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Who Gets the Family Bible? · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talk back.
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  Speaker 2: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a
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  Speaker 2: new episode of We Talk Back, a show dedicated to
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  Speaker 2: you and you and everybody else in between. I'm trying
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  Speaker 2: to stop saying niggas. What's up, niggas? What's up, Tam?
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  Speaker 1: Until we come up with something else, you guys know
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  Speaker 1: who you are.
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  Speaker 2: Look, it's AJ, y'all. What's up, Tam?
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  Speaker 1: What you got going on? Hey, y'all. It's me, Tam Bam.
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  Speaker 1: I love y'all. Hey, girl. How was your weekend?
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  Speaker 3: It was good.
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  Speaker 2: Still celebrating my birthday. I might as well go ahead
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  Speaker 2: and celebrate for the rest of the month. I think
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  Speaker 2: that's where I'm headed. Y'all know my birthday was last week, Thursday,
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  Speaker 2: during the week.
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  Speaker 1: You're supposed to. The whole month of June is your birthday.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I mean, we're in cancer season now. No, hell no.
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  Speaker 2: We're still in Gemini season. I'm true.
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  Speaker 1: Not until the 21st of June.
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  Speaker 2: You know why I just said that? Because I just
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  Speaker 2: saw a post. It was a happy birthday post to Sweetie.
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  Speaker 2: And it was like, happy cancer season. That's what confused me.
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  Speaker 2: I know. I got people's birthdays coming up. There's so
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  Speaker 2: many fucking Geminis I know. We just have to be
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  Speaker 2: out here twinning this thing out.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, so... I'm collecting niggas' cars to take pictures with
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  Speaker 1: for my birthday this year.
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  Speaker 2: Period.
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  Speaker 1: I got a Lambo right now, a McLaren, and a
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  Speaker 1: white Maybach from all different people. I'm going to get
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  Speaker 1: a dress to match all of them, and I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to take a picture with all of them.
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  Speaker 2: Might as well, but where the niggas at that match
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  Speaker 2: the cars? That's what I.
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  Speaker 1: Need to know. Right here, you can have them. I
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  Speaker 1: just want the car. I just want a picture. I
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  Speaker 1: just came to take a picture. That's it.
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  Speaker 2: That's it.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, goodness.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm still celebrating my birthday, child.
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  Speaker 1: I went to Houston this weekend. Baby, I had a time.
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  Speaker 1: Houston is a vibe. It's just too hot. My arms
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  Speaker 1: is black as hell.
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  Speaker 2: It's nice in Houston. I would move there, but it's
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  Speaker 2: too hot. There's no ocean nearby.
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  Speaker 1: It's too hot. It's just too hot. I couldn't do it.
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  Speaker 1: Dry heat. We went to like Clay for, they had
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  Speaker 1: a pool party with Ari. And it was packed and
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  Speaker 1: it was nice, but I left after an hour because
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  Speaker 1: auntie can't do that type of heat. I was like, well,
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  Speaker 1: I'll catch y'all back at the Airbnb because I can't
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  Speaker 1: do it no more. Luckily you got braids. Yeah, I know,
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  Speaker 1: because anything else would have just been a mess.
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  Speaker 2: I know some lifting lace friends out there.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Ain't no way, bruh.
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  Speaker 1: One of the girls I was with, baby, her little
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  Speaker 1: lace was just lying to the right. But it was
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  Speaker 1: a good time. I'm just tired now. I'm still tired.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like when you go away and you party,
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  Speaker 1: you need to come back and have one day off
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  Speaker 1: in between.
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  Speaker 2: At least two, actually. You actually need two days from
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  Speaker 2: a vacation.
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  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm. Or at least one. Goddamn, I got off the
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  Speaker 1: plane and went straight to work. I'm tired.
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  Speaker 2: Be grateful you got clients.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I ain't tripping. I ain't tripping. What's up with
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  Speaker 1: stupid internet news?
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  Speaker 2: Girl, that's a lot of little stupid things going on. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: that's why we have this segment. Y'all know stupid internet
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  Speaker 2: news stands for sin, right? I'm sure they got that.
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  Speaker 2: Some people may not have. I don't want to call
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  Speaker 2: it sinful, but we are in.
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  Speaker 2: Pride Month, right? So June 1st started Pride Month, even
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  Speaker 2: though we have Juneteenth coming up next Monday. You know,
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  Speaker 2: it used to be. It's all the other stuff we
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  Speaker 2: used to celebrate during this month. Demi Lovato says she's
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  Speaker 2: going back to calling herself she, her. She's going back
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  Speaker 2: to those pronouns again because apparently explaining they, them to
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  Speaker 2: people was exhausting. I don't understand the they, them pronoun
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  Speaker 2: because usually if I'm talking to you directly, I would
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  Speaker 2: be calling your name. Or I'll be like, I wouldn't
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  Speaker 2: really have to say they or them, him or her,
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  Speaker 2: no pronoun really. You know, we'd just be conversing. Usually
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  Speaker 2: when you use they, them is when the person is
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  Speaker 2: not like actually in the vicinity and you're talking to
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  Speaker 2: somebody else about them.
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  Speaker 1: And then you still would say they. Right.
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  Speaker 2: I would use the proper pronoun.
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  Speaker 1: Whether if it's he or she or him or her.
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  Speaker 1: or he or him, you still would say they.
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  Speaker 2: Right, exactly. So to me, like they and them is
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  Speaker 2: like when the person that you're actually speaking about is
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  Speaker 2: not in the vicinity. It's appropriate.
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  Speaker 1: But then I think it means something else now. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know.
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  Speaker 2: But how do I say they, them when I'm talking
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  Speaker 2: to they and them directly?
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  Speaker 1: Hey, they, you want a shot?
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  Speaker 2: Ah, got it. Okay, no, I'm not tricking my brain
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  Speaker 2: for that shit. So apparently she no longer feels like
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  Speaker 2: having to explain to people and coach them through the
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  Speaker 2: pronoun process. So she's just going back to she, her.
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  Speaker 1: Well, see, that's why I'm trans-age, because if everybody could
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  Speaker 1: just flip-flop and wake up and be something different, I'm
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  Speaker 1: reclaiming my time.
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  Speaker 2: Shut up. Look, she says, however, Lovato has since explained
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  Speaker 2: that Constantly having to explain her pronoun choices was absolutely exhausting.
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  Speaker 2: Imagine the people who trying to keep up with that shit,
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  Speaker 2: like that don't use that in their day-to-day lives. It's exhausting.
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  Speaker 2: And as she wanted to feel more human at her core.
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  Speaker 1: Interesting.
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  Speaker 2: Because when I think about they, them, okay, y'all, I
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  Speaker 2: want everybody to go watch this movie called Nefarious. It
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  Speaker 2: was in theaters recently. I was able to find it
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  Speaker 2: on one of my little hacky sacks, hacky sites online.
