didn't deep it. But like because
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  Speaker 1: the reason I thought it didn't make sense is because
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  Speaker 1: when you're if it's strapped to your underwear, like you're
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  Speaker 1: under surely move around, but they don't.
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  Speaker 2: But that's justification to men and ourselves, not that we
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  Speaker 2: should be doing that. We have penises, and like that
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  Speaker 2: ship moves quite frequently, and like the underwear doesn't stay
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  Speaker 2: in one spot.
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  Speaker 1: What side does your penis fall too?
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  Speaker 2: I'm pretty straight, I'd say a little bit too timey,
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  Speaker 2: I'm pretty straight.
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  Speaker 1: Like if you're standing up straight on a warm day,
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  Speaker 1: because like if it's cold, it's pretty much pointing straight out.
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  Speaker 1: But if you're standing up straight on a warm day
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  Speaker 1: and everything's hanging nice and loose, which way, like which
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  Speaker 1: way does it flo hard or soft? Soft? Which way
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  Speaker 1: does it fall? To? Fuck it? I'd say left a
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  Speaker 1: little bit. Same mine falls to the left, like naturally,
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  Speaker 1: Like no matter what compare someone, I mean it is
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  Speaker 1: audio way, YEA favorite thing, Like if I was to
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  Speaker 1: go down right now. And if I was to take
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  Speaker 1: do it my willie and pull it over to rest
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  Speaker 1: on the right side, after like a minute of just
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  Speaker 1: like natural movement, it would get shift over to the
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  Speaker 1: left and stay there. Really, that's so weird. It is weird.
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  Speaker 1: I don't Yeah, it must be just like a genetic being.
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  Speaker 1: Very odd. Yeah, very odd. Okay, what what is it again?
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  Speaker 1: Things men do live things men do that live rent
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  Speaker 1: free in your head. When he can tell your nervous
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  Speaker 1: slash anxious, so he squeezes your hand and pulls you close.
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  Speaker 1: Oh a good one. We haven't had a good one.
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  Speaker 1: I like that. Yeah, especially when a man can gauge
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  Speaker 1: a situation if you sow there, if you feel like
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  Speaker 1: if it's an anxious situation, pull her in close. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: tough though, tough one. Funny story, actually, very fair.
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  Speaker 2: Have you could you say you've done that with your
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  Speaker 2: partner anxious, anxious situation or something, pull her in closet.
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  Speaker 1: Loves it at least at least yeah, oh maybe once.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah that when Cassie was running her Ultra marathon, she
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  Speaker 2: was like seventy five k's deep or whatever, and like
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  Speaker 2: I thought, I was reading the situation like she was
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  Speaker 2: it was a tough time.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, yeah, hold her hand, held her hand.
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  Speaker 3: She didn't touch me, and I was like, well, I
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  Speaker 3: fucking read that one wrong, didn't I.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, this is a tough situation. She might
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  Speaker 2: want some support. No, no, that I'm here. Yeah, I'm
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  Speaker 2: here for you. She's like, I touched her hand, don't
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  Speaker 2: fucking touch That is so fun.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, all right, fair, I think things men
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  Speaker 1: do to live rent free in your head, earning extra
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  Speaker 1: for doing the same roles as women. Yeah, that is
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  Speaker 1: that actually lives rent free in my head too. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: that's it. Yeah, I think about that. I actually would
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  Speaker 1: think about that a fair bit. I reckon just like subconsciously. Really,
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  Speaker 1: that's good of you. I would say that doesn't cross
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  Speaker 1: my mind, which is like so many all coded and
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  Speaker 1: but it's like, I know it's a thing, but I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't say that it crosses my mind because I'm privileged
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  Speaker 1: enough to obviously like that comes from a privileged place. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I agree. I also think another thing that lives rent
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  Speaker 1: free in my brain. I think this is a nice thought.
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  Speaker 1: I think women have a better balance, a work life
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  Speaker 1: balance than men. They know how to disconnect and balance
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  Speaker 1: juggle work and their social lives way better than men.
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  Speaker 1: Where's men don't know how to do that? I think
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  Speaker 1: about that quite frequently. Fair Maybe it's just like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I wouldn't say I have I feel
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  Speaker 1: any type of way about that. I don't know. I
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  Speaker 1: think that when Bethany was working full time as like
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  Speaker 1: the cafe manager, I want to say I think that
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  Speaker 1: she was like pretty good at shutting off, but she
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  Speaker 1: was like always answering the phone always, Like I think
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  Speaker 1: it's like just comes down to a personality thing. True.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe just like maybe the women you've had like a
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  Speaker 1: lot of time, spend a lot of time with it,
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  Speaker 1: really good at it. True things men do that live
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  Speaker 1: rent free in your head? Think about nothing? Question mark?
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  Speaker 1: Question mark question mark, Oh that is I'm really good
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  Speaker 1: at that. You are really good at that. That kind
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  Speaker 1: of lives rent free in my head, I'm not good
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  Speaker 1: at that.
