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How do narcissist act at funerals? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about how narcissists react at
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  funerals. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. So boom, welcome back, welcome
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  back, welcome back, folks. Yes, yes, yes.
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  Had to take my glasses off for this one.
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  Yeah. Narcissists at funerals,
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  narcissists dealing with death and people passing away in their
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  lives and whatnot. What inspired this episode was
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  one of my friends from high school passed away recently.
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  His funeral was today. Recipes, Mr. TJ.
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  But it just got me to thinking, got me thinking, how do
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  narcissists deal with funerals? Because there's a lot of
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  emotions going through my mind. Of course, I've, I've been
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  knowing a new for, you know, 25 years.
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  So, so it's just like that right there can jolt a narcissistic
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  person, not just in, you know, death jolts can jolt anybody,
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  but it can seriously jolt the narcissistic person because
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  narcissists are afraid, deathly afraid of death.
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  Like going to funerals can set your narcissistic person off, it
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  can trigger the narcissist in your life to start reacting.
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  Like they can change their whole entire personality up.
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  Like the day that they lose someone that they actually care
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  about or did they actually experience some like death close
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  to them going to a funeral or something like that.
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  Seeing their family member or friend laying there and not get
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  not getting back up or not, that could trigger them to behave
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  erratically. They can set them off to the
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  point where you don't know who you know anymore.
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  It's not it'll, it'll be like going to a funeral could
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  actually trigger the devaluation phase in your relationship.
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  It could trigger them treating you badly.
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  It can trigger them discarding you because they can start to
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  feel like, oh, I'm missing out on life.
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  I what am I doing here with you like I'm supposed to be.
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  I'm destined for so much more and I'm stuck here with you.
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  I got something I, I have so much potential.
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  I'm I'm here with you. I have nothing else to do.
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  I, I have nothing else to give like this.
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  My life is born da da da da da da da.
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  I haven't done enough. My legacy isn't completed.
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  And it can make them actually make them discard you and start
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  to behave differently, like going to a funeral.
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  And this is not me telling y'all.
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  If you were dealing with a narcissist to you know, if
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  you're dealing with a narcissist to not to, to not let them go to
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  a funeral. You know what I mean that this
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  is, that is not what I'm saying. That is nowhere near what I'm
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  saying, y'all? I'm saying that if you're
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  dealing with a narcissist or a toxic person, like after a
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  funeral, just prepare. Prepare for them to be, to be
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  different. Prepare for them just just in
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  case. Prepare for them to be
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  different. Prepare for them to maybe start
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  to devalue, devalue you and disconnect from you.
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  Prepare for that. Because if you prepare for it,
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  it, it, it, it doesn't hit you as hard.
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  It's still going to hit you. But if you prepare for it, it
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  doesn't hit you as hard. Like out of nowhere.
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  You see what I'm saying? Like if I'm going to, if I say,
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  look, if I punch you, let's just, let's just take me
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  punching you or somebody else punching you.
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  I don't, I'm not, I'm not violating y'all.
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  This is somebody's going to punch you if they, if you're
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  just walking forward down the street and somebody cold cocks
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  you, that's going to, it'll joke you and it might knock you out
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  because you're not anticipating it.
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  You get, you're not prepared for it.
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  You just get hit, right? But if you see the person about
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  to hit you, you can at least brace for it.
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  Doesn't stop me from hurting. You can at least brace forward
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  or get out the way. You at least can take action.
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  So preparing for to get ready to take action can help you out a
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  lot. If they go to a funeral.
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  Because, like, yeah, like I said, it could set them off and
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  start making them behave erratically and lose their damn
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  minds and start treating you badly.
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  And like, it it it can. Yeah, it can just get bad.
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  I'll say it like that. I'll say that as clear as I can.
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  It it it will. It can and it will get bad when
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  you're dealing with this type of person.
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  And it sucks. It sucks to have to deal with.
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  It sucks to have to process this as a person who's just trying to
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  love them and be there for them, you know?
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  Now, if the narcissist in their life goes to the funeral of like
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  a parent that they were, you know, that they cared for and
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  the parent was like, you know, just there for them or whatever
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  it was like the the parent that they, they feel like any, any
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  parent, they can lose their damn mind job.
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  They really, really can. They can start treating you
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  terribly If they hated their parent.
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  If the parent that passes away and they go to their funeral, if
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  they internally or externally hated that parent, they might
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  even take it out on you even more because like, say the
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  narcissist in their in his mother, right?
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  And they hate and he hated his mom.
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  So he treats women badly. He's going to treat the women
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  around him worse. So he buckle up.
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  You know what I'm saying? So because they can't like
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  funerals for narcissists can set them off.
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  It really can. It can just make them lose their
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  minds and start facing their mortality and start getting rid
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  of and start acting erratically, quitting their job.
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  I'm, I'm wasting time here starting a new business,
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  stopping the new business, shutting down so they can lose
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  like, yo-yo, I'm just telling you, funerals can set them off
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  while while they're actually in the funeral, they might be cool,
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  calm and collected. You know why the narcissist is
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  actually in the funeral. They might not show any emotion
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  at all, right? Like they're in the funeral.
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  They're sitting there, standing there looking at you just like
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  this. They're looking around seemingly
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  disconnected. Or can some narcissists cry?
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  Yes, some narcissists will be boohoo crying at a funeral.
