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We Were Never Meant to Be Complete Alone with Dr. Miriam Menaker · Tehillim for the Soul with Dr. Miriam Menaker

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  I am complete.
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  I am myself.
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  I don't feel any different.
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  I feel part of everyone.
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  I feel part of Hashem.
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  I feel part of you, and you feel part of me, and we are working together.
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  OK。 Okay, wonderful.
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  Good morning, everyone.
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  Good morning.
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  It is, it's a pleasure to be here again.
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  In regard of Sukkot, what is amazing of Sukkot is like the end products of the High Holidays.
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  So we end with Shemini Atzeret and Simchat Torah.
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  The end of these beautiful holidays.
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  So we have to understand the evolution of these holidays.
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  The holidays start with Elul already.
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  So it's a long preparation of a whole month before.
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  We want to create a preparation call in Hebrew teshuva.
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  Teshuva is to return.
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  Is not to repent, is to return.
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  Because the most important point is returning.
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  Every year is a new cycle of life, right?
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  Every day is a new cycle of life.
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  But now is a renewal of a year cycle.
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  So why is so important this renewal?
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  Because we have two types of commandments that we call commandments to do and commandments not to do.
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  The commandments to do, we can do teshuva through the year.
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  But the commandments of not to do only are possible to repair in Yom Kippur.
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  The Torah have 613 commandments.
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  248 are positive, and 363 are negative.
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  So what, when we make a transgression of a negative, we cannot repair it through the year.
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  We only repair on Yom Kippur.
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  The, the returning, the teshuvah of, Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Sukkot, and end Shemini Atzeret, that is the, the integration of all the holidays.
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  And then with Simchat Torah, where there is a complete unity.
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  Everyone, every man can hold a Sefer Torah.
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  Doesn't matter who he is, if he comes regularly to the shul or not come, everyone can integrate because we are a unity.
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  So what we see Good morning, Ami.
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  What we see really is that everything is unity.
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  Everything in life, is living So in order to live, we have integration.
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  When there is separation, There is disintegration disintegration is what happen in the grave.
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  The body and soul needs to be together.
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  If there is no soul, the body dies, and separates, and disappear.
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  Always there is a piece of the body that will rest for the coming of Moshiach and for the final redemption.
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  So all this is part of the prophecy of Ezekiel, where he sees bones, they, get sinews and, and meat, they start to appear life again.
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  This is our expectation for our life to be reconnected.
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  So the idea of unity, this is my point.
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  The idea of unity is fundamental that's why we have Shema Yisrael, Hashem Elokeinu, Hashem Echad.
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  Everything is a unity.
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  So in these holidays, we are seeing how we are bringing everything unity.
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  You have the unity of the four species, the unity of what they represent, the lulav, what represent the aravot or the myrtle, and the etrog.
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  And we enter into a cover a dome.
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  Is fragile, is temporary, but we use that only for seven days Okay.
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  And there is many symbolim-- one other symbols that we find in Sukkot is the, the sacrifices of seven bulls, seven bulls every day, and they represent 70 nation that exists in the world.
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  We consider that there are 70 nation.
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  We have more than 70 because they are derivative of this one but there are 70, and 70 princes in the spiritual world.
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  And it cor- correlate with the seven days of the week.
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  Correct?
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  So everything is connected.
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  What Hashem wants is to create a dwelling place in this world.
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  He comes here, a dwelling place.
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  He choose one man.
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  He choose Abraham, and then Abraham, to his son, Isaac, and then from Isaac to Jacob, and the 12 tribes So we are the nation right now till the beginning of, Abraham in this world.
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  We are the nation that is the, expression of, of God.
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  And but every nation, every human being is part of this world, is part of Hashem.
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  We are all children from Hashem.
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  There is no difference between us and between others, the other nation.
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  The only point here is we are the nation that decided to follow Hashem's laws.
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  And that is what give us that, uh, the status that we have.
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  But this is-- Hashem is not content, is not satisfied with having only the Jewish nation.
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  He wants all the nations, all the princes of the world, all the princes ab-above the 70, princes in, in, the spiritual level, or the 70 nation that exists in the world, physical world, to recognize His, H- Hashem.
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  This is what Hashem wants, to be recognized.
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  Because he created a human being that is half a body and half a soul.
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  And the soul that we receive is a soul that comes directly from Hashem, is a, a godly soul.
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  So we have this godly soul, and our function is to create a world of unity, a world where we want to bless all the nations.
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  We don't want to be separate.
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  Every nation is important because every nation has characteristic that are important in this unity, in this creation.
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  We have to accept and they have to accept us as we are.
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  When we create that unity, that is the unity that Hashem is, is looking for So we have, we have a mind and thought, we have emotion that are rep- represented in our heart, and we have all the m- physical organs in our body that comp- that represent this, materiality.
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  Hashem doesn't have a hand, but we are his hand.
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  Hashem doesn't have his, a mouth.
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  He doesn't have a a direct speech, but we are his mouth.
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  We say, in the Tehillah of Hamida, Adonai sefatay tiftach en, en pi yakete latecha,"I will please Hashem, open my mouth- And I will praise you.
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  The idea of praise is because Hashem is the creator of the world, and this is what we have through all the time, and this is what we express in these holidays, is to return to Hashem, to do teshuvah.
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  And how we do teshuvah, by returning to our source, and our source is Hashem.
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  We, many Jews, they don't recognize this, and we need constantly a, a reminder, a re- a cleaning again.
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  So in Rosh Hashanah, there is a, a book that open, is a book that will open, and to who will continue living in this world, to whom is continue to have a good life.
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  Life is like a, a, a round circle.
