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If I’m the Problem… Why Are You Mad I Went No Contact? · Moming and Me: The Podcast

Najah: Yo, so y'all went crazy in the comments on my no contact video. So let me add a little context. No contact is not for everybody. And for me it wasn't the first option. I went no contact multiple times before it became permanent. At first a year, then two years, then three. And I let people back in. The difference was every time I let them back in, it came with boundaries. Because in the beginning I didn't have any. And for real, I didn't even know what healthy boundaries were. But I went to therapy. I did the work. I figured out what didn't feel safe in those relationships. What I needed to change. And what I was no longer willing to accept. And then I communicated that. And you know what happened next. Those boundaries got crossed. So eventually no contact became permanent. And in my comments, I kept seeing people say, there's no way the whole family is the problem. You gotta be the problem. And you ain't really saying nothing at all because if I was the problem, I removed myself. Problem solved. So everybody should be good now, right? But when family I haven't talked to in years. Are still finding me and leaving comments on public platforms? Trying to get a response out of me. I know exactly why no contact became permanent. If I'm the problem. even after I remove myself, Why do you still think my boundary is yours to cross? And that's what people don't understand about no contact. You don't have to respect my decision for me to enforce it.