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CAR TALK w Doenges Toyota and Niehmiah House · One on One With a Professional

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  Speaker 1: Good morning, good morning, good morning, and welcome, welcome, Welcome.
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  Speaker 2: It is time now for car talk right here on
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  Speaker 2: K one, the one you cross stand. We've got our
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  Speaker 2: friends in here from Dongeons, Toyoad Lynn, you've brought friends.
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  Speaker 3: I did bring friends.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I'm here with Mike. He first encountered an amazing
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  Speaker 1: community at Nehemiah when we started. They started teaching relationship
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  Speaker 1: classes to certain participants in the community while on staff
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  Speaker 1: at Grace Community Church in twenty seventeen. Mike, I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to speak for you, but he came on in
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  Speaker 1: January of twenty twenty five, correct, Yeah, to direct expansion
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  Speaker 1: to room in the Inn, and he's going to talk
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  Speaker 1: more about kind of what Neihamiah House is all about.
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  Speaker 1: But his previous experience in both practice and private practice
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  Speaker 1: counseling church community truly just builds what suited to this program.
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  Speaker 1: So he provides strategic direction to the organization, pastoral guidance.
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  Speaker 1: I think that that's the foundation of kind of where
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  Speaker 1: they stand. And today we're really going to just talk
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  Speaker 1: about what truly impacts the lives in our community in Bartlesville.
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  Speaker 1: Here done just Toyota is super supportive of all the
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  Speaker 1: community efforts that we're doing and understanding just that second changes,
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  Speaker 1: restoration and rebuilding are very important to the people that
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  Speaker 1: we serve. It's a program obviously dedicated to helping men
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  Speaker 1: specifically to rebuild their lives through holding them accountable and
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  Speaker 1: making sure that they're on their feet and can actually
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  Speaker 1: get you know, a license or really anything job.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, all the functions.
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  Speaker 1: Kind of just going back to the roots. So our
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  Speaker 1: listeners are going to hear obviously the mission of Me
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  Speaker 1: and Maya House, the reason behind having second chances and
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  Speaker 1: building a strong foundation to get people back on their feet.
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  Speaker 1: So I will say, and I can get into the questions,
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  Speaker 1: but Me and My House is really more about than
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  Speaker 1: just recovery. It's establishing, you know, their character and making
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  Speaker 1: sure that they have what they need in terms of
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  Speaker 1: just functioning from day to day. Right, So I know
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  Speaker 1: that you guys are all about transformation, helping people rediscover
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  Speaker 1: purpose and building those relationships and really step into their
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  Speaker 1: new future. So thank you Mike for.
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  Speaker 3: Being with us today.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you tell us a little bit about your background
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  Speaker 1: and how you became involved with Me and Maya House.
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  Speaker 1: This is more so on you versus the actual mission
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  Speaker 1: focus on me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't get to do this very often, usually
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  Speaker 2: about me.
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  Speaker 3: I think the for me, my background was in counseling.
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  Speaker 2: I ended up having a door. I went to seminary
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  Speaker 2: at Dallas Theological Seminary. That's where I got my masters
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  Speaker 2: from for counseling. And so after that I focused mainly
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  Speaker 2: on working on being a licensed counselor, and so I
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  Speaker 2: worked in private practice for a while. I ended up
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  Speaker 2: on the East Coast out in Baltimore area for a
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  Speaker 2: couple of years, and then up in northern Delaware and
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  Speaker 2: the Philly.
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  Speaker 3: Suburbs kind of area.
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  Speaker 2: I worked with a Christian counseling practice and built that
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  Speaker 2: out for several years. And so, you know, my heart
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  Speaker 2: has just been to work with people, help them through
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  Speaker 2: you know, health. I did a lot of couples counseling
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  Speaker 2: and a lot of that kind of stuff. But there
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  Speaker 2: was a shift about ten years ago. I had been
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  Speaker 2: feeling like I was God was leading me to something different.
