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From Foster Care to Firepower: Soldier's Growth Journey (Full Podcast Ft. Annex Singh) · Reborn w/ Antonio Boutros

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_01: Anyway, I'm starting to return some are relatives, that's what I did here in the analyst in the more than that.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm a mental health advocate and self-development enthusiast.
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  SPEAKER_01: Growing up I had terrible health, both physically and mentally.
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  SPEAKER_01: So my goal here is to help people become the true versions of themselves that they are meant to be.
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  SPEAKER_01: Whether you're a new or returning list, I appreciate you being here, and I hope you enjoy this episode.
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  SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much for watching.
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  SPEAKER_01: Welcome to the Reborn Podcast at Tony Virtros.
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  SPEAKER_01: Today we have the honor of interviewing Mohammed Abdul, an active military soldier, devoted Christian, and life coach who focuses on mindset, fitness, and nutrition.
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  SPEAKER_01: Mohammed's journey has been shaped by challenges from growing up in foster care to enduring heartbreaks in high school and serving in the military.
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  SPEAKER_01: He believes in the importance of healing and his connection to mentality, emphasizing that fitness and nutrition are byproducts of holistic health and purpose fulfillment.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's explore his inspiring story through these interview questions.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_01: Thanks for being here, Annex or Mohammed.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_01: Forgot about that.
• 1:10
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you for being here.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_01: Annex, uh, what ignited your journey into self-improvement in life coaching, given your background in the military and personal challenges?
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: So honestly, and this answer came to me probably in the past couple of days.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if it was because of the solar eclipse or whatnot.
• 1:29
  SPEAKER_00: But I thought initially, because of my background in the military, and this, oh, that's a thing to do, you know.
• 1:36
  SPEAKER_00: If I got nine years left to retirement, let me just start my business, pour into it for nine years and do a smooth transition.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_02: Right.
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_00: But what really got which I recently discovered, man, was me just diving deeper than myself to heal whatever traumas I thought weren't healed.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_00: That's legitimately what got me into coaching.
• 1:59
  SPEAKER_00: I thought I got into it for fitness, and you know, down the road I'm gonna make some good money, I'm gonna help some people out.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_00: But no, ultimately, man, it was me.
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: It was me.
• 2:07
  SPEAKER_00: I thought I was not the best version of myself.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: I want to do some relationship stuff, and I was like, fuck, let me figure out how to not keep going through this cycle.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I'm 30, I have goals, I have dreams of what I want.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_00: So once I start diving deep, dude, I got my best friend Akash.
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um the next thing you know, man, I was looking into coaching.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_00: I got my mentor, Wes Watson, and it's just been booming since then.
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_00: And then I I say on my Instagram all the time.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: Once you get to a certain level of doing the inner work and the inner peace, you start vibrating so high above everything, every situation that you're going through, you're so above it, man.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: You all you see is your long V V like.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what you're that's what you're locked in on.
• 2:49
  SPEAKER_00: So that's that's that's what got me into it, man.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: At first I started for thinking it was because of my background, but honestly, man, I was just uh I was beaten up on the inside and stuff healing got me on that journey.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm curious, when you're making content, do you would you say you're more talking even to yourself than you're talking to a camera or an audience, your followers?
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, dude, 100%, man.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_00: Like you got my Instagram story this morning outside the office, man.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: I literally was giving some advice and I was like, damn.
• 3:22
  SPEAKER_00: I said in the video, I was like, man, I'm pretty sure I'm just telling this to myself.
• 3:25
  unknown: Yeah.
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_00: Because we're not always because you know, everyone says, you know, stay at the high frequency, stay high, you're gonna you're gonna operate that level, you'll be good.
• 3:33
  SPEAKER_00: But you know, it it's it's up and down.
• 3:36
  SPEAKER_00: It's not, hey, I'm staying there.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: No, man, you gotta do self-talk.
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_00: Kyle says knock out some push-ups, but yeah, dude, you have to fight to stay there.
• 3:46
  SPEAKER_00: And the more inner work I believe you do, that fight gets a little bit easier, but the fight never stops.
• 3:52
  SPEAKER_00: No stop, they only grow as much as you're growing, and you're like, fuck yeah, I'm conquering this, I'm conquering that.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_00: Dude, there's things that you can't even see that are growing to test that where you are now.
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_01: As you've grown your business, have you seen the cliche come true for you?
• 4:09
  SPEAKER_01: That more money, more problems.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_01: Have you seen bigger problems coming up for you?
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, dude, it's crazy that you asked that.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: So I have a big heart, right?
• 4:18
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm out here in Houston.
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  SPEAKER_00: I took in one of uh my co-worker's nephews, you know, he's on the verge of homelessness.
• 4:24
  SPEAKER_00: So I believe God put me in a position to where people come across me, I'm gonna help them.
• 4:29
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what I believe.
• 4:30
  SPEAKER_00: So I had multiple roommates, man.
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_00: I got a big house, so now it's just me.
• 4:34
  SPEAKER_00: But the last roommate, man, dude, he messed up my uh my garage door.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: He accidentally closed his my garage door on his car.
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: So as I'm making money, now it's like all these little expenses are popping up.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_00: It's like two grand to fix the garage now.
• 4:49
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, oh come on, bro.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_02: Like right.
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: And my dog, I love my puppy, man, my puppy Leo, but dude, he's a puppy, so he's tearing up my baseboards, he's ripping up stuff, and I'm just like, well, it is what it is, man.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I mean, it is good though, and it's good to be able to afford that kind of thing.
• 5:07
  SPEAKER_01: You know, a lot of times when we have those sort of issues and we can't afford it, it just gives us so much stress, you know.
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_01: So it's it's good to be able to actually afford to be able to fix our garage doors and the necessary stuff we need to live.
• 5:20
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, man, I and I see it as a learning opportunity too, man.
• 5:22
  SPEAKER_00: So like uh I had a lot of uh my dog scratched the walls and tore into the drywall.
• 5:29
  SPEAKER_00: But instead of hiring someone, man, I use it as a self-learning tool.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, hey man, let me use YouTube how to fix some of this stuff myself because it might serve me later down the road.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_00: So I like to back up how to like paint over stuff, the different types of paint, the primer.
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_00: I use putties, sanded it down.
• 5:44
  SPEAKER_00: So I use it as a learning tool for myself.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_01: Can you go into some of your traumas that you're looking to heal?
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_01: I know you you mentioned uh the high school breakup that got you torn down a bit, but obviously that was a little while ago now.
• 5:58
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah, yeah, that was years ago.
• 6:01
  SPEAKER_00: But that is so significant to me, at least, because dude, yeah, think about it, all right.
• 6:07
  SPEAKER_00: So I went into foster care really young, right?
• 6:10
  SPEAKER_00: All I knew was my uh my five brothers.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
• 6:15
  SPEAKER_00: Where my five brothers, my mom, my dad.
• 6:17
  SPEAKER_00: Next thing you know, it it's not that.
• 6:21
  SPEAKER_00: Now I remember being in a police car, no correction, a CPS car with my youngest brother Josh, and handing him over because uh my brother Eric and Jr., they got to stay together and they went to a group home.
• 6:35
  SPEAKER_00: And then my two eldest brothers, Alex and Sean, were over 18.
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_00: I think nothing happened to them.
• 6:41
  SPEAKER_00: And then me and my youngest brother Josh, I thought we were staying together.
• 6:44
  SPEAKER_00: This is the middle of the night, bro.
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_00: It's like probably 1 a.m.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_00: And next thing the car stops, you know, the social worker opens the back door, it's like, hey, Hammy, your brother.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: And I still to this day, him crying and everything, dude.
• 6:57
  SPEAKER_00: When I think about it, I hear that shit in my head.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just handing over.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: And the next minute the door closes and the car takes off.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just sitting there like, what, like, what the fuck?
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_01: So that have you been able to reconnect with your with your brother ever since then or no?
• 7:15
  SPEAKER_00: My youngest brother, Josh, was is is hit and miss.
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_00: I've uh all through high school.
• 7:20
  SPEAKER_00: I've reached out to like uh social media, hitting his dad up, hitting trying to hit him up.
• 7:25
  SPEAKER_00: Um I met his half-sister, me and his half-sister actually went to school together, which was crazy.
• 7:30
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I think God had his hand on everything though, dude.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_00: Um and she ended up connecting me with him.
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: Uh now he's just hit and miss.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_00: I know now he's in uh North Carolina or South Carolina.
• 7:40
  SPEAKER_00: So I still I know he's still trying to feel things out.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um so I still just send him random messages of encouragement.
• 7:47
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if you ever need to come out here, if you ever need anything.
• 7:50
  unknown: Right.
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_00: I raised you, dude.
• 7:52
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
• 7:53
  SPEAKER_00: There was a point in time where uh, dude, it was just five of us kids in a house surviving off scrambled eggs and frozen pizza while my parents were in jail.
• 8:03
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that was like a whole year.
• 8:05
  SPEAKER_00: I think I missed a whole year of school.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_00: I that was the fourth grade.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_00: I think it was like right before my fourth grade year.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: And I used to hustle.
• 8:12
  SPEAKER_00: I used to take a receipt book to school, I'd rent out my video games for GameCube, I'd uh steal Yu-Gi-Oh! cards from Walmart and sell them all to go help get baby formula for my little brother, give money to my brother Alex so he can get the groceries.
• 8:26
  SPEAKER_00: So Wow.
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_01: So some people obviously might see that as unethical, but I see it as like you're willing to go to lengths to support your family when you're literally in fourth grade.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know how old that is, like 10 years old or something.
• 8:41
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, no, not many children have to go and support a family at 10 years old.
• 8:47
  SPEAKER_00: Dude, and that was the big thing, like, because at the time, to me, it's just like I'm a kid, I'm living my life.
• 8:54
  SPEAKER_00: But like now I kind of see it from my older brother's point of view, why they were so strict on us.
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like, dude, if we burnt that pizza a little bit, my brother Alex was so programmed and disciplined, like he'd throw that shit right away.
• 9:05
  SPEAKER_00: Throw it away, but I grew up again.
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_00: At the time I'm a kid, I'm like, dude, what the fuck?
• 9:08
  SPEAKER_00: I would ate that.
• 9:10
  SPEAKER_00: But now it's like he was trying to like because he's seen everything we couldn't see as the older sibling.
• 9:16
  SPEAKER_00: So he was just trying to, you know, put that in us, and I was like, now I'm more grateful for it.
• 9:20
  SPEAKER_00: Now I think closer to my older brothers than my middle brothers, just because me going to the military and experienced what I experienced.
• 9:28
  SPEAKER_00: So, but the you know, back to the original question that high school trauma, man.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_00: The reason that's so significant and triggered me was because a kid going through all that, and like my first foster home, dude, that was a shit show.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: That's where I first got arrested.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_00: Uh uh, yeah, that's where I got my first big fights.
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_00: Uh I went to juvenile hall from that foster home.
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_00: I caught a soldier-dead weapon battery and threats with intental harm.
• 9:54
  SPEAKER_00: I was a very violent kid.
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_00: And then luckily, and this is where I always say God had his hand in it, the second foster home I went to is the foster family I I still go to today.
• 10:09
  SPEAKER_00: That's my family, you know.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, they took me first, they took in my brother Eric and Jr., then they took in me, they let all my older brothers visit.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_00: You know, even when like my brothers would like have a tantrum and like leave the house, they wouldn't act on it to where, oh my god, we gotta call this in.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: Like, no, they would let us as kids experience, let out our emotions.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and the door was always open for us, you know?
• 10:36
  SPEAKER_00: So a kid going through all that, finally meaning that home.
• 10:39
  SPEAKER_00: And then finally, like, dude, you're we're in you're not we're in high school, you know what I'm saying?
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_00: Hey, I met a girl who's going through her shit, I was going through my shit, and every time we miss, there was a there was a sense of all right, I at least here in our bubble, we're safe from our bullshit.
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_00: And that's what that's what it was for me.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_00: And then bam, it ended.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm like, fuck, now I'm back in my shit again.
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_00: And dude, I enlisted into the army.
• 11:02
  SPEAKER_00: So now I'm going into the army with all this unhealed shit.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: And dude, you know, army life, me being young in the army, man, partying drink.
• 11:12
  SPEAKER_00: I drank so I thought I drank a lot in high school.
• 11:15
  SPEAKER_00: But dude, my first years in the army, man, straight up partying and getting drunk.
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_00: So all that coupled on top of just, and that's what it was, man.
• 11:26
  SPEAKER_00: At the time I didn't know, but that's all it was, just suppressing.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_00: I went hard in partying because you know, subconsciously or whatever.
• 11:33
  SPEAKER_00: I was just trying to suppress and avoid.
• 11:35
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 11:36
  SPEAKER_00: And dude, it just, yeah, man, just leaves the shit.
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_00: It's not needed.
• 11:40
  SPEAKER_01: I'm curious how you came to be a Christian.
• 11:42
  SPEAKER_01: Were you always Christian, or did it did you come to God uh when you came to your second foster home?
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_01: It sounds like they were probably Christians, or was it a trials and tribulations that made you a Christian?
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_00: So growing up, so so I was born in New York.
• 11:57
  SPEAKER_00: So as a kid, I remember always going to church in New York.
• 12:01
  SPEAKER_00: But my mom's side of the family was Fiji Muslim.
• 12:05
  SPEAKER_00: My dad's side of the family was Punjabian Sikh.
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_00: So when we moved, I moved from New York to Canada, from Canada to California.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_00: When we came to California, we lived with my mom's side of the family, who was all Muslim.
• 12:18
  SPEAKER_00: So if we're living with them, we had to practice they practice.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_00: So I read the Quran, I went to the little studies to learn how to read, how would do namaz, you know.
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_00: But as a kid, it's like, dude, I don't know half of this shit.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm copying the dude next time.
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_00: Next time he goes down, I go down.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_00: But what got me to my faith of Christianity was when I was in Juno Hall.
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, I just remember reading a little scripture and a prayer, and I legit like attempted to pray from what I know how to pray.
• 12:49
  SPEAKER_00: And dude, the next day, everything was dropped.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 12:53
  SPEAKER_00: Everything was dropped.
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_00: Granted, I was supposed to get picked up, and I guess I don't know if CPS forgot about me, so I spent the day in a fucking holding cell.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_00: But after that, I was came and got me.
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_00: And they apologized.
• 13:04
  SPEAKER_00: They're like, Oh, we didn't know.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, Yeah, I'm street.
• 13:07
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 13:07
  SPEAKER_00: But that's what got me into my faith, man.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_00: And then, yeah, my second foster home, they're all in the church, you know.
• 13:13
  SPEAKER_00: My uh grandfather's a pastor, my foster dad and his brothers are all elders, the uh women in the family are all evangelists.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_00: So that that was heavy in my life, man.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_00: That was heavy in my life.
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, that's it's that's a powerful story for coming to God.
• 13:28
  SPEAKER_01: I think we all have similar stories, not to that extent for most of us, but we all have stories of of triumph of how we had to overcome challenges, and then we saw that God was with us a whole way and going through those challenges, and then we finally decided to come from that.
• 13:44
  SPEAKER_01: It's funny for me when I came to God, I was actually from a concussion.
• 13:47
  SPEAKER_01: I got over a concussion.
• 13:48
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, this was a message from God, and I started going to church that next weekend.
• 13:51
  SPEAKER_01: But uh, you mentioned how you used to be you you used to dive into uh Instagram a lot, whether it's drinking, partying, that kind of stuff, but but now you're more focused on the long view of life and accomplishing your goals and dreams.