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  Speaker 2: But I think it is like it may be on
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  Speaker 2: like Amazon Prime or something like that now. But watch
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  Speaker 2: this movie. There's a lot of dialogue. It's not that
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  Speaker 2: many different like settings in the movie. But to me,
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  Speaker 2: it explains they them. Like if you feel like you
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  Speaker 2: got all these different. They them to me feel like
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  Speaker 2: it seems like you got more than one person inside you, right?
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  Speaker 1: That seems like I don't know. I don't understand. But
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  Speaker 1: maybe Demi Lovato could come on and help us understand.
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  Speaker 2: No, I don't want to offend anybody, so my best
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  Speaker 2: bet is to just, like, you know, because it's confusing.
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  Speaker 2: It's hard to keep up with. So I'm glad she
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  Speaker 2: is going back to something that the majority can try and,
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  Speaker 2: you know, address her by.
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  Speaker 1: Anyway. Child, over the weekend, baby. Mayweather had a fight,
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  Speaker 1: but the title fight was after the damn fight with
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  Speaker 1: Jocelyn Hernandez and Big Legs.
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  Speaker 2: Isn't that the girl from Charlotte?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, she's from South Carolina.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, that's the– I'm sorry, I meant Columbia. Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like Double Homicide when she was on that show.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what made her very popular on the show.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if they came together. It seemed like
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  Speaker 1: they probably would have came together since they know each other.
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  Speaker 1: But whatever happened. No, it's Zeus Network.
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  Speaker 2: Zeus Network is now sponsoring fights. So that was a
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  Speaker 2: Mayweather fight, but it was sponsored by Zeus Network. Zeus
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  Speaker 2: Network is now putting together boxing fights.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, wow. Okay, Zeus coming on up. so I don't
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  Speaker 1: know everybody is insisting that Jocelyn may have been on
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  Speaker 1: something but we don't know if that's true or not
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  Speaker 1: but she literally there's a video of her rotating around
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  Speaker 1: attacking everybody who walked by like a wild animal.
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  Speaker 2: Girl I saw one random girl just walking past and
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  Speaker 2: Jocelyn just smacked her in the back of the head
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  Speaker 2: I'm like what the fuck is happening.
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  Speaker 1: She threw her drink at her too And then took
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  Speaker 1: off running.
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  Speaker 2: That shit ain't funny.
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  Speaker 1: And she shouldn't.
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  Speaker 2: I know recently she did do a, she had like a,
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  Speaker 2: it looks like she had like a show at a
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  Speaker 2: strip club and she was telling the crowd, you know,
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  Speaker 2: like how this was her first time doing a show
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  Speaker 2: on no drugs, no liquor, no nothing sober. And here
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  Speaker 2: you are acting like a fucking wild animal, like shortly thereafter,
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  Speaker 2: a week later, two weeks later.
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  Speaker 1: Right. And her mugshot, it looks so sad. Yeah. I felt,
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  Speaker 1: I felt sad for her. Because clearly she got some
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  Speaker 1: inner turmoil that needs to be figured out.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all watch that movie Nefarious. There's a lot of people
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  Speaker 2: out here who are just not in control of their
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  Speaker 2: own vessel. They're just not in control. There's something going on.
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  Speaker 2: And if y'all don't feel it, I feel it. The
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  Speaker 2: fucking outside feel different. That's what I know. There's something
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  Speaker 2: going on. There's ain't no way, bruh.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, she attacking everybody.
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  Speaker 2: Looking crazy. Her husband was there. Like, I thought that
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  Speaker 2: she was sober. I don't know why I thought that
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  Speaker 2: this guy was keeping her together. The husband.
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  Speaker 1: Well, where was he at?
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  Speaker 2: He was there. She had the girl in a choke.
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  Speaker 2: She had Lex in a choke hold. And her husband
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  Speaker 2: was right there. Like, at one moment, he was trying
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  Speaker 2: to pry her off. But then I think he got
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  Speaker 2: into it with some people on scene, too. She was
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  Speaker 2: on her like a pit bull.
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  Speaker 1: You can't be putting your hands on people, especially on video. Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: What if you accidentally killed someone?
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  Speaker 2: Like, there's a lot of Axel Denner murderers out here
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  Speaker 2: who just thought they were going to fight. And that
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  Speaker 2: adrenaline kicks in and you go take shit too far.
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  Speaker 2: Now you a killer.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And you have a child.
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  Speaker 1: Let's see what happened to Cochise. Right.
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  Speaker 2: Look, speaking of killers or, you know, alleged killers, YNW Melly,
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  Speaker 2: he's I guess today would be day two or day
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  Speaker 2: three of his double homicide trial. So they're actually trying
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  Speaker 2: to get his boy to death penalty. But The father
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  Speaker 2: of one of the victims took to social media to
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  Speaker 2: blast Boosie because apparently Boosie has been showing up to
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  Speaker 2: this boy's trial. And the dad was like, you don't
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  Speaker 2: even know him. Like, you know what I'm saying? There's
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  Speaker 2: people down in your city fighting for their life down
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  Speaker 2: in Baton Rouge. You can't even go home. Go down
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  Speaker 2: there and support some of them. But you supporting this
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  Speaker 2: dude who killed my son so I saw a lot
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  Speaker 2: of comments that were saying justifying um YNW Melly you
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  Speaker 2: know what I'm talking about he has that song yeah
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  Speaker 2: yeah that do you know his real name his last
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  Speaker 2: name is Demons That's his last name. His real government
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  Speaker 2: last name is Demons. You got to believe people when
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  Speaker 2: they tell you who they are sometimes. We live in
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  Speaker 2: a world where people can only see what their eyes
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  Speaker 2: can perceive. There's a lot of shit going on. And
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  Speaker 2: he always talked about how he had multiple personalities. He
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  Speaker 2: had this Melvin and Melly. Melvin was like another personality
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  Speaker 2: in his body he would talk about. Maybe Melvin committed
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  Speaker 2: the crime. Maybe Melly didn't. Maybe he can convince the jury.
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  Speaker 1: They both need to go to jail if they did.
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  Speaker 1: Whoever did it, both of them need to go and
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  Speaker 1: get up out of here because that's scary to me.
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  Speaker 2: Or a mental institution.
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  Speaker 1: That may be nervous. Maybe.
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  Speaker 2: Not necessarily actual prison because there's no rehabilitation for regular-minded
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  Speaker 2: people in prison.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It's a while, man.
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  Speaker 1: It's a while. Yeah, I don't even know how to
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  Speaker 1: comment on that because, I mean, I understand why the
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  Speaker 1: father would be upset. But then Boosie is allowed to
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  Speaker 1: support whoever he wants.
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  Speaker 2: He is. I feel like we support the wrong shit sometimes. Like,
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  Speaker 2: we know these people be killers. And we like, free
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  Speaker 2: my nigga. Come on, man. That's somebody's child is gone.
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  Speaker 2: Somebody's dad is gone. Like, we got to have more
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  Speaker 2: accountability in the black community, man. It's disgusting. Like, you
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  Speaker 2: showing up for the wrong shit. And then I saw
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  Speaker 2: another video where Boosie saying that Kanye West is anti-black.
