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Challenge Your Limits or Stay Stuck in Them | Episode 475 · Voices for Voices®

• 0:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Hi everyone, it's Justin here, Voices for Voices.
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• 1:46
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• 2:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Again, we're over 470 episodes.
• 2:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if my math is correct, given with uh episodes that we've filmed and episodes uh to be dropped, uh I believe this will be episode number 475.
• 2:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, you will notice that we are a little bit behind in our social media uh kickoff to let everybody know.
• 2:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh so those are to come.
• 2:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh but uh our shows are uh available.
• 2:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So if you're watching this show, listening to this show, that means that episode 474 is also watchable, viewable, and again, sharing is caring, and we thank you so much.
• 3:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh we're we're gonna uh we did we did uh the previous episode on pretty pretty cool topic, so you'll have to check that out.
• 3:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh something I've been meaning to do, and it being the event uh just recently occurred, uh a event that's related to it.
• 3:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And and so I thought, you know what, let's let's do that because it definitely relates to mental health.
• 3:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh what else relates to mental health is how much so many ways to share this, how much credit we give ourselves, how much grace we give ourselves, how much belief, how much confidence.
• 3:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm just talking about just as a human being, you know, we're we're allowed to get tired, we're allowed to overeat uh from time to time, or take extra take extra sleep, or whatever your aura is, and that's okay.
• 4:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I think at least as my mental health goes, I beat myself up way too much over it, and it's it it's hard.
• 4:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um talk about something very very small, uh slightly uh slightly uh related to this particular topic.
• 4:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, but just because we just recently did it, I thought it'd be something that it might you might find helpful.
• 5:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh and that is this.
• 5:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So we have a new dog, uh, first-time pet owners, other than you know, the beta fish, goldfish type of deal.
• 5:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um and so uh uh my nephew had a ball game, found out.
• 5:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So I was like, yeah, let's let's take our dog to the game.
• 5:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's outside, relatively nice day.
• 5:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, it was hot, a little humid, and and so we'll uh I we went.
• 5:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh so it's I took our dog.
• 5:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um the game before the game we were there to see with my nephew uh was running a little bit a little bit behind.
• 6:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So they started, I think, a little bit behind, so they ended a little bit behind.
• 6:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So it's pretty unusual.
• 6:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Usually we like to try to get there early, but it's it's it's very interesting with these sports, I'm finding, is how often a sports game will be listed to start at as let's say 330, and then you show up at 325, and if it's a baseball game, American baseball, it might already be in the second or third inning, and it's like, what the heck?
• 6:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I I got here early, even if only by a few minutes.
• 6:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh and so that that's what happened today.
• 7:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, but the opposite.
• 7:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So we got there early, which we like I said, we we tried to do, and there's a ball game on on the same field, and we're uh and I'm thinking, oh my gosh.
• 7:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I looked at the scoreboard, and I think it was like the fourth or fifth inning, and I was like, oh my gosh, here we go again.
• 7:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: New ball season, at least for for me, the first first ball game uh of my nephews that I've uh been able to get out to, and come to find out it was the game before then.
• 7:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So there was, I think, maybe two innings, maybe three.
• 7:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And because of the way that the the game went, one team won by ten or more runs, and so uh the game ended.
• 8:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I think they would have played, I think, a total of seven innings, and and it ended, I think, after five.
• 8:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm still trying to figure that out, but it ended early, and so I'm like I said, I'm I'm trying to figure out what's going on, and I'm like, okay, because then I saw my nephew, and then he saw he saw me, and he saw our dog, Lucy, and he said, as he always he always does, and both my nephews are just so um such class acts, everything they do, you know, they're doing good or not so good.
• 8:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um, and so he said, Thank thanks for coming, and uh so by the time that the game before his ended, okay, and then warm-ups, which are usually like when I like to get there, is during warmups when they're right, they're American baseball, they're playing catch, the pitchers practicing warming up, you know, they're they're they're practicing, you know, don't infield practice, uh they're hitting out uh pop flies in the air for uh you know the outfielders, and and so that time, so the game before so it was let's call it like 20 minutes or so that they were playing the finish up, plus another 20 minutes to get started.
• 9:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So that's like I'm there with Lucy for 40 minutes, and it was a rather humid day, and we had an Easter egg hunt earlier this morning, and it was even at the earlier hours, uh, and we did a little bit of walking to to to the location where where they were having it, and so we walked, we got there, did the Easter egg hunt, walked home, and she Lucy had her tongue out like and I was like, I think she's thirsty.