• 14:07
  SPEAKER_01: What kind of dreams uh and goals do you have for yourself?
• 14:10
  SPEAKER_01: And secondly, how did that mindset shift happen for you?
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_00: So the goals and the dreams.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_00: So initially, before I started coaching, so towards the end of last year, when I started doing all my self-healing stuff, one goal that hasn't changed for me was I want to give back to foster kids.
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm always running in my head, seeing who I can connect with to where if it's either a nonprofit or some type of program where I can bring those kids in, teach them the mindset at the young age, and show them like, yo, even though you're here in this position, that's not solidified.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_00: That doesn't mean this is where you're gonna be, doesn't mean it's gonna go downhill.
• 14:49
  SPEAKER_00: So one of my goals is to give back to the foster community, whether that's me being a foster parent or partnering with some organization or starting my own organization.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um, a second goal is, you know, like I told my mentor, because he asked me, hey, what's your goal with this uh coaching?
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, honestly, these nine years, I just want to pour into it.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I was talking to Kyle about that because he was asking how's it going with clients?
• 15:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, yeah, dude, I run across all kinds of clients.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_00: Like, so for kids trying to join the army, majority of them are overweight, right?
• 15:21
  SPEAKER_00: So I don't I can't legally charge them anything.
• 15:24
  SPEAKER_00: So I just give them plans for free.
• 15:26
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, man, I'm not gonna not give you a plan because you can't afford it.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, here, take this plan, join the army, better your life.
• 15:35
  SPEAKER_00: So those are kind of the two goals, man.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: I want to help the foster community, and I want to take my coaching to a level where it's actually tied in, I guess you're gonna say the community, but where it's like it's just me pouring into others, like, yo, I went through this.
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_00: That's that's the best life coaches, man.
• 15:55
  SPEAKER_00: People who've actually experienced and went through some shit that can sit there and talk with you and not try to sell you something.
• 16:01
  SPEAKER_00: Like, hey, I generally want to see you win.
• 16:05
  SPEAKER_00: So that that's really the goals.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: Um, obviously I'm in the army, so yeah, I want to hit retirement, but that's a given.
• 16:11
  SPEAKER_00: So I can retire 20 years in nine years.
• 16:15
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_01: So you've been in the military 11 11 years in 11.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it'll be 11 in January.
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_01: I think those are the most powerful life coaches and people in general, the people that put their clients first.
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_01: And I think I spoke with uh Jason about this the other day as well.
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_01: Um the people who put the clients first rather than money first, and they're all money driven and money hungry, and they don't give a damn about their clients, they're not gonna really be successful.
• 16:41
  SPEAKER_01: But once you are purpose-driven, once you know what your goal, your mission is in life, and you put that in your mind, and also I think you should put it on paper or at least on some sort of notes app.
• 16:54
  SPEAKER_01: I think it's great to run it on paper just because it you know has it you can you can hold it up.
• 17:00
  SPEAKER_01: You can't hold up a you can't hold up an app, right?
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_01: Um but but it's getting clear on your goals and getting clear on your passion and in truly putting the other people first.
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_01: And I think, like you said, uh doing work for free too, just just to help fulfill um the goals of dream, uh the goals and dreams of these young children and they're also going into the military because you um 11 years ago were that kid and you knew who that you knew who that was.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_00: Dude, and that's the thing too.
• 17:31
  SPEAKER_00: Like um I was talking to Kyle about it.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: Like every person I do for free, or I say, you know what, hey, just paying what you got, it's fine.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you know, it's$300 a month, you got$100, that's fine.
• 17:41
  SPEAKER_00: Give me the rest, what whenever.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, that's just you pouring into them, but you're also just you're you're you're you're earning your stripes in the universe, you know, because whatever you put out there is gonna come back around in some different way or form.
• 17:54
  SPEAKER_00: And that's the way I look at it, man.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not out there to fucking grab everything I can grab.
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_00: It's hey man, we pour into you.
• 18:00
  SPEAKER_00: If my little ripple helps you in any way, shape, or form, or someone watching you and it helps them, hey man, that that's a that's a victory for me.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_01: So it's really because like you said earlier, you're you're trying to optimize for the next 10 years or nine years once you get out of once you get out of the army, then you want to be having a a better income by then, but for now, you're really just all about giving back.
• 18:25
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 18:27
  SPEAKER_01: That's uh with the foster care community.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_01: You said you want to either start an organization or be a foster parent.
• 18:36
  SPEAKER_01: Is there one that draws you more to it?
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_00: Uh you mean is there one that draws me toward like either or?
• 18:45
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_00: Um I know through the organization I could impact more if I spoke more.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_00: But like eventually I want I want kids, you know, so I want I want to settle down, I want a family.
• 19:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'll write a kid.
• 19:04
  SPEAKER_00: If I don't have kids, that's great.
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_00: I can always get back in another way.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_00: But drawn more to, I don't know.
• 19:10
  SPEAKER_00: Um because the part of me is like, oh, if I have no foster kid at a young age, everything I learned and got game on, I can instill them personally and mentor them.
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_00: But at the same time, I was alright, bro.
• 19:23
  SPEAKER_00: I could do that same thing on a bigger level, hitting more kids at once through an organization with events.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_00: So I I don't think I'm drawn towards one more than the other.
• 19:35
  SPEAKER_00: I think they're kind of right there, like, hey man, I I'm rolling the dice and whichever one I land with, could be both.
• 19:41
  SPEAKER_00: I'm definitely yeah, yeah.
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, I I would give you a challenge is to is to do the do the community, the the organization, because if you think that's a bigger impact, then the only thing holding you back would really be just limiting beliefs, right?
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, for sure.
• 19:59
  SPEAKER_01: So, you know, and like you said, you can definitely do both.
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, you have an organization with I don't know how many kids are usually in there, 20 to 50 to 100.
• 20:08
  SPEAKER_01: So how many kids are usually in a foster care organization?
• 20:12
  SPEAKER_00: So it depends.
• 20:13
  SPEAKER_00: Like the I know the group homes have way more, so that they're like it just depends on the group home in and in the city.
• 20:20
  SPEAKER_00: Like, so like my first foster home, me, the it's like five kids in there, and then my second foster home will just me and my two brothers.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, okay.
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_01: I'm thinking about like a foster care organization.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, yeah, the way the the way the organizations would work is they would, in my and I don't know, I'm guessing, or if a nonprofit organization got involved, they would reach out to the whatever area starting, like say if it's because I'm from Sacramento.
• 20:54
  SPEAKER_00: So if it's from Sacramento, they would reach out to all the group homes in the Sacramento area, all the foster homes to kind of email or shoot out.
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, hey, this is an event we're holding for the kids.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_00: It's free, it'll be at this location.
• 21:06
  SPEAKER_00: And once you get those group of kids, that's where you can kind of like mold them, but then see who is really involved in helping you with your mission.
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_00: And then plan, I call it backwards planning as the army teaches us, man.
• 21:18
  SPEAKER_00: Backwards plan.
• 21:19
  SPEAKER_00: So plan, prep, execute.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: You're and obviously I'm gonna need a team, you know, it's not a one-man mission.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna need people on the legal side of it, you're gonna need people who know the foster care system in and out from the other side, not from being a foster kid.
• 21:33
  SPEAKER_00: So there's a lot of intricate details, I think, that goes into that.
• 21:39
  SPEAKER_01: I'm curious if you have any other ambitions around that, such as being a motivational speaker or writing books about the awareness, or I was actually talking to uh his name's Mo the Counselor on um Instagram.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_00: He I seen that he was published.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_00: I asked him, I was like, hey man, how do I publish a book?
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_00: Because I'm very interested in writing my own book.
• 21:59
  SPEAKER_00: Uh my friend.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: Kosh is in the middle of writing his book.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_00: Kyle is now about to be published.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, man.
• 22:05
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm seeing all these signs because prior to talking to them about it, it's been in my thoughts.
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_00: Like, man, I should I should really write write a book, tell a story, um, and just get it out there.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_00: And then I start these people I'm meeting, now they're all in writing their books.
• 22:21
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, bro, that has to be a sign for me to start doing that process.
• 22:26
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 22:28
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 22:29
  SPEAKER_01: Would your book would it be on your story growing up and how others can a relate and b improve their own lives given your experiences?
• 22:40
  SPEAKER_01: Like you, for example, if it's a young kid going into the military, they're 19, 20 years old, and you're 30, so you have 10 more years of experience on them, you're able to kind of be a mentor in a way to them.
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah, for sure.
• 22:54
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, I'll definitely tell my story, draw the uh the lessons for each major.
• 22:58
  SPEAKER_00: That's probably what I tell.
• 22:59
  SPEAKER_00: I'll tell the general gist of my story, and I'll pull specific parts that built me as the man, relate that to how I'm doing it to the military now, and then how that how I pretty much met the people I met to for me to forcefully upgrade myself to more in life.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_01: So yeah.
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 23:21
  SPEAKER_01: I'm curious because obviously you've gone through lots, both in your childhood and in your and in your manhood.
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_01: Um, what is the moment when you felt you'd failed or faced adversity, and how did you find the resilience to bounce back from it?
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_01: What was the one moment you can think of?
• 23:39
  SPEAKER_00: Dude, that would be so when I first joined the army, I told myself there's certain goals I wanted to accomplish, right?
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_00: So one of them was I wanted to hit the rank of Sign First Class, which I accomplished.
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_00: Um the second one was um it's called the Order of St.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_00: George, the medallion, and that's where they knight you for having a severe impact on the armored community.
• 24:02
  SPEAKER_00: So I got knighted, um, I think 2021.
• 24:06
  SPEAKER_00: So that's my second goal.
• 24:07
  SPEAKER_00: My third goal was I wanted to be a drill sergeant in the army.
• 24:12
  SPEAKER_00: So, but now I'm a recruiter.
• 24:13
  SPEAKER_00: But initially I had re-enlisted for six years to go to the drill sergeant academy.
• 24:18
  SPEAKER_00: So I attended it, I was injured prior, I ignored my injury, went there, and completely fucked it up.
• 24:26
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I fucked up the run, he got fucked up even worse.
• 24:28
  SPEAKER_00: I ended up having surgery.
• 24:30
  SPEAKER_00: But going back to base, and like because with my platoon at the time, I was like the pillar of discipline.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
• 24:38
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't give a fuck.
• 24:39
  SPEAKER_00: It was standards and principles all day.
• 24:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um but my guys love me and respect me for it though.
• 24:44
  SPEAKER_00: Like they knew I would fuck them up, but there's always gonna be a heart-to-heart talk, and we're gonna become better from it.
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_00: But dude, it was so hard for me to be in front of my subdiers, man.
• 24:55
  SPEAKER_00: Because I felt like I was just the biggest piece of shit.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_00: That I was I was this, this, this, and this, and I went and I failed.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_00: And dude, it took so much so much of my like my mentors talking to me and R me, like Amen D P Packer, just coaching and just coaching me through it, man.
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_00: So what I did was eventually like I had to talk with my guys, like, look, this is how I'm feeling.
• 25:18
  SPEAKER_00: This is what I kind of like saw myself as.
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_00: And if you guys see me different or whatever, like come on the net, let's talk about it.
• 25:26
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, nah, man.
• 25:27
  SPEAKER_00: Like, Sarge, you inspired us to go do shit like this.
• 25:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like, everyone gets injured, and that's when a lot of them start taking their health more serious, and like this part of my body hurts.
• 25:37
  SPEAKER_00: Can I go to sick haul?
• 25:39
  SPEAKER_00: Well, so they start seeing me ignoring my injuries and going forward.
• 25:44
  SPEAKER_00: And uh, so now they're all taking care of their bodies.
• 25:46
  SPEAKER_00: Some of them are now into lifting, so and they still hit me up for advice on lifting now.
• 25:50
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so that was that was the biggest thing in my career.
• 25:53
  SPEAKER_00: I think I really took a hit, like pretty sure, like, yeah, my pride was so fucked up.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, I was like legitimately, even one of my bosses pulled me aside.
• 26:02
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, Hey man, you haven't been yourself like three weeks.
• 26:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because, dude, I I would avoid my platoon.
• 26:07
  SPEAKER_00: I come to work and like I usually leave them with the workouts, I wouldn't leave the workouts, I'd stand in the back, and like, yeah, so that was the biggest thing I think.
• 26:17
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, because one of the things I always talk about is mental health and the stigma around it, especially in the army, that's obviously a big portion of that.
• 26:25
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, you need to be hard and you need to be masculine, and when we fail like that, it's can be humiliating, I assume.
• 26:35
  SPEAKER_01: And oh yeah.
• 26:36
  SPEAKER_01: But we have to realize like, dude, it's not it's not my mind in this case, it's my body.
• 26:41
  SPEAKER_01: Like my mind wants to keep going.
• 26:43
  SPEAKER_01: It's not me that just oh, I just gave up.
• 26:45
  SPEAKER_01: No, it's my my body physically cannot keep going.
• 26:49
  SPEAKER_01: What what was the injury?
• 26:51
  SPEAKER_00: It was uh multiple folds in my plica in my left knee, and then proper the attending.
• 26:58
  SPEAKER_00: We went on like a five-mile run in the desert, and my knee had like just locked up.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_00: This is like the this was like a Friday.
• 27:06
  SPEAKER_00: I reported to school that Sunday or Monday.
• 27:09
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, yeah.
• 27:11
  SPEAKER_00: So we had that injury, then we had that specific injury event, then we had me going to school.
• 27:19
  SPEAKER_01: How long did you say you were training before to go to that uh event?
• 27:26
  SPEAKER_00: I was always I was always in the gym.
• 27:28
  SPEAKER_00: You like when I first joined the army, I got big into lifting with uh one of my buddies I met in boot camp.
• 27:33
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 27:34
  SPEAKER_00: We ended up be going first we ended up being the same, because all tankers go to the same spot.
• 27:39
  SPEAKER_00: So I met him there, then we end up going to the same base together, then we ended up being fucking roommates, then we ended up in the same actual company.
• 27:48
  SPEAKER_00: So we just started lifting together, and then um I really started taking it serious probably when I was in Colorado.
• 27:57
  SPEAKER_00: So 2015 to 2017.
• 28:02
  SPEAKER_00: Then we went to the I was uh we went to the border of Russia in 2017, and I was lifting pretty heavy there, taking that real serious.
• 28:10
  SPEAKER_00: Um plus my best friend, man, he he's a bodybuilder.
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so I've always been around it.
• 28:17
  SPEAKER_00: And then in 2018, that's my hat or my first coach.
• 28:23
  SPEAKER_00: I got really lean.
• 28:25
  SPEAKER_00: Actually, yeah, after he was after my knee, my knee injury.
• 28:27
  SPEAKER_00: After my knee injury, I got serious with my coach.
• 28:30
  SPEAKER_00: And even though my leg was cast, I was still gonna I was like hobbling around with one leg in the gym again after it, and I dropped like I think I was like 225.
• 28:39
  SPEAKER_00: I got down to like a 188.
• 28:43
  SPEAKER_00: Uh three.
• 28:44
  SPEAKER_00: Like so I was on it.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_01: So essentially, I mean, you've accomplished everything you set out to accomplish.
• 28:51
  SPEAKER_01: You see, you got the first class sergeant, a minute uh knighted.
• 28:55
  SPEAKER_01: Uh you wanted to be a drill sergeant, but you couldn't just because of the injury with you're still setting a path for yourself as a recruiter and helping other other men set their goals and become the men they want to be.
