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How I Manifested My Husband With Identity Shifting · Mindful Success Path

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  In order for you to manifest what you desire in life, you have to shift your identity and become the person that can attract that desire into your life and know where do I see this happening?
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  More than when women are trying to manifest their husbands.
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  There's actually a lot of confusion about this when they are trying to manifest their husbands.
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  And in this video, I'm gonna be detailing exactly how I shifted my identity.
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  To a point where I was able to attract my husband, a provider, healthy, masculine husband, within four months of deciding that I was ready to get married.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda Avea.
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  Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest what you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people are accustomed to.
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  cause that's been the main topic lately and people are eating it up.
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  So let's talk about, um, how to actually shift your identity, and more importantly, let's talk about why you need to shift your identity in order to manifest what it is that you desire.
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  So especially when you're trying to manifest a husband.
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  I also see this with manifesting money, but let's stick to to love for now.
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  What happens a lot of times a mistake that people make when they're trying to manifest is they're kind of like totally in their heads about it and they're trying to control the situation.
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  The reason they get in their heads about it and they're trying to control the situation is because they don't believe they can have what it is that they desire.
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  So because they don't believe that they can have what it is that they desire, they'll start trying to manipulate and control and get really in their heads about it and get really strict with themselves only to find that that doesn't actually work.
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  And then they get more frustrated, and then they think they have to try harder.
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  You don't actually have to try harder, but you do have to become a different person.
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  So I will use, uh, manifesting a husband as an example.
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  Here's an example on how women will try and manipulate this whole thing, which actually keeps your husband further and further away from you.
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  So when it comes to women specifically and when they're trying to manifest their husbands, you'll start seeing them.
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  And I know because that's how a lot of you end up on this channel.
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  Uh, how do I manifest my husband or getting more into feminine energy using feminine energy to manifest?
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  Uh, my husband, they'll start Google smuggling, as I call it, all of those things, and they're trying to find the exact techniques and the exact strategies in order to manipulate an outcome.
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  Now, we're not trying to manipulate an outcome here.
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  There's a difference between trying to control a situation and just being the person that naturally attracts what it is that they desire.
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  So.
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  In the case of trying to manifest love, I see a lot of women start using all these techniques and strategies to try and control any man.
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  That's in front of them who like, honestly, they're at a point where it's like, who cares if it's the right man or not?
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  I'm just going to manipulate this man in order to get some sort of result out of him, in this case being a ring or a marriage or a relationship, and what ends up happening in those cases.
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  Is that a lot of women end up dragging those men to the altar or um, they feel like they have to carry those men.
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  Or a lot of times it actually ends up being very feminine men or men with low self-esteem who fall for the manipulation tactics, let's call it that.
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  So it's very, it that's a very different energy than a woman who just believes that she's worthy of love and she's worthy of being provided for, and she has an open heart one.
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  The, the first example of the woman, she's actually terrified, right?
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  So if you're going on, um, all these videos and you're like, oh, if I say this this way, then the man will do X, Y, and Z and then I'm gonna get married and I'm going to get the ring.
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  That's what we're trying to avoid.
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  That's manipulation, that's control.
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  It hardly ever works, right?
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  Um, and then even if it does work, like it was just so much effort and struggle to get there, and it never actually.
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  Needed to be that way.
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  Instead, we shift the identity to become the woman that naturally attracts a provider husband into her life.
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  Because the first woman doesn't actually believe that she can have a provider husband.
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  She doesn't believe she's worthy of love.
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  She doesn't even believe it can be easy.
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  That's why she manipulates and controls, and in manipulating and controlling actually makes it harder for herself to manifest.
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  Her husband.
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  Now, I don't want this to be confused with you don't need to learn skills because relationships and having healthy relationships and manifesting a husband, that is a skillset.
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  Being married is a skillset.
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  Communication is a skillset.
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  Uh, understanding the psychology of men and how they operate is a skillset.
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  And all of those things are useful, but they're just tools, right?
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  And they are not tools.
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  That are meant to be used for manipulation.
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  They are not tools that are meant to be used on the wrong man.
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  They're not tools meant to be used on a feminine man.
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  They are not tools, uh, that are meant to be used on a man who is married, for example.
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  They're not tools to be used, uh, on a man who wants nothing to do with you and has already proven that over and over and over again.
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  So we have to get very clear that when we are talking about how to talk to a man, when we are talking about.
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  You know how to act on a date when we are talking about, you know, how to be in a marriage and the skills that come with that.
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  It's not about manipulating the wrong men into trying to get them to get the result that you want.
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  That would be the erroneous way of using what it is that I am going to be teaching you, uh, on this channel.
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  And I just wanted to make that clear.
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  Instead, we have to shift the identity.
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  How do we shift the identity?
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  Number one, you have to get yourself to a point where you're like, Hey, I'm actually deserving of this, right?
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  I'm actually deserving of a husband who takes really good care of me.
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  I'm actually deserving of a man who protects me.
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  I'm deserving of a man who provides for me.
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  I am actually deserving of these things.
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  And the thing is, oftentimes when we feel like we're not deserving of those things, it's either because we were.
