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SANYA RICHARDS-ROSS (RHOA) · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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  Speaker 1: Two Teas in a Pod which Teddy Mellencamp and cam
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  Speaker 1: Ridge Edge.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, guys, welcome to another episode of Two Teas in
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  Speaker 2: a Pod with myself and I guess myself.
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  Speaker 3: I am the only.
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  Speaker 2: Host today, but I have a very special guest, Sonya
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  Speaker 2: Richards Ross. Sonia Richards Ross is a retired Jamaican American
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  Speaker 2: track and field athlete who competed internationally for the United
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  Speaker 2: States and the four hundred meter sprint. Her notable accolades
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  Speaker 2: in this event include being the twenty twelve Olympic Champion,
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  Speaker 2: two thousand and nine World Champion, two thousand and eight
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  Speaker 2: Olympic bronze medalists, and two thousand and five World silver medalists,
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  Speaker 2: who with our victory in twenty twelve, she became the
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  Speaker 2: second American woman woman to win the four hundred meters
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  Speaker 2: at the Olympic Games.
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  Speaker 3: I mean pretty much.
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  Speaker 2: This girl can do a lot of things, and most importantly,
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  Speaker 2: she can forgive me for some.
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  Speaker 3: Of the shitty things I've said about her.
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  Speaker 2: On this pod, because all in all, she is an
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  Speaker 2: incredible woman and brings so much to the table, and
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  Speaker 2: she's opening up to us on to Teas in a Pod.
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  Speaker 2: So I am happy to have her as my guest
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  Speaker 2: today to talk about all the things. Okay, Sonya, thank
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  Speaker 2: you so much for joining us, And I have to
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  Speaker 2: start with my first question being a personal related question
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  Speaker 2: in regards to my daughter. So I was just reading
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  Speaker 2: your bio and obviously, I mean, your Olympic story is
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  Speaker 2: just so mind blowing to me. My daughter is ten
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  Speaker 2: years old and she is so into equestrian. She practices,
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  Speaker 2: she you know, we compete, We're going to nationals next week.
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  Speaker 3: It's everything to her.
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  Speaker 2: At what age did you start your Olympic dreams and
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  Speaker 2: what would you say was like the point where you
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  Speaker 2: knew it was actual possibility.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Well, first of all, Teddy, thanks for having me. I'm
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  Speaker 4: super excited to be on. I love your podcast, so
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  Speaker 4: thanks for inviting me. And that's a really good question.
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  Speaker 4: So I started actually competing in track and field when
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  Speaker 4: I was seven. I'm from Kingston, Jamaica, and track and
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  Speaker 4: field is like the most popular sport there, so I
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  Speaker 4: always knew I wanted to be an Olympian. At age nine,
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  Speaker 4: I wrote as my class assignment that I was gonna
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  Speaker 4: be Olympic champion.
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  Speaker 1: So I always had this.
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  Speaker 4: Big dream, but I would say, the time in my
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  Speaker 4: life where I realized it was really possible was when
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  Speaker 4: I turned sixteen and my dad really challenged me to
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  Speaker 4: be great, and I started doing a thousand sit ups
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  Speaker 4: every day, watching film, resting, doing all the things, and
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  Speaker 4: I had a phenomenal senior year and I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: I could definitely be an Olympic champion one day. So,
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  Speaker 4: you know, I would say, somewhere between that range of
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  Speaker 4: like nine and sixteen, I got into that, you know,
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  Speaker 4: full vision that it could be possible, and I just
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  Speaker 4: chased it with everything I read my being.
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  Speaker 3: And how were your parents?
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  Speaker 2: Because I find myself because I wrote all growing up
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  Speaker 2: and I ride still how were your parents as like
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  Speaker 2: the best supporters for you? Because I see myself doing
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  Speaker 2: both things, like I will be either like try to
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  Speaker 2: take a step back and let her just.
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  Speaker 3: Live her dream.
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  Speaker 2: But then sometimes she asked me questions and then I
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  Speaker 2: feel like maybe I get too intense, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: how do I support her but also not push her away.
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  Speaker 4: It's a really good question, and I think that my
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  Speaker 4: parents did an excellent job and finding that balance. My
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  Speaker 4: dad was really the one who was always very knowledgeable
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  Speaker 4: and kind of was meeting me where I was at,
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  Speaker 4: and my mom was always my soft place to land.
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  Speaker 4: She was always reminding me that it was just the
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  Speaker 4: sport and I didn't have to find my identity in it,
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  Speaker 4: and she gave me a lot of like you know,
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  Speaker 4: reprieve from the pressure of sports. But I would say
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  Speaker 4: the best parenting I would advice I could give a
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  Speaker 4: parent who has a child who loves like they have
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  Speaker 4: big dreams or potential is to follow their lead. So
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  Speaker 4: I think that if you are in front of them
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  Speaker 4: pulling them towards greatness, it's rarely going to happen. But
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  Speaker 4: if you can inspire them and then they get this
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  Speaker 4: fire burning in them and they want to be great,
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  Speaker 4: and then you meet them with the knowledge, with the
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  Speaker 4: resources all of those things, I think that's a matchmade
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  Speaker 4: in heaven.
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  Speaker 1: But it can't be hard because sometimes you gotta let
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  Speaker 1: them find it for themselves, Like you can't.
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  Speaker 4: You can't want it more than they want it, and
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  Speaker 4: so sometimes you got to, you know, I'll smart them
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  Speaker 4: and find ways to get them inspired and find ways
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  Speaker 4: for them to see that this is a great, you know,
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  Speaker 4: path for them, and then you go full force with them,
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  Speaker 4: you know.
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  Speaker 1: But it has to be them leading the way.
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  Speaker 2: And was there ever a point you thought, I can't
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  Speaker 2: do this anymore, I need to quit, like or this
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  Speaker 2: is too hard or I'm missing out, Like you find
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  Speaker 2: that age like around fifteen sixteen where like kids all
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  Speaker 2: of a sudden want to start partying or want to
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  Speaker 2: start doing this, Like how did you just stay on
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  Speaker 2: the course or did you ever have that moment where
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  Speaker 2: you're like, okay, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Now you know.
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  Speaker 4: To be honest, at sixteen, that's the only thing I wanted,
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  Speaker 4: Like I was such I was I didn't even care
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  Speaker 4: about boys and none of that stuff, Like it was
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  Speaker 4: all track and field for me. I missed prom, I
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  Speaker 4: went to my state championship was the day of my
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  Speaker 4: problem and start prom the last thirty minutes, you know,
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  Speaker 4: And I didn't care, Like it was like it was
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  Speaker 4: more important to me to win states. So I didn't
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  Speaker 4: have that experience personally. Later in my career, when I
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  Speaker 4: started suffering with injuries and all that kind of stuff,
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  Speaker 4: I had moments where I was like, Okay, I may
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  Speaker 4: need to give it up, But not when I was young.