• 29:08
  SPEAKER_01: But that's how I think you're accomplished.
• 29:11
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I see I see me going uh the recruiter route as another like you know, God had his hand in it because one, it allowed me to heal my knee even more.
• 29:22
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 29:22
  SPEAKER_00: And wouldn't it I possibly wouldn't have been on the journey I'm on now.
• 29:27
  SPEAKER_00: Because, you know, being a drill sergeant, like you're up at 30.
• 29:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like your hours are very strenuous.
• 29:33
  SPEAKER_00: You're there, you know, especially if you're short-handed on staff.
• 29:37
  SPEAKER_00: Like, dude, it's it's a hard life as a drill sergeant.
• 29:40
  SPEAKER_00: So maybe I wouldn't have gone to that self-healing, maybe I would have gotten back into drinking, all these would've and could've.
• 29:47
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 29:48
  SPEAKER_00: But so I see, you know, the recruiting life is yeah, the only thing I like about recruiting is helping kids.
• 29:54
  SPEAKER_00: That's the only thing I like about recruiting.
• 29:55
  SPEAKER_00: I get to help kids in my own gym schedule, I can have my meals that I cook.
• 30:00
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I just see as you know, God have this hand in to where I actually got to do this self-healing journey, I actually got to now push this business, I actually got to meet more cool people.
• 30:12
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but in the moment, you know, you can never see things in the moment, you know.
• 30:17
  SPEAKER_00: Or there, there's a I think Wes says it all the time too, you can't solve or see shit that you're going through at the same level of consciousness that you're going through it in.
• 30:26
  SPEAKER_00: Once you elevate, then you look down, you can see a kind of hindsight and long view of like, okay, this is what this was, this is what this is, and kind of dissect it because now you're above it, you're grown, and you see the lessons, and that just helps you pour into others when they can't see the shit that they're in.
• 30:42
  SPEAKER_01: Well, because the thing is too, with if you were have if you would have become a drill sergeant, most likely still dealing with those traumas, you would have been taking out your trauma, your emotion on those who you're drilling into.
• 30:58
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 30:59
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know if the word is called platoon, I'll play my butchering yet.
• 31:03
  SPEAKER_00: No, so uh if you're a drill sergeant, like yeah, there's like I know for at least tankers, there's four platoons in one company, then each platoon has two drill sergeants, a drill sergeant and then a senior drill sergeant.
• 31:14
  SPEAKER_00: Then you got one drill sergeant in charge of all the drill sergeants.
• 31:16
  SPEAKER_00: So okay.
• 31:18
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 31:20
  SPEAKER_01: So now that you have developed a good habit of obviously going to the gym and you've been doing that for some years now, uh, what daily habits or routines do you consider non-negotiable in your life, especially commanding in especially considering the demands of military service?
• 31:36
  SPEAKER_00: So I was already used to so my non-negotiables, like a lot of people say waking up early is hard.
• 31:42
  SPEAKER_00: Or they'll tell me, well, you're used to it, you're in the army.
• 31:45
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, well, not really, dude.
• 31:46
  SPEAKER_00: Like, yeah, in the army get up early, right?
• 31:48
  SPEAKER_00: But technically, you know, you can wake up at 6 a.m.
• 31:52
  SPEAKER_00: in the army, which really is really isn't early.
• 31:55
  SPEAKER_01: It's relatively early to other to the average person, though.
• 31:58
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, exactly.
• 31:59
  SPEAKER_00: So um, because you know your first formation is at 6 30.
• 32:03
  SPEAKER_00: But even when I was before I started this mind journey with everything I'm doing this year, I was already up at 5.
• 32:09
  SPEAKER_00: I'd go to the gym, knock out 45 minutes of cardio, then I would go work out with my platoon, go to work.
• 32:16
  SPEAKER_00: After work, I would go lift weights.
• 32:18
  SPEAKER_00: But now my non-negotials are, dude, I'm up at 4, 4:30 the latest.
• 32:22
  SPEAKER_00: As soon as I'm up, I do my push-ups just to wake me up.
• 32:26
  SPEAKER_00: After my push-ups, I'm jumping into a book.
• 32:29
  SPEAKER_00: Uh if something resonates with me, I'll share it.
• 32:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um, after that, I do my home workout, which was burpees.
• 32:36
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I either I either straight up the minimum is 50 to 100.
• 32:41
  SPEAKER_00: And if I still got energy, I just keep going nonstop.
• 32:45
  SPEAKER_00: Once I get done with that, it's uh it's a time I just kind of like chill out and I kind of self-reflect.
• 32:53
  SPEAKER_00: All right, what like what am I feeling?
• 32:55
  SPEAKER_00: Because like there's there's shit that I go through, man, and I'll pray the night before, and do like the next morning, I just get this wave of clarity.
• 33:04
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know where it's coming from, I don't know what it's about.
• 33:06
  SPEAKER_00: So I just gotta sit there and be like, not let my mind wander.
• 33:10
  SPEAKER_00: You can kind of say it's meditating, but it's just like, okay, where might this feeling be coming from?
• 33:16
  SPEAKER_00: Um and those are pretty much my non-negotiables.
• 33:19
  SPEAKER_00: If I go to work, I always tell myself, because I don't listen to music on the way to work, I keep now everything silent because I just want to talk to myself as I'm driving.
• 33:28
  SPEAKER_00: Um you always got to self-talk.
• 33:31
  SPEAKER_00: Um and that that's it, man.
• 33:35
  SPEAKER_00: I have to stay waking up early.
• 33:38
  SPEAKER_00: I have to get my body weight workouts in, I have to feed my mind with some knowledge from reading.
• 33:43
  SPEAKER_00: And I just always that self-talk, man, stay above it, stay above it.
• 33:49
  SPEAKER_00: Everything's happening for me, not to me.
• 33:52
  SPEAKER_00: Everything's the opportunity like um and that that's that's the gist of it, man.
• 33:58
  SPEAKER_00: That is the gist of it.
• 33:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um, the biggest thing that comes and supports my non-negotiables, I would say it's the community.
• 34:04
  SPEAKER_00: So my best friend, uh Akash, Kyle, Jason, all of them, man.
• 34:09
  SPEAKER_00: When do you like if your timeline on Instagram is just all that positive shit and people you support you, you can't help but operate in that.
• 34:19
  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of like a challenge, you know?
• 34:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, oh man, they're doing this.
• 34:22
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's like that healthy competition.
• 34:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like, oh man, I gotta stay up, I gotta stay on this level, I gotta get to where they're at.
• 34:27
  SPEAKER_00: So that would be my my non-negotiable for people.
• 34:31
  SPEAKER_00: Just every day, man.
• 34:32
  SPEAKER_00: You just be better than who you were yesterday.
• 34:35
  SPEAKER_00: If you didn't help no one yesterday, if you were a dick, just hold the door for somebody.
• 34:38
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, do do you know do do do something small, that's an impact.
• 34:42
  SPEAKER_00: Because you holding that door for a random person, do that random person might feel like they've been invisible their whole fucking life.
• 34:48
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you holding that door for them, it's like oh wow, someone else.
• 34:55
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, man, like you have to kill off self, man.
• 34:58
  SPEAKER_00: That's another thing.
• 34:59
  SPEAKER_00: Like every day I tell myself I have to pull myself out of situations because it's not about me.
• 35:05
  SPEAKER_00: Right, I tell myself, dude, it's never about me.
• 35:08
  SPEAKER_00: Even if it is about me, I tell myself it's never about me.
• 35:10
  SPEAKER_00: Because I need to see the the I need to see the whole fucking battlefield.
• 35:14
  SPEAKER_00: I need to see what the fuck is going on.
• 35:15
  SPEAKER_00: So I know how to assess it and move.
• 35:17
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes that takes a lot to do.
• 35:20
  SPEAKER_00: Some people just get right in there thinking they got everything handled, figured out, and it's not, man.
• 35:25
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta take a breath.
• 35:26
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, sit back, observe, and then and then then I wouldn't say act or react.
• 35:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'll say be just be proactive with what's laid out in front of you.
• 35:37
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 35:39
  SPEAKER_01: I think uh one the framework of everything is happening for me, not to me, is a just extremely powerful in and of itself, but also it allows you to take back control of your life.
• 35:54
  SPEAKER_01: Because if you if you're thinking everything is happening to me, then it's okay, then you are literally not in control of your life in your mind.
• 36:02
  SPEAKER_01: Like you literally just are gonna sit in sorrow and feel bad for yourself for everything that's that's happening around you.
• 36:08
  SPEAKER_01: But for example, for you, when you could not become a Joe Sergeant because of your injuries, that happened not to you, that happened for you, and it brought you closer to God, it brought you closer to starting this business and helping impact those outside of the world and impacting impacting uh people on social media and and the young people too that are going into the military or that you can relate with that you can help out.
• 36:39
  SPEAKER_01: So uh another thing with those small gestures, I think a lot of us are like, why do a small gesture?
• 36:47
  SPEAKER_01: Because it's it's so small, it seems so insignificant, it doesn't matter, right?
• 36:53
  SPEAKER_01: But you add enough of those small gestures up, a they're gonna eventually lead to bigger gestures, and b, they add up the goodwill compounds so fast, even if it's someone you don't know, like and you hold a door for running what what is the worst thing that will happen?
• 37:12
  SPEAKER_01: They won't say thank you.
• 37:13
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's the thing, is like like it's like the golden rule, you know, just treat others how you want to be treated, right?
• 37:20
  SPEAKER_01: And then because I think then that will also piss people off.
• 37:23
  SPEAKER_01: Because I don't I know I used to get so frustrated, like, for example, you know, when you're in the car and someone is walking past you, you let them go and they don't wave, like, dude, that is that irritated me so much before.
• 37:37
  SPEAKER_01: But like, dude, they are living their life.
• 37:39
  SPEAKER_01: They don't one, they don't know you, and two, like I can guarantee you 100% that the reason they aren't treating you well or treating how you want you how you want to be treated, is not because of you, it's because of them.
• 37:56
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe they just went through a divorce, maybe they just lost a kid, maybe they just lost a parent, maybe something poor super uh bad happened to them, maybe they lost their home, right?
• 38:05
  SPEAKER_01: So you don't know what's going on in their life.
• 38:08
  SPEAKER_01: So, like you said, just and it's a golden rule from like elementary school, treat others how you want to be treated.
• 38:14
  SPEAKER_01: It's so funny, but it's so it's so true.
• 38:17
  SPEAKER_01: And also just you know, taking care of how you said doing push-ups, but also reading books and and doing the kind of sort of meditation, uh, I believe you said in a car, just not listening to music, right?
• 38:30
  SPEAKER_01: And just being with yourself, doing your thoughts.
• 38:32
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's that's my big self-talk moment, is always on my car drives uh to work, and then I change at work, go to the gym.
• 38:39
  SPEAKER_00: So after work, that car or after the gym, technically, that drive home, no music.
• 38:46
  SPEAKER_00: If I'm not, I'm usually on the phone, my boy Akash, just kind of like refreshing the day.
• 38:51
  SPEAKER_00: And if not, do it's all it's all self-talk.
• 38:54
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, so that's so really just uh emphasizing uh again the mental health with the physical health.
• 39:01
  SPEAKER_01: I'm actually I remember yesterday I made a poll on my story, and I said, uh, what do you place more importance on mental health or physical health?
• 39:10
  SPEAKER_01: And you I remember going in mental health as well, which is uh obviously again is a large stigma around it.
• 39:17
  SPEAKER_01: A lot of men want to act like it doesn't exist.
• 39:21
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, dude, man, like especially in the army, man.
• 39:24
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you see a lot, but you can't be like, yeah, you'll see some dude jacked, right?
• 39:32
  SPEAKER_00: But you don't know, like I don't know.
• 39:35
  SPEAKER_00: I think you can have a great fucking physique.
• 39:36
  SPEAKER_00: You can be one be Mr.
• 39:38
  SPEAKER_00: Olympia, dude.
• 39:40
  SPEAKER_00: If your fucking mental health is jacked up, you're you dude, you're a liability.
• 39:44
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 39:44
  SPEAKER_00: You're not you're not an asset, like your mental health can be so jacked up, you're advising people from the wrong state of being.
• 39:53
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 39:54
  SPEAKER_00: You're trickling that your ripple might not be a positive ripple, you know.
• 39:58
  SPEAKER_00: They might follow you and doing certain stuff, but they can't keep up with what you do or how you do life, and they fall off.
• 40:06
  unknown: Right.
• 40:07
  SPEAKER_00: That's a ripple.
• 40:08
  SPEAKER_00: You weren't in the right state of mind to properly guide them.
• 40:12
  SPEAKER_01: I was talking with um Jason the other day, and we spoke about wealth, how health, and we divided health into physical health and mental health.
• 40:23
  SPEAKER_01: And we said that the only one out of wealth, mental health, and physical health that you can have without the others is physical health.
• 40:31
  SPEAKER_01: You can be, like you said, you can be jacked, you can be shredded without having mental health or wealth.
• 40:37
  SPEAKER_01: You can be a gym girl that doesn't do anything out there with your life.
• 40:40
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, you can literally go to the gym and then I I did this in the past actually.
• 40:46
  SPEAKER_01: I would literally go to the gym and then be a lazy piece of shit the rest of the day, like just lay in bed the rest of the day.
• 40:53
  SPEAKER_01: Because that's that's when I first started on self-improvement, and it it was a stage that I went through for a few months.
• 41:00
  SPEAKER_01: Obviously, I developed from there.
• 41:02
  SPEAKER_01: But yeah, I mean you can't for me, I always think about it from top down, you can't achieve the most in business without mental health, but you can't achieve the most in mental health without physical health.
• 41:17
  SPEAKER_01: But physical health is the base, but you can't you can achieve physical health without the other two if you don't start working on the other two.
• 41:24
  SPEAKER_01: It goes physical health, mental health, wealth.
• 41:27
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah.
• 41:28
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 41:29
  SPEAKER_01: So for me, that's that's I would say that's how I measure success, quote unquote, um, is is how mentally strong you are because how your mental strength is how you're gonna how it really determines how successful you'll be in other areas of life and business.
• 41:50
  SPEAKER_01: Um, how do you personally measure success, both in terms of your personal growth and your role as a life coach?
• 41:57
  SPEAKER_00: Measure success.
• 41:59
  SPEAKER_00: So one thing I heard is from my mentor, Wes.
• 42:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um, he said, don't ever have a bar.
• 42:06
  SPEAKER_00: You know, people say set the bar, and that's where success is at.
• 42:11
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, like I'm trying to get myself to set there is no fucking bar, but it's hard to get there because you know, when you're first starting off, you're like, all right, dude, I need to I need to get at least like three clients, or I need to sell at least two programs.
• 42:23
  SPEAKER_00: And then, you know, so I to honestly answer your question, man.
• 42:27
  SPEAKER_00: I don't I don't think I have a measure.
• 42:28
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's just me being totally truthful.
• 42:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like I just see myself as continually acting, and everything that's happening for me is for me at that level in time.
• 42:39
  SPEAKER_00: So where I'm at, right?
• 42:41
  SPEAKER_00: Everything I'm doing, talking to you.
• 42:42
  SPEAKER_00: I got three podcasts next week.
• 42:45
  SPEAKER_00: That's my success at this level, right?
• 42:48
  SPEAKER_00: And as going up further, further, then that will there's no bar because you're just building up, and everything as you grow, you're attracting.
• 42:56
  SPEAKER_00: So that might not be an answer that a lot like a lot of people, what the fuck?
