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She Slept With Her Celebrity Crush! Uncovering Reddit's Worst Horror Stories · The Matt Walsh Show

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Speaker 1: Okay, so today I'll be delivering some sage advice, or
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Speaker 1: at least reasonably defensible advice, to some lost souls, the
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Speaker 1: most hopelessly lost souls imaginable, who are the ones on Reddit.
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Speaker 1: So we'll go through a couple of these from various
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Speaker 1: Reddit forums. Am I the only one for not feeling
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Speaker 1: anything when my girlfriend cries? I, 26 male, have been
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Speaker 1: dating my girlfriend, 25 female, for a little over three years. Now,
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Speaker 1: during the last two years, she's been going through a
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Speaker 1: rough time mentally. has had quite a few problems regarding
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Speaker 1: her education. Because of this, she's been very emotionally unstable,
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Speaker 1: which includes her crying about anything and everything. She would
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Speaker 1: cry even if even the smallest thing didn't go according
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Speaker 1: to her plan and act irrationally about a lot of things.
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Speaker 1: In the beginning, I tried to be as supportive as possible,
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Speaker 1: talk over the things with her, try to understand her
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Speaker 1: side of it. I would cuddle her for hours until
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Speaker 1: she felt better and then repeat the same routine day
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Speaker 1: in and day out for many, many months. Dear God.
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Speaker 1: It's been about two years of this now where I've
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Speaker 1: tried to push her into talking about it with psychiatrists,
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Speaker 1: which she adamantly agreed to, but stopped every single visit,
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Speaker 1: which she didn't feel a good connection with that person,
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Speaker 1: which I think is totally valid. But now I'm having
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Speaker 1: a hard time getting her to find another one since
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Speaker 1: she doesn't believe that she can find someone who would
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Speaker 1: actually try to help her. I'm starting to feel numb
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Speaker 1: when she cries because it's been happening so often and
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Speaker 1: about things I have such a hard time relating to.
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Speaker 1: I feel so for this and I wish that this
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Speaker 1: wasn't the case, but I'm starting to just feel annoyed
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Speaker 1: whenever she cries over the smallest thing. that most people
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Speaker 1: would just shrug their shoulders over. I really love her
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Speaker 1: and I don't want to end up possibly resenting her
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Speaker 1: for this behavior, but I really don't know what to do.
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Speaker 1: I feel so horrible with how my mind thinks about
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Speaker 1: the current situation. So in my, I mean, you are
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Speaker 1: for continuing to date this person. I don't mean to
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Speaker 1: spoil the ending here, but the obvious answer is that
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Speaker 1: you should break up with this crazy broad. You're only
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Speaker 1: dating her. You have no commitment to her. You don't
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Speaker 1: owe her anything. Your relationship is barely even real. So
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Speaker 1: just break up with her. Like if you're just dating someone,
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Speaker 1: it's barely real. You're not engaged and you're not married.
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Speaker 1: It barely exists. That's why you're not supposed to date
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Speaker 1: for very long. You date for a short amount of
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Speaker 1: time and then you get engaged and then it's more
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Speaker 1: real and then you get married and now it's very real.
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Speaker 1: But before that, it's hardly even real. Like it's trivial, actually.
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Speaker 1: Dating is a trivial thing. You want to graduate to
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Speaker 1: something that's not trivial. But you're in the trivial stage
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Speaker 1: right now. So the answer to a situation, I'm dating
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Speaker 1: someone and they're behaving horribly and they make me feel
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Speaker 1: terrible to be around them. What should I do? Break
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Speaker 1: up with them? What do you mean, what should you do?
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Speaker 1: Obviously break up with them. What is there to even
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Speaker 1: think about? Now as to the specifics of the situation,
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Speaker 1: which are academic because you should just break up with her.
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Speaker 1: But people who are having a tough time mentally and
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Speaker 1: let everyone around them know about it, by having meltdowns
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Speaker 1: and crying and making everything about themselves, those people are
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Speaker 1: what is known as narcissistic assholes. And she is doing
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Speaker 1: what narcissistic assholes do, which is making herself the main
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Speaker 1: character and then using manipulation and emotional blackmail against you
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Speaker 1: if you dare say anything about it, or even if
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Speaker 1: you simply fail to react exactly as she prefers. So you...
