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The Hidden Cost of Staying Comfortable. · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Me are one.
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  Speaker 2: What's coming to me or what's coming to your town,
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  Speaker 2: the world.
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  Speaker 1: It's not about today, it's about the future. Two keywords
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  Speaker 1: delayed gratification. Every person minute is another chance to turn
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  Speaker 1: it all around.
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  Speaker 3: It's what you do right now that makes a difference.
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  Speaker 3: The night is dark, it's just before the dawn.
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  Speaker 1: So I promise you.
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  Speaker 3: The dog is coming.
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  Speaker 1: You do the work now.
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  Speaker 4: Do the work now, and all of the shit that
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  Speaker 4: you could ever want to do for your family, your kids,
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  Speaker 4: your loved ones, it's all going to be on a
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  Speaker 4: whole other stratosphere.
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  Speaker 5: This poll hit me in my chise Yusain both said
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  Speaker 5: I trained four years to run nine seconds, and people
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  Speaker 5: give up when they don't see results in two months.
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  Speaker 6: There's this huge time delay between when we start behaving
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  Speaker 6: in a way that a winter behaves and when we
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  Speaker 6: start winning.
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  Speaker 1: You can't have an easy life and a great character.
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  Speaker 1: Having stuff isn't fun.
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  Speaker 7: Getting stuff is fun, right, It's not the pursuit happiness,
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  Speaker 7: it's the happiness of the pursuit.
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  Speaker 8: Suffer now and live rest of your life of the time.
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  Speaker 4: Enjoy the journey, not the destination. A lot of us
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  Speaker 4: delay our happiness when I get to this level, when
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  Speaker 4: I get my degree, when I get the kids, when
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  Speaker 4: I get married, I'm going to be happy. Enjoy the journey,
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  Speaker 4: Enjoy the whole step, the whole process every day that
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  Speaker 4: you get up to strive for whatever it is you're after.
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  Speaker 4: But you don't celebrate when you get to the finished lands.
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  Speaker 4: Celebrate all along the way.
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  Speaker 9: You get to be kind of content with doing the
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  Speaker 9: exact same thing basically day after day after day and
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  Speaker 9: making reasonable progress. The more impatient somebody is this is
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  Speaker 9: a rocket science, the less likely it is that they're
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  Speaker 9: going to stick to something for a long time.
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  Speaker 1: And like ninety nine percent of any cool.
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  Speaker 9: Shit that anybody does ever, usually takes a lot of
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  Speaker 9: preparation and practice and just repetitive action to get good.
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  Speaker 9: At how many people would watch econor McGregor fight if
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  Speaker 9: in order to watch the fight they had to watch
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  Speaker 9: the thousands of hours of training that he had to
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  Speaker 9: do to work up to that level delayed gratification.
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  Speaker 1: So I would say it's a sign of maturity.
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  Speaker 10: It's just an investment in ourselves to just believe in
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  Speaker 10: ourself enough to project to say I'm going to pass
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  Speaker 10: up the plastic ring today for the gold crown tomorrow.
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  Speaker 10: I'm gonna maybe make a sacrifice.
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  Speaker 3: Today for a Monday off instead of the Friday off.
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  Speaker 10: If I'm getting a long weekend, give you give yourself
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  Speaker 10: the extra win, the freedom be cool through your future self.
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  Speaker 11: On the back end, you're going to lose sleep, You'll
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  Speaker 11: doubt whether it'll work, you'll stress to make ends meet,
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  Speaker 11: you won't finish it to do list, you'll wonder whether
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  Speaker 11: you make the right cold and have no way to
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  Speaker 11: know for yours. This is what hard feels like, and
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  Speaker 11: that's okay. Everything worth doing is hard, and the more
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  Speaker 11: worth doing it is, the harder it is, the greater
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  Speaker 11: the payoff, the greater the hardship. If it's hard good,
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  Speaker 11: it means no one else will do it well for you.
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  Speaker 12: Nothing must ever done in the history of the world
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  Speaker 12: by any human being that didn't require some level of
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  Speaker 12: data gratification.
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  Speaker 13: Everything is hard before it's easy, and everything at the
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  Speaker 13: beginning is difficult, but later it.
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  Speaker 1: Becomes easy and automatic. You have to.
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  Speaker 13: Force yourself to discipline yourself at the beginning, but after
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  Speaker 13: that it becomes easier and easier, and you actually feel happy,
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  Speaker 13: you know.
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  Speaker 8: And every time I think about working out, you know
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  Speaker 8: as hard as it is. Ali always said training is hard,
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  Speaker 8: is tough, but suffer now and you'll live the rest
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  Speaker 8: of your life as a champion.
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  Speaker 6: The problem is that the bigger the mountain you're trying
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  Speaker 6: to climb, the bigger the w you're trying to get, typically,
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  Speaker 6: the more delayed it between when you start behaving like
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  Speaker 6: a winner and when you start being a winner.
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  Speaker 13: Now, here's the most wonderful thing. An athlete runs in
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  Speaker 13: a race and comes in first. What do they call
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  Speaker 13: this person the winner? Exactly? What it says is that
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  Speaker 13: when you win, when you come in it's the winner.
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  Speaker 13: Your body releases endorphins, which are called nature's happy drug.
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  Speaker 1: They make you happy and dopamine.
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  Speaker 13: So when you complete a task, your body releases these
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  Speaker 13: drugs and.
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  Speaker 1: You feel happy.
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  Speaker 13: So every time you start and complete a task, you
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  Speaker 13: feel like a winner, I mean, you feel like a winner.
