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Episode 33: Life Updates | Long After We Are Gone Book Review | Justin Timberlake Conspiracy | 6 Year Old Student In School Shooting | AITA · This Is My Circus

• 0:00
  I'm Stefanie.
• 0:00
  I'm Meredith.
• 0:01
  And welcome to This is My Circus.
• 0:03
  Hey Stef.
• 0:03
  Hey.
• 0:04
  Hey, I'm telling you I just can't stop looking at your hair.
• 0:07
  Thank you.
• 0:08
  What made you decide to do this?
• 0:10
  Well, so let's describe it to the people.
• 0:12
  Okay.
• 0:13
  I don't even know how to describe it Like it's it's part like the top is pulled back and then the the rest is left down But the top is pulled back almost in like little layers of bubble and some are there braids in there, too It is the oh Oh What is that called?
• 0:30
  Do you know?
• 0:31
  I have no clue.
• 0:31
  I just saw a tutorial and I wanted to see if it worked.
• 0:34
  It, I am, and then the back, is the back just like, well, I just, I kind of like threw it in like two little buns.
• 0:42
  Oh, okay.
• 0:44
  It looks like, yeah, it looks like three little bubbles.
• 0:48
  Uh huh.
• 0:49
  I'm just like, huh.
• 0:52
  You need to show, put it to the camera so that people can see.
• 0:54
  Okay.
• 0:55
  And then bend down the front.
• 0:58
  So cute.
• 0:59
  I recommend this a lot.
• 1:01
  This is like a good beach hairdo.
• 1:03
  That's actually what the tutorial is.
• 1:05
  It's like your nice beach do.
• 1:07
  Okay.
• 1:07
  But I would still have to put all this up because then my hair would just be blowing it away.
• 1:10
  Totally.
• 1:10
  Yeah.
• 1:11
  But even if you just pulled that back in another bun.
• 1:13
  Yeah.
• 1:14
  Or even in a ponytail.
• 1:15
  But like that, I'm going to the beach next week.
• 1:18
  I can't wait.
• 1:20
  Do not get pulled into the cult.
• 1:22
  I'm not, but so, actually when this drops, we'll be there.
• 1:25
  So if you don't hear from me, Send in reference.
• 1:29
  I'll come, come get me.
• 1:30
  You're going to have to like give me your life 360.
• 1:33
  Well, you know, you should always have somebody that has that anyway, like Jackson has it, but he doesn't even care.
• 1:39
  Um, well, but yeah, I mean, he would care, but yeah.
• 1:43
  So that doesn't help.
• 1:44
  Yeah.
• 1:44
  No.
• 1:47
  I have these, these ideas that just really, when, when they're laid out don't really work well together.
• 1:53
  Yeah.
• 1:54
  All the things don't vibe.
• 1:55
  So anyway.
• 1:56
  It's all good.
• 1:56
  Um, so yeah, no cults next week.
• 1:58
  Yeah.
• 1:58
  No cults next week.
• 1:59
  Yeah.
• 1:59
  Um, so anyway, what you been doing?
• 2:02
  really nothing.
• 2:02
  It's like trying to catch up on some stuff and.
• 2:05
  Staying busy with that work stuff.
• 2:07
  Yeah.
• 2:07
  Yeah.
• 2:08
  Yeah, I'm doing nothing really.
• 2:09
  I'm doing stuff, but constantly doing things, but doing nothing.
• 2:14
  I get you.
• 2:15
  I get you.
• 2:16
  I totally get you.
• 2:16
  Yeah.
• 2:17
  I've been dog sitting, not like staying at the house, but going over several times a day and it's two little Yorkies and they're so cute and they like run and like tumble in this little tiny ball of fur.
• 2:30
  I'm loving it.
• 2:31
  But, they're, I almost said their master comes to their owner.
• 2:37
  Comes home today.
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  So I'm done with that after I'll go one more time.
• 2:40
  I think their flight comes in later.
• 2:42
  Stop it.
• 2:43
  Stop it.
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  They're like I said, they're cute little but like don't get excited and they'll run and then just like tumble up together Yeah, they're adorbs.
• 2:52
  Like, like little, um, ferrets.
• 2:54
  Yes Yes.
• 2:56
  I laughed listening to our episode today.
• 2:58
  Oh my gosh.
• 3:00
  I, like, when I was editing it, I laughed so hard.
• 3:03
  And, if people could see the full videos Of us recording.
• 3:08
  I'm sure because we both make some faces.
• 3:11
  It is ridiculous.
• 3:13
  I, oh gosh.
• 3:17
  Well, I had somebody ask me yesterday, they're like, how many days do y'all record?
• 3:21
  And I was like, we record once and Stefanie does the her voodoo and she does the stuff there.
• 3:25
  She was like, Oh, so it's just like clips from that.
• 3:27
  I was like, Yeah, that's it.
• 3:30
  except for this week.
• 3:30
  We're doubling up this week.
• 3:31
  Yeah.
• 3:32
  but yeah, I was like, it's just one time.
• 3:33
  She just does all that.
• 3:36
  It's super easy on the software.
• 3:37
  So it's not anything time consuming, but, watching the whole thing, like straight through.
• 3:42
  Cause while I'm editing, I got to chop it up and stuff.
• 3:46
  It is hysterical.
• 3:47
  Like, we are so expressive and I think if the people saw the whole thing they would be like crying laughing.
• 3:56
  Almost like a blooper reel that's not even bloopers.
• 4:01
  This is how we really are.
• 4:03
  I'm like, this is like with no substances.
• 4:05
  Yeah, well I did eat a diet coke today.
• 4:08
  It was a diet coke day.
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  But yeah, nothing, no, no mind altering substances.
• 4:12
  Well, when we finished recording last week, I had told you that our friend Jamie had texted me and was like, girl, yeah.
• 4:20
  Do you, do you sound like you're ADD or something?
• 4:24
  Do you need some of that?
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  And I'm like, this is me on ADD meds, like.
• 4:29
  Can you imagine me not on that's funny I got my medicine up this week for I really don't even know specifically what it's for.
• 4:39
  It's so I don't kill people.
• 4:40
  Oh well that's a plus.
• 4:42
  Uh huh because so the doctor's always like what do you ever want to harm yourself and I'm like no, I want to kill everybody else.
• 4:49
  You might have to take all that out.
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  Just in case there's ever Right.
• 4:54
  Just in case.
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  Oh God, now you have blackmail on me.
• 4:58
  I would never.
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  I'd help you hide the body.
• 5:00
  You would.
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  You would.
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  For real.
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  I am the person to call.
• 5:02
  For real.
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  Do you remember Those, texts that went around several years ago where it was like, you text your friends and you're like, if anybody asks where you were at eight o'clock last night, we were together or something like that.
• 5:16
  Does anybody ever pull that on you?
• 5:17
  No, but I would be like, okay, cool.
• 5:19
  Yeah.
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  Like I would just like stop there.
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  So our friends, right.
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  So jazz did that to several people.
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  And, my response was like, okay, I got you or something basic.
• 5:30
  And then, one of our other friends was like, Okay, we went here and here and here and we did this and you ate that.
• 5:35
  Like, had the plan.
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  I was like, that's the one right there.
• 5:39
  That's the one that I am calling.
• 5:42
  So, one of my good friends is a police officer in Charlotte and we had taken the boys a couple of years ago Well, they're much younger probably like 10 To go like gem mining in this Creek somewhere.
• 5:53
  Oh, yeah an hour away Yeah And there was a restricted area and so you're supposed to stay in this length of the creek this length was Blocked off.
• 6:03
  Well, you know us rule followers.