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  Speaker 2: He don't like black people. Just recently he was doing
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  Speaker 2: somebody's podcast. This is what Boosie was saying about Kanye.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's anti-black to be supporting people who kill
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  Speaker 2: black people. Kanye ain't never killed nobody. You know? So
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  Speaker 2: that to me is anti-black. That to me is black hate.
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  Speaker 2: The fuck? Anyway.
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  Speaker 3: I agree.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to get crunk and start preaching on here.
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  Speaker 1: So, Gunplay blasts GoFundMe donors for requesting refunds after he
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  Speaker 1: gifted a chain to Rick Ross. And I quote, he said,
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  Speaker 1: you're a piece of shit and you'll die that way. Whoa,
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  Speaker 1: that was harsh, Gunplay.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, no. That's what somebody said to him.
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  Speaker 1: No, he said that.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, that is. Oh, girl, yeah, you're right. I
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  Speaker 2: did see that little spiel.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he said that. And I was like, dang, people like,
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  Speaker 1: if people gave what they couldn't give. And you now
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  Speaker 1: have money to give, gift a nice chain to someone.
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  Speaker 2: It was multiple items.
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  Speaker 1: Can I have my $ 25 back?
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  Speaker 2: And Rick Ross was laying in the bed looking like
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  Speaker 2: a butter roll biscuit. It was kind of sus. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: Rick Ross laying in the bed with no shirt on,
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  Speaker 2: titties out. And Gunplay just got all, just drip, dripping
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  Speaker 2: all over him. Giving him all, showering him with gifts.
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  Speaker 2: It was just really like, little nigga big homie moment.
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  Speaker 2: For two grown ass men. It was kind of weird.
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  Speaker 1: I don't understand why he doesn't understand why these people
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  Speaker 1: want their money back. If you wanted to gift this
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  Speaker 1: man something, you didn't have to record it and post it.
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  Speaker 1: It could have been private.
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  Speaker 2: But you know why? Because his ego got in the way.
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  Speaker 2: You know recently that whole big thing with DJ Envy
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  Speaker 2: on The Breakfast Club. DJ Envy called out Rick Ross
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  Speaker 2: for having not Helps financially supported him during that time
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  Speaker 2: when his daughter was in the hospital. He called him
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  Speaker 2: out like, why your homeboy had to do a GoFundMe?
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  Speaker 2: Ain't that your man's? So this was Gunplay Eagle plus
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  Speaker 2: Rick Ross' Eagle, right? Rick Ross' Eagle was getting stroked, right?
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  Speaker 2: And Gunplay, I guess he wanted to prove to DJ
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  Speaker 2: Envy and Charlamagne that he got the check. But you didn't.
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  Speaker 2: That's the fact. You wouldn't be asking the public when
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  Speaker 2: Regular people are out here really struggling in this economy.
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  Speaker 2: And somebody might have gave you their last, thinking your
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  Speaker 2: child would die.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you know what? Honestly, oftentimes these do be regular people.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, a pair.
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  Speaker 1: And they just trying to keep up with the Joneses.
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  Speaker 2: They a pair. Look, perception is a motherfucker, man. Y'all
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  Speaker 2: got to know what y'all looking at. Because these people
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  Speaker 2: be one.
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  Speaker 1: You might have been just like TT. I need that money.
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  Speaker 2: Shut up.
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  Speaker 1: You know what movie is that? Oh, set it off, right? Oh,
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  Speaker 1: that's so good.
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  Speaker 2: Shut up. That's like a famous line. Okay. I know
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  Speaker 2: all the good black movies. All right. Yeah, but yeah,
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  Speaker 2: a lot of these dudes, especially rappers in particular, are
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  Speaker 2: one bill away from being a regular nigga. Just remember that.
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  Speaker 2: These people, you know, it's all a facade. You got
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  Speaker 2: to be careful. You got people wanting to slit their
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  Speaker 2: wrists because they don't have half the stuff these people
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  Speaker 2: have on social media. It is social media.
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  Speaker 1: It is not real.
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  Speaker 2: It's not real.
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  Speaker 1: It's not real, you guys.
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  Speaker 2: Some of this shit ain't real.
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  Speaker 1: Take the blinders off.
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  Speaker 2: And the people that I know in real life who
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  Speaker 2: got real money are not on the fucking internet showing anything.
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  Speaker 2: They're not. They want private lives. They want to just
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  Speaker 2: have their shit and dip the fuck off. That's my
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  Speaker 2: goal in life. I don't want to show my whole
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  Speaker 2: life on the internet. I don't. But, I mean, it
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  Speaker 2: is what it is. Yeah, man. That's why this shit
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  Speaker 2: is tough. Social media is tough for Tam and us both. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: so listen, y'all. This week, we're talking about who gets
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  Speaker 2: the family Bible when someone dies, right? I just had
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  Speaker 2: an uncle pass away. I don't know what his relationship
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  Speaker 2: status was. But if you probably were maybe about 40
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  Speaker 2: years younger, I'm pretty sure it would be like five
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  Speaker 2: different women on social media saying how, I was just
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  Speaker 2: with him last night. You know, that's what our generation
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  Speaker 2: is now doing. So we want to talk about who
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  Speaker 2: has the right. To grieve publicly, essentially. One of many conversations.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all stay tuned. We'll be back.
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  Speaker 3: What's up, y'all?
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode of
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  Speaker 2: We Talk Back. Actually, this is We Talk Back TV, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: Your co-host AJ. What's up, Tam? Hey, y'all. It's me,
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  Speaker 1: Tam Bam. I love y'all once again. Thank y'all for
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: coming back. How you doing, girl?
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: I'm good, man.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: We out here. Same, same, same.
• 16:36
  Speaker 3: Give y'all some content.
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: So, all right, this weekend, I was on Twitter, and
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: I never really get on Twitter, but I was on Twitter,
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: and I saw, like, this girlfriend, this ex-girlfriend, and a
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: side chick all going at it.
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: Shame.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: So, all right, what happened, y'all, was this young man,
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: he passed away. Rest in peace to him. And his
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: current girlfriend, no, his ex-girlfriend posted pictures of them together,
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: and she was like, I'm going to miss my best friend.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: Then the current girlfriend was like, hold up, wait a minute,
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: you out of pocket for posting these pictures. And then
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: the side girlfriend was like, he was just at my
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: mama house with me this week. So all of them
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: were online arguing and it became this big debate about
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: who gets to grieve publicly, who should be allowed to
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: post their mourn for this man. And it turned into
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: a huge debate. Everybody had an opinion.
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: So what the Twitter fingers were saying, because I got
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: my opinion, but what was the general consensus?