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Speaker 1: feel bad for having a very human, normal reaction to
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Speaker 1: all of this. And the human, normal reaction is to
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Speaker 1: be annoyed. Of course you're annoyed. It's annoying to be
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Speaker 1: around someone who's constantly crying and whining and complaining and
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Speaker 1: carrying on. Here's the thing. Even if on paper you're
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Speaker 1: with someone who has a valid reason to cry and
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Speaker 1: whine and complain, it still gets annoying after a while.
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Speaker 1: But your girlfriend doesn't have any valid reason So it's
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Speaker 1: doubly annoying. I mean, think of it this way. What
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Speaker 1: if your girlfriend got into a car accident and lost
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Speaker 1: her leg? Well, that's a very valid, very good reason
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Speaker 1: to be upset. Anyone would be. I'd be upset if
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Speaker 1: I lost my leg. You would be upset. Anybody would
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Speaker 1: be upset. But even then, if for months or even years,
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Speaker 1: every time you were around her, every day, she complained
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Speaker 1: about having one leg If every occasion had the joy
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Speaker 1: sucked out of it because she's constantly reminding you about
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Speaker 1: her missing leg, if she was constantly using it to
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Speaker 1: gain pity, then even then, after a while, and not
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Speaker 1: that long, to be honest, it would get to be
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Speaker 1: too much. You would be frustrated, even though it's a
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Speaker 1: serious complaint. It's an understandable complaint. But even then, after
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Speaker 1: a while, you would say, okay, I get it. Like, no,
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Speaker 1: I get that you lost a leg. It does suck.
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Speaker 1: I understand. But we have to live our lives now.
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Speaker 1: I mean, not every single second of the day can
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Speaker 1: be about that. I'm sorry. You're not the only person
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Speaker 1: who exists in the world. You're not. So then what
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Speaker 1: do you say about people who take burdens that are
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Speaker 1: incredibly light by comparison, which is what so many people
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Speaker 1: do these days, of course, take these burdens that are
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Speaker 1: like almost non-existent and exaggerate them, and then make those
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Speaker 1: exaggerated burdens into everybody else's real burden, right? What do
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Speaker 1: you say about those people? Well, what we say is that,
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Speaker 1: or what we should say, is not even that, oh,
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Speaker 1: you should see a therapist, you should see a psychiatrist.
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Speaker 1: That's the other problem. You see all these relationship problems
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Speaker 1: people have They always say this, that, well, I've recommended
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Speaker 1: they go see a therapist. I got news for you.
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Speaker 1: That's probably not going to do anything. Okay, therapists and
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Speaker 1: psychiatrists are not these like magical witch doctors who can
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Speaker 1: sprinkle fairy dust over a person and make them not
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Speaker 1: narcissistic anymore. In fact, it works the opposite way most
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Speaker 1: of the time. Your girlfriend's problem is that she only
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Speaker 1: thinks about herself. She only talks about her problems. That's
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Speaker 1: all she cares about. She's not alone in this. There's
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Speaker 1: like millions of people in the world who are like this. Well,
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Speaker 1: going to a place where you're paying someone to just
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Speaker 1: listen to you drone on about your bullshit problems for
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Speaker 1: an hour every week, that is just feeding the beast.
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Speaker 1: That's you doing more of the thing you should not
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Speaker 1: be doing anymore. So that's not going to solve the problem.
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Speaker 1: She has a character defect. She is morally defective. People
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Speaker 1: like this are bad people. It's not just, oh, she's
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Speaker 1: struggling with mental health. No, she's actually a bad person.
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Speaker 1: She's a selfish, narcissistic, bad person. And so you should
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Speaker 1: just break up with her. Okay. And leave her to
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Speaker 1: sort her own problems out. People like that, like eventually
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Speaker 1: you just have to be, people who are aggressively selfish
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Speaker 1: and alienate everybody around them, if there's any hope for them,
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Speaker 1: the only hope is that they end up alone and
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Speaker 1: nobody wants anything to do with them And maybe that's
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Speaker 1: their wake-up call. If you act that way, you don't
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Speaker 1: deserve to have a boyfriend or a husband or a friend.