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  Speaker 2: No, No, I'm terrible at thinking about nothing. I wish
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  Speaker 2: I could think about nothing. I think about too many things.
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  Speaker 1: If I'm driving, We're on a long road trip, and
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  Speaker 1: Beth kind of like, what are you thinking about? I
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  Speaker 1: literally can think about question But I like if she's
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  Speaker 1: like I literally can be thinking about nothing like nothing,
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  Speaker 1: or you think nothing about nothing that's worth bringing up.
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  Speaker 1: That's a good good point, like nothing that's interesting enough
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  Speaker 1: to talk about it. Yeah, Like, like, here's the thing is,
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  Speaker 1: women are always thinking like how can you just look
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  Speaker 1: out a window and think about nothing? And the reason
• 12:43
  Speaker 1: that where like we can literally just think about nothing
• 12:45
  Speaker 1: is because I want to say, Like, the reason I
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: say I'm thinking about nothing is because what I was
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: thinking about is like I wonder how long into that
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  Speaker 1: grass grows? Yeah you know what I mean? Like that's
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  Speaker 1: not worth talking about. Yeah, exactly, You're gonna think I'm stupid. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I always think about like I'll see like, oh I
• 13:01
  Speaker 1: wonder how that fence was made? Yeah? Yeah, And then
• 13:03
  Speaker 1: so like what are you thinking about nothing? Like this morning, actually,
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  Speaker 1: I went and I walked into like a JB high
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  Speaker 1: fie and I was walking and I looked down and
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  Speaker 1: I look at the tiles, and I thought, I wonder
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  Speaker 1: what the guys were talking about when they put these
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  Speaker 1: tiles down. Literally crossed my mind, but then it was
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  Speaker 1: in the thought came, and then the thought vanished, and
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  Speaker 1: I haven't thought about it again until right now, because
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  Speaker 1: we're talking about what the men think about when they're
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  Speaker 1: doing random shit, and that's a thought that wasn't worth
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  Speaker 1: bringing up. Literally, Yeah, if someone was saying, what do
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  Speaker 1: you think about? What? Really? Nothing? Ballad? Ballad? All right?
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  Speaker 1: Things men do that live rent free in your head?
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  Speaker 1: A good one rolling up their sleeves really like T
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  Speaker 1: shirt sleeve are long sleeves? Say, I don't know, is
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  Speaker 1: that sexy? Forearm veins popping and shit? I would love that.
• 13:46
  Speaker 1: Four arm veins is a thing.
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  Speaker 2: Like I reckon, that's a get that shit, that blood
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  Speaker 2: flowing and that I love the sleeves.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I might start wearing a long sleeve and try it.
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  Speaker 1: When you think of these, do you think of like tens,
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  Speaker 1: like ten of men like Jacobal Lord, he's like pulling
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  Speaker 1: up their sleeves. Yeah, I'm not going to think of
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  Speaker 1: some like fucking dad bod not to be mean or eathing,
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  Speaker 1: but like that's not where my mind goes. Like I
• 14:08
  Speaker 1: think of like models, you know what I mean, Like
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  Speaker 1: a guy that's like, you know, Chris Hemsworth. I think that,
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  Speaker 1: ye yeah, And I think like how can I be
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  Speaker 1: more like that? I do things men do that live
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  Speaker 1: rent free, in your in your head. My partner got
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: a BB gun and shot himself in the foot to quote,
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  Speaker 1: just to see if it would hurt. And it did.
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  Speaker 1: I bet it did. What's with the men getting intrusive
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  Speaker 1: thoughts to be like, what would happen if I did this?
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  Speaker 2: I had one the other day, a very man thing
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  Speaker 2: to do, man coded camping. I got a twelve vault
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  Speaker 2: electricity system in my car very men coded yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And had a toasty machine.
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  Speaker 2: And it was sunny, so I couldn't tell if the
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  Speaker 2: light was on or not. So I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I'll just touch it burn my finger because I thought
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  Speaker 2: I actually I thought it wasn't on.
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  Speaker 1: But I was like this, if it was to like that,
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  Speaker 1: get some water and see if it's THEMS, you idiot,
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  Speaker 1: Just like see if.
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  Speaker 2: It's like yeah, I touched it and it hurt. Then
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  Speaker 2: I also hated myself even more because that was the
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  Speaker 2: dumbest thing.
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  Speaker 1: I well, that is I'll do that with hot drinks.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think that this isn't a man thing. Is
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  Speaker 1: just what I feel like, just everyone thing like a
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: drink that's super hot. I just order my coffee and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I should really wait for this to cool down.
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  Speaker 1: Then I'm like, but I could just I'm like, oh
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  Speaker 1: now my tongues burnt. I'm not gonna taste it for
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  Speaker 1: the rest of the fucking drink. Patience, young Padawa. Things
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  Speaker 1: men do deliver and free in your head, over promise
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  Speaker 1: and then under deliver. Yeah, I'm sorry. I would like
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  Speaker 1: to hope I don't do that.