• 6:05
  We're like, well, the good stuff's probably up there so we you know kind of like money way over and Brennan Dylan's friend back then her son Was was like we can't that that's it's restricted We can't go back there and we're all like come on brennan just like like and she's like whose kid are you?
• 6:28
  Meanwhile, she's a police officer police officer, right?
• 6:30
  So that's really not who i'm taking for any kind of crime.
• 6:34
  Right?
• 6:34
  Yeah Yeah, I was like, well, you got your girl right here, right?
• 6:38
  You're the one i'll keep that in my in my memory bank for when i'm i know nothing when i yeah With my memory, I will probably forget it anyway.
• 6:46
  so Um, I already forgot the book we read.
• 6:50
  Oh.
• 6:50
  so, I mean, I know the name of it.
• 6:52
  Yeah.
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  So, well, when I read the little blurb, you'll probably, oh, I, I remember the blurb.
• 6:56
  I reread the blurb today and I, okay.
• 6:59
  Let's read it.
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  So it was called Long after we were Gone.
• 7:02
  Uhhuh by Tara Shelton Harris.
• 7:04
  Right.
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  And you've got the blurb.
• 7:05
  I do.
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  Can't ever know for sure what happens behind closed doors.
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  An explosive and emotional story of four siblings, each fighting their own personal battle, Who return home in the wake of their father's death in order to save their family's home from being sold out from under them from the author of one summer in savannah don't let the white man take the house these are the last words king solomon says to his son before he dies now all four solomon siblings must return to north carolina to save the kingdom their ancestral home of 200 acres of land From a development company who has their sights set on turning the valuable waterfront property into a luxury resort while fighting to save the kingdom.
• 7:44
  The siblings must save themselves from the secrets they've been holding onto Junior, the oldest son and married to his wife for 11 years, is secretly in love with another man.
• 7:54
  Second son man's Can't control his temper, which has landed him in prison more than once.
• 7:59
  Cece, the oldest daughter and lawyer in New York City, has embezzled thousands of dollars from her firm's clients.
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  Youngest daughter, Toki, wonders why she doesn't seem to fit into the family, which has left an aching hole in her heart that she tries to fill in harmful ways.
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  Told in alternating viewpoints, long after we are gone is a searing portrait of the power of family and letting go of things that no longer serve you.
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  Exploring the burden of familiar expectations, the detriment of miscommunication, and the lessons and legacies we pass on to our children.
• 8:32
  Okay.
• 8:33
  I will say my problem with this book was the narrator.
• 8:38
  Okay.
• 8:38
  I did not like his voice.
• 8:42
  Yeah, I'm with you.
• 8:42
  And I could not get past that.
• 8:46
  so I listened to it begrudgingly.
• 8:51
  I think the, like reading that, that sounds truly incredible and amazing, but listening to it, I think I'd need to read it and I should have done that, but I did not.
• 9:03
  So here we are.
• 9:04
  There are certain books again, and I think we've both said this in the past that I, if I read, actually sat down and read it, I would have enjoyed it more, I think, or would have, you know, followed along better or whatever.
• 9:16
  this gave me like 1980s dynasty vibes.
• 9:21
  Oh yeah, I could see that.
• 9:23
  As I was listening to it, I was like, yeah, yeah, soap opera, family drama.
• 9:29
  Yeah, totally.\ Whose drama's bigger?
• 9:31
  it was something always, one upping the next, situation.
• 9:35
  So, I totally got a dynasty vibe.
• 9:40
  Yeah, I feel that.
• 9:41
  I feel that.
• 9:42
  I think the dynamic of the siblings was, like, pretty spot on.
• 9:45
  Because, I don't know about you and your sister, but, um, I can talk as much trash as I want about my family.
• 9:50
  Oh, let somebody else say a word.
• 9:52
  Yeah.
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  And it's going down.
• 9:54
  Right.
• 9:55
  So I think they all definitely have each other's backs, but there's always been, a divide between them because they are so different.
• 10:03
  Well, and I think that the dad growing up also had a part of that, unintentionally pinning them against each other for attention.
• 10:11
  Unintentionally.
• 10:12
  Well, I hope so.
• 10:13
  Yeah.
• 10:14
  Yeah.
• 10:15
  Yeah.
• 10:15
  Yeah.
• 10:16
  but no, I, I totally get you just kind of, when the, when it hits the fan, they were all there for each other and they were figuring, you know, we'll get through this together.
• 10:26
  Let's figure it out.
• 10:27
  Um, so I did like that part of it.
• 10:30
  You know, that that seems to be a common theme, for siblings.
• 10:33
  I can, I can, you know, crush your soul with my words.
• 10:39
  But don't let anybody else talk to you.
• 10:41
  I will crush your soul and your skull.
• 10:44
  Yeah.
• 10:44
  If you say anything.
• 10:47
  Forgot you were a boxer in the group.
• 10:50
  So that part I thought was like pretty spot on for me, relating to the book, I guess.
• 10:55
  Yeah.
• 10:55
  now, do you think that the preserving of the land, is more out of tradition and loyalty for the dad wanting, to save it?
• 11:04
  Because I don't, I think, like, our generation doesn't have that.
• 11:10
  Yeah.
• 11:10
  Will to yeah.
• 11:13
  I think probably more out of tradition and loyalty.
• 11:16
  Yeah, um, I will say, you know, we live in a very and I hate this word, but I'm going to do my best to say it rural area.
• 11:24
  And there's a lot of land.
• 11:25
  There used to be a ton, but there's still some pieces of land for sale.
• 11:29
  Well, Brian gets very frustrated.
• 11:31
  Like, why are they selling all this?
• 11:33
  And what I mean, what are you gonna do with it?
• 11:35
  What are you going to do with it?
• 11:37
  And his thing is, well, I would just like to have the land.
• 11:40
  Okay.
• 11:40
  Well you buy it.
• 11:42
  Well, not really cause that's me too.
• 11:45
  But I mean, not everybody and we're not in a position to go buy 200 acres of land.
• 11:50
  And I think that, if I was willed right now, 200 acres or whatever, I wouldn't know what to do with it, how to maintain it, how to take care of it.
• 11:58
  So I would probably sell it.
• 12:00
  Yeah.
• 12:01
  So I think that theirs was yes.
• 12:04
  And depending on like what you're doing on the land, like, is it farming, whatever, but like the property taxes.
• 12:09
  Oh yeah.
• 12:10
  Insane.
• 12:11
  Yeah.
• 12:11
  Yeah.
• 12:12
  I'm 200 acres.
• 12:13
  Yeah.
• 12:13
  I would think, I don't really know.
• 12:15
  Cause I don't really know, but I mean, well we just got our house taxes in.
• 12:19
  so that was enough.
• 12:21
  But like, could you imagine?
• 12:22
  No.
• 12:23
  So I, have you ever watched, the show Yellowstone?
• 12:26
  Yes.
• 12:28
  So this kind of gave me those kind of vibes.
• 12:29
  Yes.
• 12:30
  Where they were trying to save the land.
• 12:31
  Mm hmm.
• 12:32
  how have we never talked about Yellowstone before?
• 12:33
  I don't know, but I flippin love that show.
• 12:35
  I do too.
• 12:36
  Is there another season coming out?
• 12:38
  Well, so they didn't finish season five.
• 12:40
  they, they stopped mid season taping because the director, I guess, had other TV shows he was working on.
• 12:47
  And so then Kevin Costner, who is the dad, I don't know.
• 12:52
  had put a bunch of his projects on hold and then tried to make it work around the other schedule.
• 12:58
  Yeah, he's not coming back.
• 12:59
  He just announced he's not coming back to the show now.
• 13:00
  What?
• 13:01
  And I'm like, no, they're gonna have to kill him off.