• 42:59
  SPEAKER_00: Like, bro, I don't, yeah, I don't fucking it to me, there's not a measure.
• 43:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just living and I'm acting, and the results of those are the results of those, and that's all I see.
• 43:11
  SPEAKER_01: I'm curious uh if you can elaborate on that framework some more, actually, because my thought process is that if you don't set the bar, and you can set it extremely high too.
• 43:23
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, you can you aim for a moon and you miss the moon, you'll raise the stars still, right?
• 43:28
  SPEAKER_01: But yeah, just I think also having small smaller goals, like even daily goals or weekly goals or monthly goals or yearly goals, will help keep you accountable.
• 43:39
  SPEAKER_01: Because if you don't have goals, if you don't have that bar for yourself, what if you're actually slipping underneath where you would have set that bar and you're not being accountable because you don't have that place?
• 43:50
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 43:51
  SPEAKER_00: So the way I would go about that is so that's where the that's where community comes into play, at least for me.
• 43:56
  SPEAKER_00: Because this is all from my perspective.
• 43:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like so, my my best friend.
• 44:00
  SPEAKER_00: Akash, we are very uh we go way back, man.
• 44:04
  SPEAKER_00: Um so there for example, one day he slept in, right?
• 44:08
  SPEAKER_00: He had text me, oh I didn't I didn't wake up.
• 44:10
  SPEAKER_00: And I didn't do my I didn't do my push-ups.
• 44:13
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, bro, you're a piece of shit.
• 44:14
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, I was like, the world needs you.
• 44:16
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, do your push-ups, I was like, add 50 burpees to it.
• 44:20
  SPEAKER_00: That's where I think the accountability would come in.
• 44:23
  SPEAKER_00: So I know if I was ever operating lower than I needed to be or slipping, I have people in my corner, my community, so hey bro, we don't do that here.
• 44:32
  SPEAKER_00: We don't operate like that.
• 44:34
  SPEAKER_00: And I've been like that for my like out of my friend group, that's a whole different topic, dude.
• 44:41
  SPEAKER_00: Let me stop.
• 44:42
  SPEAKER_00: But but yeah, raising that bar or having those small short-term goals, like yeah, I can say that.
• 44:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like, all right, so next year, October, I would like to have 12 consistent clients, you know?
• 44:55
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 44:56
  SPEAKER_00: But I know though, I know me, I know in the back of my head, like it's that there is no bar.
• 45:02
  SPEAKER_00: There is no, like, dude, if I have six, alright, bro, I'm happy because that's six lives I'm changing.
• 45:08
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 45:09
  SPEAKER_00: You know, right.
• 45:10
  SPEAKER_00: So and it's hard, and that's just how I'm wired, bro.
• 45:13
  SPEAKER_00: That's literally just how I'm wired.
• 45:14
  SPEAKER_00: Like, some people like write it down, this is my goal, this is my goal.
• 45:17
  SPEAKER_00: I'll do the same shit.
• 45:18
  SPEAKER_00: Well, if I'm looking at that paper, I know like that's the thing.
• 45:21
  SPEAKER_00: You have to know yourself, dude.
• 45:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I know ultimately, I don't give a fuck what's right on that paper.
• 45:26
  SPEAKER_00: And that's just me.
• 45:26
  SPEAKER_00: Like, a lot of people disagree, but that's weird.
• 45:29
  SPEAKER_00: That's that's a weird mindset.
• 45:30
  SPEAKER_00: No, it's not, it's my mindset.
• 45:32
  SPEAKER_00: Because I know by me acting and living every day in the purpose of what I have, that dude, all my shit's gonna come to me when it's earned and at the right time.
• 45:43
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 45:44
  SPEAKER_00: And that's how I kind of move hop right now, man.
• 45:48
  SPEAKER_00: And so far it's been working for me.
• 45:50
  SPEAKER_00: Um I don't knock it, I don't bless it.
• 45:54
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's where it's at, man.
• 45:57
  SPEAKER_00: There's no bar, there's no ceiling, I just don't continually going.
• 46:01
  SPEAKER_00: I'm only going up.
• 46:04
  SPEAKER_01: So essentially, if you're not if you're not being accountable on one day, if you're having a down day, you have people that would that that'll curse you out.
• 46:14
  SPEAKER_01: You have to hold you accountable.
• 46:19
  SPEAKER_00: That's the that's the that's the thing.
• 46:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like uh, I'll I'll always talk about it or I'll like hashtag like support and community.
• 46:26
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 46:27
  SPEAKER_00: That's a that's a those are two big things that will help you reach success.
• 46:32
  SPEAKER_00: If you don't have support and community and you're a lone wolf in it, like yeah, you're gonna make it.
• 46:36
  SPEAKER_00: If you're determined and you know you, like I know me, you're gonna fucking make it.
• 46:40
  SPEAKER_00: But if you have community and support, like those are those are those are like your bumper cars, those are as you hitting the rails and they're getting you back on track.
• 46:50
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 46:51
  SPEAKER_01: So community delayed gratification and surrounding yourself around people who have sort of the same goals as you looking back at your journey.
• 47:00
  SPEAKER_01: Is there a specific piece of advice you would wish you had received when we would when you were just starting?
• 47:07
  SPEAKER_00: So I think I actually got that advice.
• 47:11
  SPEAKER_00: So and it comes from one of my old leaders in the army.
• 47:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, his name's Raymond Gueco.
• 47:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um he had told me once, and I apply this.
• 47:21
  SPEAKER_00: This is kind of where the uh fuck yourself motto came from.
• 47:26
  SPEAKER_00: We're sitting there, and uh I'll I don't I would say I was very advanced for where I was at my time when I was with him because he was my tank commander, I was his loader, and then I eventually ended up being his gunner on the tank.
• 47:40
  SPEAKER_00: And one day he was telling me something, I don't remember what it was, probably like a mission brief or something, and I was giving my I always give my opinions on shit like that on the tactical side.
• 47:50
  SPEAKER_00: And he looked at me, and the and this sticks me to his day, he's like, because my last name is Abdul is Abdul.
• 47:58
  SPEAKER_00: Your job as a soldier is to shut the fuck up and and execute.
• 48:02
  SPEAKER_00: He said, That's it.
• 48:04
  SPEAKER_00: As long as it's not immoral, unethical, or illegal, you shut the fuck up and you execute.
• 48:10
  SPEAKER_00: And that's where I and that's that's stuck with me ever since.
• 48:12
  SPEAKER_00: So now when I when I look at um like for coaching, for example, right?
• 48:17
  SPEAKER_00: Someone's paying a coach because what they're doing hasn't been working.
• 48:20
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna pay you to hold me accountable, right?
• 48:23
  SPEAKER_00: So I was on one of uh Akasha's group calls, and he had a he had a client saying, Well, what if I what if I want to drink?
• 48:30
  SPEAKER_00: Or what what would someone do?
• 48:31
  SPEAKER_00: They fell off their plan, right?
• 48:33
  SPEAKER_00: They do more cardio.
• 48:34
  SPEAKER_00: Now my head, I'm just like, why the fuck are you asking these dumbass questions?
• 48:37
  SPEAKER_00: Like, what do you mean?
• 48:38
  SPEAKER_00: Like, bitch, alcohol's not on your fucking plan.
• 48:40
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
• 48:42
  SPEAKER_00: So it's like, shut the fuck up and execute.
• 48:45
  SPEAKER_00: That's your job.
• 48:46
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 48:47
  SPEAKER_01: Hey guys, this is Tony Boutros.
• 48:48
  SPEAKER_01: Sorry for the interruption, just one quick question for you.
• 48:51
  SPEAKER_01: Have you taken any value from this episode or any other episode you have heard on the Reborn Podcast?
• 48:57
  SPEAKER_01: If you have taken value, one quick small favor to ask you.
• 49:01
  SPEAKER_01: It would mean so much to me if you could just share this episode or share this podcast with someone else who would take value and improve their life, a friend, a family member, or someone in your local community.
• 49:11
  SPEAKER_01: A reborn, we're all about helping others succeed.
• 49:14
  SPEAKER_01: We're all about personal development, we're all about being true to who you are.
• 49:19
  SPEAKER_01: Not hiding the things you're insecure about, but rather bring them to life so that you can push through and become the best person of yourself.
• 49:26
  SPEAKER_01: I think it's just in this episode that someone who can gain value, someone who can possibly change their lives from listening, I urge you to do so.
• 49:35
  SPEAKER_01: Not only would it mean so much to me, but hopefully it would have mean so much to them.
• 49:38
  SPEAKER_01: You know what they say.
• 49:39
  SPEAKER_01: Your network is your net worth.
• 49:42
  SPEAKER_01: Be a valuable part of someone else's network.
• 49:52
  SPEAKER_00: So I don't think there's a specific piece of advice I wish I would have had.
• 49:55
  SPEAKER_00: I think that was it.
• 49:57
  SPEAKER_00: And it came to me in that form.
• 49:58
  SPEAKER_00: And ever since then, it's like, bro, just unfuck yourself.
• 50:01
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 50:04
  SPEAKER_01: So uh well, first of all, I think that's the whole idea of an online coach.
• 50:09
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, is rather than being a rep counter and then Jim as a personal trainer, you're a uh you're basically an accountability coach, accountability partner.
• 50:21
  SPEAKER_01: Like, because people people have the know-how.
• 50:23
  SPEAKER_01: People have the know-how of how to get rich, people have to know how of how to get in their dream body, right?
• 50:29
  SPEAKER_01: People have the know-how of how to get their dream moment, people know have to know how to accomplish everything they would ever want to accomplish because everything is free online, but they don't have the accountability, they don't have the work ethic, and they can't execute.
• 50:43
  SPEAKER_00: So they maybe they they just think they can't, but in all reality, dude, if people just walk the fuck out, majority of y'all can do this on your fucking own.
• 50:52
  SPEAKER_00: And it's like to woke up one day magically, oh well, we can do all this shit, dude.
• 50:56
  SPEAKER_00: Half of us will be out of fucking business.
• 50:59
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 51:00
  SPEAKER_01: Oh yeah.
• 51:00
  SPEAKER_01: So like one, I mean, if everyone just got over their own limiting beliefs, if everyone got over their own self-pity, the world would be healthier, wealthier, and overall a better place and safer place to live.
• 51:14
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah, for sure.
• 51:15
  SPEAKER_00: No doubt.
• 51:16
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 51:17
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, that's that's the best advice I give people, man.
• 51:20
  SPEAKER_00: And then I even the first group call I kind of kept quiet, but that second group call with Akash and his clients, I fucking Akash had to kind of come in and you know, like smooth it out.
• 51:32
  SPEAKER_00: Because me and Akash are very like opposite ends of the spectrum.
• 51:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'm very like, bro, shut the fuck up.
• 51:36
  SPEAKER_00: You shouldn't be asking these dumbass questions.
• 51:38
  SPEAKER_00: Like, yeah, pull up, pull up your plan.
• 51:40
  SPEAKER_00: Where in there does it say fucking alcohol?
• 51:42
  SPEAKER_00: Tell me, tell me where.
• 51:44
  SPEAKER_00: Like, so yeah, that's why I like that's why I like tuning into Akash's calls.
• 51:48
  SPEAKER_00: So I I kind of like learn.
• 51:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like, all right, some people you gotta like, yeah.
• 51:52
  SPEAKER_00: But but yeah.
• 51:54
  SPEAKER_00: So like more mellow then.
• 51:56
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, dude, yeah, you need to do a call with him, man, because I think I think I think you'll fucking love him.
• 52:02
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, Akash is very uh high frequency, and he's done a lot of work.
• 52:06
  SPEAKER_00: I I've known him since dude, I was like skinny fit in high school.
• 52:12
  SPEAKER_00: I had two-way training classes.
• 52:13
  SPEAKER_00: I used to walk around my tank top, go to both lunches.
• 52:16
  SPEAKER_00: Akash was like, you know, he had the hat, jewelry, obeli, uh, Agnes backpack, and now he's like ripped, and he's done all these things, man, with like generation iron, enhanced athletes.
• 52:28
  SPEAKER_00: He's he's accomplished.
• 52:29
  SPEAKER_00: So I seen, I legit seen his transformation, man.
• 52:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's like he he has a lot to offer the world.
• 52:36
  SPEAKER_00: Is he the one you said is uh bodybuilder?
• 52:40
  SPEAKER_00: Like he used to compete, yeah.
• 52:42
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, okay, cool.
• 52:44
  SPEAKER_01: Um moving on.
• 52:47
  SPEAKER_01: Can you share a resource whether it's a book, tour, or practice that has had a significant impact on your journey in mindset?
• 52:57
  SPEAKER_00: So a book, I would say it would be it would be my mentor's book, Wes Watson.
• 53:07
  SPEAKER_00: Um and I would only say that because his book introduced me to the uh the laws of the universe, and that kind of like tweaked the picture.
• 53:17
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm like, okay.
• 53:18
  SPEAKER_00: So then I went and ordered like a I I got like so many books the house I gotta get into.
• 53:23
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, I would say my mentor's book, Wes Watson, and then uh Laws of the Universe.
• 53:28
  SPEAKER_00: Like I posted something on my Instagram today, it's like the law of oneness that we're all connected somehow.
• 53:34
  SPEAKER_00: So I would say those are the tools that are like molding me as I go.
• 53:40
  SPEAKER_00: So my mentor's book kind of opened my awareness, and that kind of like now it kind of illuminated the path for me.
• 53:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like, okay, let me let me go this direction, let me go this direction, let me go this direction.
• 53:51
  SPEAKER_01: So yeah, so um tell me about the law of oneness.
• 53:57
  SPEAKER_00: So from so I actually read it this morning.
• 53:59
  SPEAKER_00: So from what I got from it, is we are all connected by energy, right?
• 54:04
  SPEAKER_00: We're all the same energy from the same source.
• 54:06
  SPEAKER_00: And Akasha actually kind of told me about this yesterday too, as well.
• 54:10
  SPEAKER_00: Cause I'm always learning, man.
• 54:12
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I'm not a pro in any of this laws of the universe touch shit, but we're all connected, um, and energy flows.
• 54:20
  SPEAKER_00: Like, so if you're really low energy or you're going through it, and I'm very vibrating high and I'm up here, yeah, you're gonna pull me down a bit.
• 54:29
  SPEAKER_00: Me being so high is also gonna elevate you a little bit.
• 54:32
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 54:33
  SPEAKER_00: So we're and then and I didn't and it kind of tied the knot for me on what I used to say.
• 54:39
  SPEAKER_00: I think a couple of weeks ago, I would say, hey, we all experience the same things in life, and the problems are the the core of the problem is the same, it's just dressed differently, and we all experience it at a different level and severity based on what we need for our growth in our life.
• 54:55
  SPEAKER_00: So that kind of that's what re-popped my head this morning when I was learning about the law of ones.
• 55:00
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what it is.
• 55:02
  SPEAKER_01: You don't necessarily think it's bad to be around people who are on a lower wavelength than you are.
• 55:10
  SPEAKER_00: So if you're like drowning yourself in it, yeah, it's fucking bad.
• 55:14
  SPEAKER_00: But like, like for me, if I'm at work, right?
• 55:18
  SPEAKER_00: I have to be at work.
• 55:20
  SPEAKER_00: My co-workers should be at a lower frequency, or they're not just they're just not aware of the shit.
• 55:24
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I I have no saying that, but I do have a say in how I operate.