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  Speaker 13: You want to do it again and have that winning healing.
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  Speaker 14: Get serious, and you must get serious about two very
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  Speaker 14: important things. Number one is setting your goals and where
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  Speaker 14: you want to go. Designing the next five the next
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  Speaker 14: ten years is so vitally important. Then you have to
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  Speaker 14: get serious about another important subject, personal development. Ten years
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  Speaker 14: from now you will surely become. So the big question
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  Speaker 14: is who. Ten years from now you will surely arrive,
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  Speaker 14: and the question is where.
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  Speaker 3: So to answer the question.
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  Speaker 14: Of where you want to arrive and the kind of
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  Speaker 14: person you want to be, you've got to get serious.
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  Speaker 12: Delay gratification means to sacrifice the hedonism of the present
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  Speaker 12: to the security and iterability of the future, and so
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  Speaker 12: that is a hallmark of maturity. That's also the ability
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  Speaker 12: to make sacrifices. That's why the sacrificial motif is stressed
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  Speaker 12: so hard in the Old Testament.
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  Speaker 3: You have to make sacrifices to what, well, to whatever
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  Speaker 3: you value.
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  Speaker 15: The purpose of going for a hike, ironically, is not
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  Speaker 15: to get to the top. It's to be on the trail.
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  Speaker 15: And if you constantly stare at the top, you're going
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  Speaker 15: to be out of breath. You're going to tell yourself
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  Speaker 15: you have so much longer, why are we ever going
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  Speaker 15: to get that? And you are going to miss the
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  Speaker 15: entire point of your freaking life, which is the ride,
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  Speaker 15: the trail, the bridge, the mile markers, all of it.
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  Speaker 15: And so part of my desire to be happier is
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  Speaker 15: to continually remind myself it is not about getting on
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  Speaker 15: that mountain, because when you get to the top of
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  Speaker 15: that mountain, the top of one mountains just the.
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  Speaker 1: Bottom of another one.
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  Speaker 15: And if you're going up, eventually you got to come
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  Speaker 15: back down. Like that is just like if you focus
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  Speaker 15: on the freaking trail, whatever step you're on, and you
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  Speaker 15: keep reminding yourself, this is going to lead me somewhere.
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  Speaker 1: That is where the meeting comes in your life.
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  Speaker 16: If you don't see results in the first two days
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  Speaker 16: or the first week.
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  Speaker 1: I'm done.
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  Speaker 16: That's the mentality of most people.
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  Speaker 1: The struggle is too real.
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  Speaker 16: We're not patient in the world where you can google
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  Speaker 16: the best restaurants around me right now, no one is patient.
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  Speaker 16: And for you to lose weight if you just stop drinking,
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  Speaker 16: if you rare the hell you're going through.
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  Speaker 1: It takes a lot of patience.
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  Speaker 16: A lot of time, and a lot of pitfalls, a
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  Speaker 16: lot of plateaus. You can hear so many fucking plateaus.
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  Speaker 16: If you'll know how to get around that platu it's
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  Speaker 16: not going to happen fast.
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  Speaker 14: Beware of what you've become in pursuit of what you want.
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  Speaker 14: I got so obsessed with some things that I found
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  Speaker 14: out later the price was too big to pay. If
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  Speaker 14: I would have known better, I never would have paid.
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  Speaker 14: But sometimes we learn when after so don't become so
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  Speaker 14: obsessed with something that you lose your sense of reason
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  Speaker 14: or it costs you your friends.
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  Speaker 17: One of the most important things that we need to
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  Speaker 17: teach young men is delayed gratification. If you just eat
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  Speaker 17: what you want to eat, smoke what you want to smoke,
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  Speaker 17: drink what you want to drink, and sleep with who
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  Speaker 17: you want to sleep with, you're going to ruin generations.
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  Speaker 17: Our culture does not teach delaid gratification. You don't need
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  Speaker 17: to say just going to debt. You don't need to
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  Speaker 17: wait to be married, just move in, sleep together. You
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  Speaker 17: don't need to practice self control. You just drink and
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  Speaker 17: eat whatever you want and just wreck your life and
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  Speaker 17: go into debt. And then both were a socialist who
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  Speaker 17: will send you a stimulus so you can continue your
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  Speaker 17: extended adolescence And if that offends you, you don't have
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  Speaker 17: a job.
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  Speaker 1: But for those of us who do, it's frustrating. There's
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  Speaker 1: a key concepts of life.
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  Speaker 18: And even if you're not where you want to be
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  Speaker 18: in life, and you're grinding and you're on that hustle.
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  Speaker 19: And there's a lot of people I get it, keep grinding,
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  Speaker 19: get but also appreciated, Appreciate that hustle, Appreciate this thing, Appreciate.
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  Speaker 9: This fucking beautiful, chaotic, unknown existence you're in.
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  Speaker 1: Thing we call life.
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  Speaker 6: And so one of my favorite quotes is the work
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  Speaker 6: works on you more than you work on it. And
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  Speaker 6: so if you want to be the best in the
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  Speaker 6: world at something, you do the work to become the
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  Speaker 6: best in the world, and the work works on you.
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  Speaker 6: And so I mean there's a there's a biblical proverty.
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  Speaker 6: I think it'says like there is profit in all labor,
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  Speaker 6: and that means that even if the thing that you're
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  Speaker 6: working on right now doesn't amount to the outcome that
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  Speaker 6: you expected that it would, it doesn't mean that you
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  Speaker 6: don't become better through doing it.
