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- Bekah: Thank you so much for sharing your sweet review. It was such a blessing to journey with you after your loss and your miscarriage and helping you figure out what was going on and then seeing you get pregnant and stay pregnant and enjoy your incredible rainbow baby. So thank you so much for sharing more. you guys, before we get into today's episode, I just want to share a gift with you. It's the faith-driven fertility ebooklet that I created. For those of you who are in a place where you're trying to get pregnant, you're trying to make sure your body is healthy and ready and excited to receive a pregnancy and stay pregnant. ⁓ and doing this with Jesus in the driver's seat. I know you're wanting to ⁓ control and try to trust the Lord more and submit to him and his timing. ⁓ it's really hard. And at the same time, we also need to be doing the physical things that we can do that's in our control. So, anyways, this booklet is a it's going to give you so much of that practical insight physically and spiritually. You can go to beccayon.com slash booklet and get it for free straight to your inbox. ⁓ just pop in your name and email, beccayon.com slash booklet. All right, so let's dig into today. What your doctor didn't tell you three ways to prevent miscarriage. So I try to herald The doctor conversation with so much grace because truly there are incredible, wonderful, listening, values-based, restorative doctors out there. And hats off to you guys. I love y'all so much. I love partnering with them. I love working with them with my clients. there are a lot of doctors out there who are missing the mark and they're not listening to their patients and they're not, maybe they're not trained on. helping them in a restorative way for their bodies. it it leads to a lot of frustration. ⁓ It to a lot of just a just a lot ⁓ of desire for things that they could be doing, but we're not getting information from our doctor. ⁓ I can personally attest to this. ⁓ went through three miscarriages ⁓ and even after my second and then after my third, ⁓ I just asked doctor, I was like, Is there anything that I can do? And she said, Well, not really. You know, we could do some testing, but there's there's really not a way to find out why. ⁓ the time that that was before I really knew anything about anything. I didn't know what the word advocacy meant when it came to advocating for myself and my baby and my body in in my healthcare journey. I didn't know, I didn't know what hormones were. I couldn't explain to you what ovulation was. I didn't, I really just didn't know very much about my body at all. And so when she told me that, I was like, well, okay, I guess I just kind of took it as truth that we really couldn't know. ⁓ and praise the Lord for a really good friend of mine. When I shared what my doctor told me with her, she said, Girl, like you can definitely get better than that. And so that kind of challenged me and it kind of made me think and wonder, maybe I could. And so by the Lord's grace, I did get better answers and I did go down this crazy, really intensively researching journey to figure out what my what was going on with my body and why I kept losing my sweet and precious children. And I couldn't, I could not keep going through it. ⁓ And so ⁓ you know, I I I want to share this episode with you just to ⁓ empathize with you that if you've also been dismissed ⁓ led astray or not given a lot of information from your doctor, you're not alone. And want to I want to bring God into this picture ⁓ and want to bring in the natural restorative things ⁓ that can truly help prevent another loss to the table here. So before we start, well, we are starting, y'all, like we we are so into this. But we're gonna read from Mark chapter five about a woman who also suffered greatly with her fertility and who went to tons and tons of doctors who didn't help her. And in the end, it was Jesus who helped her. And so before, you know, I do want to share with you here are like some of the physical, physiological must do's you've had a miscarriage before you get pregnant again. I'm going to share those tips with you ⁓ and ⁓ I to Jesus into the picture because if we leave him out of this, we're like there's no way we can heal. There's no way we can feel peace or feel confidence in being brave to get pregnant again and trusting ⁓ in in that and trusting in whatever the outcome is that we will still bless the name of the Lord. So we are going to read this passage. It's from Mark chapter five, verse twenty-four. So just the context of this passage, if you read it, Jesus was doing lot of things. and one of the things he was doing was actually to go and heal Jairus' daughter, who had died. So he was on his way to do this, and the crowds were all around him pressing in against him. And it was a crazy time as he was trying to travel with his disciples through this crowded place to go heal ⁓ a a little girl who had died. So ⁓ here we go, verse twenty-four. A crowd followed and pressed around him. And a woman was there who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years. She had