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5 Things that will make a Narcissist IGNORE YOU · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about 5 things that will make a
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  narcissist ignore you. Make them ignore you.
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  If you do hear, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and welcome to
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  another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  So boom, welcome back, welcome back, welcome back, folks.
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  Yes, five things 5555 things hide and ready that could make a
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  narcissist or talk to a person start to ignore you make start
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  to pretend you don't exist and things like that.
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  You know, before we hop into today's episode, y'all make sure
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  to check out joining my you know, my support groups and
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  whatnot. My oh, check out my courses is
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  whatever all available at mental health illness.net, mental
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  illness.net meet ups. All everything is on there.
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  My books, everything is on there.
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  But yes, the number one reason #1 the number one thing that
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  will make this is no particular order.
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  This is the number list. The number one thing is they
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  feel like you disrespected them. How to get a narcissist to
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  ignore you disrespect them or it doesn't even have to really be
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  disrespect. It could be perceived.
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  I know how love saying the word perceived, right, perceived
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  disrespect. This is perceived disrespect.
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  Like I think, I think I think you disrespected me, you know,
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  and that that can go in so many different ways, right?
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  That can go in so many different so many different ways and
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  functions and all that other good stuff.
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  Yeah, my friend just bought a house.
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  That's cool. Not with me though.
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  I'm a realtor agent in North Carolina.
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  But yeah, perceived disrespect. They think you disrespect them.
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  It could cause you them to ignore you, pretend you don't
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  exist. Like disrespecting them or
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  perceived disrespect. Could be you telling them no,
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  could be you rejecting them, Could be you laughing too hard
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  at the waiters joke or the waitresses joke.
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  Could be like you breathing in the direction of the waiter or
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  waitress. It could be something super
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  simple or stupid like that right?
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  It could be something completely foolish and out outside of your
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  control. Perceived disrespect.
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  If they think that you disrespect them, that you go
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  against their wishes, like you take the kids to somewhere, You
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  take the kids to your parents house when they hate your
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  parents, that's disrespect. You take the kids to the park
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  when they hate that damn park, that's disrespect.
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  You see what I'm saying? Perceived disrespect.
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  Perceived disrespect can make them ignore you or pretend that
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  you don't exist, right? Simple as that.
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  How did you disrespect the narcissist?
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  How did you know? Drop in the comment section.
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  How did the narcissist say that you disrespected them?
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  How did that happen? You know what I mean?
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  The second thing, number 2222 is going to be to regain control.
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  This is like the solid. This is kind of the solid
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  treatment personified right there.
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  They'll ignore you. They'll pretend you don't exist
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  because they feel like they've lost control, like they'll give
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  you the solid treatment, ignore you, ghost wall, ghost, ghost
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  wall Stonewall you or ghost you to regain some form of some
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  feeling of lost control in the relationship, right?
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  It just, it, it just happens that way.
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  They feel like you now have the power, something some way has
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  shifted in your in your in your power, like in the power dynamic
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  in the relationship, like you are in control.
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  So they have to take control back.
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  So instead of just being an adult and talking to you about
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  it, they just ignore you or pretend you don't exist.
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  They give you the silent treatment like this could be you
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  catch like you can catch them cheating, right?
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  You can catch them cheating, you can catch them being abusive,
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  you can catch them being toxic or whatever.
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  You can. And you try to hold them
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  accountable. And instead of just talking to
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  you and try to take accountability, guess what they
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  do? They ignore you to regain
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  control of the situation because then you're begging to talk.
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  You know what I'm saying? They ignore you to do to do that
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  type of stuff right there. This happens so much in toxic
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  relationship. They ignore you to regain
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  control of a situation. They pretend they give you the
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  silent treatment for holding them accountable.
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  They do this type of stuff all the damn time and it's
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  consistent. It's consistent.
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  This is more of the passive aggressive covert narcissist as
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  well. Y'all overt narcissist.
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  They, they, they might yell and scream at you.