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: It was pretty much half and half from what I saw.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: It seemed like a lot of people were like, if
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: you couldn't post him while he was alive, don't post
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: him while he's gone. And then other people were like,
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: you can't tell people how to grieve. None of y'all
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: were married to him. So technically everybody is open to
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: say what they want to say. So I literally could
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: agree with both of them. Like, if you couldn't post
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: him when he was living, why would you do it now? Exactly.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: But he not here to say nothing, so what he
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: going to do?
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: It's like, fuck your girlfriend, now you dead. That's messed up.
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: My stance is, y'all ain't married to him.
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: That's how I feel, too.
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: Now you ain't your husband.
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: And maybe if y'all were habitating. Like, imagine sleeping with
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: somebody every night, and then now they just gone.
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: That's different.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: So maybe if you're living with a person and they
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: pass away, you can kind of grieve publicly.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: If he didn't put a ring on it, everybody, it's
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: free game. I feel like it's fair game for everybody to.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: How about baby mamas, the kids?
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: How about that?
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I didn't see if any of them
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: had children with this man. I don't think any of
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: them had kids with this man. Who is this man?
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: What was his character like? He looked like he was
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: a street nigga. I ain't gonna lie. He looked like
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: he was outside. I think I don't want to say that.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: I can't say for sure if he was a scammer,
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: but it was very much giving scammy energy. He got murdered,
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: you know, so rest in peace to him. But they
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: were like going at it. And like the ex-girlfriend and
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: the side chick was like talking about fighting. And the
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: current girlfriend, I guess she was really somewhere grieving. She
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: wasn't really giving it as much energy.
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: And they knew.
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: So basically, the side chick and the ex-girlfriend, they know
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: their position, right?
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: That's why the two of them was fighting. They wasn't
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: trying to fight the main chick.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: Oh, no, I just don't think she was. They was
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: all going back and forth, but I think she just
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: kind of quit engaging as much. But I do feel like.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: All of them get to say what they need to say.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: I feel like if he didn't marry none of them. Now,
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: I think he might have been living with the current girlfriend.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: I'm not sure. That's what I'm saying.
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: Like, that's why it's a little bit different.
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: Like maybe we can throw a little common law in
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: there can we throw some common law in there I
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: mean technically you can't do nothing with his body you
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: don't have access to no funds.
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: You don't get shit once he die none of.
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: Them getting that but why do why do these women
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: need to respect the union if he didn't.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: They don't have to But, I mean, I guess now
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: we're dealing with, like, morals and shit. Like, what's the
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: right thing to do?
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: They didn't have morals from the beginning. None of the
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: people that were... So, one of them is the ex-girlfriend. So,
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: she probably wasn't even, like, still dealing with him, I
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: don't think.
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: She just was, like, my best friend.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: My best friend is gone. And she posted, like, pictures
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: of them kissing. She posted, like, some intimate pictures.
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: That's grounds to get your ass whooped.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: And she's like, and that's not my nigga. Why he
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: gave me $ 30, 000, a dog, and a Mercedes, and then
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: posted all of that shit. I was like, damn, that's
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: fucked up. Why are you trying to hurt.
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: The main girl now? Because that's really what it boils
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: down to. You're trying to hurt her because you didn't
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: have him in the way you wanted to have him
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: when he was here. Is it that, or was she just,
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: when she posted the... That's unnecessary. Posting about the dead,
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: that's unnecessary to me.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: He's gone. Yeah.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: So what point are you really trying to prove? You're
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: trying to hurt that other woman.
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: That's all it is. Like, we be battling for no
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: fucking reason.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: Right, for somebody who ain't even around. Exactly. How y'all
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: fighting about somebody gone?
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: And then now, you probably on to the other nigga
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: you was already talking to when that nigga was here.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: Right, crying in his lap. You love me. What's wrong
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: with you? I'm on period.
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: I miss my nigga. No, you can't say that.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: You can't cry to another nigga talking about how you
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: miss another nigga. You got to say something else.
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: I read this article one time.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: It was a guy.
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: I don't know if they were white or black.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Kind of sound kind of white, kind
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: of beige. Okay. So it was actually the woman writing.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: It was like a blog post.
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: And she was saying like, she doesn't know anything.
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: How to deal with her husband who's grieving the loss
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: of his mistress.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: Damn.
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: So basically she was letting him cheat in peace.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: And then the mistress died. Yes, the mistress died.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: And he was sad, so it was affecting their actual marriage.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: I mean, I guess you got to support him. If
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: you allow him to do it, you know, you got to, like,
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: be comforting.
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: What?
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: Could you imagine? Baby, I know your bitch dead, but...
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: Let me rub your feet. No.
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: It would be really hard for me to have compassion
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: and empathy for him.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. If you were letting him cheat in peace,
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: then you might as well continue to be his peace
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: while he mourns.
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: But can I cheat now? Can I openly cheat now?
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: I mean, you should have been doing it already as
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: far as I'm concerned. You need to go to your
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: nigga house like, oh, today was so exhausting. He's been
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: crying all day over that bitch. That's what it is.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: Easy peasy.
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: We be worrying about the wrong shit.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: Oh, goodness.
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: I probably could. It depends on how long I've been
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: with the person. I might be able to love them
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: through it.
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: Possibly. I think I could. Especially, I just feel like
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: after some time, After, like, many, many years, I'm going
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: to want my man to have somebody else, too. What,
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: like 50?
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: You want to turn, like, 45, 50?
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like.
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: That's down the street.
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: For you. I need somebody to share the load. Because
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: here's the thing. I feel like men, like, they have
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: all these women for different things. And then they expect
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: you to become and just be all these women. I
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: haven't experienced that in real life. All these women, and
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: I can't be all these women. Go get another one.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: You're like, okay, so now you finally settled down, and
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: I'm the only one. But your whole life, you've been
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: getting all these different things from five different women.
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: Now it's just me.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: And now you expect me to.
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: You want to be monogamous, right?
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: And you expect all that shit out of me? I
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: got to cook, clean, help you take care of kids,
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: help you build a business, suck your dick.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: It's just too much. And still work your own job.
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: It's too much.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: Clean the house. You might need an extra bitch. Suck
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: some more dick. Go get her to do it.
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: We need, like, an extra bitch in the house.
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to teach this little dick a to count,
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: and you want me to suck your dick. I can't
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: do it.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: I swear to God, girl, when COVID first started, I had, like,
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: a school schedule, like, had recess, lunch. This nigga was
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: waiting on recess and lunch all day long. Like, we had, like,
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: a real-life schedule.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: It's hard. Yeah.
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: I don't know how women do it.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: Who have kids and a husband. That's a full-time job.
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: Especially women who actually, like, the men can't afford, right,
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: for them to stay home.
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: However they got it worked.
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: Out, that's a full-time job.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: It still is, yeah. You know what I'm saying?
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: Like, if you're coming home and your wife is just
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: in the bed all damn day long, that's different. But
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: nine times out of ten, if you have a family, like,
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: she's waking up when you wake up to get the
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: day started.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: She's not laying in the bed. Right. That's all.