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  Speaker 2: I want to apologize for the male gender. Yeah, I'm
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  Speaker 2: proud of not over promising.
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  Speaker 1: I hope I don't. I'm sure I haven't the past.
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: What about that alter ego you have in the bedroom?
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: You ever does that ever turn on too early? And
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: you ever promise? Oh? Yeah, bro? You serious? Like midway through,
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, we're gonna fuck all night, one round,
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: no more sleep time. I'm genuinely I'm serious, or I'll
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: be like, yeah, we're gonna do this every night going forward.
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: Does you're gonna getting then this week? I am over
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: promising and under delivering on that in that area. Yes,
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: all right, my last one. Things men do that liver
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: and free in your head, shirt off, hat backwards, pushing
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: a lawn mower, pushing a lawn mower and feel like
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: that That's what I used to do like that. I
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: feel like I could. Maybe I'm not coming across as
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: very sexy right now, but I could do that. I've
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: got I've got another good one. Things men do liver
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: and free in your head, Gray sweat pants. Yes, women
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: love Grace sweat because you can see the outline. Yeah,
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: or do you want to hear? Actually this could be funny?
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: What so? Quite a while back, Bethany posted a video
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: of me with our very first foster dog, Tilly. Let
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: me go find it? Did you have Grace sweat pants? On? Wait? Okay,
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: so all back? Beth posted a video of me with
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: our first foster dog, Tilly, and then also with Henry
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: and maybe I should show you the video quickly? Yeah? Wait, wait,
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: I think I've seen this in your fucking junks flapping
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: all over the place. Do you want to watch? You
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: to jump in to? Send it to you to put
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: up on the screen. Send it to me right so?
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: I will let it play there for a second? Problem
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: spewing on Yeah, go to YouTube if you want to
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: watch it, or Patreon or patreon? What the comments? AnyWho?
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: So posted it? And I'm wearing pajama pants? Yeah obviously
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: no wonder where and so there's it's gotten onto this
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: side of TikTok. That's it's got I think it's gotten
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: onto gate TikTok. Yeah, oh really, So the first one
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: that pops up where it's gotten on the gay talk.
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: If someone goes because I'm sinking, Oh missy, you're so fine.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: This guy said, oh, daddy, you're so fine. No one,
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: no one, question mark, question mark. And then somebody said,
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: ain't nobody looking at the dog.
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: Someone said, I don't know about those zoomies, but those
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: pjs look great from the back. Someone posted a video
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: of a bunch of like commented a video of a
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: bunch of sausages getting thrown at someone's face.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: There we know our boys. And then so, by the way,
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: all this is all men commenting, and then someone says, okay,
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: but is dad single and what is his at? Just
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: for statistic purposes, Lis, this has gassing you up too?
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: Oh my god? Yeah, maybe over sexualizing a little bit.
• 18:30
  Speaker 5: But someone else said, god, I love men gay as
• 18:34
  Speaker 5: a goose. Someone said, nope, nothing wrong with him. He's fine.
• 18:41
  Speaker 5: Bouncy bouncy.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: Jack it out before we will brainstorm on. Somebody is
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: the content? Just get you fucking dancing with nobody's on mate.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: I started only fans, so no one is looking at
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: that octopus or whatever you're holding posted this.
• 19:01
  Speaker 5: Oh my god.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: I actually had a funny idea, you know how, like
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: only fans is like so normalized now, Yeah, little cash
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: grab that me and Cassie wanted to do. We'd call
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: it like Audie and Cassie, like starting only fans and
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: then you click on it would allude to like it's
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: six tapes and ship and then it's just us eating Gyg.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: Come get naughty with us.
• 19:26
  Speaker 5: Once a week, like put a link up, everybody, come
• 19:30
  Speaker 5: get naughty with us, and you're like just about to
• 19:33
  Speaker 5: eat GYG and his live stream might opposed video.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: If you guys eat Gyg, I think people would respect
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: the game, dude, like if you got got. I used
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: to watch this guy, Nathan Florence and he makes his
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: he's John, John Florence's brother. So they're all really good surfaces,
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: like three brothers and brothers and they're all really good.
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: But Nathan Florence quite kind of famous for making just
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: surfing vlogs and he was he I used to watch
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: him all like religiously for a little while, kind of
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: went from like Jamie O'Brien to him and he's just
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: quite funny. And he started an only fans surf school. Yeah,
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: well only fans was originally created not for naked women. Yeah,
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: it would take say Patreon. Patreon is very hardcore fans. Yeah,
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: they will pay for more content. Only fans makes the
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: same sort of sense to me. But then they lent
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: into the naked lady say of things. Do you think
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: only fans as a company is lent into that? Ye
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: also seen things they have. They were making billions. It's
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: like a private company still, I believe, and also has
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: like very not very many employees. Oh really, only fans.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: I'll tell you what. I'll leave this to live went
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: free in some heads. You know how predominantly discussing men
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: are buying only fans, Yes, buying only fans. Do you
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: think like they consciously make a budget for their only
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: fans subscriptions each month? Could you imagine if you found
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: a man's budgeting app or budgeting note or something like that,
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: and he had a budget for only phone bill, rent, electricity.