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  Speaker 2: I ended up moving down to Bartlesville because I got
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  Speaker 2: a job with Grace Community Church and so that was
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  Speaker 2: several years for almost ten years of me kind of learning.
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  Speaker 3: The pastoral side of things.
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  Speaker 2: I had had a lot of the training, you know,
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  Speaker 2: in terms of going through seminary, but it was doing
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  Speaker 2: a different side of things, still doing some counseling, but
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  Speaker 2: also learning a pastoral side.
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  Speaker 3: Working with people. And I love that.
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  Speaker 2: I still have a great relationship with Grace over there,
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  Speaker 2: and actually Memiah does too, And so while I was there,
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  Speaker 2: we started we had a partnership with them because we
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  Speaker 2: knew them, and they were bringing them to some of
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  Speaker 2: the participants to our church, and I found out like
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  Speaker 2: they really needed help with relationships. I found you know,
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  Speaker 2: these people, a lot of them had abusive relations They
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  Speaker 2: had abusive relationships, horrible abuse in their background some of them,
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  Speaker 2: or you know, we'd hear these different stories. I'm like, wow,
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  Speaker 2: they really don't they don't know how to have a
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  Speaker 2: healthy relationship. And I'm like, I spent a lot of time,
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  Speaker 2: you know, doing counseling with these kinds of things, like sure,
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  Speaker 2: I would.
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  Speaker 3: Love to you know, over and teach a little relationship class.
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  Speaker 2: So I started that, and I was coming over Wednesday
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  Speaker 2: mornings as part of my job at.
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  Speaker 3: Grace, and they resonated with it.
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  Speaker 2: People got so excited, like no one's ever told me
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  Speaker 2: how to do this before. We talk about basics of
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  Speaker 2: like how to handle conflict or something, and people were
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  Speaker 2: just glued to it and they started calling me doctor Love.
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  Speaker 3: I've owned it now.
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  Speaker 2: It was embarrassing for a while, but I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: we'll go with it.
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  Speaker 3: But that became.
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  Speaker 2: But I've learned to love the people over there, and
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  Speaker 2: I think what I found is there's a lot of brokenness.
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  Speaker 2: We were meeting people who are coming out of they
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  Speaker 2: have huge come out of huge messes because they've come
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  Speaker 2: out of jail or they've come out of rehab, they've
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  Speaker 2: come out of something like that, and their life is
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  Speaker 2: just broken and a lot of them you look, You're like, man,
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  Speaker 2: there's brokenness going back to the day they were born
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  Speaker 2: and from their family of origin and the abuse that.
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  Speaker 3: They suffered or something like that.
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  Speaker 2: And you're like, they never no one's ever parented them
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  Speaker 2: or shown them or given them a chance to know
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  Speaker 2: even how to function in society. So man, the more
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  Speaker 2: I was over there teaching him, the more I just
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  Speaker 2: I love seeing the light go on with somebody.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you got to dig into it, and once you do,
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  Speaker 1: you're yeah, I'm sure you.
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  Speaker 2: See the stories of people changing stuff in their life
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  Speaker 2: that's really hard, and I know how hard it is
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  Speaker 2: to overcome some of the trauma and abuse or different things.
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  Speaker 2: You know, you hear the stories of it, and I'm like, wow,
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  Speaker 2: I see them doing hard things and fighting hard to
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  Speaker 2: save their lives. Right, So when you get to see
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  Speaker 2: those stories, it's as messy as it is and as.
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  Speaker 3: Hard as it is because people are coming out of
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  Speaker 3: a lot of mess.
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  Speaker 2: When you get to see him like do something amazing
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  Speaker 2: in their life and you're seeing them succeed, it's like wow,
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  Speaker 2: like that that's what needs it for me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, because I'm just like to get.
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  Speaker 2: To see the light go on in somebody's eyes and
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  Speaker 2: they're like, Okay, I want something different for myself, to
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  Speaker 2: see him working, to see We had somebody this week
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  Speaker 2: that she got promoted in her job, like they made
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  Speaker 2: her the lead, you know, in her job.
