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What the hell happened to education, work, and just… figuring life out? · Cannabis School

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  So to kind of continue our conversation we were having
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  before. Yeah.
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  So here, here's a thought and we'll, and we'll go back and
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  forth on this. So the, the thought that I have
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  is, yes, I believe that our education system sucks.
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  I believe that the, but it's like a relationship in many
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  ways. If both sides aren't engaged,
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  it's not going to work. And I understand like the, I
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  agree. I think that the education
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  system, the way it's been taught forever is we already saw the
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  cracks in it into the 80s, late 70s, like where education really
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  wasn't serving people because the idea was you go to school,
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  you get educated, you go to college, you get further
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  educated, then you go into the workforce.
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  It still stands the test of time that if you have a college
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  education, mind you what field you're in, but if you have a
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  college education, you're more than likely to have a long term
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  job. At least that's the way it used
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  to be. Now you just get paid a little
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  bit more at work. My wife works at a place and she
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  makes certain amount, but her coworkers make about four more
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  dollars an hour. She does the same job.
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  Yeah, but because she has a degree, they have a degree and
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  they're bullshit degrees. Well, Alec, before he completed
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  his bachelor's he had, he was working at the same company not
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  as he is now, but then and as soon as he completed his
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  bachelor's he basically got a 10,000 a year bonus.
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  That was it. It didn't make it any more
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  effective, didn't help him get a job because he didn't have the
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  degree to start with. So it really now is just like,
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  oh, OK, cool, you got educated, here's a little pay bump or
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  here's a little bonus. I actually saw the like when
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  we're talking, I mean that it's more in the, in the public
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  sector that I see that with public sector mean government
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  being state and federal, any education system.
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  No, but that's the thing like I'm saying like when you, when
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  you see those things, you, you tend to see that kind of thing.
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  Now with certain companies, they will actually do that.
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  Now modern day companies, even the larger companies, they
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  don't. I want you to have a college
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  education. You know, it's been crazy in my
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  job search is I'm looking at like account management,
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  customer success, people, sides of things.
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  There are some that I've looked at or applied for where they're
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  going, hey, we require you to have a master's and I'm like,
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  why the fuck would you need a master's for this position?
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  That's such overkill and such a waste.
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  Well, and Speaking of masters, right, so the connect I'm, I'm
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  calling it the connection world. I'm all in on the connection
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  side, but my friend Bree, who is the one who helps run these
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  events, right, the Thursday's events, she tells me I want to
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  go back to school and get my MBA.
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  And I'm like, why? And she said well to to have an
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  education. Seriously.
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  In the business world. It doesn't.
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  An MBA is a master's and entrepreneurial.
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  Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Why?
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  Why is it for other people to feel like they'll take her?
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  Well, you think about it, dude, like it's, no, it's everybody I
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  know who's got an MBA. Does she want to have a better
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  understanding of business like entrepreneurship?
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  Because if so, true. Didn't do it.
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  Or get mentors from really successful business owners or
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  people who have. Gone.
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  That doesn't happen anymore. A matter of fact, they did a
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  whole on that mentors a lot of these business owners and stuff
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  like that. They don't want a fucking mentor
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  a kid because they're like, So what?
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  You just want to learn from me. I think what it's going back to
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  is internships. Go over and tell them, look, I'm
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  willing to do anything for this company so that I can learn it.
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  And as a young person you should do that regardless of whatever
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  they say. Like what's your education?
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  What they want to know is, are you willing to stay?
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  Because right now the shift is going towards older people being
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  hired because one, they already have an education 2.
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  They already have work ethic 3. How long do they stay at a job
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  versus? I'd be curious.
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  I don't know the statistics on it.
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  And maybe if one of you people have looked or researched into
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  this, maybe you can comment below, but maybe you can, I
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  don't know. There's got to be a percentage
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  of like how long people stay at a job in each like age
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  demographic. Oh yeah, older they stay.
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  And obviously you mean most of those were you get older and
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  older, they're used to pensions and retirements and you work at
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  a company and. You, yeah.
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  Yeah. So then you have all of those
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  and most of those, either they've got a pension or
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  retirement or they built a business.
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  A lot of the boomers are in that that realm.
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  So then they're teaching their kids, oh, you got to do this and
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  you get this and this. And so there's some of those in
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  there that are that, and then others have a gun.
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  That's not what we've seen in our life.
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  No, well, I mean, and it's, there's a lot of different
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  factors, I think sociologically, economically that have affected
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  that one. But one thing that I saw, which
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  is really ridiculous in a in a guy who's a content creator,
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  Mike Rowe, Dirty Jobs, he has his voice, you know, that really
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  low voice. No, but I do know The Dirty
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  jobs. I've seen a couple of them in my
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  lifetime. So Mike Rowe is on this quest to
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  get more people to just take jobs?
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  Not necessarily where we have come into this Society of what
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  we think is cool and valuable. Yeah.
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  And back in the day, it didn't matter what you did.
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  You did something that was valuable, right?
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  You provided a service to the community and the economy on top
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  of it. But that's the problem is those
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  people probably saw their job as being valuable, whereas now how
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  many of us see our jobs as truly being valuable versus we go into
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  work going, hey, this is what I'm telling myself so that I can
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  drink the kool-aid to do this because otherwise my mind's
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  going, why the fuck are you doing this?
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  This doesn't feel like you. This doesn't resonate with you.
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  You don't believe in this shit. You're just selling it because
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  you need a paycheck. Every one of us have done that
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  going, you know. All of us do it.
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  Yeah, all of us do it. And that's the problem is that
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  what do we consider valuable in society?
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  We we give money freely to content creators that create
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  conflict. Yeah, you don't see those who do
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  a lot of really good get a lot of attention and money.
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  But those who create conflict, tons of money.
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  Look at anybody. Gets pushed and let's Yeah.
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  Well, I mean, dude, like you look at like I'm, I'm fascinated
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  with human connection. So which puts me as an observer
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  in both areas, like the, let's take for instance, the event I
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  was at and this will go right into our education talk break.
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  Because some of the things that we're seeing in in our society
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  right now is not only that men are not getting educated as much
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  anymore, but they're, it really goes based on the definition of
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  unemployed. So there's two different
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  definitions of unemployed. Unemployed is you're looking for
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  a job, you don't have a job, but you're looking for a job.
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  And then the other employed is don't have a job and not looking
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  for a job. OK, massive amount of men today
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  not looking for jobs. Not looking for jobs.
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  So my guess is they are at that point, you're probably not
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  getting a lot of government assistance.
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  You're probably living off family.
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  No, they can get government assistance small amount.
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  Enough. Enough to live though if they're
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  not act like working at all. Well, before, yes.
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  So for, I would say for the last like 12 years, you've been able
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  to get on to the public system. That's going to, if we have a
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  lot of men who aren't working and aren't looking and it's not
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  available, like able to provide for them, that's going to be
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  horrendous. Well, we're already seeing the
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  effect on our economy, right? Well, on our way of life because
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  one, do you know there's a shortage?
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  It's a, it's a massive shortage. I don't want to be hyperbolic of
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  it. So we're going to put it into
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  the fours. It's either 40,000.
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  No, no, I could say that it's around 400,000 mechanics.
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  We are short across the country. They have to say that close.
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  Bays now that sucks because we do not live in a predominantly
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  electric world. No, but even those still need
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  mechanics. 100%. So it's still, it's this
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  physical labor, all of these physical labour jobs are
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  becoming these really high paid skills now because.
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  What did it used to be? It was the shit.
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  Job of the low. You're a mechanic, you're a,
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  you're an electronic worker. It's.
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  Different which? Is funny.
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  It's different if you own the company, yes.
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  Because I was like Mike, I saw the other side of it of like,
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  oh, my grandpa built all of this shit and now my dad was a
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  general and they did OK. Like it's just a very different
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  thing to see that. But then hear the perspective of
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  like, well, you're this or it's this, and it's like so.
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  But that's the thing, dude, there's a lot of jobs that are
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  not fulfilled. And the reason why, and I put it
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  on to this, right, where somebody had an agenda at one
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  point and was able to utilize the gamification of the system,
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  such as social media to be able to get that out there.
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  This whole thing about equal rights, that that door swings
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  both ways. Where I do believe that women
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  need to have certain rights, but men have been put into this
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  position where if you're not doing the like.
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  There's gender roles that have been so pushed in every side
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  that it's like there should be an acceptance of the equality.
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  Like you said, both ways to go, Hey, there is some ability for a
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  man to go. I don't need to fit in this box.
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  And do all this and I'm going to push back on you on that because
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  sociologically we're seeing a decline in population because of
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  this reasons. You know, the the whole bit like
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  lat like here. And I'll give this as a very
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  solid point from what I'm seeing from other people and what I
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  talked to, because I was interviewing all that, there was
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  over 100 people that showed up to this dating thing.
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  OK, men are not approaching women.
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  Yeah, not because they're scared, but it's because they've
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  been consistently told that you are not to approach them.
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  You are not to talk to them. Because women will find.
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  Oh dude. Look, you told.
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  You will find it in sociological studies and experiments, social
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  experiments that are done to watch what happens because men
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  and women are treated very differently on that one.
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  But men like what you were saying, like the man doesn't
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  have to be this role and the woman can provide.
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  But what they see is there's a mass amount of women who are
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  well educated, well employed, very.
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  Not even talking about it's providing Oh no meaning that we
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  fit the male like everyone into these very specific boxes of
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  like what it has to be, whether it's how they act, how they
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  dress, how they, whether there's a provider or like.
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  Let's talk about because I want your.
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  Like you said it, so I want both ways.
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  Well, so you're looking for an equality that you said you're
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  finding men don't have? I don't think that people have
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  equality, I think it's just based off the individual.
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  They don't. That's what they're looking for
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  is more of a balanced equality. Well, but that's the thing.
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  Balanced equality is a myth. There is no.
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  Equality doesn't exist, No. That's what they're wanting,
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  right? Is equality.
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  Exactly. But no to that one.
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  Like the standards, like women want men to approach them and
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  they want men to care about how they take care of themselves and
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  and not focus on their jobs. Most of these women could give a
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  shit about that because they're so lonely.
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  Because this social idea of the sixes, like the this thing I
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  read about in that book where the sixes, this is what men
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  think women want. You got to have, you got to be
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  over 6 feet tall, you got to have a six figure income and you
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  got to have a six inch Dick. These are the three things,
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  right? So these are the thing that
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  social influencers have been teaching people.
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  And so the men believe if I don't measure up to these three
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  things, I'm not gonna be able to talk to them.
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  But that women don't care about that because.
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  So they things they've taken from society and stuff that they
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  go, hey, I can't do this perception.