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  Speaker 20: We may encounter many defeats, but we must not be
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  Speaker 20: defeated that in fact, it may be necessary to encounter
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  Speaker 20: defeats so we can know who the hell we are,
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  Speaker 20: what can we overcome, what makes us stumble and fall
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  Speaker 20: and somehow miraculously rise and go on. I know that
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  Speaker 20: a diamond is a result of extreme pressure, less time
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  Speaker 20: and less pressure, and it's just crystal or coal or
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  Speaker 20: fossilized leaves are just dirt, but time and pressure will
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  Speaker 20: create a diamond.
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  Speaker 1: You're happy when you pay. Most of the time.
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  Speaker 4: It's a point.
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  Speaker 1: I fail. She looks absolute time.
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  Speaker 21: There's a lot of destruction and failure at the door
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  Speaker 21: of a successful picture. I find Joe and sorrow, and
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  Speaker 21: sorrow is greater than laughter. You know, an angel, it's
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  Speaker 21: not far from those who are sad, and the illness
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  Speaker 21: can sometimes feel less.
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  Speaker 1: You believe and thank you. Man does what he can
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  Speaker 1: m until his destiny is revealed.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I'm gonna cut off a minute of two.
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  Speaker 19: My doctor says it's okay to exercise, but what becomes
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  Speaker 19: a strange.
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  Speaker 22: You better quit man, You know, doctor don't always talking
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  Speaker 22: about That's what you.
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  Speaker 9: Want to do.
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  Speaker 12: A stray.
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  Speaker 1: You want to run into the pains you are, run
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  Speaker 1: into your.
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  Speaker 3: Thoatills that sad people. You want run and it feels
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  Speaker 3: like you're gonna thought.
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  Speaker 7: You want to keep running to you as the peep
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  Speaker 7: see you're going with that, You're gonna fall out.
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  Speaker 22: You gotta run into your stomachs verts, your heart starts power.
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  Speaker 1: You want to put feel exact. You ain't going another.
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  Speaker 1: It ain't going another step, which keep going.
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  Speaker 23: How many people on this planet are willing to wake
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  Speaker 23: up every single day and go to the gym or
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  Speaker 23: to the trail and put themselves through consistent and constant
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  Speaker 23: adversity without immediate results. I'd say probably less than five
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  Speaker 23: percent of people are willing to do that. See, the
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  Speaker 23: truth is, when you take up running, or you take
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  Speaker 23: up going to the gym and working out, you're not
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  Speaker 23: going to see results immediately. And so what working out
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  Speaker 23: and what fitness does is it teaches you delayed gratification.
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  Speaker 23: You know that if you do this over time, that
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  Speaker 23: you will get the results that you want.
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  Speaker 1: Do you want the future to change.
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  Speaker 24: For you, You've.
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  Speaker 1: Got to change. If you don't change, the.
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  Speaker 14: Next six years of your life is going to be
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  Speaker 14: just like the last six. You'll still be behind your bills,
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  Speaker 14: you'll still be behind on your promises. If you will change,
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  Speaker 14: everything will change for you. If you'll change your philosophy,
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  Speaker 14: if you'll change your habits, if you'll refine your thinking,
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  Speaker 14: if you'll change and accept some new disciplines, all kinds
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  Speaker 14: of remarkable things will happen for you if you will change.
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  Speaker 25: And so what this young generation needs to learn is
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  Speaker 25: patience that some things that really really matter, like job fulfillment, joy,
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  Speaker 25: love of life, self confidence, a skill set, any of
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  Speaker 25: these things, All of these things take time. Overcome the
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  Speaker 25: need to have instant gratification and teach them the joy
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  Speaker 25: is and impact on.
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  Speaker 1: The fulfillment you get from.
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  Speaker 25: Working hard over on something for a long time that
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  Speaker 25: cannot be done in a month or even in a year.
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  Speaker 6: Most people don't get to fasten a feedback loop to
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  Speaker 6: know that they're on the right path. It happens slower
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  Speaker 6: than you expect and then faster than you can imagine.
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  Speaker 6: And I think that's the part that everyone misses, is
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  Speaker 6: expect the faster than they can imagine, and they imagine
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  Speaker 6: really big, and so then their expectations.
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  Speaker 3: Are really big, really fast.
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  Speaker 6: But they they take the intensity and they don't apply
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  Speaker 6: it to a timeline that's appropriate. What has worked so
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  Speaker 6: well for me and why the input over the output
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  Speaker 6: focus has been so powerful is that I can extend
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  Speaker 6: the time rise and basically and definitely because the goal
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  Speaker 6: is me and then the external goals occur.
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  Speaker 26: If I'm eating food, I'll save the best for lass,
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  Speaker 26: you know what I'm saying, I'll eat around it to
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  Speaker 26: the one part that I really want. I want to
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  Speaker 26: I'm gonna save there. I'm like, I'm a delay you
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  Speaker 26: know what I'm saying, gratification. I'm that type of person.
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  Speaker 26: So like I'm literally like, all right, I will party later.
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  Speaker 26: I work hard now, so the second half of my
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  Speaker 26: life I could do whatever the fuck I want. That's
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  Speaker 26: that's been my mentality, is like, I'm not going to
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  Speaker 26: trick off my early years for partying. It ain't worry
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  Speaker 26: about struggling and how I'm going to make it, how
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  Speaker 26: much take care of my family, how I gonna take
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  Speaker 26: care of everybody else? Like, that's not.