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  Speaker 3: She's like, I've never had this before.
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  Speaker 2: No one's ever like said I'm doing a good job
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  Speaker 2: and promoted me before.
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  Speaker 3: That was a hall I never had had that had
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  Speaker 3: you not been in the picture with me.
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  Speaker 2: My house, like no, the stability and feeling like she
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  Speaker 2: has support and family because the same version would say
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  Speaker 2: I never had family before. Like I don't have a family,
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  Speaker 2: is not something I've ever had. This is my family.
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  Speaker 3: These are the people that support me and love me
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  Speaker 3: and are hear from me.
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  Speaker 2: And to see somebody through that, it's like feeling that
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  Speaker 2: confidence and now like I can go do well at
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  Speaker 2: my job and they actually liked me.
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  Speaker 3: And wanted to promote me.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, that's that's what I'll do with this for
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  Speaker 2: is I want to seeing that happen in someone's life.
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  Speaker 3: It's like, Yeah, it's amazing, that's awesome, that's awesome.
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  Speaker 1: I think the biggest question I have is what makes
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  Speaker 1: me and my house different from other recovery programs, Like
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  Speaker 1: how how do you guys stand out or how do
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  Speaker 1: you position yourselves in terms of you know, obviously getting
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  Speaker 1: the right people that you're supporting.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it is, and we kind of that will get
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  Speaker 2: confused for some people because I think we do be
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  Speaker 2: overlapped because we cover a broad range of things for people.
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  Speaker 2: Because when we get in into the mess with somebody,
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  Speaker 2: I can't just do mental health work. For example, there
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  Speaker 2: are counseling needs that I jumped into. There's addiction that's
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  Speaker 2: going on, but then you know they're also they're coming
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  Speaker 2: out of homelessness, they're coming out of addiction.
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  Speaker 3: They've been in jail, they've got court things that they
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  Speaker 3: need to deal with.
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  Speaker 2: We're trying to be a well rounded, holistic kind of
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  Speaker 2: program because you get involved.
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  Speaker 3: In any one of these, you have to get involved
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  Speaker 3: in all of them.
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  Speaker 2: And so we we're distinguished from I would say a
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  Speaker 2: difference between us, like say the Lighthouse would be the
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  Speaker 2: light that I think are doing great work. They deal
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  Speaker 2: with like the emergency housing side of it, for you know,
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  Speaker 2: someone that's just coming off the street.
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  Speaker 3: They just want to get off the street. They need
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  Speaker 3: a safe place to.
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  Speaker 2: Sleep tonight, right those places they do that, and they
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  Speaker 2: do that really well. We've not tried to be really
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  Speaker 2: in that space. We tell people you're going to be
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  Speaker 2: doing a lot of classes, a lot of groups, a
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  Speaker 2: lot of you know, counseling stuff, like you're.
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  Speaker 1: Going to be busy, people accountable to show up. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, So I say if you're when people are just
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  Speaker 2: trying to get off the street, often they won't respond.
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  Speaker 3: They don't. They get real sick of us real quick.
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  Speaker 2: They're like, you're asking me all these questions or I
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  Speaker 2: have to go to all these classes, like I didn't
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  Speaker 2: want to do any of this.
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  Speaker 3: I just need a safe place to sleep tonight.
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  Speaker 2: And so we'll tell them when we interview them like that,
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  Speaker 2: if you're ready to work and transition out. I've always
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  Speaker 2: said as a counselor, my job is to work myself
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  Speaker 2: out of a job with somebody. I want you to
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  Speaker 2: go beyond me. And that's the same thing. On their program,
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  Speaker 2: we're trying. We're getting them out of other places, right.
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  Speaker 2: They're coming out of uh, they've got to assign the
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  Speaker 2: mental health court, they're getting out of jail, they're they're
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  Speaker 2: getting out of rehab and they need a living space
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  Speaker 2: that's sober living or something like that. But they're ready
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  Speaker 2: to figure out how to live independently. That's we're going
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  Speaker 2: to walk with them to try to help them get
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  Speaker 2: there and put the pieces together right.