• 13:04
  Well, spoilers.
• 13:06
  I thought he was dead a few seasons ago with the gun.
• 13:11
  Amazing show like talked about I don't know but like, you know, what give me like good grief It's like, um sons of anarchy but um I love sons of anarchy too.
• 13:25
  This is why we like the same show.
• 13:27
  It must be because we're both just twisted enough Um, did it not give you like that totally totally with not as much Hmm, I was gonna say not as much illegal stuff.
• 13:38
  Well, I think less, You Assaults, um, like essays.
• 13:43
  Yeah.
• 13:43
  Yeah Versus I mean, there's a lot of fighting and killing and what?
• 13:47
  Oh, yeah, like it's not as in your face or Yeah, I can't I'll think of the word in a minute.
• 13:53
  There is some like oh, yeah intimate scenes, but it's not anything like no Something oh my gosh sense of anarchy so good.
• 14:00
  Did you watch Mayans after that?
• 14:02
  I tried to I didn't get into it I couldn't either.
• 14:05
  Um now how about with Yellowstone?
• 14:07
  Did you watch 1812 or what was the other one?
• 14:10
  So 1812, I think was the first one that came out.
• 14:14
  It was so good.
• 14:15
  I liked it better than Yellowstone.
• 14:17
  I'm not going to lie.
• 14:19
  Because Yellowstone gets a little political with like the land and the mayors and the whatevers.
• 14:24
  This one didn't have that.
• 14:25
  I get lost a lot of times in that.
• 14:27
  very good.
• 14:28
  So I had, Up until when my sister was here.
• 14:31
  Yeah, I had just seen clips of it on like facebook and whatnot And so we binge watched like oh, yeah, two and a half seasons while she was here totally and then I Finished it after she left and she just finished I think season three.
• 14:44
  Oh my gosh.
• 14:44
  It's so good.
• 14:45
  But Amazing.
• 14:47
  Yeah.
• 14:48
  I want Beth as a, friend.
• 14:49
  Like, I want to be friends with her so bad.
• 14:51
  She's pretty, she's pretty special.
• 14:54
  yes.
• 14:54
  I love Beth.
• 14:56
  I love them all.
• 14:57
  I, yeah, I like wanna be her friend.
• 14:58
  Mm-Hmm?
• 14:59
  Oh yeah.
• 15:00
  She's the one who I would call.
• 15:01
  Yeah.
• 15:02
  100%.
• 15:03
  Um, ain't he like Sons of Anarchy too?
• 15:05
  Oh, sorry guys.
• 15:06
  So good.
• 15:06
  I met chips when, so, Brian has a motorcycle.
• 15:11
  He's a motorcycle rider.
• 15:12
  I know what he's had it forever.
• 15:15
  Well, no this he I don't know So he's always ridden and he bought it And then I found out I was pregnant with Jackson like the next week So I never got to ride on it with him.
• 15:26
  so yeah, he's got a bike is it like Like what like a speed bike or is it?
• 15:30
  No, it's it's not a Harley, but it's that style.
• 15:34
  Yeah It's like a yeah a cruiser.
• 15:36
  I guess is what and his dad has a trike.
• 15:40
  Yeah, but anyway, They have these shows in Charlotte where they have like motorcycle parts and everything for sale not it's like a trade show, I guess and They would always have You One year they had Bobby and the year I went they had Chibs.
• 15:55
  There was just like a special guest to draw and I have his autograph.
• 15:59
  I got a hug.
• 16:01
  Yeah, that's amazing.
• 16:03
  I know.
• 16:04
  have you ever met any other celebrities?
• 16:06
  Yeah, I have.
• 16:07
  So, I used to be in the medical field.
• 16:10
  Okay.
• 16:10
  And our practice, was the practice for the Panthers.
• 16:15
  So I met a lot of them.
• 16:16
  I helped take care of a lot of them.
• 16:17
  And, Julius Peppers was really cool.
• 16:21
  He was very shy.
• 16:23
  Really?
• 16:23
  Yes.
• 16:24
  And I actually saw, so gosh, it's probably been 20 years.
• 16:28
  So I met him about 20 years ago and he came in the office and like he came in the, so for those that don't know, he's a celebrity from North Carolina.
• 16:36
  He played basketball and football in college and then went on to play football for the Panthers and Green Bay.
• 16:43
  And I think somebody else, I can't remember.
• 16:45
  But he was a huge, huge celebrity, local celebrity.
• 16:48
  He still lives in this area.
• 16:50
  So he was, it was in the height of his career when I met him and he came in the back of the office.
• 16:56
  And he brought somebody with him that ended up being a trainer But julius peppers is huge like fill up a doorway.
• 17:03
  Yes And this guy he brought with him was like five five like a buck 20.
• 17:09
  I was like You you know, i'm gonna talk like i'm not gonna just I was never inappropriate, but I was like, is that your, is that your bodyguard?
• 17:18
  He started laughing.
• 17:19
  So I, I worked with him a few times when he came into the office.
• 17:21
  And then we saw him, at a basketball tournament where I guess he's got kids that play and he was there.
• 17:29
  And I was like, Jackson, look, I was like, do you know who that is?
• 17:31
  And we had some other kids that we were kind of responsible for that day.
• 17:35
  And, I was like, I'm going to go talk to him.
• 17:37
  Brian was like, Oh my God.
• 17:38
  And I was like, here I go.
• 17:40
  I was like, and I always try to be respectful.
• 17:43
  Hey, Mr.
• 17:43
  Peppers, I met you when you went to this facility.
• 17:46
  And he was like, Oh yeah.
• 17:47
  And he said the doctor's name and everything.
• 17:49
  He was like, I remember that.
• 17:51
  And I got a picture of him with the boys and then actually some of the other boys were like, Oh, We want a picture too.
• 17:56
  So I went back.
• 17:57
  I was like, I'm sorry Can I get you for one more picture?
• 17:59
  And it was kind of still COVID times like the end of COVID where some people were masking and yeah And he even like took his mask off for the picture and took a picture with them.
• 18:08
  So Love him.
• 18:09
  But yeah, I met like chris winky used to play for the panthers Way back when and so several of the Panthers players.
• 18:17
  I got to meet.
• 18:18
  Uh huh.
• 18:19
  and then Anybody outside of that have you I mean come on some more more I can't talk that Focus stuff focus Yeah Some football players, like when I would take Dylan for like the meet and greets.
• 18:38
  Oh yeah.
• 18:38
  Um, and yeah, I forgot about that.
• 18:42
  We did the Panthers football experience when Dylan was younger.
• 18:47
  So that was pretty cool.
• 18:48
  now we've seen other, like I took Jackson to the Panthers practice and we got some signatures and stuff and like talk to them like that.
• 18:55
  But as far as, yeah.
• 18:56
  don't really think that's like but like i'm not like even if I saw somebody out I would i'm not the one to go up and you're you're not the me now if I did not No, I was gonna say if I didn't kind of already quote know him.
• 19:08
  I wouldn't but that's all I would we actually saw It's coming back to me now.
• 19:13
  We were leaving a Hornets game one time and saw Thomas Davis, and he was getting in his car.
• 19:18
  And I pretty much did.
• 19:20
  I mean, yeah, no, I didn't get out of the car.
• 19:23
  but, I rolled down the window.
• 19:24
  I said, hey TD, and he was like, hey, what's up?
• 19:27
  Like he waved.
• 19:28
  and then there was somebody else that I saw.
• 19:31
  It was actually another basketball game, and it was the same, type of tournament where we saw Julius Peppers and it was another basketball player.
• 19:39
  And I said, do you have time for a picture?
• 19:40
  And he was like, not right now.
• 19:41
  It's like, okay.