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: That shit is fucking hard.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: I had a client was saying like she finally got
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: a day to herself. Like the kids were gone. She
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: got three kids and she got one at six months.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: And she was like, I just wanted to do nothing.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: But I kept staring at the mountain of clothes that
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: needed to be folded and put away. And I could
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: just not do nothing. I still had shit to do.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: And she was like, I used to say, how can
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: people like not want to be around kids and not
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: want to be? She's like, I don't want to be
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: around my kids. Like I want them to go away
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: for a while. She was so serious sitting there. See,
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: she needed an extra bitch. Yeah.
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: She needed an extra bitch.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: An extra woman. She needed an extra woman to assist.
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: I don't know. Maybe we be looking at relationships wrong.
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: I think later on.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: I think two things going to happen when you're with
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: somebody for a very long time.
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: Y'all going to at least beat each other up one time.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: Physically yes no one of my exes used to say
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: man you bitch when I turn 50.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: We fighting.
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: Like he can't wait until we got like older so
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: we could fight that's.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: Crazy to say that because the man will still be
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: stronger than you at 50 I don't know depending on
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: unless it's like that Tyler Perry movie where she had
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: that nigga in the tub and he was like Blowing
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: bubbles trying to stay alive. Where's your bitch?
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: If it's like that, then the playing field is a
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: little different. Like, that's why I'm going to keep going
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: to the gym because I'm going to beat your ass up.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: But I see couples that stay together for a long,
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: long time. Like, let's say they're older. They end up
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: being more like brother and sister than husband and wife oftentimes. Like,
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: the relationship becomes like that. And it's still a loving relationship,
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: but the dynamics have changed, you know?
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because you be done went through so much shit.
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: I just don't know if I'm built to just, like,
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: sustain a marriage in that way to where.
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: Anything happens, we.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: Just stay together. That's why divorce rates are so high.
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: And I know men, you know, statistics show that women
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: file for divorce. Yeah, we do the paperwork, but y'all
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: be done left the relationship. That's what happens usually. So
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: I don't know if I can just.
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: Maybe your mama and God could be that forgiving. But
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: it's some shit I'm going to divorce your ass over.
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: It's just a buildup.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: Too much shit. I don't know. I think if I
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: get married, I'm just going to stay. I'm going to
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: stay in it. I'm going to be married or a widow.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: That's it.
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: That's it. So basically what you're saying, you're going to
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: kill that nigga.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: I hear you. Take it how you take it, my nigga.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: Take it how you take it.
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: M4H.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: Murder for hire.
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: You got M4H money hidden.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: I'm never going to get a husband with this show.
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: We both going to get husbands, girl. Don't even worry
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: about it.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: These are jokes, guys. Oftentimes. All right, so I didn't
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: want our conversation to be solely, like, talking about, like,
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: side chicks and who gets the family Bible and things
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: like that. I just wanted to also, because it's a
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: lot of death all around us. You're always hearing about
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: someone passing away. And we're getting older, so parents, our
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: parents are getting older.
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: I have a couple friends whose moms just passed away. I'm, like,
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: telling my mama, you better calm down.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: Bitch, because I need you. I need you to be
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: around a little longer, so.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: I found nine steps to coping with grieving. And this
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: probably would have been healthy for those young ladies because
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: all of them really lost someone that they cared about.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: And maybe they were just displaying that in a way
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: that wasn't positive. Right. So the first one is to
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: understand the stages of grief. The stages are denial. You know,
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: I can't believe this happened. anger so this is probably
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: the stage that they were in they were in that
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: angry stage and they were lashing out on.
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: Each other that he was gone or were they mad
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: that he didn't choose them before he.
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: Left well none of them really was chose because none
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: of them was married you know so that it could
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: have been they could have been angry at all that
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: shit honestly um bargaining so i i looked at that
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: step because i didn't understand what it meant for real
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: and it was like um trying to negotiate with god Like,
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: I wish this, you know, just. Take me.
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: Jumping in the casket and that type of thing. Yeah,
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: that kind of thing. Then depression. What if God be like, okay. Right.
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't. Depression. Depression was this girl. Every week, you know,
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: I always feel like she's. not gonna go there but
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: she always does but what if God give you what
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: you ask for like we know manifestation is happening really
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: fast now yeah be careful what the fuck you ask
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: for yeah you're right about that so then the next
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: stage of grief is depression which you know a lot
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: of people go into after they lose someone they love
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: And then the final stage is acceptance.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: I think people experience that with people who are alive.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah. Yeah, it's the same with breakup. Not necessarily death,
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: just grieving. Right, the lost of. Yeah. So the next
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: step to cope with grieving, know that grief isn't forever. Now,
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: I don't know. That's what it says, but I don't
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: know if that's true because I think you just learn.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: You learn to live with the grief. That's what I
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: feel like because I still, like my grandma on my neck,
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: I wear it all the time. I be in the
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: gym with this on. They be like, this bitch ain't
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: working out for real. Sweating all on your granny. Well,
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: she facing out. She not catching no sweat. So I still,
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: you know, I still grieve her and I don't feel
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: like it's ever going to go away, but I've just
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: learned to live with the grief. So I guess that's
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: what they mean. The next step is Give yourself the
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: grace to feel the pain. And I get that one.
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: So I guess these women should have given each other
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: some grace.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: Maybe. Especially the ex and the side bitch.
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Like, the side bitch, she just, he.
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: Probably just was dropping dick off randomly.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: She said he was at her mama house with her
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: just a little while ago, so... They clearly didn't like him.
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: But he's not here to clarify that. He's not here
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: to tell us.
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: He's like, man, I was selling your mama some weed.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: She probably was a runner. He might have been picking
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: some shit up from her ass. She might have set
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: him up. She might have set him up. Here she
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: go again. She might have set his ass up. No.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: She was missing that man.
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: All right.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: The next one. Find a support system. And that's important.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: You got to have your village, your people. It don't
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: even have to be like people you really know. You
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: can use social media. You can use... Oh, I don't
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: suggest to use social media. Why?
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: Like what? Like, okay, essentially that's what they did, right?
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: These women, the initial... Well, I don't mean, I don't
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: mean like using social media and just posting picture. I
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: mean like finding like A support group. Yeah, a community
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: of people who are, like, have lost and they're, like,
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: helping each other to cope. Right. That kind of thing.
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: Because I feel like they might have been using social
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: media in that way, wanting support from strangers.
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: The people that follow them. Or people that they know,
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: you know. But you got to be careful with that
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: because not everybody that's on your social media is your
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: friend or your supporter. Yeah. Take care of yourself. That's
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: number five. People often either overeat, not eat, overindulge in
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: food and sex and liquor. When my grandfather, I didn't
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: even realize I was upset when my grandfather passed. And
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: I found myself standing on top of my counter in
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: my house holding a bottle of Jag. And I was like,
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: I'm grieving. That's what this is.
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: And Rel was there.
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: He was looking at me like. I don't know what
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: to do right now. I looked like I was happy.
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: Like I was like, but really I was like, why
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: am I standing on top of my kitchen counter right now?