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  So sometimes a person can be good n- now and could become poor in the future.
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  So the, the idea of, i- is that we connect back.
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  That is returning, the returning of ourself to Hashem to, understand that he is our creator, and if he does and he gave us a Torah, is for our benefit.
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  If he tell us what to do, is because he is our father.
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  Like a father say to a, a educate his children in certain way, giving them some kind of rules in order that they will follow a path.
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  So that is the path that a Jew needs to follow.
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  But the most, this, the most important part is that we are one body and one unity.
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  So we, in Sukkot, we return to Gan Eden.
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  The sukkah is that represent by, that is under the sky, is under the sky.
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  The, and we have, those branches of palm or other type of trees that we cover our sukkah.
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  This is that we are connected with nature And the arba minim, the four spices are the expression of those, connection with a fruit.
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  In the same way that Hashem be- is- put, Adam in the, in Gan Eden, in the Edgar, in the paradise where he has so many trees.
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  He said,"You can eat from all the trees, but from one you have to...
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  You cannot eat." And that, why is that?
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  And this tree and the fruit, it w- is exactly the fruit of the etrog.
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  That is the etrog.
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  This is the etrog that we are, we are holding in our hands when we move the four spices.
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  So you have something that is very tall, like this lulav.
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  Then you have, two other, two other, the my- myrtle and the other, uh, branch.
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  And all together they represent the unity in of four kind of, of, souls.
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  Those are the four kind of souls that must be united.
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  And we unite not only us, but we are creating in the Beit Hamikdash the sacrifice of those seven bulls every 70.
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  It, in a, in a degrading way means that we are started with 70, then with less, and then less, till the last day.
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  Beside that, in the temple, in Sukkot, there is another custom that was very important, and is the custom of throwing on the altar water.
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  So that water is the representation of the light of Hashem.
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  Is the flow of energy of all the blessing that comes through water.
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  Water represent also the desires of the human being, are represented in water.
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  We bring this water down here and, and beside that, every Hol HaMoed, something very big happen.
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  The great sages, they used to take, to feel vulnerable, in order to feel vulnerable, they take torches and game, and, and have games with these torches.
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  And, and is, is, is something unbelievable.
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  So how you can understand a, a, a high priest, that he is the h- the highest spiritual being, he takes A seven torches and he is gambling with the torches and moving up and down, moving up and down.
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  As, this is a, an expression that created a joy.
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  So wh- what is the joy of, of Sukkot?
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  The joy of the Sukkot is the unity between us and the unity between Hashem.
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  When we take a symbol that is any mitzvah, is not...
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  The mitzvah, we have two ways to understand.
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  One is viscerally.
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  So we have something that where we cannot think.
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  There is no intellect.
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  The visceras are the organs of the body.
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  The liver is a viscera.
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  The stomach is a viscera.
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  The heart is another viscera of our body.
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  So what we do here, we, we understand Hashem above, above our intellect because our intellect is also in a way that, that create a separation.
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  There is, we have to do things in a visceral way, that has to come without understanding, is above understanding We un- we l- teach the p- people, our Rabbanim is teaching us the meaning of every one of those symbols.
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  But the idea is not that.
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  The idea is to be connected in a way that is above understanding.
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  It's the same idea.
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  I have to love my ch- I love my children above understanding.
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  This is Hashem, above understanding, above int- above intellect.
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  When there is that unity that you are united with your, your fellow, friend, your fellow Jew, you are united because this is the unity.
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  You don't do it because he has a nice face, as is, uh, he's intellectual or he has other abilities.
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  You love him by himself.
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  So when we love by, uh, as the things are by themself, we go above, and transcend everything.
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  And the mitzvah is only a tool.
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  It is a way to bring the light from Hashem to a material world.
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  So because it's things that are material.
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  You are t- touching a, a trope.
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  You are touching a lulav.
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  You are under the Sukkah.
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  So all those things are material, are physical.
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  We can see them.
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  We can touch them.
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  And we need to touch.
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  We need to s- to have senses, and, and those senses are important for us.
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  But at the same time, there is a higher level of connection with God and connection with the, with our fellows that is above understanding, above intellect.
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  Because the intellect is a thought.
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  Intellect are thought that enters in our mind and, and, and create in us boundaries Eh, that is what make that a young, uh, teenager, he has stopped to do things.
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  He doesn't want to continue or he doesn't like to go to the university, like the previous generation, like my generation, like your, our gen- generation.
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  So they are looking for something different.
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  This is what we see in the teenagers today.
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  They feel separate.
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  They feel dissociated from the general, gener- from the generation, from the world where they live.
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  They get, they find other's way.
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  They are looking for other's, something more genuine to be connected, and they don't find it.
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  and w- we as, as parent also feel this dissociation, this disconnection between our children and between us.
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  And this is something that happen from s- generation and generation It didn't happen with me with my own parents, but this is what we see today.
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  We see the children that needs a different guidance.
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  A, they want something more through, more significant.
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  And the Torah is teaching us to go and be more genuine, more you, more connected.
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  When you connect with your own self, when you are the, the vessel, the recipient of the light of HaShem, everything change.
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  B- if you put certain ideas on top and that create a separation, we want to be a, a, a vehicle, a, a connect- a connector, and this is what HaShem wants for us.
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  That's what he gave us hands and heart, emotion, intellect.
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  It, gave us also understanding, that is the idea of mind that understand things.
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  We have that.
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  We have so many gift in our hands and but in general, what we see is a dissatisfaction in people, dissatisfaction in the young generation, dissociation of the young generation.
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  And we as parents suffer because we cannot We see that and, and actually we also went through all this trauma because we, uh, we-- that's why we learn, and that, and this is the, the object of the Torah, and this is the purpose of saying Teshuvah.