• 10:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, you know, you see pictures and stuff.
• 10:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's like, oh well, that's sometimes that's just the way they that's just their look is is is by having their tongue out.
• 10:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And and it was the first time I think, at least that I've seen, that it looked like that.
• 10:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh and and so then fast forward to the ball game, the game starts, and then the home team was my nephew's team, so they go there in the field first on defense.
• 11:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Once they get three outs, then they come in and bat until they get the other team gets that his team out three times.
• 11:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so this whole time I'm walking not the whole time, a lot of the time I was walking with Lucy, uh especially in between games and warming up, and I'm trying to like, if she's gotta go, you know, go to the potty, like, go ahead.
• 11:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh there's there was quite a lot of space.
• 11:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I finally brought my dog my doggy poop bags.
• 11:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like, I'm ready.
• 11:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And um so then we we we go and we sit down and I'm I'm trying to at least watch a my nephew for a little bit.
• 12:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like I said, I I haven't had a pet before to go on to a game.
• 12:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'll pet before first, and then to go to a game, so it's like I have to I can't just focus on my attention because the way my mind works is in the medication and and the therapy and all that stuff.
• 12:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It is to get me to focus as much as I can, and so when I'm with Lucy and then I'm trying to watch my nephew, like so we sat down, we luckily got a good picture uh of Lucy sitting on my lap.
• 12:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: My nephew was the next person up the bat, and it just so happens that where they practice swing was right, I mean on the other side of the net, then that's up for safety.
• 13:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: They had that for some time because of people getting hurt and not paying attention and and all that.
• 13:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh so did that and and Lucy's just I pick her up, I'm like, maybe she'll just you know fall asleep, or at least just be tuckered out.
• 13:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No, she's f fighting down, she's like going in the mulch, uh, going in flower beds, even though the flowers aren't fully bloom yet.
• 13:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I'm like, no, we don't eat flowers, we don't we don't eat the mulch, and I know she probably doesn't understand, I I get it, but I'm trying to like so, anyways, my mind is I'm trying to focus on my nephew who's just about ready to go bat, and and also Lucy as well, because I don't want her to get loose and somehow get away as that would be that'd be so such a bad, bad thing, uh, for if that would happen.
• 14:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So we had our first game, it was cool.
• 14:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh we lasted one inning, but like I said, we were there for probably 45 minutes thereabouts uh the whole time from when we arrived at the ballgame to when the game before finished up to the practice warming up to when the game started.
• 15:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh so we got to we got to see our my nephew uh and so it was good.
• 15:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh good to to get out and see him.
• 15:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: My other nephew was uh a little ways away playing uh playing basketball uh and they were in they were in a tournament and I didn't get a chance to see him.
• 15:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh saw him yesterday, but try to do the best I can to get out and and be able to try to see both of them play their sports and um you know be the as best and supportive as I can.
• 15:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And again, I'm not perfect, I get that.
• 16:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So that's kind of how we're kicking off this episode.
• 16:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The real heart of this episode though, is on limits and limiting the thought, you know, the thought process of limiting.
• 16:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like, okay, well, I'm gonna go to the store and I need milk and a loaf of bread.
• 16:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Well, maybe the loaf of bread is yeah, so maybe on the list you have milk, loaf of bread, others, other things.
• 16:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so you go and you're expecting to leave with you know whether it's uh a gallon, half a gallon, what have you, uh loaf of bread.
• 17:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh-huh.
• 17:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But then when you get to the store, you see the the milks, buy one, get one free, buy one, get one half off.
• 17:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe the bread's like that, buy one, get one half off, buy one, get one free.
• 17:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so you end up getting double from what your expectations were.
• 17:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Now, if you don't need the second one, a lot of times people justify, and I've been there um on occasions, uh, where it's like, okay, yeah, this is bioing it one free, but we really only need one.
• 17:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And you know, and if you're looking at something with a date on it, like an expiration date.
• 17:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yep, and here's Lucy.
• 17:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: She always knows when daddy is on on the show here.
• 18:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So say hello, Lucy.
• 18:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Okay, now now you're you're good?
• 18:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Okay, because daddy's on the show, so go get yourself a drink of water.
• 18:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah.
• 18:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Go get yourself a drink of water.
