Latest / Speak In Flow / The Secret To Understanding Self-Doubt And Fear
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- 0:01Melinda Lee: If you're like many corporate leaders or heart centered entrepreneurs, you may have been putting off public speaking, because you might think it's not working for me, it won't work, you might have tried other public speaking, coaching and didn't see much improvement, or you're just convinced, hey, I'm not going to be a public speaker. And for somebody else, you might have a lot of things to do and leave little room for anything else. And so here's the thing I want to say, working on your public speaking skills. If you don't, you're missing out on significant opportunities. You may not be influencing those stakeholders, your team as effectively. And then you're not advancing, you're in your career as quickly as you could. And if you were a confident and effective communicator, you can speed up and fast track your career, your opportunities start to come to you because you're seen as an effective leader and influencer. The good news is, it's not too late to start is never too late to overcome your fear or your doubt. In fact, I recently started working with a client who was skeptical at first, and I'm gonna call her Olivia. Olivia, she's a corporate executive who had to present to stakeholders regularly. And despite she's very successful in her career, Olivia was still terrified of speaking in public, she was afraid of the judgement, she judged herself and afraid that other people might judge her just the same. She believed that nothing was going to help her overcome the sense of doubt. However, after working with me, we were able to trace back her fears, her fear of judgment, she did not deliver a presentation well when she was in school. And that sense of embarrassment still follows her, it created a limiting belief thinking, I am not good enough, that's embarrassing, and this is going to happen again. And so we were able to neutralize the charge from that moment. And so she can think about that exact past moment and not have a charge, feel free from it as if she was watching a movie. And that is what I do. This is what we do to create compelling speakers. Now she's able to deliver compelling presentations, and win over stakeholders leading to greater buy in for her projects. So how did we do this with Olivia, it's twofold we work from the inside out, we got to break down what it is that is holding you back, and then bring in what you do want. Imagine a kitchen remodel, if you're going to put in new appliances, new equipment, you got to get rid of the old, you got to get rid of the old appliances and old equipments. So that's what we do in our private sessions, we will discover the root causes of your fear and uncertainty. And that's what we did with Olivia, we acknowledge it, we go to the fear, we don't put it aside, we go to the doubt. And then we work really quickly to overcome it. And within just several sessions, she's able to overcome that visceral doubt from the past. And then once that's gone, we're able to put in what it is that she wants. We're able to install new equipment, new set of beliefs, new patterns of feelings, such as courage, confidence, and then speak from an internal truth, internal knowing. And that is only after you're able to get rid of the old and bring in the new. And so remember, it is never too late to start overcoming your fears Your doubt of public speaking, become a fearless communicator and influencer. Unleash your leadership voice. Just like my client, Olivia, who went from being very skeptical. Is this going to work for me? Who am I to now winning over stakeholders with a compelling presentation, allowing herself to be free to speak from truth from her knowing from her intuition and guide her people her audience into inspired action?