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  Speaker 1: Right, So, I mean typically, like if someone were to
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  Speaker 1: come in and say I just need to roof over my.
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  Speaker 3: Head, yeah, we would.
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  Speaker 2: We would usually be calling up we would help them
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  Speaker 2: find someplace, but we would be saying, let's go talk
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  Speaker 2: to the lighthouse.
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  Speaker 3: Have you been there before? Have you been to be
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  Speaker 3: the light?
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  Speaker 2: You know, we would start figuring out you know, what's
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  Speaker 2: happened there, and we try to figure out what's a
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  Speaker 2: good space for them. But if they're they're just like, man,
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  Speaker 2: I just need a place to stay, I'm like, you're
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  Speaker 2: probably not going to like it here. Yeah, yeah, you know,
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  Speaker 2: because we're we're going to be doing a whole lot
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  Speaker 2: of stuff and if you're not ready to take that on,
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  Speaker 2: then okay, that's and it's great that that's happening somewhere.
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  Speaker 3: We probably refer them.
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  Speaker 1: And weally question but in terms of like payment for
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  Speaker 1: rent or like what does.
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  Speaker 3: That look like?
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  Speaker 2: Is it? We usually so when someone comes in the program,
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  Speaker 2: we have between fundraising we've done and between some great
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  Speaker 2: money different things that we get, we usually try to
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  Speaker 2: have their first months to six weeks paid for and
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  Speaker 2: so then because we want them to have a chance
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  Speaker 2: to get in work the program to.
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  Speaker 3: Just usually they have to stabilize a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: And we're doing some job training stuff early on that
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  Speaker 2: we want them to work through and then in that.
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  Speaker 1: Month obviously getting a paycheck and then.
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  Speaker 2: After that they should be working. So we keep that
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  Speaker 2: pretty minimal. Like our people, they will pay like one
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  Speaker 2: hundred dollars a week just in covering and cost we
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  Speaker 2: have you know ARLANDA Parker who started this. He's a
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  Speaker 2: real estate guy. He finds the in chiefs, he owns
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  Speaker 2: it and he doesn't have any.
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  Speaker 3: And he rebuilt it himself.
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  Speaker 2: So it would say we're in a position where we
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  Speaker 2: don't have to we're not paying a huge mortgage that
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  Speaker 2: we have to get a lot of money from them
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  Speaker 2: to pay the rent. So we try to keep that
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  Speaker 2: cost really low manageable because often when they start into
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  Speaker 2: a job, you know, they're they're working minimum wage jobs,
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  Speaker 2: so there they often don't have a lot right away.
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  Speaker 2: So we that way we can transition them towards getting
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  Speaker 2: to a place where they're making enough to afford to
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  Speaker 2: live in towns where that's a different challenge and it
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  Speaker 2: it takes some work to get there. So we want
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  Speaker 2: immediately after that first month or so, we want them
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  Speaker 2: to be responsible to get used to paying rent. We
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  Speaker 2: want them even if it's just a small amount. I
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  Speaker 2: want them to have the experience of putting money aside
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  Speaker 2: from their paycheck to pay their rent. They need the
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  Speaker 2: experience of doing those things. A lot of them have
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  Speaker 2: never done it, and so you know, when we're looking
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  Speaker 2: at those are usually the first we talk about six
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  Speaker 2: pillars that we put in. Yeah, so our six pillar,
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  Speaker 2: like graduating our program means you have to work through
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  Speaker 2: finding a job, getting a bank account, transportation, and then
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  Speaker 2: eventually housing, you know, getting your own housing, and then
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  Speaker 2: recovery and spiritual development.
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  Speaker 3: So those are our six pillars. So usually those first.