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  Speaker 1: It was like all I could think.
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  Speaker 3: About it was the fire and how did you meet Ross?
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  Speaker 4: So I met my Haney in college, so I went
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  Speaker 4: to ut right, Yeah, we both went to the University
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  Speaker 4: of Texas.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: I was in like, you know, we have like our
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  Speaker 4: our athlete cafeteria, which is like just for the athletes.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm in there and I'm eating and he walks
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  Speaker 1: in and I'm.
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  Speaker 4: Like, dude, his boy. So I called him over and teddy.
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  Speaker 4: The funny story is when he comes over and introduces
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  Speaker 4: himself and he tells me his name, I'm like, oh my, Literally,
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  Speaker 4: the guy I had just broken up with was also Aaron.
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  Speaker 4: So when he told me his name, I was like,
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  Speaker 4: I don't need no more errands in my life.
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  Speaker 1: Bye bye. And I just missed him. I was like.
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  Speaker 4: And then about a week later he reached back out
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  Speaker 4: to me and we started dating, and I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: this is my good errand this is the one.
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  Speaker 2: This is the one, And is there any like what
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  Speaker 2: has been the biggest challenge in your marriage to date?
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  Speaker 3: Like was it when you were competing or is it
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  Speaker 3: being a mother.
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  Speaker 1: Or good those are three good moments.
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  Speaker 4: Like when we were competing, I mean, our relationship was
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  Speaker 4: just perfect, I think because you know, we got used
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  Speaker 4: to this rhythm of like not being together and we're
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  Speaker 4: so happy we're together. So that was a really good
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  Speaker 4: time in our marriage. I would say the hardest time
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  Speaker 4: in our marriage when we became parents. I mean, I
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  Speaker 4: think it's because fourteen years of just the two of
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  Speaker 4: us being together there and like figuring it out, and
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  Speaker 4: then boom, like this tornado of a kid comes into
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  Speaker 4: our lives, and you know, I think we both had
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  Speaker 4: different expectations of how we would parent, of how we
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  Speaker 4: would support each other, and I didn't think it was
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  Speaker 4: gonna make it for a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: Like those first like you know, year after having your
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  Speaker 3: first child, you're like shit, Like what did I do?
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  Speaker 2: Like I know, for myself, Like I had really like
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  Speaker 2: you know, I had moments where I felt completely selfless
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  Speaker 2: and I was doing everything for my family. And then
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  Speaker 2: I had moments like my entire identity has just been
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  Speaker 2: taken away and I don't know who the hell I
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  Speaker 2: am anymore, and I feel lost and alone, and the
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  Speaker 2: fact that my partner can't step in and fix these
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  Speaker 2: holes for me would piss me off.
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  Speaker 1: I I feel you. I feel you.
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  Speaker 4: It's like one of those things that nobody really talks about, right,
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  Speaker 4: It's like get married they say, have kids, they say,
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  Speaker 4: but no one prepares you for how how much it can.
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  Speaker 1: Interrupt your marriage.
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  Speaker 4: And so, yeah, Ross and I went through a really
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  Speaker 4: challenging time of figuring out like how to communicate and
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  Speaker 4: how to be there for each other and all the things.
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  Speaker 4: And that's why it took me so long to have
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  Speaker 4: another one. Like people were like, oh, I'm like, we
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  Speaker 4: just barely figured out how we're working with this first one. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: I want to put us back in that situation when
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  Speaker 4: it was still really fragile, you know. So that was
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  Speaker 4: a big part of why it took me six years
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  Speaker 4: to get pregnant again. And I have no shame in it.
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  Speaker 4: I wanted to make sure my marriage was healthy and
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  Speaker 4: strong again and we had everything figured out before we
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  Speaker 4: brought another very important person into our into our lives.
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  Speaker 2: No, that makes a lot of sense before we get
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  Speaker 2: into the other items. Do you watch Real Hollswolds Orange
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  Speaker 2: County at all?
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  Speaker 1: I used to watch it more than I watch it now,
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  Speaker 1: So please forgive me. I love y'all. I just you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'll be be easy, but I'm gonna get caught up.
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  Speaker 1: How did we do? Did we pass and fail? Y'all's tests.
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  Speaker 1: How do we do? Did you you dissected the blue
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  Speaker 1: the most recent reunion?
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  Speaker 3: You know, I gotta say you looked incredible.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you.
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  Speaker 4: I kept it simple and elegant. I said, I ain't
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  Speaker 4: gonna do too much. I don't want to look like
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  Speaker 4: I'm supposed to be like on a field, you know,
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  Speaker 4: like leading a band. Kept it simple, elegant.
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  Speaker 2: There was a lot of feathers for me, which like,
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  Speaker 2: I am not a feathers gal.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and feathers.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of feathers on your personal reunion? Who do
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  Speaker 2: you think was best dressed.
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  Speaker 4: Outside of me? You know who I really liked. I
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  Speaker 4: liked Candy's outfit. I don't know, I don't know how much.
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  Speaker 3: Oh I loved it too.
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  Speaker 1: I love that she.
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  Speaker 4: Just did that simple blue in the middle and it
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  Speaker 4: was kind of like this diamond effect.
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  Speaker 1: So I think I loved her look. Probably you know,
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  Speaker 1: it looks looks good? All right.
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  Speaker 2: So we're here's Orange County looks. This is my girl, Tam.
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  Speaker 2: What are your thoughts? Questions?
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  Speaker 1: Okay? What was the theme? Like?
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  Speaker 4: Is it like you guys feel a little bit more
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  Speaker 4: cash than we were. I think we felt we were
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  Speaker 4: more dressed up than this but.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, this I think is summer sore.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, Yeah, it's giving, it's giving, Okay, so giving.
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  Speaker 3: I agree, Heather.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like it's always like in standard she's playing
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  Speaker 2: it safe.
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  Speaker 4: She's playing it safe. And if we're gonna be in
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  Speaker 4: a summer smar right, but why are we in black?
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  Speaker 4: I can pick any color and you pick black.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I just I definitely feel like she played it
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  Speaker 1: safe and it's just like it's given like a sea.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like i'd wear it to like a Gallad school.