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  Conditioned with a lot of BS stories.
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  Like I was conditioned with a lot of stories about how men aren't safe, they're dumb, you can't rely on them, um, so on and so forth.
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  Or oftentimes we're just repeating patterns that were probably unhealthy that we saw at home.
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  So for example, if you think it's, if you grew up in a home where there was a lot of chaos and a lot of ups and downs and a lot of drama between your two parents, you're going to grow up and think that that's totally normal.
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  Um, and it's not, that's not a healthy relationship.
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  They didn't have the skills that they needed.
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  So step number one is you have to get yourself to a point where you actually feel like you are worthy of it.
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  For some of you, it's as quick as making a decision right now, depending on where you are on this journey.
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  For others of you, you might need therapy.
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  For others of you, you might need healing work, uh, to get to that place.
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  Just don't spend all your life in healing work and don't think that because you have to do healing that you cannot date.
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  Right now, or that we're trying to reach some level of perfected healing before we're able to manifest a husband.
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  Let's not make that mistake either.
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  Let's not throw the baby out with the bath water.
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  'cause again, that now we've gone from manipulating and controlling for a result to just being completely avoidant altogether.
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  So there's nuance to this but that's number one.
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  You have to get to a point where you realize you are worthy of it.
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  And the truth is, a lot of women are insecure about whether or not a man will provide for them.
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  They are insecure about whether or not a man will actually love them.
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  They're insecure.
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  Um, and I see this on both levels, right?
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  'cause if we're looking at women who have wounded feminine energy and they never cultivated any masculine traits within them, um, usually they end up in very like controlling, abusive, uh, kind of situations.
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  It's what you would call like the doormat.
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  But, and they have a lot of insecurities about someone actually, them actually being worthy of treated well.
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  But I also see it in the women who have hyper masculinized energy, where on the one hand, they can take care of themselves.
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  So that's a leg up because you can avoid being in different desperate situations if you are able to take care of yourself.
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  And if you're able to trust yourself, then you're able to trust healthy, masculine men.
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  However, where this tends to go overboard is a lot of times those women, especially like the ones who are achievement addicts.
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  I would say, um, they're achievement addicts because they're insecure.
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  'cause they don't think they're good enough a lot of the time.
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  Right.
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  So there's still some sort of an insecurity there and that's why you will sometimes see very successful women in their careers.
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  They make a lot of money, they have everything going for them, and they here comes a dusty and just completely wrecks their whole world.
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  It's because even though those women have all these accomplishments.
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  They are still insecure when it comes to love, and they are still insecure when it comes to believing that they can actually have the love that it is that they desire.
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  So they end up settling and a lot of times that's when you see the dynamic of a very successful woman where her career was wrecked by picking the wrong man.
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  Uh, so for all the men in the comments who are like, women, take half your money.
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  Yeah.
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  There's also a lot of women whose careers have been wrecked because they got, uh.
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  With a dusty who was actually jealous of them and wanted to make sure that they didn't succeed.
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  That's a dynamic as well.
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  So, like I said, step number one, deciding that you are worthy of it, and you have to decide, you know, whether you need some healing work, whether you need some therapy, or you could just make the decision right now that you are ready for it, because ultimately a decision can happen like this.
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  If you choose and the minute you make a decision, you've already shifted into a new timeline, so you're already that much closer to your husband.
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  For me, I had been doing a lot of inner work for about six months.
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  Um, I'd really been excavating like what the stories were that I had been brought up with, why I was, uh, working as hard as I was, why I was avoiding relationships, just kind of noticing my patterns, and I did some deep work around why do I behave that way?
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  Why do I do that?
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  What do I actually believe?
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  Um, and within a few months I was like, okay, I'm ready for my husband, right?
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  And it was a decision like this, and it was like, and I'm ready for a good one.
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  I'm ready for a provider.
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  I am ready for a protector.
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  I'm ready for a good one so that my feminine can thrive.
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  So that was number one, right?
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  Number two, you have to decide on the characteristics.
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  Of the man.
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  So you've probably heard of the, uh, infamous list, right?
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  You have to make your list.
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  I made a list, um, and I made a list and it wasn't long.
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  I know some people have a thing with like a hundred, 200 things.
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  Mine I think had 20.
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  And the things that I was focused on was I want him to be a provider.
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  I want him to be a protector.
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  I want him to be generous, ambitious, uh, entrepreneurial, wants to travel all over the world.
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  Um, things like that, right?
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  Like healthy, masculine.
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  That's really what I was focused obviously being attracted to him.
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  Uh, but I didn't write down like green eyes or six foot five or anything like that, because ultimately at the end of the day, that doesn't really matter.
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  The only thing that matters is that you are attracted to this man who is in front of you.
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  And when women learn that to be attracted to men who treat them well, then.
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  A lot of that stuff that women obsess about, about the six foot and six figures goes out the window anyway because they're focused on the character of the man and how that man treats her versus just money or versus just how tall he is, which are like two of the dumbest things women can do.
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  So focus on the characteristics and if you're like and, and providing does have to do with money.
