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Why People Aren_t Dating · THINK BEFORE YOU SLEEP

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  Speaker 1: I'm going to hold your hand with an industrial paper
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  Speaker 1: towel when I tell you that your comments saying nose
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  Speaker 1: ring theory are literally doing the opposite of what you
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  Speaker 1: think they are. I want to look this way. I
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  Speaker 1: want you to be able to look at me and
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  Speaker 1: see that I am a safe space and that I
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  Speaker 1: don't tolerate fucking bullshit.
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  Speaker 2: It's about damn time. I've been saying for years that
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  Speaker 2: we should judge a book by its cover. I'm glad
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  Speaker 2: everyone's starting to get on board now because there are
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  Speaker 2: so many things you can tell about a person from
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  Speaker 2: superficial information. Like, if they have purple hair, a nose ring,
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  Speaker 2: and tattoos that look uglier than what 12-year-olds draw on
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  Speaker 2: their desk at school, then they're probably not safe to
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  Speaker 2: be around.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to look at me and know, fuck
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  Speaker 1: Donald Trump, fuck men, honestly, and fuck anybody who thinks
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  Speaker 1: any differently, honestly. If I'm not for you, good.
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  Speaker 2: Holy shit, I think we've hit a new level of
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  Speaker 2: crazy eyes here. It's insane how many people will openly
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  Speaker 2: post a record of their red flags on social media
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  Speaker 2: to be archived forever. Because really, the only thing you're
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  Speaker 2: doing with the septum piercing is telling every sane person
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  Speaker 2: that you're not very employable and to stay away from you.
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  Speaker 3: Ladies.
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  Speaker 4: Nobody likes these. Absolutely nobody likes these. Like, eyes to
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  Speaker 4: make you look like a cat, a nose ring to
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  Speaker 4: make you look like a retard, shaved eyebrows so you
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  Speaker 4: look like an alien. Like, what is this shit, man?
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  Speaker 4: And she has fangs, or these are like some type
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  Speaker 4: of piercing. Who likes this? Like, this bitch looks more
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  Speaker 4: like pain from Naruto than any human on Earth.
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  Speaker 2: For context, Tectone was reacting to a girl saying, Why
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  Speaker 2: aren't my relationships going well? It must be men's fault.
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  Speaker 2: And to me, it's shocking that why she isn't doing
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  Speaker 2: well isn't obvious. Appearance matters in relationships. You're dressing in
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  Speaker 2: a way that only a very specific type of person likes,
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  Speaker 2: and the odds of that person being a nutjob or
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  Speaker 2: an abuser is like 90 plus percent. But over the
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  Speaker 2: past few years, particularly since COVID, a lot of people
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  Speaker 2: online seem to be at a loss for what to
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  Speaker 2: do when it comes to relationships. For example, you have
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  Speaker 2: the male loneliness epidemic or crazy women saying, where have
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  Speaker 2: all the good men gone? And people are just kind
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  Speaker 2: of loudly blaming the opposite sex and saying that it's
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  Speaker 2: impossible to ever find someone worth being with. When really,
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  Speaker 2: to me, the answer seems to be a lot less
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  Speaker 2: complicated than people are making it. And the solution starts
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  Speaker 2: with not absorbing stupid ideas.
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  Speaker 5: As a woman, I want a strong man who is
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  Speaker 5: a protector and a provider that will go to war
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  Speaker 5: if need be, that will protect me, protect my family,
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  Speaker 5: make money. But I don't think a man needs to
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  Speaker 5: get something out of it to be a manly man,
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  Speaker 5: a protector and a provider. If you think you need
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  Speaker 5: to get something out of it, I quite frankly don't consider.
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  Speaker 6: You a real man.
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  Speaker 2: Good God, what an insufferable bitch. Also, anyone who thinks
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  Speaker 2: that Tommy Lahren is right-wing because she appears on Fox
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  Speaker 2: News is an idiot.
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  Speaker 5: This is going to be the summer of canceling boys.
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  Speaker 5: It is not just the guys in Los Angeles, Nashville, Dallas,
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  Speaker 5: and they're not any better in the Midwest.
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  Speaker 7: Quite frankly, I think they're trash.
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  Speaker 5: All over this country, and we will not compromise our standards.
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  Speaker 7: It will be a cold day in hell.
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  Speaker 2: When I chase a man. All of these gold digger
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  Speaker 2: philosophy chicks who openly say they should have to offer
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  Speaker 2: nothing in a relationship while demanding everything from men are
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  Speaker 2: always super woke. They have the same ideology as welfare flunkies.
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  Speaker 2: Another angry bitch taking up the gold digger princess treatment ideology. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: capitalism and the patriarchy are why the wizard Liz has
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  Speaker 2: to teach women how to manipulate men. Which is why
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  Speaker 2: I still think it's funny that she got cheated on
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  Speaker 2: by a cringy Fortnite YouTuber. It's karmic justice for how
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  Speaker 2: many women that are going to die alone after being
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  Speaker 2: poisoned by her relationship advice. We would have a mental
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  Speaker 2: health boom if women just uninstalled Instagram and TikTok from
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  Speaker 2: their phones. because that's where they're getting all this trash
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  Speaker 2: dating advice.
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  Speaker 8: Break up with your Republican boyfriends. They voted against you.
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  Speaker 8: They voted against your body. They voted against your rights.
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  Speaker 8: Even if they say that they didn't vote or they're
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  Speaker 8: not into politics, there is no such thing anymore. Either
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  Speaker 8: you're about what's going on or you're vehemently against it.
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  Speaker 2: Look, I get it if you're a Democrat and don't
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  Speaker 2: want to date someone who is a Republican. I think
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  Speaker 2: in general it's not smart to be in a long-term
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  Speaker 2: relationship with someone who has different values. But if you
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  Speaker 2: can't even handle a relationship with someone who doesn't have
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  Speaker 2: any strong opinions on politics, then you're mentally ill and
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  Speaker 2: probably have terrible conflict resolution skills. Oh, look, a nose ring.
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  Speaker 9: But one thing they all have in common is they're
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  Speaker 9: all wearing nose rings.
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  Speaker 2: Isn't that crazy?
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  Speaker 10: It's like every single one.
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  Speaker 9: Holy shit, what are the odds?
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  Speaker 2: It's the mark of the mentally ill. And this like whole,
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  Speaker 2: I won't date you if you don't constantly virtue signal,
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  Speaker 2: is the new dating meta for liberal white women, which
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  Speaker 2: is objectively just the worst demographic.
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  Speaker 11: I love you so much, but I've always wanted a
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  Speaker 11: partner to be on the same wavelength. And so today
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  Speaker 11: I can't. But we talked about a lot of the
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  Speaker 11: values that I hold so close to my heart. Making
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  Speaker 11: this decision, my mind is telling.