suffered a great deal under the care of many doctors and had spent all she had. Yet instead of getting better, she grew worse. When she heard about Jesus, she came up behind him in the crowd and touched his cloak, because she thought if I just touch his clothes, I will be healed. Immediately her bleeding stopped, and she felt in her body that she was freed from her suffering. At once Jesus realized that power had gone out from him. He turned around in the crowd and asked, Who touched my clothes? You see the people crowding against you, his disciples answered. And yet you ask, who touched me? But Jesus kept looking around to see who had done it. Then the woman, knowing what had happened to her, came and fell at his feet, and trembling with fear, told him the whole truth. He said to her, Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering. Man, this is like one of the most powerful passages that incredible to meditate on ⁓ our day and age, thinking even back to the day and age of Jesus. this was like 2,000 years ago. And you the healthcare system was very different, and yet I think the principle completely still applies. You know, this woman, she'd been to ⁓ many doctors, ⁓ best ones, she'd spent everything she had, but she never got better. She never got better until she simply heard about Jesus. She heard that he was the Messiah and she believed. She had the mustard seed of faith of like, man, if I can just even just touch his cloak, he doesn't even have to spend time with me. He doesn't, I don't, I don't want to interrupt him from doing the other important very important things he's he's trying to do. But if I could just touch him, I know he could heal me. And that is a great faith. And that is the faith that we are invited to embrace for our own lives, for our own journeys. And so before we go into the physical things that are truly restorative and are things that, you know, 97% of doctors are not going to talk to you about, they're important, y'all. But if we aren't seeking in the crowd and running to him and just trying to touch him, and knowing that if we could. That we could be healed. If we haven't done that yet, nothing else matters. It doesn't even matter if it is the holistic restorative medicine. It doesn't matter if it's our standard OB that we've been going to since we were a little girl. It doesn't matter who it is. Nobody can heal us like Christ does. this is a huge reminder of that. So my encouragement before we get into the actual teaching is, you know, have this moment. Like the bleeding woman had with Christ, seeking him out in the crowd of your life to just touch him and be with him and have the faith that he he can heal you. And if not, he is still good. You know, we always think of when we're thinking of praying for healing, we pray with emboldened, embodied, believing faith that he could heal you on the spot. And if he chooses not to, okay, Lord, I will still bless your name. Whether you choose to heal me right now or or not, or whatever your will is, you know, we think of let thy will be done. Well that's what Jesus prayed many times. Let thy will be done. Take this from me if you can, Lord, if you want to, but let thy will be done. So that is the prayer that we want to pray with Christ. Okay, so now let's go into the three ways to prevent miscarriage that 97% of doctors are not gonna walk you through. So ⁓ the first thing learn how to chart your fertility cycle. So when I say learn how to chart your fertility cycle, yes, I teach this inside of my fertility framework program. I am a certified FEM instructor. FEM is F E ⁓ Fertility Education and Medical Management. And it is one of the fertility awareness methods that you can get educated in and learn how to chart your cycle. Because when we learn how to track your cycle through an evidence-based method that's reliable, it's objective, it's backed with science, it's not subjective, right? We're not just putting in our opinions of like, ⁓ yeah, my period was kind of heavy, or I spot a little bit, but no, we're actually learning how to track, like, well, how many tampons in a day do you use, or how much is in your silicone cup, or how many pads are you using? And and learning how identify what truly is a light day. a light period or a moderate period or a heavy period. then we keep going throughout the whole cycle. We learn about, you know, the sensations of your perennium of like what is dry, what is moist, what is slippery, and what do all those indicate in regards to what your hormones are doing and what how your body is building up to ovulation. ⁓ Are ovulating healthfully? how is your luteal phase? Did you ovulate healthfully? Are you making good progesterone? Are you not making good progesterone? You learn ⁓ all of things. simply by learning how to chart. And I tell women, I'm like, once you learn how to chart, it's like brushing your teeth every day. You're not gonna go a day without charting. It literally takes less than a minute of your time. Once you learn how to do it, you just once a day at the end of the day, you track what your body did that day and and that's it. it's very simple, it's very easy, but it