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  Yeah, it's their perception from society that they've pulled in
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  going I can't do this. Yes, yeah, yes.
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  So it's a self-imposed limit from society that they've
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  gathered going I can't do this because this is what I've
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  perceived society has told me I can do.
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  Right. It's like having a super car and
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  then only driving 110 miles an hour and you go, wait a minute,
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  why can't you go over 110? Well, it has a governor on it,
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  but every you ever pushed it past that?
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  No, I don't want to do that. You're right.
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  Here's the level and you're like, wait a minute, but you
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  could do so much more. And and the other thing that
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  women are just like small talk. Men try too hard for small talk
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  and the reasons why. For smell.
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  Oh, like that's all they know how to do.
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  Well, here's another thing. Have you ever heard of the term
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  nagging? Yeah.
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  What is it? So there's a show called The
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  League and there's a guy who nags and he'll be like, oh, this
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  is how you get girls. Watch me nug him.
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  And so he's at the bar and he's like, hey, nice pants.
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  They make your ass like fat. And then she walks off and she's
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  like pig. And he's like, she'll be back by
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  the end of the night. See, what's really funny?
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  Oh God, is that you think it's it's, it's a total joke, but
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  it's real. Oh, I believe it.
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  I watched it. They're happening doing that
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  stupid. Shit, dude, this guy comes over
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  there and just start. I built these Brie and I built
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  these profiles down from shapes because shapes is like 5 to 6
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  pages long. Oh yeah, it's really in depth
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  and people go like, I don't have time for that.
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  We narrowed it down to one page that's looked about this big
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  perfect. And you get a sticker over
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  there. You you lose your name and dude,
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  it was so cool. Not one phone is really out
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  there was like a few side people.
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  But what I would do is if I saw you on the outside, I went over
• 18:56
  there and I'm like, what? I was like your arrow.
• 18:58
  There's a lot of arrows and rectangles there.
• 19:01
  On the sides. No, just a lot like no, I just
• 19:05
  see. I'm like, hey, let me see your
• 19:06
  shape, K. You're most connected to these
• 19:08
  ones based on the vibe I'm getting with you.
• 19:10
  Come with me and then I would go you guys match, start asking
• 19:13
  questions and they'd swap and I built in all of the small talk
• 19:18
  and they're really easy. But you're saying like they're
• 19:21
  leaning into the small talk or like they push too hard for the
• 19:24
  small? Talk.
• 19:24
  No, they, they, they try to bypass it and think they're
• 19:27
  being funny. One of the questions was how do
• 19:30
  you stay on top of everything in your life?
• 19:33
  And this is for an arrow shape. Arrows are always about getting
• 19:37
  shit done for them, right. So it's a important thing.
• 19:40
  Very good Small talk. Yeah.
• 19:42
  It's like, oh wait a minute, you really want to know what's going
• 19:45
  on my head? You know what he says to her?
• 19:48
  No like how do you stayed on top of things and she goes beer
• 19:51
  creep and walked away? Yeah, that's stupid.
• 19:54
  Though that's part of that nagging where they think that's
• 19:57
  OK. And then the other part was the
• 19:59
  Lonely Hearts Club. That's what I call them.
• 20:01
  These are the guys with this face.
• 20:03
  Oh, the what was me? Yeah.
• 20:05
  Head down really frustrated and I just go over there and say,
• 20:08
  hey, what's let me see your shape.
• 20:10
  And I'm like, OK. And he's like, well, I've talked
• 20:12
  to all these ones. I said, let me give you some
• 20:14
  advice real quick, OK? He's like, OK, I'm feeling your
• 20:17
  hostility right now. Have you tried smiling?
• 20:20
  And he's like, well, and I'm like, but I know you're lonely
• 20:23
  and I know this is really difficult, but this was like
• 20:27
  what, 15 bucks tonight for the possibility of meeting your
• 20:30
  future. Do not expect it to happen
• 20:33
  tonight. Come here, learn more about you,
• 20:35
  learn more about people. And I said, how many commerce,
• 20:38
  dude? Because I would wager the most
• 20:40
  of those lonely people really struggle with connecting dude.
• 20:44
  And so you can't jump into it going, Hey, I don't really know
• 20:47
  how to talk to anyone yet. I don't know how to build this
• 20:50
  relationship or this connection, but I need it now.
• 20:52
  So I hope this 15 bucks gives me this answer that I'm looking for
• 20:56
  it like it's, it's a great starting point.
• 20:58
  It's a great place to go. Hey, I can learn how to connect,
• 21:01
  how to find people I might really connect well with.
• 21:04
  And maybe in a couple times of this, I'll feel more confident,
• 21:07
  I'll feel more connected. I'll, I'll have a couple people
• 21:10
  that I recognize and I'll go, Hey, Oh my gosh.
• 21:13
  And I'll come with a happier energy or a more positive energy
• 21:16
  or you know, because that takes a huge role into it.
• 21:19
  Well. Dude, it was the funniest thing.
• 21:21
  So that night there were probably about, I would say 25
• 21:25
  Arrow guys and you could tell who they look like.
• 21:28
  They look like an hourglass. I mean at the top.
• 21:32
  Oh, so they skipped leg day? They have no, no, they're very
• 21:35
  athletic people, but you can tell their shoulders.
• 21:37
  You said hourglass. I'm just picturing like really
• 21:39
  square shoulders and then tiny. So they like, then they go down
• 21:42
  like these guys are incredibly athletic.
• 21:44
  They have high cheekbones. They always have this look of
• 21:47
  predator, like they're looking for their next prey.
• 21:50
  They're very diligent people and they want time to be respected.
• 21:56
  And they were there, dude, and it was so funny because you
• 21:59
  could physically see them. My high ass was like did I push
• 22:02
  record? I know dude.
• 22:03
  I was like, I I know what he's doing.
• 22:05
  This is good shit. Yes, I did push record.
• 22:07
  But but OK, anyways, so to go back to the original point
• 22:11
  though, that even with the arrows, one of the things that
• 22:13
  was cool about it is that I could see them physically based
• 22:16
  on their traits, who they were and what they were looking for.
• 22:19
  And what was great the feedback was from women was this was so
• 22:24
  awesome. I got AI got got to talk to four
• 22:27
  guys that gave me their, I got their number.
• 22:29
  I gave him my number. There was 9 couples that left
• 22:32
  and I'm like, and I told him I'm like, hey, if you meet somebody
• 22:36
  awesome tonight, do not sleep with them.
• 22:38
  Please do not sleep with them. Do not fuck this night up with
• 22:42
  just trying to get yours. Go home, flick the bean or jerk
• 22:46
  your Gurgan because that is, you know, jerk off.
• 22:50
  Then make a decision. That was always like, my OK, I'm
• 22:53
  going on a first date, take care of that.
• 22:54
  Then I'm not going to be thinking about like, oh, look at
• 22:56
  this. I'm just like.
• 22:57
  High school would have been. So much better on thinking about
• 23:00
  like, I'm going to connect with this person, see who they are as
• 23:03
  a human. Do I actually like them?
• 23:05
  Is that like, I'm not just here because I'm like, oh man, yeah,
• 23:08
  that would be fun. Like, no, no, I want to get to
• 23:11
  know who this human is. And so like, yeah, it's.
• 23:16
  That's what's been cool, but the thing that I I really saw that
• 23:20
  was difficult is that men, it's not that they're scared is that
• 23:23
  they've never been shown how and you think about it, there's a
• 23:27
  few that. Would come without them, I
• 23:28
  think. A few a.
• 23:30
  Fear of the unknown. Because it's like, but it's a
• 23:32
  fear because look on my generation and you, you the Gen.
• 23:38
  Z, like my generation, your generation, we were modeled on
• 23:43
  how you interact with people. And here's how I know we were
• 23:46
  modeled even more through our media.
• 23:49
  I look up a lot of things on dating now and connection.
• 23:53
  I'm trying to get a sense of other concepts and ideas.
• 23:57
  I don't ever believe that I've got all of it together.
• 24:00
  All I've done is I'm really good at putting pieces of puzzles
• 24:03
  together and I'm like, oh, this fits for me.
• 24:06
  Can it help somebody else? And if it's helping them, I'm
• 24:08
  like, cool. But I don't believe that my idea
• 24:11
  is the idea, right? That's like having the all true
• 24:14
  church, right? This is the true Church of God.
• 24:18
  Like I'm like, yeah, yeah, take a big step back, buddy.
• 24:21
  That's that's pretty, that's pretty bold.
• 24:24
  But it's to continuously learn more and I think that by
• 24:29
  learning more about human connection, it's helped me to be
• 24:32
  better to myself and and not be so hard on myself.
• 24:36
  I lost my job and do people from my work or calling me like hey
• 24:40
  man, how you doing like that Like I just found out I have
• 24:44
  like I have ball. Cancer or something and your dog
• 24:46
  dies or. If I had testicular cancer,
• 24:49
  dude, I would talk to my friend. I'd be like, bro, are you all
• 24:51
  right? I'd be like, I mean, I'd call
• 24:53
  and go like bro, how you not as like I can imagine that would
• 24:56
  just be. Yeah, dude.
• 24:57
  Like that guy's going to be on T for the rest of his life.
• 25:00
  He needs to. James has one ball, half ball,
• 25:02
  so. Yeah, and it's like, you know,
• 25:04
  you don't, you don't look at him as half a man, but I mean, to
• 25:07
  him, he looks it that way because you walk around that.
• 25:10
  It's a stigma. We can come with it.
• 25:12
  It was. I don't even know why we're
• 25:13
  talking about one another. I don't know either, but before
• 25:16
  I got snipped I was concerned that I would feel like less of a
• 25:19
  man. It was like oh shit is this
• 25:20
  going to affect this? Like dude.
• 25:22
  And that's not social, that's that is biological.
• 25:26
  I was 25 and every doctor, every nurse, my mom, everyone was
• 25:31
  like, you sure you want to do this?
• 25:33
  Like you're super young. You only have I have two kids.
• 25:35
  I'm like, yeah, but I have two kids.
• 25:36
  My wife at the time, they're like, oh, if you have more, she
• 25:39
  could die. I'm like, well that doesn't make
• 25:41
  sense to. Me, I didn't know that.
• 25:43
  I didn't know that. Yeah, Addison was born.
• 25:46
  She had pregnancy induced pancreatitis and they said that
• 25:50
  if she got pregnant again there was a good possibility that her
• 25:54
  and the baby could die. And I was like well I that
• 25:57
  doesn't seem worth it to me. I already have two kids why
• 25:59
  would I chance that? Why would I chance losing my
• 26:02
  wife and kid? That was stupid.
• 26:04
  Sense. So I got snipped.
