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Tell us the SECRET TESTS you give people · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: I have a question for you guys what secret test
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  Speaker 1: have you given someone without them even knowing they were
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  Speaker 1: taking it So I was online and I saw this
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  Speaker 1: piece on psychology today.
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  Speaker 2: And it's all.
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  Speaker 1: About relationship tests people use instead of just asking for
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  Speaker 1: what they need.
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  Speaker 2: For example, when someone says, I'm fine, they're really not fine.
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  Speaker 2: We know this. But what it is is a secret
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  Speaker 2: test to see whether or not you realize they're not fine.
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  Speaker 2: And if you do, you get the bonus points. And
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  Speaker 2: if you don't, get ready for the fight.
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 4: That's a tough test. That's a tough because I'm assuming
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  Speaker 4: they say I'm fine. You talk about people in your
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  Speaker 4: world that you love and care for. Not like if
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, hey, how are you doing?
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  Speaker 5: Fine.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not going to go. Wait a minute, sir.
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  Speaker 6: Right.
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  Speaker 4: Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 4: These are testing.
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  Speaker 1: These are tests that we relationship tests. So people, your
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  Speaker 1: friends or your loved ones, if you will. So another
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  Speaker 1: one is saying, don't worry about my birthday and absolutely
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  Speaker 1: worrying about your birthday.
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  Speaker 3: That's that's kind of that's tough. Don't put people in
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  Speaker 3: that position.
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  Speaker 4: Right. There are.
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  Speaker 3: That's too rough.
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  Speaker 1: There are some people in relationships, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, whatever,
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  Speaker 1: that leave something undone just to see if they notice.
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  Speaker 1: And I feel like I've done this before because I
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  Speaker 1: don't like.
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  Speaker 2: The fact that I cook dinner every night.
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  Speaker 1: And it's just this unspoken thing that apparently that's my
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  Speaker 1: responsibility to get dinner on the table.
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  Speaker 2: And so I kind of like.
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  Speaker 1: have never really chatted about this, which is my fault
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  Speaker 1: because we know it's communication. But I kind of feel
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  Speaker 1: like if I cook dinner and I'm cooking three different
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  Speaker 1: dinners a night, I shouldn't have to do the dishes too.
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  Speaker 2: I shouldn't have to.
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  Speaker 1: So I will leave them undone just to see if
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  Speaker 1: anyone else in my house does it.
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  Speaker 2: And guess what? They don't.
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  Speaker 4: That's a great test. That is a great test. You
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  Speaker 4: also shouldn't have to make three different dinners every night too.
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  Speaker 2: I know.
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  Speaker 4: I know.
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  Speaker 2: But that's, I just, that's my fault. That's on me.
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  Speaker 1: But every night I do use that as like a,
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  Speaker 1: when I'm like, what would you like to eat?
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  Speaker 2: And the kids say, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, eventually I'm just going to make one thing
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  Speaker 1: and whatever it is, you have to eat it.
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  Speaker 2: But until then I, yeah, we'll make you just separate dinner.
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  Speaker 1: But there are little tests that you do just to
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  Speaker 1: see if your partners will notice.
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  Speaker 2: Or sort of test them.
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  Speaker 4: Leah, Leah, you got a test, a secret test you
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  Speaker 4: do on people?
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  Speaker 7: I do. Well, I, I'm one specific guy.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 5: What is it?
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  Speaker 7: Well, cause my boyfriend, he kept, well, my ex kept
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  Speaker 7: joking around that if someone offered him money, he'd sell
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  Speaker 7: me out. And then, so I'm like, okay, well, you know,
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  Speaker 7: how steep is his price? And so I had my
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  Speaker 7: best friend call him pretending to be like a producer
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  Speaker 7: of a reality dating show. And they told him, she
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  Speaker 7: told him that they would pay $ 10, 000 to come on
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  Speaker 7: and explain why he secretly was unhappy in his relationship.