• 18:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh yeah, so you you you come back either with that second item or you go, well, you know what, like uh we're only eating or drinking this amount, so I don't need to get two just for the sake of getting two.
• 18:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But sometimes we'll justify it and go, it's free.
• 18:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Or, you know, we uh it's the human mind does human things.
• 18:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that's a form of a limit where we're going in to the grocery store, convenience store, wherever.
• 19:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The market, you name it, then the name of where you go, doesn't matter.
• 19:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You're going to pick up some food to bring back to your home, wherever that is, whatever that looks like to you.
• 19:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so you decide, well, do I buy one and get the one free, and and do I bring that second one home?
• 19:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Or do I bring pay, you know, buy one, get one half off?
• 19:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do I pay a little extra and I can justify the total of the one plus the half divide by two, and say inside our mind?
• 20:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Oh, okay, yeah, that that makes sense.
• 20:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I we can do that.
• 20:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Anyways, so I'm talking about we're talking about limits, and that's just a very basic, very simple way to look at limits and limiting.
• 20:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that's where I want to take our episode from here.
• 20:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I'm talking now about maybe bigger things.
• 20:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I I'd like to get into specifics, I just I I just can't uh but what I what I am able to share is just like that bread, just like that milk example that if we consistently just expect well we're just gonna get the one.
• 21:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Again, maybe there's a deal.
• 21:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe there's not.
• 21:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so on the other side of things, with you know, let's say bigger, you know, whether we're a believer God, or whether we're not, or whether we're a believer in some either higher power or not.
• 21:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, I can think of I'm thinking like of Somebody's in sports, right?
• 22:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: My nephew, right?
• 22:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Go to the ball game.
• 22:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: He gets up the bat.
• 22:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: He's looking to put the ball in play.
• 22:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That means the pitcher throws the ball.
• 22:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: My nephew hits the ball.
• 22:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The defense isn't able to catch the ball right away.
• 22:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So my nephew gets to run around maybe first and may second base.
• 22:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So now he's on second base.
• 22:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And when he went up to they call it the home plate, where you go up and hit.
• 22:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I'm talking majority of those that you know don't might not have American baseball like in their um in their country.
• 22:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So I'm not trying to talk anybody down whatsoever.
• 22:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm just trying to be inclusive.
• 22:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So my nephew, you know, goes up to the plate expecting, let me uh I want to get a hit.
• 23:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I want I want to hit the ball hard, and hopefully it finds a way where the defense isn't able to catch the ball uh before it bounces.
• 23:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so then the the time frame they call they call them innings.
• 23:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So there's usually seven innings or nine innings or six innings or five innings.
• 23:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So he's gonna thinking, like, I just want to I want to get a hit again and have have have the ball go through and uh without the defense catching it before it bounces in play.
• 23:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that that would be more of a I'm thinking in my head, here's what I want to do, and maybe sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn't.
• 24:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There could also be times where I know there's at least one time before my dad passed that my my mom and my dad were able to go to a pretty big tournament, and uh my nephew hit a home run, which means hits it over the fence, and he's able to go run around all first, second, third, and then he when he taps home plate where he go where he was just batting, then that you get a run, which is like getting a point.
• 24:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And and so he he he he got a home run before, and so he could go up the bat saying I want to get a home run, and then maybe fall short, or I'm gonna put the ball in play.
• 25:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I just want to move, I want to keep keep the inning going, keep uh without uh without me getting out, so then the next person behind me can hit come to the plate and then have a chance to hit the ball.
• 25:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that would be a way of kind of limiting the thinking, and so I'm gonna bring that into the something, you know, as you know, as we as we continue to to get older, right?
• 25:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So so we could we continue to get older, and my background, I mean, you know, once the sports thing kind of ran its course, I didn't know what I wanted to do, and so I've been like thinking about what what I would like to do, and I had a heck of a time landing on that, on what I wanted to do, and and so I had these accomplishments, a lot of these accomplishments in sports, and I just expected them to continue into high school and beyond, and they didn't, and it kind of bought me out, and I think you know there, I think there's other other points where you know my self-esteem and then the mental health, you know, I've documented them so well, it kind of comes into play where you know, growing up, I'm on all-star teams, I'm on the best teams, travel teams, and then come time for high school, I'm like, all right, well, I should be on JV or varsity.