• 19:42
  Yeah.
• 19:43
  I'm like, so oblivious.
• 19:44
  No matter where I'm at.
• 19:45
  Yeah.
• 19:45
  Like I have my own little world.
• 19:46
  I, I usually am too.
• 19:48
  And I am not.
• 19:49
  I, we've probably seen a thousand, I would probably be a very easy target to like.
• 19:53
  Because I do not notice my surroundings whatsoever.
• 19:58
  Um, oh, we saw DaBaby at a Hornets game.
• 20:03
  I had Jackson and I think one of his friends Peyton, I think it was, I don't remember who it was, but Jackson looked at me and he was like, that's DaBaby.
• 20:10
  And I was like, DaWho?
• 20:11
  You know, me and my old self.
• 20:13
  And he actually, he was just sitting in like a regular seat, like not on court.
• 20:18
  And like, I think he probably purchased the whole section and like people were going up and talking to him the whole time.
• 20:23
  Well, we saw him leave and like his whole entourage left.
• 20:25
  I was like, let's go out and get a picture.
• 20:27
  And so.
• 20:28
  You know it was the whole like you see on TV with them walking with the people like holding people back and but he was letting some people come in and like take selfies or some reels or whatever um, anyway, we strayed off of this book.
• 20:41
  Oh, we did.
• 20:41
  A lot.
• 20:42
  Well, I didn't really have much more.
• 20:44
  Yeah, same.
• 20:45
  Okay, so read the book if you want to.
• 20:47
  If you don't want to, whatever.
• 20:49
  The next book is, I have like a four week wait.
• 20:51
  I'm like on the waiting list.
• 20:52
  So let's pick another one because it's supposed to be Don't Look Back by Rebecca Barrow.
• 20:58
  Okay, so Our next book is going to be off of our reading list because we can't get the next couple of books.
• 21:05
  Because they're out on loan for like weeks and weeks, right?
• 21:07
  So I think people have seen our book list and just decided that we've got such good taste in books They want to read them before us.
• 21:13
  So, we've decided to do You Mary Stone.
• 21:16
  Uh huh.
• 21:17
  Uh, Winter's Mourn.
• 21:18
  Yep.
• 21:18
  So this is a series by Mary Stone so we'll do that.
• 21:21
  We'll do book one and see if we want to keep reading any of those.
• 21:24
  Awesome.
• 21:25
  All right.
• 21:25
  Cool.
• 21:26
  Yep.
• 21:26
  so we had, Very briefly touched on Mr.
• 21:30
  Timberlakes.
• 21:31
  We did.
• 21:32
  Unacceptable, um, choices.
• 21:33
  Behavior?
• 21:34
  Yes.
• 21:35
  So I saw on, I believe it was Facebook, that there is a conspiracy going around right now.
• 21:42
  That he wanted to get out of his tour because of how low the ticket sales were and people like, all like commenting on how low his ticket sales are, how there's not a big attendance at his shows.
• 21:54
  And he did this to get out of the world tour.
• 21:58
  oh.
• 21:59
  'cause he had like the$10,000 fine or whatever he had to pay.
• 22:02
  Mm-Hmm.
• 22:02
  um, he, I guess, is gonna.
• 22:04
  Supposedly possibly go get to a treatment center or something and then he can cash in on the tour insurance Oh.
• 22:11
  I don't know.
• 22:12
  Surely not.
• 22:13
  That is a conspiracy that is going around right now.
• 22:16
  Okay, I didn't know there was tour insurance.
• 22:18
  I don't, I didn't know either.
• 22:19
  But that makes sense.
• 22:20
  Oh, JT.
• 22:23
  Being slimy.
• 22:26
  But you know what?
• 22:26
  It goes with his whole It does.
• 22:29
  That doesn't surprise me with JT.
• 22:30
  With everything that's coming out?
• 22:31
  No.
• 22:32
  Yeah.
• 22:32
  I'm not, I'm not a fan of JT.
• 22:34
  No, I've lost my, my fandom.
• 22:37
  Yes.
• 22:37
  That I had for him.
• 22:38
  and I believe that's probably I mean, that's our generation, right?
• 22:41
  Like Yeah.
• 22:42
  And I think we all stand by Britney after Britney's memoir.
• 22:46
  Mm hmm.
• 22:46
  Agreed.
• 22:47
  Agreed.
• 22:48
  I saw a video on TikTok, whatever, of the rookie cop that busted him and he's like on a boat living his best life.
• 22:58
  And he said he didn't know who he was.
• 22:59
  He didn't know who Justin Timberlake was.
• 23:01
  Well, he's a baby.
• 23:02
  I know, but so, yeah, they said that I guess.
• 23:05
  Justin, like under his breath was like, well, there goes the world tour or something to that effect.
• 23:09
  And he was like, what world tour?
• 23:10
  And you don't know who I am.
• 23:13
  That's great.
• 23:13
  It's like, no, do you not know who I am?
• 23:17
  I'm going to use that line sometime.
• 23:19
  I'll let you know how it goes.
• 23:20
  You're at school.
• 23:21
  Yeah.
• 23:21
  Pretty much.
• 23:22
  Do you not know who I am?
• 23:25
  I took some screenshots of things to try to jog my memory.
• 23:29
  It's the anniversary of Michael Jackson's death.
• 23:33
  But that's a great picture.
• 23:36
  Um, I was just laughing because did you screenshot Jackson's text message?
• 23:41
  No, I didn't mean to.
• 23:43
  I meant to just, and that's a terrible, like, crotch grab for me to have decided that that was it.
• 23:47
  I told you TMZ trying to, like, make, I don't know.
• 23:51
  Oh my gosh.
• 23:52
  Um, so I saw and I was like, this is so savage.
• 23:56
  So I, I told you that I really like watching the Florida police.
• 24:00
  Yeah.
• 24:00
  When they do their little, press their leases, whatever their statements.
• 24:06
  Yes.
• 24:07
  so this takes the cake.
• 24:08
  This is not okay.
• 24:09
  This is not Florida.
• 24:10
  Okay.
• 24:11
  it was a former police chief, Cortez Bowers from Arkansas.
• 24:15
  Mm hmm.
• 24:15
  No longer with the police.
• 24:17
  Okay.
• 24:18
  Goes on a Facebook live.
• 24:20
  What did he say?
• 24:20
  He released the list of names of all the snitches he could remember.
• 24:27
  Why would you do that?
• 24:29
  I was like, what?
• 24:30
  Savage, okay?
• 24:31
  Like savage, like dude.
• 24:33
  So all those snitches are going to be coming after him.
• 24:36
  And then if they're still alive, because you know, snitches get stitches.
• 24:39
  Right.
• 24:40
  And wind up in Amen sister.
• 24:43
  Um, okay.
• 24:44
  Um, I'm Why?
• 24:45
  I didn't say why.
• 24:47
  I guess he was, he was, I don't know.
• 24:51
  But, when I, when I saw that, I was like, are you kidding me?
• 24:56
  That is crazy.
• 24:57
  And then, of course, everybody shared it and shared it and then, like, the news got a hold of it.
• 25:01
  Uh huh.
• 25:02
  So this list of names, went out everywhere.
• 25:06
  Well, once it's out there like it's gonna explode.
• 25:09
  Why would you that's just a death threat pretty much for those people.
• 25:14
  And him.
• 25:14
  I would assume him.
• 25:16
  Him too.
• 25:16
  Yeah.
• 25:17
  Well snitches usually my experience Snitches usually aren't very high on the food chain.
• 25:25
  Like they're the ones that like, can't keep themselves together.
• 25:28
  Agreed, but but they still when you're fighting for your life.
• 25:31
  Yeah.