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  They might give you narcissistic rage as opposed to just being
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  passive aggressive and give you the silent treatment and
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  ignoring you and pretending you don't exist.
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  There are the toxic narcissistic, a very abusive
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  narcissist out there that don't care about pretending you don't
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  exist. They will try to hurt you and
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  harm you and do everything and do anything necessary to get
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  back to get things in order. You know what I mean?
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  That's the type of stuff that they would do.
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  That's the type of stuff that they could take a hold of and
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  grasp a hold of and things of that nature.
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  They will continuously do this type of stuff because it
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  benefits them within today. So to regain control is the
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  second one. Number three, they won't.
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  They make you want them. If they ignore you, it creates
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  this, this void within you. Sometime, especially if you
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  might be a codependent person, you, a person that you know you
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  crave communication. They can ignore you just to make
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  you want them. This is insidious.
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  This is insidious intent, y'all, and I was like Lee Lee,
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  insidious intent. What the hell are you talking
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  about? Insidious intent is when they do
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  this type of stuff right here, they will literally because they
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  feel like they want you to. I need to make her miss me.
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  This is me talking. I need to make her miss me.
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  What can I do? I see you texting me.
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  I see you calling me. I'm not even doing anything.
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  I'm at home watching Battlestar Galactica.
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  The new one, the new, the updated version of Battlestar
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  Galactica with Razor and all that other good stuff with
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  Admiral Adama. That Battlestar Galactica,
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  Edward James, almost that Battlestar Galactica.
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  Not the old one. Haven't seen the other one yet.
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  I'm just ignoring your caller because I want to make you want
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  me. The more you text me, the more
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  you call me, the more you blow me up.
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  I know my plan of ignoring you is working.
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  This is why I tell y'all, the more you blow up your
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  narcissistic partner, the more you keep calling them, texting
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  them, they know they are in control.
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  It goes back to the regaining control part as well.
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  These can be these can all kind of, you know, bleed into the
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  next section as well. Like to read to make you want
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  me. I just ignore you.
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  I pretend you don't exist. I see it.
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  I got look, I got my read look, I got my my read receipts on my
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  iPhone. So when you call me or you text
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  me and I see it you know I see it you know you know that I see
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  it right and like I said, you know that I see it and in this
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  situation when things like this happen, you know that I see it
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  it messes with you it confuses you you like it makes you want
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  me like did I do something wrong?
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  Look now you're now you're texting me texting me texting
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  me. Y'all know I got these likes
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  here, y'all been following me for years.
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  You know I got my I got my front teeth, my front teeth done and
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  I'm still learning how to talk and say certain words with this.
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  So texting. Texting.
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  Now you're texting me asking me what you did wrong.
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  Right now you're texting me asking me is there a problem
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  asking me like can we make things better?
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  Can we see each other? Can I see you now?
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  I got you pleading with me and I you ain't done nothing.
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  Now I know you want me. Yeah yeah.
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  You want me more. Now you look desperate.
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  Now I got you and I might just just text you back and just say
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  I'm fine we're good. I was busy.
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  I wasn't ignoring you. I promise.
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  Gotcha. Be very wary in this situation,
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  y'all, because they will message your damn heads and they don't
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  care about messing with your heads because they feel like
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  it's allowed. We talk, we communicated, we're
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  talking, it's allowed. That's the mindset of a lot of
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  narcissistic people right there, y'all.
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  The next thing right here, number four on the list is to
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  bring you down a notch. This is when you are being
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  successful. This is when you are achieving
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  your goals. This is when you are let you
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  know, getting promotions and things like that.
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  This is when they you this is when you're elevated in life and
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  they feel like you're leaving them behind or you have you're
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  on this pedestal now, like you being celebrated.
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  You people are celebrating you people are, you know, doing this
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  type of stuff for you. This is when this is when they
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  feel like they need to bring you down a notch.
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  So to put you in your place, they ignore you.
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  They pretend your success didn't even happen.
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  Babe, why did you come to my why did you come to my college
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  graduation? Babe, why don't you come to my
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  pending ceremony? Babe, why don't you come when?