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  Speaker 7: So he actually agreed. And apparently he gave them like
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  Speaker 7: a 45 minute interview about my worst habit. I didn't
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  Speaker 7: even know were annoying him. And so then like the
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  Speaker 7: producer then asked him if he'd be willing to pretend
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  Speaker 7: to break up with me on camera for an extra five.
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  Speaker 7: And he was like, sure.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, my God.
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  Speaker 7: I knew it was going to be bad, but oh
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  Speaker 7: my God.
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  Speaker 3: He's trying to make money for you guys. He's trying to,
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  Speaker 3: you know, fill the coffers with some cash for you.
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  Speaker 3: But he broke up anyway.
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  Speaker 7: I told him, but he was like, where's my money?
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  Speaker 7: And then like, I'm like, surprise. It was just a test.
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  Speaker 7: He told me that I was like insane and crazy.
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  Speaker 7: And then I was like, oh, please. That's like coming
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  Speaker 7: from someone who was like about to sell us out
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  Speaker 7: for like 15,000. I mean, come on.
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  Speaker 4: Well, it's a good thing you broke up with him. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: That must have brought it on faster.
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  Speaker 4: But that's a test, a very skewed personal test you
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  Speaker 4: could only do probably one time. It is true. Thanks, Lee. 877-937-1047.
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  Speaker 4: We'll hear about more secret tests. Kyle has a thing
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  Speaker 4: from psychology today about the secret tests that we give people, right?
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  Speaker 4: Without knowing.
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  Speaker 3: Without telling them.
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  Speaker 4: They don't know they've taken the test, but you give
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  Speaker 4: it to them. And it reminded me, I told you
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  Speaker 4: guys a long time ago, the bird test.
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  Speaker 2: That's right. You did it to all of us.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. So the way it works in relationships, if you're married, boyfriend, husband, girlfriend,
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  Speaker 4: you say, oh, look at this bird outside. Check out
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  Speaker 4: this bird. And whatever it is about the bird, the
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  Speaker 4: point is they should care enough about what you're saying
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  Speaker 4: to go look at the bird and comment on the bird.
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  Speaker 4: Ever since we've done that test, I use a different
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  Speaker 4: version of the test. I feel like my wife's testing me.
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  Speaker 4: She'll talk about owls or she talks about a car
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  Speaker 4: or she talks about a person's outfit. I go out
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  Speaker 4: of my way to make sure I'm looking at whatever
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  Speaker 4: she's talking about because I want to pass the test. Although,
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  Speaker 4: I don't think she's testing me.
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  Speaker 3: Right. She just thinks you're attentive about her conversation.
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  Speaker 4: Dude, I'll be like, she'll be like, oh, I think
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  Speaker 4: that owl's in the backyard. And I'll be like, I
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  Speaker 4: get up.
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  Speaker 3: That's a reverse secret test.
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  Speaker 4: I better go look at this freaking owl. So I
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  Speaker 4: get up and I walk over. Oh, yeah, it's really great.
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  Speaker 4: I go back and I'm like, she's not testing me.
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  Speaker 4: But Evan, you got a secret test you give people?
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  Speaker 5: I do have a secret test.
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  Speaker 4: What's the secret test?
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  Speaker 5: So my girlfriend kept saying that she could always tell
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  Speaker 5: when a guy was lying. So I decided to test her.
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  Speaker 5: I had my buddy create a fake Instagram account for
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  Speaker 5: a woman who was supposed to be, you know, working
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  Speaker 5: with me. And she started messaging my girlfriend claiming we'd
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  Speaker 5: been secretly dating for months. I expected my girlfriend to, like,
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  Speaker 5: laugh and tell me about it. But instead, she invited
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  Speaker 5: this fake woman to our apartment for coffee so she could, quote,
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  Speaker 5: hear her side.
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  Speaker 3: Why is that bad on her?
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  Speaker 6: I know.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, well, she wanted to get the full story.
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  Speaker 3: She wanted the info.
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  Speaker 2: That's as your test backfired, I feel like.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, she believed that somebody was telling the truth and
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  Speaker 3: she just wanted to further investigate it.
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  Speaker 5: And so my buddy shows up in a wig, okay?