• 25:32
  You know what you gotta do.
• 25:32
  They don't have a whole lot to lose, or they're like in it for I just don't know why he would do that.
• 25:37
  So then, like, that also hinders police Yeah.
• 25:40
  investigations because, if somebody's gonna release the names Right.
• 25:44
  Who's gonna come forward?
• 25:45
  Well, and, but, true, and then all the past cases that might have involved them are probably gonna be in question.
• 25:54
  The drama.
• 25:56
  Where was he?
• 25:57
  Arkansas?
• 25:58
  Mm hmm.
• 25:59
  Did you see?
• 26:00
  Speaking of going viral, the lady on the plane who busted the dude with another woman.
• 26:06
  Yes.
• 26:07
  Oh my gosh So story for our listeners is there was a lady on a plane and she's got the camera flipped facing herself And she's like rubbing her eye not like trying to pretend she's looking at herself and she puts this video of this These people and this whole rant on Facebook, like if this is your husband, he's planning to meet up with Katie and, said, I don't know his name.
• 26:29
  And all, you know, FBI, Facebook was all over it and they figured it out.
• 26:33
  And, but I feel so bad for the wife.
• 26:35
  I feel terrible for the wife because after.
• 26:38
  The internet did their thing and found they, they posted her pictures.
• 26:42
  Oh, no.
• 26:43
  See the kids pictures.
• 26:45
  No, that's off limits.
• 26:47
  That made me really sad.
• 26:49
  Like, yes.
• 26:49
  Great investigative, whatever skills, right.
• 26:52
  Facebook and Tik TOK.
• 26:54
  But.
• 26:54
  I think that the family should have been left out of it.
• 26:57
  I mean, like the people not involved in that direct, right.
• 27:00
  Yeah.
• 27:00
  Especially the children and the wife didn't do anything.
• 27:03
  Yeah.
• 27:03
  I mean, and nobody was like making fun of her.
• 27:06
  I found the wife and like posted like a link to her Facebook probably or whatever.
• 27:10
  Oh yeah.
• 27:12
  And I get it.
• 27:12
  But like, did you see the video?
• 27:13
  And he was like, what's in his shirt?
• 27:15
  His shirt up?
• 27:16
  No, but like his tattoo.
• 27:17
  I'm like, they are making it really easy for this wife to identify this dude.
• 27:22
  Right.
• 27:22
  Showing his tattoos.
• 27:23
  Absolutely.
• 27:23
  And then he just like sat there with his shirt rolled up and it was like all over the place back there.
• 27:29
  I don't know.
• 27:30
  I'd like to hear Katie.
• 27:31
  I think that was her name.
• 27:32
  I'd like to hear Katie's side of the story.
• 27:33
  So Katie, if you're one of our 10 listeners, give us a call.
• 27:37
  Oh, you know why they did it with the kids?
• 27:38
  Because he was talking about his daughter opening up for Like her, her dance team or something opening up for somebody.
• 27:45
  Yeah.
• 27:46
  I don't know.
• 27:47
  but yeah, in those situations I feel so bad for the spouse or significant others.
• 27:52
  Right.
• 27:52
  because like, not only are you finding out, like the entire world, Right.
• 27:57
  Found out at the same time.
• 27:59
  Yeah, that's, I mean, there's no way to, in that situation, there's no way to avoid getting that, that spouse involved, but I hate it too.
• 28:08
  Yeah.
• 28:09
  I hate it too.
• 28:09
  But he was, I don't know why, lifting up his shirt on the plane and doing all the things.
• 28:18
  Him and Katie, we had talked about that seven year old that shot the dude in Texas.
• 28:24
  and again, my algorithm just is weird.
• 28:27
  but there was a shooting in 2023 by a six year old.
• 28:35
  Virginia a teacher brought the gun to school and shot the teacher and oh my gosh So six year old kindergarten first grade.
• 28:43
  it was first grade.
• 28:44
  Okay, So it was January 26.
• 28:46
  The teacher's name was Abby's Werner.
• 28:49
  She had serious injuries did not die Oh good but The horrible part about this whole thing is besides, I was gonna say there's more, um, is that the administration had been told four times that this child had a gun or was telling other kids that they had a gun and administration basically said, it's almost the end of the day.
• 29:11
  Just get through the day.
• 29:13
  Oh, my gosh.
• 29:14
  This kid has, known behavioral issues, um, has told off teachers, had attacked students, in kindergarten, strangled a teacher from behind, went behind the teacher and strangled her.
• 29:28
  can we do some investigative work with this child and his living situation?
• 29:32
  So the parents, were supposed to be going to school and doing the observation, whatever thing.
• 29:38
  And That was the first day that they did not go or that was the first week that they didn't go.
• 29:43
  The child was suspended the day before this happened because he took the teacher's phone and slammed it and broke the teacher's phone.
• 29:50
  Parents were like, well, he said it was an accident.
• 29:53
  Those kind of parents, I guess, um, but the mom did get convicted of a criminal possession of a weapon because she lied on her application for the gun of drug use.
• 30:06
  Like, I guess she smoked.
• 30:07
  Marijuana or whatever.
• 30:09
  I don't really know the situation, but she did lie on the application to get the gun Told the police that the gun was in the closet like on the top shelf in a locked box The kid told the police he took it out of her purse Well, I really wouldn't put a lot of stock in the kids words either But how was he gonna get into a locked box on the top of a closet?
• 30:29
  So I don't know I tend to believe that the kid and that yeah And I don't mean to make it sound like the kids a little liar, but there's just a lot going on there Well, so after he shot the teacher, right another teacher heard the shot came in like, you know, like I guess Yeah, the kid sure and the kid said and I didn't take a direct quote from this Okay, and do you remember what state this was in Virginia?
• 30:52
  Okay.
• 30:53
  After he shot the teacher, another teacher ran in to contain him, and he allegedly said, I did it.
• 30:58
  I shot the bee dead.
• 31:01
  I got my mom's gun last night.
• 31:05
  That was his statement after like, so it wasn't like a, Oh, I didn't know it was going to go off.
• 31:10
  Like he, his intentions was, were to hurt or kill her.
• 31:13
  Uh huh.
• 31:14
  during recess that day, he had showed another, child the gun and told that kid that if he, if I don't know if it was a boy or girl, if you tell I'm going to shoot you.
• 31:25
  Kid did tell, administration did nothing.
• 31:29
  That is frightening.
• 31:31
  That is so scary.
• 31:33
  That at six years old, the intention is to go into school and do that.
• 31:38
  Like that scares the living daylights out of me.
• 31:41
  I just don't understand.
• 31:44
  I feel like this is, one of those episodes of Law and Order or something where it's just an imbalance in the child.
• 31:53
  Like, I'm sure the parents were probably enabling it, but.
• 31:56
  Well, so the, the kid is on, I guess medication.
• 31:59
  I mean, had started like a medication protocol or whatever, but, just a history of like.
• 32:03
  Yeah.
• 32:05
  Erratic like off the wall.
• 32:08
  Mm hmm behavior.
• 32:10
  So it's horrible I feel horrible for the kid I wouldn't want right, but could you imagine if your child was in that class?
• 32:17
  Mm hmm, or your child had to go through a school year with Like Dylan was so timid, at that age, Oh yeah, he was so timid and kindergarten.
• 32:26
  I mean, if, if Dylan saw a teacher getting strangled, like, I don't know what he would, I don't know.
• 32:31
  Yeah.
• 32:32
  Like the ramifications for the rest of the students that, that were in the room.
• 32:35
  That is is going to be luckily.
• 32:37
  I can't remember exactly what the age is where you kind of block things out, but hopefully they will be able to kind of block that.