• 27:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like, why would if I wasn't that good, I wouldn't have been on all these teams leading up to high school, and so that was a real a real check that I had to had to deal with.
• 27:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I didn't I I I don't think I I did deal with it very well.
• 28:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh switched schools, and I hadn't gone through it through the you know the the the the baseball system, the sporting system, you know, growing up through that school, so the coaches and that weren't as familiar with me.
• 28:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Anyways, I was upset.
• 28:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I was very upset, and I I had high high hopes, and they didn't get met.
• 28:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Okay, so fast forward, you know, I we've talked talked about my my past extensively and then I graduate, undergrad, get a job, I'm in a relationship, um go for my masters, that relationship as I'm binge drinking, I'm not not the best person that I can be not just of myself, but just but others as well.
• 29:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so at that point, I had kind of checked all the boxes, right?
• 29:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I I made it through the you know, the spore drop-off or whatever it happens to almost everybody that plays a sport, very few make it.
• 29:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And in high school sports, even less in the c college, even less in the pros, and even less, you know, make it big.
• 30:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Which is what whatever, making a lot of money and being a superstar.
• 30:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But you know, but that's what we're dreaming, you know, as we're we're growing up.
• 30:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: At least I always I think a lot of us were if if sports was maybe maybe it's something else.
• 30:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe we plan to be an actor, an actress, and having all these auditions, and then when it comes time, we don't, and we're like, oh my gosh, how am I gonna pay the bills?
• 30:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that drop off comes, and I'm kind of like, all right, what's left for me?
• 30:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What's left for me to do in life?
• 31:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, the sports thing is done.
• 31:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm trying to make a living, trying to do what I thought people do or supposed to do, is go out and get drunk on weekends, and that was such a judge that such a detriment to me.
• 31:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So when I talk about limits, I had in my mind at that point, I had hit the limit of what I thought I could do as a human.
• 31:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so then I I started going, well maybe I could teach after I got my masters.
• 32:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, part-time.
• 32:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that worked for, you know, ten plus years.
• 32:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um I'm still on the you know, the active list for the dean needs my services.
• 32:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And and and so I I kind of just go, okay, well, I gotta just I gotta do something just to get by.
• 32:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then when bad things happen, or negative things, or things uh whether we had control of or we don't.
• 32:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then we start questioning again, kind of in that middle life.
• 33:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't know if the middle of life now is moved to the 50s or if it's in the 40s.
• 33:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I feel like I'm in that midlife, whatever it's called.
• 33:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I feel like I'm I have the bar so low for whatever reason.
• 33:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so when I pray, when I ask for favor, I ask for kind of the not the bare minimum, but I I I I don't sometimes feel worthy of asking for, you know, the upper limit or close to the upper limit.
• 34:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: In this show, what I want the ending us to finish off on is ask for the limit.
• 34:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Ask for more.
• 34:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It doesn't have to be money.
• 34:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It can it can be any number of things.
• 34:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: See, the more we l we limit our thinking, the more our thinking is limited.
• 34:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Right?
• 34:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So we're asking for the bare minimum, which should be closer to the bottom, that actually ends up being our ceiling.
• 34:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like, I'm asking for two of whatever, I don't know.
• 35:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm asking for two, and that's kind of at the bottom.
• 35:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I could ask for ten, I could ask for nine, but I'm asking for two.
• 35:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So, although two might really be the floor as in like the bottom.
• 35:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If I'm asking for two, instead of going, you know what, I'm gonna ask for eight or nine or ten, and then anywhere between two and ten or nine, you know, we could end up up here.
• 35:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But we ask for two, two becomes our ceiling, and then we're looking at zero to two, and I know that's probably confusing a little bit to some people, but I think it it's pretty straightforward.
• 36:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if we're gonna if we ask for something, if we ask for a little, that becomes the max, and that's gonna be going through our minds, uh whether it is active in our mind or whether it's subconscious in our mind.
• 36:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And one of the things I've been guilty of is just that not feeling worthy, can't be me.
• 36:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've hid all my whatever, I've checked all the all the boxes that I've been given by God, I've checked.
• 36:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I'm I'm just going through life.
• 37:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Go going in my mind.
• 37:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: All right, what's what's next?
• 37:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm trying, I'm trying, I'm trying, I'm trying.
• 37:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: All along the way, not all along the way.
• 37:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't like to think in all or nothing type, but a good period of time, I've been asking for the minimum in my prayers and oh yeah, it's that's that's Lucy chewing.