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Speaker 1: You don't deserve to have anybody in your life. You're
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Speaker 1: a horrible person. Nobody wants to be around you. So
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Speaker 1: you should just end up alone and miserable. And maybe
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Speaker 1: then it'll be a wake-up call. You'll improve. And then
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Speaker 1: telling a kid at the sleepover to stop acting like
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Speaker 1: a brat? My son had a sleepover on Sunday. It
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Speaker 1: was him and three of his friends. My wife's out
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Speaker 1: of town, so breakfast Monday morning was me, the four
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Speaker 1: of them, and my daughter. Your wife's out of town
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Speaker 1: and you did a sleepover? Why would you do that
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Speaker 1: to yourself? Why would you do it? Your wife's out
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Speaker 1: of town and you're having all these kids over that
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Speaker 1: you have to, why would you, why would you do,
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Speaker 1: your wife's out of town and you're adding more kids
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Speaker 1: into the mix for you to take care of. Why
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Speaker 1: would you do that? Why would you ever do that?
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Speaker 1: I did not want to make breakfast for six people.
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Speaker 1: So I ordered a catering box from a breakfast place
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Speaker 1: the night before. It came with 12 bagels, three types
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Speaker 1: of cream cheese, butter and sliced onions, cucumbers and tomatoes.
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Speaker 1: I figured that was plenty of food for six people.
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Speaker 1: Monday morning, I picked up the box. I had selected
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Speaker 1: to get six plain, three onion, three everything bagels. Okay,
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Speaker 1: who cares what breakfast order. When the boys came down,
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Speaker 1: one of my son's friends asked why there weren't any
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Speaker 1: more sesame bagels. I said there was only one that
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Speaker 1: had gone to the daughter, apparently. He asked why she
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Speaker 1: got it. I said because she came downstairs first. He
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Speaker 1: said that wasn't fair. I said there are plenty of bagels.
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Speaker 1: Just take one. He asked why I only ordered one
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Speaker 1: sesame bagel. I said I didn't. It was extra. He
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Speaker 1: asked why I didn't order any. And I said, I
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Speaker 1: didn't realize they were so popular. This kid kept going
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Speaker 1: on and on about how he wanted a sesame bagel.
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Speaker 1: And it wasn't fair that my daughter got one and
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Speaker 1: he didn't, since he's a guest. At this point, my
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Speaker 1: daughter is already eating the bagel. So it's a theoretical
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Speaker 1: conversation now. I said to the kid, just pick a bagel.
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Speaker 1: He said he didn't want a plain onion or everything bagel.
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Speaker 1: I said, a plain bagel is just a sesame bagel.
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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, this goes on forever. I told the
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Speaker 1: kid to stop acting like a brat and eat a
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Speaker 1: bagel or go to school without breakfast. He said, I
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Speaker 1: had to feed him and I can't call him a brat.
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Speaker 1: I said, I have fed him. I can't make him eat.
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Speaker 1: And so then fast forward, after pickup that day, his
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Speaker 1: mom called to get my side of the story. I
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Speaker 1: told her what happened. And she said she couldn't believe
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Speaker 1: I called her kid a brat and let him go
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Speaker 1: to school hungry. She said I should have ordered enough
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Speaker 1: food for everybody. There's plenty of food. There were four
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Speaker 1: bagels left over after breakfast. Okay. All right. So you
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Speaker 1: get the point. Am I the idiot or is this
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Speaker 1: kid a brat? So this is one of those stories
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Speaker 1: that's so outrageous that you think, you know, you'd like
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Speaker 1: to think it's fake. I mean, this is Reddit after all.
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Speaker 1: But if you know anything about parents these days and
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Speaker 1: kids these days, there's nothing implausible about it. I mean,
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Speaker 1: it's totally, I mean, this kind of scenario plays out
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Speaker 1: millions of times a day all across the country. So
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Speaker 1: let's assume for the sake of discussion, this is real.
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Speaker 1: So you have a kid, your son's Fred, sleeping over
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Speaker 1: at your house. You go out and get breakfast for everybody.