• 32:44
  Yeah, because that is that is traumatizing.
• 32:47
  Yeah.
• 32:49
  That is insane.
• 32:50
  And to go back to our original story that probably prompted your algorithm to pull this one, like, there's no repercussions for, I mean, they're going to get them help.
• 33:01
  They're going to go to the doctors and figure, you know, do that kind of thing.
• 33:04
  But as far as punishment for the child or, you know, No, the mom got the mom got in trouble.
• 33:11
  She got 3 and a half years and federal prison, but it was also included the.
• 33:17
  Charges for lying on the application for the gun and I think child endangerment or something.
• 33:23
  I wonder if I have other children at home.
• 33:26
  I'm not sure.
• 33:28
  That is scary, so the whole thing is crazy.
• 33:31
  I started watching this show called Your Honor on Netflix.
• 33:35
  Was it good?
• 33:36
  I don't know.
• 33:37
  I don't know.
• 33:42
  It is, it is very intriguing.
• 33:44
  I can't stop watching it.
• 33:46
  So it's good.
• 33:47
  Yeah, but it's like, okay, so the very first episode, it's about this, the main players are a teenage son and then the dad and the dad is a judge.
• 33:58
  Okay.
• 33:59
  Your honor.
• 34:00
  Will the teenage son ends up hitting somebody with his car and they die and the ties that the person that died within the community like it's just and then they try to pin the murder on somebody else yeah so all the corruption like all the corruption yeah but it's very you know i watch Grey's Anatomy and all these things and usually like it's it looks so fake like you or i can maybe say oh well that's not real When this boy got hit by the car, like, I was like, this is disgusting.
• 34:34
  Like it, it was very graphic, very graphic.
• 34:38
  It doesn't give me warm and fuzzy feelings, but I cannot stop watching this.
• 34:42
  Yeah.
• 34:42
  So I know, I know.
• 34:44
  What's wrong with us?
• 34:45
  Oh, there's so much.
• 34:48
  There's just, there's just so much.
• 34:49
  We can't even list it.
• 34:50
  There's so much wrong with us.
• 34:54
  Um, I did book, my trip to the retreat with Nicole.
• 35:00
  so that is in October.
• 35:02
  So I'm super excited about it.
• 35:04
  I booked the Mike Wazowski room.
• 35:07
  The monsters.
• 35:08
  Is it painted on the wall?
• 35:11
  That's pretty cute.
• 35:12
  So, but you could do it as like a, uh, you know, double booking or a single.
• 35:16
  So I'm just doing it as a single, but, I was like, well, I can get down with, with Sully and Mike.
• 35:22
  Yeah.
• 35:23
  Go for it.
• 35:23
  Dylan was, Mike was asking for Halloween.
• 35:25
  Was he, and he couldn't say.
• 35:27
  Wazowski?
• 35:28
  Right.
• 35:28
  And like, so somebody would be like, Oh, what are you for Halloween?
• 35:32
  And like the way he would say it was adorable.
• 35:34
  I know.
• 35:35
  I know.
• 35:37
  the little girl in that, Boo.
• 35:39
  Oh my gosh.
• 35:39
  She was so cute.
• 35:40
  I wanted a little girl that looked like her.
• 35:41
  So the theory in Disney theories is that Boo is actually the girl from Incredibles, Violet.
• 35:51
  Oh, I like that little theory.
• 35:55
  I like that theory.
• 35:56
  That is crazy how they have all the Easter eggs hidden and this character from this cartoon is in this movie or show, whatever.
• 36:05
  So when is that a couple of days kind of thing, or is it like a half a week?
• 36:11
  Nice.
• 36:11
  so yeah.
• 36:13
  Did you travel down any other rabbit holes or was that it cuz with your face when you told me you had a lot Going on was just like I don't know how I got on this like little kid Shooting this teacher and I was like, this isn't real like this isn't real life.
• 36:26
  Yeah, like this shouldn't happen It shouldn't happen.
• 36:29
  Um, so You That was just super it was right before you got here, right?
• 36:33
  I bet it was like maybe like a half hour before you got here.
• 36:35
  That must have been why you look like it Looked like fresh trauma Did you see where Travis Kelsey did something in Taylor's?
• 36:45
  thing.
• 36:45
  But did you see, even better, his brother wore a Taylor Swift shirt to her concert.
• 36:51
  No, I love him.
• 36:53
  So do I.
• 36:54
  I love him.
• 36:55
  Uh, yeah.
• 36:55
  Well, you're an eagle person too.
• 36:57
  Jason Kelsey.
• 36:57
  Yeah.
• 36:58
  100%, like, he is, like, down for the get down.
• 37:01
  He walked in there with his, like, sweat joggers on and a black Taylor Swift shirt.
• 37:08
  Do you listen to their podcast?
• 37:10
  Oh, not some.
• 37:11
  Yes and no.
• 37:11
  Yeah.
• 37:12
  the one after, from this past football season where they, uh, the Eagles were out of the playoffs and the Chiefs were still going and Eagles went to, was it, did he go to the Superbowl when?
• 37:24
  he like jumped out of the box and stuff and then so he was talking about that on their podcast And he said he told his wife which she seems so cool.
• 37:33
  She said I want to be her friend.
• 37:34
  Uh huh Um, she can we get her on the pod?
• 37:38
  If anybody knows kylie kelsey send her our way but he apparently looked at her before the thing.
• 37:44
  I was like, it's going to happen, like, it's happening.
• 37:46
  And she was like, no, he was like, it's going to happen.
• 37:49
  Just love him when he got that old tacho.
• 37:51
  Oh yeah.
• 37:52
  All of that.
• 37:53
  And then he had a shirt off and he was like, you just found that on the ground and you put that on your face.
• 37:59
  And he was like, Yeah, where did you think I got it from?
• 38:02
  Typical, like, college frat boy, kind of.
• 38:05
  But, he just seems, like, such a chill, down to earth, Yeah, I wasn't sure if he was going to play another year.
• 38:13
  Yeah, I was sad.
• 38:15
  Yeah.
• 38:15
  But, I get it, but.
• 38:16
  Oh, yeah, his body took a lot.
• 38:18
  Yeah, but he is hysterical.
• 38:22
  Oh, yeah.
• 38:23
  I love when they bring their mom on.
• 38:24
  And they're like, who's your favorite?
• 38:26
  And she's like, Jason, like no, hesitation.
• 38:33
  Hey, yeah.
• 38:33
  He's, he's great.
• 38:35
  I love him.
• 38:35
  Is it just them too?
• 38:36
  They don't have any other brothers, do they?
• 38:38
  I don't think so either.
• 38:39
  They're great.
• 38:40
  Oh my gosh.
• 38:40
  Okay.
• 38:41
  Kylie, we'll talk to you soon.
• 38:42
  Hit us up girl.
• 38:43
  Yup.
• 38:44
  You got us.
• 38:45
  Send, send me a DM.
• 38:49
  All right.
• 38:49
  Well on that note, do you want to do, am I the a hole?
• 38:52
  Yes.
• 38:53
  Okay.
• 38:55
  Am I the a hole for sleeping naked on top of the covers to teach my flatmate's girlfriend a lesson?
• 39:00
  Okay, so they're british.
• 39:01
  I love that.
• 39:02
  You said how you said naked.
• 39:04
  How do I say it naked?
• 39:05
  Naked?
• 39:08
  Nicky Okay new to and I feel like they're british.
• 39:12
  So I do we need to read this in an accent?
• 39:14
  Oh, I would love it.
• 39:15
  Okay, because it's gonna be like southern english Okay, i'll do my best Okay, new to Reddit.
• 39:21
  Please bear with, so I 21 guy live with my childhood best friend, 22, also a guy, and have done so for two years up.