• 55:28
  SPEAKER_00: So if I'm aware, I know, okay, I just gotta tune it up a bit to kind of help them pull out and make sure I stay at a certain point and not go below.
• 55:38
  SPEAKER_00: Right, right.
• 55:39
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, so just being kind of going back to mental health, just being aware of where your thoughts are at, being more mindful.
• 55:47
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 55:48
  SPEAKER_01: And in turn, also helping others come up from their rut.
• 55:53
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, pretty much, yeah, yeah.
• 55:55
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 55:56
  SPEAKER_01: Making difficult making difficult decisions is part of military life.
• 55:59
  SPEAKER_01: How do you know how do you approach and make these tough choices, and how does this translate into your coaching philosophy?
• 56:06
  SPEAKER_00: Um, hold on, real quick.
• 56:08
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sorry, I hit that button.
• 56:10
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna take me out.
• 56:12
  SPEAKER_00: Hold on, real quick.
• 56:13
  SPEAKER_00: Hold on, real quick.
• 56:15
  SPEAKER_00: There we go.
• 56:17
  SPEAKER_00: All right, so making decisions in the military.
• 56:19
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so you like for us, we always gotta place the mission first, then the well press people.
• 56:27
  SPEAKER_00: So relating that to coaching, if like the example I just I just gave to you about uh, you know, one of the clients like asking the dumbass question about alcohol and falling off the diet.
• 56:38
  SPEAKER_00: Well, what the fuck is your mission?
• 56:40
  SPEAKER_00: What's your goal?
• 56:41
  SPEAKER_00: And then they relate back to that.
• 56:43
  SPEAKER_00: Like, what's your mission?
• 56:44
  SPEAKER_00: What's your goal?
• 56:45
  SPEAKER_00: What are you trying to accomplish?
• 56:47
  SPEAKER_00: That fucking serve, if you wanted that serve anything for accomplishing that.
• 56:53
  SPEAKER_00: No, okay, don't fuck like the path to success is very easy, you know?
• 56:58
  SPEAKER_00: You you you fucking you have your goal, then you have you, and if your goal, you wake up, you want to make a decision, all right.
• 57:06
  SPEAKER_00: Is this decision put me closer to my goal or does it put me further from my goal?
• 57:10
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, it puts me further.
• 57:12
  SPEAKER_00: Let's not do that.
• 57:13
  SPEAKER_00: Bam.
• 57:14
  SPEAKER_00: Now you just have that one option that gets you closer to do it.
• 57:17
  SPEAKER_00: That's what you execute on.
• 57:19
  SPEAKER_00: So when it comes to making decisions from the military and coaching, to me, it's very fucking fluid.
• 57:24
  SPEAKER_00: To me, it's the same thing.
• 57:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I will tell a client, like, I got a client right now as a soldier, and he told me uh, oh, I didn't work out today because I was moving furniture.
• 57:35
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, Yeah, bullshit.
• 57:37
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, send me a picture when you get to the gym.
• 57:39
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, come on, one, you fucking know better.
• 57:41
  SPEAKER_00: Two, you you used to be one of my soldiers.
• 57:43
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, You thought that dumbass excuse is gonna fly with me?
• 57:46
  SPEAKER_00: Fuck out of here, man.
• 57:47
  SPEAKER_00: Your goal is this.
• 57:48
  SPEAKER_00: You moving furniture, okay, whatever, dude.
• 57:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like, okay, I guess that's a workout.
• 57:54
  SPEAKER_00: That's not that's not the standard.
• 57:56
  SPEAKER_00: That's not the standard.
• 57:57
  SPEAKER_00: That's another kind of standards and principles we have for each other.
• 58:01
  SPEAKER_00: Like uh, you can use that example of that, have that soldier on a plan, right?
• 58:08
  SPEAKER_00: In his mind, oh well, moving furniture is me physically doing something, so that's exercise.
• 58:15
  SPEAKER_00: But but where I'm at, like that's not the standard.
• 58:21
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, get by with that with when it's just you, yeah.
• 58:24
  SPEAKER_00: But after that accountability comes in, like, that's not good enough for you with where you're at to get to where you want to be.
• 58:32
  SPEAKER_00: That shit's not gonna cut it.
• 58:34
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, a lot of people, that's what they sell themselves on.
• 58:37
  SPEAKER_00: They sell themselves on all their fucking excuses and the minimal shit that has minimal, that's gonna put a minimum minimal fucking dent in their goal.
• 58:48
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 58:49
  SPEAKER_00: No, man, you have to set the standard.
• 58:50
  SPEAKER_00: That was the that's where those non-negotiables come in.
• 58:53
  SPEAKER_00: That's the point of the nutrition plan, that's the point of the fitness plan.
• 58:58
  SPEAKER_00: Those aren't the goals.
• 58:59
  SPEAKER_00: The fitness and nutrition are building blocks to help in those disciplined habits.
• 59:05
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna take those disciplined habits, upgrade your mindset.
• 59:08
  SPEAKER_00: Once you get that mindset, that's what you're gonna use to go accomplish all your fucking goals.
• 59:13
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna take all that confidence you build, you're gonna take everything that you just fucking sculpted together, and you're gonna go accomplish anything you put your fucking mind to.
• 59:22
  SPEAKER_00: Because that's what you just spent time on building.
• 59:24
  SPEAKER_01: So I think a big thing is the fucking standards we have yourself, but I'm curious if your clients do they usually dread you telling them that kind of stuff, or do they appreciate you holding them accountable to that high standard?
• 59:43
  SPEAKER_00: The soldiers are used to it.
• 59:45
  SPEAKER_00: So the soldiers like that's another day, like I had a soldier man got out of the army.
• 59:53
  SPEAKER_00: He went to be uh a police officer in Virginia.
• 59:56
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, in the police academy, they're yelling and shit, and they're like, Well, what the fuck's wrong with you?
• 1:00:00
  SPEAKER_00: Why aren't you and he hit me up and told me the story?
• 1:00:03
  SPEAKER_00: And they're they're yelling at him.
• 1:00:05
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, they're like, why aren't you like, why are you acting like this?
• 1:00:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you're not phased.
• 1:00:09
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, he quoted, he said, This is just another Tuesday with Sergeant Abdul.
• 1:00:16
  SPEAKER_00: So the soldiers are used to it.
• 1:00:19
  SPEAKER_00: Um, people who aren't soldiers, I think it does take a little bit of adjustment.
• 1:00:24
  SPEAKER_00: And I'll gauge it, I don't start off with like slamming their head off a fucking desk, but like we'll have the upfront talk.
• 1:00:31
  SPEAKER_00: Like, hey, I and I make them kind of I don't make them say it, but I kind of lead them to where they're saying, like, oh, this is my standard as your coach.
• 1:00:42
  SPEAKER_00: So this is a standard, we're here and we're up.
• 1:00:44
  SPEAKER_00: Anything above it, fucking fantastic, dog.
• 1:00:47
  SPEAKER_00: This doesn't exist.
• 1:00:48
  SPEAKER_00: Down here doesn't exist, and I kind of hammer that in every day.
• 1:00:53
  SPEAKER_00: Down here doesn't exist.
• 1:00:56
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, but also, like you said, understanding where they're at and oh yeah, taking them to the point where they're just gonna burn out and give up.
• 1:01:03
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, for sure, for sure.
• 1:01:04
  SPEAKER_00: Everyone, it's like crawl, walk, run, and you gotta gauge that with each individual.
• 1:01:11
  SPEAKER_01: So, both as a mentor and a mentee, what are your thoughts on the role of mentorship or coaching and personal growth?
• 1:01:20
  SPEAKER_01: And how and have you had any influential mentors in your life?
• 1:01:24
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I know I know you have Wes Watson, who is also the mentor to a few other people I've interviewed uh here recently.
• 1:01:33
  SPEAKER_01: Has there been anyone else?
• 1:01:35
  SPEAKER_01: And then what impact has Wes had on your life?
• 1:01:38
  SPEAKER_00: So the the impact Wes had is just hey man, anyone can fucking do it.
• 1:01:44
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not talking about like uh material-wise.
• 1:01:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I've never been a materialistic guy.
• 1:01:50
  SPEAKER_00: Um I'll fucking enjoy the fuck out of it if I had it though.
• 1:01:53
  SPEAKER_00: But just him showing anyone can have it and I or can accomplish it, but I correlate that with because one of my oldest posts, if you go back on my story or my I put a picture and I said, the reason I'm joining the is to show my brothers, no matter what cards we're dealt in life, we can come out on top.
• 1:02:17
  SPEAKER_00: I met Wes, he's always saying it.
• 1:02:20
  SPEAKER_00: Wes will always say, like in his videos, he's he's done 10 years in prison, came out for five, he's making it.
• 1:02:27
  SPEAKER_00: Anyone can all his top clients are OGs in the game who are doing it out the legit right way.
• 1:02:35
  SPEAKER_00: So I was like, once I saw that and heard that dude, that's what flashed in my head that post about why I left the army.
• 1:02:44
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what Wes has taught me.
• 1:02:46
  SPEAKER_00: Anyone can fucking do it.
• 1:02:47
  SPEAKER_00: If you got a fucking blueprint and you stick to it and you're true and you're authentic with yourself, and everything you're healing, you're pouring back into the world, you will fucking do it.
• 1:02:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, mentor-wise, for the army, um, I would say I already mentioned him, uh, Raymond Gueco.
• 1:03:06
  SPEAKER_00: He's the one who introduced me to that unfuck yourself mentality.
• 1:03:09
  SPEAKER_00: Um and I kind of coin that into your higher self is telling you to unfuck yourself because it's guiding you, your consciousness guides you, you know.
• 1:03:17
  SPEAKER_00: So that's your higher self telling you, and you have to get up early.
• 1:03:20
  SPEAKER_00: Or if you feel like guilt of not doing something, that's you're being guided.
• 1:03:25
  SPEAKER_00: And every time you go against that, now you're just building up your fucking karmic debt and you're about to get a fucking shitstorm the longer you fucking ignore it.
• 1:03:32
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:03:33
  SPEAKER_00: But I also I'm also a fan of chaos, though, man.
• 1:03:35
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like some people need chaos in their life because it's gonna force them to listen.
• 1:03:42
  SPEAKER_00: And then I tell people who are doing the inner work, it's kind of it's like you become fireproof.
• 1:03:51
  SPEAKER_00: If you're doing what you're supposed to be doing, and Wes says it, you know, if a man's right, his world will be right.
• 1:03:56
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I also saw a video the other day it says, no, God never said he's going to save you from the lion's den.
• 1:04:04
  SPEAKER_00: He's gonna save you from the lion's mouth.
• 1:04:08
  SPEAKER_00: So I relate that to being in chaos, being in turmoil, but that's where you become fireproof, that's where you become battle tested.
• 1:04:17
  SPEAKER_00: So that unfuck yourself mentality coming from uh I call him Sonic Webbo, uh, those would be he would be my biggest mentor and motivator when it comes to the army.
• 1:04:30
  SPEAKER_00: And then also uh he's gonna have first arm Diaz.
• 1:04:35
  SPEAKER_00: At my last base, he was a platoon sergeant, and he ended up being our our main boss.
• 1:04:41
  SPEAKER_00: And he had to pull me aside too, man, because there was a there was a point where you know he mentored me a lot because I was so hard and to the standard with soldiers, they actually had a whole like sensing session towards me saying, oh, Sergeant Duel's too hard on this, Sergeant Duel demeans this man, all kinds of shit.
• 1:05:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just like, what the fuck?
• 1:05:02
  SPEAKER_00: So I like went out back and I was like thinking, like, dude, am I really fucking up?
• 1:05:06
  SPEAKER_00: And he came out there, you know, he lit a cigarette.
• 1:05:08
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, Look, man, he's like, you're one of the only sergeants I know who's holding a standard with these soldiers.
• 1:05:16
  SPEAKER_00: He's like the new generation, soft as fuck.
• 1:05:18
  SPEAKER_00: They don't have no discipline.
• 1:05:20
  SPEAKER_00: And he's like, You're one of the only fucking sergeants doing what you're supposed to be doing.
• 1:05:24
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, don't shit.
• 1:05:27
  SPEAKER_00: So that helped me tremendously, man.
• 1:05:29
  SPEAKER_00: And uh he kind of guided me towards the admin side of stuff with being a platoon sergeant and just kind of honing my skills as a leader.
• 1:05:37
  SPEAKER_00: So it would be West, West on the civilian side, and then it would be uh Siren Gueco and uh first serent Diaz on uh the military side.
• 1:05:48
  SPEAKER_01: So um what all of them have in common from what I'm hearing is that they all A have experience and two they are they have accomplished what you want to accomplish, whether in the military.
• 1:06:00
  SPEAKER_01: As a civilian.
• 1:06:01
  SPEAKER_01: And I think I think that's where a lot of people go wrong with a mentor because especially like online, you see so many mentors that are just coaches just to coach, just to make money.
• 1:06:12
  SPEAKER_01: Like, for example, a business coach who's never had a business other than being a business coach.
• 1:06:20
  SPEAKER_01: But what you said about the lion's den, how God will save us from a lion's mouth, but not from the lion's den.
• 1:06:27
  SPEAKER_01: I would argue that actually God throws us into the lion's den.
• 1:06:32
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah.
• 1:06:32
  SPEAKER_01: And it goes back to the saying that um God puts his strongest soldiers through the toughest battles.
• 1:06:42
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, I've seen that to be true myself, and obviously growing up in foster care and everything that you've gone through in your life, you've I was I'm assuming seen that to be true for yourself as well.
• 1:06:51
  SPEAKER_01: So I that's I think God really what we can't come from on our own.
• 1:06:58
  SPEAKER_01: I well, let me say this.
• 1:06:59
  SPEAKER_01: I I don't think you just become a Christian, I think you're called to be a Christian.
• 1:07:06
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah, for sure.
• 1:07:07
  SPEAKER_01: I don't think it's just something, oh, I'm gonna choose to be a Christian, now I'm a Christian.
• 1:07:11
  SPEAKER_01: Like something happens to you or happens for you, rather, and you become a Christian from that.
• 1:07:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's crazy too.
• 1:07:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like, so and then a lot of people I think battle with like some Christian, right?
• 1:07:25
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm reading more into like um laws of the universe.
• 1:07:30
  SPEAKER_00: I know some people find that conflicting, you know.
• 1:07:33
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but dude, I don't find it conflicting at all because you know, I think all this falls under God, you know, when people say, Oh, the source or the energy, dude.
• 1:07:41
  SPEAKER_00: In my head, I see that as God.
• 1:07:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um and dude, the other day I was just praying, I was going through some stuff trying to let go of a lot of the fucking emotions and accept life or how it's playing out for me.
• 1:07:53
  SPEAKER_00: And um last night I tried to meditate, and then out of nowhere I felt like this this wave at first was like sadness.
• 1:08:05
  SPEAKER_00: I thought I was about I thought I was about to freaking cry, dude.
• 1:08:08
  SPEAKER_00: A wave of sadness.
• 1:08:10
  SPEAKER_00: And then as I'm sitting there meditating, I had my headphones on and meditating, the wave of sadness comes.
• 1:08:15
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like I'm about to cry, and automatically, dude, I just start praying.
• 1:08:19
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know why, I just start praying, and then bam, it went away.
• 1:08:24
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that's why I woke up today with a little bit more clarity.
• 1:08:29
  SPEAKER_00: And after I got done with that, I was like, dude, that's freaking weird.
• 1:08:33
  SPEAKER_00: Turned over to my bed and I started praying now to God, and then I was like relaying to myself, I'm like, dude, that's crazy.