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Speaker 1: The kid complains, demands better options, complains that your daughter
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Speaker 1: ate the only bagel that he wanted. And then later
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Speaker 1: the brat's mother complains takes her brat's side and lectures
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Speaker 1: you for being so rude to her brat. And this
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Speaker 1: is kind of interesting, actually, because it shows the other
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Speaker 1: side of the coin that people don't think about. Like,
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Speaker 1: parents today get very worried about letting their kid hang
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Speaker 1: out at someone, at another kid's house, or especially sleep
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Speaker 1: over at another kid's house. And many of those concerns
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Speaker 1: are legitimate, and I share them. Parents today are much
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Speaker 1: more reluctant, much more. to drop their kid off at
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Speaker 1: another kid's house, especially overnight, but really for any length
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Speaker 1: of time. And like I said, many of those concerns
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Speaker 1: are legitimate. At the same time, your kid needs to
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Speaker 1: have friends and he also needs to develop some independence.
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Speaker 1: At a certain point, you need to be able to
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Speaker 1: drop your child off somewhere, okay? Unless you plan to
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Speaker 1: be his on-the-scene chaperone 24 hours a day until he's 18,
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Speaker 1: which would be insane. So there has to be a balance.
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Speaker 1: But as we see here, there's also a hazard to
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Speaker 1: having other people's kids over at your house. You might think, well,
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Speaker 1: the safer thing, I don't want to bring my kid
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Speaker 1: to someone else's house. I don't know what's going on
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Speaker 1: in that house. I don't know the parents well enough. Okay,
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Speaker 1: I'll just have the kids over here. So that's safer.
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Speaker 1: At least I can keep an eye on things. And yeah,
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Speaker 1: but the problem is that now you've been put in
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Speaker 1: the role of guardian, the authority figure, for these kids,
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Speaker 1: these other kids, these strangers' kids who might not have
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Speaker 1: parents who raise them to respect authority figures. And if
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Speaker 1: you have to speak a little sternly to someone else's
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Speaker 1: precious little snowflake, then you're going to have to deal
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Speaker 1: with that snowflake's snowflake parents. And of course, teachers deal
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Speaker 1: with this every single day. Now, of course, if the
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Speaker 1: kid has good parents, then there's nothing to worry about
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Speaker 1: because The instinct of a good parent is to take
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Speaker 1: the side of the other adult in a situation like this.
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Speaker 1: It is not to take your own child's side. This
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Speaker 1: should be something that shouldn't need to be said, but
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Speaker 1: it does. It should be obvious. But as a good parent,
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Speaker 1: you do not take your child's side all the time.
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Speaker 1: In fact, very often you don't take their side at all,
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Speaker 1: especially with something like this. Like when I was a kid,
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Speaker 1: if I had a come home from a sleepover and
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Speaker 1: told my parents that my friend's dad called me a brat,
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Speaker 1: my parents would not have said, well, how could he
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Speaker 1: say that about you? He said that about you. You're
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Speaker 1: a perfect little child. No, the first thing they would
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Speaker 1: say is, what the hell did you do? What did
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Speaker 1: you do to be called a brat? What were you
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Speaker 1: doing over there that warranted, that provoked that comment? And
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Speaker 1: I'd be the same way with my kids. If my
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Speaker 1: kids came home and they were at someone's house and
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Speaker 1: they had a guardian and they had an interaction like that,
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Speaker 1: my first reaction would be, what did you do? What
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Speaker 1: did you do? Now, of course, my kids... wouldn't be
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Speaker 1: called brats by other adults because they know very well
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Speaker 1: that when they are guests in someone else's house or
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Speaker 1: when some other adult is temporarily in charge of them
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Speaker 1: in some capacity, they damn well better behave themselves and
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Speaker 1: be nothing but polite and respectful. They better be better
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Speaker 1: for that other adult than they are for us. If
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Speaker 1: I found out that my son complained, complained about a
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Speaker 1: meal that someone served him when he was a guest
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Speaker 1: in their house, complained about it, it would be the
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Speaker 1: worst mistake of his life. I cannot imagine that. Having
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Speaker 1: a child who would complain, you're being served a meal
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Speaker 1: in someone's house and you complain about it. I don't
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Speaker 1: care what the meal is. This is one of the
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Speaker 1: golden rules of childhood, at least it's supposed to be.