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  Speaker 2: Ones are getting a job and getting a bank account
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  Speaker 2: and learning to manage that. And then while we're working
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  Speaker 2: on their whatever recovery mental health issues and spiritual issues
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  Speaker 2: that may come up in the program. And then usually
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  Speaker 2: those last two are saving so that they can buy
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  Speaker 2: a car or something to have transportation, and then saving
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  Speaker 2: enough money that hey, you're gonna have to have your
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  Speaker 2: first month's rent ready to put down if you're going
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  Speaker 2: into an apartment. Some people have never saved that kind
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  Speaker 2: of money in their life. To have saved seven hundred
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  Speaker 2: dollars or one thousand dollars sounds overwhelming to a lot
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  Speaker 2: of people with money or for then they can't even
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  Speaker 2: fathom having that money set aside.
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  Speaker 1: It gets me chills. I'm like, oh, that's awesome.
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  Speaker 2: To help them through that process, that's what we're trying
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  Speaker 2: to do. And so, yeah, so when we get there,
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  Speaker 2: right away. I want them to have the experience of
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  Speaker 2: starting to build these habits.
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  Speaker 3: So while we're.
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  Speaker 2: Dealing with you know, recovery and all that kind of stuff,
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  Speaker 2: I'm also saying, I want you to learn some responsibility
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  Speaker 2: the same way. In the house that they're living and
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  Speaker 2: we have a men's in a women's house, they're getting
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  Speaker 2: the experience of you need to make your bet every day,
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  Speaker 2: you need to get up, and you have cleaning tours
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  Speaker 2: that you need to do within the house. Everybody's got responsibilities.
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  Speaker 2: You're taking turns cooking during the day.
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  Speaker 3: It's a lot of these basic is that they have
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  Speaker 3: to get used to doing.
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  Speaker 2: But like, if you're going to live on your own,
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  Speaker 2: you're gonna have to manage these kind of responsibilities.
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  Speaker 3: And some of them have, but many of them have not.
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  Speaker 2: They've never had any of this experience. They've lived in
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  Speaker 2: chaotic situations their whole life.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so's there's a huge element element of education and
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  Speaker 1: kind of just walking them through, you know, the process.
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  Speaker 1: I even think to myself, I'm like, just put one
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  Speaker 1: foot on the floor, just one foot on the floor.
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  Speaker 1: I was walking up the stairs.
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  Speaker 3: I was like one foot in front of the other. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: and it's you know, you've.
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  Speaker 1: Got to get granular when it comes to that stuff,
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  Speaker 1: and I know that that can be really difficult, but
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  Speaker 1: you guys are doing great things. Do you guys stay
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  Speaker 1: connected with graduates after they leave near my house?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I mean we're always more excited. Sometimes people just
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  Speaker 2: hop by. We're always excited to see them. You know,
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  Speaker 2: there's a few of them that are working for us,
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  Speaker 2: so some of them have had.
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  Speaker 3: A role, you know, the graduated that we really love
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  Speaker 3: to employ them.
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  Speaker 2: We're trying to build more opportunities to employ some of
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  Speaker 2: our people and so that's that's one of our long
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  Speaker 2: term goals, is building out some business opportunities we're building
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  Speaker 2: so we can employ more of our people. But yeah,
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  Speaker 2: we're always excited when we hear from somebody that's you know,
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  Speaker 2: we haven't seen in months, and all of a sudden
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  Speaker 2: they pop in and.
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  Speaker 3: We try to like we might you know, in whatever context.
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  Speaker 3: Some people leave suddenly.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes people you know, just like man, I'm done with this,
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  Speaker 2: and they bail, you know, because it's hard and so
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  Speaker 2: we but and we've had people cycle through multiple times
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  Speaker 2: as well that have been in the program before they left. Maybe,
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  Speaker 2: I mean we're in this space of dealing with people's addictions.
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  Speaker 3: And all that kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 2: People leave, they relapse, they go back out on the street.