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: Like I'm going through it. I'm going through it.
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: But I didn't, I couldn't identify it at the time.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: I didn't know what I was.
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: Sometimes you might not be a whole, like you might
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: just be grieving.
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: You got to look and see like what's going on.
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: Like if you just have an excess, excessive sex, if
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: you just have an excessive sex, there may be.
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: Reason, yeah. That has nothing to do with, like, lust.
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: I didn't try to fuck it away, though. No. I
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: just was drinking. I was drinking. Yeah.
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: It would be me eating chocolate, fresh-baked goods, Charles and Chewy's,
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: all type of shit.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: I've been there, too. But not this time. It wasn't...
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: I remember... But I also was taking... I was smoking weed.
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: You know, you have munchies real heavy. But I remember...
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: I ain't even going to tell y'all that. That's wild.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: Tell me, tell me. No, it's so fat. It's so fat. Y'all,
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: I was like real high. And I like was just
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: treating the refrigerator like it was my plate. And I
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: was just like eating out of the refrigerator. Yeah, eating
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: out of the refrigerator. Like not taking the food away
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: and putting it on the plate and just eating from
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: the refrigerator. I was like, this is so fat. Oh, goodness. Okay.
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: Number six, honor your loved one. So I guess like
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: something like this, like maybe with a token or keep,
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: you know, talking about them or. things like that, to
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: honor them.
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: I bet you these fools went and got this man's
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: name tattooed on them.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: Oh, I bet all of them did. I would not
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: be surprised. That would be the only way for me
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: to get your name, is if I'm with you.
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: I'm not putting anybody's name on my body, not even
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: my kid. They might grow up and disappoint you.
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: They still your kid. You got this little motherfucker. Every
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: time you see him, like.
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: This little motherfucker.
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: As long as they come out of you, you're going
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: to love them regardless. I think so. I can't think
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: of a parent who don't ride for their kid. You know,
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: they still, they still love them.
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: You might have like a little demon. You just never know.
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: You still going to be like, that's my little Satan child.
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: And I love him to death. With his name tattooed
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: on your body. I'm not tattooing no kid, but I'm
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: just saying like, I don't have a kid. I can't
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: imagine me doing it. But if someone died, that would
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: be the only way. And if I was with them,
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: you got.
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: Unconditional love for your kids, Jordan, like no matter if
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: they just become a serial killer.
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I love my serial killer son. That'd be the
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: name of the book Jordan would write. Think about it.
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: Anytime that someone like their child is on TV because
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: they committed murder and their parents are always like, he's
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: really a good person and we really always talk about
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: it because they know the good sides of it.
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: They know this nigga been causing havoc his whole life though.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to hallucinate with nobody.
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: You only saying this because you haven't felt the love
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: that comes from when you have a baby.
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: Now my dog, she can bite your ass and she
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: did it because she needed to.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: Her dog.
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: I don't fuck with humans like that.
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: I'm kids, man. I'm just playing y'all.
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: This is just fucking jokes. I would definitely ride for
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: my kids. Now, you try to kill me, that's different.
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: Right. Right. That's when shit get different.
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: Number seven, reach out to friends and family. Some people
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: like just go inside and they grieve. internally and don't
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: talk to anyone about it and that's probably not the
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: most healthy thing it's probably good to reach out to
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: friends and family even just to vent number eight remember
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: there's no right way to grieve it didn't say there's
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: no wrong way it just said there's no right way
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: to grieve so basically what it's saying is like they
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: can't tell you how yeah nobody can tell you like
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: How to do it. You're doing it right or you're
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: doing it wrong. Right.
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: So we're discussing these young ladies grieving on Twitter. I
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: don't think that's the right, that can't possibly be one
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: of the right ways to grieve.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: What? Expressing themselves on social media?
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I've actually, like, I have some of my little cousins, like,
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: they have kids with, like, hood rat ass dudes.
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: And some of them are dead.
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: And I would see them, like, online, Facebook.
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: Like, posting pictures laying in the bed. Like, you never
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: posted this stuff before. So why are you posting it
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: now when the person isn't here?
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: Because they sad.
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: They not sad. They trying to get beat the fuck up.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: That's all it is.
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: They not sad.
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: Why you think they not sad?
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: They trying to antagonize who that person was actually with
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: at the.
• 38:05
  Speaker 3: Time of death.
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: That's what they doing.
• 38:06
  Speaker 3: There's no other reason for that.
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: I'm just trying to think, like, if I was... Dealing
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: with someone. Because I'm sure he wasn't talking to them
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: about all these other people that he was with.
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: Oftentimes, people, these women, they know about each other. A
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: lot of times, like, you know.
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: But if y'all know each other, if y'all know about
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: each other, then why y'all so mad? Like, y'all need
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: to kumbaya together, ain't it? That's what I'm saying.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: It's not about him at this point. Like, he's out
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: of the picture. So now it's, like, proven to everybody
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: else who was.
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: The most important to him.
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: Who was the most important to him.
• 38:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and that is fucking weirdo.
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: Behavior as far as I'm concerned. Yeah, it's not that deep.
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's not your husband.
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: That's not your.
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: Remember those posts?
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: That's not your man, bitch. That's not.
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: While you're in the middle of pack a bag and
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: lunches and all that type of weird stuff, this is
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: not your man.
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: Right. I'm just trying to think, like, what would I do? Like,
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: would I grieve publicly?
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: If it's my man, yes.
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: But I think if my ex died right now, knock
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: on wood, I might... Well, I wouldn't post no picture
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: of us kissing because, ew.
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's wild.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: But I would definitely, like.
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: You're not in a new relationship? Like, you don't have
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: anybody that's going to see this and be like, bitch,
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: what you doing?
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: Like, another guy?
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: But why would they be upset if it's, like, he dead?
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: I mean, like, what? He's not a threat.
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: But you were fucking with him up until him you
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: were fucking with him up until he died essentially if
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: you post a picture of a man kissing like you
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: kissing a guy who's now dead you were probably fucking
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: with him.
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: Up until yeah the kissing picture is kind of wild
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: but like you can't possibly be in a relationship with
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: anybody else but posting a picture of you and your
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: ex together after they passed that's fucked up I'm just not.
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: I don't post niggas now.
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I ain't going to post. I cut a nigga's
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: head out of the picture real quick. I think, I
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: don't know, I probably would post. I probably would post.
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: I would. But not in a hateful way. I don't
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: think it would be about anybody else but me.
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: But you cannot dictate how somebody else perceives what you're doing.
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: When those women posted on Twitter, they probably, you know,
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: really genuinely felt that way about him because they did
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: have relations with him, right? And whoever felt a way,
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: they probably weren't even considering him because y'all didn't matter
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: within our relationship.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: Then y'all had your own separate relationship.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: So now whoever says something to whoever first, which is
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: probably the one who was in the current relationship with him,
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: is probably who.
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: had something to say about it. Just get the fuck
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: off social media, y'all.