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  You know, could it be crying because they they miss the
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  person that's gone? Yes, absolutely.
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  But they could be also be crying because they want to make
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  themselves the center of attention.
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  They can be crying because they want to make themselves the
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  center of attention at somebody's funeral.
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  But you know, the wedding crashers, remember wooden
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  crashers with with the Bradley Cooper and Vince Vaughn in it
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  and Owen Wilson at the end. Will Ferrell was the funeral
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  crasher. He'd go to funerals and start
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  crashing funerals to meet women. It's kind of like that boohoo
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  crying to get attention. They will use funerals as a way
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  to find new supply. Sometimes funerals can be of the
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  hunting ground for new supply for narcissists.
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  Cause like, you know, go to the funeral.
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  You haven't seen somebody in a long time.
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  You haven't you, you haven't seen this person since high
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  school or something like that. And you're like, damn new, I
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  need some new supplies. You boohoo cry.
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  You make your move at a funeral. They use funerals as like
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  hunting grounds for new narcissistic supply and just
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  with, yeah, they're hunting for new, new supply at a funeral.
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  That just goes to show you that they do have a severe lack of
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  empathy. It is like the empathy is at the
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  bottom. The empathy is the empathy is
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  empathy. Empathy is empathy.
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  Yes, it absolutely is. There's how it goes.
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  Empathy and empathy. Don't they both start off the
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  same EMP Yeah, EMP empathy and empathy both begin the same like
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  they're empathy of empathy when they start acting like that and
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  behaving erratically and trying to find new supply at a funeral.
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  Because like I say, you, you can sometimes you can find a
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  narcissistic person at a funeral, but just by their face.
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  Not everybody cries their funerals.
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  You might not have cried at a funeral, but some narcissists
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  are sitting there. Some of them might be smiling.
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  They might be smiling, making jokes, cracking jokes or
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  whatever it is. You know, because they really
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  might not have cared about the actual person that passed away.
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  They're just using this as a way to increase their reputation.
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  I hey, I showed up. I showed up to the funeral.
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  Y'all can't say I didn't. Look at me being here for
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  everybody. That's how some narcissist minds
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  work right there. Look at me being here for
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  everybody, look at all the stuff that I'm doing.
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  Look at, look at, look at, look at how I'm going through.
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  Look how many people I'm helping.
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  Look how I'm here, aren't I? You see, they make their
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  presence. No, because at the funeral and
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  like I said, if you have a like, if a narcissist has a grudge,
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  and this is, and this can go for y'all, if a narcissist has a
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  grudge or a bone to pick with someone, right?
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  It doesn't matter if it's at the funeral or not, They're going to
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  go pick that bone. If they have a bone to pick with
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  you or anybody else. And, and if even if, even if, if
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  it's at a funeral, they will pick that bone with you.
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  They will go all out and come for you and try to get you.
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  That's what they'll do. They literally will try to come
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  get you like, OK, you going to do this?
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  I got something for you. You know what I mean?
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  I have some, I have a treat for you.
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  Pretty much they're going to come for you.
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  They're going to do things like that and they're going to, they
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  might argue with you at a funeral.
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  You might have narcissistic rage, but you like, you might
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  see an episode of narcissistic rage at a funeral because
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  narcissists a lot of times, like I said, they still like to make
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  themselves the center of attention.
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  So they might give you narcissistic rage at a funeral.
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  They might absolutely do that. They might dog whistle you at a
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  funeral. At the funeral, they might be
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  trying to trigger you on purpose.
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  Like you know, they don't like, you know that, you know, they
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  know that you don't like something, right?
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  They don't like when you whistle you in the church.
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  You, you know, you know, I know I'm confused right now.
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  Let me, let me narcissistic robot confused a little bit.
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  The narcissist knows what you don't like, right?
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  The narcissist knows that you don't like it when they whistle.
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  Whistle is a whistling is a trigger of yours.
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  So guess what they do in church? They whistle hoping to set you
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  off, hoping to irritate you, knowing that you don't want to
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  make a scene. So they just whistle a little
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  bit here and there just to kind of just get under your skin.
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  They will do things like that. And sometimes they hope to get a
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  reaction from you. They hope that you react to what
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  they're doing so they can make you look like the bad guy.
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  And does it work? Yes, it absolutely does work.
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  This is one of the things that happens to certain people in
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  these situations in these dynamics.
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  Like they will absolutely make, be able to set you off and play
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  the victim. Like a lot of Narcissus.
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  I, I, I now ended with this rally and the night with Rambo.
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  Today I'll end with this. There's a lot of Narcissus that
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  love their, their love having a good reputation.
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  So they will come to funerals and put on a put on the show.
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  They'll come to the funeral, put on the show.
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  They'll, they'll, they'll love bombing the people around.
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  They'll love bomb you like they'll be they'll, they'll,
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  they'll be screaming at you in the car, berating you in the
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  car. But when y'all get inside the
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  church or the the House of worship or whatever, y'all go
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  for your funeral. They'll be active.
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  They'll be smiling, trying to hold your hand, put their arm
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  around you. They might be fake crying,
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  wiping your tears and stuff like that.
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  They won't put on a show because their reputation is that
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  important to them. It's important enough for them
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  to just act this way at a funeral, to put it to act like a
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  St. at a funeral and whatnot. Y'all.
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