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  Speaker 1: Gonna be me. I'm gonna grind it out now, you know, I'm.
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  Speaker 26: Saying, I'm gonna set up the foundation so I can
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  Speaker 26: enjoy myself later. That's always been my mentality and and
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  Speaker 26: that just what that works for me.
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  Speaker 27: But if you've never experienced a reward from discipline, it's
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  Speaker 27: going to be very difficult for you. But you have
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  Speaker 27: to know that after the three months of the six
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  Speaker 27: months of sitting in your office and writing every single
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  Speaker 27: day over and over and over again, you try to
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  Speaker 27: write a book or a novel or whatever, it's boring,
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  Speaker 27: Its health, and Man, I'm going to reach that moment
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  Speaker 27: in three months or four months.
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  Speaker 1: It's going to be a reward.
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  Speaker 27: And I'm going to feel it, and I'm going to
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  Speaker 27: get an addiction.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to get hooked to that.
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  Speaker 27: You get hooked to those rewards to the point where
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  Speaker 27: other kinds of immediate pleasures don't have the same effect
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  Speaker 27: on you.
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  Speaker 28: The ability to delay pleasure is a sign of maturity.
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  Speaker 28: That's what grown ups do. Children do what feels good. Yolo,
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  Speaker 28: you only live once quick instead of like I'm going
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  Speaker 28: to sacrifice to get a greater outcome, I'm going to
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  Speaker 28: live like no one else so that later I can
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  Speaker 28: live and give like no one else. I've got to
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  Speaker 28: have the moment at this moment. That is a childish
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  Speaker 28: expression of any area of your life. It will destroy
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  Speaker 28: your marriage, it will raise horrible children, you know, it'll
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  Speaker 28: mess up your career, and it certainly will mess up
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  Speaker 28: your money. Short term thinking get rich quick has never
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  Speaker 28: worked at any time in the world as an ongoing, provable,
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  Speaker 28: sustainable process. So we got to stick with this idea.
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  Speaker 28: And that even includes our generosity. You know, we were
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  Speaker 28: starting to talk about generosity and the generosity with these
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  Speaker 28: folks with these millionaires that we studied is a steady thing,
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  Speaker 28: like their savings is a steady thing. They're not trying
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  Speaker 28: to have this one big event that says, look at me,
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  Speaker 28: how generous I am. Instead, they're fairly quiet about it,
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  Speaker 28: almost absurdly quiet and anonymous about it, and they steadily
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  Speaker 28: give in to something that they believe in.
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  Speaker 1: I called the Rockie cut scene.
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  Speaker 6: And almost every successful person that I have ever encountered
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  Speaker 6: has gone through not a month or a year, but
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  Speaker 6: many years of doing work without reward, where they have
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  Speaker 6: to do things that other people find boring, and they
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  Speaker 6: have to sacrifice things that everyone finds interesting that most
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  Speaker 6: people want to do during that entire season of their life,
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  Speaker 6: and they basically sacrifice a season of other things that
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  Speaker 6: they would prefer to do to do stuff that they
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  Speaker 6: would not prefer to do because of the one thing
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  Speaker 6: they want most. That's the Rocky cut scene. And instead
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  Speaker 6: of lasting five minutes, it just usually last five or
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  Speaker 6: ten years.
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  Speaker 24: Once you've mastered the ability to delay gratification, the ability
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  Speaker 24: to discipline yourself to keep your attention focused on the
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  Speaker 24: most important task in front of you, there's virtually no
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  Speaker 24: goal that you cannot accomplish, and no task that you
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  Speaker 24: cannot complete.
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  Speaker 22: We really need to begin to reward a culture of
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  Speaker 22: delayed gratification. Delayed gratification doesn't mean no gratification. It just
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  Speaker 22: means if you can wait, wait because your time and
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  Speaker 22: opportunity will come. A young man who came to Dragons
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  Speaker 22: Dead then I funded him. His name was Johan. I
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  Speaker 22: gave him two million. I gave him two million on
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  Speaker 22: the premise of what he committed to me on the show,
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  Speaker 22: and when I did the due diligence, I asked him
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  Speaker 22: very specific questions about how he conducted himself and his business.
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  Speaker 22: And the only thing I was asking him was I
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  Speaker 22: was trying to understand the man's lifestyle. There's two million
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  Speaker 22: rands a lot of money. When I give it to you,
• 17:24
  Speaker 22: where is it going to go. We actually understood that
• 17:26
  Speaker 22: his problem is he's a brilliant business person, he's just
• 17:30
  Speaker 22: very bad at managing his personal lifestyle. And so because
• 17:33
  Speaker 22: he mixes his business life with his personal life, his
• 17:35
  Speaker 22: business is now not investment worthy. This is a culture.
• 17:39
  Speaker 22: Because you have it, you need to show you have it.
• 17:41
  Speaker 22: You never thought about what we do. We buy things
• 17:43
  Speaker 22: we don't need to impress people we don't like. We
• 17:45
  Speaker 22: won't even remember that we bought those things. It is
• 17:47
  Speaker 22: the most fascinating mental thinking.
• 17:50
  Speaker 13: The great majority of people have an irresistible temptation to
• 17:53
  Speaker 13: spend every single penny they make and whatever else they
• 17:56
  Speaker 13: can borrow or.
• 17:57
  Speaker 26: Buy it on credit.
• 17:58
  Speaker 13: If you can't the leagorification and discipline yourself to refrain
• 18:03
  Speaker 13: from spending everything you make, you cannot become wealthy. W.