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  Speaker 2: We have to see that all the time. So but
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  Speaker 2: you know, we've had people that have come through that
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  Speaker 2: we've seen on to the three different occasions that come
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  Speaker 2: through our program, you know, that are still trying to
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  Speaker 2: figure it out and as long as they're ready to work.
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  Speaker 3: You tell him.
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  Speaker 2: One of the things that Orlando started saying early on,
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  Speaker 2: he said, we're not going to let go of your hand, right,
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: you may let go of ours, but we're not going
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: to let go orders Like, once that person's part of us,
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: we have a certain lolity.
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: We care about it.
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: And you know, regardless of even if we have to
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: have hard consequences with people, we're still it's like, we
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: care about what is best for you and trying to
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: help you get your life on track. So we need
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: to do that. We want to step in and help
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: whatever way we can.
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: And so yeah, but.
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: Success stories too, when they come by and we're just like, hey,
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: you're still like working successfully and you're doing well in
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: your job, It's like that's awesome. That is to me,
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: that's super refreshing. For us when we get to see
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: the other side of it.
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, I'm sure there's a mix of both. I would
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: imagine working in.
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: This industry is that, Yes, this mess has a hold
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: on people, right, So obviously we have to deal with
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: the disappointment when somebody makes a bad choice.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And at the end of the day, I mean,
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: you can't fix the people that you have in the system,
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: in the program, like, they have to make that decision themselves, right,
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: So they do just trying to, like I said, educating them.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: And I think from a community standpoint, how can I'll
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: say Borrowersville, but in general, how can the people in
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: the community get involved and you know.
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: Support me and my own house?
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: There is always I mean, financial support is always great.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: It's an expensive business doing what we do, and there's
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: all kinds of little things that come up. Our website
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: themis CDC dot com is a great place to go
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: if people are just like, hey, I want to get
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: involved and donate, there'll be some opportunities.
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: We are building out. We're building this.
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: Year a lot of our workforce stuff. So we're going
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: to be building out a course. We're building out a
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: more extensive course on training people how to work and
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: that's gonna we want to do that not just with
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: our people in house. That's where we're starting and working
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: out the kinks with our people in the houses, but
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: we want to offer that to the community soon as well.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: So those those are things this year that are going
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: to develop. Well, We'll have lots of room for volunteers
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: on some of that. It will require a lot of
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: volunteers and partners. I know I've talked with Brad about
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: I'm going to be pulling him in probably some things
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: on that as we're looking for helping helping people find
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: jobs and some of that's going to be a key component.
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: But so there's some of those things. But we're always
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: if someone wants to volunteer, they can always reach out
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: to us on our website too because there's always needs
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: of there's all kinds of random things that you know,
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: administrative tasks to meeting with people, mentoring relationships and those
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: kind of things.
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: But yeah, then donations are always apart, so we're always
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: open to that.
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: And we have our new thing too because we're we're
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: building a business that we're starting here called move It Junket,
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: So we are we are.
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: People want to put our people to work.
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: So this is kind of one of our new ventures recently,
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: and so we're doing some like movie moving services like
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: local moving, junk removal, clean up, clean out your garage,
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: and spring cleaning time or a little handyman things, lots
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: of any springdom yes, any any kind of stuff.
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: We can say we got several you.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: Know, handy, hard working kind of people that we know
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: we can turn loose on some of these jobs. So
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: we're you know, you can reach out to us on
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: our on our website as well on that We're going
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: to be putting a little more out coming up soon,
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: but even just calling our office if you had a
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: job that you need to do, our guys would be
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: thrilled to get to work, right, So we're trying to
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: build some of that in house that allows us to
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: give them employment and pay them, but it also gives us.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: When they can work for us, we can be training
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: them at the same time. That's what the more we
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: can do it ourselves, we can be in there with
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: them and help them learning a job, work ethic, learning
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: how to function in the job situation. Some of them
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: have just never done. So they need a boss that
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: can say, hey, this is how you need a function
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: right here. If you do this out job out there,
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: they're not going to want you. Yeah, you're going to
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: get fired if you act like this right And they don't,
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: you know, when they're kind of like standing around, they
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: don't know how to do anything, and.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: It's like no one's ever pushed them.