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Speaker 1: This is one of the basic litmus tests. Were you
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Speaker 1: raised well? Basic litmus test. How do you behave when
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Speaker 1: you're at a table in someone else's house as a
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Speaker 1: guest and they serve you food? I remember I was
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Speaker 1: a kid and I was staying at someone's house. I
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Speaker 1: don't remember who. And I'll never forget breakfast and they
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Speaker 1: served scrambled eggs that I swear to you, it tasted
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Speaker 1: like dog meat. To this day, I think they may
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Speaker 1: have served dog. I don't know what dogs taste like.
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Speaker 1: I ate these scrambled eggs. I don't know if the
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Speaker 1: eggs were rotten. I don't know if they were trying
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Speaker 1: to poison me. I didn't know scrambled eggs could taste
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Speaker 1: like that. I mean, scrambled eggs are kind of like
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Speaker 1: it's all, you know, it's sort of, there's not a
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Speaker 1: lot of variation in how they taste. These were rancid.
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Speaker 1: They were rancid, rancid scrambled eggs. It really did taste,
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Speaker 1: it tastes like a wet dog. Like, did they kill
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Speaker 1: a dog and put them in the eggs? I could
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Speaker 1: barely stomach it. But you know what? I ate the
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Speaker 1: whole damn plate because I knew well. I knew if
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Speaker 1: I didn't eat it, if I refused it, if I
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Speaker 1: threw it away and that got back to my parents,
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Speaker 1: I was in trouble. So I ate the whole damn thing.
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Speaker 1: And that's the attitude that your kid should have. So anyway, no,
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Speaker 1: you aren't the... The kid was acting like a brat
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Speaker 1: and that's what you called him. I'd Some kids need
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Speaker 1: to be called brats. Like there are kids that are
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Speaker 1: brats and someone needs to just tell them, you're a brat.
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Speaker 1: You're a brat, you need to shut up. Shut up,
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Speaker 1: you little brat. Somebody needs to say it. If your
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Speaker 1: kid has gotten to a point where other adults need
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Speaker 1: to tell him that he's a brat, then you have failed.
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Speaker 1: You have failed as a parent. You should be ashamed.
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Speaker 1: warranty and promotion details. All right, finally, my girlfriend slept
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Speaker 1: with her celebrity crush. I'm still in shock. I'm heartbroken.
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Speaker 1: My girlfriend and I have been dating for four years.
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Speaker 1: We live together. During that time, she's been obsessed with
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Speaker 1: a very minor YouTube musician. He has a few videos
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Speaker 1: with a couple million views and a small following. During
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Speaker 1: our entire relationship, she has always claimed that he was
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Speaker 1: her exception. I always assumed it was a joke. I'd
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Speaker 1: fire right back with my celebrity crush. We went on
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Speaker 1: tour and played in the city near us at a
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Speaker 1: small venue. She went with a co-worker to see him
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Speaker 1: after the concert. She didn't come home that night or
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Speaker 1: answer my texts. I assume she slept over the co-workers
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Speaker 1: since she lives closer to the venue. She came home
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Speaker 1: the next morning and didn't talk about the concert much.
20:48
Speaker 1: I asked questions, got vague answers. Later that day, she
20:52
Speaker 1: broke the news. She said it with a smile on
20:55
Speaker 1: her face as though I was going to be happy
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Speaker 1: and excited for her. I'm heartbroken. I was yelling. We
21:00
Speaker 1: were both crying. She said she didn't know how I'd react,
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Speaker 1: but she didn't think it would be this extreme. She said,
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Speaker 1: I always knew he was her exception. I didn't think
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Speaker 1: she was serious. I'm currently staying in a motel and
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Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. I love her so much,
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Speaker 1: but I can't think about her without thinking about what
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Speaker 1: she did. She has tainted my memory of her. I
21:19
Speaker 1: cannot help but think that she clearly does not love
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Speaker 1: me unconditionally. Oh, you think? My girlfriend went out and
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Speaker 1: had sex with this guy. I can't help but think
21:27
Speaker 1: she might not love. I can't. I know it's a
21:29
Speaker 1: crazy thought, but she might not love me unconditionally. I
21:32
Speaker 1: can't help. I have this sneaking suspicion. Okay, well, you
21:36
Speaker 1: know what my answer is. We already covered it, but
21:39
Speaker 1: time to break up. Do not pass go. Do not
21:41
Speaker 1: collect $ 200. Go straight to breaking up. Easy call. Nothing
21:45
Speaker 1: to think about. Nothing to weigh. The only complicating factor
21:49
Speaker 1: is that you live together, which is a retarded decision.