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, like he's adding up his bills only he's
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: like subscriptions.
• 21:16
  Speaker 5: You know, Netflix, Disney class.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: If any man's doing that. Do we respect an organized
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: king though he's single, hopefully obviously do we respect an
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: organized king? I actually don't know. Look, I think it's like,
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: I think it's king shaming to be like your you're
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: gross Ford, but if you're single, fucking go for your life. Yeah,
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: I don't actually know. Look, I think i'll put it
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: out there that I do think it's fucked that people
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: pay for only fans. But like if someone again, like
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: I'm not super hard on any stances, like as of
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: right now without pretty to much launch it, I just
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: think that's fucked. But if someone was to be like,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: he's why it's not fucked, then I'd be like, okay, fair,
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: Like if it's a good argument, I'm happy to be like, okay,
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: fair fair. One of my ones actually was I didn't
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: do it. What's something the things that men do that
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: live rent free in your head and it's making your
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: opinions your whole personality. Oh that's the opposite of you,
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: that is Oh yeah, I hate an opinion. I hate
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: an opinion. Suppose you just had one of our only fans.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: I have opinions to make that your personality. See, like,
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: I'm not a big fan of people that have like
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: these really strong opinions about something. When it's like an
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: opinion that okay, actually he's okay, who cares what I
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: was about to talk about? Actually? Who actually cares what
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: I was about to talk about? He was about to
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: have an opinion? Guy, and he's like, wait, actually was yeah,
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: well that's not me. I about to have an opinion,
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: And I'm thinking, wait, who I am? But in my opinion,
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: Relatables Patreon is really good. Oh yeah, ninety the next
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: episode every Thursday, you're going to get the Monday also
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: on Patreon, you're going to get the Thursday's actual episod.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: You're probably going to get Fridy on page into. All
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: of those are going to be add free enjoy a month.
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: But I'm so no. Sorry that's aud by the way,
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: so if you live in the US the UK, it's
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: going to be cheaper. But okay, what I was going
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: to say was I find it weird. Could be the
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: way I find it when people will have like such
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: a strong opinion on something and then it's so disagreed
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: with because it is actually just wrong. But then people
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: can defend that person because they're like, oh, it's their opinion,
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: like people are allowed to have opinions, like in my opinion.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Sometimes there is cases where it is a difference of opinion,
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: but sometimes there is cases where it's a difference of
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: right and wrong.
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: There's harmless opinions, then there's right and wrong which affect
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: other people.
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think, like just because someone like you can't
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: let someone of the hook by saying it's their opinion
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: when they have like the actual wrong.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: I've always struggled to comprehend when someone is wrong and
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: they think they're right but they're wrong.
• 24:05
  Speaker 6: Yeah, sometimes I think they do it for attention, Yes,
• 24:07
  Speaker 6: so do what And I genuinely think people will legitimately
• 24:11
  Speaker 6: prove them wrong with cold, hard cash evidence, throw it
• 24:15
  Speaker 6: in their face and they're wrong, But they still die
• 24:17
  Speaker 6: on their hill.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: And I'm just like, how can you process that and
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: still have that opinion after all the details and.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: All the facts. Here's what they do, right, Because it's
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: majority of the time men, unfortunately unfortunately for us because
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: we're part of that gender AnyWho. But what will happen
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: is a man will have a very strong opinion that
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: is wrong, and then another man or a woman will
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: tell them why it's wrong. And then the man will go,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: well that's your opinion. Yeah, they will fall back on
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: the whole opinion thing. Bloody double nded sword. You can't win,
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: you can't lose. It kills me. Yeah, it kills me too.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: I know soon want to talk about it, and I
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: don't really remember what it is. Hopefully it wasn't very important.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: It was probably another opinion.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: The way Jake seeing is you forgot actually have an
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: idea slash proposition to you. Okay, we talked about Patreon
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: the value of it, but also we're talking about rent free.
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: Should we give a prize two one Patreon member who
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: also shares this episode on their Instagram story and we
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: will pay their rent for a week.