• 18:07
  Speaker 13: Clement Stone once said, if you cannot save money, then
• 18:10
  Speaker 13: the seeds of greatness are not in you. If you
• 18:13
  Speaker 13: cannot practice budgeting as a lifelong habit, it will be
• 18:16
  Speaker 13: impossible for you to achieve financial independence.
• 18:19
  Speaker 6: And so I think that a lot of people don't
• 18:21
  Speaker 6: actually look at themselves in the mirror and say, like,
• 18:23
  Speaker 6: one year from today, will I remember this football game?
• 18:27
  Speaker 6: Will I remember the fact that I'm not where I
• 18:29
  Speaker 6: said I wanted to be? And to me that was
• 18:32
  Speaker 6: significantly more painful. Now this is an uncomfortable fact for
• 18:36
  Speaker 6: a lot of people. Your ability to delay gratification is
• 18:41
  Speaker 6: actually a function of intelligence, and so your ability to
• 18:44
  Speaker 6: learn at a longer and longer delay. The sign of
• 18:46
  Speaker 6: intelligence is that you can actually expand the reinforcement window,
• 18:49
  Speaker 6: and they can still abstract it back to the original action.
• 18:53
  Speaker 6: If you want to practice intelligence, then being able to
• 18:57
  Speaker 6: actively delay your need for a result or reward from
• 19:02
  Speaker 6: the work you do will make you a more intelligent
• 19:05
  Speaker 6: person because your rate of learning will actually increase despite
• 19:10
  Speaker 6: the fact that your reward rate will decrease in the
• 19:14
  Speaker 6: short term.
• 19:15
  Speaker 11: The bottom line is that if you're talking about beating
• 19:18
  Speaker 11: everybody else on the planet to a thing, what you're
• 19:20
  Speaker 11: actually talking about is what are you prepared to sacrifice psychologically, physically, existentially, relationally, socially,
• 19:28
  Speaker 11: in terms of your self esteem.
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: You're confident everything.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: That you must be willing to sacrifice who you are
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: today for who you want to become tomorrow. You have
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: to sacrifice who you are today for who you want
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: to become tomorrow. There's a verse in the Bible says,
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: when I became a man, I put away childish things.
• 19:44
  Speaker 29: I'm willing to sacrifice right now for who I want
• 19:46
  Speaker 29: to be in the future. I'm willing to sacrifice my
• 19:49
  Speaker 29: current reality for the lifestyle I want to live forever.
• 19:52
  Speaker 29: Right If you can create that for yourself, then you'll
• 19:55
  Speaker 29: be dangerous.
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: You can't become the best version of yourself unless you're
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: willing to nikele who you are today, the bad habits,
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: the bad friendships, bad relationships. Because if you want to
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: become a millionaire, if you want to become a person
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: that's successful, we want to develop a better physique, it
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: will require sacrifice.
• 20:10
  Speaker 14: If you want to become best in this business, you
• 20:13
  Speaker 14: have to sacrifice second office, your time, second adfe your
• 20:16
  Speaker 14: healthy sacond advise everything would you have out of way?
• 20:20
  Speaker 26: I don't know.
• 20:21
  Speaker 30: When you're twenty five, you can be an idiot, it's
• 20:23
  Speaker 30: no problem. That's what young people are like. But they're
• 20:25
  Speaker 30: full of potential. Okay, well now you're the same person
• 20:27
  Speaker 30: at thirty. People aren't so thrilled about you at that point, Like,
• 20:30
  Speaker 30: what the hell have you been doing for the last
• 20:31
  Speaker 30: ten years. Well, I'm just as clueless as I was
• 20:34
  Speaker 30: when I was twenty two.
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but you're not twenty two. You're an old infant
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: and that's an ugly thing.
• 20:40
  Speaker 30: So part of the reason you choose your damn sacrifice
• 20:43
  Speaker 30: because the sacrifice is inevitable, but at least you get
• 20:46
  Speaker 30: to choose it.
• 20:47
  Speaker 6: My favorite Chinese proverb is everything must be hard before
• 20:52
  Speaker 6: it can be easy. I think it's amazing what you
• 20:56
  Speaker 6: can endure when you have no choice, Because at the
• 20:58
  Speaker 6: end of the day, life is hard, but believing it
• 21:02
  Speaker 6: should be easy makes it even hard.
• 21:04
  Speaker 11: I got to show you this so Mark Manson put
• 21:06
  Speaker 11: this quote up a few months ago, and I've not
• 21:08
  Speaker 11: been able to stop thinking about it. The most important
• 21:11
  Speaker 11: question to ask is what pain do you want in
• 21:14
  Speaker 11: your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Anything
• 21:17
  Speaker 11: worthwhile is going to require some degree of pain and struggle.
• 21:20
  Speaker 11: So if you're oriented toward the pain and the struggle,
• 21:24
  Speaker 11: you're probably going to be more aligned with what you're
• 21:26
  Speaker 11: capable of accomplishing, rather than if you just orient toward
• 21:29
  Speaker 11: the pleasures.
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: I'm going to tell you the best advice I ever
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: got at Harvard.
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: You want to be great, you need to sacrifice, and
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: then more painful the sacrifice, the greater you'll be.
• 21:39
  Speaker 11: The person you have to spend the most time listening
• 21:42
  Speaker 11: to in your life is yourself. Try not to lose
• 21:44
  Speaker 11: their respect. Self respect and self esteem I think largely
• 21:49
  Speaker 11: comes from having faith in your own word.