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  The Teshuvah is so important because that give me a purpose, a reason of being, a re- la- that give me the satisfaction that I need in order to be myself.
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  No, a, a repli- a replica of a book, no a replica of others' idea, but me, me.
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  So, and this is what is the re- a rebellious children, the rebellious teenagers.
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  They don't want to follow rules.
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  They don't want to tell-- them, that we tell them what to do, and the reason is because they didn't find themselves in their, in those rules.
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  They didn't find themselves in this Torah So, and we have to understand them, and to open ourself, no by being the big one and being, and creating barriers and separation with the young, uh, generation.
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  We have to reunite those r- young generation.
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  And it's not Before, it was to reunite the one that they were learner and the one that they were ignorant.
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  It's not, now it's not, this is not the point today.
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  The point today is, is to unite all of us and understand each of us, to b- to be a res- a vessel to receives your, your other friend.
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  To, to, a, a, to be a vessel and understanding and uni- and uni- unite with your children, that they feel separated from us.
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  There is no separation, and it's very hard, this point that I am, point up, because, this is the whole purpose of our existence and our life.
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  I, we want that, and this is the meaning of those, those four spices, that we connect in with the six, from north, south, east, west, up, and down.
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  That is what we do with the four spices.
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  We create a vibration.
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  When we, you, we move the, the four spices, you are creating an energy, a vibration, and that vibration we connect up and down, right and left, east, and west.
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  So this is how the, the makom, this is the p- the, the idea of a space.
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  The space is form for these six Connection that we have.
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  Six, six, dimension.
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  So those six dimension are part of our life.
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  So when we understand that there are rules that already are made like that, you cannot change that there is seven days of the week.
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  You cannot make...
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  I- there is things that, okay, I can do, but I can...
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  I, we have to teach our- ourself, not only the children, ourself to, to have this connection that, that creating us, th- this connection creating us suffering and pain.
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  And, and then that pain and that suffering, we have to go o- over it and overcome.
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  And okay, that is my, the idea that I wanted to bring you today of the...
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  And when we have the, the idea of unity, when we have unity, we are complete, and there is shalom.
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  That is the idea of shalom.
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  Shalom also is completion.
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  I am complete.
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  I am myself.
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  I, I, uh, I, I don't feel any more different.
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  I feel part of everyone.
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  I feel part of Hashem.
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  I feel part of you, and you feel part of me, and we are working together.
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  Because Natalie has ability that I don't have.
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  Julie has abilities that I don't have.
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  So, we have to combine the abilities of, of Renee with my abilities, o- and, and we are respect, with a lot of respect.
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  Without having jealousy, without having negative thought, we can be together, and we be one.
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  Because Hashem is only one.
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  Hashem is with us, and this is Hashem what wants to bring us in this holiday, and this is part of the whole Torah.
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  The Torah is a blueprint that Hashem gave us in order to give us all the guidance that we need in order to be that, to f- be with kind of perfection.
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  We are not perfect.
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  We came here lacking Is n- we, no one is perfect because Hashem made us in this way in order that I need Linda sometimes.
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  I need her, her advice, or she may need me sometimes.
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  So we are a one with the other, like has like a big family.
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  Like what, how we have to be with our sisters and our brothers and wh- and everything.
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  We are one.
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  So that is the message of today.
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  This is the message of Sukkot, and that's why at the end we have Simchat Torah, and we embrace our Torah that is, is everything for us, is the wisdom of Hashem, is the whole Torah is the name of Hashem.
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  We embrace the Torah, and we dance together, and we feel the joy of being united.
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  Am Yisrael Chai.
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  And thank you very much.
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  So this is my thought today, and I- and now I am open.
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  Eh, you have your daughter-in-law, Natalie?
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  Yes.
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  Nice to meet you.
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  Okay.
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  uh, Jul- uh, Linda, you want to, start?
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  Like the Dr.
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  Linda Benederet Yes.
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  Hello.
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  Sure.
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  You, you know, when you were talking about how, we had to teach the younger generation, it's kinda like we had to be taught also.
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  Exactly.
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  So, and, and what I was thinking was it's kind of like, you know, raising kids.
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  You want their life to be better than yours was.
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  It's like, so although w- we all had excellent teachers, I'm sure we aspire to be even better, you know?
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  And, like, passing on our knowledge and passing on our wisdom.
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  So, you know, I, I really, you know, was, was really focused in on that whole concept of, you know, of sharing and teaching and, and, that, that sometimes, you know, teaching someone something that is very soulful is, really profound.
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  You know, I, I did not come from any money.
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  I came from, you know, middle class, America, Detroit, Motor City, you know.
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  And my, my dad was not in the car business or anything like that.
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  But, but didn't come from anything, but was known about education, you know, and was taught about education and to become educated.
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  But my parents taught me philanthropy, and they did not have money to donate, but they, they had time, and they worked in charity and, you know?
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  So when I was a little kid, I knew about City of Hope and Hadassah, and, and I knew about charity.
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  And, you know, so for me at this point in my life, being able to be philanthropic at places I love and to support things I truly believe in is such a gift from Hashem to me, you know?
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  And, and so, like, I just feel so blessed to be in a position of my life right now, you know, in, in so many ways.
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  So, you know, I find myself in constant thankfulness and in awe of all the blessings I'm receiving.
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  And really, I, I That's my, that's my story.
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  Beautiful.
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  Beautiful.
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  You are an example.
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  Julie I wanna focus on unity, and I wanna focus on what you were saying, unity equals shalom.