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: That's actually a really cool idea.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so all you have to do is ninety nine
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: a month, be a Patreon member and share this episode
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: or any episode on your story tag us. We'll see
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: them and we'll pay one Battie's rent.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: I've always kind of felt weird about like getting members
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: that way by being like we're gonna do like one
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: hundred dollars a week giveaway, so we choose a random
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: member that with bux a week or like two hundred
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: bucks or like the thousand bucks a month, I don't know, whatever,
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: whatever you can afford or whatever we could afford. But
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: if we if we just do a one off every
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: now and then we do all one off, like random
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: baddies getting their rent paid this week, I'm fine with that.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: Hopefully some baddies aren't living like bougie. I was gonna say,
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: if your rent is like if you pay like a
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: thousand bucks a week rent on your own, you're doing fine.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: You're doing fine, you can fine. You don't need a unio. Okay,
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: here's some you need to be at. You need be
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: wishing casually, no for real, whatever it is going to
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: give a sharehouse. If it's a sharehouse, you'rreu only covering
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: your rent, not there rent. Okay, a couple of things
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: to keep note of, but I don't I love it. Okay,
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: if you go over to patron, sign up by linking
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  Speaker 1: the description link in the description, and then I'm going
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: to say, after this episode, I don't know, we'll give
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: it two weeks, we'll give it a couple of weeks,
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: and then we'll pay someone. That is time for a dilemma. Okay,
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: So once again, if you want to submit a dilemma.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: We say this every week. If you're new here. If
• 26:56
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• 27:01
  Speaker 1: I'm feeling in a good mood to help to though. Okay, okay,
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: I'm feeling good. Hey, guys, love the pod. I've got
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: a bit of a confusing one and could really use
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: an outside perspective. I reconnected with the guy I knew
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: from high school, hadn't seen him in years. Randomly ran
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: into him and he messaged me that night. We started
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: hanging out, slept together, and in the first week we
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: actually saw each other a couple of times and talked properly. Actually,
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: at first communication was normal text here and there, but
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: then it slowly shifted to mostly snapchat, face picks, a
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: little chat, and a lot of late night come over messages.
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: A couple of times he asked me to come over
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: and then fell asleep or bailed because he was tired.
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: Where kind of similar people. Neither of us have ever
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: been in a relationship, and we're both avoidant with emotional conversations.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: It took me ages to work up the courage, but
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: I finally brought it up in person on Friday night,
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: I asked where things were going. He said he likes me,
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: but doesn't really know if he wants a relationship, doesn't
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: fully know what he wants in life yet, but suggested
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: we give it a go. I also said I hate
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: texting and prefer calls, and he said he'd call me
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: more since then the next morning he had work, I left.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: We didn't really talk Saturday, I was out all day.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Neither of us messaged. On Sunday, around lunchtime, I sent
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: a casual text, just asking how his weekend was, and
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: still haven't had a reply. I do like him, but
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: the conversation we had doesn't really match up to what's
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: happening now. I'm not sure if if this is just
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: how he is emotionally inexperienced, a bit of avoidant, or if
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: the science is already telling me what I need to know.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: How do you tell the difference? And at what point
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: do you take behavior as the answer? Oh, that's a
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: good question. At the end. At what point do you
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: take behavior as the answer, Because it's hard to take
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: that as the answer at the start, because actions do
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: speak lotter than words, but words talk more. They do
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: do that words do tend to do that, they talk more.
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: I was going to say, PSA to all the young,
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: beautiful bad he's listening right now. If your man's main
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: form of communication is Snapchat and you're not dating and
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: he's asking you to come over late at night, I
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: would run. Yeah, something about snapchat being the main form
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: of communication is giving red flag.
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: I went to why could We be wrong? I went
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: to a Lord concert. Predominantly the demo is young women. Yes,
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: I didn't see it because he told me about it after,
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: and there was three young ladies behind us I don't know,
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: probably sixteen eighty and or whatever, and the whole concert
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: just snapchat.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: And video snapchat, Snapchat, snapchaps, steps actute Snapchat. I also
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: say about Snapchat as well. Yeah, so Snapchat came out
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: when we were younger. All of us had it. I
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: still have it. Yeah, I don't go on it. But
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: so Snapchat was in and then out with our generation
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: in my opinion, but it's stuck in for the young EASA.
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: So I actually think that it's just so like it's
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: the older half of gen Z trying to be cool
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: not using Snapchat. So I'm calling us out here because
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: younger end of millennials love Snapchat the young young, and yeah,
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: like Joinna's on the cusp. So Joina's like technically gen z,
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: but she's really more millennial. She'll still use Snapchat a lot.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: And I'm kind of like, you're weird. But it's like,
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: so we're trying to bother us, and below us are
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: all Snapchat lovers, and then us in the middle are
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: like Snapchat haters. So I think it's us that's the problem.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, all right, Well we can take away what
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: I said about Snapchat, but we can still listen to
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: If he's asking you to come over late at night, run,
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: I don't like that. I feel like those intentions is
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: really annoying me.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: Ready, also, she goes, but okay, ready, I asked where
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: things were going. He said, he likes me. He doesn't
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: really know what if he wants a relationship, doesn't really
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: know what he wants in life yet, but suggested we
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: could give it a go. This guy off if you
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: want him to want you, You wanted to yearn you
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: wanted to ask you to be your girlfriend. You want this,
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: and you know what, he can give a go his hand.
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: He can give his hand to go. Yeah, that's for
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: the rest and fucking time. Yeah. I like that word yearning.
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: You want a man, you want your partner to yearn
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: for you. Yeah, And I would say in the beginning,
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: I did yearn. Yeah, and now that I live with
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: my girlfriend, I actually would. I would admit I don't
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: yearn anymore. I actually think that the whole yearning thing
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: is like good and bad. Well, let's let's not mitigate
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: what we just said. We want him to yearn at
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: the start. Yeah, at the beginning, it's like yearning is
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: kind of like it's like the honeymoon. You want to
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: feel wanted. It's like that, Yeah, you want to be wanted.