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  Speaker 2: This is okay, now, this is Shannon. I feel like
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  Speaker 2: every housewife at this point has worn this dress in
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  Speaker 2: some capacity, including ex housewives like myself, like I wore
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  Speaker 2: but like with the little bra and the undies underneath
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  Speaker 2: what I'm like, a right, the sheer look.
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  Speaker 1: I see what you're saying. Yeah, she had a little
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  Speaker 1: bit more underneath it.
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  Speaker 4: But this is what I say. I like the color,
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  Speaker 4: I like the hair. I feel like she it's a look.
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  Speaker 4: But yees, it's not. It's not unique, it's not fresh.
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  Speaker 2: It's giving Erica Jane hair to me, like it looks
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  Speaker 2: like somebody was like I want to recreate Erica Jane's
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  Speaker 2: hair and this is it. So it's hard for me
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  Speaker 2: to like wrap my head around that. Okay, Emily, I
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  Speaker 2: think it's just okay, it's just okay.
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  Speaker 1: It's to me.
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  Speaker 4: That's also a dress that I would just wear in
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  Speaker 4: like everyday life. It doesn't feel like it's a reunion dress, right.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I think she looks beautiful, but it's not anything over
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  Speaker 2: the top. Like I think her body looks beautiful, her
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  Speaker 2: face looks beautiful, she looks she looks put together, but
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  Speaker 2: there's nothing over the top top.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, well then give it to us.
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  Speaker 2: Make that expression on top of it is real.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, Gina came not she didn't come to play, honey.
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  Speaker 1: This is giving sexy summer vibes. I think she pulls
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  Speaker 1: this off. I'm here for it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm here for it too. I like this one. The
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  Speaker 2: expression looks pissed, but I like it. Okay, this is
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  Speaker 2: the newbie jen.
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  Speaker 1: Mm hmmm, No, I know it's a miss. It's a miss.
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  Speaker 1: What are we doing with these wings?
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  Speaker 3: What is with the cape?
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  Speaker 1: Like?
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  Speaker 2: Here's the thing, Like she has such a like stunning
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  Speaker 2: physique and she works out all the time.
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  Speaker 3: I can't really see your silhouette at all.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and then I think with the hair down, I
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  Speaker 2: wish the hair was up.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe the hair should have been up or back, like
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  Speaker 1: it's also causing a distraction. Yeah, like this look didn't
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  Speaker 1: come together.
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  Speaker 3: No, not my favorite.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I think the dress is awesome. I just don't
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  Speaker 2: know that I would have matched the shoes.
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  Speaker 1: And the makeup looks so harsh, like the eyes are
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  Speaker 1: so I actually saw this one on social and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, ooh, the makeup should have been softer.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, why is the makeup the same colors as the
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  Speaker 2: dress and the shoes. It's too much matchy matchy for me.
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  Speaker 1: Too, MATCHI matchie. Yeah, this isn't like you said. I
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  Speaker 1: don't mind the dress and isolation, but a simple shoe
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  Speaker 1: and just softer makeup, maybe different hair. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: It's just it didn't. It didn't all come together.
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  Speaker 3: I agree. So who's your favorite? You're gonna have to
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  Speaker 3: pick one.
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  Speaker 1: So I would say my favorite was probably one of
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  Speaker 1: the first.
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  Speaker 2: Ones we got, Tamra Shannon, And it definitely wasn't Heather
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  Speaker 2: because she was in the all black.
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  Speaker 1: No, not Heather.
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  Speaker 4: Who was the first one we saw. It might have
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  Speaker 4: been Tamra I have to go back and look, but
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  Speaker 4: I think Tamara was probably my favorite. I think I
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  Speaker 4: can't remember.
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  Speaker 2: Well, guys, you can't even say I'm biased at this
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  Speaker 2: point because she said it, not me, But I think
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  Speaker 2: I think she crashed.
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  Speaker 4: You agree too, Yeah, yeah, I think I think it
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  Speaker 4: might have been Tamra. The other girls could, but nothing great.
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  Speaker 2: I also like to think about comfort because we sit
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  Speaker 2: there for eight hundred and fifty two hours. But speaking
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  Speaker 2: of reunions, how do you feel after your reunion?
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  Speaker 3: Do you think you've said everything you wanted to say?
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  Speaker 2: Because at some points I was like, I need, I
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  Speaker 2: want to hear more from you, and I don't know
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  Speaker 2: if you said more in the moment, and it just
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  Speaker 2: wasn't there.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but what are you saying?
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  Speaker 1: So here's how I felt about it.
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  Speaker 4: I did say more, obviously, every everybody said more.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I mean we should have had a three party reunion
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  Speaker 4: because and I was shocked it was only two because
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  Speaker 4: a lot happened on that reunion stage.
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  Speaker 1: But this is what I'll say.
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  Speaker 4: I felt like the women who I came in with
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  Speaker 4: issues with, I said my piece to them, and I
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  Speaker 4: felt I was very clear right like obviously with the
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  Speaker 4: whole Candy situation.
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  Speaker 1: Our big issue was kind of.
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  Speaker 4: Off camera with she left me off her list. I
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  Speaker 4: left it off off my list.
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  Speaker 3: But there's that on purpose?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so she she left me off her list. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know, I mean it was that was she did
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  Speaker 1: that right like?
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  Speaker 4: And so to me, it's like, why if I'm not
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  Speaker 4: in your FAE five and I feel like me and
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  Speaker 4: Candy were really good friends, then why would you be
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  Speaker 4: in mine? I think that there has to be accountability
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  Speaker 4: for what we say, and so I left her off
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  Speaker 4: mine own purpose. Yeah, Like that hurt my feelings when
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  Speaker 4: I heard that she made a list without me, like
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  Speaker 4: I'm currently on the show. And the thing that I
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  Speaker 4: think Candy sometimes forgets is that her words carry.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of weight.
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  Speaker 4: She has a huge audience, and so when you say
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  Speaker 4: something whether there's you know, mumblings on social media and
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  Speaker 4: you double down, it's not a good look.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, I left her off on purpose, And so
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  Speaker 1: I explained to her. I was like, you don't and
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  Speaker 1: we talked more about it.
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  Speaker 4: And I feel like the difference between me, Teddy and
• 15:41
  Speaker 4: Lie the girls is that I don't come in trying
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: to have a big old fight, right, like if you're
• 15:45
  Speaker 4: gonna fight with me, I'm ready for it. But I'm
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: not necessarily coming in trying to make it a moment.
• 15:50
  Speaker 4: I'm trying to really tell you how I feel. And
• 15:53
  Speaker 4: so I think we had those moments her and I
• 15:55
  Speaker 4: and Kenny and I where I told Keny how I
• 15:57
  Speaker 4: felt about her not reaching.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: Out to me about the baby situation. So, yeah, you know,
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: it is what it is.