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: So we get a chance to push them and show
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: them like, hey, if you want to be successful, this
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: is how.
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: You're going to have to do it.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: And that's a beautiful thing to see them kind of
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: open up. So it serves both a function for us
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: of creating jobs. It raises some money for the nonprofit,
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: but it also like job training, we can do it
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: in action with them, So the more we can do that,
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: so if you got jobs, definitely.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm a single girl living in Bartlesville and just
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: moved here and I have my headlights out on my
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: car and.
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: I'm like, who do I call to fix this?
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, those are the kind of things that you're
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: talking about, and like, yeah, well, you know, drive.
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: Them over there and we and yeah, and I think
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: you know, I heard recently I've been talking to a
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: couple of real that I know and they were like.
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: Oh, there's a big backlog of moving services needed around here.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: There's a lot of local moving stuff that people and
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, well.
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: We would gladly do that.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: Like we got guys that they can carry heavy stuff,
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: they can load it up, you know, even just unloading
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: someone's you know it's a storage facility or different things
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: like that sometimes. And like I said, I know it's
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: getting the spring cleaning time. I've had somebody already that
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: told me this week, like I've got a whole bunch
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: of junk that you know, from a grandfather that passed away,
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: that's in our garage that we just need somebody to
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: haul this stuff off.
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: Yes, we will haul it.
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: Off and we'll figure out what to do with it,
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: what needs to be recycled and junked and whatever.
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: So a little job like that where it's just hey,
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: this would help somebody come by. We would love to
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: do that kind of stuff so great, So yes we would.
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: We're always happy.
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: If if somebody wants to call us for that kind
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: of stuff and just reach out to us, somebody that
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: just cares about our vision. I like being creative too,
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: So if I find somebody that's just like man, I
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: love what you're doing.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: I want to be part of it somehow.
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: I would have loved to brainstorm and just figure out, hey,
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: because there's a lot of us wearing multiple hats right now,
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: So there's there. And so I find somebody that has
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: a certain skill set. You never know what it might be.
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: That could be like, hey, I know about billying kind
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: of stuff, and I'll be like, you know what, that
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: would take that off of this person. Like we would
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: gladly have somebody to come in and fill those gaps.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: So when we meet people, the biggest criteria for me
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: is people who just love the kind of people we're
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: working with, that see them and are like, man, I
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: want to get involved in And then there's always room
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: for these people.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, Well tell us about the paddle for
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: a purpose. Well, I say paddle. There is a conflict.
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: I've heard it called padel and I've also heard it
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: called paddle. I don't know what your opinion is on that.
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: I've always said battle, but I am the wrong person
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: asking that.
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: I am not the pickleball fanatic myself. So we've got
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: we've got some around us that are that had a
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: passion for this, that are I know some pickleball fanatics
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: that have been putting this on. Yeah, I am not
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: a I've never played pickleball, so I am I am
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: the wrong person to know.
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: And now I get all these terminologies.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: From Saturday, March twenty eighth, it looks like you probably should.
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: I know.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I need to educate myself because I'm going
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: to sound like they're gonna be like, he doesn't.
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: Know any of the tournament. You know, I don't know
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: how the kitchen works or any of that kind of stuff.
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: I hear these things, now, stay out of the kitchen.
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: I'm lost, right, But but it's gonna be fun.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: We've got we had some people associated part of our
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: board and some other people that were like, we want
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: to put on a fundraiser, and I was like, you know,
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: so there was some brainstorm.
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: And they're like, we really want to do a pickleball tournament,
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: and I'm like, all right, let's go. Yeah. So we
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: have we have people that just love pickleball and wanted
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: to do one locally.