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  so basically what I'm understanding you say, and tell me if I'm hearing this correctly, is as we work on ourselves and better ourselves, okay?
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  To, as we talk about to do teshuvah and to really return to who we were created to be, okay?
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  That everybody's doing the sa- That's what we all wanna be doing, bettering ourselves is what we wanna do.
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  Okay?
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  So when we talk about unity, we talk about accepting someone for where they're at.
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  Mm-hmm.
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  Mm-hmm.
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  Mm-hmm.
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  And because we're all working on ourselves to better ourselves.
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  I always think about Psalm 49, and I think about the psalm of, that's the psalm that you read, that you recite when you're at a shiva home, for example.
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  And I really focus on that line that says,"It's all about bettering ourselves." You know?
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  It's so...
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  That's the whole point of our life, is to keep bettering ourselves.
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  And so if we're bettering ourselves, you know, and other people are bettering themselves, and they're doing what they can and the best that they can do to be able to Work on themselves, emulate Hashem like we talk about all the time, is that that's the unity that we're looking for.
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  We're not looking for to be separated from someone.
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  We wanna understand.
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  We wanna understand.
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  We wanna really understand.
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  We wanna listen.
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  We wanna hear.
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  We wanna hear what they're going through, and what, and how we could be helpful for them.
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  Is that what I'm understanding when it comes to the unity?
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  'Cause that's a really powerful word that you're using as far as unity.
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  You're using it as far as shalom.
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  I know when you bring all the species together, I know when, you know, they talk about, you know, the learned people versus the non-learned people, and everything like that, that we're all one, and we all have to work together like that.
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  Is that what we're talking about when we talk about the unity?
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  Yes.
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  It is, is more than that.
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  Uh-huh.
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  It's the acceptance of who you are- Mm-hmm in the middle of a group.
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  In the middle of a group.
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  And, and, uh, this is what I meant, to say that you have- Okay qualities that I don't have.
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  But, uh, when we work together in a same mission- Right we, we are a team.
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  Mm-hmm.
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  And we are team that works together, and in this team must be love.
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  Love is also unity Means that we are connected.
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  Okay.
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  I- this is something that is missing in our today world.
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  If we don't- Well, that's what you're talking about children.
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  What were you focused on about children when you're saying you're bringing up about the children, and they're really struggling and everything like that?
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  And we're supposed to listen to them, to hear what they're feeling and everything like that, to understand- Yes why they're struggling so much and what- Yes, yes, absolutely.
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  what we see in our generation, we are professional generation.
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  Many are do- That's cash, emotions doctors and e- engineer, and the woman left the home- Exactly to work outside.
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  That is part of the, what happened during this cycle of life.
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  That's right.
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  So before, the woman was at home.
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  Mm-hmm.
• 34:06
  And she was the supporter of the family.
• 34:10
  Mm-hmm.
• 34:10
  The, at, and, but today, who is educating the children?
• 34:16
  A teacher that doesn't care if, if they learn or don't learn.
• 34:20
  Right.
• 34:20
  So that, that create a trauma in the child.
• 34:25
  there is divorce.
• 34:27
  There is so many, conflicts, even in the c- couple.
• 34:31
  Mm-hmm.
• 34:31
  So the couple, they don't find a common denominator.
• 34:35
  They suffer.
• 34:36
  Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
• 34:37
  And that creates, uh, suffering in the ch- in the children.
• 34:41
  We are destroying the, the, the love, the, the kind, the, a, a child- Mm-hmm is very candid, is calm, and- Right.
• 34:51
  Mm-hmm and when he is young, they, they say things that everyone love or, or everyone appreciate, and they lose that.
• 35:02
  And, and we, and we don't listen to them.
• 35:06
  Many times we take things, okay, they are going to grow.
• 35:11
  But this is not right.
• 35:13
  Mm-hmm.
• 35:13
  Mm-hmm.
• 35:14
  You to a child, you have, you have to give him all the understanding.
• 35:18
  It's not to send him to a good school.
• 35:21
  Mm-hmm.
• 35:22
  Mm-hmm.
• 35:22
  It is not the work of a teacher to be the mother of the child.
• 35:27
  Right.
• 35:28
  It's not that.
• 35:29
  It's you are the mother.
• 35:31
  It's true that we also went through many traumas in our own life, our disconnection with our f- parents.
• 35:40
  So e- everyone has to improve themselves, like you said.
• 35:45
  Mm-hmm.
• 35:45
  Mm-hmm.
• 35:45
  We have to improve ourself.
• 35:48
  Mm-hmm.
• 35:48
  And, and that is the, the reason of the Torah.
• 35:53
  This is the, the purpose and the mission that the Torah is teaching us.
• 35:58
  Be a good mother, be a good wife.
• 36:02
  Understand.
• 36:03
  Because for our husband, we are the first support.
• 36:08
  Right.
• 36:09
  Yeah.
• 36:10
  And so it's sharing, it's love, it's unity.
• 36:15
  That is the word.
• 36:16
  And no, not the problem that exists today, and it's so painful to see all those young, uh, teenagers already.
• 36:27
  They, uh, now they even, they don't want to work.
• 36:31
  Mm-hmm.
• 36:32
  They want to stay- Mm-hmm and no working, no nothing.
• 36:36
  So that, for us, is very difficult to accept.
• 36:40
  Mm-hmm.
• 36:41
  Because we were taught by our parents to, to learn and be better, to be educated.
• 36:49
  Mm-hmm.
• 36:49
  Our parents came, and they were worker.
• 36:52
  They didn't have that, but they knew that y- education is the most important part.
• 36:57
  This is part of the Jewish people.
• 36:59
  Jewish people says, the, your mind, you can take your mind everywhere.