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  Speaker 12: Me I can't.
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  Speaker 13: Like, really?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 11: Like, I remember, like, I asked him about, like, Black
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  Speaker 11: Lives Matter, and I'm no expert. But, like, when I
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  Speaker 11: asked him about it, he was like, I guess I
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  Speaker 11: never really thought too.
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  Speaker 13: Much about it.
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  Speaker 11: That affected me, especially in our own city. Like, how
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  Speaker 11: could it not?
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  Speaker 2: Man, that guy dodged a bullet harder than Trump. Do
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  Speaker 2: these people still not get that Black Lives Matter is
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  Speaker 2: a terrorist organization? Did they miss the part where they
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  Speaker 2: essentially embezzled millions of dollars to buy themselves a mansion?
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  Speaker 2: But these videos of liberal white women saying they won't
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  Speaker 2: date anyone who isn't in lockstep with all their values
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  Speaker 2: are everywhere.
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  Speaker 14: I'm scrolling the dating apps earlier, and for the first
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  Speaker 14: 20 swipes, it's conservative, moderate, conservative, moderate, apolitical, nothing, conservative, conservative, conservative, conservative, conservative, conservative.
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  Speaker 6: Moderate.
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  Speaker 14: And to me, conservative, moderate and apolitical and nothing is
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  Speaker 14: all the same thing. You all are MAGA. Took me
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  Speaker 14: 20 swipes to finally find a liberal.
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  Speaker 2: Again, you have to be political. You have to agree
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  Speaker 2: with me or you're a bad person.
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  Speaker 14: What the fuck is going on? Why is everybody MAGA?
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  Speaker 14: It's not that everybody's MAGA. It's that, you know, the
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  Speaker 14: male loneliness epidemic. It's because nobody wants to date them.
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  Speaker 14: They don't make good partners. That's why there's so many
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  Speaker 14: single ones out there. I rather have no dates than
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  Speaker 14: ever date a MAGA ever fucking again.
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  Speaker 2: I'm guessing her ex who broke up with her was
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  Speaker 2: a Trump supporter. Hey lady doing the Bob's Burgers cosplay,
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  Speaker 2: aren't you single too? Doesn't that mean that no one
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  Speaker 2: so crazy women on TikTok aren't the only issue with dating,
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  Speaker 2: because over the past decade, the social climate has changed
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  Speaker 2: quite a bit.
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  Speaker 7: Tell me why.
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  Speaker 15: Every day I go out, looking adorable, tits bouncing, skin glistening,
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  Speaker 15: and yet nobody ever.
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  Speaker 11: Hits on me or opposes me.
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  Speaker 10: Ever!
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  Speaker 11: Oh my god, like, please!
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  Speaker 16: I'll take a fucking construction worker catcall.
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  Speaker 11: At this point.
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  Speaker 2: Gee, I wonder why men don't want to approach women
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  Speaker 2: in public anymore. I mean, all she can do is
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  Speaker 2: say no. What's the worst that could happen?
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  Speaker 17: These women aren't friends out for a run. They're actually
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  Speaker 17: undercover police officers taking to the streets in Surrey as
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  Speaker 17: part of a new operation trying to stop people catcalling
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  Speaker 17: and harassing female runners.
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  Speaker 18: We get honked at, the staring, the hanging out of
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  Speaker 18: the window just to look at us, and it just,
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  Speaker 18: it's so, so, so prevalent.
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  Speaker 17: And police teams are ready to intervene the moment the
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  Speaker 17: officers are beeped at, followed or shouted at, pulling people over.
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  Speaker 6: Those kind of behaviours may not be criminal offences in themselves,
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  Speaker 6: but they still need to be addressed. And of course,
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  Speaker 6: the people that are likely to commit those kind of behaviours,
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  Speaker 6: you know, they may then go on to commit more
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  Speaker 6: serious offences or more serious behaviours.
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  Speaker 2: It's not criminal, but we're going to arrest them for
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  Speaker 2: it anyway because they might do something worse in the future. Gee,
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  Speaker 2: that doesn't sound authoritarian at all. And the problem is
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  Speaker 2: that this hostile response to men approaching women has been
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  Speaker 2: applied to far more innocent behaviors than catcalling. Understand that
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  Speaker 2: it's already difficult for men to talk to women, be
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  Speaker 2: vulnerable with how they feel, and then give women all
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  Speaker 2: the power to decide what happens next. Adding the possibility
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  Speaker 2: of being arrested or being called a rapist to that
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  Speaker 2: equation is very demotivating. This is something that women are
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  Speaker 2: terrible at sympathizing with because almost none of them do
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  Speaker 2: the asking out for the first date. Though I think
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  Speaker 2: it's great that when Britain is full of violent migrants,
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  Speaker 2: The best use of police time is arresting guys for
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  Speaker 2: honking their horn at women jogging. They arrested 18 people
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  Speaker 2: for this. Oh look, one of the officers has a
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  Speaker 2: bunch of middle school desk drawings on her arm. Shocking.
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  Speaker 2: But there's all kinds of downright hostile behavior towards men
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  Speaker 2: that makes them not want to approach women. Like those
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  Speaker 2: girls who try to go viral on TikTok by filming
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  Speaker 2: at the gym and accusing men of being sexual predators
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  Speaker 2: for just looking in their direction for half a second.
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  Speaker 2: And some women have gotten so desperate to go viral
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  Speaker 2: that they'll try to bait men into doing this by
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  Speaker 2: wearing skin-tight clothes, So they can falsely say they were
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  Speaker 2: being assaulted because somebody may have glanced at them for
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  Speaker 2: a second while they were turning their head.
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  Speaker 4: When these women come to these gyms... and they're wearing
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  Speaker 4: booty shorts so tight and they run a seam to
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  Speaker 4: where each individual cheek you can see visibly how do
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  Speaker 4: these women not understand that you might catch a glance
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  Speaker 4: or two It'd be the exact same thing if a
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  Speaker 4: man came into a gym wearing a fucking Speedo.
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  Speaker 2: Right, they know what they're doing. Working out doesn't require
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  Speaker 2: that you wear clothing that is so form-fitting that you're
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  Speaker 2: basically naked. So again, understand why men are a little
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  Speaker 2: reserved about approaching women these days when they've been called
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  Speaker 2: toxic masculine sexual predators for over a decade now. They've
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  Speaker 2: had to suffer through things like college tribunals because a
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  Speaker 2: woman regretted having consensual sex. There have been a number
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  Speaker 2: of false rape allegations in the media. and men have
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  Speaker 2: to deal with confusing mixed messages like this from women,
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  Speaker 2: where you're either romantic, or you're going to jail.