• 21:52
  Speaker 31: The way we're wired, and this is the way people
• 21:56
  Speaker 31: operate basically, is everyone's taking short term comfort that drug, drink, relationships, job, choices.
• 22:04
  Speaker 31: All the choices they make, they make no and there's
• 22:09
  Speaker 31: a level of comfort there. That's how people live their lives.
• 22:12
  Speaker 31: They're not prepared to step into that discomfort knowing that
• 22:15
  Speaker 31: on the other side of that is the long term gain.
• 22:19
  Speaker 31: And if you want to achieve anything in life, if
• 22:21
  Speaker 31: you want to achieve successive work, successes in any aspect
• 22:24
  Speaker 31: of your life, you need to take short term discomfort
• 22:28
  Speaker 31: for long term gain.
• 22:30
  Speaker 32: Being overweight is hard. Being physically fit is hard. Choose
• 22:35
  Speaker 32: your hard. Being in debt is hard. Being financially disciplined
• 22:41
  Speaker 32: is hard. Choose your hard. Working at nine to five
• 22:45
  Speaker 32: until you're sixty five years old, it's hard.
• 22:48
  Speaker 29: Starting a business is hard.
• 22:51
  Speaker 33: Choose your hard.
• 22:53
  Speaker 32: A careless life without God is hard.
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: A life dedicated to good is hard. Choose your hunt.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: You see, life is never easy.
• 23:04
  Speaker 32: It's hard by nature, and the only thing you have
• 23:07
  Speaker 32: to do is choose your hut.
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: So choose wise do.
• 23:12
  Speaker 34: But the most powerful part of thinking grow rich Man
• 23:14
  Speaker 34: is see as this party says, can you survive the temporary?
• 23:18
  Speaker 34: And if you can survive the temporary, says on the
• 23:20
  Speaker 34: other side of temporary pain, you can introduce to your
• 23:24
  Speaker 34: other self, and that other self.
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: He doesn't say this, but that other self produces that
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: other life.
• 23:28
  Speaker 30: If you concentrate solely on your career, you can get
• 23:32
  Speaker 30: a long way in your career. And I would say
• 23:34
  Speaker 30: that that's a strategy that a minority of men preferentially do.
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: That.
• 23:39
  Speaker 30: That's all they do. They work like seventy eighty hours
• 23:41
  Speaker 30: a week. They go flat out on their career. They're
• 23:44
  Speaker 30: staking everything on the small probability of exceptional status in
• 23:49
  Speaker 30: a narrow domain. But it's hard on them. They don't
• 23:52
  Speaker 30: have a life. It's very difficult for them to have
• 23:54
  Speaker 30: a family. They don't know how to take any leisure
• 23:56
  Speaker 30: activity like. They get very one dimension.
• 23:58
  Speaker 22: And that's how you get to beat all the other
• 24:00
  Speaker 22: people who are doing that.
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: It's the only way.
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: But the problem is you don't get life.
• 24:05
  Speaker 33: Do hard things for an easy life, do easy things
• 24:12
  Speaker 33: for a hard life.
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: If you choose the easy route, you've got a hard life.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: If you choose you.
• 24:18
  Speaker 33: Know, you don't have to go to the gym, you
• 24:20
  Speaker 33: don't have to build a business, you don't have to
• 24:23
  Speaker 33: be nice to people. You don't have to do public speaking.
• 24:27
  Speaker 33: I don't have to go live on Facebook. I don't
• 24:29
  Speaker 33: have to do it. I can sit and do fuck all.
• 24:32
  Speaker 33: But let me know how that works out for you.
• 24:35
  Speaker 33: When you start to face your fears every day, when
• 24:37
  Speaker 33: you start to do uncomfortable things every day, you know
• 24:39
  Speaker 33: what happens. The uncomfortable things become more comfortable. And when
• 24:44
  Speaker 33: you get comfortable doing uncomfortable things, that's where you see success.
• 24:49
  Speaker 33: When you get used to the discomfort of lifting weights
• 24:51
  Speaker 33: and going to the gym, you get very comfortable because
• 24:54
  Speaker 33: you get more confident, because your self esteem goes up.
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: Your self confidence goes up, and you look.
• 25:00
  Speaker 33: The way that you potentially want to look because you're
• 25:02
  Speaker 33: doing the work.
• 25:05
  Speaker 35: People do not change until they realize that the pain
• 25:09
  Speaker 35: of staying the same is way worse than the pain
• 25:12
  Speaker 35: of change. Because life is either easy now and hard later,
• 25:17
  Speaker 35: or hard now and easy later. Everything in life has consequences.
• 25:22
  Speaker 35: Choosing easy now and sitting on your phone and scrolling
• 25:26
  Speaker 35: instead of working out means you might lack mobility. You
• 25:29
  Speaker 35: might not be able to walk as well later on
• 25:31
  Speaker 35: down the road. Easy now and hard later. Choosing fast
• 25:36
  Speaker 35: food over making a healthy meal today means easy now,
• 25:41
  Speaker 35: hard later, But the consequences of that easy now might
• 25:45
  Speaker 35: be a heart attack later.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: On down the road.
• 25:47
  Speaker 35: Getting up and taking action towards a better you is
• 25:51
  Speaker 35: always harder now, whether it's your body, your money, your relationships.
• 25:56
  Speaker 35: Choosing hard now will make your life easier so much
• 26:00
  Speaker 35: later down the road.