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  Men should be paying the bills and be responsible for that.
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  There are lots of psychological reasons for it.
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  I have done other videos on it that you can find on this channel'cause I just don't have the time to get into it right now.
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  But when you only focus on money and you don't focus on the other parts of this man's character, you're gonna end up in a lot of bad situations and you're gonna ignore a lot of red flags, I should say.
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  So you have to make sure that you are clear on what these characteristics of a good man are.
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  Then, and this is when we get into the identity shifting, you have to decide to become the woman who can attract that man.
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  So, for example, for me, I have to slow down how much I was working because there was literally no space.
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  That was one of the things that I had to do for me.
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  Um, I had to learn that it was safe to receive.
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  From men.
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  So I opened up myself to receiving from the masculine all around me.
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  If a colleague wanted to take me out to dinner and solve one of my business problems, I'd let him do it.
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  If my dad wanted to solve something for me, I'd let him do it.
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  If my brother wanted to solve something for me, if a male friend wanted to help me solve a problem, um, or give to me in any way, if I went to the coffee shop and the guy behind the counter gives me a free pastry, like I was open to being provided for by the masculine in all.
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  Ways, and this is really important for women, especially those of you who tend to be more on the hyper masculine side of things to understand.
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  Because one thing that happens a lot, and you'll see this on the internet, uh, on social media, is you'll see women who are like demanding that men pay their bills.
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  If you have to demand right, something's wrong.
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  'cause number one, if you're in that demanding energy, you're already telling a man what to do and then you are automatically in that.
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  Masculine energy.
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  That's number one.
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  Number two, if you have to demand that a man provide for you, then the man, that man that you're saying that to is going to be like, wait a second.
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  Doesn't she receive good treatment from other men already?
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  If she doesn't receive good treatment from other men already, which is the only reason why she would be making this demand, then there must be something wrong with her.
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  Right.
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  So you have to get used to receiving good treatment, uh, from men and the masculine in all forms, and open yourself up to that.
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  I think that's the biggest thing, um, that women can do is just decide that you're ready for it and that you deserve it.
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  Get clear on what kind of a relationship you want and what a healthy relationship actually is.
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  And then the third thing, become the woman who can actually attract that.
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  And if you're trying to attract a masculine man, then you have to be more the feminine pole.
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  The feminine pole is all about receiving.
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  The way they get, get good at receiving is by opening yourself up to receiving from the masculine all around you.
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  Whether it's romantic or not.
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  Okay?
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  Doesn't matter.
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  That's not the point right now because a lot of you just don't even feel comfortable receiving or you're not used to having that kind of a treatment.
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  So if you go, let's say you're not used to having that kind of a treatment and you go out on a date, one of two things is gonna happen.
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  I, well, three things, maybe.
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  One, you tolerate bad behavior because you just think it's normal, even though it's not, but it's normal to you.
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  Two, you start demanding that he start paying all your bills and things like that, which then sits, sets off a red flag for an otherwise good guy saying like, wait a minute, why isn't if she's only behaving like this because she must not be getting treated well by other men, that's weird.
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  Something's off.
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  So that's the second thing that can happen.
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  Or the third thing that can happen is you freak out.
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  You freak out and you sabotage and you run because you are not used to it.
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  So those are the things that you can do.
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  I can also talk about other things about how I did visualization.
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  I have a video on this channel about exactly how I did that to get into the space and the identity of a woman who already had what she wanted.
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  Other things that you can do is instead of watching dating videos, I watched videos on like.
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  How to be, have a good marriage, right?
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  I wasn't just like learning how to date, I was learning how to be a good wife and I was learning how to be in a good marriage.
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  Um, and I was observing like healthy marriages around me and I was asking questions and I was trying to learn from people in healthy marriages how to be in a healthy marriage, uh, rather than just focusing on dating.
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  And because I was already taking on the identity of a wife and within four months I manifested my now husband.
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  So I hope you guys found this helpful.
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  Like I said, it's not just about strategies and techniques to manipulate people.
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  If you're doing that, you're already doing it wrong.
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  This is about really healing yourself and shifting your identity to become a woman who is deserving and happily receives, uh, masculine provision and protection and love.
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  So if you guys like this video, go ahead and give it a thumbs up.
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  For those of you who've been asking whether or not I do one-on-one sessions, do I have courses available?
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  You can find all the information to what I have available below.
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  Right now, I don't have any courses on feminine energy or anything like that'cause I just haven't had the time.
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  So, because this is the side thing that I do.
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  For fun.
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  Um, so I just haven't really had the time, but those are incoming.
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  You can sign up for the email list below to be notified of when those are happening.
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  Uh, in the meantime, you can find money manifestation courses.
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  You can find a bunch of books, a whole bunch of other things.
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  And then if you wanna book some time on my calendar, like a one-on-one coaching spot, you can find the information from that below as well.
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  Those are just on an as available basis because I do this for fun.
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  This is not the main thing, but it is something that a lot of people have asked me for, so I opened up those spots.
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  They are just as they are available and as I can do them.
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  So thank you guys for giving me your time today, and I'll catch you on the next one.