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  Speaker 9: There are women that like guys that when she tells
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  Speaker 9: them no, he keeps trying to pursue her because it
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  Speaker 9: makes her feel special. There are women that like that.
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  Speaker 9: Most women don't like that. And my advice to you
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  Speaker 9: is to assume that they don't like that. And so
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  Speaker 9: do you know if you're going to, are you approaching
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  Speaker 9: a girl that is a no means no girl? Or
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  Speaker 9: are you approaching a girl that is a, you know,
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  Speaker 9: ask me three times to make sure that you really
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  Speaker 9: actually care about me, girl?
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  Speaker 10: You see what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 9: And there's no way to really tell that really at all.
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  Speaker 19: Right.
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  Speaker 2: I don't even think this whole approaching women that you've
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  Speaker 2: never met before and asking them out is a working
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  Speaker 2: strategy anyway. Like you hear stories, but I feel like
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  Speaker 2: they are mostly in movies where a guy sees a
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  Speaker 2: girl on the train or whatever. He strikes up a
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  Speaker 2: conversation and a year later they're married. I don't think
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  Speaker 2: most people traditionally have initiated relationships from these one-time occurrences. Also,
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  Speaker 2: I'm excluding dating apps because I think they're toxic and
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  Speaker 2: don't really work on a large scale either. But I
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  Speaker 2: don't think I've ever known someone to progress towards a
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  Speaker 2: long-term relationship from someone they've only seen one time before
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  Speaker 2: asking them out on a date. They always find people
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  Speaker 2: from environments where they're seeing each other multiple times like
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  Speaker 2: school or work or through a friend group. Even if
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  Speaker 2: it's like a cashier at the store, they've seen or
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  Speaker 2: talked to that cashier multiple times before going out. So
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  Speaker 2: I think the actual strategy is to place yourself in
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  Speaker 2: social environments that include both sexes where you frequently see
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  Speaker 2: the same people. Or you go to a party where
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  Speaker 2: you're around the same people for hours and can talk
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  Speaker 2: to the same person multiple times throughout the event. Outside
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  Speaker 2: of that, personally, I don't think this cult approaching stuff
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  Speaker 2: works unless you're very attractive or rich or have incredible
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  Speaker 2: social skills. So why is this considered to be the
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  Speaker 2: standard for meeting women outside of dating apps? Usually it
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  Speaker 2: just ends up creeping them out.
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  Speaker 18: You don't know the intention of the person doing the
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  Speaker 18: catcalling until they're either walking away from you, asking for
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  Speaker 18: your phone number, or trying to drag you into their van.
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  Speaker 18: And because of this unfortunate reality, these initiatives basically risk
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  Speaker 18: casting a uniform net over people any man who approaches
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  Speaker 18: any woman in any context, and I think that's really sad. Again,
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  Speaker 18: I don't think a ton of men can relate to this,
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  Speaker 18: thankfully for you guys, but, you know, as a woman
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  Speaker 18: and for a lot of women, I think that in
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  Speaker 18: this context, we do kind of have to assume that
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  Speaker 18: any man approaching us is a threat until proven otherwise,
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  Speaker 18: and that's not based around, you know, like a man-hating thing.
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  Speaker 18: It's rather just that as the weaker sex, you do
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  Speaker 18: have to be careful about who is around you and
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  Speaker 18: who's in your surroundings.
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  Speaker 2: Right, and I don't blame women for behaving like that
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  Speaker 2: because the consequences of them being friendly to the wrong
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  Speaker 2: guy or not being cautious around certain men could cost
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  Speaker 2: them their lives. And what I mean is that say
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  Speaker 2: that you're a girl in your 20s and you're getting approached,
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  Speaker 2: let's say, a hundred times over a five-year period. The
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  Speaker 2: likelihood that one of those guys is going to be
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  Speaker 2: a dangerous nutjob is very high, and it only has
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  Speaker 2: to happen once. So I don't like the anti-male narrative
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  Speaker 2: of every man who looks at a woman is a predator,
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  Speaker 2: because it has the cascading effect of discouraging men not
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  Speaker 2: just from creepy interactions, but also perfectly normal ones. Though
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  Speaker 2: at the same time, I do understand why women are cautious.
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  Speaker 2: But you know, maybe if the government would spend less
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  Speaker 2: time diversity hiring and more time arresting criminals, then women
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  Speaker 2: might feel a lot safer in public. However, if you
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  Speaker 2: want to blame women for every inconvenience and you can't
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  Speaker 2: empathize with why they don't want to be constantly approached
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  Speaker 2: by random men they don't know, then you probably aren't
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  Speaker 2: that fit for a relationship.
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  Speaker 18: I guess a secondary thought that I have that I
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  Speaker 18: don't want to get into is I would love to
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  Speaker 18: be a fly on the wall when these coppers realize
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  Speaker 18: the demographic, the primary demographics that are doing the catcalling
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  Speaker 18: and who is the most risk to women and then
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  Speaker 18: how quickly they will shut the initiative down when they
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  Speaker 18: do that, when they realize that.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I do want to get into it. To be clear,
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  Speaker 2: she's referring to that British video where they're arresting people
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  Speaker 2: for catcalling. And I will mention that for those of
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  Speaker 2: you who are old enough to remember this 10-year-old video
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  Speaker 2: that went viral and basically started the anti-catcalling craze, feminists
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  Speaker 2: shut up real fast when people pointed out that this
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  Speaker 2: girl walking around New York was almost exclusively being catcalled
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  Speaker 2: and stalked by racial minorities. Oops, that screws with the
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  Speaker 2: anti-white narrative. Again, I don't think people should catcall, but
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  Speaker 2: you shouldn't go to jail for simply whistling at women
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  Speaker 2: walking down the street. So the dating market can be
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  Speaker 2: super hostile towards men, and we didn't even talk about
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  Speaker 2: the T app, which was an extremely popular app, by
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  Speaker 2: the way, where disgruntled women were anonymously doxing and defaming
• 15:02
  Speaker 2: their exes. Let me repeat that. They were anonymously posting
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: private info about their exes without their consent on an
• 15:09
  Speaker 2: app where men aren't allowed to join. But at least
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: in that situation, the app had zero security, so some
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: 4chan wrote a script that collected all the metadata from
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: that site and then gave these women some karmic justice
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: and exposed that they were all ugly. So there's a
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: decent amount of hostility towards men in the dating market,
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: but that's not to say that all these issues lie
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: with toxic women. There are plenty of toxic men or
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: men who are undateable like those nose ring chicks, but
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: for different reasons. The most common one I see on
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: YouTube is the epidemic of these I'm a loser videos.