• 26:07
  It was like, this is a no brainer.
• 26:09
  I can go do this. It's outpatient.
• 26:11
  Like I don't have to get put under it's.
• 26:12
  Yeah, you trade it in your real gun for a squirt gun.
• 26:15
  So it was like, oh, shit, like this is going to be but
• 26:17
  everyone, my mom, my mom and I was like, you love kids.
• 26:20
  You're such a good dad. I can't imagine you not having
• 26:23
  more kids. And I was like, no, I love my
• 26:25
  kids and I have nieces and nephews.
• 26:27
  I don't need more kids. I can love people.
• 26:29
  I don't. That's cool.
• 26:30
  And so I got snipped and then a year later we got divorced.
• 26:36
  You know what, dude? I mean one, I appreciate you
• 26:39
  sharing that with me, dude. I really do.
• 26:40
  Because now that makes me understand you more.
• 26:43
  I that's something I haven't known about you at all, which is
• 26:46
  crazy. We've known each other for over
• 26:48
  a decade. And just saying that like you
• 26:51
  know, before I want to tell you what my assumption was, is that
• 26:55
  you were like, yeah, I don't want any more fucking kids.
• 26:58
  I can't stand this shit. Like 2 of them are enough and I
• 27:01
  thought they were dumb for selfish reasons.
• 27:03
  And then knowing your ex-wife, I'd be like, yeah, she could be
• 27:06
  like that and she'd be like, no, I just want to be an egg
• 27:08
  harvesting factory. Yeah, she.
• 27:10
  Was doing eggs so many times yeah, because she made a lot of
• 27:13
  money doing. It yeah, and she would just buy
• 27:15
  shit. Random fucking hairless cats.
• 27:18
  Yeah, but I mean, unless you've got like hairless cats then.
• 27:22
  I liked having no hair on the House.
• 27:24
  It was like, oh this is great. That was my.
• 27:26
  Oh, she got electrolysis. No, that was my that was my
• 27:29
  compromise for having a cat because I didn't know declawing
• 27:31
  was inhumane and they still did it at the time.
• 27:34
  So I was like, well, if it has no claws and it has no hair,
• 27:37
  then it's not climbing up furniture and it isn't going to
• 27:40
  shed. So yeah, those are my only.
• 27:41
  Concerns. You took everything away from
• 27:43
  that cat. And I mean, it was a naked
• 27:45
  hairless cat and it was named Dobby and he was a fucking
• 27:48
  weird. I hope I loved him in his own
• 27:50
  way. He felt like a microwave suede
• 27:52
  couch. Oh, gross.
• 27:54
  But a? Microwave suede cat.
• 27:57
  What the fuck? Oh, I can feel it in my brain.
• 28:01
  Dude, what the fuck? Gross.
• 28:04
  He was a goofy guy. He always had that look of this
• 28:07
  state on his face, right? He's like, I've got no balls, no
• 28:10
  claws and no hair. Fuck you all.
• 28:13
  And they've named me Dobby, like.
• 28:15
  And for some reason I'm wearing a God damn sock.
• 28:18
  Oh my God, that's so fucking funny.
• 28:21
  Yeah ohh. Like, that's like the ultimate
• 28:23
  humiliated dog just, you know, And they feel that shit too,
• 28:28
  Dude. I remember my brother when we
• 28:30
  were growing up, I had this dog named Webster and he was just.
• 28:33
  Webster, Webster and Cohen. No, there was OK, in the 80s
• 28:37
  there was this TV show called Webster.
• 28:39
  It was about this Midget black kid living with this white
• 28:42
  family that adopted him and they were like really rich.
• 28:45
  It was a very wholesome show. Like today everybody be like,
• 28:49
  they're fucking racist. So like, are you kidding me?
• 28:52
  They brought this, they adopted this kid, gave him a great life
• 28:55
  about that. Today, it'd be like, well,
• 28:57
  you're taking him away from his culture and all this other
• 28:59
  stuff. Like you'll see that because.
• 29:01
  Like it happens in the story. Yeah, like he's an Uncle Tom all
• 29:04
  of a sudden. Like, oh, you're all about white
• 29:07
  folk. Like, no, just good people.
• 29:09
  That's what the 80s shows were about.
• 29:10
  It was good people. I used to love watching The
• 29:12
  Cosby Show growing up. It's the most wholesome show.
• 29:15
  It's about a psychotic. You don't.
• 29:17
  I know I've seen it like a couple episodes, but I don't
• 29:20
  remember a lot of it. So even though Bill Cosby was
• 29:23
  roofing and diddling people over there, let's let's remove that
• 29:27
  and let's just talk about the character that he played was
• 29:29
  Doctor Huxtable. He was a a family psychologist
• 29:33
  and every episode was a way of navigating troubles in life.
• 29:38
  And he didn't always do things perfect.
• 29:40
  He messed up all the time. That was part of the comedic
• 29:42
  thing of the show. I mean, that's human.
• 29:45
  Don't we all? But the kids weren't focused on
• 29:47
  their culture, they're focused on being an American or just
• 29:50
  being in society. Interesting.
• 29:52
  Like it wasn't about, you know, they, I mean, yeah, part of the
• 29:57
  black culture was in it because it was still there.
• 30:00
  But it wasn't about the culture of being black.
• 30:03
  It was about the culture of being an American.
• 30:05
  I think it was at the time that the country was a lot more
• 30:08
  patriotic as well as a whole that you did see a lot more of
• 30:12
  that that just came out in TV shows, movies, just it was more
• 30:16
  of that. I don't remember growing up.
• 30:18
  I mean, people go, oh, you, you've never watched.
• 30:20
  Like, you know, everything's all about black and white.
• 30:23
  But it wasn't back then. Like I remember there was a show
• 30:26
  called Family Members. I don't remember The Karate Kid,
• 30:28
  those are clearly Asians. Oh dude, it wasn't.
• 30:31
  The Asians, dude, that, that is the most multicultural show
• 30:34
  ever. You've got Aryan dudes, right?
• 30:37
  They're the Cobra Kai, right? So they're all, you know, Ash,
• 30:40
  did you know they're all high Hitler, right?
• 30:43
  And. I've been watching that.
• 30:45
  And then, oh, the new show. The A man in the High Castle.
• 30:49
  Oh, I haven't seen that. Is it good?
• 30:50
  I know it's like a, it's, it's like, it's like Wolfenstein.
• 30:54
  It's like, what if the Germans? And the Germans and Japanese had
• 30:57
  won World War Two. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 30:59
  And it's just a very interesting show so far.
• 31:02
  Emily told me it's based on a book.
• 31:04
  And I was like, oh, I didn't know that.
• 31:05
  So now I'm curious to read the book and see if it's like, how
• 31:08
  far off? Well, how far off of that it is.
• 31:11
  Yeah. Yeah, it's it's super.
• 31:14
  So you have cover guy, you have your SO It was very mixed.
• 31:17
  Well, yeah, do, because Daniel Larusso is an Italian kid from
• 31:21
  Jersey, and now he's in California.
• 31:23
  And then his girlfriend is just like, white of white girls,
• 31:26
  blonde hair, white skin, tan, but, you know, played by
• 31:30
  Elizabeth Shue back in the day. Woof.
• 31:33
  I don't know who that is. Woof.
• 31:34
  But yeah, it was this whole like and and you know, the whole
• 31:38
  thing of why they were fighting, it wasn't because he was
• 31:40
  Italian. It was that he was in new in
• 31:44
  town and you don't talk to my girl.
• 31:46
  Like it was just like the most and and there was a black kid
• 31:50
  who was on the team and and there was.
• 31:51
  There's always a token black kid.
• 31:53
  No, but I mean, like in California you grew up with a
• 31:57
  lot of black people, white people, Asian people, Hispanic
• 32:00
  people. I mean, California was the
• 32:03
  melting pot of. Colonel, we weren't.
• 32:06
  'Cause I mean, do you? Go to bars when you were young,
• 32:09
  right? Like we had here.
• 32:11
  Like you probably we had some Polynesians, we had maybe a 2
• 32:16
  Asians. Very few Japanese.
• 32:19
  Did you have any like African Americans at all?
• 32:22
  Two. OK, so there was a couple when
• 32:24
  you were young. I was like, I knew just a couple
• 32:26
  when I was growing up. But there were like, it wasn't a
• 32:30
  very diverse melting pot. It's gotten more over the.
• 32:32
  Year. It was predominantly white when
• 32:34
  I was growing up. But where do you think around
• 32:36
  the country is the least diverse?
• 32:39
  Black communities, you take areas.
• 32:42
  That there's no. White people.
• 32:44
  But could there be Hispanics or Islanders or like Asians or like
• 32:49
  they might still have diversity, it just kind.
• 32:51
  Of feel like those who have darker skin, you know, and I
• 32:55
  speak from coming from that descent.
• 32:57
  Like, I mean, you tend to hang out with people who are
• 33:02
  different tone of skin. It's, you know, it's not
• 33:05
  necessarily racism. Like when I grew up and going to
• 33:08
  high school here in Utah, I went to Mountain View High School and
• 33:12
  let me take a puff and pass. Oh, you're good.
• 33:14
  There were two different areas. When you come in through the
• 33:17
  front doors and they would kind of go off.
• 33:19
  You remember a Mountain View high school, OK, So when you go
• 33:22
  through and it has the big Mountain View circle thing down
• 33:24
  there and all that, there were two bars like areas where you
• 33:29
  could stand and they were just there in case there was a
• 33:32
  gathering people and you didn't fall off like a 2 foot drop on
• 33:35
  the hard floor. But just these are the rail
• 33:38
  riders. So the kids, they were all the
• 33:42
  white kids who played sports. Interesting.
• 33:45
  On the left side and on the right side was Multicultural
• 33:49
  Club. It was everybody who was Indian,
• 33:52
  Hispanic and Native American. We didn't.
• 33:55
  I didn't mean I didn't know any Hindu kids growing.
• 33:57
  Up. I knew one.
• 33:58
  Yeah. I didn't know.
• 33:59
  He moved in in 6th grade. Oh, that's cool.
• 34:01
  Yeah. Had a turban and everything,
• 34:03
  like that's cool, come on. I don't know how I remember
• 34:06
  that. I love cold.
• 34:07
  I haven't seen him it since junior high.
• 34:09
  Probably like I do too. I think it's really the older
• 34:13
  I've gotten, the more I love people and where they come from
• 34:16
  and their culture and what makes them unique because all of us
• 34:19
  are so fucking unique. Well, and that's the thing, like
• 34:22
  when people give shade to like a certain type of tattoo style,
• 34:26
  like if you're getting like island tattoos and stuff like
• 34:30
  that, you appreciate a culture. Yeah, you're, you're, you're
• 34:33
  appreciating, you know, people go, you're appropriating a
• 34:36
  culture. No, you're appreciating a
• 34:38
  culture. I think that's appreciation.