• 37:05
  So that, that it is.
• 37:07
  Okay, uh, Anna.
• 37:09
  thank you for the teachings on Sukkot.
• 37:11
  That was great.
• 37:13
  I, I, I was just, as I listened to Linda and to Julie, basically with the challenges of educating and the, the new generation being an incognitos of w- we kind of don't understand them.
• 37:31
  Just like in the'60s, maybe, the parents could not understand why kids like rock and roll, and now we all love rock and roll.
• 37:39
  And now we don't understand how they like rap.
• 37:42
  And just, you know- try to listen to it is one part.
• 37:47
  To listen to the kids is one part.
• 37:50
  And then set, and educate by example.
• 37:52
  That's what I think Linda was referring to.
• 37:57
  Amazing, her parents.
• 37:59
  I mean, doing Tzedakah not with money necessarily, but with time.
• 38:04
  Mm-hmm.
• 38:05
  I think that's, if we want any kind of control of this situation, that's the control we can try to have, is- Mm-hmm by setting the example.
• 38:15
  I really enjoyed this two phase, um, of the, the, the, the lecture.
• 38:22
  Now, I did not understand the seven bulls.
• 38:26
  70 or seven bulls?
• 38:28
  I didn't understand that.
• 38:29
  Eh.
• 38:30
  So if you can just clarify, please.
• 38:32
  I think that was 70, but, they in seven days of the week, they starve a whole group, and then they decrease every- Mm every day a- another one.
• 38:47
  Oh, okay.
• 38:47
  Uh, is they sacrifice those bull.
• 38:52
  Mm.
• 38:52
  And in representation of the other nation.
• 38:57
  So always Am Yisrael with the Torah is, uh, understand the responsibility with the whole world.
• 39:06
  We are responsible from the other nation.
• 39:11
  We have to be like a model of, that they will look at us.
• 39:16
  And actually, I found out, with, in through my life that when a non-Jew see a good Jew, they respect us.
• 39:28
  Mm-hmm.
• 39:28
  When they see a, a n- a Jew being different, so they don't respect us.
• 39:37
  Mm-hmm.
• 39:37
  And that is the origin of the hate.
• 39:40
  Mm-hmm.
• 39:41
  That is one of the reason of the antisemitism.
• 39:45
  Mm-hmm.
• 39:46
  Uh, we h- we have to be We are the, the example for all the nation.
• 39:54
  They're, they have a minister.
• 39:56
  We don't need a minister.
• 39:58
  We directly are connected with Hashem.
• 40:01
  So we have so many privileges, but we don't take them seriously.
• 40:09
  And, and what we have to teach our children is this love, this what really represent, to teach our children to share, to teach our children to give tzedakah, that they have to g- to be, not because of others.
• 40:30
  A, a child comes home and he say,"Oh, this one bully me." So it's, it's a difficult task.
• 40:38
  I, I don't say that it's easy.
• 40:41
  I know w- in, in my time was difficult too.
• 40:46
  So I know the new mothers, the new young mothers, that they are going through.
• 40:52
  But- Very difficult yeah, but this is our message.
• 40:56
  Mm-hmm.
• 40:57
  our message is that, and, and to create that love- Right with the children.
• 41:04
  And, and when like a, he's a, a child, he is, he's very upset, what we have to do, the first thing, is not to be upset back to the child.
• 41:16
  It's to embrace the child.
• 41:18
  Right.
• 41:20
  Because he probably, he only reacts, and he doesn't know what, why he's getting angry.
• 41:27
  So when I hug him and I show- Right that I love him- no matter what, then the child calm down, and appreciate you in a different way Well, the thing, if you really think about it, and if you...
• 41:45
  We are representative of God's hands, of God's lips, all His bo- all the body parts He doesn't have, right?
• 41:53
  So in those moments, we have to think,"How can I use my hands that God, the way God would use His hands?" Mm-hmm.
• 42:01
  And I really have been focusing so much on the 13 principles of mercy.
• 42:07
  Exactly.
• 42:07
  And the...
• 42:08
  And I think that's really powerful.
• 42:10
  It's like, okay, now you bring the other element in, and you say about the hands and the lips, and that is- Mm God doesn't have that.
• 42:18
  We have that to represent God.
• 42:21
  Mm.
• 42:21
  So in those moments, as hard as it is, it's like, how am I to represent God?
• 42:28
  Mm-hmm.
• 42:28
  And it's not...
• 42:29
  God's not screaming at the child.
• 42:32
  You know?
• 42:33
  God's not losing his patience with the child.
• 42:35
  God is slow to anger.
• 42:37
  Right.
• 42:38
  So let's stop for a moment, pause.
• 42:42
  How is God gonna res- how would God respond in this situation?
• 42:46
  I have to represent God.
• 42:48
  It's not- Mm-hmm it's not easy.
• 42:51
  But if we could just pause in those moments and think,"How would God approach this poor child that's suffering right now?" Exactly.
• 43:01
  And Muna Tova, as a teacher of many children for many years- what do you have to say?
• 43:09
  Well, like Julie, this past, uh, the last few weeks, you know, or the last, uh...
• 43:17
  I've been focusing on God's 13 attributes of mercy.
• 43:22
  But right before Yom Kippur, there was someone, um, who was not going to fast, and I got a little annoyed.
• 43:32
  It's like, how can you know that everyone else is fasting, I mean, and not for medical reasons this person was.
• 43:40
  You know, how can you do that?
• 43:43
  So yes, although Hashem has attributes of mercy, at some point he does lose his patience, I think, you know?