• 15:38
  Speaker 12: I'm 35 years old, and I live at home with
• 15:41
  Speaker 12: my mother. I spent all of my 20s and half
• 15:46
  Speaker 12: of my 30s so far doing almost nothing productive. I
• 15:51
  Speaker 12: smoked pot. I watched porn, I played video games, and
• 15:55
  Speaker 12: I never took the time to really invest in my future,
• 15:57
  Speaker 12: my finances, skill sets, knowledge bases, all that.
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: Well, you screwed up. You made it to almost middle
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: age with no skills that will make you over minimum wage.
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: I've seen a lot of people over the years make
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: excuses for this type of person going, oh, well, it's
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: not their fault because it's hard out there. Okay, I
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: can see how life can be more difficult for certain people,
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: but you had 17 years as an adult to build
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: a marketable skill and you came out with nothing? It
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: doesn't take that long to build a skill that makes
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: above minimum wage. And you're living with your mom, so
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: I can't imagine that you have big expenses like rent
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: or a mortgage or any time-consuming responsibilities that would prevent
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: you from getting educated. That being said, this is also
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: why I don't really blame women for being upset about
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: these guys or making fun of them like how we
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: make fun of the nose ring chicks. I've watched like
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: a hundred of these videos, and most of them just
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: do it for pity and don't actually make their lives
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: any better. I think that women saying that a part
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: of the problem is the epidemic of male losers is
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: not that inaccurate of a statement. Like, you can't say
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: that women are pricing themselves out of the market by
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: working when you're at a minimum wage job or unemployed
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: in your 30s. Why are you videotaping yourself eating a
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: slice of pizza?
• 17:01
  Speaker 6: Why are you 32 years old working as a delivery driver?
• 17:07
  Speaker 20: Because I want to.
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: It feels good.
• 17:10
  Speaker 13: Because mommy and daddy don't pay.
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: For my life like you, and I had to climb
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: my way up.
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: You climbed your way up to an entry-level job? Congrats.
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: Like I said, I think these people are a problem
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: for the dating market, just like the nose ring chicks are,
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: but their issues express differently. though they still have a
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: similar number of mental health problems.
• 17:27
  Speaker 21: This is where my experience as a psychiatrist, I think
• 17:30
  Speaker 21: that a lot of incels have a modern version of
• 17:33
  Speaker 21: body dysmorphia. So if you look at a lot of incels,
• 17:35
  Speaker 21: they'll be hyper-focused on certain physical features. Like they'll say,
• 17:38
  Speaker 21: my jawline is like this, therefore I can't get laid.
• 17:41
  Speaker 21: I'm too short, therefore I can't get laid. They have
• 17:43
  Speaker 21: a history of oftentimes traumatic experiences. They struggle with all
• 17:47
  Speaker 21: kinds of pornography problems and other kinds of addictive problems.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that is not talked about very much. I think
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: pornography is a major contributor to the incel problem, as
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: well as the hypersexualization that's very often used to sell
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: mediocre anime and video games. And my issue with the
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: hypersexualization that goes on in these spaces is that it's
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: turning people into addicts who now don't seek out relationships,
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: even though they desperately want them. Yet they will have
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: a full-on Twitter meltdown if you say, maybe we should
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: focus more on better gameplay and storytelling instead of constantly
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: painting the camera towards this girl's ass. And the cruel
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: irony here is that while they're having their meltdown on Twitter,
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: They don't realize how much they're damaging their brains with
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: this addiction, because the people who do make it out
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: of the incel cave and actually get with a woman
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: often find that they get erectile dysfunction because of their
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: addiction to porn. They've spent so much time by themselves
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: that they get anxiety when someone else is in the room,
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: and porn is so different from actual sex that actual
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: sex is not stimulating to them, to the extent that
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: they have to spend a vast amount of time without
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: porn to resensitize themselves and learn how to meditate to
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: get rid of the performance anxiety. So that's a real
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: issue that has to be dealt with, and yet again,
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: I don't blame women for not wanting to be with
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: these guys. These addiction problems are not for women to solve,
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: much like it's not your job as a man to
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: fix whatever caused a chick to dye her hair purple.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: Those people have to find the motivation to start fixing
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: their own issues instead of making it everyone else's problem.
• 19:08
  Speaker 21: Be careful about the trash diet of the internet. The
• 19:11
  Speaker 21: content that you consume, take a look at what impact
• 19:14
  Speaker 21: that has on you. When you spend a thousand hours
• 19:17
  Speaker 21: on 4chan, when you spend time on incel forums, what
• 19:19
  Speaker 21: does that.
• 19:20
  Speaker 12: Do for you?
• 19:21
  Speaker 21: What is your internal emotional state? How does your life change?
• 19:24
  Speaker 21: Oftentimes what people find is that these are places that
• 19:27
  Speaker 21: are incredibly validating, but they are not going to move
• 19:30
  Speaker 21: you forward in life. They're not actually going to fix
• 19:33
  Speaker 21: your problems. They're just going to soothe your problems. And
• 19:35
  Speaker 21: there's something very dangerous about these places is that they
• 19:38
  Speaker 21: tell you it's not your fault. Which feels really good.
• 19:42
  Speaker 21: And to a certain degree, it may not be your fault.
• 19:44
  Speaker 21: But they almost always also say there's nothing you can
• 19:49
  Speaker 21: do about it, that we should... blame these other people.
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think the worst thing a person suffering with
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: mental illness can do is surround themselves with a bunch
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: of other mentally ill people who will then validate them
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: and discourage them from improving themselves. Incels have small forums
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: and crazy liberal women have TikTok and Blue Sky. I
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: think these online spaces are a large contributor to demoralizing people,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: and you need to consider your surroundings if you actually
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: want to improve your mental health. Now, the Dr. K
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: video I just showed is called Why We Shouldn't Leave
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: Incels Behind, where he argues that instead of saying that
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: the dating crisis or the male loneliness epidemic is just
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: natural selection and leaving the undesirables be, we should render help.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: And to that, I say maybe. Maybe, because there are
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: a lot of lost people who just need a half-decent mentor,
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: but the problem here, especially with the Black Pill spaces...
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: is that these people don't want help, and you can't
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: help someone who doesn't want it. The only thing you
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: can do is let them suffer until the negative consequences
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: get so severe that they build the desire to change.
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: But what this is leading to with all these mental
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: health issues is that tons of people these days are
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: below the minimum level required to be desirable in a relationship,
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: more so than in our parents' time. Everyone has minimum
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: standards or they would rather be single, and tons of
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: people fall below those standards. I mean, just for example,
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: most people do not find fat people attractive. So if
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: you have that standard, then you just weed it out
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: like 70% of the population, meaning that your selection pool
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: is down to a third of what it used to
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: be before the 1990s or so. Actually, it's probably much
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: worse than that if you're looking for someone who is
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: at an attractive body weight instead of simply not being
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: medically overweight. People really underestimate how much less attractive you
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: look if you're 10 to 20 pounds over an ideal
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: body fat level. Anyway, everyone's fat and weak.