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't even give it no energy. Like, let's say
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: I'm the current girlfriend and the ex-girlfriend posted pictures and
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: the channel was silenced. Yeah, I wouldn't have gave it
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: no energy. Yeah.
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: Killing with silence.
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't have said anything to them bitches.
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: I ain't going to say nothing. I'm just going to
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: have security at the funeral door and y'all can't come in.
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: Y'all going to have to post your pictures from outside.
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: But bitch, you got to get with his mama for
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: you to even get access.
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess you're right.
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: And you're going to be in his obituary as special friend.
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: If you make it. Right.
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: Because his sister might not even like your ass, special friend.
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: You might not even, your name might not even be
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: in there.
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: All of us outside.
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: Fighting together. All of us outside. And his actual girlfriend.
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: Or maybe wife.
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: You don't know who else showing up, man. You think
• 41:26
  Speaker 3: it's just hell.
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: No. I'm going to keep that to myself, too. Yeah,
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: we got to be careful, man. Because when you talk
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: about people dying and things like that, it is sensitive,
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: you know? It is. I mean, we know how to
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: make fun of anything. But for the most part, them
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: girls probably wasn't really hurting. And it's sad to see
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: them beat each other up verbally because they didn't I
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: don't know if it ever actually came to physical blows
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: because they was like sending locations and shit it might
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: have went there but it's never that deep honestly so
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: I hope it didn't go there and number nine seek
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: help through a grief counselor.
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: And that's not your home girls that's not Keisha that's
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: Lorraine that's we talk back podcast use this list.
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: Of not being to cope with grief. Honestly. I'm going
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: to charge you though. A grief counselor is a good idea.
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: I probably could still use one. I don't feel like,
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I, I guess you, can you
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: heal from loss like that?
• 42:34
  Speaker 2: Not from somebody that you, I don't think that you
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: actually ever, you just learn, you learn to live without
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: the person. And that's what I said I associated with
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: having a breakup with somebody. I've had to learn, even
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: though this person is still living, I had to learn
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: how to live without them. And that's just really what
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: it is.
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: But that's different because you know that they're still living
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: their life and they still have the capacity for happiness
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: in this realm, right? Oh, you know what?
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: I'm going to say no.
• 43:02
  Speaker 4: What?
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: I'm still grieving the loss of my dog, y'all.
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 43:06
  Speaker 3: For real, in a real fucking way.
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: I'm grieving the loss of people, children, dog, like a
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: lot of stuff. I still feel like, I guess there
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: is no real true healing from that shit. You just deal.
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: You just deal with it. You just go on.
• 43:23
  Speaker 3: It just becomes like a part of you. It becomes
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: a part of your life.
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: And posting a nigga obituary or y'all in the bed
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: kissing is not going to help it.
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: It ain't going to help, but maybe a little bit.
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: Maybe a little bit.
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: I couldn't try that bitch when he was alive. I'm
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: a trier now.
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: That's what it is.
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: I mean, is that a healing tactic?
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: No.
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: It's not. Would you really be thinking about the other woman?
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: That's the thing. I couldn't imagine me posting that thinking
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: about somebody else besides myself and how I felt about
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: that person. I don't think I would be posting like
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: intentionally just like my only goal is outward but you
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: had to have thought that.
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: There would be a response you had to have known
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: like even though you you probably don't care like this
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: is just how i'm feeling i understand what you're saying
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: but you have to know that they would there would
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: be some type of repercussions for doing it you had
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: to know like somebody's gonna say something because you probably
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: told your homegirl.
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: Watch this bitch.
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: I don't think if I did it it wouldn't be
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: on that type of time it would really be innocent like.
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't but I can imagine a fucking messy ass
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: woman doing.
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: That what posting her the ex nigga.
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: I know she gonna say something but I'm gonna do
• 44:44
  Speaker 3: it anyway me.
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: I definitely I might you know if my ex boyfriend
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: died I couldn't post.
• 44:53
  Speaker 3: It I be having too much respect for people man
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: i'm not doing it.
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't do it with disrespect i wouldn't be i
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: might even send her my condolences the current girlfriend or
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: whatever send her my condolences like i'm sorry for your
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: loss but this is my loss too i i loved
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: him too i may not love him no more like
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: in that same capacity but saying oh he.
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: Just bought me this and he just did.
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: Now that's different that's different but like just posting a
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: picture saying like this was my friend and i'm very
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: sad that he's gone I don't see any harm in that.
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: It may not be any malice, but you don't deal
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: with people's perception and stuff.
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: And I guess it has to be context because posting
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: a kissing picture is kind of wild. You ain't got
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: to go that far, but just a picture that looks amicable. Right.
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: I'm saying I might do it. But I also can fight,
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: and I've been in the gym, so I feel stronger.
• 45:43
  Speaker 3: Bitch, you better come with it.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: All right, y'all, so listen.
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: Use these steps Tam gave y'all, okay? Sound like some
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: good information to me.
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 45:53
  Speaker 2: We try not to always talk about relationships, but, you know,
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: it's subjective, objective. Right.
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Kind of go together. Yeah, use those steps. When
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: you're green.
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: Get y'all together and stay the fuck off the internet.
• 46:05
  Speaker 3: That's what I'm trying to say.
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: And close your legs to other bitches' men.
• 46:10
  Speaker 2: Right?
• 46:10
  Speaker 3: I ain't saying all that now.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: It's fucking.
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: The pickers are slim out here. If it's your boyfriend, like,
• 46:16
  Speaker 3: he kind of, like, not off limits. If it's your husband...
• 46:19
  Speaker 3: That's different.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: I'll play my role with that type of shit. So wait,
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: boyfriend is like... He's still outside choosing? Yes.
• 46:25
  Speaker 3: That is not your husband. He has not chose yet.
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: Now if y'all living together now, y'all, you know, working
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: towards that.
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: But yeah, them boyfriends is not off limits, man. Because
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: my fucking husband is probably in a relationship right now.
• 46:36
  Speaker 3: I just got to break it up.
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: So we're going to go to break. And when we
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: come back, we got a dumb bitch story from one
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: of our listeners.
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: Dumb bitch stories.
• 46:49
  Speaker 4: Because we've all been a dumb bitch at least once
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: or twice it says I'm a college student dating a
• 46:57
  Speaker 4: very nice guy who happens to come from a wealthy
• 46:59
  Speaker 4: family I really like him we get along great we
• 47:02
  Speaker 4: each contribute equally to the relationship and we see eye
• 47:05
  Speaker 4: to eye on many things however the financial differences between
• 47:09
  Speaker 4: us has begun to take its toll on me it
• 47:12
  Speaker 4: is difficult for me to keep up with him and
• 47:14
  Speaker 4: his friends who have become mine When it comes to
• 47:16
  Speaker 4: going out, eating out, going to concerts, Ubering long distances
• 47:21
  Speaker 4: to bars, etc. I have addressed my financial situation with
• 47:24
  Speaker 4: him bluntly in the past, and he offers to pay
• 47:27
  Speaker 4: for me constantly. I feel guilty for the normal reasons,
• 47:30
  Speaker 4: but also because his money is really his parents' money
• 47:33
  Speaker 4: and not his. And I feel weird adding expenses to
• 47:36
  Speaker 4: the credit card bill they pay off. This weighs much
• 47:41
  Speaker 4: more heavily on me than it does on him. Despite
• 47:43
  Speaker 4: my subtle offers to cook at home or to not
• 47:46
  Speaker 4: drink and be a designated driver so I can drive
• 47:48
  Speaker 4: instead of paying for rides, is there a different approach
• 47:51
  Speaker 4: to take that would save my wallet? Do I accept
• 47:54
  Speaker 4: his offers to pay all the time, or is this
• 47:56
  Speaker 4: a wedge in my social life that must be accepted?