• 39:30
  Says, I need you to stop, Steph and I can't break character.
• 39:33
  Okay.
• 39:34
  Up until last week, things were perfect between us.
• 39:37
  However, he recently got a new girlfriend, 23 lady, and she honestly seems absolutely great except for one thing.
• 39:45
  And actually he used a semicolon.
• 39:48
  Do people really use a semicolon anymore?
• 39:49
  I've never seen one.
• 39:51
  Do you think that was a typo?
• 39:52
  No, I think he's British.
• 39:53
  He probably knows.
• 39:54
  They know how to use their, their proper punctuation.
• 39:57
  She seemingly has a complete aversion to knocking.
• 40:01
  She and I have quite a lot in common and I actually like spending time with her.
• 40:05
  However, it bugs the.
• 40:07
  H E double hockey sticks out at me when she just barges into my room without knocking first.
• 40:13
  Now, she's never walked in on me doing anything untoward.
• 40:17
  See me calling.
• 40:18
  I'm usually just chilling on my bed or studying at my desk.
• 40:22
  However, on at least seven.
• 40:25
  Separate occasions.
• 40:27
  Now she's done it.
• 40:28
  First thing in the morning to ask if I want coffee, I sleep nakie.
• 40:33
  Every time prior to the last one, I've been under the covers, but she hasn't seen anything.
• 40:38
  I always point out that she could have, and she just giggles and says, but I didn't when she stayed over last week, in order to make my point, I intentionally slept on top of the covers.
• 40:49
  Sure enough, she barges in at 7am begins to ask if I want coffee and sees my, you know, what?
• 40:56
  She immediately backed out of the room and didn't speak to me for the rest of the day.
• 40:59
  My mate later pulled me aside and said I was bang out of order, accused me of deliberately exposing myself, and pointed out that I'd threatened to do it before.
• 41:10
  I literally said, okay, but what if I had no covers and you saw everything before?
• 41:15
  They're now framing this to others that I'm some sick creep who intentionally got necky and lay in wait of her because that's how I get my rocks off, and I'm kinda seeing how it came off that way.
• 41:26
  Am I the a hole for doing this?
• 41:29
  Wait, before we go any further, can we read what his name is?
• 41:33
  Love to.
• 41:34
  Billy butt pimples.
• 41:37
  Billy butt pimples.
• 41:39
  Billy butt pimples.
• 41:42
  Billy.
• 41:43
  Not only did he expose his, you know what, he also has butt pimples.
• 41:48
  Apparently, and he's proud of them.
• 41:50
  Yes, so I just had to point that out.
• 41:53
  so I hope not a lot got lost in the translation there with my lovely accent and your giggling.
• 41:59
  That was great wasn't it?
• 42:01
  I don't think he is because he warned her.
• 42:05
  He asked her on multiple occasions not to do it and Wait, did he say he doesn't have a lock on his door?
• 42:11
  That's what I was just trying to remember.
• 42:13
  I don't see anything about a lock.
• 42:14
  Yeah, so if he doesn't have a lock on his door, then, well, maybe he could have put one on there, but.
• 42:20
  Well, that sounds like, like if you're renting your flat, you can't, if you're renting your flat, you can't just flat.
• 42:26
  Oh my god.
• 42:26
  Well, if you're renting, you can't just go in and put a lock on.
• 42:29
  Oh, he could put like a chair, like wedge a chair.
• 42:32
  Yeah.
• 42:33
  If you're worried about it, yeah I'm, just impressed with his commitment to sleep naked all night Do you think you slept naked on top of the covers all night to be able to do that?
• 42:42
  I have to have a cover.
• 42:44
  I I have to have a cover, but I can't have my feet covered Oh, really?
• 42:48
  Yeah feet need to breathe.
• 42:50
  Um That is just like I would have set my alarm to wake up and be on top of the covers naked That's premeditated nikki.
• 42:58
  That would have been premeditated but like could you imagine if he was like getting up?
• 43:02
  You And it was all, yep, swayin Swayin Well, some sway.
• 43:15
  What if it wasn't swayin Um, Lord.
• 43:21
  Would that be worse?
• 43:23
  We're gonna get too graphic.
• 43:24
  Okay, so, uh, I, I, I mean, It's a good one.
• 43:33
  It is a really good one.
• 43:34
  So I, I do think that, that she shouldn't go in his room.
• 43:38
  Agreed.
• 43:40
  I don't know what else he could have done apart from, you know, Barricading himself in the room, which seems unfair, right?
• 43:48
  She's a 23 year old woman.
• 43:50
  She should know.
• 43:51
  And she giggled about it.
• 43:53
  Like, it's almost like she wanted to.
• 43:55
  Right.
• 43:57
  Exactly.
• 43:58
  That's what I was thinking when I read that part.
• 44:00
  I was like, she's hoping to.
• 44:01
  He should just put a sign on his door that says, do not enter.
• 44:04
  No girls allowed.
• 44:05
  Enter at your own risk.
• 44:06
  Enter at your own risk.
• 44:07
  I mean, I don't know.
• 44:08
  I feel like that the dude his friend should tell her not to do that.
• 44:13
  Like it's, especially because that's their place.
• 44:17
  you should be able to be comfortable in your own space like that.
• 44:20
  And it's not like she's a third roommate.
• 44:23
  She is just a visitor.
• 44:24
  I thought British people were really, polite.
• 44:30
  Don't know why I had that impression.
• 44:32
  I don't know.
• 44:33
  Because they are on Bridgerton.
• 44:34
  Oh, they're very polite.
• 44:36
  Okay, so I don't know.
• 44:38
  I don't I don't think so And I think that he warned her enough times that it was seven times that Baffled me a little that he had counted that seven seven.
• 44:50
  But my question is though, okay, so what now?
• 44:52
  She's already seen it.
• 44:54
  So we're just gonna leave the doors open?
• 44:56
  Let everything happen?
• 44:57
  Yeah, I was trying to stay away from the explicit.
• 45:02
  That's not explicit.
• 45:04
  No, no, that's not.
• 45:06
  We'll stop.
• 45:08
  I don't think so.
• 45:10
  I don't think so either.
• 45:11
  My votes no.
• 45:12
  No, he's told her not to.
• 45:14
  I think, and I think there was, what do you think the resolution should be?
• 45:17
  I think the French should say something to her.
• 45:19
  Agreed, but he has already yelled at dude.
• 45:22
  Oh yeah, true.
• 45:23
  I mean, I would just be like, well, she got warned seven times.
• 45:26
  She obviously wanted to see it and she kept coming.
• 45:34
  I felt my eyes cut to you like, and this is why they need to see the video.
• 45:40
  Mm hmm.
• 45:41
  It's great.
• 45:41
  It's great.
• 45:42
  Okay, so none.
• 45:43
  right.
• 45:43
  Laughing at the title.
• 45:44
  All right, here we go.
• 45:45
  Why didn't they capitalize it?
• 45:47
  Okay, focus, focus, focus, Meredith.
• 45:49
  They don't have proper They do not.
• 45:52
  They probably don't even have a semicolon on their keyboard.
• 45:54
  Okay, am I the a hole for giving all of my co workers a different reason for why I have missing fingers?
• 46:01
  I have three fingers missing on my dominant hand.
• 46:03
  It's fine.
• 46:04
  I can type.
• 46:06
  It's fine.
• 46:06
  It's fine.
• 46:07
  It's fine.
• 46:07
  Everything is fine.
• 46:09
  I can type in everything and even manage to that's why they didn't capitalize it.
• 46:15
  They couldn't do the shift.
• 46:20
  We got this.