• 21:24
  Speaker 12: How do you have sex if you're so weak that
• 21:28
  Speaker 12: you need assistance to do two reps of a 95-pound
• 21:32
  Speaker 12: bench press?
• 21:33
  Speaker 11: Do you work out?
• 21:35
  Speaker 5: Do you work out?
• 21:48
  Speaker 6: Not really.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: I'm not saying that you need to be a roided-out bodybuilder,
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: but there's a certain level of fitness that both men
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: and women need to have fun in a relationship, and
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: it's not fun to have sex with a fat person
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: who gases out after two pumps. Also, being weak and
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: fat lowers your testosterone levels. But am I the only
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: one who gets openly mad at the constant lowering of
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: physical standards? Like the minute you say, hey, maybe we
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: should put attractive people on ads, and not someone who's
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: five seconds away from dying from type 2 diabetes, people
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: have a meltdown. Sidney Sweeney, Hasbro Kings.
• 22:20
  Speaker 22: The Sidney Sweeney ad, have you seen it?
• 22:23
  Speaker 20: Oh, yes, I have.
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: The eugenics in that, it's dripping with it.
• 22:27
  Speaker 17: And I'm like, no.
• 22:30
  Speaker 10: It's just showing what kind of country we're turning into.
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: It's white supremacy at the end of the day.
• 22:36
  Speaker 6: That's what this ad is representing.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: I love how they turned this into a racial issue
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: when the pun is obviously about her figure and not
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: her race.
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: Hey.
• 22:45
  Speaker 16: They think that it's reinforcing this idea that blonde hair,
• 22:48
  Speaker 16: blue eyed white women are the most beautiful or whatever.
• 22:52
  Speaker 16: And that that's like the Nazi propaganda where it's like,
• 22:54
  Speaker 16: what should Germans look like? Blonde hair, blue eyed, Aryan race, whatever.
• 22:57
  Speaker 16: Here's the great irony of this whole thing. What they're
• 23:02
  Speaker 16: actually saying is that Sidney Sweeney has great tits.
• 23:06
  Speaker 20: That's a cool take. I get it.
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: Oh, wait, I think I found the actual reason why
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: they hate her.
• 23:11
  Speaker 13: Right, she's a.
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: Republican, so she must be destroyed. But of course, oftentimes
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: women's worst enemies are other women, especially if it's a
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: woman more successful.
• 23:20
  Speaker 12: Than they are.
• 23:37
  Speaker 23: Well, I mean, not for no reason.
• 23:38
  Speaker 20: They're just very jealous.
• 23:39
  Speaker 23: It is shocking how brutal this league is to their superstar.
• 23:44
  Speaker 23: Kaitlyn Clark is like the sole reason the WNBA has
• 23:47
  Speaker 23: popped off in any capacity recently. When Kaitlyn Clark was injured,
• 23:51
  Speaker 23: it was a 55% decline in watchers. It's unbelievable how
• 23:55
  Speaker 23: they treat her just because she's the superstar.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: Stuff like this makes the WNBA sex toy situation even funnier.
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: But wouldn't it be great if women stopped lowering the
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: value of the dating pool by purposefully sabotaging other women
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: they're afraid of competing with?
• 24:08
  Speaker 8: Okay, I want you to rate this woman on a scale.
• 24:10
  Speaker 11: Of 1 to 10.
• 24:12
  Speaker 13: Oh, 9 or 10 easily.
• 24:13
  Speaker 8: She's stunning.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: Okay, be honest.
• 24:16
  Speaker 21: Drop dead gorgeous.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: Well, what if I told you that you look like her?
• 24:21
  Speaker 6: Oh, so you think I'm fat?
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and now the guy that you didn't pick has
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: to deal with some fat hippo, and now we have
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: a dating crisis. Every time you convince someone to be
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: a degenerate, that's one less person from the opposite sex
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: who can have a viable relationship partner. If you do
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: that enough times, you get a crisis. Worse is that
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: many women have started encouraging each other to dress to
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: impress other women instead of men, and then wonder why
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: men don't want to date them.
• 24:45
  Speaker 7: So, instead of posting a video and thinking, I hope
• 24:48
  Speaker 7: a man finds me attractive, it's, I hope the girls
• 24:52
  Speaker 7: don't hate this.
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: Right, because if you want a relationship, a smart strategy
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: is to purposefully dress in a way that men think
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: is unattractive. To be clear, I don't know this girl's
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: personal beliefs, but I've seen plenty of women dressing against
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: the male gaze and wondering why they can't find any
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: good men. For example, that video that Tectone was reacting
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: to from earlier. But I swear that women need to
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: stop taking feedback from other women so seriously because half
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: the commentary is incredibly brutal nitpicking for stuff that men
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: don't actually care about, or it's gassing up other women
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: when they look horrible. look beautiful. Thank you so much.
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: You guys look awesome. The streamer prom presented by Popeyes,
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: the fried chicken restaurant. How am I supposed to focus
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: and stay on topic when I see shit like that? Anyway,
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: there was this woman who went to a streamer event
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: and a bunch of people pointed out that her outfit
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: was awful and dare I say uncouth to put it lightly.
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: And yet you still have women gassing this girl up.
• 25:44
  Speaker 22: Baby, one thing I won't do is get on his
• 25:46
  Speaker 22: motherfucking app and tell somebody they motherfucking outfit look fucking
• 25:48
  Speaker 22: cute and they don't. You've got to be kidding me.
• 25:51
  Speaker 4: We all heard it, right?
• 25:52
  Speaker 16: But she's coping. Not only is that.
• 25:54
  Speaker 13: Fit awful, but you aren't going to get a good
• 25:56
  Speaker 13: man dressing like a harlot, so if you want to
• 25:58
  Speaker 13: stop ending up with these ain't shit men who cheat
• 26:00
  Speaker 13: all the time, then fix how you present yourself.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: But to be fair, not all the feedback was positive,
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: so just for laughs, let's hear how the girl with
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: the awful dress responded to the negativity.
• 26:21
  Speaker 13: Leave that right there. Everybody Paige, who had something negative
• 26:26
  Speaker 13: to say, literally could not fuck with me. Could not
• 26:30
  Speaker 13: even get invited to the event and get fucked with
• 26:34
  Speaker 13: me on their best day. And that's just really it.
• 26:37
  Speaker 13: And that's just all I have to say about it.