• 16:02
  Speaker 4: Like I'm different, yeah, you know, and I think that
• 16:05
  Speaker 4: a lot of people want me to be that. They
• 16:08
  Speaker 4: want us to be monolithic, and they want me to
• 16:10
  Speaker 4: have all these reads and scream and shout and stuff,
• 16:12
  Speaker 4: and that's just not who I am.
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: I've never been like that.
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: And I less it's with your family, right right, right?
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: Ed, you get it, you know. So it is what
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: it is. But I thought it was a really good
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: reunion and I was happy.
• 16:26
  Speaker 4: I left feeling like I said what I need to say,
• 16:28
  Speaker 4: and you know, it was it was good.
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: Well, but speaking of mumblings on social media, you made
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: a statement on your Instagram after the reboot rumor started, Yeah,
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: what are your thoughts today? Because they were like implied,
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: like I saw two different you know posts where they
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: said this person's coming back. This person isn't blah blah blah, Like,
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: what are your thoughts today?
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: Well, I mean I meant what I said right, Like,
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: nothing has been decided yet.
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: You know how many weeks posts reunion are we since
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: y'all filmed?
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: That's a good question, girl. I don't remember what I
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: did last week, much less how long that's been. But
• 17:12
  Speaker 4: what month are we in? Our September? So I feel
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: like we filmed that in August, so we're like a
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: month post reunion.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: Have you had your pre filming meeting yet?
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: Nobody has?
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: Okay, that's because that's I mean, not that that means anything.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: I had mine and then I still got the boot,
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: So like.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: No, I just think I think the show is in
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: a weird spot.
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: That's there's no denying that, right, Like I think that
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: the network isn't sure where they want to go. But
• 17:41
  Speaker 4: what And the only thing that I asked was are
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: we going to know before the public knows? Because it
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: was news to me when I read it, so I like,
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: you know so and they said no, we will know first.
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: So the reason I made that post was like, stop
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: everybody putting stuff out there when it's not factual, Like
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: none of us know what's going to happen with the
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: show yet, so and that's still the case now, Like
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: I don't know what's going to happen, you know. I
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: think they're gonna put us on a little pause while
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: they figure out the best ensemble for the show.
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, like it's no
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: one knows yet.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: Why do you think the fans had so much criticism
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: like that it was lacking? And what do you have
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: to say to this? Like, to me, it honestly felt
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: and I've said this, I feel like sometimes it feels
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: like a show to me, more so than some of
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: the other casts, because it's like someone comes in and
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: they deliver what they want to fight about. But I
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: want to see more fun. I want to see less reads,
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: Like I want to see you guys actually liking one another. Okay,
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: So then the fights feel more authentic to me, not
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: just like Marlow digging up shit from years ago that
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: didn't really upset her but now upset her.
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: So it's like, yeah, I mean, I certainly understand that.
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: And I think this is what I think is the
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: tricky part about the show. If I can be one
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: hundred percent authentic and clear, is that once upon a
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: time there were women who were all friends who were
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: in this Atlanta circle who were on the show, and
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: then that dynamic changed, right, and obviously they started casting.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: Bringing women in to be a part of the show.
• 19:18
  Speaker 4: And so I think what happens is that as we
• 19:21
  Speaker 4: are trying to build these authentic friendships, which is what
• 19:24
  Speaker 4: was my goal coming on the show, really wanting to
• 19:26
  Speaker 4: meet people figure out where I fit in, the fans
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: don't really want to give us time to do that.
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: They want to feel like, y'all, we've been friends for
• 19:33
  Speaker 4: twenty years, pick aside immediately, and all of those things.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: When it's just not the reality of the show anymore.
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: The show no longer has six women who are from
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: Atlanta who grew up together, who ran in the same circles.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: It's just is not that.
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: So you give us time to build those kinds of friendships.
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: And I feel the same way the fans go, I
• 19:53
  Speaker 4: don't want to come on here and make up a fight.
• 19:56
  Speaker 4: I want it to be real, and so I think
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: that sometimes it just that's just gonna take time. And
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: so the network has a tough decision. Are they going
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: to reboot the show and find six women who are
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: great friends in this community or are they going to
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: continue to give us time to develop those friendships because
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: I personally now Teddy feel like I know the woman
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: a lot better and I can speak my piece in
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: a way that feels authentic and not.
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: Like you're not just making up check. No, that's exactly exactly,
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: yes you.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: Charay and Marlow got into it on the after show
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: about Martel not paying for Charret's birthday dinner. Yes, a
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: lot of fans wish you were more more vocal like
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: that on the show.
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: Yes, what made you more vocal after the fact.
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: Because we're friends now, Like I feel like so Chara,
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: Marlon and I have developed a really good friendship, So
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: I feel like I can speak my piece in a
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: way that feels authentic and not like I'm trying to
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: get this point across. And so that was a real moment,
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: and those moments will happen more and more if given
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: the opportunity to be around these women longer. So the
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: reality is that wasn't filmed on the show, right we
• 21:00
  Speaker 4: Sharay invited us as real like as her friends to
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: come to dinner. This thing happens, and I'm like, girl,
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: like you know if this were one of us, you
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: would feel the same way. So I felt comfortable sharing
• 21:13
  Speaker 4: my truth in that moment. And so, you know, I
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: think it's just more of what people will see if
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: I'm giving more time to develop friendships.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: And it was just a real authentic moment.
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: And do you think the producers play favorites?
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: And I saw that, like the executive producer Eric Fuller
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: with Marlowe and Chara, and they used proof that he
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: had favorites and then he posted fans you know, doing
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: death threats. Did the cast get together before this and
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: talk about anything or was this all just like posh?
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah? No, this was all.
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: This all was a surprise to us, and I think
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: for everyone watching who you know, I think. I think
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: unfortunately Eric got a really bad rap because Eric is
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: our producer that films with us, but he doesn't do
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: post production, so he's not responsible for what makes the show, so.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: He's in the moment, he's the one. Yea.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: So for those of you guys listening, there are producers
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: that are field producers in the field with you, helping
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: you navigate what's going on in front of you, right,
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: But there's also the people behind the scenes you've never
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: seen exactly.
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: He's our lead producer in the field, so he's the
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: one who is with us the whole entire series, filming
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: with us, and then he hands off the footage to
• 22:25
  Speaker 4: our post producers, who they then edit the show. So
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: Eric is not responsible for what goes into the show ultimately,
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: like he's more responsible about getting the content. As far
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: as playing favorites, I don't think so. I felt like
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: a lot of times they try to make the stories
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: as balanced as possible by showing people's perspectives.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: But I guess it just all depends.