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: You want him to want you, Like, this guy's not
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: acting like he wants you.
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: Well, A big problem with young men especially and young
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: people is that they don't know what they want in life.
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: But also I feel like I can't be empathetic towards
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: not wanting.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: A person when you're talking to him. Yeah, because I
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: can be empathetic you're like, I don't know what I
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: want to do in my career, but I couldn't be
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: empathetic if you're going on dates and then you say
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: like I don't know if I want a relationship or not,
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: and don't give him excuses by saying like is he
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: just emotionally avoidant? Like who fucking cares? Yeah, there's a
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: couple of cheeky red flags here, But it's hard, like
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: I remember being young, dumb, full of come like, it's hard.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: It's hard to see. It's hard to see it is
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: it is?
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: It is, especially when you're in it and you don't
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: have I don't want to give excuses and say you
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: don't have the skills to be emotionally intelligent, but also
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: you just don't like I've done I've said dumb shit
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: like that I've done dumb shit because I was just dumb.
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'm just a dumb man. He's a question
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: like what is avoidant attachment? I wouldn't say it's a
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: fucking thing. I suppose it's just gonna say, like, I
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: don't know if it's an ad hot take to be, like,
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: is avoidant attachment even a thing? Because if it is,
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be out of here saying it's not. Yeah,
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: I also feel like you know how we talk about
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: like what are they called when you're different loving style?
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: What are the acts of service. Yeah, different types of weight,
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: the ways you give love and the way you receive love,
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: everyone's a little different. Yeah, yeah, and you're a little different.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: I feel like it's especially when you're young, it's kind
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: of like the way you saw love of your parents,
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: and that's just your pretense of what love is. But
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: then the older you get, you figure out your own
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: way of loving. And especially with that guy, like he's
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: probably seen his parents never fucking kissing hit and like
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: he hasn't really built up his own version of love yet.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: And I don't know, as my realization a little bit,
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: but can I actually quickly, I just want to look
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: at what is like avoidant attachment because I want to know.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: I don't think avoidant is a thing, like, well, I
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: love you, but I want to avoid you.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: Like what is avoid Is it a disorder? Like would
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: I say what is avoidant detachment? I'm just gonna say
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: what is avoidant attachment? Avoidant attachment? So, avoidant detachment is
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: a pattern where someone emotionally distances themselves from others, especially
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: in close or romantic relationships, to avoid vulnerability, dependence, or
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: feeling overwhelmed. That's an issue. It's commonly linked to avoid
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: avoidant attachment styles in attachment theory, what it looks like.
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: Someone with avoidant detachment might pull away when things get
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: emotionally intense, Struggle to express feelings, downplay the importance of relationships,
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: feel uncomfortable with too much closeness, shut down during conflict,
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: need excessive independence, seem fine after breakups for quickly. They
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: often value your self reliance and can appear calm or unaffected.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: But that's usually a protective strategy. Why it happens. Avoidant
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: detachment often develops when someone grew up with emotionally unavailable
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: caregivers learned that expressing needs led to rejection, felt shamed
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: for vulnerability, had to be independent too early, so the
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: nervous system learned it's safer to need to not need anyone.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: It's not that they don't feel, it's that closeness can
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: trigger discomfort or a threat.
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: I'll tell you what that used to me, and I'll
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: tell you what I wasn't ready for a relationship.
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, here we go. Core in dating slash relationships
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: in the talking stage, which I know you love unpacking
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: on the pod chutch you beteenas me so well. Avoidant
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: detachment might look like strong at the start, then sudden distance. Quote.
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: I just don't like labels, avoiding conversations, mixed signals, needing
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: space right after intimacy. Wait, hold up, I need space
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: right up into me, like, don't touch me. It's not
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: avoided detachment though, that's like I feel like that's space
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: space like if you went home for like three days.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: It's true. Yeah, we need like space, not like like
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: I just need like a bubble, like like a meter up.
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: But okay, so look, it's a thing. I don't want
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: to be out here saying that it's not a thing
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: because I was gonna be like avoid an attach. It's
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: not even a thing. They just said that it's an excuse.
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: Is it's a thing. It's an excuse though. It's an
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: excuse for the way I am, when the way you
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: are isn't very healthy. In conclusion, wait, okay, yeah, go on.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: In conclusion, I think this man is not ready for
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: a relationship. Yeah, fucking off, and you can do better, agreed.
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: Alright, baddies, close your eyes and picture this. You're on
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: a first date with a lovely man. He's beautiful, good looking,
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: looks like recent arm mains are popping a few buttons
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: are Undone, you're.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: Going a date with Jake Cray, you think wake up
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: at tonightmare and you're thinking to yourself, is it too
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: good to be true? I have him in front of me.
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: A couple of questions you can ask to see if
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: he's a psychopath. Okay, did you like? Did you look up? Like?