• 26:39
  Speaker 13: I could go into detail and try to people please
• 26:43
  Speaker 13: and say how... Oh, this happened wrong and this went
• 26:47
  Speaker 13: wrong and explain to y'all what went wrong, but really
• 26:50
  Speaker 13: it does not fucking matter because y'all are.
• 26:52
  Speaker 4: Not girls' girls.
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: Well, that was very eloquent and well-spoken of her. Also,
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: that's two videos in a row. And keep in mind,
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: I didn't go looking for 10 different videos until I
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: found the one with the smoke detector beeps and only
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: used those ones. These were the first two videos that
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: I saw. I'm not actively looking for this. It's crazy
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: how I cover a wide and diverse set of people
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: on this channel, and only one group seems to have
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: this problem.
• 27:13
  Speaker 13: Everybody who knows me knows I'm a real humble person, like, literally.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: Anyway, let's move back to the men's side of the
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: dating crisis before I go on a 10-minute tangent on
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: replacing smoke detector batteries. So, moving on to the men's side,
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: a part of the reason why we have issues, and
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: I stress that this is just a part of the issue...
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: is that when men talk to women, tons of them
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: don't have the social skills to tell if women are
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: attracted to them because women are indirect.
• 27:36
  Speaker 15: My brother has no idea he's the hot guy now.
• 27:39
  Speaker 15: And we're sitting at this L.A. sports bar watching ball,
• 27:41
  Speaker 15: and this little L.A. boobie girl, honey, comes bouncing up
• 27:44
  Speaker 15: to him. Excuse me, can I have a cocktail napkin?
• 27:53
  Speaker 15: My brother, y'all, without turning around, grabs a stack of
• 27:55
  Speaker 15: napkins and goes, yeah, there you go. I'm waiting. She's waiting. Finally,
• 28:04
  Speaker 15: she just bunny hopped off into feet with her napkins.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: That works every time.
• 28:10
  Speaker 15: And I wait till she got out of earshot. I said, Dave, buddy,
• 28:12
  Speaker 15: what are you doing? That little thing was hitting on you.
• 28:15
  Speaker 15: He goes, Trish, that's a crock of crap. When you
• 28:17
  Speaker 15: went to take a piss, three other girls asked for
• 28:19
  Speaker 15: the same thing. This place has crap customer service.
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: Now, this is a story told by a comedian, so
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: it's probably made up or not super accurate to what
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: actually happened. But the disturbing part is that despite the
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: fact that the live audience clearly got the social cues,
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: There were thousands of people in the comments who very
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: much do not understand how women communicate that they're interested.
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: The general consensus was, why wasn't she more direct? Women
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: can't be direct with their feelings, especially with strangers, because
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: that can be dangerous. So they are largely indirect with
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: things like rejections or showing interest, because like I said,
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: they only have to come across one psycho for their
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: life to be ruined. Now, that doesn't excuse women who
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: do this kind of thing manipulatively, but this is why
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: it's important to have social skills so that everybody stays safe.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: women can stay safe from predators, and men can stay
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: safe from false accusers. But that doesn't work unless you
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: pay attention to signs that people are interested in you,
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: and unless you see those signs, you just have a
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: normal conversation and move on with your life. However, the
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: problem is that so many of these guys have terrible
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: social skills because they don't go outside or talk to
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: people enough that they can't pick up on the social cues. Like,
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: I genuinely believe the same person who wouldn't understand the
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: napkin thing could not perceive the difference in meaning and
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: how these two actresses deliver the same lines.
• 29:30
  Speaker 5: What if I should never find someone so incomparably suitable
• 29:34
  Speaker 5: and wealthy?
• 29:37
  Speaker 17: Oh, what if I should never find someone so incomparably
• 29:41
  Speaker 17: suitable and wealthy?
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: Can we see how they said the exact same things
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: but meant something a little bit different based on the
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: tone of their voice? You can tell the first girl
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: is more romantically interested in the guy but sees wealth
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: as a bonus, and the second girl mostly cares about
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: the guy's wealth. I get this is more of an
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: obvious example because they're actors, but if we want to
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: take the incel route and blame women for everything, then
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: I must mention that there are all kinds of examples
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: of women being very clear about their disinterest, followed by
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: the guys pursuing anyway, and then suffering the consequences. Remember
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: the Starbucks guy?
• 30:12
  Speaker 20: It is not easy to be a single man in
• 30:14
  Speaker 20: your 30s in America today. I just went to Starbucks
• 30:17
  Speaker 20: to order a vanilla latte with an extra shot. And
• 30:20
  Speaker 20: as I am walking up to the door, I happen
• 30:21
  Speaker 20: to notice this beautiful girl walking up to the door
• 30:23
  Speaker 20: as well. And she has a Death Cab for Cutie
• 30:25
  Speaker 20: t-shirt on. That's been my favorite band since I was
• 30:28
  Speaker 20: 14 years old. I am 32 now. That's 18 years
• 30:31
  Speaker 20: of loving this band. So as I take a quick
• 30:33
  Speaker 20: two-step to open the door for her, I'm like, hey,
• 30:36
  Speaker 20: you have great taste in music. That's been my favorite
• 30:38
  Speaker 20: band since I was 14 years old. And she looks
• 30:39
  Speaker 20: at me and she just says, cool.
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: Instantly this is a rejection she's not interested move on
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: but he doesn't he continues to persist and so she
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: has to publicly embarrass him by yelling at him in
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: front of everyone at the starbucks to get him to
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: stop pursuing.
• 30:51
  Speaker 20: Her now there is no place to sit in the
• 30:53
  Speaker 20: starbucks there's just this coffee tory area in front of
• 30:56
  Speaker 20: the counter so as we're both waiting i just look
• 30:59
  Speaker 20: over at the gal and i'm like what's your favorite
• 31:01
  Speaker 20: album by death cab and she looks over at me
• 31:03
  Speaker 20: with a glare and she is like stop talking to
• 31:06
  Speaker 20: me i'm not remotely interested And she says it loud
• 31:08
  Speaker 20: enough for the entirety of the Starbucks to hear, and
• 31:11
  Speaker 20: everybody in the Starbucks looks at me, and at that point,
• 31:14
  Speaker 20: the only sound I'm hearing is the chorus of Hey Ya,
• 31:17
  Speaker 20: and silence is loud. But I have no idea where
• 31:19
  Speaker 20: I went wrong there! I-I-I-I'm so puzzled! I thought I
• 31:23
  Speaker 20: was being nice!
• 31:24
  Speaker 22: What did I do?
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: I mean, I wasn't there, but I can almost guarantee
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: you that he did something to indicate that he was interested.