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: On what side you're on and if you wanted more
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: information from that person. But there certainly is no conversations happening,
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: you know, behind the scenes or anything like. We're just
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: as surprised as the finish of the finished product as
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: the fans are. We see it the thursday before it airs.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: No one had that, No one.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: Has been What about Kenya getting all upset that her
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: hair salon wasn't shown.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, listen, I had a whole project that wasn't shown either. Yeah,
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean.
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: So it just I don't feel like I can't like
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: people have their own experiences. It is what it is.
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: I'm not gonna come and say she's lying. I don't know,
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: but all I can tell you is is that the
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: producers choose the storylines that they think the audience wants to.
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and drama hit the fan at all at that event.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: At Kenya's event, Yeah, No, there was no drama.
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: So that's why.
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: I mean, it was a wonderful event, Like it was beautiful,
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: shed a wonderful job decorating. We all majority of us
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: were there. I think only Drew and Marlow were missing.
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: So it was the majority of the cast there. But
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: there wasn't like a moment that missing. Well, she didn't
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: invite Marla, that's for sure. And I think, you know,
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: this season, Drew had a lot of moments where she was,
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: you know, like just unavailable, like her and Candy. Candy
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: was working a lot, but Drew was going through a lot,
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: so I don't remember.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: I don't.
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: I feel like she was invited because her and Keny
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: were in a good spot. But for some reason, she
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: wasn't there when she was filming Candy show, I think,
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: and so she got off later something.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: I think she was filming the show.
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: How would you feel about fake having sex with somebody
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: and one of your cast member's bed.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: I told Ross I was like, this is super super cringey.
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: Like I'm like, like, I can't imagine walking into my
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: room and being like, damn, Drew was in here.
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: More or less cringey than the serenade at the reunion.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: It's a good question.
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: Oh man, that was That was horrific. Like that was
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: I think they're on the same level.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: Oh gosh, did you watch the movie the Past?
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: I won't watch it yet, but I I really do
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: plan to. I really want to. Me and Rosski, so
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: we're gonna.
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: Watch it, Teddy, Like you do you have time to
• 25:08
  Speaker 4: watch it? Like I have all of these things I
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: need to catch up.
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: On and watch. But I feel like between my commitments
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: for work, my family, trying to do all the things,
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: i'd be like, where is my TV?
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: I know the fact that I have to watch every
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: house Wich or I get to watch every Housewife franchise
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: for work.
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: Is you know? It is? What it is? My next question?
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry she drove.
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: I know that I had times this year where you
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: may have not topped my favorite.
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: Okay, wait we came around.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: I'll forgive you.
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: You'll forgive me and listen.
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: Like I always say, you're only as good as last
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: week's episode. But somebody that talked you on driving me nuts?
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: Is Courtney?
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: Oh what?
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: Please explain? Is she better in person?
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: Like?
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: Is it somebody that once I meet her, I'm gonna
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: be like, oh I see her redeeming qualities? Yeah?
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: You know, I hate so I actually really like Courtney.
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: Like when I first met her, she was super sweet.
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: I know she was super sweet. She still is.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: She checks on me all the time she has, you know,
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: this drive.
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: Does it feel authentic or does it feel like she
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: checks on you because she wants to be on the
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: show again?
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: No? No, no, one hundred percent authentic. Like I feel like.
• 26:27
  Speaker 4: I think I think the hard part about the show, Teddy,
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: and I know you can you know, relate to this
• 26:32
  Speaker 4: and understand is it's like it's like you can't win
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: for losing. No matter if you're come in strong or
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: you come in a little bit softer, people still have
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: other expectations of you. And so when she came in,
• 26:43
  Speaker 4: she had a gripe with Candy. Now, I mean, would
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: I've handled it that way? Obviously not. You guys know
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: my personality wouldn't have happened that way. But do I
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: see her perspective and respect her strength for stepping up
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: and saying how she felt.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: I do you know what I mean?
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: And I feel like she just was always willing to
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: share her POV. She wasn't willing to be pushed around,
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: even by the OG's on the show. And it comes
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: across as though she's trying super hard. But to be honest,
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: I don't feel like she really cares that much. She's
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: just like speaking her piece.
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: She's almost in like fight or flight exactly. But what
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: gave me the ick?
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: Like I was still like I was giving her the
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: benefit of the doubt. But the relationship that was shown
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: in that dressing room between Ralph and Courtney, I don't
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: know if I saw that shit going down with my
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: husband and another woman on my show, regardless if they
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: are cousins, right right, right or not?
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: It felt intimate in a different way.
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I didn't love it either. When I watched it,
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: I was like, ooh, the hook felt a little bit.
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: And then and then obviously the you know, the whole
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: I think where Courtney has gone wrong and I can
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: see that I've probably got I've done this in off
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: camera on other friendships. I think she has inserted herself
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: too much in this relationship.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: I think she doesn't know enough.
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: She's new to their to their family, and I think
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: that she has just jumped on Ralph's side with very
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: little information, and it's hurt her, you know what I mean,
• 28:19
  Speaker 4: Like I think she should have gotten to know them,
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: both of them, and kind of stayed out of it.
• 28:23
  Speaker 4: Because we know how marriage stuff is, like, you know
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: what I mean, Like you don't want to.
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: Be two sides.
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: There's two sides, and the persons most of the time
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: going to always side with their partners, so it's like,
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: just stay out of it. So I think that's probably
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: where for most people she really messed up, was like
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: getting too involved in a marriage when that's it's you know,
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: that's we shouldn't do that.
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: And when it comes to the demise of Drew and
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: Ralph's relationship, the way that they're kind of the way
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: that I feel like Ralph came in sat on the
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: other side, like all of it. It really gave the
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: impression that it was something that Drew created, which my
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: impression maybe because I loved Drew and the times that
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: I've spent with her is that was his way of deflecting,
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: and finally she just had enough.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: But like, what is your thoughts?
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: And the yeah, I think so.
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: You know, I met Drew a couple of weeks before
• 29:33
  Speaker 4: I started filming for the show, and I hung out
• 29:35
  Speaker 4: with her once and then I hung out with her
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: and her husband twice, and I really loved them together.
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: I was like, Oh my god, they have this laugh
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: and they just have this, you know, this genuine love
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: that I thought was like, oh my god, Mia Ros
• 29:46
  Speaker 4: said this is going to be like our you know,
• 29:48
  Speaker 4: we're gonna be friends. We're gonna be a couple of friends.