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  Why don't you come to my birthday party?
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  Why don't you come to do this? Why don't you do that?
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  Why don't you come to celebrate with me?
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  Why don't you do this? Why didn't you do that?
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  Why don't you get some me something for my birthday, like
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  one of your one of your one of the big birthdays, like 40-50
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  one of those big birthdays. They will ignore you on one of
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  those days, y'all they will, they will do the type of stuff
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  right there. They'll ignore you on one of
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  these days, one of your days and whatnot.
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  They'll keep doing this type of stuff to you because it puts you
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  in your place. It makes you feel, it makes it
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  about them. It makes your special times your
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  special days about them. Now, now, Dave successfully
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  become the center of attention in your moments of shine.
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  It's like they it's like they take like literally like this
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  right here. Y'all.
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  They take the light, they take the light that's shining on you
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  and they shining on them like all the light is on you, right?
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  All the light is on you and they just ignore you.
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  Babe, where you at? Why don't you show up?
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  Mom, why don't you show up? Dad, why don't you show up?
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  This could be your parent, right?
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  This doesn't have to be an intimate relationship.
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  Now the light is on them. Now you're asking me all these
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  questions. Now the light they they
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  successfully took taking your light and whatnot and now
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  they've made your they put you in your place.
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  Now they made your special time about them.
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  They made your success. They descend of your success.
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  Now it's crazy out jealous, nasty, narcissistic people and
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  they will keep doing this type of stuff to you because they
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  feel like it's allowed. The next thing in this situation
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  right here, y'all, the next and last but not least is they
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  ignore you and disconnect from you because they're about to
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  discard you. Last but not last but definitely
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  not least, they about to discard you and get rid of you.
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  So they start to ignore you, right?
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  They start to ignore you. They start to pretend you don't
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  exist. They start doing this type of
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  toxicity and these type of this type of just horrible dynamic
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  right here. They keep doing it because it
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  works. And so now they're about to
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  discard you and get rid of you. So they disconnect from you
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  emotionally. They start ignoring you more.
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  They stop responding to you. They start pretending you don't
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  exist because this is leads to the reverse discord.
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  They want to leave you, but they want you to be the one who pulls
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  the trigger, right? They want to end the
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  relationship, but they want you to be the one who does it so
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  they can have an excuse to move on.
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  You broke up with me. I didn't even want to break up
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  with you. You broke up with me, So what
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  are you expecting me to do? What was I supposed to do here?
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  Like you left me when you were ignoring me pretending I didn't
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  exist. You didn't even ask me why did
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  you? You just broke up with me.
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  You didn't want to make things work.
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  So now I'm with, so now I'm with, now I'm with her.
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  Now I'm with him. Now I'm out here, you know,
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  clapping cheeks everywhere. They are about to, they, they
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  are about to discard you. Not all of them will do the
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  reverse discard in that situation.
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  Some of them will absolutely do the, the physical discard.
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  They'll just actually physically break up with you.
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  You know what I mean? They'll physically break up with
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  you and get rid of you. They will.
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  And this type of stuff keeps happening over and over again
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  because they feel like it works, y'all.
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  So ignoring, if they're ignoring you on purpose and things like
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  that, just prepare y'all for one of these five reasons.
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  And I could have missed some reasons, y'all?
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  This is the five that came on top of my head and whatnot.
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  If I miss the reason and you feel like you got ignored for a
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  different reason, drop it in the comment section.
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  Because the things that I don't know, you do know.
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  That's why we work together. That's why my support groups, we
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  work together, We share ideas, we come up with different things
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  to help other people because everybody's experiences are
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  going to be different. Your experience might be
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  different than these five on the list.
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  Your your experience might help somebody else who's had a
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  different shared experience. So drop it in the comment
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  And as always, as always, this is out.
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  Peace. Thank you so much for making it
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  to the end of my video. I'm extremely grateful for you.
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  Thank you so much again. I will see you in the next
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  video. Peace.