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: Actual questions you can ask Beau he is a psychopath? On?
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: That is it from your brain? Oh? These are from
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: my brain?
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, this is from and I think they do
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: conclude if you're a psychopath or not.
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: We can see if you're a psychopath too.
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: Okay, all right, So questions to ask to find out
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: if he's a psychopath.
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: Can you fall asleep with a light or lamp on?
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: That's a good one because if the answer is yes, psychopath, Yeah,
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: I'm a big I like darkness. But wait, living in Sydney,
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: I've been able to learn to live with your house light.
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: That doesn't count.
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, like you fall asleep and there's a
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: lamp on next to you. That's not a psychopathic? Who
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: knows what the next phase is after that?
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: All right?
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: Questions to ask to find out if he's psychopathic m M.
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: Do you have a shower after a night out?
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: The question, sorry, the answer better be fucking yes if
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: it's not what you gotta run. I definitely have had
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: some big nights out where I've just like flopped into bed.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: That's pretty disgusting because also if I'm dating you and
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: you're doing that and sleeping next to me, I'm like, oh,
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: I've got to be honest. Though, If Beth got home
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: from a big night out and goes, I'm so fucked
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: I can't be bothered shower, I'd be like, don't really. Yeah,
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: I'd be like I don't care. I would be like, chat,
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: change the sheets tomorrow. But I would also be like, god,
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: that's a I'm gonna say, you're not. I actually think, yeah,
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: you're not a psychopaths, you dn't whatever or whatever, whatever,
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: because if you're drunk, whatever whatever. Questions to ask to
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: find out if he's a psychopath. Do you clap when
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: the plane lands. I've never actually experienced someone climbing when
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: the plan. Have you actually have you had? It's because
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: you've got to experience bad turbulence, like within half an
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: hour of landing, and it's a bit of a tough landing.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: And then they landed, and everyone's like, I've been so lucky.
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: Then I've been so so I've experienced it, like twice,
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: people clapping as that's the funniest thing. Discuss that thing ever, So, Psycho,
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: do you want to know what I have experienced on
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: a plane? When I was young, I was flying as
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: an unaccompanied minor with my sister. We're both under the
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: age of fifteen. So you like, you wear like this
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: lanyard you're an unaccompanied minor, and like a worker at
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: the airport has to take you past because your parents
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: can take you to security, and then they take you
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: they're allowed to go through security, and so then an
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: airport worker you get to go on like a golf
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: curt and they take you all the way to the gate.
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: Walking on the plane. First halfway through a flight from
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: like Canada or to Australia, this guy has a seizure,
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: really scary, two three seats away from us. This guy
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: like unfortunately, I felt really bad for him. I didn't
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: know what it was at the time, but like he
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: I think that he must have had them often because
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: I he like it's like pitch black, or like when
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: they turn it down the lights down the pitch black,
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: but everyone's like sleeping and he just like goes ra
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: really and it's like he was fighting it because he
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: knew it was going to happen. And I feel like
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: when I got a little older and a little more
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: self aware, I felt really bad for this guy. I like,
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: thinking back, feels so bad for him because like he
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: was clearly fighting it, but then it took over and
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: he just had a seizure and I was like, I
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: was like fucking nine. I was like, what is going on?
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: And you meant to just leave him too? I think
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: a siez. Yeah, so that an epilepsy. I actually don't know,
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: but they did a PA thing was like anybody a
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: doctor blah blah blah, and so like it's some guy
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: that was a doctor. That's scary too because also as
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: a nine year old is no figure of nine nine
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: year old. It's like it kind of would look like
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: a zombies coming. I was terrified. Questions to ask to
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: find out if he's a psychopath? Do you change out
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: of your work uniform as soon as you get home
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: from work? Yeah, great question. And if he doesn't he's
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: a psycho, one great question? Do you set more than
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: one alone in the morning. Oh I think that. Oh
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: whah Okay. When I needed to set an alarm, I
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: definitely had two or three. Why just wake up on
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: the first time. I think it's crazy to be able
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: to wake up on the first one.
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: I reckon one. One alarm is psychopathic? Really, Yeah, to
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: set it for the time you want to wake up
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: and get up, I think you're a psycho for being
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: able to do that.
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: What ever, no, I can cycle for being able to
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: do that. Who has their life together enough to be
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: able to wake up on the first one. When I'm awake,
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: im awake. So as soon as I'm awake, I can't
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: go back this sleep anyway? Oh really, Like, if it's
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: between probably five and seven, I can't go back to sleep.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: So maybe it doesn't mean I'm like a three alarm guy.
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: All right? Do you put milk in your cereal first?
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: Or cereal then milk? Oh my god, imagine if somebody
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: did milk first. Yeah, imagine that. I imagine if someone
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: didn't milk, that's like they're going to jail for something
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: after this. The only reason I could think of someone
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: wanted to do milk first is because they don't like
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: they want this cereal to stay like crunchy and dry
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: and get like a lot of crunch and a little
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: bit of milk, but like just kind of pour the
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: milk in one spot instead of pouring it all over.