• 29:50
  Speaker 4: And then I think, I think what hurt them the
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: most was that I think that they exposed too much
• 29:57
  Speaker 4: of the hardships of their marriage to the public. And
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: the reality is when the Twitter world and everybody gets
• 30:04
  Speaker 4: involved and everybody has their opinions, it's really hard for
• 30:08
  Speaker 4: you to be able to see clearly and to forgive
• 30:11
  Speaker 4: and move on. And so I just think so much
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: damage had been done on both sides.
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you, Teddy. There are times where
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: I believe Ralph, there are times I believe Drew. I
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: don't I don't know, Like I don't know who is
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: gas lighting who. Yeah, it's just a tricky.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: But do you think Drew is a liar? Like I
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: feel like she was called a liar multiple times.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: Success I think I think Drew lies. Yes?
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: Do you think Ralph lies?
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: Yes? I think they're both liars?
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: And have you met I know Tie were seen filming,
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: but like, have you spent time with Tie?
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: No? And I should say this, I don't hold on.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: I want to say this, Teddy.
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: I don't want to say that Ralph Ralph has never
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: lied to me, like I don't have an experience like
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: Drew lied on me and to me, so I have
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: a personal experience of Drew lying.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: I should say that I think Ralph is a liar.
• 31:00
  Speaker 4: I just think that sometimes his perspective of the experience
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: with his wife is skewed.
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: So I don't want to call him a hard per
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: a liar.
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: Do you think they're jealous of each other? Like it
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: almost feels like they're on like.
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: A one upper, Like when you get to that point
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: in a marriage when you're always trying to like talk
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: the other one.
• 31:18
  Speaker 4: It's I never thought that until the other day I
• 31:20
  Speaker 4: was talking to somebody who had been around them more
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: than me, and they said the same thing, and I
• 31:26
  Speaker 4: was like.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: Damn, could that be it? Like are they jealous of
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: each other? Are they trying to one up each other?
• 31:30
  Speaker 4: And I think it could be because obviously I think
• 31:33
  Speaker 4: Ralph is here for the shit, Like I think Ralph
• 31:35
  Speaker 4: wants it, you know, wants to be a star. Obviously
• 31:38
  Speaker 4: Drew wants to be a star. So I think that
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: could be a thing. Like my husband ain't trying to
• 31:42
  Speaker 4: be no stars.
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: So he was like he's like, I'm traveling right now,
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: I'll take a FaceTime and badly so it works.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: But yeah, that could be it, Seddie. Maybe maybe it is.
• 31:52
  Speaker 4: Maybe they are, you know, jealous of each other and
• 31:56
  Speaker 4: constantly trying to one up each other and it's never
• 31:57
  Speaker 4: going to work in a.
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: Marriage, no, never.
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: And then we also saw your relationship with your family
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: kind of play out on television and coming from some
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: you know a family where my dad you know, is
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: super successful and same same with you. And when I
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: was younger, I worked for him for a little bit.
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: I didn't last long because I was like, I get
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: that you're my boss in this moment, but like, also,
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: f off like, I can't take it from you the
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: same way that I will like go in.
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: The trenches for other people.
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: But it seems like your family did really go for
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: it and be there for you one hundred percent for
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: a while.
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: What do you think was that tipping point? Do you
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: think it was the show?
• 32:46
  Speaker 4: No, so I don't I don't feel like so okay.
• 32:48
  Speaker 4: So what people need to understand is my family and
• 32:52
  Speaker 4: I have worked together for the majority of my career
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: and I still work with my mom. My mom is
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: still my manager, Like that's still happening. I think what
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: made made the difference that people went it's on the
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: shows who were living together, like we had never all
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: lived together throughout our whole lives.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: This is you know.
• 33:08
  Speaker 4: I mean obviously when I was a kid, my mom
• 33:10
  Speaker 4: and dad, but when I went off to college, I
• 33:12
  Speaker 4: had never lived with my parents again, and so I
• 33:14
  Speaker 4: think the dynamic of us living together and working together
• 33:17
  Speaker 4: would put a real strain on the relationship. And to
• 33:21
  Speaker 4: be honest, the only one that ended and hasn't you
• 33:24
  Speaker 4: know been repaired in our working situation is my is
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: my brother in law. My sister still does my hair,
• 33:29
  Speaker 4: my mom still manages my career. They've now moved out
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: and we are happy campers. Yeah, but the conflict I
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: think just really came from us all living together and
• 33:37
  Speaker 4: being in the same space. And like my sister said
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: on the show, it's like I don't really have boundaries period.
• 33:43
  Speaker 4: This is who I am. Like I'm like, you know,
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: like why not, why can't we do this? And so
• 33:46
  Speaker 4: like with my husband, my sister, my brother in law
• 33:49
  Speaker 4: as my assistant, that felt overwhelming because I was always working.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: Them like, well, he's here, why can't we do you
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: know work?
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're you're impulsive and I want something done. I
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: want it done now, and how other people are you know?
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: I get that I can be the same way, and
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: then when people check me, I saw you get emotional
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: and I was like, shit, I get that way too,
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: because I'm not necessary. I can be abrasive and like
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: let's get shit done. But then I see it affect.
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: Somebody, and I'm like, oh shit, maybe I did. Maybe
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: I did.
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: You think people are on the same level as you,
• 34:23
  Speaker 4: and it's like the same drive and the same intensity,
• 34:26
  Speaker 4: and people aren't like people check out, you know, like
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: my brand is always on I'm working twenty four seven,
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: So I see it as like, you know, let's keep working,
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: and for other people it's like, no, this is a
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: nine to five, is a job, and I want to
• 34:38
  Speaker 4: be with my family now. And I was able to
• 34:40
  Speaker 4: see and respect that, and you I have to do
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: that with other people that don't live with me. I
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: just feel like I crossed the line with him because
• 34:46
  Speaker 4: we were in the same house.
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: You know, And you said that the only relationship not
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: repaired as him. Does that mean just in a working
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: standpoint or.
• 34:53
  Speaker 4: That's a working standpoint, just from a working stand point.
• 34:55
  Speaker 4: We haven't worked together again, but where as tight as
• 34:59
  Speaker 4: can be. Everything is great with our family. We're in
• 35:02
  Speaker 4: a great space, I said, still with my sister and
• 35:05
  Speaker 4: my mom, So that's totally fine. But it's just that
• 35:07
  Speaker 4: that relationship, we felt like it was better for us
• 35:09
  Speaker 4: to just be family and not work together.
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that makes sense.