• 26:01
  Speaker 4: Any goal that you're going after, whether you're trying to
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: lose weight, or whether you're trying to build wealth, or
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: whether you're trying to start a ministry, or whether you're
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: trying to build a marriage, or whether you're trying to
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: open up a business, you have to have delayed gratification.
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: If you open up a business and you start eating
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: up all the profits and spending it as fast as
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: you're making it, your business won't last long. You have
• 26:27
  Speaker 4: got to open up the business and ignore the profits.
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: If you have the strength to ignore the profits long enough,
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: they will accrue in value and strength to the point
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: that you can go beyond what We fall into the
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: abyss of looking rich. It is far better to be
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: a thing than look a thing, but in our haste
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: to be impressive, we will take the shortcut of looking black.
• 27:07
  Speaker 4: We have something that we do not, and when we
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: do that, we forfeit the opportunity to actually be what
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: we are professing. Because it is expensive to require immediate gratification.
• 27:24
  Speaker 18: If you just sacrificed this summer, these next three months
• 27:30
  Speaker 18: of your life broke, you could change the entire trajectory
• 27:35
  Speaker 18: of your entire life.
• 27:36
  Speaker 36: Get back to fucking work. It's time to get back
• 27:39
  Speaker 36: to work. You have to give it everything you got.
• 27:42
  Speaker 36: No more TV, no more parties, no more plan. If
• 27:45
  Speaker 36: you have a four point zero, what you need to
• 27:47
  Speaker 36: be doing is studying. Get off the phone. I'm sorry,
• 27:51
  Speaker 36: I'm not available until the end of this year. I'm
• 27:53
  Speaker 36: about to get busy.
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: Nah.
• 27:54
  Speaker 37: Hey, bro, I need to get back in that mode again.
• 27:57
  Speaker 37: That mode were nothing gonna take you off your O pivot.
• 27:59
  Speaker 37: You were just putting in that work every single day.
• 28:01
  Speaker 37: Said that version of you as different. You gotta tap
• 28:03
  Speaker 37: back into it. No'm me out here playing with no
• 28:04
  Speaker 37: potential because you one of them ones. Brother, you're special.
• 28:07
  Speaker 18: If you literally just took your fucking attention that's here, here, here, here, here,
• 28:11
  Speaker 18: have fun, this and that this entire summer and focused
• 28:15
  Speaker 18: it into one thing. While everybody else is fucking around
• 28:19
  Speaker 18: and having fun and fucking the bitches and drinking and
• 28:23
  Speaker 18: going to the parties, enjoying life.
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: But they're still broke. Your whole life could change.
• 28:29
  Speaker 7: All self help is hard choices now, easy life later.
• 28:33
  Speaker 7: Everything is the marshmallow test. Everything is about saying, look,
• 28:36
  Speaker 7: you know that famous marshmallow test of give a kid.
• 28:39
  Speaker 7: You can have one marshmallow now or two later. Probably
• 28:41
  Speaker 7: the biggest thing I got from the show and from
• 28:44
  Speaker 7: following you was that idea of serving yourself in twenty
• 28:48
  Speaker 7: four hours, you have to serve someone. What are you
• 28:51
  Speaker 7: going to do today that you tomorrow will appreciate? Because
• 28:57
  Speaker 7: for something about a day, it seems about the right
• 28:58
  Speaker 7: time frame. If it's in six months time and you're
• 29:02
  Speaker 7: trying to go to the gym and motivate yourself by
• 29:04
  Speaker 7: and you look great in six months, it's.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: Like, ah, I don't know.
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: I don't know if you can do that.
• 29:09
  Speaker 38: If you literally boil success down in any field, it's
• 29:11
  Speaker 38: just the ability to endure short term discomfort for long
• 29:14
  Speaker 38: term achieve whether you want to lose weight, whether you
• 29:16
  Speaker 38: want to have a good marriage, or whether you want
• 29:17
  Speaker 38: to have a six pack, whether you want to make money.
• 29:18
  Speaker 38: It's like you have to be willing to endure short
• 29:20
  Speaker 38: term sacrifice for a long term achiap.
• 29:22
  Speaker 26: There's two sides of pain that I don't think a
• 29:25
  Speaker 26: lot of people really understand.
• 29:28
  Speaker 23: Right, There's there's one side of pain, that's.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: The suffering and the discomfort side of pain. But then
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: there's another sign of pain that's called effort. It's called glory.
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: It's called if you can find a way to push
• 29:44
  Speaker 4: through pain, there's something right on the other side of it.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: And and if you never tap into.
• 29:51
  Speaker 36: It, it's because the first time you felt that you
• 29:54
  Speaker 36: backed home, the first time you.
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: Feel that burn, the first time you feel too much.
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: And we rastal lives with ourselves so well, we automatically stop.
• 30:08
  Speaker 39: That's why both of us give up so much in
• 30:10
  Speaker 39: life so quickly.
• 30:12
  Speaker 4: That's why kids have a problem.
• 30:15
  Speaker 13: Finishing things today's time.
• 30:18
  Speaker 37: As soon as they feel a fall bit of discomfortable
• 30:22
  Speaker 37: of things, they't write, Oh they're gone.
• 30:25
  Speaker 4: I can't do it no more.
• 30:27
  Speaker 7: With the pose that told you the greatest thing of
• 30:31
  Speaker 7: my life.
• 30:33
  Speaker 39: It's the reason I'm staring the other day. Wouldn't you
• 30:38
  Speaker 39: want to know what would happen if you spent just
• 30:41
  Speaker 39: one year, just one year, giving it your absolute all.