• 43:50
  But, um, but then with Sukkot, you know, you have the four types of Jews, and the ones who does mitzvahs, and the, and the, and the focusing on the one that doesn't do mitzvahs, and doesn't, you know, the one that does nothing.
• 44:08
  Um, yet all Jews are grouped together and become one.
• 44:14
  Mm.
• 44:14
  So that unity.
• 44:15
  So do we, we either all lift each other up, or we all bring each other down, and do we not worry about what, who's not doing what they're not supposed to be doing?
• 44:27
  That's a good question.
• 44:28
  You know, let's, do we just focus on ourselves?
• 44:31
  You are talking of judgmental.
• 44:33
  Mm-hmm.
• 44:35
  Okay.
• 44:35
  Mm-hmm.
• 44:35
  And we cannot be judgmental.
• 44:37
  Right.
• 44:38
  Exactly.
• 44:38
  You, we are teachers If you can open and, and the other person can be a recipient of what you say, fine.
• 44:52
  Mm-hmm.
• 44:53
  But when we judge someone, we are making the other person, the negative traits that they have, stronger.
• 45:06
  So if you love your fellow Jew, you cannot say that a fellow Jew is behaving bad.
• 45:15
  Yeah, so do you just close your eyes at that point and say- If you cannot teach them, if you cannot come and they will not listen to you- Mm-hmm and you know that they won't listen, why to create a, a, uh, a, a friction?
• 45:33
  It's better to be where the- Yeah, you don't want to say anything.
• 45:36
  You definitely don't want to say anything if they're not going to- No, to the contrary, you want to attract that person.
• 45:41
  Listen to that all day.
• 45:42
  This is what we learn in Chabad.
• 45:44
  Wow.
• 45:45
  In Chabad.
• 45:46
  Huh?
• 45:46
  In the, in the synagogue.
• 45:48
  Wow.
• 45:49
  In the- No, what we're, I was saying that we cannot judge.
• 45:54
  Yeah.
• 45:54
  That's it.
• 45:56
  And when we judge negatively someone, you are enforcing the negative trait of that person.
• 46:05
  So if- Now, that's interesting.
• 46:06
  Now, how does- Yes.
• 46:08
  For example, you are looking a woman that is not well-dressed.
• 46:13
  Okay?
• 46:14
  And she doesn't care.
• 46:17
  Wow.
• 46:17
  She has, Different levels so when you are, in your mind, seeing her in this way, you are, y- we have energy that comes from our eyes.
• 46:30
  Mm-hmm.
• 46:31
  Correct?
• 46:32
  You have energy.
• 46:33
  There is vibration that comes from our eyes.
• 46:37
  So that are enforcing her nega- negativist, uh, behavior.
• 46:45
  To the contrary, if we smile to her, let's say this case, and I smile and I don't think negative about her.
• 46:54
  To the contrary, I accept her.
• 46:56
  This is her way to be.
• 46:58
  I, I don't know what is behind in her mind, and I, I'm sure that she has many good things in, as a, a, a good, uh, other- Interesting wonderful things that she does.
• 47:08
  Right.
• 47:08
  So, I, I, I, I think in a positive way about that person.
• 47:14
  Instead of thinking in a negative way.
• 47:17
  That is the point.
• 47:17
  It's very important- So you, you change your thoughts to positive ones.
• 47:20
  Exactly.
• 47:21
  And i- this is very important because when we judge someone, as, the, the, the malachim, the angels, are going to judge us, because we are not perfect either, correct?
• 47:35
  That's right.
• 47:35
  We are not perfect.
• 47:36
  Probably I dress better than, than this lady, but doesn't mean that I am better than her.
• 47:43
  Right.
• 47:43
  And also I show lack of humility, of bitul, of I am, this is my ego.
• 47:51
  Ego, right.
• 47:53
  So I want to remove my ego So that, that is, is very important to think like that.
• 47:59
  Anita Are you ready to talk?
• 48:02
  Yes.
• 48:03
  Okay.
• 48:03
  I am ready.
• 48:04
  Thank you.
• 48:05
  Okay.
• 48:05
  well, when I think of Teshuvah- I think of my parents and my grandparents, and I think of the lessons they taught me.
• 48:15
  I think of, Mm-hmm the words they said, but not even so much the words s- they said, but the examples they gave in life.
• 48:29
  Mm-hmm.
• 48:29
  And at that time, I'm sure I processed them.
• 48:36
  I heard them, I saw them, I felt them.
• 48:39
  Um, I was involved with them.
• 48:42
  Um, and then I might not have done them as a young, a young person, but as I became older, those lessons returned to me.
• 48:56
  Mm-hmm.
• 48:57
  And, they became more and more important to me.
• 49:01
  And, and, and certainly as I, I've gotten older, they became, they have become more incorporated into my life.
• 49:11
  And, my, my parents and, grandparents were, came from v- very, very, Orthodox, beginnings, and not with a lot of money, but they gave constantly what they, what they could give.
• 49:34
  Even if it was an envelope with$5 in it, they, they gave.
• 49:41
  And, and, and those lessons, were so important to me that I took those lessons to my children, and my children are taking them, those lessons to their children.
• 49:57
  And I think, I think, I, I think that, that Elul and, and, and Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, and, and Sukkot, that's, that's what these holidays are all about.
• 50:13
  To, to keep, to keep this all in mind.
• 50:17
  And, and even if we keep it in the back of our heads, as young children, if we teach them well, they are going to come forward eventually.
• 50:29
  That's right.
• 50:30
  That's right.
• 50:31
  This is the, this is the process by analogy, by, uh, re- repeating their, their example.
• 50:40
  Dr.
• 50:41
  Youn, a good Chol HaMoed.