is so profound in looking at the entire cycle And then even looking at a couple of cycles, especially after a loss, to see how is my body doing? Am I looking healthy? Am I not looking healthy? What areas are looking deficient if I'm not looking healthy? And how can I support that? And so ⁓ there are some doctors out there who ⁓ partner with different fertility awareness methods to read your chart and to bring that as a vital sign of your health into your medical care plan. And if your doctor is not doing that or doesn't even know what a fertility awareness chart is or thinks it's the rhythm method, you guys, they are not up to date in the education. And I strongly encourage seeking out someone who is. so learning how to chart is key. I would love to do that with you inside a fertility framework. If you're looking for that, that is a big piece inside of that program. The second thing that your doctor might not talk to you about ⁓ is big question of, hmm. Is there are there any roots or is there anything deeper going on that may have impacted this loss in your in your own body? So when we think of root issues, we think of things like your thyroid, we think of your gut, we think of your liver, we think of inflammation, we think of adrenals, and all of those things impact your hormones. And so if one of those that I just mentioned is ⁓ ⁓ or having having a problem or having an issue, that could really contribute to an endocrine dysfunction and your hormones not doing what they need to do. And that can attribute to miscarriage or loss or being unhealthy in regards to your fertility. And lots of doctors will not talk about that with you. And so that is also something that we learn about inside my program fertility We learn about all of these root issues and how to identify. Like what are the symptoms of these things? What what are the flags of maybe I have this or maybe I don't? And what can I do about it if I'm feel like this is something I'm dealing with? you learn about that inside of there and so, so critical. everything that I put inside a fertility framework is something that incredibly impactful for my own with healing after my three losses. So I figured out I was dealing with some major root issues. I was having a thyroid issue and adrenal issue. And then that was impacting my hormones. And so I had to really work on those things and do some do some nitty-gritty stuff to get those reset and rebalanced enough so that my chart looked great ⁓ ⁓ felt a peace from the Lord to conceive again. And we did conceive again in a healthy way, praise God. and we carried that sweet baby girl to term. And then the third thing that your doctor may or may not talk to you about is your hormones. This is one that like it just makes me so mad. Okay. So here's what a lot of doctors, and and your doctor may have told you this or talked to you about this, but they say, well, yes, you had a miscarriage, or maybe you've had two or three. So what we'll do to help you is when you get pregnant again, let us know, and then we'll put you on progesterone. As if that is what is going to help you and your baby. And I'm like, my gosh. Can I just talk about that? This is a podcast, and this is why I love podcasting, because I get to talk about these things and share my opinion on how that opinion is or that suggestion is. So we are way too late if we are waiting to get pregnant again and then seeing what your body does and seeing if at that point your progesterone too low, and then helping you. It's too ⁓ late. Most of the time. And it's just like, it's one of those things where I'm like, why would we not try to be a little bit more proactive and support this woman and her body and healing before she ever gets pregnant again? Because that is the true way to help make sure that her womb is healed. Her uterine lining is wonderfully healthy. You guys, in your uterine lining, When you're in your luteo phase after you've ovulated, whether you get pregnant or not, did you know that your body secretes nutrients that go from your uterine lining out into the inside of your womb? that design of our God for your body is to give nutrients to a potential pregnancy, whether you get pregnant or not. So the thing is, is if your uterine lining health, your womb health ⁓ bad or it's inflamed. it's it's like your estrogen's too low, and so your uterine lining is ⁓ really thin and weak and it's it lacks all of those nutrients, ⁓ is going to be hard for a pregnancy to be sustained ⁓ that condition. And on progesterone at six to eight weeks ⁓ of pregnant is not going to fix an unhealthy ⁓ womb that was one of the issues that you were dealing with. getting on progesterone at six to eight weeks of being pregnant is not going to fix an unhealthy ⁓ womb if that was one of the issues you were dealing with. From your previous miscarriage. And it really, I believe it puts you at a greater risk for another loss, another miscarriage. From your previous miscarriage. And it really, I believe it puts you at a greater risk for another loss, another miscarriage. it, it literally makes me so frustrated and so angry because I'm like, there's so many other things that