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Season 3 - Episode 128 - Do you ask for help? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I want to talk to you about asking for help because I
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  think it's one of the hardest things that we all go through as
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  human beings. Apparently Wilma here thinks the
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  same thing as she comes up to sit while I'm recording this and
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  asking for help is a very, very hard thing for people to do.
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  I see it constantly within my coaching practice.
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  When people call and say they want to finally get help, it's
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  usually a last ditch effort. It's kind of one of those things
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  where they reach the point of desperation and then they say,
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  OK, I need help, I need different perspective.
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  I need someone to come and talk to me about something.
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  I need to, you know, have a different perspective put into
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  my head because the one that I'm dealing with right now is not
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  working for me. But it's not something that they
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  go to easily. And I think most of us have been
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  wired to believe that when you ask for help, it's because
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  you're out of resources. It's because you've gotten to a
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  point where you can't show that you're doing something
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  independently. And I see it over and over and
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  over again where people struggle and they feel by the time they
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  show up and they are on the phone with me and they're asking
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  for help in something, they've reached a point of desperation
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  and they've gotten to this position where they are mad at
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  themselves for feeling a certain way.
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  And I can't stress enough how that is just the wrong
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  perspective to have. If you have gotten to the point
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  where you are willing to ask for help, then you've recognized
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  very smartly that you can no longer continue in the position
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  that you're in. You can no longer continue to
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  remain in the perspective you're in and successfully navigate it.
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  So it's it is important and necessary to recognize that that
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  that little bit of information, that little tidbit of
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  information is meant to give you everything you need in order to
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  shift and change. And it's nothing to be ashamed
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  of. It's actually brilliant that
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  you've recognized it. It's a different level of a
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  mindset, it's a growth mindset. At that point, when you say,
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  listen, I can't grow without having additional input, I need
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  to have additional input, but it requires us to pause and not
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  shame ourselves in the moment of saying I need help humble
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  ourselves and say Nope, this is I I can't do this by myself.
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  Being able to do that is huge. I I think it's an important
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  distinction to recognize that I have a coach.
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  I think lots of people that I know who are coaches have
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  coaches, because if you have somebody that you're working
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  with, that shows that you can pause and find those things
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  within yourself as well. So there's no shame in it.
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  Whether you go to a coach, as I said, or go to a therapist, or
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  go to a psychiatrist, or, you know, anybody that can give you
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  advice, a mentor, whatever it might be.
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  This is necessary to ask for help when you need it and not
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  shame yourself for needing it. Actually celebrate yourself for
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  recognizing I need help because that's the moment that change
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  begins. So I first of all, if you're in
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  the position where you need to recognize that, I'll ask you to
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  pause and say please do an inventory and ask yourself what
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  do I need help with? Like right now?
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  That's an excellent exercise for you to do.
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  What do I need help with? Where do I feel stuck?
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  Because if you can take that quick inventory, then you can
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  say, OK, like they're just certain things in our lives and
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  I don't care if it's something as simple as, listen, I don't
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  want to go in the grocery store anymore.
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  I need help. I need to be able to just pull
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  up and go ahead and pick up my groceries.
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  Don't be ashamed of that. We, all of us, don't have time.
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  Do that. If you need help having you
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  know, somebody come and do tutoring with your kids.
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  I mean, if that's one of the biggest things that I hear
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  lately is that people are struggling with their kids in
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  school and their kids need help and they don't know how to do
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  the homework because God knows, it's been a significant amount
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  of time since they've been out of school.
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  They don't understand it and it's driving them crazy.
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  And the kids in them can't sit down and have a decent
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  conversation because there's so much homework that they're
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  focused on fighting. So it's a awareness that says we
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  need help to do the homework. We need somebody to come over
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  here and help us with this. We might need a tutor.
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  We might need a kid that's a little bit older that can come
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  and do this. It's already done it.
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  Whatever it might be, it's that, oh, clearly we need help.
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  Just look at everything. Even if it's just having
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  somebody in your life that you can brainstorm with, that you
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  can mentor with, that you can ask questions to and feel
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  comfortable with it. You've got to put yourself into
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  that growth mindset and say I am capable of asking for help and
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  doing it and successfully navigating it, allowing myself
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  to be humble and do so. So hopefully this got through to
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  you guys today because I'm knocking on the door and I'm
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  saying please ask for help. Please reach out and tell people
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  when you need it. Please do not try to do
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  everything on your own. Nobody can.
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  I don't care who you are, nobody can do it.
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  So I hope you guys have a very blessed day and I will see you
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  all tomorrow. Take care.