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: There'd be some weird people out there. Questions to ask
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: to find out if he's psychopathic? Can you bite ice?
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: I hate people that chew on ice? I know who.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry whoever I'm upsetting right now. I actually don't
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: even know if Beth likes to do this or not.
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: But if she does, hates a strong word, hates a
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: very strong word. But if you can chew on ice,
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: then you have metal for teeth, Like, what is going on?
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: What else you chewing on? Yeah? What are you brushing
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: your teeth with? People who eat ice? Box? That's crazy
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: to me. Suck on that shit? Are you not? Yeah?
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: I feel like that was the best question. Best all right?
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: Last one? Questions to ask to find out if he's psychopathic?
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: Are you a Gemini? Oh? Is that the most psycho? One?
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: Two face, chaotic, emostly inconsistent?
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: Damn to look out? Twenty first of June to the
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: twentieth of July. Oh no, sorry, made the twenty first
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: to June and the twentieth. Oh really, sorry too. We
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: know a Gemini who is about to be a farmer.
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: Oh no, she's having to keep it the wrong man.
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: So only one the Gemini is out there. I didn't
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: know that asked that question. Must be news to the first.
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: I'm pretty confident you can gaslight any star signed to
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: be toxic. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you're pretty sure
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: you can read.
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: The signs in whichever way possible. I've always wanted to be,
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: you know, one of those people who like read cards
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: and ship terror card reader. Yeah, I'd love to be
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: one of those people. And it's like gaslight people a time.
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: Do you remember when we have a great future? Do
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: you remember when we got five thousand listens? Oh remember
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: when we forgot about that. I don't know how many
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: episodes we were into the public, so we weren't getting
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: like five thousand per episode. It was like we had
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: hit five thousand all time listening. Let's do a fucking
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: extra episode. We went on like Facebook, marketplace or some
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: ship and found this guy that does like terrort card
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: readings over the phone. Was a woman or a man
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: that was a man. It was It was a weird
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: young dude and he did the two of us and
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: like it was the weirdest thing. Like we just did
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: this fucking random extra episode where bad is If you
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: want another another terror card, We're actually about to hit
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: six million listens. That's insane to me. We're about to
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: hit six million listens. So for a six million listen special,
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: do you want us to do terror card reading? But
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: we'll actually go in, make it a Patreon exclusive vlog
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: and we'll go in and film it. Yeah, that's a
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: great bit of style. Let us know, let us Finn
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: to film. We've got little friend Finn that like film
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: stuff is best. Let's go. That is time for comments.
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: I've got YouTube from Julia dash x five uu. She said, Yes,
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: I'm the same as Jake any admin, and I'm running
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: the other direction. Anytime my friends or family want to
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: organize a time to meet up or hang out, I
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: am able to leave them on red slash delivered for hours,
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: sometimes even until their next organizing related message. Whoops, it's
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: not on purpose, but planning equal stress must be nice,
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: say just to like disconnect from life. Yeah, it is jealousy.
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: I have Spotify and if you want to get a
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: comment read simply comment on the episode you are listening to,
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: I've got Courtney Dot Rose dot Robinson.
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: Ha ha.
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: My husband has always laughed when he comes. I wouldn't
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: call it a creepy laugh though. It's actually kind of
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: cute and makes me giggle too. And we have been
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: together for sixteen years, so it certainly didn't make me run.
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: So we're wrong, are we though? Proofs in the putting?
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: Are we proofs in the what if? It's like a
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: ha ha? Like A he comes, he's like, well, it's
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: just like Tucky's heading, Like what's yeah, but that's kind
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: of cool. No, what if it's what's the difference about it?
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: But I feel like that's better than like A I
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: want to hear a fuck yeah? What about like A yeah,
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: that's all right, it's so fucking creepy. I disagree.
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: His time for one of you to sign off the episode.
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: If you want to get called by us, the link
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: is in the description And Jake, who are we going
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: to call dude?
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: Dud dude? Let's call her dude? Hello? Was this Sasha? Yeah, Sasha,
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: it's jaking not from the relatables? How are you? Oh
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: my god? No way. The second week in ear that
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: one of the baddies been like, hello, I was just
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: listening to you all day. Let's go all right, Well,
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: we are calling to see if you could do the
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: honors of signing off the episode. Have you got anything
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: for us? Yes? Okay, So this is kind of what
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: I go by now because I'm a very stressed baddie
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: related exactly. Stress is called by giving a fuck, especially
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: if you can't control it. I like the can't control it,
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: but only give a fuck about what you can control.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: I would wear that if that was on a shirt
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: or something. Yeah, I really like that. That's some good advice. Oh,
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: thank you very much, Sessa. Enjoy the rest of your day.
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: Thank you. I think she was driving, Yeah, I think
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: it was still good advice. And what was it against? Stress?
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: Stress is caused by giving a fuck pretty much. I'm
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: just not going to give a fuck. Ask me something.
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: Do you give a fuck? I don't give a fuck.
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: We love her, stay mad.