21:53
Speaker 1: This is why you shouldn't be playing house. People think
21:58
Speaker 1: it's old-fashioned when I say or someone says, you know,
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Speaker 1: you shouldn't live together before marriage. You shouldn't cohabitate before marriage.
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Speaker 1: And you can call it old fashioned all you want.
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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't take that as an insult, but,
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Speaker 1: and it is in a sense, and I'll happily admit that.
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Speaker 1: It's also just even taking the morality out of it,
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Speaker 1: which we really can't do. It's just, it's a, it's
22:21
Speaker 1: a practically speaking, it's a bad strategy. Okay. You guys
22:26
Speaker 1: have made no commitment to each other at all. You
22:30
Speaker 1: aren't married. You've exchanged no vows. You're not actually tied
22:35
Speaker 1: to each other in any way. And yet you live together.
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Speaker 1: You have a place that you share that you call home.
22:43
Speaker 1: I mean, why? If you didn't live together and this happened,
22:48
Speaker 1: then breaking up would be a lot easier. Like you
22:51
Speaker 1: wouldn't have to ever see her again. You could just
22:52
Speaker 1: break up over the, you could send her a text
22:54
Speaker 1: message and that'd be it. But now you share a place.
22:59
Speaker 1: You have to move out. You're at a motel. No,
23:02
Speaker 1: that's what should happen when you're 45 years old and
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Speaker 1: there's an affair, like there's an affair and you're married
23:09
Speaker 1: and now you're at a motel. But you are, well,
23:15
Speaker 1: we didn't get the age, but you're not even married
23:18
Speaker 1: and you're at a motel now. And the worst part is,
23:23
Speaker 1: even though the woman you're with, who you live with,
23:28
Speaker 1: was out all night having sex with some other guy,
23:32
Speaker 1: She did not actually have an affair. I mean, it
23:35
Speaker 1: feels like she did, but she didn't because you aren't married.
23:40
Speaker 1: She actually has not made any binding promises to you
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Speaker 1: at all. There is no vow being broken. There's no
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Speaker 1: family being betrayed. It was still wrong what she did, obviously,
23:52
Speaker 1: but she didn't violate an oath or break a vow
23:55
Speaker 1: because there wasn't one to break, which is why you
23:59
Speaker 1: shouldn't be living together. which is why you shouldn't be
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Speaker 1: with someone and dating them for four years to begin with.
24:06
Speaker 1: And you certainly shouldn't be moving in with that is classic,
24:09
Speaker 1: putting the cart before the horse scenario. And also for
24:13
Speaker 1: the record, this is why I've never been on board
24:15
Speaker 1: with the whole celebrity crush thing. You know, even married people,
24:19
Speaker 1: you hear married people sometimes talk about, Oh, it was
24:21
Speaker 1: my celebrity crush. Um, and I guess you're supposed to
24:25
Speaker 1: be like jealous and possessive if you have a problem
24:28
Speaker 1: with that. But, um, even though in the context of
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Speaker 1: a marriage, like there's actually nothing wrong with, I mean,
24:35
Speaker 1: you should, you know, in a sense, possessiveness, you both
24:41
Speaker 1: belong to each other in a very real sense. So
24:44
Speaker 1: there is a possessiveness that should be part of that.
24:48
Speaker 1: And yeah, I mean, you shouldn't have crushes on other
24:50
Speaker 1: people when you're married. Like it doesn't matter if they're
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Speaker 1: famous or not. And they weren't married in this case,
24:57
Speaker 1: but the point still stands. Because the idea that a
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Speaker 1: crush is okay as long as the person is famous,
25:02
Speaker 1: it's like, I've never understood that. So if your wife
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Speaker 1: comes to you and says, oh, I have a crush on,
25:08
Speaker 1: my celebrity crush is, I don't know, who's a typical
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Speaker 1: male celebrity that women would find attractive these days? I
25:16
Speaker 1: don't even know. Brad, I was going to say Brad Pitt,
25:20
Speaker 1: but is it still Brad Pitt? Brad Pitt was 30
25:22
Speaker 1: years ago. Is there not like a new Brad Pitt?