• 34:40
  Yeah, I think, I don't think. You got you got stock on all
• 34:43
  that, Like like you got the IP rights on that going.
• 34:46
  I'm going to sue you for fucking wearing a certain thing, talking
• 34:48
  to certain. I think it's because everyone
• 34:50
  perpetuates like us and. That's what they say dude. 80s
• 34:53
  and 90s TV shows were. Modeling can't imagine how the
• 34:57
  African American, I mean, I mean, I can I can't imagine how
• 35:00
  the African American kids felt here.
• 35:03
  Not actually, no, I can't. They have a lot more history
• 35:06
  stuff that I have not ever like familial stuff.
• 35:09
  And not that I've never had to deal with my family never had to
• 35:12
  deal with. And so, but like I went through
• 35:15
  Missouri or Kansas or all of that with my kids and driving
• 35:19
  back, it was just the three of us and we went into this area
• 35:21
  that seemed sketchy and not safe.
• 35:24
  And I would everyone there was was darker skin, every single
• 35:27
  one. We were the only white people in
• 35:29
  the entire town and we got the weirdest looks.
• 35:32
  And I'm like, this is got to suck because for all those kids
• 35:35
  who are in a different community where they're not feeling like
• 35:38
  they're part of it to be so ostracized or like looked at
• 35:42
  like, what are you doing here? I can't like.
• 35:44
  Yeah, but you don't. Feel so hard as a kid to grow up
• 35:48
  that way. Well, and and you got to take, I
• 35:50
  mean, even back during the 60s when it was super like
• 35:54
  segregation was at its end and people were fighting in the
• 35:58
  streets for equality. I mean, not seeing skin color.
• 36:02
  That's the thing. That was the whole purpose of
• 36:04
  it. You know, Martin Luther King
• 36:05
  wasn't talking about like, yeah, you know, as long as you guys
• 36:08
  hang out with your colors and we hang out with our colors, but we
• 36:11
  can drink from the same fountain.
• 36:12
  He wasn't saying shit. Like he was saying we need to
• 36:15
  unit that you need to be together.
• 36:16
  Like, I don't see that. Like you look at the movies from
• 36:20
  like the 80s and 90s was a racism.
• 36:22
  Hell yeah. But I believe that there's way
• 36:24
  more racism now based on segregation going It's us and
• 36:28
  them instead of trying to see us and looking for reasons to argue
• 36:34
  because of what sells in media. Hatred content differences.
• 36:41
  This was the funniest thing I heard about Tony Robbins when he
• 36:44
  was at the first he had ATV show that would air every Saturday.
• 36:48
  When he first got into like coaching and stuff.
• 36:50
  Yeah, when he was getting he was really big in the coaching
• 36:52
  world. He was always doing.
• 36:53
  But they they're like, you know, you're such a big deal.
• 36:55
  We need to have ATV show with you in the 80s.
• 36:58
  He was the OG podcasts. No, it it stopped like they
• 37:01
  cancelled after one season and the reason being you're too
• 37:05
  positive. They don't want that on TV.
• 37:08
  Doesn't sell dude. If it bleeds, it leads.
• 37:11
  Well, because it sucks. But like, that's probably what
• 37:14
  keeps so many people on social and that is all the frustration,
• 37:17
  all the that's what I like back and forth.
• 37:19
  And that's what I've been studying.
• 37:21
  Like I've been looking at my social media consumption and
• 37:26
  what I've been watching as far as how I'm interacting with it
• 37:30
  is when do I feel prompted to engage?
• 37:34
  And then I had a kid that I took care of over when I used to do
• 37:39
  the boarding schools. And this kid called me out,
• 37:42
  dude. And I was so happy because I
• 37:44
  made some snide remark because I'm, I'm, I'm a bit of an ass
• 37:47
  and I like to fuck with people. It's all in good fun, more
• 37:50
  comedic than anything. I like to make fun of everybody.
• 37:54
  But the thing was, is that this kid goes, you're better than
• 37:57
  that dude. Don't get involved in their
• 37:58
  bullshit hatred. And I was like, holy shit, I
• 38:02
  didn't. And then now I look at it and I
• 38:04
  go, why do I feel like I want to engage?
• 38:06
  I'll I'll push it and I'll be like, Nope, I'm going to retract
• 38:10
  my even my thumbs up. That was my took me a long time
• 38:14
  and I correlated a lot of that to cannabis, but going through
• 38:18
  divorce and after divorce where I would get these really long
• 38:23
  hateful messages out of nowhere with all of this, all this stuff
• 38:29
  in it. I'm like, and I would get so
• 38:31
  pissed and I'd write a huge response back and then I'm
• 38:35
  sitting out back smoking and I don't send it yet I delete it.
• 38:39
  I retype another one, delete that, retype up another one, and
• 38:43
  then I don't send. I'm sitting back and I go, Why
• 38:45
  is it that I feel the need to send this message?
• 38:48
  Why is it that I need to say this?
• 38:50
  I'm like because I want to respond back to all this and I'm
• 38:53
  like but why? Well, I mean, you think back to
• 38:55
  it, man. I mean like I I know why I mean.
• 38:57
  But but it was my ego going well because she said this and this
• 39:00
  and this and I'm like, but none of that matters because that's
• 39:03
  all her lashing out because she's hurt or frustrated or
• 39:06
  something. None of this stuff she's saying
• 39:08
  needs a response. I don't need to respond to any
• 39:12
  of this. And so all I would realize in
• 39:15
  those moments is, well, often times was the only thing I'm
• 39:18
  getting out of this is an ego thing, which at that point
• 39:21
  she'll retaliate and send something back.
• 39:22
  And then what do I do? Send another one?
• 39:24
  Like where does this end up? And so it just became this
• 39:27
  thought of like, so for me in that moment of was like, who is
• 39:32
  this for? Who is this message for?
• 39:33
  Is it? Is it for me?
• 39:34
  Because this is going to create a, a harder relationship between
• 39:38
  me and my ex-wife, which makes it harder for my kids, makes it
• 39:41
  harder for any interaction they have.
• 39:43
  And it was like, so who is this really for?
• 39:45
  And I would sit back and I would go, you know, I don't need to
• 39:48
  send this message. And so I would delete it and I
• 39:51
  would go back to smoking. And I would go, you know, I
• 39:54
  don't need to hang on to this. And I'd try and let that go
• 39:56
  because it was this weird thing that we, I would have of like, I
• 40:01
  need to respond to this. Oh, I saw this or they said
• 40:03
  this. I need to respond.
• 40:05
  Yeah. And I'm like, but why?
• 40:06
  Why do I need to justify that with a response?
• 40:09
  Why do I need to give that my energy, my time, which is only
• 40:14
  this much? Why do I need to give my time to
• 40:17
  that? Why do I need to give my energy
• 40:19
  to that? What will that bring of value or
• 40:21
  good or change in my life that's going to impact me or my kids or
• 40:25
  my future in any sort of way? You know, I have a theory on
• 40:29
  that. Why, why do they poke the bear?
• 40:33
  Why did they do that? And it's usually unprovoked.
• 40:35
  And the, the theory I have is that there when you, and this
• 40:41
  especially comes with those who have made children together,
• 40:44
  you, I mean, there's learning a lot more on a different level
• 40:50
  about human sexuality has made me way more observant of my
• 40:55
  behaviors and how I treat it, which was really cool because I
• 40:59
  think a lot of people struggle with porn.
• 41:02
  I could see that. And I don't believe that porn is
• 41:04
  benign. I, I he even made fun of this
• 41:06
  one guy who lost his job because he couldn't quit jacking off at
• 41:10
  work. And I'm like.
• 41:11
  Yeah, that sounds. I mean, that's just fucking
• 41:13
  ridiculous. I mean, come on, dude.
• 41:15
  But the thing was, is that anything can get to that point,
• 41:19
  right? Anything can get to that point.
• 41:22
  But I think one thing that we are addicted to is this constant
• 41:26
  self judgment. It's not even judging others.
• 41:29
  No, it's our self criticisms. Yeah, as I said, we're our
• 41:32
  harshest critics. And there's some really like one
• 41:35
  of the cool things I like doing at these events that I call
• 41:39
  connect by shape is when I say, look, you don't, you don't need
• 41:42
  to. It's not, it's not Brandon or
• 41:44
  Jesse right now. It's a rectangle and an Octagon.
• 41:47
  That's it. And then I could just talk about
• 41:49
  things that on this sheet that are just topics to talk about
• 41:55
  going, oh, you like to lead? Well, kind of like, yeah, I
• 41:59
  usually get into leadership. Whoa, cool.
• 42:01
  So you're a researcher. You'd like to know things really
• 42:05
  well you care about, like, making sure people feel really
• 42:08
  good and connected to you because you just don't like
• 42:11
  conflict at all. Like, yeah.
• 42:13
  And then you're like, hey, you don't mind conflict.
• 42:15
  Oh, I like conflict, conflict, but I, I like, I like the
• 42:19
  challenge, right. And so we see challenge
• 42:21
  differently, which is great because then that means that our
• 42:25
  relationship is much deeper for that.
• 42:28
  Like I, I love the diversity of our relationship.
• 42:31
  Like I don't need to be with somebody who's like obsessive
• 42:35
  about martial arts and everything I like, right?
• 42:39
  Or even my viewpoints like I've, I think it's.
• 42:42
  Shifted differences that make it more interesting because if you
• 42:45
  all think the same and you all do the exact same things,
• 42:49
  there's nothing to truly share of like look at this that I do
• 42:53
  or that it's like we're already doing and seeing and everything
• 42:56
  the same. It's like if you spend all day
• 42:58
  long every day with your partner constantly, you have nothing new
• 43:02
  to share or talk about because it's we've already experienced
• 43:05
  and talked about all the same things versus hey, I went out
• 43:08
  and I experienced this. Let me tell you about it.
• 43:10
  Oh, well, let me let's now talk about that.
• 43:12
  Or I met this person and had this conversation that I never
• 43:15
  would have had. So let me share that with you.
• 43:17
  And then it grows and changes that because these different
• 43:20
  connections allow for growth and depth and like.
• 43:24
  Well, you shed the ego off of there.
• 43:26
  Like I mean, I've, I've been this just my contemplations of
• 43:30
  ego, which pretty much fits along with the explanation of
• 43:33
  it. But the ego is the persona that
• 43:35
  we create. It is not something that is part
• 43:38
  of us. That's why I don't believe that
• 43:39
  personality has anything to do with your behaviors.