• 1:08:40
  SPEAKER_00: Cause like two or three days ago, I was asking, like, I was praying, like, God, let me just feel you, let me feel your touch on me, let me know you're there, let me know that your presence, you're still camped around me.
• 1:08:52
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 1:08:53
  SPEAKER_00: And to me, that's what that was.
• 1:08:54
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, okay, let me, I gotta, gotta thank him, gotta thank him for it.
• 1:08:58
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah.
• 1:09:01
  SPEAKER_01: I will say, I think also prayer is like beyond powerful because when you don't pray, I feel like you definitely feel different than when you do.
• 1:09:14
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, like so.
• 1:09:14
  SPEAKER_00: Me and Akash, like when Akash first started his journey, you know, he'd always tell me about meditation, and me and him would be in his Maserati, and he'll he'll be talking to me about, oh, you should meditate or something.
• 1:09:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, dude, that's that's what prayer is for me, you know.
• 1:09:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and we used to go back and forth on it, but now that we both grown and elevate, it's like now we kind of agree on that.
• 1:09:35
  SPEAKER_00: Like, yeah, prayer, prayer is meditation, you know.
• 1:09:38
  SPEAKER_00: Um, prayer is you if you want to speak to the verse, speak to the God.
• 1:09:42
  SPEAKER_00: That's what that's what that is.
• 1:09:43
  SPEAKER_00: Because I pray out loud.
• 1:09:44
  SPEAKER_00: I don't like sit there and all quiet.
• 1:09:45
  SPEAKER_00: I pray out loud because I hear myself.
• 1:09:48
  SPEAKER_00: Because dude, you might solve talking to God, man.
• 1:09:51
  SPEAKER_00: You might solve some of the shit.
• 1:09:52
  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to say on your own, because obviously he has a hand in it, but you might solve some of your shit talking out loud to yourself, praying.
• 1:09:58
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:09:59
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, man, I believe it's a calling, man.
• 1:10:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I always yeah, like people tell me, like, oh, you should uh like why do you have a Muslim name?
• 1:10:11
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but but you're Christian.
• 1:10:13
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, hey man, that's how it played out.
• 1:10:15
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:10:16
  SPEAKER_00: Like, oh, why don't you change it?
• 1:10:18
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, no, that's my name.
• 1:10:19
  SPEAKER_00: I like it.
• 1:10:20
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna change it.
• 1:10:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like, that's me, that's what has molded me.
• 1:10:24
  SPEAKER_00: That's what's personal.
• 1:10:25
  SPEAKER_00: So, no, like, I think you're called, man.
• 1:10:27
  SPEAKER_00: I think it says a lot too.
• 1:10:28
  SPEAKER_00: It's a good conversation to have.
• 1:10:29
  SPEAKER_00: If someone finds out, you know, you got a full-blown Muslim name and you're Christian.
• 1:10:34
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but I think it's a good conversation piece, man.
• 1:10:37
  SPEAKER_00: That's just how you meet.
• 1:10:38
  SPEAKER_01: And I do think uh praying out loud too is it's better.
• 1:10:44
  SPEAKER_01: Honestly, in my opinion, and this is gonna be very, very controversial, but I think praying in your mind is kind of the devil still controlling you.
• 1:10:54
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I think it's a fear.
• 1:10:57
  SPEAKER_01: I think like get he's putting in your mind that you're ashamed to be saying what you're saying out loud to God.
• 1:11:04
  SPEAKER_01: It's like the same thing when you're in church, and like my church, for example, I do a lot of songs and whatnot.
• 1:11:10
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, uh, one of the songs actually I think talks about that, where you're they're talking about like the devil being inside of us and holding us back from praising.
• 1:11:23
  SPEAKER_01: Whereas if we're talking out loud and we're singing out loud and worshiping, then we know that we're truly comforted and uh secured with God, yeah.
• 1:11:37
  SPEAKER_01: Whereas uh again, I think it's it's kind of the devil holding us back if we are praying in our minds, yeah.
• 1:11:43
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, I think you're absolutely 100% right that because there's times where like I would know I'm I'm backsliding, now I'm fucking up, and I would just uh try to pray in my head, but I would know, like I get that feeling like hey, now you're just fucking up even more, dog.
• 1:11:57
  SPEAKER_00: Like stop what you're doing, get back on your knees, start speaking out loud.
• 1:12:02
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, I'm I 100% agree with you, man.
• 1:12:05
  SPEAKER_00: I think you praying in your head is like you still you're you're fearful, and you're on the fence, and being on the fence is still not good.
• 1:12:15
  SPEAKER_00: You know, if you ever heard that, like the devil owns the fence.
• 1:12:20
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so I agree with you, man.
• 1:12:21
  SPEAKER_00: I agree with you on that.
• 1:12:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:12:24
  SPEAKER_01: As someone who's grown up in foster care, who's gone through tons of trials and tribulations, and is now a military recruiter.
• 1:12:32
  SPEAKER_01: What emerging trends or technologies do you believe will impact the fields of mindset, fitness, and nutrition in the next five years?
• 1:12:40
  SPEAKER_01: Whether that's mental health or AI or whatever.
• 1:12:45
  SPEAKER_00: Dude, AI is iffy, man.
• 1:12:47
  SPEAKER_00: AI is iffy as hell.
• 1:12:49
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I think it has the potential to do a lot of good, but dude, with the state of the world.
• 1:12:57
  SPEAKER_00: My man.
• 1:12:59
  SPEAKER_00: Like I was watching uh his name's Chad Wright.
• 1:13:03
  SPEAKER_00: He's a former Navy Google.
• 1:13:05
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I was watching this morning while I was waiting for your call, and he even said it, man.
• 1:13:09
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, hey, we're we're in a world where we're used to not being touched.
• 1:13:14
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, we're in a world where we usually watch events happen, they blow over, we go back to normal.
• 1:13:20
  SPEAKER_00: And he's saying, hey man, we're due.
• 1:13:24
  SPEAKER_00: We're due for our lick in the world.
• 1:13:26
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, oh man.
• 1:13:28
  SPEAKER_00: So when you say stuff like that, like I think like for so technically in the military, we're not supposed to have TikTok.
• 1:13:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I don't have TikTok, so I just don't freaking like it.
• 1:13:38
  SPEAKER_00: I think TikTok is now mixed in with anything you see on TikTok, you can see on Instagram.
• 1:13:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um but uh technology-wise, I think obviously the SO is gonna be there.
• 1:13:48
  SPEAKER_00: So I think a lot of people are leaning towards online.
• 1:13:53
  SPEAKER_00: Um then online is just like a vague, I mean it's so broad, dude.
• 1:14:01
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna sleep at all online stuff.
• 1:14:03
  SPEAKER_00: Online stuff's gonna have a big impact depending on where the world, because there's a lot of shit going on in the world, man.
• 1:14:10
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that's gonna have a very big impact on the next five to ten years of how we live our lives.
• 1:14:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and that's why we see like big influencers, man, like Sean Whalen, um Wes, everyone, uh Brad Lee, everybody's saying, hey man, you you need to build yourself, you need to build yourself, make sure you're trained mentally, physically, spiritually.
• 1:14:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I always encourage people, hey man, train with some firearms, dog.
• 1:14:39
  SPEAKER_00: Learn how to be a shooter.
• 1:14:40
  SPEAKER_00: Um and then yeah, man, I just talked up to the internet because I think that's obviously the biggest thing that everyone's going for right now.
• 1:14:50
  SPEAKER_00: But I think it's hit and miss with it's very dependent on what happens to the world, man.
• 1:14:54
  SPEAKER_00: Everything that's going on in Gaza with Israel, uh, Palestine, our government.
• 1:15:00
  SPEAKER_00: Um, it's very it's a very fragile, fragile state we're in.
• 1:15:06
  SPEAKER_00: So I think mental health is gonna play a big role in it, and it's all gonna be access to to online.
• 1:15:14
  SPEAKER_00: I think everyone's moving all their shit to online.
• 1:15:16
  unknown: Yeah.
• 1:15:17
  SPEAKER_00: There's a bigger reach.
• 1:15:20
  SPEAKER_01: I think especially when you're purpose-driven, it the internet is invaluable because you're able to impact the lives of so many other people, of some like so many more people than you would be able to impact if you were just doing one-on-one texting or if you're just doing talking to people in your local area.
• 1:15:39
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it allows a so many business opportunities, so many networking opportunities, just so much opportunity overall.
• 1:15:49
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, like uh next month.
• 1:15:51
  SPEAKER_00: Uh I'm gonna head back out to Sacramento and San Francisco uh with Kyle.
• 1:15:57
  SPEAKER_00: Kyle's going out there to do some content.
• 1:15:58
  SPEAKER_00: He invited me out.
• 1:15:59
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, yeah, I'll be there.
• 1:16:01
  SPEAKER_00: So it opens opportunities for networking.
• 1:16:05
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 1:16:06
  SPEAKER_00: That's yeah.
• 1:16:07
  SPEAKER_01: Where you where are you guys going in Sacramento?
• 1:16:10
  SPEAKER_00: So I think he will mainly be in San Francisco, but I'm gonna put in some more time off because my family's in Sacramento.
• 1:16:16
  SPEAKER_00: So okay.
• 1:16:17
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, nice, nice.
• 1:16:19
  SPEAKER_01: That sounds sounds fun.
• 1:16:22
  SPEAKER_01: I know uh California has some issues right now, but I'm I don't think it just matters too much on a vacation, just more of a living thing.
• 1:16:30
  SPEAKER_00: And that's where my yeah, uh April or May next year.
• 1:16:33
  SPEAKER_00: I'm actually gonna get stationed back in California.
• 1:16:35
  SPEAKER_00: So as long as as long as it's on the army's dime, I'm not I'm not worried about it.
• 1:16:39
  SPEAKER_01: No path.
• 1:16:40
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah.
• 1:16:41
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's that's that's nice.
• 1:16:43
  SPEAKER_01: You know, you don't have to you don't have to pay for your own vacation.
• 1:16:46
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 1:16:48
  SPEAKER_01: I'm sure you're flying over there too.
• 1:16:51
  SPEAKER_00: Oh yeah, yeah, I'll flying there and when I actually get stationed back there, though the army pays for moving me and all that stuff, so that's better.
• 1:16:59
  SPEAKER_00: Nice.
• 1:17:00
  unknown: Yeah.
• 1:17:02
  SPEAKER_01: Given your experiences, how do you handle setbacks and maintain your motivation levels both in your military career and as a life coach?
• 1:17:10
  SPEAKER_00: Setbacks is all and do I pretty much I think we already addressed it.
• 1:17:14
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's happening for me now, too.
• 1:17:18
  SPEAKER_00: There's a lesson for me or someone around me that I just gotta like pull back, elevate, look back down, and draw the lesson from it.
• 1:17:27
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 1:17:29
  SPEAKER_01: Um, in your opinion, what is the most crucial trait that individuals should cultivate for success, especially when it comes to holistic health and mindset?
• 1:17:41
  SPEAKER_00: Crucial trait, I would say have a guide.
• 1:17:47
  SPEAKER_00: And with the sense of a guide, it's like so for me, my guide is my purpose.
• 1:17:53
  SPEAKER_00: All right, so always having an action in that purpose.
• 1:17:58
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 1:17:59
  SPEAKER_00: I think is a cru you must do it.
• 1:18:02
  SPEAKER_00: Um, because then what are you doing?
• 1:18:03
  SPEAKER_00: Are you like especially people who start off purposeful and like living in their purpose and pouring back into it, and then they lose sight of that due to whatever amount of money they take in or a person they need or a bad habit they pick up that they try to hide.
• 1:18:19
  SPEAKER_00: Um it's crucial to stay purpose and vision-driven, and you need a guide to always bounce back to get you back offset.
• 1:18:29
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 1:18:30
  SPEAKER_01: So you said have a guide.
• 1:18:33
  SPEAKER_01: Uh you mentioned your guide is your purpose, but you didn't say have a purpose, you said have a guide.
• 1:18:39
  SPEAKER_01: So do you think that for other people they could just be guided by money or fame or power or family rather than a God-given purpose?
• 1:18:50
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that uh yeah, I stand by that.
• 1:18:52
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:18:53
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 1:18:54
  SPEAKER_01: You mentioned uh the importance of owning your trauma.
• 1:18:57
  SPEAKER_01: Can you share more about how you personally own your experiences and use them to fuel your growth?
• 1:19:04
  SPEAKER_00: Dude, so like for me, dude, I'm a lover boy, bro.
• 1:19:06
  SPEAKER_00: I was all into relationships.
• 1:19:08
  SPEAKER_00: Um, they had a significant impact on me because what I lacked with like love and family, that's what I thought in relationships, right?
• 1:19:19
  SPEAKER_00: So um, not even my high school one, I said the one after my high school one, man, was a very big one for me.
• 1:19:27
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but during my self-healing, dude, uh what I realized was I wasn't always right.
• 1:19:35
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 1:19:36
  SPEAKER_00: Wasn't always the be-all end-all.
• 1:19:40
  SPEAKER_00: Um I was very closed off to what didn't work for me.
• 1:19:43
  SPEAKER_00: Like I was comfortable with what I knew and what I wanted, and I would shut down what another individual would try to introduce me to.
• 1:19:53
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I also was very aware with the individuals I was involved with, their trauma, their ability not to heal as much as they talk about healing.
• 1:20:07
  SPEAKER_00: Because one thing I'm glad, I'm really thankful for, dude.
• 1:20:10
  SPEAKER_00: I was talking to my friend about this the other day, was I was able to snap out of it before.
• 1:20:16
  SPEAKER_00: When I say snap out of it, I'm talking about like just being lost in being unhealed.
• 1:20:22
  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, some people are just all talk about their healer, but when the hell of it and actually do the work, you can actually see the authenticity of healing and them wanting to do the inner work.
• 1:20:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um like a filter being removed.
• 1:20:39
  SPEAKER_00: And some people, man, they because they're unhealed and they only value this one thing I learned, man, they only value their immediate want and feeling over the relationship or what the other person's going through, and they're asking of you to want things they can't provide themselves because they're not, they haven't done their inner work.
• 1:21:06
  SPEAKER_00: And then when you call them out on that, bro, now you're the problem.
• 1:21:11
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I can't treat you like this because you do this, well, I can't do this because you do this, this, this, and this, and this is why I act the way I act.
• 1:21:17
  SPEAKER_00: And they're subconsciously rewiring their brain to have a new default of a victim, right?
• 1:21:24
  SPEAKER_00: Always somebody else.
• 1:21:25
  SPEAKER_00: I'm fine, I'm healing, I'm growing, I'm doing my work.
• 1:21:31
  SPEAKER_00: You so that when like and I call it the madman method, I spoke about Kyle.
• 1:21:40
  SPEAKER_00: Like, dude, the end of like last year, um, I was ready to like, not the last year, but the last relationship.
• 1:21:49
  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, I was ready to propose to this girl, everything, the whole nine.
• 1:21:53
  SPEAKER_00: Um, we were on and off uh probably four or five years.
• 1:21:57
  SPEAKER_00: She was tripping off their girl, my high school sweetheart, which now that I like can draw back to it, I yeah, I wasn't so because me before I hooked up with that ex, I was at a place of peace where I don't feel like I need to block people in my phone.