• 30:46
  Speaker 39: You gave your diet your absolute all. You gave your
• 30:49
  Speaker 39: fitness regiment your absolute all. You gave your work your
• 30:52
  Speaker 39: absolute all, how drastically would your life change in just
• 30:56
  Speaker 39: one year, one year of uninterrupted I bet your life
• 31:01
  Speaker 39: would change drastically. I bet you'd be a completely different person.
• 31:05
  Speaker 39: I bet you'd be completely unrecognizable. I bet you would
• 31:09
  Speaker 39: look back and be like, I can't believe I was
• 31:11
  Speaker 39: living the way I was. Time is going to pass anyway.
• 31:15
  Speaker 39: The next year of your life is going to happen
• 31:18
  Speaker 39: regardless of what you do. So why don't you spend
• 31:20
  Speaker 39: that year giving it your absolute all and just see
• 31:24
  Speaker 39: what happens. If you do that, I guarantee you will
• 31:27
  Speaker 39: look back one year from today and say that was
• 31:31
  Speaker 39: the best decision I have ever made.
• 31:34
  Speaker 36: Pour yourself together, and quit tripping cast you in the process.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: The marshmallow experiment was taking place.
• 31:42
  Speaker 40: It took place in the late sixties where Walter Michelle
• 31:45
  Speaker 40: was a psychologist at Stanford out in Palo Alto. He
• 31:48
  Speaker 40: would come in and sit down on one side of
• 31:49
  Speaker 40: a table and it was a kid on the other
• 31:51
  Speaker 40: side of the table between four and eight years old,
• 31:53
  Speaker 40: and in front of the kid it was a marshmallow.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: So he says to the kid, you want the marshmallow?
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: Kids like yeah. He says, I'll tell you what.
• 31:59
  Speaker 40: I have to go take a phone call in the
• 32:00
  Speaker 40: back here, but when I come back, the marshmallow is
• 32:03
  Speaker 40: still there.
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: I'll give you another one. Can you wait.
• 32:06
  Speaker 40: Every kid's like, yeah, totally, totally, totally worth it.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: He comes back five minutes later.
• 32:11
  Speaker 40: So eighty percent of the kids that eat in the marshmallow,
• 32:14
  Speaker 40: twenty percent of the kids hadn't. That's a lot. Eighty
• 32:17
  Speaker 40: percent of the kids could not defer the gratification. So
• 32:19
  Speaker 40: the real question is who's the twenty percent. These are
• 32:22
  Speaker 40: the people that went on to do distinguished things. They
• 32:25
  Speaker 40: did better in school, they got better grades, they went
• 32:29
  Speaker 40: on to have more job success, they had better relationships.
• 32:32
  Speaker 41: Bro, I want to do it. I want to do
• 32:34
  Speaker 41: it makes me feel good. I like feeling good, you know.
• 32:37
  Speaker 41: But I just know, I just know subconsciously that if
• 32:40
  Speaker 41: I only do the things that make me good in
• 32:42
  Speaker 41: the short term, it's going to lead to destruction in
• 32:45
  Speaker 41: the future.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: I'm supposed to live my life like it matters.
• 32:50
  Speaker 19: When I sacrificed my future on the altar of now,
• 32:53
  Speaker 19: I waste my life, you know, when I when I'm
• 32:55
  Speaker 19: getting blasted, getting drunk and getting high and having sex
• 32:59
  Speaker 19: with anybody who will down with me when I'm living my.
• 33:01
  Speaker 4: Life like that.
• 33:03
  Speaker 19: What I'm doing is I'm sacrificing my future on the
• 33:05
  Speaker 19: altar of my present, and there's no way that ends well.
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: You start going to the gym, you feel weak. In
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: order to become strong, you go to the library, you read,
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: you don't understand. You feel stupid in order to become smart.
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: The process of discomfort is inevitable. You have to go
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: through it. Most people have that initial feeling, that initial
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: lack of self belief because they don't understand that they
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: have to be humbled first in every aspect in the
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: north to grow. So you go to the gym, you
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: feel like shit. That's a good thing. It just shows
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: you that you need to improve. Most people go to
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: the gym feel like shit.
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: Never go back.
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: Put on an oversized T shirt. Problem covered, No, it's
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: not the problem. It's not covered. You need to go
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: through that parallel problem. You solve it, and then you
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: get the reward. Every aspect of play facet your ability
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: to delay gratification. It's not just like, oh, I can
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: wait a week or I can wait a month. But
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: I made this tweet that went pretty viral. It was like,
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: if you can wait a year, you can make a
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: ton of money. Like, if you can do something for
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: twelve months, you cannot need for financial goodness pretty much
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: for the rest of your life.
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: I'm not saying you're going to be hell rich, but
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: you're not going to need for anything.
• 34:05
  Speaker 42: If you can wait twelve months, if you can wait
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  Speaker 42: a decade, you're going to be above the one percent.
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  Speaker 3: If you can wait ten years for.
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  Speaker 42: An outcome, be able to do the doing without seeing
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  Speaker 42: the result for ten years, you will be able to
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  Speaker 42: be above any most achievement of most people.
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  Speaker 3: And if you can wait a lifetime and you don't even.
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  Speaker 42: Need to see the result of your doing this even
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  Speaker 42: while you are alive, but know that it may get
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  Speaker 42: done after you pass that, I believe that you can.
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  Speaker 3: Change the world.
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  Speaker 42: And I mean then and so I think that if
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  Speaker 42: people can just extend the time horizon that they're measuring
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  Speaker 42: themselves on, they can just do so much more.