• 43:43
  Personalities are a way to protect your ego.
• 43:47
  Because if if I act a certain way, then I must be a certain
• 43:51
  way. If I'm really assertive and I
• 43:54
  tell the waiter when he fucks up that he's a piece of shit and
• 43:58
  how dare you and you need to send this back instead of
• 44:02
  approaching going hey guy, I know that this isn't your fault,
• 44:05
  this just isn't cooked all the way through.
• 44:07
  Waiter doesn't cook that could. You by any chance take care of
• 44:10
  this for me Oh, and what did that guy do?
• 44:13
  He wants to go above and beyond because you came at him instead
• 44:15
  of going, you piece of shit, you fucking idiot.
• 44:18
  You can't even get this right. Fuck you.
• 44:20
  And that modeling is what we learned earlier on and
• 44:24
  connection with people when we were with people that treated
• 44:28
  people really well. And we we saw how well they were
• 44:31
  treated afterwards. We go, oh, subconsciously our
• 44:35
  memory goes, oh, save put into that folder.
• 44:38
  Yeah. But now everything is automated.
• 44:41
  So now you want to pick your ego.
• 44:44
  No problem. I got a YouTube channel for
• 44:46
  that. You're not getting women to pay
• 44:48
  attention to you. Fuck.
• 44:49
  I'm going to put you on a healthy dose of Andrew Tate.
• 44:54
  And but this is the thing. This is.
• 44:56
  Yeah, there's a, there's a prescription for everything.
• 44:59
  Which, in its own way, is pornography.
• 45:03
  Or addictive. But no, I mean saying it in this
• 45:05
  way, it's pornography. What is it for?
• 45:09
  It's to incite an emotional feeling, a chemical reaction of
• 45:13
  one of the greatest feelings you ever get to have, which is
• 45:16
  coming, right? So you associate it with that.
• 45:20
  So it it it immediately pulls you to that time.
• 45:23
  If you've never experienced it, you're like, it's like going
• 45:26
  into lightspeed on the Millennium Falcon, right?
• 45:29
  You're just like, this isn't real, right?
• 45:32
  I mean, but Oh my gosh, what's happening to my Dick, right?
• 45:36
  But I mean. Or whatever you got going on.
• 45:38
  Yeah. But I mean, it's like I'm
• 45:39
  talking about myself, but I mean, it's just these these
• 45:42
  things that we we associate with this end result.
• 45:46
  So when we have a certain radical side either way, right
• 45:52
  where from any viewpoint, and I'm talking radical on
• 45:55
  everything such as like no man, I only use stores and bickle.
• 46:00
  Fuck you pigs. Like that is too intense.
• 46:04
  But that's what these isolated channels are because they are
• 46:08
  just like, here's one side like 11 podcast.
• 46:11
  I used to. I I only found interesting
• 46:14
  because I wanted to understand the dynamic of it.
• 46:17
  But what it ended up out to be was just this beratement of
• 46:21
  women who were not taught to respect themselves at all.
• 46:25
  And then they just tear them apart because they weren't
• 46:29
  taught. It's not an empathetic thing.
• 46:31
  Like it. It wouldn't be empathetic of me
• 46:33
  to to tell every woman who's ever had an only fans going,
• 46:36
  you're worthless, you're a piece of shit, God hates you.
• 46:39
  That's not for me to even think or say.
• 46:42
  I can't pass that judgement. But what is important is for me
• 46:46
  to treat them like a good person.
• 46:48
  Yeah, like a human. Well, what is it dude?
• 46:50
  What's the golden rule? Right?
• 46:52
  You treat others. Like you would like to be
• 46:53
  treated. So it's not by treating them
• 46:56
  well, it's treating them as good people.
• 46:58
  Just treat them good. How would I want to be treated
• 47:01
  in this situation? I would want to be treated
• 47:03
  respectfully, like a human being.
• 47:05
  I would, you know, and I can give that that same respect,
• 47:08
  that same decency to anyone else.
• 47:11
  Like 100%, you know, and when you give that feeling of
• 47:14
  friendship off, that's the thing.
• 47:16
  Like what I've been, what I'm teaching now is that it's all
• 47:20
  about friendship. Like, don't think about the end
• 47:23
  result. Like, where's this monetarily,
• 47:26
  physically, emotionally? No, where are you going?
• 47:30
  The friendship is the bedrock of every relationship, period,
• 47:35
  hands down, including with your kids.
• 47:38
  You don't just need to be a parent who just says do these
• 47:41
  things to survive. Like we're living on the
• 47:43
  frontier. It's good to teach them skills
• 47:45
  and things to help them and have healthy habits and things that
• 47:48
  can help them long term in life. But like you still want to have
• 47:52
  that connection. Well, think.
• 47:53
  About it ship that lasts versus like okay well I've didn't done
• 47:58
  this checklist and now they're an adult well I haven't seen
• 48:01
  them in five years 10 years God well that was cool like.
• 48:06
  Well, that's the thing dude. That's why connection is.
• 48:09
  That's what I'm I'm hearing on all of these talking head
• 48:12
  podcasts about relationships. Like they're all these doctors,
• 48:16
  all of these psychologists and neurologists are talking about
• 48:20
  connection is completely absent and we've replaced connection.
• 48:25
  Well, yeah, because here's the thing that's.
• 48:27
  Why we're all so lonely as a society.
• 48:30
  And the problem is it's perception because when I'm at
• 48:33
  this event, seeing it in real time, like, you know, one of the
• 48:37
  coolest things I got out of it was there was this guy there.
• 48:40
  He was a cross, and he had this cool mustache.
• 48:44
  It went like this, right? The rest of his beard was
• 48:47
  disheveled, right? It was.
• 48:49
  Just like Stash was quite dude. His stash was like, it pulled me
• 48:53
  in. And he had these like, John
• 48:54
  Lennon glasses. Oh, OK.
• 48:56
  Very artistic guy. And he's a cross.
• 48:59
  He cares a lot about causes. He cares about the planet.
• 49:03
  And he's a deep hearted person, yeah.
• 49:05
  He's a really deep hearted person.
• 49:07
  And you know, for women physically, he wouldn't be the
• 49:11
  guy you would want to go for, right, as far as the way society
• 49:15
  talks about it. And so that's some of the things
• 49:17
  that I press on these men. I'm like, hey, show up this much
• 49:22
  as they have because women don't just go.
• 49:25
  And yeah, I'm just going to throw on.
• 49:26
  Some they're going to put their best foot forward 100%.
• 49:29
  It's that thing of like if you're going and you're really
• 49:32
  hoping and it sucks. I get a lot of these people
• 49:35
  aren't comfortable in that. They're comfortable in there.
• 49:38
  Like I love being comfy. I'm wearing fucking T-shirt and
• 49:41
  sweatpants like 90% of the time. Dude a hoodie like all the
• 49:45
  fucking time. This is the most dressed down
• 49:47
  I've been for a while. I know well because you've had
• 49:49
  to wear business suit. Yeah, but dude, now that's just
• 49:52
  how I dress now throughout the week, OK?
• 49:54
  That's how I dress because I was just like, I like the feel and
• 49:59
  it's, you know, when I do these events, but that's what makes me
• 50:02
  stand out because I I wear my casual and yeah, yeah, business
• 50:06
  casual. I always wear my paper boy hat
• 50:08
  because I want them to know where I'm at.
• 50:10
  I always liked it when I was going out business casual
• 50:14
  because I just felt better, right?
• 50:16
  Like even when I worked at my fast that was the time where I
• 50:19
  was actually wearing like 3 piece suits and shit to wear.
• 50:21
  I remember that, I remember that.
• 50:23
  I just, I really liked how I felt and I was going in working
• 50:28
  hard, feeling super accomplished, like leading the
• 50:31
  whole team and stuff. And they're like, oh, this is
• 50:33
  amazing. I got to the point that I had
• 50:35
  bought a BMW, we'd gotten Escalade and I was feeling like,
• 50:39
  I was feeling like 1,000,000 bucks.
• 50:41
  And I loved suits. I loved how I felt in them.
• 50:44
  And but it wasn't, I don't know. It was for me.
• 50:47
  Well, and that's the thing guys, these guys, you know, and that's
• 50:50
  another thing that my theory on this is that yes, guys are
• 50:55
  giving up, but the reason why they're giving up because they
• 50:58
  have no reason to go forward. You want to progress because
• 51:03
  there's a goal. Why do we play video games,
• 51:06
  right? You play games to win.
• 51:08
  To feel accomplished. Yeah, to feel a quick hit of
• 51:11
  dopamine. Yep, when you're good at
• 51:13
  something. This I I mean, you played
• 51:16
  martial arts on that. Did you play sports much growing
• 51:19
  up? A little bit.
• 51:19
  I play baseball. OK, it's that same feeling of
• 51:22
  like when you hit a home run or you, you know, you your team
• 51:25
  wins and it's like, Oh yeah, dude.
• 51:27
  Like that's a huge rush of excitement of your team and, and
• 51:31
  like you. And it's like, Oh my gosh, I did
• 51:33
  that. Like we did that.
• 51:35
  That needs to be more pushed then right?
• 51:37
  I mean baseball is one of the most boring fucking sports to
• 51:40
  watch on TV. I'm sorry if I offended you, but
• 51:42
  it is. I.
• 51:44
  But playing. It as a kid to even watch in
• 51:47
  person, like it's more exciting in person than it is on.
• 51:49
  TV, but if my kids involved, I want to watch it 100% and you
• 51:53
  know, my fault. I didn't push that enough
• 51:55
  because you know, one of the things that I loved about it,
• 51:57
  like I fucking sucked through Little League and then I got
• 52:01
  into Wing Chung Kung Fu and I got really dedicated and I saw
• 52:06
  everything as a Marshall problem.
• 52:08
  So I my batting average went way high and my on base was high, my
• 52:14
  catches and throws. And dude, it was such a cool
• 52:18
  feeling because it was like, because you get you.
• 52:22
  Could not slow it down once you did Wing Chun, couldn't you?
• 52:24
  Oh yeah. See, I played basketball all all
• 52:29
  the time. That's right.
• 52:30
  And I played junior jazz and then and yeah, that's why at
• 52:34
  Leahona, I played junior and senior year and I would practice
• 52:39
  all the time, but I would never be able to slow.
• 52:43
  Like I could slow down, but that was physically slowing down in
• 52:46
  my head. I wasn't able to slow things
• 52:48
  down. I could never find that perfect
• 52:50
  flow. I would play every day with my
• 52:53
  brother like all year long. And I could not find that
• 52:58
  perfect flow. But there was still that huge
• 53:00
  rush of excitement and that there was this video Emily had
• 53:03
  sent me on a study and it's like Cohen or Colon or Colon.