• 1:22:16
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:22:17
  SPEAKER_00: And I relay that to my partner, but from what I'm not gonna assume anything, but from what I think, she was so unhealed, or things would trigger her that she would want me to do that blocking to like help her in her area, which I'm not saying it's wrong, but I felt like I was compromising the growth I did to get to that level for her, and that's the part I don't think she understood, and she placed her own value over that, right?
• 1:22:53
  SPEAKER_00: I think a lot of people do that in relationships.
• 1:22:56
  SPEAKER_00: So, dude, when I did that madman, I call it the madman method, dude, for months.
• 1:23:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um dude, like I think a month later or a month and a half later, dude, she was in another relationship, and I was like, What the fuck?
• 1:23:10
  SPEAKER_00: I thought we were working on us.
• 1:23:11
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, then cut me off now.
• 1:23:13
  SPEAKER_00: In another relationship, I felt like a fucking dumbass, bro.
• 1:23:15
  SPEAKER_00: And then when I found out she's in another relationship, I was completely fucking shattered.
• 1:23:19
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I didn't all I would do, bro, was go to work, work out, and I would come home, and dude, I would just write everything there.
• 1:23:27
  SPEAKER_00: I I felt no books, bro.
• 1:23:30
  SPEAKER_00: Fucking that's how fucking dead, dude.
• 1:23:32
  SPEAKER_00: I was my cousin flew out here for a conference with his missionary group, and bro, I was like fucking crying like a bitch on the floor, and he was just praying over me, man.
• 1:23:42
  SPEAKER_00: That's the first time I think my cousin ever seen me like that.
• 1:23:45
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, I'm like the tough one, you know?
• 1:23:48
  SPEAKER_00: And dude, that owning that trauma, dude, doing that, writing out how I felt, writing out what trigger that, writing out a thought, writing out what figure that thought.
• 1:24:00
  SPEAKER_00: I would dissect everything I wrote the next day.
• 1:24:04
  SPEAKER_00: I would force myself to do it, and bro, that's what I call owning your trauma, man.
• 1:24:09
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta fucking uproot everything you don't want to fucking uproot.
• 1:24:13
  SPEAKER_00: And dude, sometimes, bro, the problems in the mirror.
• 1:24:17
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I was wrong, sometimes my actions weren't the best of actions.
• 1:24:21
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I was just so fucking stupid to comprehend how to act at that time because I was so low fucking vibration that that was a big effect on my relationship.
• 1:24:31
  SPEAKER_00: But I wouldn't have known that if I didn't experience that, you know, I didn't go through all this shit.
• 1:24:38
  SPEAKER_00: I wouldn't be where I'm at today.
• 1:24:40
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I wouldn't know the madman method from what I call it.
• 1:24:44
  SPEAKER_00: And now that person is on their healing journey, dude.
• 1:24:46
  SPEAKER_00: And I had this talk the other day with like one of her best friends.
• 1:24:49
  SPEAKER_00: Um, that's where I was kind of selfish because like I'm the one who's hurt, I'm doing like why the fuck did I get cut off?
• 1:24:57
  SPEAKER_00: All this weird shit, bro.
• 1:24:58
  SPEAKER_00: But it's like, no, the blessing is I healed, I'm or I need to be at to pour into others.
• 1:25:06
  SPEAKER_00: And the bigger blessing is that person finally realized they need healing.
• 1:25:12
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's that's the that's the victory, that's the win there.
• 1:25:16
  SPEAKER_00: And a lot of people don't accept, like, hey man, your journey with some people might be the fucking end once you guys sever it.
• 1:25:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like a lot of people keep hope, keep faith, that's great.
• 1:25:26
  SPEAKER_00: But dude, do not let it take you off of your purpose and you pouring back into what you just healed from.
• 1:25:31
  SPEAKER_00: Because there's people out there who need you.
• 1:25:33
  SPEAKER_00: They might not say it, but dude, that they'll follow you.
• 1:25:35
  SPEAKER_00: You'll see them in your stories, so you'll see them like certain quotes.
• 1:25:38
  SPEAKER_00: Those are people leaning on you indirectly through the internet, you know?
• 1:25:43
  SPEAKER_00: So owning your trauma opens you up to see all that, you know.
• 1:25:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like once you're in it, you're like, fuck, but once it's like, you know, you can't solve the same problem, the same consciousness.
• 1:25:54
  SPEAKER_00: What dude, once I own that shit, man, and like I'm all for like the fitness, nutrition, but dude, a cornerstone for my fucking mindset was the heartbreak shit I went through.
• 1:26:06
  SPEAKER_00: Because it woke me up and it forced me to do the inner work.
• 1:26:11
  SPEAKER_00: I could go to the gym, no problem.
• 1:26:12
  SPEAKER_00: I'll still be fucking a wreck on the inside.
• 1:26:14
  SPEAKER_00: I could die, I'll still be a fucking wreck on the inside.
• 1:26:18
  SPEAKER_00: So, dude, uh yeah, owning your trauma, dude, definitely the madman method, and being able to know and own some of the faults are on you.
• 1:26:31
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people don't want to do that.
• 1:26:32
  SPEAKER_00: They want to they go in to that owning the trauma phase with the mindset of I'm doing this to see what the other person did wrong.
• 1:26:42
  SPEAKER_00: I'm doing this to see what they did that made me do this.
• 1:26:46
  SPEAKER_00: No, motherfucker, no one makes you do anything.
• 1:26:48
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
• 1:26:49
  SPEAKER_00: We just act because we have all this, it's a it's a fucking chemical imbalance, man.
• 1:26:53
  SPEAKER_00: Riding the high and the low when you're with somebody for so long and you guys are fucking bumping heads is because one, you're unhealed, both of you.
• 1:27:02
  SPEAKER_00: And that chemical imbalance you're chasing that next high is gonna get better, it's not gonna get better, it's gonna get better.
• 1:27:07
  SPEAKER_00: And dude, sometimes that fucking separation is crucial and needed.
• 1:27:12
  SPEAKER_00: And I think if both people fucking heal, then yeah, there could be some some light at the end of the tunnel, but also with the acceptance of hey man, that light at the end of the tunnel might be you on your path, them on their path.
• 1:27:25
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 1:27:26
  SPEAKER_00: And once you own and accept that, dude, you feel and that's shit, dude.
• 1:27:29
  SPEAKER_00: That's I just answered my question, man.
• 1:27:31
  SPEAKER_00: That's probably where I got some fucking clarity from this morning.
• 1:27:33
  SPEAKER_00: So you know, so yeah, dude, owning the trauma, I think, is a fucking must.
• 1:27:38
  SPEAKER_00: Even if you think you, even if you don't go through relationship traumas, all right, go dig up your fucking family trauma, bro.
• 1:27:44
  SPEAKER_00: Dig up your relationship with your brother, your sister, your mom, your aunt.
• 1:27:48
  SPEAKER_00: Dude, do it.
• 1:27:49
  SPEAKER_00: It's a must.
• 1:27:50
  SPEAKER_00: The sooner you do it, dude, you're gonna prolong so much unnecessary bleeding out into other areas of your life because you already solved it.
• 1:28:00
  SPEAKER_00: But if you don't tell it, it's gonna show in other areas of your life and you're like, what the fuck is wrong?
• 1:28:05
  SPEAKER_00: Bro, you're not whole within.
• 1:28:08
  SPEAKER_01: I'm curious if you could go back, let's let's go back to even the beginning of your life.
• 1:28:14
  SPEAKER_01: Let's say you had a normal upbringing with you know a traditional family and a great family outside, and every you didn't go through nearly as much stress as you went through growing up, would you take that reality or would you take your your actual reality?
• 1:28:33
  SPEAKER_00: And if you would take your actual reality, how has that why and how has that shaped you into the man and you've become so I would always look at that alternate reality, or you know, if you want to like marvel the alternate timeline, I'll always I would always look at that timeline and kind of like be at awe of it, you know.
• 1:28:55
  SPEAKER_00: If I could actually like I can see both of them, and I'll be like, damn, that that's pretty dope, must be nice.
• 1:29:00
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and then I'll look over at mine and be like, but that that that's what that's me, dude.
• 1:29:07
  SPEAKER_00: That's my essence.
• 1:29:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like over there, that's great, it's like the generic brand, you know, the generic brand of fucking whatever you want to fill in the blank.
• 1:29:13
  SPEAKER_00: And then there is that authentic, rough fucking this is what it is, man.
• 1:29:19
  SPEAKER_00: And painting yourself another fucking scenario, it ain't doing you no favors.
• 1:29:24
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:29:25
  SPEAKER_00: Um and what it's made me, um dude, I'm glad it I'm not soft.
• 1:29:35
  SPEAKER_00: You know, a lot of people would uh looking at men, you know, especially in especially in like the Indian community, like they're setting their ways like of how traditional things should be done, or how you treat your girl, or how you're supposed to conduct yourself.
• 1:29:53
  SPEAKER_00: Um dude, I'm not with a lot of that shit.
• 1:29:57
  SPEAKER_00: Um I'm not your uh they make the joke at work too, like, oh, he's not your average Indian.
• 1:30:01
  SPEAKER_00: Cause like I'm not.
• 1:30:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um and I'm just glad it didn't make me soft.
• 1:30:07
  SPEAKER_00: I'm glad that it made me stand out, it made me more masculine, it made me more, I don't want to say confrontational, just more up front with like speaking and vocalizing how I think and how I operate.
• 1:30:22
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, dude, all day I'll choose the current life, and I'm glad it built me, and I'll say, I like to use the term warrior.
• 1:30:29
  SPEAKER_00: I'm glad it built me into a fucking warrior.
• 1:30:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, because at any point in time, dude, I posted a video the other day, man, with what's going on in the world, you gotta be combat ready.
• 1:30:38
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta be ready to go out there, stack some fucking bodies if needed, and keep it pushing.
• 1:30:42
  SPEAKER_00: Just like in life, whatever fucking trial or tribulation you have laid out in front of you, hey man, you better gear the fuck up, look in the mirror, remember who the fuck you are, remember what you're grounded in, and go out there and tackle that shit with your chest out and your chin up.
• 1:30:57
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 1:30:58
  SPEAKER_01: So uh obviously the military I'm I'm sure it helps you develop a lot of those skills, accountability, execution, the warrior mentality.
• 1:31:09
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but some argue that military culture can be at odds with holistic health and healing, especially pertaining to mental health.
• 1:31:17
  SPEAKER_01: How do you reconcile these aspects in your own life and your coaching?
• 1:31:22
  SPEAKER_00: So, like with holistic health in the military, the army is changing.
• 1:31:26
  SPEAKER_00: So it does like now in like boot camp, they're doing that little triangle, the nutrition pyramid or whatever.
• 1:31:33
  SPEAKER_00: So they're letting soldiers get like eight hours of sleep, they let them get an uh added amount of protein in.
• 1:31:38
  SPEAKER_00: So the army's changing, they're they're they're breaking that stigma, man.
• 1:31:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um like back in the day, you'd have motherfuckers, like when I was in boot camp, I got like three, maybe four hours of sleep.
• 1:31:48
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, and it was just non-stop.
• 1:31:50
  SPEAKER_00: Now they get their breaks, um, which I think is good, as long as they get that still firm and then walk to the fucking military, that's how we get down.
• 1:31:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um but that little stigma of like it's unhealthy, like you're up for all these hours and you're operating, like yeah, dude.
• 1:32:09
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be like that sometimes.
• 1:32:11
  SPEAKER_00: It has to be.
• 1:32:12
  SPEAKER_00: We're the fucking military.
• 1:32:14
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:32:15
  SPEAKER_00: Like you can't go fucking, oh shit, dude.
• 1:32:18
  SPEAKER_00: We're we're out here in the fucking war zone.
• 1:32:20
  SPEAKER_00: Pause.
• 1:32:21
  SPEAKER_00: I need to get my fucking eight to nine hours.
• 1:32:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um I haven't got my fucking protein up yet, so if you guys just stop fucking blowing shit up real quick.
• 1:32:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like, that works, it don't work like that, man.
• 1:32:33
  SPEAKER_00: And that's what sets us apart.
• 1:32:35
  SPEAKER_00: I do back in the day.
• 1:32:37
  SPEAKER_00: And it it's also on the individual.
• 1:32:39
  SPEAKER_00: It's also on the individual.
• 1:32:40
  SPEAKER_00: Army promotes all the healthy shit.
• 1:32:42
  SPEAKER_00: Army does and people don't see that, but it's also on the individual, man.
• 1:32:48
  SPEAKER_00: They join the army, they have the freedom to put what they want in their body, they have the freedom of how to manage their time.
• 1:32:55
  SPEAKER_00: So if a dude's just fucking standing up all day playing fucking Xbox, banging fucking Mountain Dew back, wakes up in the morning, smokes a pack of cigarettes, and runs, that that's on the individual.
• 1:33:05
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 1:33:06
  SPEAKER_00: The individual is accountable for his or hers health and their mindset.
• 1:33:11
  SPEAKER_00: Once they fall the standard and it starts reflecting in work, okay.
• 1:33:14
  SPEAKER_00: In the military, we have paperwork, we have procedures that go through to reprimand them.
• 1:33:19
  SPEAKER_00: And eventually, if they don't unfuck themselves, they get put out of the military.
• 1:33:23
  SPEAKER_00: That's how it works.
• 1:33:24
  SPEAKER_00: So I that's how I would say that stigma fight for me.
• 1:33:30
  SPEAKER_00: I teach my soldiers beyond what the army requires me to.
• 1:33:34
  SPEAKER_00: Dude, I I've unfucked soldiers' finances so they can fly home.
• 1:33:38
  SPEAKER_00: I teach them, I took soldiers to the gym.
• 1:33:40
  SPEAKER_00: I taught soldiers how to fucking cook because they know how to fucking cook.
• 1:33:43
  SPEAKER_00: So, dude, I go above and beyond because I would always tell myself and my soldiers, like, dude, I'm gonna teach you guys how to be great men.
• 1:33:50
  SPEAKER_00: If you're a great man, you're gonna be a great leader.
• 1:33:52
  SPEAKER_00: If you're a great leader, dude, you obviously wanna fit the mold of a soldier.
• 1:33:56
  SPEAKER_00: That's my legacy.
• 1:33:57
  SPEAKER_00: My legacy in the army is not the awards, not me being knighted, not me kicking ass on a tank.
• 1:34:02
  SPEAKER_00: My legacy in the army is what did I instill in my soldiers that are gonna surpass me wave for when I'm gone.
• 1:34:10
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:34:11
  SPEAKER_00: So when it comes to all that, man, the holistic health and what's perceived, it's on the individual.
• 1:34:18
  SPEAKER_00: For those who perceive it and don't know it, go to your local recruiting office, um, pick a job that you you think might fit and enlist and go try it out yourself.
• 1:34:31
  SPEAKER_01: I'm curious how much of a time commitment, because you said someone could pretty much be around just sitting on their ass uh playing video games and ripping out and do all day.
• 1:34:42
  SPEAKER_01: How much of a time commitment is the army?
• 1:34:44
  SPEAKER_01: Is the military?
• 1:34:45
  SPEAKER_00: So when you join up, you know, you can do uh two-year contract, three-year, four, five, or six.
• 1:34:51
  SPEAKER_00: But like a typical day in the army, depending on your job and depending whether you're deployed or not, that can vary.
• 1:34:56
  SPEAKER_00: Like so on a normal day, on a normal base, like uh you wake up, you do your morning workouts from 6:30 to 7.30, sometimes eight, and then you're on your own time to go eat, shave, get breakfast, um, shower, and then you gotta be at work by 9 a.m.