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: She picked up on that, and was not interested, so
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: that's how she responded. It wasn't him trying to be nice,
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: he was talking to her for a reason. and understand
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: that she doesn't know if he's a psycho or not,
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: and he's being creepy, and he's not picking up on
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: her disinterest, so she had to be very vocal about
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: it to keep herself safe.
• 31:46
  Speaker 7: Men don't understand women's problems because they're not women.
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: This is mostly true, and it's mostly true that women
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: don't understand men's problems that well either. But this is
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: all not to say that every part of the dating
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: crisis is our fault and the blame is entirely on
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: people being losers. Some of this stuff is the environment
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: that we were born into.
• 32:02
  Speaker 19: They tell us to stop eating out and rent $ 2, 000
• 32:05
  Speaker 19: a month. Oh, save for retirement, and yet you can
• 32:08
  Speaker 19: barely save for next week.
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: Go buy a house!
• 32:13
  Speaker 19: Every house is half a million dollars, brother. I'm not
• 32:16
  Speaker 19: asking for a handout, man. We're asking for a freaking
• 32:19
  Speaker 19: fair shot at life.
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: Right, inflation is not really our fault, and it's demoralizing
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: people into thinking that they'll never be able to afford
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: a house or a family, so why even try with
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: a relationship? But it's not just that. Tons of people
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: were tricked into making incredibly stupid financial decisions through the
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: education system. So as it turns out, the student loans
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: that I've been paying.
• 32:39
  Speaker 16: $ 1, 500.
• 32:40
  Speaker 11: A month for for two years have a 17% interest rate.
• 32:46
  Speaker 20: So.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: What I thought I'd been paying off.
• 32:49
  Speaker 14: For all this time, I'm actually, like, I owe more
• 32:52
  Speaker 14: than what I started off with.
• 32:54
  Speaker 19: What the fuck?
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: I owe $ 90, 000 and.
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: I didn't even spend that much on school. Kourtney Kardashian, like,
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: you probably have eight houses.
• 33:04
  Speaker 8: I'm never gonna be able to buy one because I
• 33:06
  Speaker 8: went to college.
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: I just signed up to be an egg donor.
• 33:10
  Speaker 22: Guess what?
• 33:11
  Speaker 20: Got approved.
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: Who wants my fucking kids?
• 33:13
  Speaker 22: I can't afford them, so.
• 33:15
  Speaker 12: Start a bidding war.
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: Holy shit, 17%? Did she pay for her school with
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: a credit card? And I get that people want to
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: laugh and call her a dumbass for signing up for
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: a ridiculous yearly interest rate, but this is not entirely
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: her fault. Like many others, I'm sure her childhood was
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: centered around the idea of going to college mixed in
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: with false promises about the actual benefit of higher education
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: and an overvaluing of expensive schools that garner you the
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: same pay as cheaper ones when you get employed. Keep
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: in mind that unlike other loans where you can claim bankruptcy,
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: which causes lenders to be cautious about who they give
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: money to, with student loans, you can't do that. And
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: people are signing up for these things at 18 years
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: old before they have any financial knowledge or adult life experience.
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: I mean, you have to wait until you're 21 to
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: drink alcohol, and honestly, I think that binge drinking for
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: a few years as an adult before you're legally allowed
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: to drink is less harmful to your overall life than
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: some of these student loans are. Personally, I think they
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: should be made illegal or people should be allowed to default,
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: and colleges should lose their federal funding or accreditation if
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: they offer useless degrees like this.
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: I'm Scout. I use they-them pronouns, and I'm an interdisciplinary
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: major at UBC. I'm in my last semester. My primary
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: thematic focus is decolonizing academia and public knowledge systems. And
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: my secondary thematic focus is biocultural and linguistic futurity.
• 34:36
  Speaker 20: For those who don't know what that means, can you
• 34:37
  Speaker 20: give us a quick rundown?
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, basically what I focus on is the promises that
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: the institution has made and also the emergence of indigenous
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: ways of knowing and being across the disciplines. And I
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: feature in a lot of stuff like language revitalization, the
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: emergent vitality of languages, rather. And just kind of a
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: bunch of stuff. I've taken courses in over 20 languages.
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: Like, what the hell is that? I feel more confused
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: by her explanation than the title of the degree itself.
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: You should be able to sue the school for your
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: money back if they waste your time like that. This
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: is a scam designed as education. However, despite the fact
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: that some of this stuff is what we were born into,
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: that doesn't mean that we should see it as a
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: thing that we don't have agency over, because we do
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: have control here, even though it's unfair and even though
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: prior generations had it easier. For one, if you're going
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: into higher education or a trade, before you spend several
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: years working on something, do a quick Google search to
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: make sure that your major actually has market value, and
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: it's likely that you'll be able to find employment. Second,
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: from a political standpoint, we need to start getting very
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: pissed about things that are intentionally done to steal jobs
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: from Americans, increase crime, and cause housing prices to inflate.
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: I'm not saying that these are the only issues with housing,
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: the job market, and criminal behavior. But illegals flooding across
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: the border is not good for Americans, and an over-allowance
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: of work visas designed to replace all the middle-class jobs
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: with Indian foreigners who don't want to assimilate to American
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: culture and are willing to accept lower pay is also
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: not good for Americans. And multiculturalism is cancer. Like I said,
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: this is not the only issue that's making things more expensive,
• 36:15
  Speaker 2: but it is a big one, it's bipartisan, and it's
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: an issue that we're winning on. It's time to press
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: in on it and solve this problem. Because what else
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: are we going to do? Are we going to sit
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: here and complain that dating sucks and the economy sucks
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: so it's over? Or are we going to do something
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: about it? We may not have caused this problem, but
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: no one else is going to fix it but us.
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: Sometimes that's how life works. This is a difficult game,
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: but you can win. And there are plenty of people
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: with heavy setbacks who still succeed anyway.
• 36:42
  Speaker 22: I have to share this story with you guys. So
• 36:44
  Speaker 22: I started to follow this guy in Xiaohongshu in 2021 December.
• 36:49
  Speaker 22: By the time, he only had one post. And this
• 36:51
  Speaker 22: is His only post title is, I cannot find a girlfriend.
• 36:55
  Speaker 22: Where's my issue? And he posts one of his picture
• 36:58
  Speaker 22: in here. And as you can imagine, he received many,
• 37:01
  Speaker 22: many of comments. And a lot of them are not
• 37:03
  Speaker 22: really nice. A lot of people have said many hurtful
• 37:05
  Speaker 22: things to him. Like, oh, you're too fat.
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: You're ugly.
• 37:08
  Speaker 22: You're hopeless. And many people ask him about his background.