• 53:08
  But this doctor had gone Doctor Colon.
• 53:11
  He had done studies with rats or mice for lots of years.
• 53:14
  And he basically had done 27 different studies.
• 53:17
  But #25 was the one that they talk about all the time because
• 53:21
  basically he put these mice in the perfect environment,
• 53:24
  unlimited food, unlimited water, unlimited entertainment, and he
• 53:29
  put it in with like 8 mice and within under five years all the
• 53:33
  mice died. There was not a.
• 53:38
  Harry Potter orgasm. Right, so he put the 8 mice in
• 53:42
  and over that period of time none of them died from any
• 53:46
  'cause that they ever would have expected.
• 53:48
  Basically the they found that the mice had no purpose, there
• 53:53
  was nothing for them to work towards, they weren't afraid of
• 53:55
  predators, they weren't having to hunt for food.
• 53:58
  The women actually found themselves hiding after a
• 54:01
  certain point of reproducing and that hiding at the top parts of
• 54:05
  the thing and not having any more sex with any of the men.
• 54:08
  The men broke off into like different groups down below and
• 54:12
  some would fight, some would hide and go in between.
• 54:14
  Some are perfectly groomed but never interacted or did
• 54:17
  anything. And all of them died of old age
• 54:20
  because they wouldn't reproduce with any of them because there
• 54:23
  was nothing for them to work towards or achieve or do.
• 54:26
  And I'm like, it's interesting because our world kind of feels
• 54:29
  that way. There's nothing that we're
• 54:31
  working towards to really achieve or do or build.
• 54:34
  It's just like we all go to these jobs that half the time
• 54:37
  we're hating or dreading or not feeling fulfilled in that.
• 54:41
  They have no purpose like no you why?
• 54:43
  Why do people not fulfill feel fulfilled in their jobs?
• 54:47
  My theory is is that they don't have connections with others to
• 54:52
  make it anything worthwhile. The.
• 54:54
  People that you're there with 'cause that's the whole point.
• 54:57
  And I'm like our jobs where we're 40 hours a week, that's
• 55:00
  more times more time often in a week than we invest in our
• 55:04
  families, the other people that we live with.
• 55:07
  So we spend more time. Live at your job and visit your
• 55:09
  home, Yeah. We spend more time with the
• 55:11
  employees and yet we're not close to them.
• 55:14
  We're not community, we're not connected, and yet.
• 55:17
  Because. We feel more.
• 55:19
  No, it's, it's the allure of individuality and what it offers
• 55:23
  you as a, a higher positive than a negative.
• 55:26
  And, and what I mean by that is, is that the the perception that
• 55:30
  it's you that's super important. But the real cool thing is, is
• 55:34
  that once you remove yourself from that equation of needing to
• 55:38
  be important, then you see everybody valuable.
• 55:42
  It's the team that becomes important versus me.
• 55:45
  It's the collective work that is accomplished or.
• 55:49
  And that's the problem too, because there are what I call
• 55:52
  like a linchpin in every single team, which is also an ACT
• 55:56
  linchpin. Do you know what a linchpin is?
• 55:58
  It's the thing. Maybe, but it's.
• 56:00
  It's on wagons and stuff like that, like oh it.
• 56:02
  Holds the wheel, Yeah, OK. It holds the wheel.
• 56:04
  Is it the pin within the pin that holds the wheel?
• 56:06
  OK, yes. So that linchpin holds
• 56:08
  everything together. But yes, as everybody talking, I
• 56:12
  mean, they go, yes, that's the focal point, but the that's an
• 56:15
  issue too, because a team can be built based on one person.
• 56:19
  And so here's the case. So that's true.
• 56:22
  I, I lose my job with USIII know what I'm purposely doing when I
• 56:26
  interact with people because I use it as an, as data and
• 56:31
  experiments what is working, what is not working, because I
• 56:34
  have theories on communication, stuff like that that are very
• 56:37
  similar to other ones, just in a shorter time frame.
• 56:40
  I don't want somebody to have to be beholden to a coach to go
• 56:44
  like for the next two years, we're going to meet on every
• 56:46
  Thursday. Like, no, fuck that.
• 56:49
  Like it needs to be short, impactful, and usable because we
• 56:52
  don't have time for that. We don't have time to go through
• 56:57
  and learn a theory. You need to try it.
• 56:59
  Now that these dating things are lab experiments for me, because
• 57:03
  now I'm increasing the ability of people to be able to break
• 57:07
  down their ego and connect based on behaviors that they can
• 57:11
  actually tolerate, right? Like they're.
• 57:14
  You know. Yeah, yeah, that's also the
• 57:17
  point where it can break the quickest because if there's just
• 57:20
  one person. So all of you need to be
• 57:23
  combined as a part of caring about the entire thing.
• 57:28
  I, I leaving there should have not affected the team at all.
• 57:32
  It shouldn't have affected the team, but.
• 57:34
  In some ways, if you truly have relationships and connections
• 57:39
  with your people, then it would affect if you don't and it's
• 57:42
  just you're a piece in a moving machine that they can put in
• 57:46
  another piece. No, it shouldn't affect the
• 57:48
  business work. But that's the thing too, once
• 57:51
  you have that totally cohesive team, because we didn't like I
• 57:54
  was really close with two of the employees there.
• 57:58
  I thought that they were truly my friend and I brought them
• 58:02
  into my circle. I care about them, you know, I
• 58:05
  still talk to them. And for them it was like losing
• 58:09
  a piece of them all the sudden. And that's the hard part for me,
• 58:13
  what I was most broken up about because I was driving home.
• 58:17
  It's the connections, yeah. Yeah, man, it really hurt. 100%
• 58:20
  it really hurt. That was when I was at Jive.
• 58:22
  I hated the company. Oh yeah, Jive hated the company.
• 58:26
  Horrible company. I loved and found so much
• 58:28
  community in the people I worked with, so much so that we did
• 58:32
  almost weekly parties or get togethers at my house in the
• 58:35
  evenings. Which is cool.
• 58:37
  And so it was cool. Those cool memories, man.
• 58:40
  I mean until I got my Dick bit but.
• 58:42
  Oh, for another day, for another day.
• 58:45
  That's a funny ass story too. I don't know, maybe.
• 58:48
  That we have got there. What the dude, the dude on the
• 58:51
  Patreon episode, Would that be hilarious?
• 58:53
  That is a story. But yeah, no, no, I, I no, not
• 58:57
  leave it there. But I, you know, man, I really,
• 58:59
  I, I love that. I love that there is a need for
• 59:03
  this. And that's why we are as I was
• 59:06
  thinking about. And I'm like, because I all
• 59:09
  these people I meet, I'm like, yeah.
• 59:10
  And I'm like, they go, so this is what you do all the time.
• 59:13
  I'm like, no, I also smoke pot for a living.
• 59:16
  And they go what? And then they and then they
• 59:18
  start going to there and they're like, wow, so you're pretty open
• 59:20
  minded. And I said, yeah, I believe that
• 59:22
  cannabis allows me to be more open minded and to be more
• 59:27
  introspective and perspective at the same time and being able to
• 59:30
  go, how do I feel? But how do they feel?
• 59:33
  And if I can understand how that person's behaviors are going to
• 59:37
  dictate their feelings, then if I have a cheat code to going,
• 59:42
  yeah, if I do this and this type of behavior isn't really going
• 59:45
  to fucking piss them off. If I know it, now I have a
• 59:48
  responsibility, right? It's like it's the difference of
• 59:51
  somebody owning a gun and then owning a gun and using it as
• 59:54
  consistently to be proficient in it.
• 59:56
  So in case of the moment that there won't be an accident.
• 1:00:00
  Yeah. And there will be like a less
• 1:00:02
  escalation of. Violence when you truly
• 1:00:04
  understand. It's the same with motorcycle
• 1:00:07
  riding. Oh yeah, you were telling me
• 1:00:08
  about that. Well, 'cause I would 'cause.
• 1:00:09
  My mom's super fast and. And my mom, she would, she rides
• 1:00:13
  a scooter and I would watch her ride.
• 1:00:15
  And like mom, you are so rigid you are way more likely to
• 1:00:18
  crash. How far do you lean?
• 1:00:21
  She's like, I, I don't really lean.
• 1:00:22
  I'm like, OK, so I took her on the back, had her sit on the
• 1:00:24
  back of the scooter. I'm like, OK.
• 1:00:26
  And so I'm like leaning tall. It almost scrapes and stuff.
• 1:00:28
  And I'm like, I'm like, you can do so much on this.
• 1:00:31
  And if you learn how to control it, you will be way safer in any
• 1:00:35
  moment because you will be, you'll know how to respond in
• 1:00:40
  that moment because muscle memory will kick in and you'll
• 1:00:42
  go, oh, shit, this is what I do. I had my back tire slide so many
• 1:00:46
  times and it was like my muscles were just like, oh, OK.
• 1:00:49
  And then I'm like, but my heart's like going oh, fuck.
• 1:00:52
  But for that second, it's like flow because it's literally just
• 1:00:57
  muscle memory. And it just goes.
• 1:00:58
  And then like, hey, we're good. Like, you know what you're doing
• 1:01:02
  here? You've been through this a
• 1:01:03
  million times because you do. It's the same type of concept.
• 1:01:07
  When you do that gun stuff, you get into really good and you
• 1:01:11
  know exactly how to handle that situation.
• 1:01:14
  Well, it's, it's the same in the martial arts world, like, and
• 1:01:17
  that's the thing, like, you know where and I've been a victim.
• 1:01:20
  I, I've been guilty of this where I would say that MMA is
• 1:01:24
  like the peak of martial arts. I don't believe that.
• 1:01:26
  I believe that martial arts is a way to be able to test yourself,
• 1:01:29
  but it, it also has to test you. It doesn't just placate to you
• 1:01:34
  and it's to challenge the body. And that's what I'm saying, Like
• 1:01:37
  what I'm seeing right now, why people are not being able to
• 1:01:40
  connect. Yeah.
• 1:01:42
  And it's something that you are doing right now, like on the
• 1:01:45
  side here been dashing, right? And I'm going to be doing that
• 1:01:47
  this next week. What?
• 1:01:48
  Fuck not, right? Let's do it.
• 1:01:50
  But. But The thing is, is that that
• 1:01:53
  door dashing is my theory and here's why is.
• 1:01:57
  Your theory? Yeah, it's my theory of why
• 1:01:59
  people won't connect. It's because they just feel like
• 1:02:02
  it's supposed to be automated. It's supposed to just like I
• 1:02:06
  order it. The women are like I show up.