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: Oh, she love him.
• 48:00
  Speaker 3: She's so concerned about his wallet and his pocket.
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: Right. He's a nice lady. That's a nice young woman, right?
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: You know, I listen to conservative radio stations, right? Because
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: I be needing to know what white people think about stuff.
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: I be wanting to hear how they perceive what be
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: going on. And this one show I watched, this guy
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: called in, a young guy. He was probably like in college. No,
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: maybe he was out of college. He was like 20-something.
• 48:27
  Speaker 3: He said that he's a trust fund baby, right? He
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: has money.
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: His girlfriend doesn't, you know, she doesn't come from a
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: family with a whole lot of money. So he is
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: living off his parents. No, matter of fact, no, he
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: has a trust fund, but... he makes about $ 80, 000 a
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: year on his job. So he makes his own money
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: as well, but he does have the trust fund for
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: emergencies and shit like that. But his girlfriend needs help oftentimes.
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: So he was asking them, when they go on vacation,
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: should he be paying for the vacation? The woman said
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: that they need to split the vacation. If she can't
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: pay for her own vacation, she shouldn't go.
• 49:05
  Speaker 3: These are white people.
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: I was appalled. Me too. He's doing fairly well. 80,000 years. Good.
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: You know, and then he has trust fund money. Why
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: don't you want to have these experiences with this woman? Exactly.
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: Like, I'm going to pay, even if it was the
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: other way around, like it's just certain people I want.
• 49:23
  Speaker 3: To see have fucking fun.
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: Right. You know what I'm saying?
• 49:27
  Speaker 3: So while I trickle on my man, absolutely.
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
• 49:31
  Speaker 3: I want you, I want to see you in particular
• 49:33
  Speaker 3: have fun.
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I, you know what, when it comes to like,
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: when I go, when I'm dating a guy, guy, I'm
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: not as concerned with his money until we become committed.
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: Then I'll be like, no, we don't need that. We
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: don't need to pay for that. I'll be more conservative
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: with his pockets. When we start dating. Once you choose
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: him for real. Yeah. It's the truth. But while we
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: out here having fun. That's on you. That's on you. Yeah.
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: That's on you. You better count that shit out.
• 50:05
  Speaker 2: I mean, that's, that's good that she's taking that into
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: consideration and maybe she's putting too much pressure on herself.
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: He may not even care.
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: It sounds like he doesn't care. You know, like he's
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: like ready to spin it.
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: And as long as she's making like effort not to
• 50:18
  Speaker 2: just be out here spinning and running up the tab. Yeah. Yeah.
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: That's it.
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: She's like, it's not even his money. It's his parents' money.
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: That's her problem. I remember my cousin, he was dating
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: one of my friends at the time. And he bought
• 50:33
  Speaker 2: her a laptop. And he just would do stuff for her. Things,
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: you know, I feel like you're supposed to do for
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: your significant other. But my aunt, she didn't like that. Oh,
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: let me not talk about these people. Let me not
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: talk about these people on this. never mind anyway we
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: can stop right there though my aunt she didn't like
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: that she was suggesting him not to like even pay
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: for dates do you feel.
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: Like um will you take extravagant extravagant gifts from someone
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: you don't like like that um yes i would.
• 51:06
  Speaker 2: I would because i feel like i'm a pretty honest
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: person so they're gonna know exactly where they stand with
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: me so you're not gonna ever feel like You're getting finessed.
• 51:13
  Speaker 3: I don't finesse people. So if you do something nice
• 51:15
  Speaker 3: for me, I'm going to accept it.
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: It depends on what it is for me. Like, I
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: won't take a really extravagant gift from someone that I
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: don't see myself having sex with. You know, like, I'm
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: not going to accept it because I feel like, even
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: though I don't feel like I owe you sex, I
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: just feel like it's kind of like fucked up. Is
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: that the exchange rate? It's kind of fucked up to
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: just be taking stuff. What's the exchange rate? I don't know.
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: It just feels kind of messed up to be taking stuff,
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: and I know I'm not going to give nothing back
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: in return.
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: You can give them a little trinket. You know, the
• 51:48
  Speaker 3: best goddamn gold digger's trick first.
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: Buy you a little trinket. No, I'm not doing it.
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: I've had, like, this guy who comes into this barbershop
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: that's in my building. He always, like, offering me stuff.
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: And I know that, like, nice things.
• 52:06
  Speaker 3: Oh, it come with a price tag.
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: Obviously, it's going to come with a price tag that's
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: more expensive than I want to pay, which is probably
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: some coochie. You know what I'm saying? So I'm like, no, don't. Like,
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: he came with some designer bags. Like, they were shopping bags.
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: So I don't know exactly what was inside it. But
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: I didn't take it. I didn't even look inside because
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: I knew if I looked, I might have wanted to
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: keep it. You're out of it right there. Let me
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: get that. I'm scared. He know where I work at.
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: He know where I work.
• 52:36
  Speaker 3: You got a gun.
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: Yes. No, I'm not doing that. Sir, please take that
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: somewhere else.
• 52:42
  Speaker 3: You got a gun.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: You got a gun. We weren't when we got guns.
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: Take that shit.
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: Take that shit. No, I'm not taking it. I'm sorry. Like,
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: I was like, this is very kind of you, but
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: I can't accept that. You would have took it?
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: If you see this guy, you wouldn't have took it. Oh,
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: maybe then. You would have been like, get somebody else
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: to do it. A shame. That's it. Yeah. So, yeah.
• 53:14
  Speaker 3: I mean, if they paying, just be honest with people.
• 53:17
  Speaker 3: That's all it is.
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah. At the end of the day. Just be honest. Y'all,
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: be honest.
• 53:24
  Speaker 2: Stay your ass off the internet as much. If you
• 53:26
  Speaker 2: ain't making money online, get your ass off there. Anyway,
• 53:30
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• 53:38
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• 53:40
  Speaker 3: It's because a white bitch stole my name.
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: Go ahead, Tam. Y'all, it's official Tam Bam on Instagram.
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: Y'all follow me. I love y'all once again. Remember to
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: speak now.
• 53:49
  Speaker 3: And never hold your peace.
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: Deuces.