• 50:45
  How are you, Dr.
• 50:46
  Youn?
• 50:48
  Actually, I have to leave, but, just a quick comment.
• 50:51
  Just the, the power of a tzedakah of, of their time.
• 50:55
  it just, as Linda mentioned at the beginning and also Anita mentioned, in the giving tzedakah, by kind of money is one thing, but also when someone brings themselves, their presence to somewhere, they're bringing their, like, their soul and their- Yep.
• 51:16
  It's like, it is, Yeah it is just, like, an amazing to think, how precious that is that someone actually show to do the charity work or mitzvah, and their actually physical presence, the physical body is there to do good things, and their neshamah being present, versus we give out something to help, which is also important.
• 51:43
  So, uh, it just reminded me that how powerful that is.
• 51:47
  Also, I gotta go, but I was wondering actually how it's related to the Megillah Kohelet with the Sukkot.
• 51:56
  That was my question.
• 51:58
  What was the question?
• 52:00
  The, yeah, the Megillah, Kohelet.
• 52:03
  Yes.
• 52:04
  is also read in during Sukkot, and, how it's related to the reading with this holiday.
• 52:12
  I am not familiar.
• 52:14
  yes, I know that, but I didn't read l- lately.
• 52:17
  I don't know exactly what is written in, in that Megillah.
• 52:21
  Hmm.
• 52:21
  We, we can read about it next time.
• 52:23
  Thank you so much, for- Okay.
• 52:25
  Okay, yeah.
• 52:25
  Uh- Excellent okay, Yun.
• 52:27
  Thank you so much.
• 52:28
  Thank you.
• 52:29
  Have a wonderful day.
• 52:30
  Happy Sukkot.
• 52:32
  Thanks.
• 52:33
  uh, Renee?
• 52:35
  I would like to defer to Natalie and her beautiful daughter-in-law.
• 52:41
  So I'll let them speak, and I'll just go last.
• 52:45
  Okay, Natalie.
• 52:46
  Oh- I was just about to say- Oh, yes, but I d- uh, I would like to- I would, I- uh, speak to your, your daughter-in-law.
• 52:54
  Let g- let's give the- I, I was just about to say, I'm deferring to Dana.
• 52:58
  Natalie.
• 53:00
  Thanks, Renee.
• 53:00
  You set me up.
• 53:03
  I was, I, I was really taken by everything you said.
• 53:05
  I actually woke up to your words this morning, which was so beautiful.
• 53:09
  I heard her learning, so I woke up and I was like,"Wow, this is amazing.
• 53:12
  Okay, I'm gonna come join." Um, I...
• 53:16
  You were speaking about the vibrations, and I never heard that concept before with, the specie, w- with, the lulav and esrog and shaking it, and then also the vibrations through your eyes when you're in, thinking about someone negatively or maybe positively.
• 53:30
  where can I learn more about that concept?
• 53:33
  Because I've, I never came across it, and it's fascinating to me that the energies like that, you know, are part of all of this, especially with sukkahs, like shaking it.
• 53:45
  I never thought of it like that, that it's like that you're setting off vibrations in different directions.
• 53:50
  Everything, everything is, everything is energy.
• 53:52
  Mm-hmm.
• 53:52
  We are a battery of energy.
• 53:55
  We have, right, uh, Linda?
• 53:58
  We are energy.
• 54:00
  Our mitochondria is energy.
• 54:03
  And so, we vibrate.
• 54:06
  Everything vibrate in the world.
• 54:09
  everything has movement, even the solid.
• 54:13
  A rock can have, has vibration.
• 54:17
  The only thing that is a slow vibration.
• 54:21
  And higher vibration.
• 54:23
  When a person is negative, has a slow vibration.
• 54:27
  When a person is positive, has a high level of vibration.
• 54:32
  But a beautiful rock, couldn't a beautiful rock have a higher vibration just because it's beauty and it draws you in?
• 54:41
  You know, so I, I, I, I think isn't that a possibility?
• 54:46
  Could be, yes, because, also it's a reflection of your thought and reflection of your own eyes that looks to the, uh, beautiful colors of this, rock.
• 54:59
  Like a, with all those semi-precious, stones, that they have a vibration.
• 55:06
  And, and the truth here is in the plate of the Kohen Gadol.
• 55:11
  The plate of the Kohen Gadel- Gadol, he has 12 precious, stones.
• 55:18
  Mm-hmm.
• 55:19
  And how he was able to give an answer, the Kohanim, the high priest that used to have the, the plate, the breastplate, to see the stones and to find a solution to a problem that the people had.
• 55:37
  And that was the solution.
• 55:39
  It is very well known that all those, stones, they have an energy.
• 55:47
  The quartz is also have an energy.
• 55:51
  When you like a stone, like Linda is saying, you have an attraction at the stone because the stone wants to, reflect something to you.
• 56:01
  Is two ways, no one way.
• 56:05
  Everything is two ways.
• 56:08
  The same, You have, personally, you have a beautiful smile., And you are bringing energy.
• 56:15
  Even your eyes shine different.
• 56:19
  You, you know, though, I, I sometimes perceive, you know, I perceive people's energy, you know?
• 56:26
  Mm-hmm.
• 56:26
  And, and, and so it either draws me in, and upon occasion it's kinda like it, I, I'm repelled a bit by it, you know?
• 56:35
  And, and- Mm-hmm and I think that we're all, you know, that's kind of the, the law of attraction is really related to energy, and how we are drawn into someone.
• 56:48
  Exactly.
• 56:50
  Yeah.
• 56:51
  And, and that repeats in everything.
• 56:55
  So when you take the four minim, you are bringing that energy of what means each of those species.