• 37:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So if you hear anybody chewing and crunching in the background or a jingle bell, that that's Lucy.
• 37:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: She's been she's she's working her way around the house.
• 37:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So um, and if you hear a sall, there's a new deck being put on the house behind us.
• 37:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So we got everything.
• 38:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We got everything, so it's all good.
• 38:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I want to impart on you and every single person, no matter who you are, where you're from, where you're watching, where you're listening, after you've given us a big thumbs up, like, follow, subscribe, share, and reached out to 25 contacts in your phone.
• 38:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Let them know about the Voices for Voices TV show podcast.
• 38:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I want you to think about what have you been whether it's praying or just hoping for, or what is it?
• 38:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What number is it, or what qualitative measure is it?
• 39:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Could be a number, could be a non-number.
• 39:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Right, we learn about limits.
• 39:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's lower limits, there's higher limits.
• 39:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Also referred to as a range, a range of let's say two as the lower end of the range, ten being the higher end of the range.
• 39:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So that's our range two to ten.
• 39:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Our lower limit, two, upper limit, ten.
• 39:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I just want each and every one of us, me included, to just reflect on what we're again, you don't have to be a believer.
• 39:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What what what are you looking to get out of life?
• 40:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What do you what do you want?
• 40:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And think about that and go, can I ask for more?
• 40:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah, it's okay.
• 40:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah.
• 40:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's okay.
• 40:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah, we're just about finished.
• 40:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you.
• 40:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah, and you're right, there is a storm coming.
• 40:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So you have those instincts in your mind that I don't have.
• 40:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So give me like two minutes, Lucy.
• 40:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Can you give me two minutes?
• 40:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yes?
• 40:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No.
• 40:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Okay, I don't know if I've been given two minutes or not.
• 40:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're good.
• 40:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh uh.
• 40:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: She may have to go to the potty.
• 40:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So hey.
• 40:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh it's all good.
• 41:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So just think about think about that.
• 41:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's a it's as simple as that.
• 41:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Think about what you've been telling yourself or putting out as a as a goal.
• 41:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh whether you're writing it down or whether it's just an ingrained in your mind.
• 41:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And look at that and go, is is that really is that all that I I can do?
• 41:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I know I might need extra resources, I might need a miracle, I might need a lot of things.
• 41:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We all do, we all need help.
• 41:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: When I talk about us, voices for voices helping reaching and helping at least three three billion people over the course of my lifetime and beyond.
• 42:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I can't do that by myself.
• 42:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Voices for voices can't do it on our own.
• 42:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We need a lot of help, and we're getting a lot of help.
• 42:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And thank you so much for all the help that you have given.
• 42:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh you have given, are given, and will continue to give.
• 42:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And the more people that are being made aware of voices for voices, I I'm getting I'm getting chills because there's a lot that I can't I can't share.
• 42:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, but you will be made aware of it.
• 42:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You'll be made aware of them and in in due time.
• 42:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that's why this episode is so important.
• 42:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So important.
• 42:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And why we shouldn't set our limits or our goals low, even when it may seem like all is lost, everybody else is doing better than us.
• 43:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've hit a rough patch for a year, two years, five years, maybe ten years.
• 43:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, people from the United States, people from across the world, I am living proof what you will see and hear at some point when we're able to due to legalities.
• 44:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You'll see in here, and I'll refer back to this episode probably.
• 44:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because we'll have a we'll have a lot of episodes more by the time I'm able to share.
• 44:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if I don't refer back to this specific episode, please forgive me.
• 44:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But what you're gonna hear, what you're gonna see, is gonna be something that I'm hit, I'm right there with you.
• 44:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I never saw coming.
• 44:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Never saw it coming.
• 44:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I had a goal, and I have it chills.
• 44:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've been limiting myself, I've been limiting our organization, I've been limiting limiting my prayers, my thoughts for far too long.
• 45:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's why we have this huge goal of helping and reaching at least three billion people over the course of my lifetime and beyond.
• 45:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because at least with that goal, that's a big ass goal.
• 45:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And it's a bold goal.
• 45:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And it's a goal that catches your attention and goes, wait, what?
• 45:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And talking about helping three people?
• 45:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No, he said Justin said that they got a big goal that they want to help reach and you know at least three billion people over the course of his lifetime and beyond.
• 45:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So that part I wasn't wrong about.