• 37:11
  Speaker 22: And he is a really general person. He answered all
• 37:14
  Speaker 22: of them. He said, okay, I was born in 96th,
• 37:15
  Speaker 22: July 19th. My height is 170 centimeter exactly. And I'm
• 37:20
  Speaker 22: doing a labor job. I earn around 3000 RMB per
• 37:23
  Speaker 22: month with no insurance.
• 37:25
  Speaker 7: I don't own a house.
• 37:26
  Speaker 22: I have a car and I have never in a
• 37:28
  Speaker 22: relationship before, but I really want to. This is his
• 37:31
  Speaker 22: first post. And 90% of the comments are harsh comments
• 37:33
  Speaker 22: to laugh at him, to say, okay, you are too short,
• 37:36
  Speaker 22: too poor. You have no money. You look ugly. You
• 37:38
  Speaker 22: are hopeless.
• 37:38
  Speaker 7: You are done.
• 37:38
  Speaker 22: But there are 10% of comment who generally want to
• 37:41
  Speaker 22: help him. So a lot of people try to give
• 37:43
  Speaker 22: him nice advice.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: Now, I don't know Chinese, so I guess we'll just
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: take her word for it, but notice all the wonderful
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: black pillars there trying to help him by telling him
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: he'll never succeed. You're a sub 5 out of 10, bro.
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: Women will never love you.
• 37:56
  Speaker 8: It's over.
• 37:58
  Speaker 22: He's starting to watch his diet or exercise to lose
• 38:01
  Speaker 22: some weight. And a couple months later, he come back
• 38:03
  Speaker 22: with more updates. He lost some weight and he look much,
• 38:07
  Speaker 22: much better. He's starting to work on his sense of
• 38:09
  Speaker 22: style on clothing. Some people suggest that, okay, you cannot
• 38:11
  Speaker 22: just lose weight. You need to get some abs.
• 38:13
  Speaker 20: And he did.
• 38:14
  Speaker 22: He get a pack. But generally, he is getting better
• 38:16
  Speaker 22: and better. The reason why I want to post this
• 38:18
  Speaker 22: story is because this guy got married yesterday. He was
• 38:22
  Speaker 22: never in a relationship before, but after two years, He
• 38:25
  Speaker 22: completely transformed himself and he met a really nice girl
• 38:28
  Speaker 22: and he got married.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: For all the black pillars out there, I would like
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: to mention that this guy was 5'6. But do you
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: see how much giving a shit can make a difference?
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: This guy turned his whole life around in like two years,
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: was a loser, got no attention, but hit the gym,
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: fixed his appearance, and now he found someone who wants
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: to be with him for the rest of his life.
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: And take a look at this picture. He's not very fat,
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: but just losing a few pounds shrunk his face, And
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: he looks ten times better.
• 38:54
  Speaker 10: This must be so upsetting to people who spend their
• 38:57
  Speaker 10: whole life looking for excuses for why it's somebody else's
• 39:01
  Speaker 10: fault that they're not dating a supermodel. Yeah. Like, this
• 39:07
  Speaker 10: is really impressive, man. This guy just straight went and
• 39:09
  Speaker 10: leveled up. Yeah, he actually went through the steps to
• 39:11
  Speaker 10: improve his life.
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: This is possible. Now, results may vary, but the reality
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: is that if you take care of your appearance and
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: work on yourself, then you could be in a very
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: different place just two years from now. though I can
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: already hear people in the comments saying, but don't you
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: know that any woman can suddenly become evil and ruin
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: your life? What did we just at the beginning? Nose
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: ring theory. Judge a book by its cover. Pay attention
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: to superficial information. These women are trying to tell you
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: who they are before you date them.
• 39:39
  Speaker 7: For a lot of women, it's not about appealing to
• 39:42
  Speaker 7: men anymore. It's about appealing to other women. And that
• 39:45
  Speaker 7: shift is getting louder and louder. It's happening in our trends,
• 39:49
  Speaker 7: in our makeup, in our clothes, fashion. Because a lot
• 39:52
  Speaker 7: of women, they do this and then they call it
• 39:55
  Speaker 7: men repellent. There's men repellent outfits, hairstyles. And the more
• 39:59
  Speaker 7: men say they don't like something, the more women double
• 40:03
  Speaker 7: down out of spite.
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: Great! Keep wearing that uniform that says you're hostile so
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: we know who to avoid. Make it simple for us.
• 40:10
  Speaker 7: Thanks.
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: I love it when women tell you up front that
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: they're nuts instead of wasting tons of your time before
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: it gets revealed. Last, I feel like I have to
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: address this every time I talk about this topic because
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: there's this sort of incompetence these days with people going
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: to social events. I think this is also a massive
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: contributor to the dating crisis. People are spending lots of
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: time isolated, not exposed to others because they don't know
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: how to get out of the house. But a lot
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: of people who maybe want to change are making socializing
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: overly complicated, especially the ones with little to no relationship experience.
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: I think that's largely because they think that if they
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: step outside, then it must be to get a girlfriend
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: and every woman they see in public is a target.
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: They don't understand that if you constantly come at people
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: like you want something from them, especially women, they get
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: turned off by it. Because it's needy. I'm sure we've
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: all offended this at some point, but I think if
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: you pay attention... you'll realize that most of your friendships
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: and relationships came sort of naturally because you got along
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: and not because you were specifically trying to get something
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: from the other person. So if you want success in
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: social situations, then your goal needs to be, I'm just
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: here to talk to people, instead of, if I don't
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: find a girlfriend in the next five minutes, I'm a loser.
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: And when you remove that pressure from yourself, I think
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: that you'll find that there are a lot of places
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: where you can meet people, build friendships, and build relationships. Also,
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: if you're behind in social skills, then listen to the
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: audiobook version of How to Win Friends and Influence People.
• 41:26
  Speaker 2: The information in that book is so correct that it
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: still works 90 years later. And for the person who
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: might ask, where do I go? There are no third
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: spaces anymore. Don't be ridiculous. There are plenty of ways
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: to go outside. Parks, the beach, taking a walk, the gym,
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: group fitness classes, martial arts classes, adult sports leagues, hobby
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: stores for video games, board games, or trading card games, church, bookstores, bars,
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: a coffee shop. I mean, if I can go to
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: Japan for a few days, plan none of the trip
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: until I get there because I like vacations to be
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: more spontaneous. and then still come out with 8-10 hours
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: of social activity per day in environments where there are
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: lots of people, then you can do that too. Do
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: some research. It only takes a few minutes to google
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: things to do in your area or look it up
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: on TikTok. Stop making this sound like it's impossible. It's not.
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: Because if more people started taking action instead of complaining
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: that everything's too hard, there wouldn't be a dating crisis. Anyway,
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: thanks for watching, follow me on Twitter, and I'll see
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: you in the next video.