• 57:07
  Because the myrtle has a, the property that every leaf le- let the sun to penetrate.
• 57:21
  They are set in such a way that they are like a group that shares.
• 57:28
  We are sharing together.
• 57:30
  So everything is symbolic.
• 57:33
  Not by, by coincidence they took those Arba Minim.
• 57:38
  One means that you, the, the, the lulav express, and we give the mi- the, the when we say the blessing, we, we say the blessing in the lulav.
• 57:50
  You don't say the blessing on the etrog.
• 57:53
  Mm.
• 57:54
  So, and the lulav represent that, you a stature.
• 58:00
  Your, you, i- we have to be, nullify, but we have an stature.
• 58:06
  You have a value, and your value is very important So that is, is the meaning of our, our spine.
• 58:18
  Is the spine that keep, uh, us straight up.
• 58:25
  So, and we are straight up, where we see in front.
• 58:30
  So ev- everything is very im- is important, and you don't ima- you don't know how Kabbalah is, speak about so many things that, m- that are, about healing.
• 58:46
  Mm.
• 58:46
  about they knew, those Kabbalists, those sages, so much, and that is astronomy, mathematics, everything is there.
• 58:59
  They were big mathematics.
• 59:04
  So when you shake it, it's, vibrating all the way up to the, to the spheroes?
• 59:08
  Yes.
• 59:09
  Or, yeah.
• 59:10
  Yes, even to the cosmos.
• 59:12
  Wow.
• 59:12
  Because the cosmos, th- this is the aboda of, Rene, of the Kohanim.
• 59:19
  That's why in every holidays, we, we have the blessing of the Kohanim.
• 59:26
  Okay, Rabbi Alush, he does the blessing of the Kohanim every Shabbat, because he, he grew in, in Yerushalayim, and he, in Yerushalayim, you do the, blessing of the Kohanim everywhere.
• 59:40
  So, and there is other places where they do the blessing of the Kohanim, even in Shabbat.
• 59:46
  Every Shabbat they do it.
• 59:48
  And that blessing is, what is the function of the Kohen is to, to bring in the positive and to reject the negative.
• 1:00:00
  To bring in the positive energy and the positive vibration, and rejects the negative.
• 1:00:07
  In many other things, it's, it's a whole class to speak about the, the blessing of the Kohanim.
• 1:00:14
  And- So shall we all make ourselves a vessel for positivity and goodness in this world.
• 1:00:19
  Exactly.
• 1:00:20
  Exactly.
• 1:00:21
  Renee, you want to say something?
• 1:00:24
  I was just gonna comment on your, theme of unity.
• 1:00:28
  Because with all the years of classes, that's not been a comment, I don't think, that we've talked about, yet the word unity does, as you pointed out, and even deeper, sum up everything.
• 1:00:44
  And I thought,"Wow, what, what brilliance to use the word unity," because it, it does take into account every aspect of the planning for the Chagim, the Chagim, the energy, the shaking, everything.
• 1:01:03
  Yes.
• 1:01:03
  The Torahs, carrying the Torahs.
• 1:01:06
  Um, I just loved- Yeah how you pointed that out.
• 1:01:09
  It was perfect.
• 1:01:10
  I think that I, I used to mention this very often.
• 1:01:14
  Always I say, Shema Yisrael Hashem Elokeinu Hashem Echad.
• 1:01:18
  You have talked about unity.
• 1:01:19
  That, that's true.
• 1:01:21
  But in terms of the holidays, the Chagim- Ah sequence, I thought that was a brilliant application of it.
• 1:01:29
  Yes.
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  Exactly.
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  Exactly.
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  This is the, the main point of here.
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  So in Sukkot, that we are still are in Sukkot, we are returning and re- and rebirth again.
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  We are here.
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  We are connecting all what exists in the world, that we are part of the world, and all the nation, and we are reconnecting and feel connected, and be united.
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  So that's it.
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  So I don't know if someone more wants...
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  Natalie want to say something?
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  No.
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  Uh, someone else want to say something?
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  And, and to Hannah, Emunah Tova, Anita So we, um, on- Page on my mind.
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  But I, I just wanted to say that- Yes just that every class with you es- especially when they're classes about the holidays, I always learn things that I, I never even thought, that, that are just, like, totally new from, uh, the, the concepts that I never would have associated with the holidays and, and, and, and, uh, today with the unity and, and they're just, there's...
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  I just want to thank you.
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  There's so much to learn.
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  It was, this was so beautiful.
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  There is so much to learn.
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  That is the truth.
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  Very much to learn.
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  But the, the most important part is what, uh, Linda say.
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  We have to share.
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  We are the example of our own children, our own family.
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  So, a- and sharing and loving and, and giving charity are the most important part.
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  Tzedakah, philah, is what sustain Am Israel So that, that is it.
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  So I wish you a Sukkot full of joy, and thank you very much for being here with me, That is very important.
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  And anything else?
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  Before I said g- I, I, I send my love to you Baruch Hashem.
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  I, I tried to bring something that is unique, and this is unique.
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  Very, very much so.
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  Everything is unique.
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  Yes.
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  You know?
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  Very unique.
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  And Dana, thank you for joining us, too.
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  We love it.
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  Thank you very much.
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  Yeah, the pleasure is- Yes the pleasure is all mine.
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  I wish you a continue that this Chag, this holiday, will leave in you the message of love, unity, and peace.
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  Amazing.
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  Thank you.
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  Thank you so much.
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  Thank you.
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  Okay.
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  Thank you very much for being here.
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  Thank you very much.
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  Thank you.
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  Bye.
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  Bye.
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  Bye.
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  Bye.