• 1:35:12
  SPEAKER_00: Because I usually do the first formation by like 8 45, and then uh you work from like 9 to 11, doing your job, doing admin, depending on your level and where you're at.
• 1:35:23
  SPEAKER_00: Then you're on lunch, dude.
• 1:35:24
  SPEAKER_00: You're on lunch from like 11 or 1, and then uh you come back, and depending on your job, you might work late, you might work past 5, you might get off at 3.
• 1:35:33
  SPEAKER_00: So it just depends, it depends on the job, man.
• 1:35:35
  SPEAKER_00: And then you get your once you're off work, man, you're off work as long as you don't get in trouble.
• 1:35:39
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes if something serious happens, all right, we'll do a recall, say everybody come back, you gotta get accountability.
• 1:35:45
  SPEAKER_00: You're just living your normal life, man.
• 1:35:46
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people have that misperception in the military.
• 1:35:49
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, nah, man, you show up, you do your job, you have the weekends.
• 1:35:52
  SPEAKER_00: If you're not working that weekend, you're off for the weekend.
• 1:35:55
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, don't get fucking in trouble.
• 1:35:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um so yeah, a lot of soldiers when they're it's really what they do on their time off that dictates their health and wellness.
• 1:36:08
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:36:09
  SPEAKER_00: It's what they're I'll tell you, it's what they're putting in their body, is what they're reading, so they're letting their mind consume that dictates whether they're gonna be a piece of shit, or are they gonna be someone who wants to develop themselves?
• 1:36:21
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:36:22
  SPEAKER_01: If you were to get in trouble being in the military, is it similar to um there's a if you if you were to get in trouble in the military, is it similar to uh probation as a civilian where if you get in trouble, you're done?
• 1:36:42
  SPEAKER_01: Would you get kicked out of the military or isn't you the air or an immediate?
• 1:36:45
  SPEAKER_00: No, it it just depends on the the offense and at the level it occurs.
• 1:36:49
  SPEAKER_00: So, like me, I had plenty of soldiers get in trouble, man.
• 1:36:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I don't say like, because you can get in trouble for a lot of shit, bro.
• 1:36:56
  SPEAKER_00: You can get in trouble for disrespect, you can get in trouble for being late to formation, not shaving.
• 1:37:00
  SPEAKER_00: Um it depends on how that leader handles it at that lowest level.
• 1:37:05
  SPEAKER_00: Um obviously the serious offenses, like so.
• 1:37:08
  SPEAKER_00: One example I had a soldier, it was during COVID.
• 1:37:11
  SPEAKER_00: Um, we're all on lockdown, right?
• 1:37:13
  SPEAKER_00: You can only go to certain places, but he ended up going after hours to a house party, gave uh during COVID, so he broke the general's rule of the base.
• 1:37:26
  SPEAKER_00: Then he gave a fake name to the military police, then he lied saying he wasn't in the army, so they escorted him off base.
• 1:37:34
  SPEAKER_00: And then, dude, I get a call like three in the morning from my command team.
• 1:37:38
  SPEAKER_00: They're like, hey, we need you to call this soldier.
• 1:37:40
  SPEAKER_00: He's not answering any of our calls.
• 1:37:41
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:37:43
  SPEAKER_00: So I call, he picks up the first ring.
• 1:37:45
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, I was waiting for you to call me.
• 1:37:46
  SPEAKER_00: Sorry.
• 1:37:46
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, I know I thought.
• 1:37:49
  SPEAKER_00: And uh, I was like, Well, come on back, buddy, come on back today.
• 1:37:53
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, uh, you got the whole chain of command waiting at the front gate for you.
• 1:37:57
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, Are you gonna be there?
• 1:37:59
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, nah, fuck no, dude, I'm gonna sleep.
• 1:38:00
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, I see you at 9 a.m.
• 1:38:02
  SPEAKER_00: though.
• 1:38:02
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, so it depends on that level, man.
• 1:38:06
  SPEAKER_00: And like, uh, so for that specific soldier, like he lost his rank, he lost it, uh, his pay up to a certain amount for 45 days.
• 1:38:14
  SPEAKER_00: Uh after work, he got something called extra duty, where you just work until like 11 cleaning up shit that we tell you to clean up, and he was restricted to base, he couldn't leave base for 45 days.
• 1:38:26
  SPEAKER_01: Although I I'm curious, was he drunk when he was lied to the place uh the military police?
• 1:38:34
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 1:38:34
  SPEAKER_00: I just know like when uh he had to go to his hearing, like in front of the uh our lieutenant colonel and stuff, like he was shit bricks.
• 1:38:41
  SPEAKER_00: He he was that's the most scared I ever seen this dude.
• 1:38:43
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, dude, relax.
• 1:38:44
  SPEAKER_01: He's like, dude, relax.
• 1:38:47
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, dude, whatever happens, happens, right?
• 1:38:49
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, it was your actions.
• 1:38:50
  SPEAKER_00: He was like, zone it.
• 1:38:52
  SPEAKER_00: I never stressed, dude.
• 1:38:53
  SPEAKER_00: If I ever did I never get in trouble, I I got in trouble, but that was like the old school army, man, where they like just take me out back and like guess me the fuck off with some workouts.
• 1:39:02
  SPEAKER_00: Uh newer army, you gotta like put things on paperwork and take it up from there.
• 1:39:07
  SPEAKER_00: But uh hey man, uh there's a saying saying do what your rank can afford.
• 1:39:15
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 1:39:17
  SPEAKER_01: Um we've gone through some super powerful stuff from your upbringing to the military.
• 1:39:22
  SPEAKER_01: I have a dumb question for you now.
• 1:39:24
  SPEAKER_01: If you could have a meal with any military, if sorry, if you could have a meal with any historical military leader, who would it be and why?
• 1:39:34
  SPEAKER_00: Uh probably Penn, just because uh that's the OG, the tank world.
• 1:39:38
  SPEAKER_00: Um uh yeah, it'd probably just be Penn.
• 1:39:42
  SPEAKER_00: And then uh wouldn't be no big, like besides him being like a great general, and then his experience with tanks, it will wouldn't be nothing like philosophical or deep about a meal, bro.
• 1:40:00
  SPEAKER_01: Now, before we leave it off, what is one piece, the most valuable piece of actionable advice that you would give to anyone listening to this on how to improve?
• 1:40:12
  SPEAKER_00: Do the inner work, especially if you feel like you have no inner work to do.
• 1:40:18
  SPEAKER_00: You can't serve and have a purpose if you're incomplete.
• 1:40:26
  SPEAKER_01: And do you feel that people clearly feel that they don't have inner work to do, or are they hiding from themselves with that?
• 1:40:34
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's more that they hide it from themselves because no one wants uh people fear the unknown, they don't know how they're gonna react, they don't know if they have a mental breakdown, but dude, you gotta embrace that shit.
• 1:40:45
  SPEAKER_00: That's everything on the other side of everything you're avoiding is what you you're yearning for the most.
• 1:40:52
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, like you're missing is on the other side of that work you have to do.
• 1:40:58
  SPEAKER_01: So how do you find how do you overcome hiding from yourself and be uh be open enough to truly talk, even if it's just with yourself or talk with someone close to you about um one, what you're going through, and two, how you can overcome the challenges.
• 1:41:20
  SPEAKER_00: So I think it's like in that same phase of crawl, walk, run related to the person.
• 1:41:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like for me, I didn't need nobody.
• 1:41:28
  SPEAKER_00: I just like, dude, I'm fucked up, I'm hurt, let me figure this shit out.
• 1:41:31
  SPEAKER_00: And I went, bam, method, fucking madman method.
• 1:41:34
  SPEAKER_00: But for some people, dude, it might be like slowly telling like your best friend, like, hey, this is what I'm feeling.
• 1:41:40
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully they're in that right state of mind to be like, oh well, you should do this or you should try this.
• 1:41:47
  SPEAKER_00: Some people need to go to therapy, man, um, just so they can hear it from somebody else, and they kind of get the framework of how to have that conversation with themselves.
• 1:41:58
  SPEAKER_00: So then when they are by themselves, they can practice those methods and that process of pretty much holding that mirror in front of yourself gets a lot easier.
• 1:42:08
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 1:42:10
  SPEAKER_01: Would you say going to a therapist is crucial or just something that some people may need, but it's not necessarily the thing that'll help?
• 1:42:22
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I think I think it's it's uh you know by the person, like kind of binding basis.
• 1:42:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I don't think it's crucial.
• 1:42:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um like dude, I've been a therapist, dude.
• 1:42:34
  SPEAKER_00: I've been a fucking psychiatrist.
• 1:42:36
  SPEAKER_00: Uh that's because like it was through army shit, so I needed to be there.
• 1:42:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um and shit I experienced, I need to go talk to them about.
• 1:42:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um, some of it was command referred, dude.
• 1:42:47
  SPEAKER_00: I have to go talk to them because my command team's like, hey, we think you need to go talk to them.
• 1:42:51
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, all right, too easy.
• 1:42:52
  SPEAKER_00: But um I don't think it's crucial at all.
• 1:42:56
  SPEAKER_00: I think a lot of work people are paying out to ask for, like, dude, you can do that yourself.
• 1:43:02
  unknown: Yeah.
• 1:43:03
  SPEAKER_00: Just like I said, if people woke up wanting it to better themselves, a lot of fucking uh personal development, people will be out of business.
• 1:43:11
  SPEAKER_00: Exactly.
• 1:43:12
  SPEAKER_01: I think uh I think most people know what they need to do, it's just difficult to do it.
• 1:43:18
  SPEAKER_01: Um I personally went through intensive therapy for years, and none of it helped until I actually started taking it action.
• 1:43:26
  SPEAKER_01: And for me to begin, I was going to the gym, but I think that's the number one thing is just like you said, executing.
• 1:43:32
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you know, you have to and that's like a non-negotiable, non-negotiable sense.
• 1:43:37
  SPEAKER_00: Have a even if it's small, take small steps, but you don't have to see.
• 1:43:42
  SPEAKER_00: And I tell people, don't focus on the result, focus on that very first step.
• 1:43:47
  SPEAKER_00: Focus on the very fucking first step, dude.
• 1:43:49
  SPEAKER_00: And your path is gonna illuminate itself as you walk it.
• 1:43:53
  SPEAKER_00: So like if you know you need to wake up early, all right, dude, just start sending little alarm clocks.
• 1:43:58
  SPEAKER_00: If you know you need to eat healthier, okay, when you go to the grocery store, don't buy shit that you know is gonna tempt you and have it in your house.
• 1:44:06
  SPEAKER_00: If you know you need to do inner work, yeah, that's a uh a larger like array you can choose from.
• 1:44:12
  SPEAKER_00: But I would say, hey, if you know you need inner work or you you're feeling off, reach out.
• 1:44:17
  SPEAKER_00: I tell people all the time, reach out to me.
• 1:44:18
  SPEAKER_00: You can shoot me a fucking DM.
• 1:44:21
  SPEAKER_00: I'll gauge the level of how I need to interact with you first, and then you know I'll I'll I'll tell you like I how you need to hear.
• 1:44:28
  SPEAKER_00: Um but you can't help yourself, let like you just said, until you take action to help yourself.
• 1:44:36
  SPEAKER_00: And that action can be reaching out to somebody, fucking Google it, bro.
• 1:44:39
  SPEAKER_00: You don't even have to talk to no one, just Google it.
• 1:44:41
  SPEAKER_00: Like now they got all kinds of shit.
• 1:44:42
  SPEAKER_00: You can like Google a therapist or and just kind of chat with them through they don't know who the fuck you are, and and just do it that way, man.
• 1:44:50
  SPEAKER_00: Or someone you really trust, like I don't know, your pastor, you know, elder, uh your school counselor, but someone just go talk to somebody, man, and uh get it out.
• 1:45:01
  SPEAKER_00: You have you have to hear yourself getting it out.
• 1:45:04
  SPEAKER_00: That's an action that's needed, not just like nudging somebody or texting somebody, like, bro, you need to hear yourself because you're gonna be aware now of the pain you're in or the shit you need to heal from when you start hearing yourself, dude.
• 1:45:18
  SPEAKER_00: Now is very opening to me because me being like so masculine and fucking that warrior shit, dude.
• 1:45:24
  SPEAKER_00: When I fucking broke down and cried, I shocked myself.
• 1:45:27
  SPEAKER_00: I know I shocked my fucking cousin, but dude, after that, dude, I shocked myself.
• 1:45:33
  SPEAKER_01: So yeah, I do think that the best part about a therapist is the that they're a third party.
• 1:45:41
  SPEAKER_01: So the advice that I give you is objective.
• 1:45:44
  SPEAKER_01: For example, if you were to talk to your cousin or if you were to talk to your parents or whoever that's close to you, they're gonna have some sort of interest in how they talk to you, right?
• 1:45:55
  SPEAKER_01: So they will be maybe more on the subjective, more feeling-based.
• 1:46:02
  SPEAKER_01: Um, whereas obviously a therapist is dealing with their feelings when they're able to give you more um advice with less context, just given this exact situation that you're talking to them about.
• 1:46:14
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, man, that and that's the and hopefully like people will build themselves to be like where they can be that close, but be objective instead of subjective.
• 1:46:24
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 1:46:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like that in your corner, that's where community support comes into play.
• 1:46:28
  SPEAKER_00: Dude, you're fucking you're solid.
• 1:46:30
  SPEAKER_00: You're solid you can go through anything.
• 1:46:33
  SPEAKER_00: And as long as you have those, those, that community, that support that can bounce between subjective and objective, dude.
• 1:46:40
  SPEAKER_00: You're you're fucking stupid if you fail.
• 1:46:42
  SPEAKER_00: Like you have you have those pillars to lean on, so lean on.
• 1:46:48
  SPEAKER_01: So just to to leave it off, get yourself around the community, and if anything, reach out to anything.
• 1:46:56
  SPEAKER_01: Uh that being said, where can people find you at?
• 1:47:00
  SPEAKER_00: So you can find me on Instagram at uh annex underscore sing, just like my name is at underscore in it.
• 1:47:05
  SPEAKER_00: Um if you go to my links, my emails in there, um, you can just DM me.
• 1:47:09
  SPEAKER_00: I do have Facebook, I'm not active, I'm not that active on Facebook.
• 1:47:12
  SPEAKER_00: That's kind of just to keep in touch with the military side.
• 1:47:15
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but yeah, mainly on Instagram.
• 1:47:17
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 1:47:18
  SPEAKER_01: And that's A-N-N-E-X underscore S-I-N-Z-H.
• 1:47:26
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, perfect.
• 1:47:27
  SPEAKER_01: I appreciate you being here, brother.
• 1:47:29
  SPEAKER_00: Hey now, man.
• 1:47:30
  SPEAKER_00: I appreciate you having me, man.
• 1:47:31
  SPEAKER_00: Honor.
• 1:47:34
  SPEAKER_01: Hey guys, Tony Bootrus here.
• 1:47:36
  SPEAKER_01: Just wanted to express my gratitude real quick for you guys getting through this episode.
• 1:47:39
  SPEAKER_01: I hope it was extremely valuable.
• 1:47:41
  SPEAKER_01: And if so, if you could just leave me a rating so that more people like yourself could listen to this content and improve their lives, it would mean so much to me.
• 1:47:50
  SPEAKER_01: Again, you know what they say.
• 1:47:51
  SPEAKER_01: Your network is your net worth.
• 1:47:53
  SPEAKER_01: Be a valuable part of someone else's network.
• 1:47:55
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much for listening and have an excellent week.