• 1:02:08
  The guy supposed to be well dressed, well behaved and
• 1:02:12
  educated enough to talk. To and ask me intellectual fun
• 1:02:15
  questions that stimulate my mind and make me intrigued.
• 1:02:18
  Because he's a good fit, right? Right.
• 1:02:20
  Yeah, Well, the problem is there might be on their perfect self,
• 1:02:24
  but they're showing up in their scared, nervous, I don't know
• 1:02:28
  how to talk to this woman and I have no confidence in talking to
• 1:02:31
  this woman. And so they're not going to show
• 1:02:34
  up in their best self that that moment.
• 1:02:36
  So it's like, but what? Placates to that what what
• 1:02:39
  placates to that is is media that they consume because there
• 1:02:42
  is an assumption that they're supposed to be away.
• 1:02:45
  Because what's the guy's assumption?
• 1:02:46
  The guy's assumption is like, sex is easy.
• 1:02:49
  I press the button, Pornhub is there.
• 1:02:52
  I press play. That's it.
• 1:02:54
  Like that's all I got to do is show.
• 1:02:56
  Up and understanding how to connect and and like turn on the
• 1:03:00
  person. Yeah, no, you want to make a
• 1:03:02
  woman come. You just need to be able to
• 1:03:04
  connect to her emotionally and understand her.
• 1:03:07
  You're going to be able to get to that place instead of trying
• 1:03:10
  to be like, yo, dude, I'm going to be the fucking man, dude,
• 1:03:13
  check your shit out, right? I'm going to fuck her up and
• 1:03:16
  she's going to be leaving. You know what they say?
• 1:03:18
  She's going to have like a crushed pal all this like a
• 1:03:20
  stupid shit like that because it's an assumption much?
• 1:03:23
  Pornhub. Yeah, exactly.
• 1:03:25
  Like you, you're watching fantasy, right?
• 1:03:28
  That's like saying, like, guys, let's get swords because all of
• 1:03:31
  the bad guys are orcs. You're like, whoa, whoa, whoa,
• 1:03:34
  wait a minute, back up. Because that's the same thing
• 1:03:37
  that you're doing. You're taking a fantasy and
• 1:03:38
  associating with that. And it's the same for women.
• 1:03:40
  Women read a lot of books which have these idyllic men as far as
• 1:03:45
  what they think, but then what they start to see is that the
• 1:03:48
  higher rates of infidelity jump up higher.
• 1:03:51
  I've been so intrigued by that because I read a couple books of
• 1:03:55
  the Akotar series, which is one of those like women's smart
• 1:03:58
  books and and I was Emily would be like, what do you think of
• 1:04:02
  tampon? That's not his real name.
• 1:04:04
  I don't remember his real name, but I was like, oh, like it just
• 1:04:07
  kept changing. I was like, Oh my God, like
• 1:04:09
  this, This is such a man child. And yet and like each person has
• 1:04:14
  their own type of different things.
• 1:04:16
  And I'm like, OK, it's, it's just interesting to read.
• 1:04:18
  And then I'm very curious each time of like, OK, was this a
• 1:04:21
  female writer? Was this a male writer?
• 1:04:23
  Like what type of mind was I in when I was reading this?
• 1:04:27
  Which is very funny because you look at older books, those types
• 1:04:31
  of authors could clearly distinct that these individuals
• 1:04:36
  were individuals and that they had their own thought processes
• 1:04:40
  and arguments and, and conflict with the other ones.
• 1:04:42
  But it you didn't see it as a division.
• 1:04:45
  You just saw them as two separate people and they were
• 1:04:48
  well written characters. And I find that a lot of these
• 1:04:51
  books, it's a repeat. It's a rinse repeat.
• 1:04:54
  It's almost identical every single time.
• 1:04:57
  And it's going to be, I mean, it's some of the, I always ask
• 1:05:00
  Steph, I'm like, what are you reading?
• 1:05:01
  She started reading it. And I'm like.
• 1:05:03
  Oh, I'm sure. Yeah, Emily has read so many
• 1:05:06
  different series of just. Yeah, my wife and Emily read a
• 1:05:08
  lot of similar books, very similar.
• 1:05:11
  So it it's kind of funny, but you, you.
• 1:05:13
  So does Jackie. So does Stacey.
• 1:05:15
  What a. Lot of women do, right?
• 1:05:17
  But you think about it, what are they looking for?
• 1:05:19
  And I wouldn't say they're looking for the perfect man.
• 1:05:22
  What they're looking for is passion.
• 1:05:24
  And what are the, what are women?
• 1:05:26
  You know what? Desire.
• 1:05:28
  They wanna be desired, but what is?
• 1:05:30
  This like but the the way that. It's different in those books
• 1:05:34
  than what? What do guys get?
• 1:05:36
  Guys don't read those books, they watch.
• 1:05:38
  Not yeah, they. They they consume content.
• 1:05:41
  Preston recommended you be a fourth wing one I think and it
• 1:05:44
  was a little smutty but not like the same as that guitar series
• 1:05:47
  and I only read the first one so but it was it was an interesting
• 1:05:50
  story. Yeah, I mean, they have good
• 1:05:52
  stories, but the problem it's, it's like the 1990s movies where
• 1:05:55
  they had to have tits and ass. Like if you notice now there has
• 1:06:00
  been a steep decline in sex in movies.
• 1:06:03
  I don't really watch a lot of movies.
• 1:06:05
  I don't go to a lot of movies. So I I watch every.
• 1:06:08
  Once in a blue movie. I did go see Hail Mary.
• 1:06:10
  You got to go see that. That was a wonderful film.
• 1:06:13
  Great. It was super entertaining.
• 1:06:15
  It was just good. It was really good.
• 1:06:17
  It was good. Feel good.
• 1:06:18
  Too have to check. It out, but yeah, dude, it's
• 1:06:21
  it's that. Did you go to the theater for
• 1:06:22
  that one? Yeah, OK.
• 1:06:23
  And it was cool. It was cool because most movies
• 1:06:26
  I feel like I'd just watch on my phone if I wanted to, because
• 1:06:28
  everybody goes like, why don't you watch it on TV?
• 1:06:30
  I said yeah. There's times that Emily be
• 1:06:32
  like, I want to play Hogwarts and so she'll play Hogwarts and
• 1:06:35
  like, yeah, I don't want to go sit in the other room.
• 1:06:37
  I'm just going to sit here. I'm going to vaporize and I'll
• 1:06:39
  watch it on my iPad. I'll put on my headphones, like
• 1:06:41
  those are nice. It'll be dope.
• 1:06:43
  And I'll just sit there and watch it on my iPad.
• 1:06:45
  Like I don't have to have my surround sound.
• 1:06:48
  I don't have to have the big TV. I can sit down and.
• 1:06:51
  But that's like I, I like movies like that because I enjoy movies
• 1:06:55
  like books, because back in the day and the VHS days as I grew
• 1:06:59
  up for most of my childhood life, like I, I dude, DVDs
• 1:07:03
  didn't come out until I was in the Navy, but they were around,
• 1:07:06
  but they were like more popular. That's probably.
• 1:07:09
  High school before we really started doing DVDs.
• 1:07:12
  DVDs at all? But dude, like a cassette, like,
• 1:07:15
  you know what I loved about the cassette?
• 1:07:16
  And even kids today think it's really cool because you can't
• 1:07:20
  just skip ahead. VHS or cassette?
• 1:07:23
  VHS, OK and cassette. I loved cassette too.
• 1:07:26
  Yeah. Oh no.
• 1:07:27
  My daughter found a bunch of my wife's mixtapes.
• 1:07:30
  Oh, that's funny. And she was you.
• 1:07:31
  Guys have a device that plays that.
• 1:07:33
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. We have an old boom box.
• 1:07:35
  Dude, that's cool. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:07:36
  I bought Finn a record player for Christmas a couple years
• 1:07:39
  ago. Oh yeah.
• 1:07:40
  And I got him has it plays CDs, It plays cassettes, Yeah.
• 1:07:44
  And vinyl. And he was like, holy shit.
• 1:07:46
  So now he's trying to find some cassettes.
• 1:07:48
  Because he's got a good, he's got like, dude, the best place
• 1:07:50
  to go is Didi has a plethora probably there because, well,
• 1:07:55
  you got to think about like when these older people die.
• 1:07:58
  They just get they have shit. Well, because just boxes of
• 1:08:01
  fucking cassettes and VHS tapes. That's a great place to get VHS
• 1:08:06
  tapes and VHS players. Yeah, but you got to have the
• 1:08:09
  right hookups. I think you can get like a
• 1:08:11
  converter. I'm.
• 1:08:11
  Curious, my mom had any of her cassettes 'cause she had a lot
• 1:08:15
  of like 80's pop and Michael Jackson and stuff like that.
• 1:08:18
  Barry Manilow, Billy Joel, just like random shit.
• 1:08:21
  You had to listen to it. You just listen to it.
• 1:08:23
  But Finn was like, oh, I'd like to have that.
• 1:08:25
  Like if he has cassette or she has cassettes, I'd totally take
• 1:08:28
  those. Dude when I if I ever come
• 1:08:30
  across I'll just snag him for him.
• 1:08:32
  Yeah, it made me laugh though, because it reminds me of like
• 1:08:35
  growing up because I would record songs off the radio on my
• 1:08:38
  stereo, on to cassette, like bring them in my Walkman and
• 1:08:41
  stuff to school like. Dude, but I mean, you think
• 1:08:44
  about that. So in that sense, like, you
• 1:08:47
  know, what did we lose in the in the in a in a generation?
• 1:08:51
  Because that's a whole generation right, A 20 year gap.
• 1:08:54
  One generation. We got this generation.
• 1:08:56
  What did we lose? Well, we lost the art of
• 1:08:59
  patience and connection, and the reason why it's an art now,
• 1:09:03
  because it wasn't, it was modeled.
• 1:09:06
  You think about the shows, like when I've been going through all
• 1:09:08
  this stuff in YouTube, you know what the funniest thing is?
• 1:09:11
  Been coming up? Clips of friends.
• 1:09:14
  Interesting. And I'm like.
• 1:09:15
  And so I was like, why did the algorithm pick this?
• 1:09:18
  So I'm like, I'm going to go through the shorts now.
• 1:09:21
  Shorts littered with friends things.
• 1:09:23
  And you got to think about it. If you went back to it, a really
• 1:09:26
  great way to be able to model emotion and interaction with
• 1:09:30
  others is friends. Because it is not about the job.
• 1:09:35
  They wouldn't care about their life.
• 1:09:37
  We cared about their interactions.