• 45:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't even want to say wrong, but that's the stuff that I'm talking about.
• 46:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So what is that for you?
• 46:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What is it for your organization?
• 46:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Think bigger.
• 46:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, I an organization I used to work for, and I I I try and refer to them.
• 46:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But one thing I did learn from from that organization was from their owner.
• 46:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It said act big but be small, something along those lines.
• 46:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Meaning have bold goals, but then at the end of the day, be able it's like the retractable leash that I that that we have with with Lucy.
• 47:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It goes out a certain amount, then it comes in.
• 47:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Goes out in.
• 47:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so what he was saying is think big, but act small.
• 47:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So give things a try.
• 47:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You don't know until you try it.
• 47:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't know until I try it.
• 47:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's things that people go, Justin, like you're a little bit off your rocket or thinking about this or doing this or saying this, or okay.
• 47:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe I am, or maybe I'm not, and I'm here to say God's my witness, and if God wants me to be here at those given times or these given times, it may happen that are lined up that I want to be a role model, not that I'm living a perfect life, not that way, but when it comes to talking about limits, of talking about should I have my goal and limit at two, or should I have it closer to ten?
• 48:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe seven, maybe seven, maybe six, maybe five, still bigger than two.
• 49:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because when we set our goal, that becomes that lower number for our goals.
• 49:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So when I say I want I want to help and we want to help and reach at least three billion people over the course of my lifetime and beyond, that is the lower limit.
• 49:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't the upper limit, maybe five billion, maybe four billion.
• 49:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But because I've set that goal so high and incredulous that that three billion is the floor, is the lower limit.
• 50:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe it's three billion, two million and fifty-six.
• 50:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But if I would have said, well, we're gonna I we're gonna help three people, and I know there's times where I do say I just want to help one person and two and three, and there are times we do say that because that's how we get to that bigger number, and that's why I continue to put in the work, and I speak that's why I've learned so much.
• 50:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I was so lucky to be able to have Tyrus on our show.
• 50:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I was able to present him with an award.
• 50:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I was able to meet him backstage at his show, his comedy show came to the area.
• 50:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I got to shake his hand, basically to say, hey, thanks.
• 51:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because forget about the politics, left side, right side, middle s middle.
• 51:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Who cares?
• 51:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The man has set his sights high, and he's doing big things, and I know all those things aren't because he came on our show.
• 51:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I know that.
• 51:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But I also have to think, and maybe had something, a little something to do with it.
• 51:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Not a lot, maybe just a little bit.
• 51:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I look at other guests, maybe not all their success, future success, future, maybe just maybe just a teeny tiny bit.
• 52:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So let's take our limit of two and let's jack it up to nine or ten.
• 52:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And out of that, be our new lower limit.
• 52:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So now we're starting to look at numbers like fifteen and twenty.
• 52:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Okay.
• 52:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: This is all this this helps me as much as this is intended to help you.
• 52:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: This helps get more ingrained in my head.
• 52:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And again, as God is my witness, whether you're a believer or not, whoever you whoever you talk to when the time gets tough in your mind, that's who you start sharing and say, I know I've been talking about two.
• 53:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're gonna reach two, but I'm just about there.
• 53:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe I'm already at two, so I have nowhere else to go.
• 53:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's a movie my daughter used to watch called Mary Poppins.
• 53:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's nowhere to go but up.
• 53:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you for joining us on this episode of the Voices for Voices TV Show and podcast.
• 53:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Again, thank you so much uh for joining us for all the love and support you've given us over the years.
• 53:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, if you can reach out to you know 25, 50, 100, 1000 contacts on your phone, let them know about the voices for voices TV show and podcast.
• 54:06
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• 54:11
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• 54:13
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• 54:19
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• 54:23
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• 54:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you so much.
• 54:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We will see you on a future episode of the Voices for Voices TV Sean podcast.
• 54:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's been Justin Down Hayes.
• 54:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Absolute pleasure to come into your lives.
• 54:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if you can, if you can Etsy on it, if you can Pinterest, you can voices for voices on it.
• 55:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So wherever you download your podcast from, boom, download the Voices for Voices TV show and podcast, and you let everybody all over the world know.
• 55:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because we got a lot of people to help and a lot of people to reach.
• 55:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And thank you for everything you have done, are doing, and are continue to do.
• 55:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We'll see you next time.
• 55:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Take care.