we should and could do before this woman gets pregnant again. so if you're listening to this and you're hearing it, my goodness, like be angry with me, be frustrated with me. I would love to serve you and work with you and share with you. Okay, well, let's try to figure out what were the roots that maybe you're dealing with. What are your charts telling us after you learn how to chart? I always encourage women after they go through a miscarriage, girlfriend. Like, let's wait at least two or three cycles after your miscarriage, learning how to chart and let's observe your cycle charts ⁓ see how they're looking, along with doing the things that we talk about doing that. would be beneficial and helpful for you. Maybe it's some herbs. Maybe it's a diet change. Maybe it's a a different way of moving your body or exercising. Maybe it's a different way of hydrating your body. Maybe it's a different lifestyle pattern that you need to start incorporating, especially if you're dealing with adrenal stuff. So, you know, the suggestions are going to be tailored to what your body is dealing with, what's going on in your life. And so that's what I do. That's what I love helping women with because I've walked that journey myself and I've been able to, I've been blessed to journey with almost a hundred women at this point in their healing journey on this. And so so that's what I do. ⁓ I don't replace your doctor. I I love bringing in like-minded medical practitioners when it's a good fit. ⁓ I always say half the time making these natural lifestyle choices along with your charts is going to be enough. To get your body into a healthy, beautiful spot to get pregnant again and feel at peace with the Lord with it and confident in it. half the time we do need to bring in a little bit of medical restorative care with a like-minded practitioner onto the team, onto your care team. so that's more information about that. And these are things, like I said, charting, root cause work ⁓ and hormones, but like we're really going way than just the hormones. on supporting your body before you get pregnant again ⁓ ⁓ to put yourself in a good space ⁓ do everything you can do in your control with Jesus in the driver's seat to ⁓ get pregnant and stay pregnant and not have to go through what you went through ever again. and course ⁓ if the Lord is still good and he will give us everything that we need in any suffering that we have. And so we hold all of this with open hands. but now that you know these things, it's your responsibility to take action on them or to go about your life and not do them. Right. ⁓ is an episode I would encourage you if you've had a loss, share this with your husband ⁓ ⁓ you know, have him listen to this. ⁓ because oftentimes like, and I mean, I was right there with with you guys before all of my losses, but my husband and I, like, we didn't know we didn't know about all these things. And it was a huge learning journey. It really was. And so I encourage you to have your husband listen to this and kind of hear an insight on a different perspective of a little bit more of a natural and restorative and root cause work perspective. in addition to the doctor and care provider that you're seeing. So without further ado, let me just remind you if all of this is lights you up and excites you and encourages you. ⁓ go to Beccayawn.com slash booklet and download that booklet for more information and more practical guidance ⁓ for how to support your body physically and spiritually as you go through this healing journey. and if ⁓ I I mentioned fertility framework today. So if you are interested in doing that, girlfriend, let's go get signed up. ⁓ I would be joyed and honored to support you and your husband in this healing journey and help guide you guys with confidence in. this ⁓ restoration that you're looking for before you get pregnant again. you can go to Beccayawn.com slash course and get started. All right, let me pray over you guys. Lord Jesus, we just come before you and God, I thank you for ⁓ for the medical system. Lord, we we are much farther along than we were 2,000 years ago. And at the same time, we're still stuck in the same place often of reaching out to our doctors and trusting them with our bodies before we completely submit to you and trust you with our bodies. And I just pray that you would give my sister in Christ and her husband just your divine wisdom, your divine knowledge and revelation of how you have fearfully and wonderfully created her and how you have so graciously passed down this knowledge and information and wonder of how her body works and how we can truly observe this and work with this in her healing journey. And so I pray you would bring them To one mind of supporting her in this way, if this is what you're leading them to do, to give them deeper more restorative answers and more clear answers ⁓ than maybe what they've been receiving from their medical care. and we praise you, God, if they're with one of those two to three percent of incredible restorative practitioners and just lead and guide them in their journey as well. ⁓ Father, we pray all these things in your holy name. Amen.