25:25
Speaker 1: I guess there isn't. I mean, it's a whole other topic, but.
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Speaker 1: timothy chalamet is it him i don't think so who's
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Speaker 1: the new brad pitt like 30 years ago it's like
25:35
Speaker 1: oh you know like the stereotypical attractive male celebrity would
25:39
Speaker 1: have been just brad pitt and now 30 years later
25:41
Speaker 1: it's still brad pitt that's kind of tells you something
25:44
Speaker 1: about hollywood anyway okay so your wife comes up to
25:46
Speaker 1: you and says my celebrity crush is brad pitt and
25:49
Speaker 1: you're supposed to be okay with that no that's emasculating
25:55
Speaker 1: that's uh that's like a betrayal. It really is. And
26:01
Speaker 1: if you think that I'm being ridiculous, well, what if
26:03
Speaker 1: she came to you and said, you know, my, my
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Speaker 1: crush is my fitness instructor, which your first problem was
26:11
Speaker 1: allowing your wife to have a male fitness instructor. I
26:15
Speaker 1: think affairs happen in that scenario, like 97% of the time.
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Speaker 1: I think statistically, I don't have the stats in front
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Speaker 1: of me. I think not. I think when a, when
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Speaker 1: a married woman has a male fitness instructor, 97% of
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Speaker 1: the time they're having an affair. And the other 3%,
26:31
Speaker 1: the affair just hasn't started yet. But anyway, so if
26:35
Speaker 1: she said that, you would be understandably upset. Even if
26:39
Speaker 1: she said, oh no, I would never do anything. I
26:42
Speaker 1: just mean it in like a silly way. No, that
26:45
Speaker 1: would be a crisis in your marriage, right? It would
26:47
Speaker 1: be a crisis. But if she says some famous person,
26:51
Speaker 1: it's supposed to be okay. I don't get it. Having
26:55
Speaker 1: a crush is, you know, what does that mean? I mean,
26:59
Speaker 1: it's not just like objectively observing the fact that somebody
27:03
Speaker 1: is physically attractive. It's not just that. Crush means that
27:07
Speaker 1: there's a certain kind of, you're pining, you're pining after
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Speaker 1: this person. There's a certain kind of emotional attachment to
27:17
Speaker 1: this person. That's what a crush is. And as a
27:20
Speaker 1: married person, you should not be pining after anyone. who's
27:24
Speaker 1: not your spouse. And actually it is in your control.
27:29
Speaker 1: You know, it's actually very easy to not develop crushes.
27:33
Speaker 1: Like what are you 15 anyway? What are you, what
27:35
Speaker 1: are you a grown person with a crush? What do they,
27:37
Speaker 1: what do you, what even is that? You're a grown
27:39
Speaker 1: married person with a crush, especially it's like even if anything,
27:42
Speaker 1: it's even worse than it's a celebrity because it's so ridiculous. Anyway. Um,
27:49
Speaker 1: so that shouldn't happen. But, uh, in this case, um,
27:53
Speaker 1: You guys aren't even married. So, you know, in this case,
27:56
Speaker 1: like you're not even married. So for her to have
28:00
Speaker 1: a romantic attraction to other people is, you know, it's like,
28:05
Speaker 1: it kind of comes with the territory. Like when you're,
28:08
Speaker 1: when you're just dating, you haven't made the commitment yet.
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Speaker 1: So you're, you're by the very fact that you're only
28:13
Speaker 1: dating means that you're still keeping your options open. It
28:16
Speaker 1: means you're not making the commitment. You're still sort of
28:19
Speaker 1: in the job interview process. The dating process is supposed
28:22
Speaker 1: to be a job interview. But the job interview should
28:27
Speaker 1: not last for 15 years. The job interview should be
28:30
Speaker 1: a short period of time. And then you both say
28:33
Speaker 1: to each other, hey, you got the job. And then
28:35
Speaker 1: you go get married. But while you're in the job
28:37
Speaker 1: interview process, you're kind of keeping your eye around for
28:42
Speaker 1: other jobs that might be better. And you can't really
28:45
Speaker 1: be that mad at someone for doing that until the
28:50
Speaker 1: commitment has been made, which it hasn't been made here.
28:54
Speaker 1: So just break up. There you go. That's the happy ending.
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Speaker 1: And we'll leave it there.