• 46:23
  I can type in everything and even manage to tie my shoelaces most days and on the days I can't, that's the Dyspraxia.
• 46:31
  Are you punking me with this?
• 46:33
  Is this a legit one?
• 46:36
  What's that word?
• 46:37
  Dyspraxia?
• 46:39
  That's what it looks like to me.
• 46:40
  However, I won't deny it looks a bit odd to most people.
• 46:44
  I only have my fourth and fifth fingers, so my hand looks a bit like a child's drawing of a rabbit and not a good one.
• 46:51
  I'm used to people asking about it usually after staring for a good minute or two but I still find it annoying.
• 46:58
  I really don't get why you'd think it would be an okay thing to ask someone about, but hey, I wasn't raised in a barn.
• 47:04
  Usually I nip the question in the bud by just explaining the truth from the get go and assuming that enough people will gossip about it that the message will spread by the end of the day.
• 47:13
  It always, always does.
• 47:15
  Anyway, I started a new job about a month ago, and honestly, I could not face going through that same cycle again.
• 47:22
  I felt like the time had come to not play into it anymore and just make something out of it, and I decided to make myself laugh.
• 47:29
  When the first new coworker asked about it, I completely lied and told her I'd chewed them off as a baby.
• 47:38
  Doing this to me today.
• 47:42
  Then I decided to tell the next person who asked that I cut them off with a plastic knife at a picnic.
• 47:47
  And the next person I was born with six fingers and they removed too many.
• 47:52
  That's so old.
• 47:55
  All genuinely ridiculous reasons, but I'm a good actor and they actually believe my stupid lies.
• 48:00
  I didn't expect them to.
• 48:02
  Plastic knife through bone, but there you go.
• 48:05
  Maybe they just thought there's no way I'd lie about how I lost my digits.
• 48:14
  Within about three days, I learned that my co workers had been arguing about the actual reason.
• 48:18
  It seems like a lot of them now actively dislike me for lying to them.
• 48:22
  I'm probably going to have to make some cupcakes.
• 48:24
  With my Like a candy finger?
• 48:36
  With little rings on them.
• 48:38
  Okay.
• 48:39
  All right, make cupcakes over the weekend with my super cool 3d printed adaptive whisk.
• 48:44
  Anyway Told this story to my brother and he told me I was an a hole because I caused tension within the office on my first day and made people feel stupid for being gullible and believing my lies.
• 48:53
  My argument is that I'm not the a hole because they were asking a rude, albeit common, question and because I didn't do it with the intention of deceiving them.
• 49:00
  I was just fed up of the question and didn't think I actually severed three fingers with dental floss when I was three.
• 49:08
  I'll accept my judgment, though.
• 49:09
  Hold on.
• 49:10
  So he cut, he actually severed three fingers with dental floss when he was three.
• 49:15
  That's how he actually did it.
• 49:16
  No, he was saying, I don't think we ever found out why.
• 49:19
  I assumed that that was his, how he really lost it.
• 49:22
  I thought he was just given another, crazy thing like the plastic knife.
• 49:27
  What's the update say down there?
• 49:28
  Update gonna check out here I think getting real tired of explaining why it's not cool to ask people why they lost limbs or digits just because they want to Say your morbid curiosity a few reminders for people.
• 49:40
  I'm not a male.
• 49:41
  Don't know why everyone assumed that I did too I don't know why I assumed that Okay, not a male.
• 49:47
  Don't ask people about something that could be traumatic, especially when you don't actually know them.
• 49:52
  And when making cupcakes, always cream the butter.
• 49:57
  But dude, could you imagine bringing cupcakes in and having a fake finger in each, like in the middle, in the center of the cupcake?
• 50:02
  That would be terrible.
• 50:03
  Oh my god, it'd be Amazing.
• 50:06
  Perfect.
• 50:06
  Just kiss this.
• 50:08
  Um, okay.
• 50:09
  So, sorry for being insensitive and giggling through that.
• 50:16
  You're not even sorry, are you?
• 50:19
  I don't think that, okay.
• 50:21
  So, I've always recently when I've seen people with disabilities or whatever, they always say to ask, not just stare, but ask and have a conversation.
• 50:31
  Now I feel like I can't ask.
• 50:35
  Not that I've ever gone up to somebody and saying, so why are you missing a head?
• 50:43
  I can't.
• 50:43
  Okay.
• 50:43
  So I could see especially if it's person after person after person.
• 50:47
  Sure.
• 50:48
  Like, and I kind of think that that is pretty funny of what they, Oh yeah.
• 50:52
  And the fact that people believe that you could saw your finger off with the plastic.
• 50:57
  Yeah, I thought the approach was great.
• 50:59
  Like trying to make light of it.
• 51:02
  Right.
• 51:03
  And to, to give them things that Really, you should not believe that they're really a plastic knife.
• 51:10
  I can't even get that to cut chicken sometimes.
• 51:15
  But I mean, I thought that was a good, how to defer that.
• 51:18
  Like, don't ask.
• 51:20
  I'm gonna make a joke out of it.
• 51:22
  I don't think they're an a hole.
• 51:23
  I don't.
• 51:23
  I don't think so either.
• 51:24
  I think people can, and it probably depends on how they ask too.
• 51:28
  Hey, so I'm Tom.
• 51:29
  Welcome to the office.
• 51:30
  Where's your digits?
• 51:32
  Where's your fingers?
• 51:34
  Um, yeah.
• 51:35
  Hmm.
• 51:36
  I don't think so.
• 51:37
  I think, yeah, I don't think he's the a hole.
• 51:39
  I think it's, I've got nothing.
• 51:42
  Yeah, I don't think so.
• 51:44
  And honestly, if they're just, I think it's human nature to be curious, I don't think they're really a holes for asking.
• 51:50
  As long as they're not asking in an a holey way.
• 51:52
  Yeah, I don't think that I would go up to somebody though.
• 51:56
  Oh no, I don't either.
• 51:58
  Wouldn't feel comfortable doing that.
• 51:59
  No.
• 51:59
  and it's I don't know my own like weird Whatever's but right.
• 52:03
  I don't think I could go up to somebody.
• 52:05
  I know I wouldn't ever random stranger walking in the park Be like, hey, even a new employee.
• 52:10
  I would never know I went to like we went out for office drinks and like get a little And then just start the conversation around yeah speaking of liquid courage have you seen any of that stuff about kava no like You Just like a herbal something or other it's like a ground up dried out root of this plant and it's.
• 52:30
  Because I don't really drink anymore.
• 52:32
  so it's supposed to just be like you mix it into whatever juice, whatever you have.
• 52:36
  and it doesn't give you like alcohol effects, but it gives you like that, like chill, mellow, like socializing, you feel like social anxiety or like, you're not spelling that.
• 52:44
  Okay.
• 52:46
  I ordered some.
• 52:47
  Okay.
• 52:48
  so we can try it.
• 52:50
  We should.
• 52:51
  On our after, after dark on, on TikTok.
• 52:54
  And let's just plan on doing that.
• 52:56
  Yeah.
• 52:56
  Not, maybe the week I get back.
• 52:58
  We can do a birthday party after.
• 53:02
  Totally.
• 53:04
  All right.
• 53:04
  Well, thank you guys for listening and bearing with us through those am I the a holes because we laughed through the entire thing.
• 53:11
  Hopefully I can edit it to make it sound okay.
• 53:15
  I'm so Oh, so you can yes, you can do it.
• 53:18
  Yes.
• 53:19
  we really appreciate you guys listening Please ask your friends to listen, share like all the things on all the platforms.
• 53:25
  Yep.
• 53:25
  That's it.
• 53:26
  Thank you guys.
• 53:27
  Thank you.
• 53:27
  Bye