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: So so this is kind of a fundraiser for us,
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: but it's also hey, some of our you know, pickleball
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: fanatics really want another local tournament. So that's Saturday, March
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: twenty eighth. So we've had a lot of great sponsors
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: including you guys Done Just Toyo has been one of
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: our number of sponsors, those Age Casino and you know,
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: Chnico Phillos. We've had a bunch of these that have
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: come in and jumped into sponsor which has been fun.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: And with all of that, are our sponsors coming on now,
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: we're ready. We're in the kind of sign up phase
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: now where we're just hey, signing up teams.
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: We're hoping to have a big tournament, so we're I.
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: Think they've said we're going to try to cap it
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: at forty teams, so wow, which is pretty good size.
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah so but yeah, so if they if they go
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: to our website.
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: In them CDC dot com, they'll see a link for
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: paddle for a Purpose. So if you're a pickleball fanatic
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: and you or even if you're there's all levels.
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: We are doing different levels, so we'll have some of
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: the real high end people but other people that are
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: new to the sport.
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: It's just going to be fun.
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: That's that'll be all day. The registration will be at
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: seven thirty it starts to adm. It'll run probably a
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: good part of the day that day. But yeah, if
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: you want to sign up, good to a website. It's
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: sixty dollars per person to sign up for your ticket,
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: and yeah, come join us. I think it'll be a
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: great time. We're excited to kind of put you out
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: and we say it's for a purpose because this is
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: this is blessing our participants. People come out, they have fun,
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: but it also our people are going to be out
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: there working. You know, we're going to have our participants
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: out help and set stuff up. They're gonna you know,
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: I'll be out there, you know, meeting people and stuff
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: like that. So if you want to meet some of
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: the people from NEMIA and stuff like that, get to
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: know us a little bit too. That's it's an opportunity
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: to kind of hang out and we can talk about, you.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: Know, what we do.
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: And this is at Hillcrest Country Club, So if you
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: want to register, you can obviously, like you mentioned, go
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: to their website at Neiamiyah House or a Niamiyah CDC
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: dot com. Correct thank you for sharing your story. I
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: think that it's incredible work that you guys are doing,
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: and really conversations like this really do remind us why
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: we do what we do and how we separate ourselves
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: in the community that obviously, restoration and.
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: Hope is always possible.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: So we really really appreciate what you guys are doing.
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: And if you have any questions, you can obviously call
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: Neemayah or you can call Dunge Toyota and we're happy
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: to help. They've been a great partner with us in
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: the past and we just want to continue that support
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: for you guys. Is there anything else that you would
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: like to close with?
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: I don't know. I just I don't know. I don't
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: have anything else. Yeah, but this has been great. I
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: really appreciate it.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you guys are You're definitely doing the work, that's
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: for sure. If someone is listening today and feels kind
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: of stuck or broken or like they've made obviously too
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: many mistakes, we talked before the show to start over,
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: what would you want them to hear?
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: It's not too late to start over like there. Honestly,
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: I've had people tell us, you know, we were just
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: recording a testimonial here from one of our guys that's
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: in our program right now, and he was saying like
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: it was weird for him that when he came and
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: told us how broken his life was and all the
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: mistakes that he made, that it made us.
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: Like feel closer to him. That we were like, yes,
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: you're ready for us.
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: And it's like that having a mess is actually kind
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: of a prerequisite in our program.
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: It's normal.
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: What I want is people to be open and honest
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: about it and ready to change it right. And you
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: don't have to know how to fix it, but it's
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: I'm ready to work, right, That's really what we're looking for.
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: I don't people come in with some really big messes
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: in their life that it may take a while to
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: fix and you may it may take six months or
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: a year or something, and we're ready to do that.
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: So when whatever they need, like there's always hope if
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: and we're always open to meet with them, they can
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: go in our webs there's an application or website and
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: the car Our office and we'll we'll meet with them
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: and see what we can help them be awesome.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: Well, thank you Mike for being with us. Find us
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: a dungeus Toyota, call me into my house and we
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: will be there for you.
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: Thanks for listening to one on one with a professional
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: A paid presentation at fourteen hundred K one