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: And then what made you ultimately share Like you shared
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: pretty early when you got pregnant, which I completely understand
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: the excitement and all of that, and someone who came
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: from having multiple miscarriages, I immediately when you did it, like,
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: I know this sounds bad, but I was like, like
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: I had this moment of fear because I was like,
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: there were so many times that I went through IVF
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: and I would tell my family and that wasn't even
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: on national television.
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: But almost I'm curious.
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: Did it almost help you grieve better because you weren't
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: keeping that secret? I think so many of us that
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: have miscarriages keep it a secret, and then you feel
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: really alone. Whereas if you're on national television sharing it,
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: you hear how many other women have struggled with us.
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's a lot. It's a lot for us
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: to unpack.
• 36:05
  Speaker 4: So the reason I shared it early was because, like
• 36:09
  Speaker 4: you said, I was super excited. I had never had
• 36:12
  Speaker 4: a miscarriage, Teddy, I had never like every you know,
• 36:14
  Speaker 4: like if I just assumed I was gonna get pregnant
• 36:16
  Speaker 4: have the baby, like it didn't even cross my mind
• 36:18
  Speaker 4: that I could potentially not right, So that was kind
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: of naivete of my own life experiences, And so I
• 36:24
  Speaker 4: was super excited.
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: My son had wanted me to be pregnant so bad.
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: So it's just like, you know, just this overwhelming of
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: excitement moment to know in the moment.
• 36:34
  Speaker 4: And so and then also too, to be very frank
• 36:36
  Speaker 4: and honest, too, it was kind of like the payoff, right,
• 36:38
  Speaker 4: Like I last season wasn't gonna do it, and the
• 36:40
  Speaker 4: season was wrapping up, and I wanted people to know,
• 36:42
  Speaker 4: like we got to this point, and you know, so
• 36:45
  Speaker 4: it was also that too that played a part. And
• 36:47
  Speaker 4: if I wasn't filming, maybe I would have held it
• 36:49
  Speaker 4: a little bit longer. But because we were filming and
• 36:51
  Speaker 4: it was coming to an end, I thought, Man, what
• 36:52
  Speaker 4: a perfect way to share this with the world, like
• 36:54
  Speaker 4: my husband and I having another child. So there's that,
• 36:59
  Speaker 4: and then you know, when I go through the experience
• 37:01
  Speaker 4: of losing it, it was just, you know, it just
• 37:05
  Speaker 4: it just it just rips your heart out because I
• 37:06
  Speaker 4: think for most of us, when you get pregnant and
• 37:09
  Speaker 4: you decide that you're going to keep it and you're
• 37:11
  Speaker 4: going to become a mom, you feel like a mom immediately,
• 37:14
  Speaker 4: like you start to vision having that new.
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: Person in your life.
• 37:18
  Speaker 4: And I started thinking of the nursery and all these things,
• 37:20
  Speaker 4: and you kind of change immediately.
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: And so when you lose it, it's devastating.
• 37:25
  Speaker 4: And I think it was actually harder and it was
• 37:28
  Speaker 4: hard on me Teddy because so it was this was crazy.
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: Not only do I have to live it in the
• 37:33
  Speaker 4: moment where I went through this very traumatic experience of
• 37:35
  Speaker 4: having to get a blood transfusion.
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: All of that I wasn't with my husband. So I
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: come home, I have to live it again. Then it
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: comes on the show, I have to live it again,
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: and then I I'm pregnant again when the show is airing.
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: So it's like this weird space of people being like
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: congratulations and they're congration I'm sorry when I lost. Yeah.
• 37:53
  Speaker 4: So it was just it was an overwhelmingly difficult experience
• 37:57
  Speaker 4: for me. And I did get a lot of love
• 38:00
  Speaker 4: support through from a lot of women like there are
• 38:02
  Speaker 4: I mean, every other woman has had this experience. It's
• 38:05
  Speaker 4: just been insane and it makes you feel like you're
• 38:08
  Speaker 4: not alone.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: So it did help a little bit. But it was
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: also you know, moments where it was really hard because
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: of the show, you know.
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: And I think, you know, for those of you guys
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: listening who are going through these pregnancy trials and correct
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: me if I'm wrong, but I remember feeling during my
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: miscarriages for somebody who's very type A and loves to
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: win and loves to succeed and like wants to I'm
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: always hustling, and I remember with each miscarriage. I considered
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: myself a failure, like I failed at this.
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like I.
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: Couldn't do this, I couldn't accomplish this, and that guilt
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: and pain when even though it was completely out of
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: my control exactly, it really weighed on me. So it's
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: like those everybody grieves differently, but like for me, that
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: was such a huge part, Like even to my husband
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: or to my kids or my family, no matter how
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: far along I was each time. But like if you
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: really have a moment where you're like, am I not
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: good enough for this?
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, no for sure, Like am I not worthy?
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: Am I all those things? Yeah?
• 39:14
  Speaker 4: And especially like you said, a type a person who
• 39:16
  Speaker 4: you set this goal and you're gonna do it and
• 39:18
  Speaker 4: you're gonna achieve it, and then it doesn't happen.
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: It's it's crushing. But I think for me, I'm grateful.
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: Like a month later after the miscarriage, we got pregnant again,
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: so I didn't have a long time to you know,
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: be know, did.
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: You guys just start trying again or just not?
• 39:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah, so you know, I haven't any iv if anything
• 39:37
  Speaker 4: is you know, I conceive naturally both times, and I
• 39:40
  Speaker 4: remember after the miscarriage and coming home and going to
• 39:43
  Speaker 4: doctor Jackie and she said, look, you know, there's been
• 39:45
  Speaker 4: research that proves you guys can start whenever.
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: You don't have to wait. There.
• 39:48
  Speaker 4: Used to be like, oh wait, that's IOUs about wait,
• 39:51
  Speaker 4: you know, and she was like, no, if you if
• 39:54
  Speaker 4: you you know, if you're ready to go again, just
• 39:56
  Speaker 4: go again.
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: And so we went again. And I mean immediately I
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, this is insane.
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: And you do Christmas, which I have to say, your
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: kid is gonna be pissed because it means all the time.
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: My sister is born near Christmas and she's like it sucks.
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: She's like, all the gifts.
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: You get one thing.
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's but that being said, what a blessing
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: that every I mean, do you have a name?
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: Picked?
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: No?
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: No name ye?
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: Because I only had girl names in my head, I
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: was hope it's gonna be a girl.
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: You have nothing. You don't have like a top.
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: Three nothing yet. No, seriously, we don't. We're gonna start thinking.
• 40:37
  Speaker 4: About it soon, all right, you guys. A I know
• 40:41
  Speaker 4: I wanted to be an A because my Aron Aaron Aaron.