• 1:09:39
  Yeah, it was the relationships, the fun, Like it was every
• 1:09:42
  interaction that they truly had. So we all have that one kind of
• 1:09:46
  space cadet friend and that and that bro friend and we got the
• 1:09:50
  guy who's successful but kind of not really connecting with women
• 1:09:54
  friend and then. Yeah, that sucks that, you know,
• 1:09:57
  the DoorDash thing. I'm thinking about it more
• 1:09:58
  because I've noticed that 98% want it left at the door.
• 1:10:04
  They do not want human interaction.
• 1:10:06
  They don't want even if it's at a business, it's leave it at the
• 1:10:09
  door. And I'm often surprised because
• 1:10:12
  there's just, there's been like two or three that it's been
• 1:10:15
  like, hey, hand it to me in person.
• 1:10:17
  I'm like, oh dope, I get to talk to a human.
• 1:10:18
  Let's be cool. I.
• 1:10:19
  Would go in. I left you the fries.
• 1:10:21
  And it's like I message your stuff and like, hey, I just got
• 1:10:24
  here. It's taking a bit longer than I
• 1:10:26
  thought, but be there soon. Like, you know, it's just, I
• 1:10:29
  don't know, it's weird, I think to have such a disconnected
• 1:10:32
  instant, but we live in this society.
• 1:10:34
  If I want it now we've got Amazon, we've got DoorDash,
• 1:10:37
  we've got everything. And like you said, 20 years ago,
• 1:10:40
  everything was wait for it. You could call your friend but
• 1:10:43
  if they weren't home, well hopefully their mom or friend
• 1:10:46
  like brother relate a message. Everything was better then too.
• 1:10:49
  Had to order something in the mail and shit that took weeks
• 1:10:52
  because you bought it out of a magazine.
• 1:10:54
  And how long did that take? So what did you do?
• 1:10:56
  You planned ahead. Yeah.
• 1:10:58
  You would care about. That you would remember you had
• 1:11:00
  patience and that that. Like TV shows, you had to wait a
• 1:11:04
  week. Yeah, there was a season.
• 1:11:06
  Yeah. There would be months without
• 1:11:08
  your show. Yeah.
• 1:11:09
  And you know what you did? You found something else?
• 1:11:11
  Something to do. Yeah.
• 1:11:13
  And it was interesting because like, now it's the instant now,
• 1:11:17
  you know, continuous forever scroll.
• 1:11:19
  The Netflix doesn't ask you for a few hours if you want a new
• 1:11:23
  episode. It just keeps playing.
• 1:11:24
  And I actually thought I was like, you know, I wish Netflix
• 1:11:27
  had an, a setting that you could turn on that it would not
• 1:11:29
  autoplay. It would only watch one episode
• 1:11:32
  and then stop and then go, hey, do you want to continue, dude,
• 1:11:37
  and make you click that going do I want to?
• 1:11:39
  No, I could actually go do all of this.
• 1:11:41
  OK, versus it autoplays and you're like, oh, well, I'm yeah,
• 1:11:44
  I'm here. Why not?
• 1:11:45
  It's it's fine. Let's keep playing.
• 1:11:46
  It was like the Wii, remember, you'd be playing for a while and
• 1:11:49
  they would say, hey, yeah, we should take a break, go outside.
• 1:11:51
  You should go outside, get some time like you're.
• 1:11:54
  Like shit the the switch doesn't do that.
• 1:11:56
  No, none of these things. My PS-5 is never like hey you,
• 1:12:00
  you done gaming? Like dude, they don't have like
• 1:12:02
  a timer for it to tell you like hey, you're gaming time.
• 1:12:06
  Like they don't. I have a gaming timer.
• 1:12:08
  Well, and you have to set. Maybe.
• 1:12:10
  Times on your phone to have it pop up and go, hey, you've been
• 1:12:13
  spending eight hours on YouTube, maybe you should take a break.
• 1:12:16
  Like, hey, Tik Tok's been taking up half your day.
• 1:12:19
  You think you can do some work today?
• 1:12:21
  You could totally do that. You could put it on parental
• 1:12:24
  controls. 100% and you can set screen times.
• 1:12:26
  Oh man, like I've realized that my and and this is where I've
• 1:12:32
  been trying to self taper before I do that.
• 1:12:34
  That's a cold Turkey move. So I've been, I'm like, OK, I
• 1:12:38
  need to be more conscious of the content that I consume.
• 1:12:41
  So I started to eliminate those things like the whatever podcast
• 1:12:45
  that actually infuriates me. You're not helping these young
• 1:12:50
  women to connect. You're just.
• 1:12:53
  There's no outcome of value or purpose, it's just a shit on
• 1:12:56
  humans and what's. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:12:58
  And I used to find it very entertaining and insightful, but
• 1:13:03
  it's turned into let's berate them.
• 1:13:06
  Let's yeah, let's take them. But the same thing is happening
• 1:13:09
  on the other side, like Oh yeah, I'm seeing.
• 1:13:12
  Negativity and like horrible podcasts.
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  Well, like one that there's and I don't even have to say the
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  name of them, but they it's a it's a woman podcast.
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  It's extremely popular and all she talks about is cheating on
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  her boyfriend and then fucking guys this weekend or how she got
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  a venereal disease or that one time with my friend.
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  We got so fucked up and we did shit together.
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  Like, you know what they're what they're promoting is a it it's
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  not a a a boy. I try to classify this as as a
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  freedom, like, you know, you go girl type thing.
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  It's. More of like women empowerment.
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  No, it's it's, it's degrading them on the worst level.
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  That's why, like I find it very sad for that we are in a time
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  where the the world is more focused on what you are rather
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  than what you can bring that we see the huge a surgeons of women
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  selling, not just only fans. I'm not saying that, but women
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  selling their body and their time as their value and not
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  necessarily on the value that they can bring society that they
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  do internally, that the the passions that they love.
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  Like why can't they enjoy art? Why can't they be therapists?
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  Teachers. I wonder if as humans like we
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  just don't feel a lot of value now, maybe from the workforce,
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  the way society is built and designed, our school system,
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  whatever. Like maybe humans in general,
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  most of us don't truly feel much value, so it's.
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  Well, it's to kind of go to something that's close to you,
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  right? You, you have family members
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  that don't necessarily cook their meals, they microwave
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  them, right? If you don't get a really good
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  meal in you, your body will start to break down.
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  I was curious on this because I want to say that microwave
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  radiation kills a lot of the nutrients in your food when you
• 1:15:05
  microwave it. If that's probable, how many of
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  us heat up leftovers in the microwave?
• 1:15:10
  How much of that is all done through the microwave?
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  I was thinking about that the other day as I was heating up
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  something and I was like the deficiency of nutrients that the
• 1:15:17
  doctor we had on was talking about.
• 1:15:19
  Doctor Rick Pescatore when he was talking about that, was
• 1:15:22
  talking about nutrient deficiencies and that.
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  And I was like, I wonder if that is because so much of our food
• 1:15:26
  is initially heated or reheated to the microwave as well as
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  being initially How does the microwave?
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  Process work that you understand.
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  I don't know. I haven't looked into.
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  So the microwave process, as far as I know about, I actually gone
• 1:15:38
  until quite a bit. So what it does is it it it
• 1:15:41
  vibrates the molecules at such high speeds that it heats up the
• 1:15:45
  water inside the molecule, the molecule, the water molecules,
• 1:15:50
  they're vibrating so fast. So there's no radiation that's
• 1:15:53
  actually being created. Interesting.
• 1:15:55
  It's, it's more of the, yeah, it's the, IT speeds up and heats
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  up, not the air, but the water inside that.
• 1:16:04
  That's why when when metal is in there, it has nothing to do it.
• 1:16:09
  So then it starts to react to the metal, which causes
• 1:16:12
  electrical sparks because it's going after the core elements of
• 1:16:17
  it. So it's, it's such a crazy
• 1:16:19
  device, right? But when it it's doing, it's
• 1:16:21
  just like it. It basically like what would be
• 1:16:24
  like the flash. That would be a show that my
• 1:16:27
  kids used to love watching. The guy could like break glass.
• 1:16:30
  He just put his hands over there and just go.
• 1:16:32
  He just let his hands like vibrate and the glass would
• 1:16:35
  shatter because. So do you think that does or
• 1:16:38
  doesn't reduce nutrients? I guess is the question.
• 1:16:41
  No, I think it totally reduces nutrients because when you
• 1:16:44
  consistently keep heating the food up, the more you cook it
• 1:16:48
  the less nutrient rich it is. Yes, that's true because even
• 1:16:53
  the initial if you cook raw vegetables, it can reduce some
• 1:16:55
  of the nutrients. Unless you steam them.
• 1:16:58
  If you're boiling them, it reduces their nutrient value.
• 1:17:02
  It's like peeling things. Too.
• 1:17:04
  So it does say that whenever you heat food, but it's inevitable
• 1:17:07
  that you would lose some nutrient loss.
• 1:17:09
  Yeah, but it's not necessarily to it killing nutrients from the
• 1:17:12
  microwave itself. No, it's just it's pushing it
• 1:17:16
  down to more of like an insoluble fiber to that point.
• 1:17:19
  Because it's getting rid of any water that's in it, because it's
• 1:17:22
  heating that up and that would evaporate within there so.
• 1:17:25
  So then that's why it's a hockey puck?
• 1:17:27
  Yeah, like that's why steak in the microwave is not good.
• 1:17:30
  I used to when I worked at Barber Brothers.
• 1:17:33
  They had a BBQ and I was like 17 they had a barbecue and they
• 1:17:39
  grilled burgers and they had a fuck ton of leftover frozen
• 1:17:41
  patties. So me and one of the other dudes
• 1:17:44
  when we would work wouldn't microwave the patties till they
• 1:17:48
  cooked and then make burgers with microwave.
• 1:17:52
  Oh. Gross.
• 1:17:53
  Oh, gross. Yeah.
• 1:17:55
  Dude, I've never been that high. Yeah.
• 1:17:57
  I wasn't high, I didn't use, I'm just.
• 1:18:00
  Saying like I would have to be so high to eat something and I
• 1:18:04
  could not be that. High, I did not know how to cook
• 1:18:06
  at that stage. I would say that I took eggs
• 1:18:09
  probably the way my mom did which was over overdone, How to
• 1:18:13
  microwave a baked potato and maybe make ramen.
• 1:18:16
  And some of them like my parents always cooked.
• 1:18:18
  Yeah, microwaving potatoes is always a.
• 1:18:20
  Trick. And I could make cookies and
• 1:18:22
  like stuff because we'd do that. So I knew how to read a recipe.
• 1:18:26
  I just hadn't done a lot of cooking.
• 1:18:28
  Yeah, but yeah. That's so funny dude.
• 1:18:32
  That's what that made me think of.
• 1:18:34
  Super gross. Don't try that at home, kids.
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