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  Speaker 5: You know, we make sure he's passable and everything. And
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  Speaker 5: my girlfriend spent two hours interrogating him before he cracked
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  Speaker 5: and admitted everything. The crazy part is that she then
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  Speaker 5: turned to me and said, now I know you're capable
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  Speaker 5: of cheating because you were willing to set this up.
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  Speaker 3: What? Did you guys stay together?
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  Speaker 5: I mean, I've been sleeping on the couch, but yeah,
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  Speaker 5: we're still together. She just.
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  Speaker 4: And your friend?
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  Speaker 5: This was recently.
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  Speaker 3: Passed himself off for two hours? Hopefully I can regain
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  Speaker 3: bed rights soon enough. Must have had a baby face. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: When you started describing this, I was like, this is
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  Speaker 1: a dangerous test to do.
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  Speaker 5: It is.
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  Speaker 4: You know what test has been ruined because of technology, Evan?
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  Speaker 4: If you guys think about it, this is a test
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  Speaker 4: that people used to do all the time. Guys, especially
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  Speaker 4: on girls, but you can't do anymore. Because of the
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  Speaker 4: remote door unlocker. Beep, beep. Because the test used to
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  Speaker 4: be you open the car door for the girl, the
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  Speaker 4: girl gets in the car, and then she's supposed to
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  Speaker 4: lean over and unlock your door. But before, that was
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  Speaker 4: a big test.
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  Speaker 3: Don't have to do that anymore.
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  Speaker 4: Now, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: The door's already unlocked.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: All right, brother. Hey, thanks for calling in, man. Very
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  Speaker 4: crazy test. I know I used to do a whole
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  Speaker 4: bunch of them. My wife, she passed them all. I
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  Speaker 4: just don't remember what they are, but they're all very like,
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  Speaker 4: I'd be like, Oh, she did that. Or like if
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  Speaker 4: she goes and gets, goes to a Starbucks or something,
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  Speaker 4: she always get me something. Or she goes to the grocery.
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  Speaker 4: You know how when you go to the grocery store,
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  Speaker 4: do you ever call your husband and you'd be like, Hey,
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  Speaker 4: what do you need? I'm going to the grocery store.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 4: She doesn't do that because she knows she gets what
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  Speaker 4: I want.
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  Speaker 3: You want the same thing. You want grapes.
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  Speaker 5: I know.
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  Speaker 3: I can tell you that. I don't need to call
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  Speaker 3: you for grapes.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like my wife's testing me all the time,
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  Speaker 4: and I pass because... But she's not testing me.
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  Speaker 2: Because she's not actually testing you.
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  Speaker 4: I think everything's a test.
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  Speaker 5: I know. Anyway.
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  Speaker 4: Juan, what's up?
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  Speaker 6: Well, I normally would text the person first every time,
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  Speaker 6: like inviting them to dinner or movies or plays or
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  Speaker 6: events or whatever.
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  Speaker 4: And then I.
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  Speaker 6: Decided, oh, yeah, I always send the one... Sending the
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  Speaker 6: first text and inviting... Let's see if they're going to
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  Speaker 6: text me first and invite me somewhere they never did.
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  Speaker 6: And it's been like 10 years.
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  Speaker 4: Whoa.
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  Speaker 3: The whole now got you no invites.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: That's sad.
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  Speaker 2: That is sad.
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  Speaker 5: I know.
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  Speaker 2: So do you feel like that's a test fail or
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  Speaker 2: a test success?
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  Speaker 6: Actually, it's a success for me.
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  Speaker 4: Did you have to go anywhere?
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  Speaker 3: Right. You don't have to make plans? That would be
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  Speaker 3: so sad. Yeah, I don't have to.
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  Speaker 6: Make plans and But, I mean, yeah, it kind of
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  Speaker 6: makes me sad because, I mean, me and I liked her,
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  Speaker 6: but apparently not.
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  Speaker 4: The other way around.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Juan, thanks for listening, man. Thanks for calling in. 877-937-1047.
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  Speaker 4: Secret tests that you pull on people.