• 40:43
  Speaker 4: So I need I need an a name, A good
• 40:45
  Speaker 4: a name for a boy.
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: So, guys, when you're listening, we're gonna post this, write
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: a list of a names suggestions.
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: Do you like a more unique name or you want like.
• 40:56
  Speaker 4: No, because my son's Aaron, So I want something else unique.
• 40:59
  Speaker 4: I don't want it to be like traditionally.
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: Like my husband Andrew, like Anthony. You want something you need? Okay,
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: all right, well I'll be thinking about it.
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: My last question for you is, because I know we
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: both have to go, but what advice would you give
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: to somebody who has gone through a similar experience.
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I would tell a woman who is experiencing something similar,
• 41:27
  Speaker 4: like a miscarriage or difficulty.
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: Conceiving, to.
• 41:34
  Speaker 4: Give themself grace, you know, find a circle of women
• 41:40
  Speaker 4: that they could talk to that lift them up, and
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: to just understand that it's not their fault and it's
• 41:48
  Speaker 4: a process and at the right time they will conceive.
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: But you know, just give yourself grace, don't be too
• 41:54
  Speaker 4: hard on yourself, you know, don't center and make it
• 41:57
  Speaker 4: about you, you know, just do discontinue living your life
• 42:00
  Speaker 4: and enjoying life, and trust the process, you know, because this.
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: Too shall pass.
• 42:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and God willing, you know, God willing you'll be
• 42:09
  Speaker 4: able to conceive one day and start a family.
• 42:11
  Speaker 3: So no, that's really good advice.
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: And since since the reunion, which women do you feel
• 42:22
  Speaker 2: like you are closest with at this point? Just to
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: give us a little teaser, hoping that you know everybody's
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: back as.
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: It, Yeah, well, I'm still super close with Marlowe. You know,
• 42:33
  Speaker 4: after going through my experience, She's the one who stepped
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: up for me Teddy, she sent me uber eat, she
• 42:38
  Speaker 4: sent flowers, she came. She's just been, you know, the
• 42:41
  Speaker 4: one that's just really been there for me. So I
• 42:43
  Speaker 4: would say Marlowe, I'm the closest to I still.
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: The funny thing is I can pick on the phone
• 42:48
  Speaker 4: and call any of the girls. Candy and I are cool.
• 42:51
  Speaker 4: I talked to Kenya the other day. I check I
• 42:53
  Speaker 4: check on Drew regularly because she's always on my heart.
• 42:57
  Speaker 4: I just feel so bad for her situation and Surann
• 42:59
  Speaker 4: I great.
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: So I'm really good with everybody.
• 43:01
  Speaker 4: I'm probably I'm closest tomorlow undeniably, but I feel like,
• 43:05
  Speaker 4: you know, I can reach out to any of them
• 43:07
  Speaker 4: and they pick up my calls and we can talk
• 43:09
  Speaker 4: and there's no you know, big tension there. So you know,
• 43:12
  Speaker 4: I still feel really good with all the girls. I'm
• 43:14
  Speaker 4: just closest.
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: Tomorlow are Ralph Andrews still living together in the same house.
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: They're in the same house still.
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: And he's in the bunk room or whatever.
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess he's in the basement.
• 43:24
  Speaker 4: Like they have a beautiful home and yeah, yeah, I
• 43:27
  Speaker 4: think I think he's in the basement.
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: I guess.
• 43:29
  Speaker 4: I didn't ask her, like I know he's not in
• 43:31
  Speaker 4: the bedroom. But the last time I talked to her,
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: which is probably a couple days ago, I was like,
• 43:35
  Speaker 4: oh really, and she's like, I'm like.
• 43:38
  Speaker 3: That would be hard.
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: Fuck, Oh my gosh. He hasn't left. Like I know
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: me and Ross were going through he'd have been like.
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, Like if we were at that point, there's
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: and I don't care. If I had to move my
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: ass into a one bedroom apartment with all my kids,
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: are like, get away from me.
• 43:55
  Speaker 4: Exactly me too. I would not be looking at you
• 43:58
  Speaker 4: every day, sir. It would not happen.
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: No, I wouldn't want to see it. I don't want
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: to know when you're coming home. I don't know when
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: you're coming back.
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: I don't want to see your face.
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: Either me either I would. I would I'm just like
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: you have with my mom and my daddy, or in
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: a one bedroom if I had to. But I'm not
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: going to be sitting in this house with you.
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: No, no, no, no.
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: So I mean everyone's different, But to me, I think
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: that's harder on the kids to see that separation than
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: just saying it's not working between us anymore.
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: We both love it. You were both there for you.
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: But oh, one last fan question.
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: Sure, we did hear that the fans have been thirsting
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: over your husband.
• 44:39
  Speaker 3: Me too, honey, do you check his Insta? Does he
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: get any shady dms?
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: No?
• 44:48
  Speaker 4: No, you know, it's so funny because my husband is
• 44:51
  Speaker 4: like the most chill guy. Like there'll be videos that
• 44:54
  Speaker 4: people will create and I'll show me. He's like, he's
• 44:57
  Speaker 4: so embarrassed. He's like, my guys, it's so embarrass said,
• 45:01
  Speaker 4: it's crazy. You know, he's so modest. But no, nothing crazy.
• 45:06
  Speaker 4: He has come in the DMS no text messages. People
• 45:09
  Speaker 4: have been respectful, although certainly let me know that they
• 45:12
  Speaker 4: think he's hot stuff all the time.
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: Well let's just keep it, let's keep him humble. So
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: you check him from time to time.
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: Oh, I do, don't you worry.
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: And if you guys were to do a race right now,
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: do you think you could beat him?
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: Well, you know, I'm six months pregnant, so he would definitely.
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: I forgot Fine, I'll.
• 45:34
  Speaker 3: Check you in a year and see what you said.
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: All right, Well, thank you so much for joining us
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: and sharing your experience, and we look forward to hopefully
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: seeing you next year.
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: Yes, me too. And are you on vacation honey, because
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: I'm like, where are you?
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: Oh? I'm in Cabo right now on my all in
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: my coaches had like a thing that they ended up winning.
• 45:54
  Speaker 3: So the top six coaches in my company, I took
• 45:57
  Speaker 3: them to Cabo. So we're here.
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: Oh nice, yeah's funny. Jealous.
• 46:02
  Speaker 3: I know.
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: I'm in a little bit of heaven. I have my
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: aperall spreads, my iced tea.
• 46:07
  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh.
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: My goodness, I love it. Well, enjoy, enjoy.
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: First, thanks for having me.
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: Bye,